Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated program and the world's only empirically-validated GRE test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. I'm 40 years-old, and I can count the number of apologies I've received from women over the course of my life on one hand. Surprisingly, this is not due to the fact that I have always interacted with virtuous, high-quality, well-behaving women. For whatever reason, women seem to find it particularly difficult to apologize to men -- and this is really too bad. In this episode, I'll discuss the nature of the difficulty, and why it would be in women's best interests to apologize more often. Orion is a licensed psychologist in the state of California. Podcast available of Spotify, Instagram, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts and others. See the "About" tab for more information on donations and consultations. Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com #relationship #women #dating

@DaggerSecurity

Жыл бұрын

Just found your channel. Very beneficial. BUT I disagree how you handled the gf who wanted to apologise with sex. I would have instead angry eff'ed her and THEN go sleep on the couch. LOL.

@GrzegorzDurda

Жыл бұрын

The problem is pride. Pride before the fall. Apologizing is the hardest thing for the proud.

@paulborst4724

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, the only thing I got from that is that women are wrong and then make things worse by doubling down on stupid. That's when a man needs to call her out on her BS. It's that simple. Men who "apologize" for being right, just because she's "upset", disgusts me. Weak men like that make it harder for the rest of us who have to do your job of breaking her in properly.

@unitedstatesirie7431

Жыл бұрын

There will be less USA men committing suicide when they stop dating and stop marrying USA women. Most USA women live an unrealistic life of fantasy, will men accept their foolish fantasy Feminist lives ?

@icantcook9998

Жыл бұрын

Women soon have a different attitude when the man has upset the woman

My wife, who passed from breast cancer 10 years ago, was Catholic. I would take her to confession maybe once every one or two months and I would wait in the car for her. She came out out one time and said she was sorry for some big blow up we had a few weeks prior. I asked her what prompted this change and she said she confessed that she had sinned with anger and was wrong and the priest asked her if she apologized to her Husband and she said no and I guess he talked to her about that. After that she began to apologize whenever she did something wrong against me, (she hardly ever did anything wrong really) She was a really good Christian woman and exceptional wife and helped me with many of my faults and struggles and I miss her a lot.

@michaelmelamed9103

Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry about your loss

@MariaMaria-sr8zg

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry for your loss as well.

@SilencerXLR8

Жыл бұрын

May she Rest in Peace My Condolences 🌹

@mathewhale3581

Жыл бұрын

Respect

@miamijamil

Жыл бұрын

My condolences..

"Im sorry you feel that way" is my favorite female "apology "

@takuramaringire

Жыл бұрын

😂😂 it's an international standard

@stephengreico2810

Жыл бұрын

Ohhhhh I've gotten that one and it is very insulting

@VCRider

Жыл бұрын

Which translates to: “I’m sorry if you’re a pussy, there’s no way I can help you.”

@tylersowa3858

Жыл бұрын

My reply to that is okay b*tch

@kevindrury68

Жыл бұрын

Ha, lost count of the number of times I’ve had that one. I counter with, ‘but are you sorry for doing x?’ Always stay on target, calmly and respectfully.

The woman's reasoning : "He knows it is painful for me to apologize. He wouldn't require that i apologize if he really cared for me".

@paweszaduro7946

3 ай бұрын

Doskonały komentarz👍. Zgadzam się.

@redsix5165

3 ай бұрын

1) he could make her violate “he protects me at all costs” by forcing an apology 2) it could force her to confront reality vs the figment of reality she has created in her mind

@Play-jv3oi

2 ай бұрын

aww, what a difference between women and men. the good thing is that apologizing my change women behavior because it cost a lot for her.

@maikeru01

2 ай бұрын

This is like the intelligence level of a cat. If you loved me, you wouldn't take me to the vet. If you loved me you would give me the entire bag of treats. If you loved me you would let me go outside indefinitely. And actually even some cats re above that level.

@fllf3078

2 ай бұрын

​@@maikeru01let her go outside indefinitely is the answer

we live in an era where something so basic like accountability needs a psychologist to break it down

@oasisneko1

4 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, I think he is wrong in calling this a woman's problem.

@shift-fast

4 ай бұрын

@@oasisneko1 i lowkey agree. its not just a women thing

@commentedrelationship

3 ай бұрын

@@oasisneko1 Both men and women can struggle with accountability, but in relationships, dodging accountability and never apologizing is more of a woman's problem than a man's.

@solcharms

3 ай бұрын

​@@oasisneko1 It has begun to manifest itself in men, as many have been raised by single mothers

@pavinivfx

3 ай бұрын

@@oasisneko1 Most Women do that. This is why many don't apologize

Accountability and responsibility are a women’s kryptonite. Is never their fault . They act like children but hate to be treated like such .

@imwatching2960

Жыл бұрын

How intelligent 💪

@LikeToWatch77

Жыл бұрын

Where did you first hear the kryptonite analogy? For me it was from TFM.

@frankhassle9366

Жыл бұрын

Indeed.

@anisenkrill6179

Жыл бұрын

@@LikeToWatch77 I miss TFM.

@LikeToWatch77

Жыл бұрын

@@anisenkrill6179 - TFM was both an edgelord and a scholar. He presented concepts in a way that nobody else has before or since. Coltaine was comparable in presentation of unusual ideas but couldn't match TFM's volume.

If your woman is a narcissist, any apology is just another manipulation. They never mean it.

@MoistDelta.

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. They always keep receipts and bring it up later which is proof they never accepted the apology. True apology acceptance is shredding the receipts after the apology

@LiberPater777

Жыл бұрын

So you've met my mother?

@willow_pillow

Жыл бұрын

Im guessing this one is gender neutral 😂

@rerite2

Жыл бұрын

@@LiberPater777 😂

@TILLEYJS

Жыл бұрын

Always look at the behavior. Does the behavior change? No? Are they really sorry then?

Every woman's apology is followed by a "but" and that makes it no longer an apology

@micheltran7955

21 күн бұрын

ah, ah. you describe perfectly my wife ! For each of her very few apologies over 25 years of marriage, there have always been a "but".

I have literally never ever heard my sisters or mother say sorry.

@TheirIAre

Ай бұрын

And you never will

@trigcat3107

5 күн бұрын

99% of us have never heard our female family members apologize.

It doesn’t cost women nothing to apologize, it costs them their ego…

@christophertaylor9100

Жыл бұрын

And their sense of control and safety. They feel weaker and more vulnerable by apologizing.

@aphrodite7194

Жыл бұрын

Not really that only applies to narcissists. Ego is their power and nothing offends a narcissists more than one trying to mess with it.

@JH-nv2ue

Жыл бұрын

@Illuminated by The Most High only to apologize when they’re WRONG. Pathetic excuse to get out of taking accountability.

@JH-nv2ue

Жыл бұрын

@Illuminated by The Most High right is right and wrong is wrong. Men have always held women accountable. It’s feminism that has allowed women to get away with the lack of accountability. The society that is being ran today is gynocentric. Again, nice try.

@JH-nv2ue

Жыл бұрын

@Illuminated by The Most High “women have never been held accountable in history or been expected to” “Men have always held women accountable” Soooooo…..Which one is it?

I'm a 64 years old man and this is the first time I'm hearing this from another male. My mother's side of the family is large and mostly women. They've gaslighted me my entire life and figured this out in the last 10 years. Thank you.

@TRFAD

Жыл бұрын

I was lucky enough to sorta recognize this early on and wouldn't deal with it. Single mother household with a single mother grandmother. Mother was terminally ill and very toxic about it till the day she passed. Grandmother was aloof but meant well, but I can see where my mom got it from. I've got a no-tolerance-for-any-nonsense mentality at this point between girlfriends and them. WILL not tolerate it. I feel like I used to be real easygoing and take things at face value, but at my age, I feel like I'm stone-cold and jaded to a degree. But generally feel great over all. The funny thing is that they will chase validation since you are stoic and stern to read, which honestly feels like that's what they want. Whether it's attractive or just do it by nature. But they get used to the everyday guy who does and she doesn't know how to deal with someone like that. In a lot of cases it probably means you are with a lower-quality woman. But sometimes you have to go through life to experience things and end up a little jaded from past female actions and life in general beating you down. Then they'll wonder why you are so cold, emotionally distant, and jaded about her bullshit. The positive traits of that mentality should come as a byproduct of being on one's purpose. However, there's the alter nemesis version, which is less optimistic and more toxic. Working your way out of being that toxic side. Taking action and making things happen. But still know how to turn on that side when necessary, if you could call it that. Since it can become like a default nature at a point. The methodology to me should be that " I'm working on something so important that any nonsense you bring just doesn't matter, and I don't have any time for it." She must match up to you, and don't settle for someone who can't or won't. The pussy is NOT good enough to make me deal with all nonsense. All the petty stuff is from a lack of personal growth or boredom. If we can not entertain ourselves with a higher state of being and find interest in the amazing things this world offers and instead default to the trash interaction for entertainment. The door is right there. A man not on his purpose will get wrapped up in it. Don't take the bait. Don't play the games. Find what you are worth and don't let people do this to you in general. Have respect for yourself. Increase your value. Always be learning.

@atsylor5549

Жыл бұрын

Well it took me a solid 40 years before I could get it through my thick skull that women manipulate. Men are straight forward in what they want or don’t want and women would rather manipulate you emotionally to get the same results.

@Kronoken.

Жыл бұрын

@@TRFAD If you are not tolerating such a thing, how do you deal with woman than

@jerrybruckhart9134

Жыл бұрын

@@Kronoken. Since I am not sure if he will ever get back here to reply I will give you my take on what he wrote from a red pill perspective. What he wrote was quite clear to me, he doesn't as you say "deal" with them, the instant they go off his "road" he shows them the door. Based on your comment, I would also guess you are still quite blue pill?

@Baci302

Жыл бұрын

@@jerrybruckhart9134 Blue pill/red pill? What does that mean?

"I think of a man and remove all reason and accountability." Wiser words were never set to a movie script.

@janicetribbiani7535

5 ай бұрын

The man has no reason and accountability? You're right, many don't.

@HexFlex-ss9rm

5 ай бұрын

One of the greatest lines ever!

@trapped-ion

5 ай бұрын

Movie script, yeah! It would help if you started reading tomes by heavyweights such as Prof. Robert Sapolsky, etc. Peace. 🤺 ============

@JamesW81

4 ай бұрын

Love how no one is feeding the troll. :)

@andrewbunch2394

4 ай бұрын

I was thinking the exact same thing 😜

Problem is that women don't think their actions are wrong.

@borano2031

3 ай бұрын

And when you find out, we have two wrongs. Rgr

@climbinghenge6382

Ай бұрын

Not when men react negatively to their actions, that simply justifies them.

@AndrewTheVikings

Ай бұрын

which is why they get arrested for DUIs and they still blame other men including officers who are there to do their jobs.

@wilfredoramosjr.

28 күн бұрын

Agree Sir

@jasonu3741

9 күн бұрын

This would have to be a deep set wiring based on more simple times where women did not take a lot of actions at all. If you discount the last 700 years the vast majority of human history women were not accountable or responsible for much Its not a bug its a feature. I would venture a 16 year old girl today has had to make more individual decisions than a 50 year old woman 1000 years ago. Accountability for men however IS a survival trait as hunting mistakes need to be corrected and responsibility is the root concern of a man, It is how we develop Hierarchy in setting out tasks and how we designed systems to make sure tasks were done. Women have evolved to be ever more attractive to men, as female beauty has been more crucial towards there survival than intelligence, strength or endurance. The human male has become so good at survival and creating civilization that the human female need only attraction to have there Safety, Protection, provisioning and childcare provided for, no other creature in the animal kingdom is GARAUNTEED so much for so little in return.

I nearly lost my mind trying to get my ex to have accountability and just apologize when she was wrong..Needless to say I left her alone. Life has been much better not having to explain to someone how to be a decent human being

@muskokamike127

Жыл бұрын

The worst is when they THINK they are a decent human being and really aren't.

@MOMO-m0m0

Жыл бұрын

plz dont tell me you're still dating her

@MOMO-m0m0

Жыл бұрын

@@muskokamike127 I've been reading lots of replies and you seem quite knowledgeable. What would you recommend with someone who gives an apology on condition. Im seriously considering leaving but she said " iwas going to apologize but you made me feel so bad and you ignored me all day so I didnt.

@alanmumford8806

Жыл бұрын

@@MOMO-m0m0 My gut tells me that she actually had no intention of apologizing and denied accountability by instead making it 'all your fault' and guilt-tripping you. Leave.

@muskokamike127

Жыл бұрын

@@MOMO-m0m0 Like many women, HER feelings are more important to her than her actions. "your reaction made ME feel bad" so too bad for you. Her suggestion that she WAS going to apologize is hollow, she never was. Dump her. Say to her "unlike you, I can admit when I made a mistake. In this instance, my mistake was getting involved with you. So my apologies, but there's the door, don't let it hit you in the rear on the way out". Just remember: anger is a legitimate response when faced with an injustice.

Once upon a time, a man asked a beautiful woman to marry him. She said no. And he lived happily ever after.

@niojackson938

Жыл бұрын

FIN

@QED_

Жыл бұрын

Good. But how about this as a fine-tuning (?): "Once upon a time, a man asked a beautiful woman to marry him. She said no. One of them lived happily ever after . . ."

@kenriddle3552

7 күн бұрын

Humor is the best medicine

Women really underestimate just how appreciative we would be if they said sorry just once.

@justsomerandomhomie1794

Ай бұрын

Mine says sorry whenever she feels she made a mistake

@AlexAble-tk5zc

Ай бұрын

@@justsomerandomhomie1794 I don't understand why this is so uncommon. I grew up with girls... The reality is, for the most part, they're almost allergic to apologising

@justsomerandomhomie1794

Ай бұрын

@@AlexAble-tk5zc Sadly we broke up

@climbinghenge6382

22 күн бұрын

Men need to learn not to “react” negatively to what they do. Then they will say “I’m sorry.” Men are far too reactive. Once the man reacts and takes the “bait,” it reinforces the females behavior and reinforces it, that’s why there is no “sorry”

@Hoboken90

19 күн бұрын

i always said that to them, "If you did as i said since the beginning, step 1 , but no , u had to do it in your way , miss sharkira, well done, now who is gonna clean this pshycological mess? the man

I have dated a woman who learned to apologize to me maybe a few months or so into the relationship. I told her that while she never saw her parents apologize to each other, we were going to set a different standard and always seek reconciliation through apologizing as promptly as we could do so sincerely. Not just a hurry up and apologize to get through the hard part of it. She began to apologize to me for things that I was unaware of that she was doing wrong and also a decent amount of time for things that I was aware of. I am proud of her for growing in this way. I did the same to her.

@Odthean

Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing that

@KeyaCares

Ай бұрын

Thank for leading the way and teaching her that it is ok to apologize. A lot of women don’t admit fault due to shame and judgement that comes along with doing something wrong. You’re a true leader and we need more men like you who are willing to teach, lead, and create safe spaces for women to honoring a man’s leadership.

They don't apologize because they truly don't believe they did anything wrong and the reason is because they base decisions on feelings and in their mind feeling a certain way is never wrong, even if actions or outcomes based on those feelings are.

@Truthspeaker7777

Жыл бұрын

I screeenshot your comment. This is exactly what I’ve been thinking but couldn’t put it into words . Thank you, they never think they do anything wrong. If they get caught cheating, they said it’s because the side guy made them “feel” like it , or their husband didn’t make them “feel” wanted anymore. It’s so stupid. Facts over feelings for men, and feelings over facts for women

@kevalan1042

Жыл бұрын

By that logic, if they made someone feel bad, they should believe they did something wrong.

@Truthspeaker7777

Жыл бұрын

@@kevalan1042 yup, but women aren’t logical . So they don’t care

@modickens1272

Жыл бұрын

@@Truthspeaker7777 thanks! You're right.

@modickens1272

Жыл бұрын

@@kevalan1042 how they make others feel is irrelevant to them. It's only how they feel that concerns them.

A women physically attacked me over a year ago, I distanced myself from her and she reached out a few weeks ago. I explained her behaviour was disgusting and if the shoe had been on the other foot I would be in jail, you know what she said....."I apologise if I made you feel a certain way" she never once mentioned her behaviour.....THIS VIDEO IS GOLD DUST!

@OzAbi

Жыл бұрын

Women ☕️ 😆

@MoistDelta.

Жыл бұрын

You got lucky. I was physically attacked by my ex and I called the cops and I got sent to jail when I never hit her back or anything. I got kicked out of the apartment we were staying in and she got no consequences whatsoever. The cops just took me because I'm the man an they left her without her without any skin in the game. I'm pretty sure this is was because crooked cops showed up to the scene. They told me it was just their policy to take someone. I had to enroll in domestic violence classes as soon as I was bailed out as a condition of my bail. Was never convinced of the crime but I got the punishment of someone who was guilty. It's wild how much power women have when the judicial system is involved

@ps123fan

Жыл бұрын

''i apologise if I made you feel a certain way'' say what....

@hankschrader5507

Жыл бұрын

Lol, was a hoe. The same chick will complain her partner slapped her to the judge when you do reply to her whiny abuse.

@GhostBanned369

Жыл бұрын

@@MoistDelta. insane.

Not just apologies but also saying “thank you”. I’ve been on dates with women who never say thank you for anything.

@algibs9095

2 ай бұрын

True, because most appreciate nothing.

@diplomat2623

Ай бұрын

😮😮😮

You are spot on with this. When my wife has gotten too overbearing on something and I react, she sees my reaction as the problem, and not her behavior. I would apologize for reacting too strongly, and things are fine...until the next time she repeats the action. This never really fixed her behavior. She had no incentive to correct her behavior; the only incentive is that I not react to what she is doing. A popular phrase for relationships is "communication is key to a successful relationship". That's not the whole story. Communication coupled with ACTION is what makes a relationship successful. Anything else may keep the relationship intact, but it won't thrive, and bitterness will creep in.

@Play-jv3oi

2 ай бұрын

golden comment crystal clear

@johnair1

2 ай бұрын

Women -some- have a complex of being inferior also they believe bc they are emotional more advanced - which isnt really true- and bc man want sex from them that they are superior on the emotional level and more vulnerable and hence are reluctant to apologize when they were misbehaving because they are like a medal with two sides. Gaslighting, emotional manipulation and light abuse are their tools of choice sometimes when they feel unease.

The ability to apologize is crucial for any functional adult.

@RH-vq6gk

Жыл бұрын

Women aren't adults.

@horustrismegistus1017

Жыл бұрын

@RH Said in another comment that they are all kids and here I am seein this lol

@alexfrank5331

Жыл бұрын

@@RH-vq6gk They become adults when they accept the role of a primary caretaker. Until then, they're princesses. Daddy/Mommy's princess and boyfriend's princess.

@es8117

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. I know plenty of men and women that don't apologise. Leave selective gender out of it.

@elvisleeboy

Жыл бұрын

It is, but so too is the ability not to be pushed into an apology just for the appeasement of others. This occurs frequently in modern society, and men in particular are often pressured into bending and apologising, often under the threat of losing their livelihoods, simply because others could not handle the truth of something they had said.

“Men respect those who take responsibility and accountability” absolutely 100% true!

@AB-ez4rm

5 ай бұрын

Which cancels out about 95% of the women today in the Western world.

@magallanthepenguin9132

3 ай бұрын

Some people will think that it's misogyny lol

@Morbius1963

3 ай бұрын

Might have done before the feminisation of men.

@Insight-music

3 ай бұрын

When expecting someone to respect your boundaries is “oppression”

@ReceptiveKing93

2 ай бұрын

I’ve seen so many managers lose respect in the work place when they don’t take accountability for their actions. It does matter if your a man or woman.

Agree, I do apologise because it's important to me to be reasonable but I've lost many female friends who react defensively and absolutely refuse to apologise for behaviour such as gaslighting

@Mori

2 ай бұрын

A lot of modern women, unfortunately, are notoriously egotistical, pride-filled, and narcissistic, which heavily impacts their romantic and platonic relationships. The exact reason for why a lot of them can’t hold life long friendships anymore like our female ancestors did. Quite sad honestly.

@JG-jz3wh

Ай бұрын

@@MoriI hope eventually it’s gets better cuz if not we don’t have a bright future….

@AlexAble-tk5zc

Ай бұрын

I need to know why this is so rare!

@lindsayh1163

Ай бұрын

​@@AlexAble-tk5zc I think pride is the issue, embarrassment too, also society drills into you that you as a woman deserve the best, "he's not good enough for you" "you deserve better" "you're worth more than this" as opposed to "you are equal to every other human, you are not special, you deserve no more or little than anyone else"

@lindsayh1163

Ай бұрын

​@@Moriyeh I agree, there is a huge element of manipulation, women think they deserve more than men, that men are inferior for the most part and should earn the privilege to be "with us". Critical thinking is what should be taught, self awareness is also key and only something I've learnt to understand through research, education and self reflection

Some women have no sense of accountability because they don't believe men have feelings. In these situations never raise your voice. Getting angry devalues you and gives her importance she doesn't deserve. Stay calm and, just as importantly, stay on point. Don't allow her to distract or use the strategies described in the video. Do not be afraid to walk away to show her behaviour is unacceptable.

“How do you write women so well?” “I think of a man and take away reason and accountability” - Jack Nicolson, as good as it gets

@simoncameron4355

Жыл бұрын

I too will NEVER forget that line.

@aeroeng22

Жыл бұрын

one of the best movie lines E V E R ....

@benjamindavis4807

Жыл бұрын

That quote is exactly what came to mind when seeing this video

@DontYield

Жыл бұрын

Based

@scottadler

Жыл бұрын

Actually, "I start with a man."

Women's rules for apologies (deduced by observation!): #1 Never apologize #2 If you have to apologize, make it an empty apology #3 If an empty apology is not viable, make a minimal/token gesture

@wilfredv1930

Жыл бұрын

very accurate 100% agree

@mobilemcsmarty1466

Жыл бұрын

reminds me of the "Narcissist's Prayer," which I think also can rightly be referred to as the "Women's Prayer" 😁

@volrag

Жыл бұрын

Pretty sure #4 is If you have to apologise, make sure it sounds like the other persons fault.

@clovers-zi5fe

Жыл бұрын

And we have the winner, Alex!! Ding, ding, ding. My ex-wife refused to apologize. Her way of apologizing...your number #3; she would make me my favorite food. And when I asked, why can't you just say I'm sorry instead. Her reply? "Why should I?" Yeah. I divorced the b!+

@Zer0cul0

Жыл бұрын

I feel like #3 is to make it clear that this is not an actual apology but something to hurt the other party with / no remorse.

I am a woman and I always apologize. Saying "thank you" and "I'm sorry" is never too much for any human being. 😊

@Aribbonofsoundmen

5 ай бұрын

@elainer8288 Sadly, every girl thinks she is the exception to the rule. Do you think the girls who never admit they are wrong admit they are like this? We would have to ask the men in your life, to really be sure.

@obviouslyasockpuppet

5 ай бұрын

Obviously the creator of the video is not referring to apologies for minor or accidental transgressions such as bumbing into someone or spilling their latte or being 5 minutes late for an appointment, losing their pencil and so on. Anyone with good manners will say "I'm sorry" for such things quite often in one day.

@elainer8288

5 ай бұрын

​@@obviouslyasockpuppet I'm not referring to that either.

@elainer8288

5 ай бұрын

​@@Aribbonofsoundmen Come on, that's not such a difficult thing to do. Mostly young and immature people do this. (not apologize)

@elainer8288

4 ай бұрын

@@fineless I have apologized sincerely to a man and other people a thousand times like any other human being. It is never too much to say this. I think mostly when we are very young, teenagers and kids this is really more difficult. At least it was like that for me.

As I listen I just think how much better my life could have been with this knowledge 20-30 years ago. I’m 50 and now just learning this.

@IBNED

3 ай бұрын

It is seen as weakness....humility coupled kindness with proper boundaries is maturity

My ex-wife would apologize occasionally, but every single time she did, she'd immediately bring up some random incident from the past where she felt I wronged her. It didn't matter how bad the thing was she was apologizing for, she'd still somehow try to turn it around on me.

@TeaBurn

Жыл бұрын

@treeghettox Relationships are much like courts, the way I see it. Once there is a precedent, that is the new goal post that has moved. What you allow, is what will continue. I guess the same could be said for any type of bad behavior in people in general.

@patrickday4206

Жыл бұрын

@treeghettox sadly that sounds like teaching your children when you can't use any punishment!!

@ALT_RIGHT

Жыл бұрын

🤣 it's as if I wrote this myself.

@muskokamike127

Жыл бұрын

@@patrickday4206 There are many podcasts geared towards men and relationships that compare women to children. Women hate it but since they are driven by their emotions they truly are. Case in point: women who proudly proclaim that they have a job, own their own car, pay for their own house. "congratulations, you're an adult" lol. I've had a relationship where the woman said "why do you treat me like a child?why don't you treat me like an adult"? I will when you start acting like one. I look back and wish I knew then what I knew now and would have nipped it in the bud a lot sooner.

@philipdove1705

Жыл бұрын

I've tried playing that game back every time she mentioned some wrong I did in the past I'd bring up 2 wrongs she did each time. Then shed say your so like a woman! She would say she has changed and wont do that again

An apology is really three things: a) An expression of regret at taking an action the person now understands was inappropriate, b) An implicit commitment to not repeat the inappropriate action, c) A gesture of respect toward the person who has been wronged. When a person refuses to apologize, what they are saying is, "I did nothing wrong. I will do it again, if I feel like it. And, I don't respect you." Steer clear of anyone--woman or man--who feels they are above apologizing.

@muskokamike127

Жыл бұрын

I had my last gf say to me "why is respect so important to you"? I responded with "why ISN'T respect important to you? It's the whole foundation of civilisation and relationships. Without respect, there is nothing". The problem is she demanded respect from everyone around her but never gave it in return. She truly believed (like a narcissist) that she peed chardonnay and farted chanel No. 5

@threethrushes

Жыл бұрын

@@muskokamike127 If anyone asked me that, I'd reply, "ask your next bf. Bye!"

@muskokamike127

Жыл бұрын

@@threethrushes I learned by my mistakes and yes, I will, from now on. I can admit it: she had a great body and I was thirsty......so I overlooked SO many issues.

@thebalancedvirgin4893

Жыл бұрын

Thanking for making it a both issue. I've dated men who can't/won't apologize either. It's specific to a gender: it's specific to people who don't show respect.

@alexmackay7454

Жыл бұрын

@@threethrushes if she manages to get one, lol .

My wife, whom I love, never apologises. She has "house" cats. She left the front door open AGAIN. When I said so she said "Yes, I was in a hurry". Says it all.

"It happened so long ago. Why does it matter? You need to get over it."

Have you ever seen a woman apologise to another woman? It’s always “I’m sorry you felt that way” or something along those lines. I learned from my mother that some women cannot apologise. My mother was incapable of it.

@davidmagar9984

Жыл бұрын

making other party guilty even when it's their own fault

@chesterdonnelly1212

Жыл бұрын

@@davidmagar9984 Yes, sorry you and your father are so sensitive. Not, sorry for cheating on us and tearing our family apart.

@fatherofabyid7638

Жыл бұрын

All my sisters too

@horustrismegistus1017

Жыл бұрын

No they usually apologize to each other profusely if they are friends, then also try to appease the offended. It's when they are "frienemies" that they do what you are saying. Oh btw, if a woman has frienemies.. idc how hot she is, avoid her like venereal disease.

@joemerino3243

Жыл бұрын

Saying 'I'm sorry you felt that way' is now taught in corporate training.

It's a deal killer for me. It ended my marriage. My ex-wife went a step further than simply not apologizing. She'd make you regret pointing out her bad behavior and God forbid you ask her to change it. That said, the inability to apologize was enough for me to lose interest.

@fairfortune67

10 ай бұрын

I'm glad I'm not the only one in the world that went through this crap🤣

@gsmollin2

9 ай бұрын

HOW DARE YOU point out your wife's faults! Never mind she will show you yours on a daily basis.

@iunderstanphotography2780

9 ай бұрын

I'm glad you realized and moved on

@branislavpetriska882

9 ай бұрын

Haha😂😂....same here...i just waited for an apology but instead she rather broke up...🤷🤔😂😂😂

@slatanek

8 ай бұрын

Same boat here. She wrecked me emotionally being hostile all the time, even physically and almost never apologized. I say almost cause a few times in 15 years I managed to literally force the apology from her. Will never accept this childish shit again.

100% I left the love of my life because she couldn't apologise for something I deemed a huge line cross. I held my frame and her accountable. That was a 14yr relationship burned which stings me today years later

This video should be everywhere!!! ❤ The little Cost for woman to express an apology, is pride, that is a small price too pay, but it is precived as a high price.. Great work you do ❤🤓Just came across your content yesterday, and I am mindblown and so inspired ❤

My respect for women who apologize, just goes through the roof.

@robertharrison1058

Жыл бұрын

A woman who can be 100% sincere and not do the same actions that caused the problem again is worth it.

@ggggg77273

Жыл бұрын

@@robertharrison1058 these mythical creatures you speak of do not exist, unfortunately

@cazimim3375

Жыл бұрын

Fool

@cazimim3375

Жыл бұрын

@@ggggg77273 Exactly... Even most men are female spirits

@cazimim3375

Жыл бұрын

@@ggggg77273 Women should be treated as property because they view others as utilities

I once had a girlfriend who though very sweet and thoughtful, would create unnecessary drama from time to time. It seemed as though she would just get bored and want to upset the apple cart a bit . I sat her down and explained to her that if she was going to create more stress in my life that it wouldn't work out. I told her she needed to bring value to the relationship and behave as though we are on the same team. I will never forget what she said. She said, "I am sorry and I apologize. I will work to realize when I am doing that, but I also hope since you are older and more experienced than me that you will correct me on the spot." The next thing I did was ask her to marry me a few months later. No joke

@somedandy7694

Жыл бұрын

Out of curiosity, how much older than her? I wanna know 'cause EVERYONE is hating on age-gap relationships these days and I feel like they might be a better option (especially since I'm in my mid-30s, now)

@Jamdat33

Жыл бұрын

W

@luxdevoid

Жыл бұрын

@@somedandy7694 18 years :)

@Seetiyan

Жыл бұрын

@@luxdevoid Congrats! And how's that marriage going? Any tips you'd give for someone who just started a similar age gap relationship? Me and my gf have a 17.5-year gap.

@luxdevoid

Жыл бұрын

@@Seetiyan It's going great And honestly it's just on the man . Years ago in college I took a negotiation class and I learned that any negotiation you can't walk away from you will lose. You're just going to have to play chicken and she's going to have to blink every time just pick your battles and make it over important matters of ethics and morality . Always be willing to walk away. There's always a younger hotter girl out there but it doesn't need to come to that. Her perception of you is 100% based on your confidence in yourself.

My favourite apology from a woman (I'm female too but I have humility) was from my abusive mother. When I left home for university she must have been scared I'd go NC so she "apologized" for making my brother "discipline" me (he was beating me and she would look on with a demented grin) but said that it was my father's fault because he wouldn't do the disciplining. She totally shifted the blame on to my dad which she always did. At the time I was a very traumatized shell-shocked individual so I didn't know how to even process it, I knew it was phony but I had never been taught self-respect, I had accepted my place as the doormat.

@mansafamara

6 ай бұрын

damn girl

@ky7299

5 ай бұрын

This is what is called a non-apology. It is meant to appease or even gaslight the recipient without taking any responsibility or admitting any wrongdoing. The classic example is "I'm sorry you feel this way" or "I'm sorry if I offended you", always followed by an expressed or silent "but it's not my fault".

@eyixon

4 ай бұрын

I’m sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you as I can relate to being the doormat. I had to get out of this and my family members didn’t like it.

@electrictroy2010

4 ай бұрын

“My father didn’t make you abusive towards me. That is entirely Your choice & responsibility dimbass mom!” my response

@seriouscat2231

2 ай бұрын

"I'm sorry I had to use a spare person to abuse you. I would have preferred to use the first person on my list." Or rather "the way I hurt you was wrong. I should have done it the other way."

This could not be more spot on. I learned long ago that my emotional response will always be the problem.

Before working on myself to overcome my selfishness in my marriage, I never apologized; if I did, it was to make myself feel better, but my words were empty and forget about changing my behavior. Women don't apologize because we lack empathy with men and the capacity to admit when we are wrong. We think we know everything about relationships and that men know nothing, which makes us perpetually right and men perpetually wrong. From this perspective, we never have to look at ourselves and take accountability to change.

@jerrybruckhart9134

Жыл бұрын

That is actually a pretty good comment from a woman, a rarity in the manosphere, you have earned a degree of respect from this 57 year old life long bachelor that could count on two hands the women he has any respect for.

@QED_

Жыл бұрын

@@jerrybruckhart9134 props

@jerrybruckhart9134

Жыл бұрын

I had not noticed your username nor looked at your page when I made my initial comment. When QED commented, I came back and took another look. If you see this, I am quite certain you would find red pill philosophy quite interesting, the study of female nature. I would be glad to share my writings if you have interest.

@lifemarketing9876

Жыл бұрын

Women need to get rid of this "Man bad, woman good " narrative in their heads. It's wrecking families, and ruining people's lives. Thanks for helping make the world better.

@VegasDreamin

11 ай бұрын

My mother is like that and I think by me still coming around she thinks her behavior is ok

I have 6 siblings, and one we nicknamed Golden Boy. He used to do the dumbest things and get in trouble, but nothing ever stuck. It took me years to realize why. He was super quick to apologize to my parents, and took full ownership of his mistakes and stupidity. It wasn't a weakness to apologize it was a strength.

@lijh

Жыл бұрын

That's quite odd parents. Repeated offenses show a pattern & hint at manipulation & bigger problems. But with 6 kids, who has the energy to diagnose & break down too much stuff.

@Minotaur-ey2lg

Жыл бұрын

I try to teach this to the young lads I supervise at work. Tell me you did something wrong and I’ll forgive you. Try to hide it and I’ll learn to not trust you. My biggest screwups are given the most responsibility if they’re honest about their screwups.

@stijnvandamme76

Жыл бұрын

I bet Golden Boy was the youngest. The youngest always get away with the most crap. the apologies were probably insensere, they knew it but they just didn't care. had the oldest one apologized in the same way, it would have been futile.. his ass would be handed to him each time. The youngest get away with murder because the parents had their spirits broken, ground their teeth to pulp on the older ones. So by the time the youngest one apologize, they just take it and move on.. because they are tired of fighting

@MrClassicmetal

Жыл бұрын

Yes, it is certainly a strength. And it's the best strategy as well when you mess up in the workplace, which can happen to anyone. If you _immediately_ come forward and admit that you were the one who made the mistake people won't really get mad at you. And certainly not on the long run. Whereas those who try to hide and won't take ownership are screwing themselves over.

@bradpirochta9293

Жыл бұрын

@@stijnvandamme76 um no... on almost all accounts. He was smack dab in the middle. His apologies were definitely sincere. He was good natured, smart (engineer), a jock, and had a way of winning people over. In high school, he hung out with jocks and things would just snowball. He broke his ankle once because him and his football buddies, at 17 y.o., decided to play King on the Mountain. Dad wasn't too happy with the hospital bill.

Wow this doctor is a true professional and did not take his girlfriend up on her offer of sex by way of avoiding an apology.

"Women want the authority of a man, the privileges of a woman, and the accountability of a child".

@TheirIAre

Ай бұрын

❤

My wife only apologized twice in our 23 year marriage. She suffered from very high self esteem.

@iwanthisokatofuckmesilly5222

11 ай бұрын

I assume this implies you divorced, right? After 23 years? Thats so painful to here

@boratlion8613

10 ай бұрын

Lol

@Emma-cy9lp

10 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@daker1941

10 ай бұрын

😂31 years of HSE

@fred2942

9 ай бұрын

Thats narcissism bro

"Never underestimate a woman's ability to rationalize bad behavior and avoid all accountability."

@versatileduplicity9313

Жыл бұрын

Hypocrites. I swear to god I can’t stand hypocrisy

@Profitglutton90

Жыл бұрын

Ah, you’ve read from the wise words of JT Thomas.

@fairfortune67

10 ай бұрын

Oh absolutely! Nothing is ever their fault and how dare you for bringing it up. You'll pay for that mark her words

@eddyalonsomoramorales6069

6 ай бұрын

@@fairfortune67 i'm genuinely curious about your logic Not taking accountabllity is a matter of inmaturity cockyness etc do You think this a women especific trait???? I have personally met a Lot of men who are like this

@fairfortune67

6 ай бұрын

@@eddyalonsomoramorales6069 That's easy. My logic depends on who I'm talking to or about.

An apology is the greatest expression of humility a person can do. Humility demands honor. Honor means respect Unapologetic = disrespectful

My family fell apart because of a very stubborn very very hard headed woman. I still love her, but she took my 3 kids and now sleep with her new lover. There were only 1 or 2 serious apologies in our 9 years relationship. My advice is: if it happens for the first time when she hurts you and does not come back to calm your pain, gently show her the door immediately. She will have time to think, maybe to change and she will understand your rules and boundaries. If she does not come back to try again, she was not worth your lifetime. I let my woman to hurt me a lot in our first year and then I was never able to ask her for respect and responsibility anymore. I wish these stories and experiences were taught in school. I think society needs to refocus education to communication, psychology and relationship rather than calculus for example.

Due to poor social skills I was a loner with very few friends in middle and high school and I dealt with lots of bullying (I also turned into a bit of an ass, lashing out verbally in order to hurt people like I was being hurt. Not trying to pretend I was perfect). A few years after high school, I ran into a girl who had been one of the people who had bullied me the most. She recognized me before I recognized her, approached me, and apologized for what she had done during high school, and you could tell she meant it. It was only a 15-20 second interaction, but it's a memory that... i wouldn't call cherished, but it means a lot, due to the sincerity.

@kevinerose

Жыл бұрын

To be honest, I would say she only missed bullying you and she was just sad about that. Hoping that you would let down your guard and hang around with her so she can bully you more. After HS it was such a huge let-down and very difficult to find people to bully. Even harder to find new people to bully. In my experience, bullies start out being nice trying to be friends with you but later once you bond with them start bullying you. I'm glad you feel good about that interaction but would advise you to still stay away from that person. If it has been awhile now and she hasn't come back around, that just means she found someone else to bully.

@PeteTheGrouch

Жыл бұрын

Not to sound petty, but, in all honesty, you would've probably been better off telling her to shove her so-called 'apology'... just because she might have _sounded_ sincere, still doesn't necessarily mean she truly meant it..!

@magmat0585

Жыл бұрын

@@kevinerose Was years ago, I'm in my 30s now. Haven't seen her since that day. She definitely wasn't trying to play some mind games.

@skarbuskreska

Жыл бұрын

@@kevinerose dude you seriously have some problems with overthinking, some people just mature and realize what idiots they were, the same way some people realize that they were terrible as teenagers at home and appoligize to their parents, because they finally get it

@kevinerose

Жыл бұрын

@@magmat0585 Awesome and no matter her motives, at the very least you felt good about the encounter.

The last gal I dated literally said this out loud. What ended our time together is that I told her "I think you owe me an apology". She said, "Well, those were my feelings and I wont apologize for them." I told her that It wasn't her feelings I was asking her to apologize for. I didn't explain further because it was obvious. She had been mean, and very disrespectful previously.. not to mention her terrible lack of communication. I simply ended the conversation by saying. "An apology asked for isn't worth anything anyways." We pretty much stopped interacting with each other. Three months later I received a very articulate, and intelligent three page letter from her identifying in great detail, and with perfect accuracy all the ways she had wronged me, and how much she cared about me (see...she knew..and she knew how to communicate, and how take some ownership, but had simply refused to). There was still no word of apology. She did offer sex though... I thanked her for the letter... but then told her it was too late.

@andrewilliams6866

Жыл бұрын

🫡🫡

@TheParadiseParadox

Жыл бұрын

You say it was obvious what you wanted, but I'm not so sure it was obvious to her. What is obvious to a man isn't always obvious to a woman, and vice versa. In this case, it might have taken a lot of cogitation to figure out that her feelings and her actions were different things... 3 months of cogitation in fact. If you'd named the specific behaviours without judgement, and asked for an apology, you may have got one. Maybe not, but communication is a two way street, and if we want people to improve it is best to offer them a suggestion... especially considering it may be something they have never done before.

@jittmet7766

Жыл бұрын

I do notice some people offer apologies through their actions not words but you'd have to know them well to understand this.

@a7md69

Жыл бұрын

@@TheParadiseParadox are you a woman? Because this would accurately show what most men mean, including the one in the video.

@a7md69

Жыл бұрын

@@TheParadiseParadox if the OP says it was obvious why he wanted her to apologize then it was. He has no reason to share his story if he was going to lie about that. Most men know and admit when they're wrong, while most women never admit they're wrong, or choose an innocent little thing ignoring the rest, and most women gaslight their significant other and manipulate men into rethinking what happened in their favor

4:00 I like how he spent 4 minutes to explain that 1: women don't see the error in their ways and think your response to their transgressions is the problem and not their own behavior that caused it in the first place 2: they want to undermine the validity of your feelings by distracting from the issue rather than solving it by becoming a better person through better actions The worst part in my experience is even if you do get an apology it isn't sincerely followed through with a change in behavior and they think the fact that they apologized is enough

I think I got 2 apologies in 22 years. And there were instances that an apology was due every day

I was married for 35 yrs. I cannot recall a single apology. Any disagreement was followed by a week of silent treatment...until I apologized...whether my fault or not to end the silence. -Happily single.

@trucid2

Жыл бұрын

Perhaps a good question to ask when dating: "When was the last time you were wrong and apologized for it outside of work." Red flag if she can't think of anything.

@alexfrank5331

Жыл бұрын

@@trucid2 Obvious interview question. lol. From my experience that doesn't work. I've had many girls who openly admit to their mistakes in their past relationships. But when they did the same exact mistakes while dating me... it's completely always my fault instead.

@StKrane

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like you were married to a narcissist.

@YieldOfDreamz

Жыл бұрын

Same here. Married 20 years and I no longer even bring up anything that bothers me. I know she could not care less about me other than what I do for her. When she complains, I say sorry and move on. More peaceful while I bide my time.

@TheirIAre

Ай бұрын

❤ Same here buddy. They simply are NOT worth the drama and insanity.

I once had a woman I was dating apologize to me and I almost fell over. It was a sincere apology, I tried to brush it off like hey it was no big deal, but she looked me in the eye and said no, I'm sorry. Wow. I honestly think that was the one and only sincere apology I ever got from a woman. It was ten years ago and I remember it to this day. So a woman apologizing does actually happen believe it or not. On the flip side, a woman I was dating for two years, purposely embarrassed and humiliated me in front of her family for no apparent reason. I kept my cool at the time but a couple days later I called and asked for an explanation, apology, and promise that nothing like that would ever happen again. I got none of those. That really made me mad so I immediately broke up with her over the phone. She called me in tears a few weeks later saying how much she misses me. Did she apologize? Nope. So I didn't take it seriously. Six months later she called me and I was no longer mad. She came over and offered me lots of wild s*x. Was very nice, loving, etc. Did she apologize. Nope. Did I ever take her seriously as a girlfriend again. Nope. She once brought up that event and admitted she was mean, but did she apologize? Nope. After a few months of being a FWB she realized I just wasn't going to see her as a girlfriend and stopped calling me. More than the actual apology, what I wanted was to know that the mean AH she was that particular night was an aberration and not who she was. By not apologizing just led me to conclude that that is who she actually is. A mean AH, and I won't have that in my life.

@stevecarey2030

Жыл бұрын

@@derrick2181 Even better than seeing her apologize is not having anything to apologize for. Yes, that happens too. I've dated two women long term where we never had a single fight, nor did she do anything needing an apology. I have nothing but fond memories of them and I am guessing the reverse is true. Marriage isn't my thing but if it was, either of them would have been great.

@stevecarey2030

Жыл бұрын

@treeghettox A**hole. KZread will block the comment if I spell it out.

@dave8168

Жыл бұрын

@treeghettox think donkey pit.

@MyDk2009

Жыл бұрын

@treeghettox It threw me off too. I think "a$$ hole" I'm not sure and may be wrong

@migueld8970

Жыл бұрын

@@stevecarey2030 My default expectation is that they will eventually let you down in some way. After all they are human. Deifing woman as capable of no wrong is also a problem.

One of my favourite videos youve made so far. You sir are a legend, I cannot thank you enough for your continuous stream of actual logic. Logic is such a valuable commodity in this world. I will be becoming a paid member on my payday you have brought me huge value.

Wow... I'm a 21 year old woman and I've always apologized whether it was family, friends, co-workers, romantic partners, or even strangers. I never apologize unless I know full well I could have handled things better. My fiancé recently told me he loves that I always admit when I am wrong (which he admitted I am not often wrong). By this I was very flattered, but also I didn't know until now that it wasn't a common response to doing something wrong when you hold yourself accountable for your actions. I feel bad for men that have to deal with that kind of childish behavior on a regular basis and call it "normal female behavior". It makes me glad I am a woman so I can count on my partner letting me be right when I'm right and wrong when I'm wrong.

@EE12CSVT

9 ай бұрын

Well, can we clone you 👍🏻

@L6FT

7 ай бұрын

I hope you may influence as many women as you can, and share your great values with your offspring, may there be many.

@xilial

6 ай бұрын

you are one in a million. Never change

@lewisvann1

3 ай бұрын

So much narsicism - I only apologize when 'I' know full well I could of handled things differently - Do you hear yourself - what's the point

@Pyrrhic537

3 ай бұрын

Well you're an empathic angel unless you're pretending to be 😂

My ex wife was an abuser. I actually got her to apologize for 3 discreet acts of abuse. I asked her to acknowledge and apologize for the tone her actions set in the relationship and she outright refused and divorced me after over 10 years of marriage. I was willing to forgive and move on at the time. My only regret was that it took 10 years to learn she did not really care about me at all.

@ashleysands1515

Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry to hear that man.

@konnykontant

Жыл бұрын

You live and you learn, ey? Good riddance, I say. It's better to be on your own than having such a person in your life.

@noapologiesX

Жыл бұрын

Took me 25 years buddy! Now we know though right?

@raymondeaton5692

Жыл бұрын

Been there and done that.

@ArmageddonIsHere

Жыл бұрын

"...she did not care about me at all..." They never do. The ONLY woman's unconditional love a man gets to get is his mother's, and *occasionally* a daughter's. All the other women in his life "love" him for what he brings with him. ALL.

honest apologizes require: - taking responsibility - accepting accountability - self reflection - humility - a willingness to change - acknowledgement of wrong doing - admitting someone else was right it would be easier to get a picture of a Bigfoot riding a Unicorn, than find a woman with these characteristics.

@JoesVinylShow1980

7 ай бұрын

Cryptozoologists should put the humble woman in their catalog of elusive and marvelous creatures.

@jdemille79

6 ай бұрын

My ex wife did not display a single one of those during our divorce, literally everything was my fault and/or I made her act the way she did or do/not do the things she did. She thought she was actually blameless. It boggled my mind that she could think that way - glad that chapter of my life is over and I am a better person for moving on.

@alexryan9869

6 ай бұрын

Absolutely

@inthejcurve7968

6 ай бұрын

@Bobisabuilder25 when it comes to meaningful apologies I think of a specific quote and a specific song: Quote: “your actions are so deafening, I can’t hear what you’re saying” Song Lyric: “who needs actions when you’ve got words” Fake apologies are easy, but actions reveal people’s true motivations. And for sure, an apology delayed is no apology at all.

@CwasTB1

6 ай бұрын

🦄 Bigfoot on a unicorn 🦄🦄 ! (ijs , who hurt you ) Sorry for your bad past situations.

Currently in my mid-50's and cannot recall ever hearing any woman apologize for anything ever. Most of what has come out of their mouth has been snarky, snotty remarks. I'm a straight man, physically attracted to women, but don't like what seems to be inside most and thus prefer to not be anywhere around them. Its made for a happier life.

@mbuchart2927

3 ай бұрын

Ditto. Relationships with women, at least today's women, are virtually always a net negative experience. So, why bother? Life is just so much more peaceful without them.

@TheirIAre

Ай бұрын

I feel you. I've dated and love a good amount of women. I'm 40. Totally jaded by how none of them were ever capable of a shred of humility.

This is so true. Acknowledge wrong doing and Making amends is key to 12 step programmes, which are about developing maturity.

The 1 time I thought I got a sincere apology from a woman, I was still in shock and mentioned it to her in the car a week later, she said it never happened and told me I was wrong in the previous argument.

@airthrowDBT

Жыл бұрын

LMAO that's 4-dimensional

@muskokamike127

Жыл бұрын

I had an ex like that, only problem? She loved texting....so anything she said was there in black and white. She hated that.......

@amelsfr

Жыл бұрын

psycho

@johndoe-qg7jp

Жыл бұрын

Yep sounds about right 😂😅😆

@jasonmajere2165

Жыл бұрын

Story changes to now you are the bad guy, nope you started that shit

Huge shout out for taking on a controversial idea. Being able to apologize is a huge sign of maturity and self awareness.

@johnready5940

Жыл бұрын

and not being a narcissist.

@LJ-hk4tv

Жыл бұрын

This is literally taught to us before school, how the fuck is it controversial?

@BalboaBaggins

Жыл бұрын

@@LJ-hk4tv It's only taught to boys, not girls. Hence the problem.

@LJ-hk4tv

Жыл бұрын

@@BalboaBaggins Sad reality

@cazimim3375

Жыл бұрын

Most people have no self awareness and are female animals xDD

This is one of the best videos of the problem I have faced my entire life.

Had a GF over 6 years - normally super sweet - become abusive and insulting once. After giving it time to cool down I offered her the chance to apologise or move out. She moved out because she had a friend down the road with a spare room for free. It was easier for her to do that than to apologise. Next time we met to "talk" it was immediately clear that she didn't want to talk but to hear what I had to say like I was the one who did something wrong. As I was not there to give a speech for her to just listen to I got up and walked away. Asking a woman who refuses to take responsibility for anything (not even provision of her own money - she was unemployed and refused to get a job despite having no money) to apologise for anything is a waste of time. It was like dealing with a 6 year old child.

It took my wife 40 years to learn how to apologize. Now she has no problem but for all those years the idea of an apology never occurred to her. As you said, the typical behavior was food, affection or intimacy. At some point I quit playing and just cut her out of my life. I wasn't unkind. I just didn't include her in my plans, conversations or activities. In a short time she realized the seriousness of it. I wasn't playing a game. I was really mulling over how I wanted to spend the rest of my life. When you get to a certain age sex has no control over you and you value peace more than anything.

@scottjohnson921

Жыл бұрын

OMGoodness, you described my wife and I to a "T".

@eurosalamander

Жыл бұрын

Sex is a sword that women eventually get too old to wield and men eventually get to old to be cut by.

@Kronoken.

Жыл бұрын

how long do I need to wait to find peace?

@KayderimGameplays

Жыл бұрын

I'm only 29 but i think i'm also with that mentality, i couldn't care less about sex, much less would want endure any annoying woman for it

@Ho3bust3r

Жыл бұрын

​@@Kronoken. 40 years old give or take a few years.

One word - narcissism. Narcissists pretty much never apologise. I've been in toxic relationship for about 1,5 years, took A LOT of sh*t from her and in that time period she apologised TWO TIMES and in both cases it was like a shock for me that she is even capable of it.

@ThorX89

Жыл бұрын

That seems like a lot. I would honestly even question her being narcissistic. :D I'm quite sure my dad is and all I think I ever got in over 30 years was half an apology after he forced me into a situation that gave me a frickin life-uprooting brain injury (which I thankfully recovered from, though it took like 3 years) -- and he took managed to take it back soon thereafter too. Nothing is ever the fault of a person with strong NPD.

@AlexiSimonov

Жыл бұрын

@@ThorX89 Jesus Christ, it's painful even just to read about it, sorry for you man. I think, narcissism is a spectrum, one can be not clinically NPD but still have strong narcissistic tendencies, don't you think? Your example is of course extreme, even lesser degree of such relationship can wreck you (like in my case). Stay strong for your own sake. Just like you said, it was not your fault.

@Falconlibrary

Жыл бұрын

I was married for 15 years and my wife only "apologized" once (for cheating), but she said it was really MY fault she cheated, so not sure that counts as an "apology" when you blame the victim for your own bad deeds.

Жыл бұрын

The more I know about npd and bpd the more I think there is no npd/bpd, but .... true female nature... why it is this way? I don`t know.

@theodoreroberts3407

Жыл бұрын

Not only do I not hear apologies from women they are very quick to blame men for everything. They have a cough, it's a mans fault. You name it, it's a man's fault. It's not funny and I think they need to learn to take responsibility. Some things just happen. I have a lady friend now and we seldom are together wirhout her blaming me or men for something everyday. Narcissist? Maybe!

My mother committed adultery and told me and my brother we had differant fathers when we where teens. Ruined that poor kid. She still believes she is going to heaven . This tells you all you need to know about women.

The comments made my day because I've been married for almost 40 years and my wife has never apologized for anything. It's SO, SO nice to learn from the comments that this is common with women. I used to try so hard to relay to her how much this hurts and it would just make her angry. She has no clue the level of pain that could be erased with something that seems so simple as a sincere apology. Years ago I decided to just overlook it because she has so few faults other than this; take this one fault away and she's almost angelic! I feel very lucky to be with her so I've learned to just accept this; it is worth it. But it still hurts and if she weren't such a good person otherwise, I know it would be too much. BUT--I should add that while I do sincerely apologize when I feel she is owed an apology, I also know that --1. I am in the wrong more more often then I admit at the time, and 2. I 'relapse' into offending behavior, (even though my apology was truly heartfelt at the time) more than she does. In other words, she modifies her behavior without apologising. I know what I do is likely more hurtful and frustrating than never getting an apology.

@fruitshishkabob

3 ай бұрын

As a young dude, I appreciate your wisdom

@kevcoverssolos

2 ай бұрын

Idk man I’ve been manipulated to think that my emotions and reactions are invalid because I felt the need to apologize rather than having her apologize for her actions. Best of luck but the lack of apologizing is a deal breaker for me

My ex avoided apologizing. I eventually took a page from her book and stopped apologizing too. She said that I was being selfish, I said that I really didn't care. And, eventually, I realized that I really didn't care about her anymore. Lost all respect for her and told her to move out.

@stevenoverlord

Жыл бұрын

Based

@zadokprime4831

Жыл бұрын

@@derrick2181 they're not more attracted, they have justification for cheating and want to keep the peace while they look around

@edheldude

Жыл бұрын

She didn't respect you since you weren't her first choice. It's resentment, and when you attuned to it, you managed to break it off.

@CSuiteLeague

Жыл бұрын

Ha well done. I have now learned I will never let a woman move in. She can stay over if invited, but never will I co-domicile with a woman again.

@larrycheek3588

Жыл бұрын

Women are more attracted to men who are in control. This is fact.

I found they apologise, but they aren't sorry about how they made you feel. They only say sorry so that you will get over it.

@keylanoslokj1806

Жыл бұрын

Facts. It's a strategy not repentance

@sneezyfido

Жыл бұрын

Or, they actually are sorry for how you feel, or rather for the associated consequences. What they are not sorry about is what they did to make you feel that way. Like when my wife, overal a direct, honest person, started driving while I was still getting in. She near-apologised for my being startled, but not for the risk, nor for her action. She still felt that I was taking too long, so basically it's all my fault.

You have a storehouse full of vocabulary. I am learning just listening to you. I admire a well spoken person.

My girlfriend never apologies. She would admit she is wrong after I point it out to her and then when I’m waiting for the subsequent apology, she says she doesn’t feel like she has to. It’s mind boggling but this clarifies it so much

@RR-et6zp

2 ай бұрын

Why do you let it slide then?

My wife now apologizes when she does something wrong - but that took years. I eventually had to start showing her when she did something objectively wrong that WE ARE NOT MOVING ON FROM THIS until you apologize. Nothing else will fix it. But if you do apologize, it is immediately over. Once she saw that an apology was the quickest and easiest way to end something that would otherwise drag on for days (or weeks) she got the message. Because for men, the # 1 thing we want from our woman is respect - more so than even love. If you are going to wrong me and then refuse to even acknowledge it, what could be more disrespectful than that?

@Skindoggiedog

Жыл бұрын

She didn't 'get the message' - she realized it was the best way to get you off her case. She's using it like a tool. This is not a recognition that she did anything wrong.

@handsomeX

Жыл бұрын

​@@SkindoggiedogYup! Was coming here to say exactly this! 💯

@paxaeterna3709

Жыл бұрын

But at least you feel respected. Right?

@kengaroo5170

Жыл бұрын

The Adam and Eve syndrome. Eve never apologized, Adam went along with everything.

@williamclayton9566

Жыл бұрын

Was the apology ever sincere? How did you know?

Never underestimate a woman’s ability to avoid all accountability and responsibility.

@robinaboy

Жыл бұрын

Or their ability to justify the most egregious of actions. It’s insane how their brains can rationalise some of the most appalling behaviour.

@muskokamike127

Жыл бұрын

teflon clothes and dances better than Fred Astaire.

@brettvaughn1058

Жыл бұрын

From the movie "As Good as it Gets" How do you write women so well? Jack Nicholson: First I think of a man. Then I take away all logic and responsibility."

@TTSAMM

Жыл бұрын

Your comments were very relatable. Bad parenting only exacerbates this problem and inflates the ego as a blimp. My sister is a prideful, arrogant narcissist.

@aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470

Жыл бұрын

@@robinaboy Like what? Reading through these comments I see a lot of vague bellyaching but very few actual accounts of what the woman allegedly did wrong. One guy further up said simply that he felt 'disrespected', and wanted 'respect more than love'. It sounds like just about all of you men on here are immature, slave-seeking users with more than a hint of narcissism.

Refual to apologise is (1) deliberate lack of regard for the feelings of others and (2) evidence of stagnated emotional growth. Whenever ive apologized in both my personal and professional life i have found that in 90% of occasions my relationships have strengthened, not weakened.

So true, my woman of 4 years disrespected me, and I pointed it out. She refused to apologise. I packed my bags, moved on, and didn't look back. She is still asking to get back together. I have forgotten all about her. She was quite an amazing woman...except, she comes in billions

If sex as compensation is accepted, then precedent is set. Expect the bad behavior to get worse. Thank you for clearing up my decades of relationship mismanagement. 🙏🏻

@yol_n

Жыл бұрын

Women: "we are not sex objects!" Also women: "fine you can have your way with my body"

@youtubedestroyedmylife309

Жыл бұрын

I agree with your statement. But I want to respectfully offer a counterpoint to think about as well..., Now if as men we accept that women are more emotionally driven and prone to acting on emotional impulse than their male partners, wouldn't the logical thing to do be to even the dynamic out by being less emotionally minded ourselves, and more rationally minded? This mindset doesn't have to be demeaning to the women in your life, or belittling. It compliments the relationship. It makes both of you stronger as a single unit. If both of you act purely out of emotional response, it makes an unbalanced relationship. Just like if both of you felt no love for each other, and acted purely out of rationality and emotionless reasoning? It would not be a satisfying or functional relationship? At least in my opinion, possibly that works for some couples. But I propose that there should be a balance.

@Steevy84

Жыл бұрын

My tactics is to still go for sex, and say that I feel degraded to have fallen for her cheap sex trap ( which I jumped into on purpose ). The advantage is that they will accept anything nasty at this point. This makes them absolutely mad afterwards, once you finally reject them, but also even more attracted to you lol

@gc2696

Жыл бұрын

@@Steevy84 That's how James Bond treats the women sent to kill him.... obligatory sex first, then slap them around...not advocating violence, just describing a violent fictional character. 😱😎✌🏻

@gc2696

Жыл бұрын

@@youtubedestroyedmylife309 Women aren't women if they don't withhold or offer sex to solve all their problems. It's their currency. According to KZread funny shorts, they'd even use it to pay for pizza ..... 😱🤣🤣

In my experience a woman apologizes when she is completely "in love with you" which also means she respects you. But when she is no longer "in love with you", she stops apologizing even if she says she loves you.

@DB742

Жыл бұрын

That's the only time they are loyal or treat you really well is because it comes down to being reigned by her intense feelings. Because your approval of her has a monopoly on that feelgood drug, you receive behavior that seems unselfish. But the moment that cools off you see that disappear like you never really knew her. Men operate more consistently in relationships because of a sense of duty or scarcity mindset.

@informationyes

Жыл бұрын

@@DB742 Nice crack pot armchair theory not based on anything other than baseless claims lol, you know theirs an interesting thing about how the bias tend not to realize their being biased, Its funny that woman can only remain loyal by your theory by approval but men by what evidence we have cheat more overall lol anyway please provide evidence

@drewg3087

11 ай бұрын

💯

@themind1401

10 ай бұрын

Which also means she needs you, not respects you !

@informationyes

10 ай бұрын

@@themind1401 How does love mean she needs you?

It's honestly explains to me why gaslighting is such a common manipulation tactic for women. Their behavior isn't the problem, it's how you responded to their behavior. I've met numerous women who used this type of reasoning to justify their toxic behaviour while putting the blame on you for reacting negatively.

I am beyond grateful I found this channel. This message just doesn't apply to women that you're dating in a relationship with. It applies especially in my situation two women that you work with as well. Thank you for this knowledge bomb bro....

My ex had no problem apologizing....and then doing the same behavior over and over again.

@keasenne

10 ай бұрын

Basically she hasn't apologized..

@sideshow4463

9 ай бұрын

Her apologies was just words and did not come from reflection.

@Anon1gh3

9 ай бұрын

"Sorry" implies a feeling of sorrow/regret. Is she sorry for what she did or for getting caught?

@briannyob7799

9 ай бұрын

@Anon1gh3 I think she just said sorry as that is what she thought she should do .

@_kenothia

9 ай бұрын

😂 it's called consistency

This is the way I see it. I think another factor at play is that apologizing gives away leverage for women. Women tend to like operating in a nebulous intermediate space between being strategic and "acting natural". They need to have plausible deniability at all times. It's also why they never make first moves and prefer using subtle cues of interest. Because making first moves means committing to a path with intent where you cannot act like you meant to do something else whereas something noncommittal like a quick glance in your direction can be interpreted as either a signal of interest for you to pick up or just looking at something else that just happens to be in your direction. They need that duality of interpretation. This way, depending on future events going their way or not, they can always alter the true intent of something they did in the past. If a guy approaches, she wins and if he doesn't approach she wasn't trying to get his attention aways. Now back to why they don't apologize. If we refer back to what I said about needing to have duality of intent, women approach relationships with men in a way where they use their everyday amiable behavior with their partner as a disguise for their true intent which is to maintain leverage in the relationship power dynamic. They really truly view relationships as things to control for their sake by using their ability to manipulate male behavior by leveraging sex, beauty, "damsel in distress" tactics, etc. but they will never reveal this since they know it comes off as conniving. If we go back to the video "women look at men the way men look at jobs", an analogy would be that a man would be a fool to admit to his job that he's only there for the money even if it's true. He must disguise his true goal for being there with the BS he tells them at the interview about really enjoying what he's heard the company's culture, wanting to make an impact, etc. Now here's the kicker. The reason women don't apologize is because you can look at apologizing as a diagnostic that reveals her true intent which is maintaining leverage. When the situation arises where she needs to apologize, she can't hide behind the BS anymore that she uses to cover her intent, because apologizing requires being selfless and being selfless gives up leverage. The situation is like a knife that separates the two sides of the plausible deniability coin. She must show her hand. Love and selflessness or leverage. By apologizing she has to momentarily concede the high ground she uses for strategic purposes and this gives up her ability to use the tools she uses to maintain control of the relationship's power dynamics. The tactics I mentioned before aren't as effective if she has to perform a submissive act such as apologizing. The apology would be easy if her goal was love and equity in the relationship, but it's near impossible to do if her goal is maintaining leverage. Apologizing forces her out of the nebulous space of plausible deniability that she likes to operate in. By not apologizing, she tries to cling to her leverage. By offering sex and other things she tries to get passed this situation and still maintain the high ground. She never admitted to doing anything wrong and so you must still treat her like the innocent blameless damsel that she is and she can still set the rules for how the relationship proceeds.

@pip_rake

Жыл бұрын

Incredible insight!

@justlurkin

Жыл бұрын

@@pip_rake thanks man!

@pip_rake

Жыл бұрын

@@justlurkin welcome

@MartialistKS

Жыл бұрын

I like how you described their way of acting as being between strategic and "acting natural" with plausible deniability as cover.

@berzerkfury1459

Жыл бұрын

Yeah makes perfect sense. Say this is the theorem than add her personality type + the qaulity of the relationship. Wouldnt there be a way to back them into a corner so that her only option was to apologise?

I like that you share perspectives that other psychologists just don't.

I already broke up with one of my ex-girlfriends because she never wanted to apologize. I told her " We are through, just pack and leave. " She was like wtf, why ? I went " Because you never apologize for your bad behaviours and for hurting me, and I have 0 respect for people who can't take accountability and responsibility for their actions and the backlash and harm it causes to the other person. " She begged me to take her back for months. Tried to apologize MANY times. But I was over. If you have to apologize once you are suffering the consequences, you don't truly mean it. You had to mean it when it was time to.

@samyakhp4353

Жыл бұрын

When she was sad and didn't want to leave , u should have said " I'm sorry that you feel that way " it would have been an icing on the cake (taste of their own medicine) But good job man, what u did takes courage and a firm resolve

@EternalxFrost

Жыл бұрын

@@samyakhp4353 Yeah well, I could, but I'm not heartless either. It was already bad enough for her to feel the consequences of her actions, which many women now won't even get to experience, because they are the ones doing the dumping. She just pushed me too far and I walked away. Women have to know that if they push you too far, you gonna walk away and never look back. Which I did. Sometimes they have to lose a good man to truly understand and change their way.

@gromswowguide7927

Жыл бұрын

She apologized because of the simple natural fear of being rejeced and or left alone. You’re exactly right, if she was a person of true character, she either wouldn’t have hurt you, or she would feel immense guilt for doing it right after with an apology, and a promise of change.

@EternalxFrost

Жыл бұрын

@@bigstonkman225 Chad ? What the hell this has to do with the situation I was in 5 years ago ?

@Steevy84

Жыл бұрын

@@EternalxFrost yeah but some fellas have children with those harlots, and they can't just leave like that sometimes... you know, court/law, alimony etc...

Understanding this has just made me appreciate women even less.

That has been my experience too. I have only ever received three apologies from a woman. One was my sister, one was my mother, and the other was my teacher. Three, in my entire life.

@eddyalonsomoramorales6069

6 ай бұрын

Wha about men

@Marco_My_Words

6 ай бұрын

@@eddyalonsomoramorales6069 From my experience, it seems that men tend to apologize more frequently. Of course, there are some who don't, such as my father, who never admits his mistakes. However, generally speaking, I've observed that men are more likely to offer apologies upon recognizing their errors, in contrast to the women I've encountered.

@eddyalonsomoramorales6069

6 ай бұрын

@@Marco_My_Words matter of experiences an thats the point The whole idea that narcisism ego and lack of accountabllity are women traits is painfully hilarious The fact that this man is psicologist is Even worst 🤦🤦🤦 Anyways My experiences have been different i know if You talk to other men and women You could find out You are speaking from what You have seen and i resoect that just like me but.... You don't think is kind of Cocky to believe thats your mom sister and your teacher are the only good mature women out there🤣🤣??? All this modern women nonsense ends on the same place🤣🤣the lovely and not hipocrite red pill🙄😆 Just My opinion but the sonner You run from this type of content the better Just My advice 🙃

@Marco_My_Words

6 ай бұрын

@@eddyalonsomoramorales6069 I'm do believe that there are other mature women who are good. My deceased mother, despite some good qualities, was abusive throughout my childhood. She's a very poor example for a good woman. She was everything women should not be, except for a few traits. My sister, on the other hand, is exceptionally good, truly a good woman. My beliefs obviously stem from my extensive interactions with numerous women and men, having spent a significant portion of my young adult life outside, engaging in conversations with hundreds, possibly thousands, of people. Our judgments are naturally shaped by our personal experiences. Hence, I don't rely on the government or others to shape my understanding of the world, as their perspectives might be heavily politically biased. I trust in my ability to observe and evaluate situations more neutrally on my own, using my own common sense and criteria. I'm really skeptical of the current tendency to accept information just because it's presented in social studies or the media. My own experiences with social studies classes, whether in person or online, have shown them to be heavily biased and leaning towards feminist and left-wing ideologies. I find it hard to trust such sources, since they're similar to the views of radical feminists. Believing what the government or the media says also seems very naive to me. Everyone's arguments, including mine, are influenced by our own personal life and experiences. While your views may be valid, they could also be swayed by the media, just as mine could be influenced by other factors.

This series of analysis by this brilliant man on his KZread channel are all gold and hit the nail on the head over and over again. Sadly, it makes me not want to be in a relationship with a woman again. It’s all just too much work relative to the benefit i can potentially gain from a relationship with a woman.

My ex wife would argue with me round and round about the DUMBEST things where she refused to simply apologize for bad behavior, denying it was bad and just being completely illogical and hypocritical, would try to deflect back on me yadda yadda. Then she'd say sorry...and IMMEDIATELY do the same thing again. After years of this I asked her to define what the word "Sorry" meant to her because I was FLABERGASTED she could say sorry and REPEATEDLY do the same thing again. She said "It means I don't want to fight anymore". They don't even know what sorry MEANS.

@sbritton1313

Жыл бұрын

Agree, they learn it from childhood that saying I am sorry stops the fight, or them getting yelled at... So they are sorry they got caught, not that they felt bad about doing wrong...

"Women, consider learning how to apologize." This X100000. I once had a new girlfriend apologize to me after she had started an argument. AFTER I collected my jaw from the floor from the shock of realizing that I had witnessed something I had never seen a woman do before, I fell head over heels in love with her. Men do not expect women to be perfect. When this girl showed that she cared enough about me to not let me take blame for something that she was responsible for, I knew I had found a diamond.

@FreakMeat74

Жыл бұрын

Be careful of being neurotically in love my man.. "It's always better if she loves you more than her" was a piece of advice from my old man I didn't believe, until it personally applied lol.. It's a hard lesson to learn though the first time.

@Mashamazzi

Жыл бұрын

@@FreakMeat74 and sometimes the second... lmao

@TheMrDChan

Жыл бұрын

God I wish this was me. Just came out of 10 months of dating a girl who -always- let me take the blame. Twice she "dropped the bomb" and told me everything was my fault. By then she'd already destroyed my spirits, my self-confidence and my belief in me being a good person and man. Taking responsibility and making sure that "credit where credit is due" + the opposite is so...god, it's so important and mature.

@informationyes

Жыл бұрын

My wife aplogises all the time even when she hasnt hasn't done anything wrong, you act like its rare but where the evidence! for this commonality??? this seems like another case of confirmation bias in an echo chamber

@informationyes

Жыл бұрын

@@FreakMeat74 My advise would be too never be neurotically in love but be it based on logic and reason like actual measure of who your partner is, this claim of her having to love more isnt based on anything other than the old man and you getting hurt and thus thinking woman are the problem when bad partners isnt a gender thing

Respect. For turning down the sex.

Apologies are love based - you apologise when you are in the wrong, realise that and care enough about the other person and the relationship to want to fix it. No apology means one of those things has to be missing

As a young man, I've been pretty demoralized on even attempting to build a relationship, despite a desire to one day have a family. You've perfectly and succinctly described a pain I've felt numerous times. I would absolutely gain respect for a woman if she apologized instead of downplaying her fault or my feelings.

@melissachartres3219

Жыл бұрын

I'd REALLY advise against having a family these days, but if you're absolutely determined to- consider a foreign bride... but like ... in a foreign country. If you bring them back to your first world country, they're generally corrupted within a matter of months.

@coltspiller4446

Жыл бұрын

The juice is not worth the squeeze.

@alexfrank5331

Жыл бұрын

@@melissachartres3219 what if two men both want a family... they adopt or just bring a kid into the world some other ways. Then they just raise the kids together. All the benefits of dual-parenting, much fewer downsides. Any other gender can do the same as well of course. Might even grow into communal family rather than just 2 parents since we're not limited by the primitive mating instincts anymore at that point.

@Srbenda126

Жыл бұрын

@@alexfrank5331 you are sick in the head

@skeletordanzig4999

Жыл бұрын

I was seriously demoralized myself at a young age, now at 43yrs old alone with just my cat,(I'm divorced with a 22 yr old daughter) I caution you young man, do not so quickly throw away the idea of family, without people to protect and care for what is "being a man" about? my father told me that to be a man means, "Working hard and sacrificing for people who can never understand how hard you work, or what it s you really sacrifice"

The vast majority of women will not heed your advice, Dr. Taraban. They have too much pride. I think some would rather die and go to hell before they admit fault and apologize.

@Willie_Wahzoo

Жыл бұрын

They're like children. The ol' "if I don't move, they can't see me" bit... "If I never admit fault, then I'm not wrong!" P!gs.

@StevenSiew2

Жыл бұрын

Women do DIE and GOTO HELL. I know that it is true because women always said "Where did all the good men gone?". ** They have too much pride. I think some would rather die and go to hell before they admit fault and apologize. **

@TheChosenOne21212

Жыл бұрын

Do not be fooled, the majority in hell are women

@algibs9095

2 ай бұрын

Pride is the problem 100%.

@TheirIAre

Ай бұрын

Absolutely. Just read the comments from a majority of women on here. They are just proving our point. All of our human experiences are absolutely false in their eyes, and they won't even have a minute of reflection or humility, despite all of these poor broken-hearted men that have tried and tried. Still they ignore and deny and because enough men want to fuck them, they have no real reason to evolve or look in the mirror and do some inner work.

Very true. I first experienced this male/female dynamic in the corporate environment. In the mid 2000's corporate America became increasingly effeminate. I discovered many times where I simply could not fundamentally address disagreements with women without them distracting from the issue due to their emotional response. Example: a planning department routinely fails to collect complete information from suppliers. This has caused the company many times to fail to meet important objectives. When I question this, the department head (female) becomes defensive, evasive, and raises my tone as an issue to HR. Before I know it, I'm in HR having to explain myself, with the incident going into my file. What exactly did I do? I wasn't soft enough in my approach. Did the issue get resolved? No, it actually worsened, as her feelings were validated as the most important concern. Meanwhile, the company's performance continued to degrade, and management began trying to find a scapegoat.....

This video was incredible! I completely agree! Nothing could be a greater gift to receive from the woman in your life or any woman you’re associating with than for her to apologize and admit she was wrong (sincerely) For a woman to hold herself accountable and open up to a mistake that affected me badly in some way, for her to apologize, that would be greater than sex and steak and Laker tickets. I love women, but this is the root to all of my frustrations with women. They get away with murder (so to speak) they are really good at distracting you from the issue or changing the subject or avoiding you until you’re not thinking about whatever she did wrong. I wasn’t able to boil it down to the root problem. But yeah, the clever avoidance of personal responsibility, manipulation and sometimes gaslighting to not address the issue. It’s really frustrating because it makes you feel like she doesn’t respect you… or herself?… or both? Idk It just makes one sad and angry. Like he said she thinks the man being angry is the problem, which is false. The woman wronging the man and never apologizing and holding herself accountable for whatever it is she did. That’s the actual problem. It’s disrespectful and ironically it makes her wrong twice 😂 I think the woman knows she’s in the wrong, but refusing to admit that seems to be in their DNA. I don’t think she actually thinks the man being angry is the problem. It might be scary, upsetting or stressful. But paradoxically, the easiest way to diffuse that anger would be to open up and apologize. But for some really, in almost all cases, she would rather do anything else. A man will love you, or at least respect you and appreciate you greatly, if you apologize and admit it when you mess up. To any ladies that might read this, stop trying to keep it a secret that you’re wrong sometimes. He already knows! He knows you’re human, so by default, he knows that you sometimes make mistakes. We all do! But holding yourself accountable and apologizing when you mess up is part of being a true adult. That’s what a man wants out of his wife or girlfriend! He’s mad because you never admit you’re wrong. Doing so bring everything back into balance. Besides, it’s really rude to make everything his fault. He’s got his own mistakes to worry about. He doesn’t need yours too. A man wants a wife! Not an overgrown child. Be his teammate and he’ll love you all the more for it. ❤

@Play-jv3oi

2 ай бұрын

you are on point, your comment is gold.

It's actually quite sad. I'm pushing 50 & I've maybe known 2 - 3 honorable women in my life. None in my family. How do women claim to be the more empathetic, yet can't apologize for anything? Mass delusion & power hungry mad isn't empathy, honey.

@austntexan

Жыл бұрын

They'll never learn, esp if this trait is in their nature. Not all woman are like this, but most are.

@Magic_M_Hayashi

Жыл бұрын

@@austntexan what I especially don't get is when they criticize you for never apologizing... when you've apologized many times and they haven't like ever...

@GodWorksOut

Жыл бұрын

That was a lie we were sold. In fact, every cliche you can think of regarding them is the exact opposite.

@autarko

Жыл бұрын

They have sympathy for babies and puppies, but that's not the same as empathy.

@davidcooke8005

Жыл бұрын

They claim to be empathetic, and they murder 2000 of their own babies every single day, in America alone. Makes all the wars men ever fought pale by comparison.

Apparently I yelled when I drunk but can not remember . Women and her man didn't tell me , except that I didn't apologize

Absolutely spot on. I have even had the exact scenario that he described play out in a relationship before. Always thought it was so odd and never understood it until just now.

You nailed it! Women don't recognize that their behavior as the problem; they believe the problem is our response to their behavior. If we get angry at their negligence, the problem isn't their negligence, it's that we became angry. And in their minds, we need to profusely apologize for responding with anger at their negligent behavior.

@blaxpoitation8528

Жыл бұрын

Damn, you're so right about that. It can be so infuriating.

@Skindoggiedog

Жыл бұрын

The axiom at the base of this is that women believe the world should revolve around their feelings, and I don't mean that in a 'They're self-centered' kind of having-a-shot-at-them way. They actually believe it, deep down. It's their true end-goal, to have everything cater to - at the expense of all else - how they feel and, to an extent, a lot of our societies - especially in the West - already do function this way.

@dreg5845

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like a child?

@Serquss

Жыл бұрын

From the perspective of evolutionary biology Jordon Peterson explained that women need to be more sensitive so that they can be attuned to the needs of infants. Their proclivity towards neuroticism is necessary to advocate for the needs of the baby. Therefore, it makes sense that women, as child-bearers, would believe that their feelings be given priority, especially within the context of family and small community. But the modern western woman shuns motherhood; nonetheless, she still believes her feelings be given ultimate priority. And as she misapplies her ‘sensitive’ nature in the political and economic realms, she ceases to be a child-bearer and becomes a destroyer of civilization.

@edsedlavzelaznog

Жыл бұрын

@@Serquss I absolutely and completely and 101% agree with you. You hit the nail right on the spot. If I could put one hundred times the "like" button on your comments I certainly would. That's is so true what you have said in both of your comments. That is one of the reasons of most importance why women should not be allowed to be in politics or the economic realms. Women in those positions are destroying our western society from within.