The abuser never remembers what they have done. But the children getting abused remember every moment of it. But when the abuser gets called out they pull the pity card and try to reflect the problem onto someone else.

@Chamling22

3 жыл бұрын

I love my mom and she loves me to death... And hence the beating and thr scolding to make me perfect my whole life... I remember running away as she chased me with a knife... At 63 I ask her if she remembered... She says she doesn't...and it goes like " I was doing my duty as a mother bcuz I love u". I gave up.

@BlazeDupree1525

3 жыл бұрын

@@Chamling22 my mom is both emotionally and physically abusive both to her kids and her husbands. Being the oldest I was the one who took most of her lashing out, and even though I am a adult now what she did to me as a kid still affects really bad. And the rest of my family especially my little brother who I tried to shelter him from it is only now just seeing how bad she really is after her 3 trips to the ER in one week. But when we call her out on it and demand she gets help she just says that if no one else has to get help then she doesn't either. And she tries to pin all her mistakes on everyone else. In one of our fights she had gotten in my face and triggered my fight or flight mode and I subconsciously reacted by punching her because I thought she was going to hurt me and she had the audacity to call the police saying im a delinquent child who attacks my mother for no reason. Any one who knows me knows that im really hard to push to physical violence and I don't like hurting people unless i have no other choice.

@Chamling22

3 жыл бұрын

@@BlazeDupree1525 you are beyond brave to shelter and protect your sibling. Keep fighting and the Gods be with u. Let's fight our anxiety. 🙏🙏🙏

@BlazeDupree1525

3 жыл бұрын

@@Chamling22 i was fortunate enough to have friends who were more of a family then my mother ever was. I always try to help support people who had to suffer through what I did. I know i wouldn't be here if it wasn't for the people who supported me. The anxiety doesn't go away but it doesn't have to control us.

@AmyLeeAngelLove

3 жыл бұрын

@@Chamling22 Your mom remembers. She just doesn't want to admit that she was wrong. Usually they were beaten as children and take their anger out on their own kids. The "I did it because I love you" is just a cover up for bad parenting.

anytime the abuser gets called out they instantly get defensive and play the victim. This woman is so guilty

@minnipearls3633

3 жыл бұрын

My mom was so defensive when I Confronted her also.

@jirehdearmas3053

2 жыл бұрын

@@minnipearls3633 my mother too she also took advantage of my disability

@rippingtons60

3 ай бұрын

And she KNOWS IT.

@Qdogg2019

Ай бұрын

Also note how she keeps tripping over words dodges questions about abuse and how dramatic and animated she acts she constantly says "have you lost your mind? Or "absolutely not"

she hasn't lost her mind.... she FOUND HER VOICE!!!

@lisasinclair2748

2 жыл бұрын

love this comment, suffered emotional and physical abuse. Took me to my 40s to have the courage to speak up. Bless her she didn't take that long to call out emotional and physical violence from the parents.

@NadeenHope

2 жыл бұрын

@@lisasinclair2748 wow so Strong!!

@gusgus2062

2 жыл бұрын

And that’s on period!!!

@G.S.Productions

10 ай бұрын

If you ask me, it’s the mother who abused her daughter that’s out of *her* mind, *not* her.

@Emma.e4

4 ай бұрын

That's absolutely right

Having an abusive parent, it hurts me so much to see how her mother gaslights her..... the abuser will always play victim and make you question your own claims

@violetmoon6233

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I hope your OK 🙏🌸✨

@hayleerobinett3273

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, but also just abusers in the family in general

@tripfisk4246

3 жыл бұрын

Gaslighting and denial are the two biggest traits of the abuser. So disgusting. I was abused physically and mentally by my mother for years until one day I'd finally had enough rage beatings and grabbed her wrist so she'd stop beating me with her shoe. Her words: "How dare you abuse me?!". Apparently trying to stop someone from abusing you is abuse. Sad part is I'm getting old now and the memories still haunt me and I'm messed up in the head. So it goes.

@GoldLeafGardenia

2 жыл бұрын

@@tripfisk4246 I honestly wish I knew what to say, sir/ma'am/other title, aside from that I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

@Emma.e4

4 ай бұрын

I also have abusive parents

As someone who's been mistreated by their mother, this is 100% an abuser. You can hear the guilt in her voice and how she's saying that her daughter had lost her mind, that she never was abusive. That's clear gaslighting. Incase you don't know gaslighting is a form of mental abuse, it makes the victim believe that they're insane, stupid, that they're abuser is completely in the right and that they are the toxic ones. It's horrible. The mother's is a horrible actor may I add.

@crystalmccormick8592

3 жыл бұрын

I agree totally. I was also abused by my alcoholic mother and my mom acted the same way when called out on it. This mother is disgusting

@BeautyBeauty-di8xq

3 жыл бұрын

100% agree

The daughter is telling the truth. She is VERY detailed. Abusers need a taste of their own medicine. They know the beatings will affect the person for life but do not care at all.

@jirehdearmas3053

2 жыл бұрын

Whenever I go detailed to detailed story to my mother she acts just like that toxic mother in the video and sometimes it makes me feel better even for a little bit that some people understand this type of situation and don't believe the toxic mother unlike some of my relatives who only listen to my mother cause she approach them with lies and crocodile tears while I say nothing and stay at home when we get to fight I like how you and people in this comment section sees the truth it makes my happy

I want to give these women hugs, this “mother” is awful.

One of the harshest realities of growing up is learning that you will never get an apology from some people. Especially those who are too self righteous.

@jennimichienzie5451

2 жыл бұрын

True.

Woah the moms reaction to her daughter speaking speaks volumes about how abusive she really is.

@CareBear2480

3 жыл бұрын

My mother is the same way.

@kata4794

2 жыл бұрын

@@CareBear2480 YEP.....I can relate to all of this as well!! Monster Mother!!

@jantelopez5626

2 жыл бұрын

she needs to be locked up in prison

The faces she’s making literally says it all. She’s literally so defensive.

@diegogardner6218

10 ай бұрын

EXACTLY

When someone is this toxic, the best thing to do is walk away. Just because someone is your mother doesn’t mean she needs to have any part of one’s life.

@CareBear2480

3 жыл бұрын

What if you can’t. And they constantly want you back, over and over again.

@forgiven5919

2 жыл бұрын

@@CareBear2480 go no contact. They don't deserve children if they can't be a loving parent their job. They will manipulate you it may take a while to get stronger.

@cutecatsdiam

2 жыл бұрын

so so true

@JasonGafar

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. There is no hope for this mother. She is utterly delusional and abusive.

That mother has so much rage inside her it’s scary you can see it in her eyes

As a victim of abuse and neglect from her mother, this mother is 100% an abuser and those girls are the victims

@crystalmccormick8592

3 жыл бұрын

Same. I'm sorry you went thru that too. It messes with you clear into adulthood.

@jessicadigiglio7900

3 жыл бұрын

@@crystalmccormick8592 your not alone babe. You are so much stronger than you think. Be the change you want to see and the newest cycle and the cut off of the toxic cycle starts with you x

@alishagee3450

3 жыл бұрын

@jessica Digiglio you are not alone in this journey.. how was your healing journey so far?

@alishagee3450

3 жыл бұрын

@@crystalmccormick8592 How was your healing journey?

Omg!!! The mother's clear reactions and burst outs together with her words and facial expressions are clear as glass as the abusive and controlling person she is! If this wasn't a public show, trust me she looks like she was going to smack her daughter or start a physical fight.

@cicada17

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed 100%! Also I love your profile picture

When she whispers "i dont even have a car" lmfao i literally choked on my popcorn

Leaving bruises and marks is not okay...so beating them is fine, so long as you don't leave marks?? What

I believe the daughter's 100% the mother is not even a good actor

@laflower6082

3 жыл бұрын

You can honestly tell the mom is lying 🤥

You can see the evil in her eyes

How convenient. Every abuser reacts the same way. Defensive, can't remember, outraged, etc. Its like a mass global conspiracy that children have against their parents. No one is ever guilty. Go figure. 🙄 I'd be more inclined to give her the benefit of a doubt if she didn't respond in the same way that EVERY ABUSER EVER responds.

2:32 "they have abused me like you would not believe; calling me names" so you're telling me this woman JUST STATED her definition of abuse is putting marks on someone and making them bleed, yet she calls them out for abusing HER by CALLING HER NAMES?? absolutely mind-blowing.

@JasonGafar

Жыл бұрын

Very, very good observation.

the mom has the over exaggerated popping out eyeballs thing that all narcs do

@Lolopee

2 ай бұрын

My mother😢

The mom is a Karen for crying out loud

@laurelbozman6997

3 жыл бұрын

Omg, you're such a Bella

@itz_bella3992

3 жыл бұрын

@@laurelbozman6997 lol

Mother is a case study of a classic narcissist.

from a person raised by an abusing parent... we are taught what is acceptable like everyone else and parents are the example and leaders of that. i can understand the disbelief and shock that spanking your kid is abuse. i am in my late 30s and am just now understanding how i have been become mentally screwed from abuse. its a terrible cycle. i can imagine what this mom went through to think what she did was, in her head, not abusive.

@ecoquilting7077

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, the daughter said "remember the rubber racetrack?". Maybe the mom thought "well, I'm a good mother because I use rubber not a stick".

@harrisshob5819

2 жыл бұрын

@@ecoquilting7077 quite possibly. my father was abusive like that... often my sibling beats her kids with a shoe/spatula/hand... and often compared it being much less than what we did, and she does not have the reasoning of it still being abuse. abuse victims often abuse the next generation, and the mom gets zero help other than shame. if they REALLY wanted to fix it they would start with her in case grand kids show up one day.

@ecoquilting7077

2 жыл бұрын

The principal at my school had a rubber paddle, and you could get whomped for forgetting to bring your absence notes. I think he just liked turning little girls over in our little kid dresses and seeing us cry. Oops, I diverged. I hope you have a good life now and have real-life supportive people now.

@harrisshob5819

2 жыл бұрын

@@ecoquilting7077 yep old school physical abuse was common, but they are not being grilled by dr. phil.. only single mothers who grew up raised with abusive standards. ive seen dr. phil sympathize with men who are abusive saying its not their fault the have learned bad behavior, but when a single mom does it shes a terrible person, and maybe so... but no one intervened when she was a kid. naturally she is filled with hate.

“Have you lost your mind?” No. She found her voice & is now talking back.

Look how the mother acts. definitely abusive.

It is more deeply hurtful to the soul when you deny the abuse. From personal experience, it’s the lowest of the low.

The face the mom pulls @1:06 is an attempt to intimidate. Immediate giveaway of guilt right there.

@the_kaelish_prince

9 ай бұрын

Yup

Poor girl

"Drink driving with your kid in the car" is a threat to the daughter for exposing the abuse. It's also to deflect focusing on her abuse and her lame excuse for why the daughter is confronting her about childhood abuse. "I'm going to have your children taken away " is the number one threat from all abusers to women with children.

1:07 mom remembers the exact instance that’s why she looks away and rolls her eyes. She’s justifying that instance in her head on the spot. It’s not that she didn’t abuse them, it’s that she thinks they deserved it

She doesn't remember abusing them, because it wasn't a traumatic experience for her. She needs to accept what she did.

It’s always: “I don’t believe that I-“ “I would never!” “She’s lying.” But it never is: “I did abuse my daughter.” “It’s my fault and not my child’s.” “I’m responsible.”

"Leaving marks on your child, handcuffing them..." Does this woman REALLY think this is the minimum standard for abuse? What kind of--

Her response was “leaving marks” on children. Not “abusing / hitting” children. And that is incredibly telling of the type of person she is.

@dani-mana

Жыл бұрын

Picked up on the exact same thing. Abusing children seems okay to her as long as you don't leave marks. This sounds very familiar to me...

As someone whose mom beat them and then said it never happened later on I can say that is the biggest and cruelest slap in the face to these poor girls. If it was a moment of rage or whatever just admit to that - dont ask if they lost their freaking minds.

Excessively saying "HAVE YOU LOST YOUR MIND?!" and playing the victim is not going to get you out of the fact that you're caught.

Abusers NEVER EVER remember what they do EVER !!

If that were my mom she would be in jail not on TV.

Foundt her voice, you give me life. I've yelled at my mother so much, I literally cant do it anymore. She simply refuses to admit her faults

Dr. Phil just said spanking is ‘mild’. Wow. Hitting children with an open palm is mild? It’s child abuse.

@2turg_2furious

3 жыл бұрын

No he was saying that the mom was downplaying what she was really doing. He said it was a mild word not a mild action

These women enunciate really well.

1.4m views and no comments make sense 🤷🏽‍♀️

@leedleleedleleedle8660

3 жыл бұрын

Facts this is weird 😰

@bababoi5879

3 жыл бұрын

Nice anbu black ops pic

@whatteamwildcats4033

3 жыл бұрын

The comments recently got turned on after being turned off for years, and this is an old video. Makes perfect sense

This woman is a master gaslighter. My God, it's so disgusting.

Lol the mother is a performer

I would just like to point out that she repeatedly claims that to her abuse only meant “leaving marks” yet at 2:34 she claims they have been abusing her with their “accusations”.

This dreadful mom loves to play the martyr when she’s called out. She should not have any authority over a guppy, much less over a child.

I really don't like how Americans say stuff like "I spank my children" and CPS isn't immediately called. Beating children is wrong, no matter how mild.

@alligator5889

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. It BOGGLES my mind that people think it's beneficial. The harm it does to a child, the statistics, the psychology.... I mean, come on guys, this is supposed to be the greatest country in the world. And yet somehow we can traumatize children without consequence.

My mother used to deny every time i try confront her so it's a common tactic of abusive folks

the mother's defensiveness and anger tells the story

@tamitribianni1425

2 жыл бұрын

Though if someone had accused you of things you didn't do you would certainly get defensive too.

Don't hit kids.

The children are NOT lying!!! Its the parents who lie!!! The abuser will always deny and scapegoat the abused child that is telling the truth!

2:09 what was that with her mouth 😂

The victim will remember every single detail. The person doing the abuse seem to feel it didn't happen. That is an insult and itself and you feel victimized all over again. I lived it.

People like this woman and my mum are in complete denial.

The lady will die alone .

I have to say though I would rather take a beating for the dogs eating the pizza then the dogs take the beating but that would be the only beating I would ever take.

2:08 Wtf was that she did with her mouth? Loooooool 😭😭😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😂😂😂😂

How to send this to my mom without sending this to my mom 🌝

Wow. She’s a woman now, instead of a vulnerable impressionable CHILD. Abuse 101

This is why I like Steve wilkos. He gets to the point and he puts abusers “ parents. Couples, etc.” on blast. He won’t let women abusers have a seat on his stage. That’s a man💯💯

When the adult child acts more mature than the parent.

Well the details of abuse I heard in this episode she should be locked up

So many evil parents have sudden amnesia when confronted. I am so glad this girl is honest and lets the world know that many children could not even open their mouths otherwise they would be smacked all over the house. And all the people who knew and did nothing, never called the authorities.

Send these types of “mothers” to bully beat down. I feel for anybody that experienced this. I pray you find mental prosperity and that the ones abusing you get “prayed for”.

Why would these people go on here when they know they are being called out?

That “mother” needs locked up!!

I feel like have you lost your mind is code for i cant believe your telling the truth infront of other people.

I would of loved to see the look on Robyn's face here..... She'd be in tears.... Abusing your kids is definitely a CRIME ❗❗❗😡

Every child deserves a good parent, but every parent doesn't deserve a good child.

God the gaslighting is as clear as day

MY mother used to beat me when I was a kid with rose branches, belts, fibreglass poles, books, wooden spoon and the good old hand. Never understood why until older, she had narcissistic personality disorder. She would always deny it just like this mother, and would try and say that she was the victim.

My mom used to beat me with a towel to not leave bruises, still abuse and she is still in denial

@somebody9369

3 жыл бұрын

My mom used to beat me with a stick and later said wtf I never hit you, it was the stick. She literally said that and she meant it too.

@adelam.6123

3 жыл бұрын

@@somebody9369 my mom was always drunk when she did stuff like this

@somebody9369

3 жыл бұрын

@@adelam.6123 mine was not. It was just her regular sober self.

This mother is extremely narcissistic.

The moms clearly abusive and told on herself. Bugging her eyes trying to imtimidate. Attitude, trying to play victim.. clasic abuser

what a terrible mother smh

Abusive parents will deny anything their children will say.

Poor daughter

I've experienced physical and verbal/emotional abuse from my own mother, and she acts just like this.

Abusers have the uncanny ability to transform themselves into the victim in any situation.

People push things out of their head because they can’t cope with the fact that they could actually, do something so bad to someone else. Very sad.

When abusers loose control they get crazy

"Somebody's lying here" y... you think so Dr Phil?

My mom is the same she denies everything and acts like she doesn’t remember or everything is a lie.

I remember mother's behavior, is the same as my mom who does not and can not remember the traumatic things and even physical and verbal abuse when I was young. This is the sad part is, because the woman is the mother, and 100% a child cannot even choose a parent.

My mother controlled by abuse . I remember her smashing my brothers face down on the bench top and knocked his front tooth out . She was a family terrorist , was incredibly violent , encouraged us to fight other children in the neighbourhood , attacked my father with hot jugs of water , knives , smashed kitchen plates up all over the floor , would force my father to beat on my brother and if he didn’t she would fly into a rage . Both my parents are incredibly deluded people and would deny any of it if confronted . I have 3 other brothers and none of us stay in touch . Our family blew apart years ago and the glue that should have held it all together are living life in denial .

My mother was beating me until I was 21, then I moved out and never come back. If you will confront her she will deny everything and play victim

This woman is a real piece of work and keeps on trying to deflect and deflect and she's just mad because she's gotten caught and called out and because of her lies and manipulation not working not only with Dr. Phil but with her own daughters and someone doesn't have to be physically abused in order for the abuse to have happened and continuing on, for however long it's gone on and continues on, as not all wounds are physical and can always be easily seen.

Both of them are so animated lol

You can see the moms bad temper and rage when confronted.

What makes dr phil the Supreme being of knowledge

I _love_ Ceanne, she is fantastic. C's mom: "Nobody sees an issue with her drinking and driving." C: "I don’t _drive!"_

Oh my. God help these people

The funny thing my mom makes her mom seem like Disney land

@nosir2758

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry your mom is an abuser

@Candlewick14

3 жыл бұрын

Seriously?? Jesus!

So by the mother's logic you can physically assault your kids all you want as long as you don't leave any physical evidence smh

For everything my mom did to me, burn me with a cigarette, yank my hair, hit me in the back with a broom, etc. According to her I had it coming and deserved it.

The mom’s expressions give her away. She’s such a liar.

Abusers "never remember", the abused remember almost every detail

I am 100% against abuse. I wonder if the mother was approached differently if she would have been able to humble herself and admit she failed them as a mother that way. Sometimes people need the atmosphere to be safe and to know that there is an opportunity to be be forgiven and get help in order to face what they have done. But Some people are just too selfish and unwilling to admit fault and won’t ever change . Takes a very good therapist to help figure that one out

She "REMEMBERS" everything. That is selective amnesia with this lady