After I worked in a fertility clinic I never ask people why they haven't had children yet. Sometimes it may be that they just don't want any and that's cool too.

@LingandLamb

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! It’s crazy and shocking how small minded people are. Some can’t or don’t want to have any! It’s not rocket science 😮

@JustChiVlog

Жыл бұрын

And you know children comes with a lot of responsibility that you must have to be prepared to face. I mean I have seen cats destroy a lovely relationship on tv. Because the man get to clean shit a lot because the woman is nagging him, you're not being supportive.. because of a cat 😂😂😂😂

@lilli798

Жыл бұрын

​​@@toochukwuowoh606 you're actually very weird for this comment. It's the fact that you feel entitled enough to tell a stranger that you think it's time to have kids. Who are you to tell a person you don't know to have kids? You're a Nigerian so I'm not surprised at your lack of boundaries. You don't even know if they're ready for kids or not. Talmabout "if your parents thought this way they wouldn't have had you" . And that would have been very fine . It's not as if the kids that were not born are missing anything special. When you have to go as far as emotionally blackmailing people to have kids, you should know that there's something wrong.

@factsandopinions577

Жыл бұрын

@@toochukwuowoh606 of course you are nigerian

@zed5768

Жыл бұрын

Just live your lives. Having kids or not, your choice to make. I have learnt that if we make a right choice, we enjoy the success the most. If we make a wrong choice, we suffer the consequences the most. It's yours to decide. Pls yourselves, not others. In as much as you don't see yourselves in nearest future wishing you had kids earlier, just ride on. Blessings❤❤🎉🎉

People should mind their business when it comes to this topic.

@0728brown

Жыл бұрын

I will never understand why people feel entitled to know this.

@benjaminayemloharuna2772

Жыл бұрын

Pls, it's really annoying when they do. It's definitely not their business.

@SippiGirl_256

Жыл бұрын

Men and women have all sorts of fertility related issues, financial issues, etc. It's just something where people need to shut their mouths.

@SippiGirl_256

Жыл бұрын

I chose to not have kids. I love living my life freely without worrying about whether or not someday I'll have to choose to pay mortgage or feed my kid, you know. It's personal.

@tendowinny1102

Жыл бұрын

If you have put your life out to the public eye,for everyone to mind and watch. What do you expect??? People will ask

I love that Lamb was essentially having a conversation with Ling, not us. He was looking straight at her the whole time.

My husband and I decided that we wanted to be married two years and finish our house before we started to have kids. When we started to try I had three miscarriages it was something that we kept private. People keep asking every time they see us when we having kids it would eat at me and it send me into depression. One Mother’s Day they had me help giving out the gifts at church and I just breakdown. God finally bless us with a daughter and the journey was traumatic. I had to stitch my baby in so as not to have a fourth miscarriage. I flatlined after the surgery almost didn’t wake up and in the delivery room the nurse was paging the doctor and no one turned up so both of us delivered her and I got 42 stitches. My baby was in the nicu for one week with an infection in the navel. Now persons asking when I am giving her a sibling I am sick of it. I still have anxiety from my experience. People need to normalize staying out of people reproductive business.

@ramoah300

11 ай бұрын

You and your family are in my prayers 🙏🏾

@lounasampson1359

10 ай бұрын

I’m glad you made it through. God bless you and your family.

@veronicaglouster1713

10 ай бұрын

you are also allow to cuss them out as well and tell them back off

@diamondz4lfye313

10 ай бұрын

I agree. You never know what people are going through and asking them about why they haven’t had children or more children may definitely trigger ptsd, anxiety or depression. We have to be cautious of that.

@veronicaglouster1713

9 ай бұрын

@@TriciaPerry-ef7bi yes.. this new age of sparing feeling and lying to persons who behave badly and letting them sit is is damaging to other. I have a lot of bad behaving christians in my life. Ams sick of you all

I had kids 2 years after being married at age 21.. Here we are age 42 with a 21 year old girl and 18 year old boy with both my kids in college. Now at age 42 we are empty nesters living life with young adults kids who are my absolute joy. Talking with them everyday, helping them make decisions. Walking them through situations and seeing them flourish into adults is a DREAM COME TRUE. My husband and I wasnt rich. We was rich in love, care, nurturing and my kids fell perfectly into our lives. My only regret is not having more.

@omohbhollah

8 күн бұрын

Well done 🙄

@pa1361

3 күн бұрын

If you can, you’re young enough to. It’s genetic in my family and all came out fine

We are Nigerian 🇳🇬 Ukrainian 🇺🇦couple, Our story is different, you never know how your life might turn, we decided we were ready to have a child financially and mentally, but when war in Ukraine started we lost everything, just after leaving the country we discovered we are going to be parents, now our child is our joy and happiness and somehow he is helping to go through this rough time and pushing us to continue moving and living the new life that we didn’t even choose but was forced to. God bless you beautiful couple ❤️

@lawreenmkado8307

Жыл бұрын

Sending love ❤❤❤❤

@michealohunyon175

Жыл бұрын

This is soooo inspiring. God bless your family.

@chantalgafan8502

Жыл бұрын

Sending ❤and hugs 🫂

@ketlinelouis2669

Жыл бұрын

I am with you guys, good advice, now it's time go for the child and more now.

@pusep132

Жыл бұрын

Y

My husband and I have been married 7 years and no kids. I used to cry about it all the time because I felt I was supposed to being pressured by societal norms. Once I realized and accepted that it’s not up to me but the lord and that not having kids are okay too. I am no longer upset about it Plus I love my freedom❤

@tuka24a

10 ай бұрын

I understand you. I always wanted to be a mum.Then I have been working hard to build my career and now I have a partner who is supportive.However, I am happy without babies and life is much easier. I am not sure if my partner is ready for a child. He is sooo selfish that I wonder if we would give up a bit from himself to care for another human being. I don’t want to be a full care parent like my mum was. She had a husband who was too busy drinking to look after their own child. My partner doesn’t drink but I am not sure if he will be ready.Babies are for life.😢

@benban8055

10 ай бұрын

So say that you will concieve, believe it and DO NOT WORRY ABOUT THIS SUBJECT and it will happen. Matter of fact, you will be astonished at how instant it will be.

@Biddyyyy

10 ай бұрын

@@tuka24a yes it’s a huge commitment and babies change everything. I always hope for the best though 🫶🏾

@Biddyyyy

10 ай бұрын

@@benban8055 to be honest it would be a blessing yet terrifying to say the least lol

@KingdomWithin7

10 ай бұрын

Damn when you said it wasn't up to you but the Lord's is amazing! Good on ya🙏🏼💯

A lot of ladies that usually comment on their videos want this kind of marriage. The truth is none of them would have given him a chance like she did. He didn’t have a job, and was struggling. Most of you already met that great guy, but overlooked him. 🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️

@sweetdivine2701

15 күн бұрын

True, but the problem is that most of our men when they make it. You become suddenly not their type, and they start to cheat because they can now afford more women . So sad.

@dadakeshinro6749

3 күн бұрын

You're absolutely 💯 correct 👏. Most especially very many Blackwomen will passby Lamb.

@lyricsoftheart

3 күн бұрын

@@dadakeshinro6749here we go with the black women this black woman that lol

You’re right! People will always put pressure on you but will never help you financially. People don’t care about your struggles but like to criticize.

@MsSmartiC

Жыл бұрын

Solid advice L&L

@Wheezy62120

Жыл бұрын

That part!!! I’ve been with my fiancé for 3 years, and everyone is asking …. When is the wedding? When are the babies coming? We’re like Jeez. Can we decide when, what, where, and how ??? Give him a chance to ask me FIRST!!!Plus, I don’t hear any of our family or friends sending us financial assistant. 🙆🏽‍♀️😜😏 Like marriage and babies are stressful enough, and they both require a monetary foundation. When WE are ready we’ll definitely let everyone know

@shielamajoriemusongeowori

Жыл бұрын

Thank you am here with 1 children these womb watchers keep asking for number to.. am like mind the business that pays u.. not a single 1 has ever offered any kind of help...it's not like I need it but the thought counts... nothing not even to check on the baby.

@_trust9994

Жыл бұрын

@@shielamajoriemusongeowori Other than for medical reasons, women who don't want kids are selfish, Lets just call a spade a spade (Ohh I dont want to lose my shape, eww I dont want to wake up 02am changing diapers or breastfeeding, Ohh I dont want to deal with stress, Ohh I'm a career driven women ... etc).

@ldenisedavis

Жыл бұрын

Amen to that!

It's good to discuss kids before marriage. My husband and I dated for 3 yrs before marriage we used to discuss how many kids we will have and we agreed for me to stay home and raise the kids until the last one will go to school full time. That's what happened ecxately! As soon as we married we wanted kids right away😂 bcs we were both prepared mentally. God bless me with a fantastic husband this year 29 yrs together. Our baby is 22 yrs old. Marriage is beautiful if you find the right one. Thank you for this topic to educate young ones out there.

@cattyreals572

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations 😊😊😊.. I pray nothing comes between you two❤❤

@3dand2dartschannel11

10 ай бұрын

May God bless your family

@chidiebere

10 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing ❤🎉

I have always loved this two but this convo literally made me love them more. People don’t talk about the pressure of needing to “have kids” when you are married. I would rather get to know and spend time with my husband to be honest. Then, if God let’s it happen, it happens and we are ready between us. The pressure is just not necessary. I STAND BEHIND THIS TOPIC CUZ THIS IS EXACTLY HOW ME AND MY FIANCÉ FEEL! Love you guys Ling &Lamb❤❤❤❤

My thought process was always, we will never be “fully ready”. Also fertility at an older age is no walk in the park. It doesn’t get easier it gets harder. Also I had older parents and I wanted to be younger when my kids hit their 20’s…in my fifties, young enough to enjoy my child as they become men and women and young enough to run around with my grandchildren in a way I didn’t get to!with my kids cause my kids had to be cared by someone else will I worked my 9 to 5 job. My prayer is that when you decide the time is right you still can have them😊

@lethaboitolo8936

13 күн бұрын

The truth is " only God knows better". If you decide to have kids early, you never rest because each child has their own challenges which subsequently come to you. You care for them till they are old enough. When you think you are done, then they have their own children, which is still a burden to you as a grand parent. The struggle continues and at some point when they get old, they leave you alone because they don't need you anymore. Depression, dementia kicks in. Its better to live your life the way it make sense to you than rely on other people. Go out, see the world. I salute Ling and Lamb, when the time is right, they will have children. Let's leave people and their choices alone. They are the once who understand their struggles.

@Kims-dj8tl

13 күн бұрын

@@lethaboitolo8936 exactly!

@BlessedLPT.

4 күн бұрын

Respectfully, your prayer will not get an amen 😊 we can see right through it.

My wife and I had same excuses when we were your age. Now we are in our 70s and it's our biggest regret. We always thought there'll be a better time but that time never came. She's now dying of cancer and her only wish is that of a child she never had. Goodluck to you both. Thanks for sharing your story.

@csslkft6517

Жыл бұрын

So very sorry to hear

@jewelranu

Жыл бұрын

😢

@ibielaamaso3054

Жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear this. Sending love

@LovelyQn

Жыл бұрын

😢

@comfortadatang2594

Жыл бұрын

😢I pray for God’s healing hands upon your wife.

Having children is an extremely serious decision. It changes your life forever and puts you in the position of providing for another’s safety and happiness. Take your time and do what makes you happy. Love you guys ❤

@Jooniebug

Жыл бұрын

It's one of the most difficult decisions to make. Women don't have time like men.

@TRACEYMACHIO_1

Жыл бұрын

@@Jooniebug I dont think it is. People just overthink things like wanting a perfect time, most times there isn’t that perfect time and when you think it’s perfect time you are old.

@Jooniebug

Жыл бұрын

@TRACEY MACHIO I agree with you. There's no perfect time but I think people need to think and ensure parenthood is what they want. Then again she should be careful as a woman as we don't have that much time cos Al pacino will be a dad at 83 and Robert de Niro is a dad at 79

@ogechicharis3926

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree with you

Huge respect for Lamb's perspective and choices. As a man coming from a relatable background I completely understand your choices and I pray that God will make it possible for you guys to set up and maintain a solid foundation to your liking, and in Gods time you will have all your hearts desires including all the children you want

Thank you guys SO MUCH for this conversation!!! As a teacher who has seen almost very form of dysfunction in families (which definitely affects the child's performance in school and in life) I truly wish ALL couples had this understanding and level of maturity before bringing little lives into this world God bless you both!! 🙏💯

I love that you two are enjoying each other's company and relationship building before children.

You both speak with great wisdom & maturity. ❤

@shepherdmudimu6447

Жыл бұрын

Lamb is very philosophical and intelligent when not fooling around, it's a side of his I didn't know

@Jayscomic

Жыл бұрын

Lamb is full of sheet. His wife is getting older and he is playing

@Theheavenly1

Жыл бұрын

​@@Jayscomic shut up..

@alicehaywood7763

10 ай бұрын

@@Jayscomic Do expand please...

This was the most honest discussion regarding when to bring a child into the world. ❤❤❤

Proud of you guys for directing your own course in life. It's important. You guys rock

Nothing is guaranteed. Happiness is far beyond what humans have defined it. To me, it's in Christ. Not kids, husband, jobs, parents, siblings,money. Nothing of the things I didn't bring to this world. I'm learning to live life with joy from within. Thank you for sharing ❤.

@preciousfires5088

Жыл бұрын

"Nothing of the things I didn't bring to this world", it's in Christ. Perfectly said. I love this

@accordingtothebiblewithl-nv1ku

10 ай бұрын

That's the Secret. Jesus is the key to happiness .

@oreolubukola998

10 ай бұрын

Love this in particular.🙌🙇

As much as i feel like it's none of anyone's business to meddle in your personal lives, this is a very much needed and necessary conversation to have. "Never make love to a girl you can not accept a child from" 👏🏾👏🏾 if only more fathers could teach that to their sons.

@maapat1431

Жыл бұрын

I agree with you 💯 👍 👌..it's not taught hence the many single mothers in our communities

@paulnwazor588

Жыл бұрын

Sage you're correct. That's also a huge part of it

@HayWhy_Pappy

11 ай бұрын

​@ArcanesageAh. Nice response. I see how she try to push it to the man without being accountable. Damn.

This conversation was sooooo needed, not about you both but in general. I wanted to comment right away but held back so I can get the whole video. I think you guys are so thoughtful of each other and your past experiences to consider what bringing a child into this world would mean. Not enough couples have these hard conversations. My mom had 6 kids and I love my siblings dearly but I watched my mom struggle immensely. And I wondered why any one would do that to themselves. Much love to you both for sharing ❤ and babies will come when the time is right. We will definitely be ready. 🤗

Lamb I love your spirit and Ling you’re a great inspiration to him. Love you guys videos May god continue to bless and guide your footsteps 🙏🏽 “COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS “

People will always try to rush you into marriage, then when you’re married it’s when are you having a baby, you have a baby then it’s when you giving the child a brother or sister. You can’t win. Have kids when you’re ready and if you choose not to have kids, that’s fine. Own YOUR truth and people just need to mind their own business. Thanks for sharing with us.❤

@julietkaunda9600

Жыл бұрын

You nailed it😂That's exactly what they say it never ends

@Passion84GodAlways

Жыл бұрын

AMEN!

@pamelawilliams6147

Жыл бұрын

Preach Renee, that's the truth and nothing but the truth. Ling and Lamb broke it down very nicely. I really love ❤ and admire this beautiful couple. 💑 May God continue to bless them. 🙌

@HayWhy_Pappy

11 ай бұрын

You can't win. Holy crap. Thank you.

You guys have brought up so many valid points. There are so many grandparents raising their grandchildren because their children could not handle what they were not ready for!

@iheomaeze5170

Жыл бұрын

God bless you for writing this. You're so right

@mazzzzzz40

Жыл бұрын

Correct !

@ericabelcher8760

Жыл бұрын

YES! And Aunties & Uncle's too! I've had my nephew since he was an infant & he's 12 now! Neither one of his parents are able to be involved in his life, so I had to step all the way up! Its been extremely difficult to say the least but I love him with everything I have! Im trying so hard to give him the very best!❤🙏

@Gracednsaved

Жыл бұрын

@@ericabelcher8760 hmmm, so true. They call it family bonding and helping out but seriously, bottom line is pushing your responsibilities on others. Can't imagine foisting my kids on others.....

@ericabelcher8760

Жыл бұрын

@Gracefully Saved True! It's been exhausting, honestly! But I'd rather have him than foster care! I'm not saying there aren't SOME good ppl in the system, but the statistics of the opposite are too high. But I definitely hear you, though! Smh

You guys are the most sensible for today's time. Thank you for sharing & vulnerability ❤❤

Each child has a different parent! So true 👍🏾. Love you guys ❤

Spot on Ling and Lamb 👏🏾👏🏾. You have made some extremely valid points here. One that resonates with me is the insensitivity of some people in their asking. Its like you owe it to them to procreate. My husband and I have been married for almost 9 yrs and God has not yet blessed us with children...yet people still ask "when are you going to have a child"... I give the same answer as Ling 😂😂..we are each other's baby...so funny Ling and Lamb 😂. Blessings to you both, you will have a baby when you are ready🙏🏾❤️

@FrankyDikey

Жыл бұрын

Like the scriptures say, "It's not good that the man should be a alone. I will make a mate suitable for him". Gen 2:18 This scripture from Genesis shows that the basic need of marriage is companionship. Children are the fruits.

You guys hit the nail on the head. You have to get your foundation together first. My husband and I waited 8+ years before we had our daughter. It was the GREATEST decision we could have ever made for our family. Once you have a child, EVERYTHING changes.

@tifanywilliams3654

Жыл бұрын

@@christopherl.2593 say it again for the people in the BACK!!!

@_trust9994

Жыл бұрын

@@tifanywilliams3654 Other than for medical reasons, women who don't want kids are selfish, Lets just call a spade a spade (Ohh I dont want to lose my shape, eww I dont want to wake up 02am changing diapers or breastfeeding, Ohh I dont want to deal with stress, Ohh I'm a career driven women ... etc).

@ilovesunflowersunny2098

Жыл бұрын

@@_trust9994 nothing wrong with being selfish. I can't believe you are trying to shame women by calling them selfish🤣 Always me first!😬 u sound dusty🤪

@tedradxnn7872

Жыл бұрын

​​@@_trust9994 am a 10000% ok with being selfish and more women should be OK with that too...there's no way in hell imma wake up at 2 am to change a shitty diaper or worry about my figure because of a baby and if that makes me or any woman that decides to not have kids a bad person then so be it😊

@solomonobihan9465

Жыл бұрын

If you grew up in Africa, where kids basically determine your standard of living in your old age, you would have very radically different view. But I understand where you are coming from, and the peculiarities of your environment. You would probably end up in a nursing home when you are old, with or without kids. So what's the point?

I admire you guys, your strength and your truth. I admire this straight up talk and I grabbed some wisdom from it. Thank you and you guys, take your time.

Y’all are amazing! You compliment each other so welll. So good to see men like you who still have values, principles and priorities right. God bless and keep you both.❤

You guys do what works for you. My husband and I waited 6 years before we had children. We really got to know each other well. So it's no ones business. Jesus is Real ❤️

Look at you both,it's all about love.Enjoy your marriage with or without children.❤

Great talk guys, a lot of people do not understand. This was real talk and I appreciate you guys opening up and sharing with us.

What a beautiful conversation.....I really needed to hear this.This is such a real conversation people need to talk about openly.Thank You!!

I have so much respect for this couple and their transparency

Ling and Lamb you are both good people and when the time is right you will be good parents. Do not allow anyone to pressure you into making that decision. Children are a blessing but also a huge responsibility and not for everyone. You really did not even have to explain your reasoning for not having children yet but doing so shows your appreciation for your followers and subscribers.

These couple are the best couple they just gave me a boost of confidence that what I want isn't stupid. I love you both alot and I pray the Lord keeps and strengthen you both. You two are amazing thanks for being real .

Yes! Love love love this message! THINK before you spread your seed. It’s a tremendous responsibility!!!

" I dont want to repeat the mistakes of my parents" . True. Alot of people have inhaled childhood trauma. Its a genuine concern for those who think deeply

@winienyaga4491

Жыл бұрын

Me too am 34 yrs financially stable but still afraid,my friends tell me you getting old,deep down I know what I went through in my childhood. So let them talk

@ziwagwatidzo9520

Жыл бұрын

@@winienyaga4491 it can be a difficult process as a female. You may like the idea of parenthood then life fears sink In

@phiaasupremacy

Жыл бұрын

Frr

@ZainarDavid

Жыл бұрын

That's me ...I don't want to repeat my parents'mistakes

@margaretmckenzie8426

2 күн бұрын

@@winienyaga4491therapy helps!

Ling and Lamb, thanks for this very important conversation. When i got married in 2016, me and my wife was determined to spend quality times together so that we can get to know each other and form the strongest bond of friendship, build our own business buy a property and then have at least 1 child. We had 2 beautiful sofa like yours. We finally had our only child in 2020 during Covid lockdown. We are so happy that we waited and build a strong relationship first and now we both have time for ourselves and our baby boy. Many people do not know about our goals, they criticize and pressure us but we just kept silent and live our lives on our own terms. My son travelled aboard an airplane when he was just 8months old but me his father boarded my first flight @ 23yrs of age. Guys do not repeat the mistakes of your parents. Love you guys. Keep these kind of conversations coming.♥♥♥♥♥

It's good for u guys to discuss this. It makes so much clear and mature sense, thank you.

I loved this so much!! And I agree 100% it’s my exact thought process when it comes to bringing children into the world! We must take that more serious than anything

Lamb , for an African man i respect your vulnerability and also how much of a visionary you have been in building yourself up and to see how honest you are about waiting to have children. You did not allow yourself to be moved by outside pressure or ego. You are a darling and you and you wife are a blessing and such a joy to watch.

@anneokpi3120

Жыл бұрын

You penned down my thoughts...for an African man to be this vulnerable is a rarity. He's a good man

@monicamay2450

Жыл бұрын

I agree

@mrymmusa8231

Жыл бұрын

Very true ….and what most African men don’t know is vulnerability commands more respect than just frowning face and bossing around…..just see how much the wife loves and respects him after been vulnerable

@edwinngong6217

Жыл бұрын

Unequivocal truth❤

@vivicaanuforo4754

Жыл бұрын

Omo he is truly rare and humble. I thank God for sending him Ling too cos it could have ended up differently if she were a wrong and toxic woman. He is blessed

Your reasons for waiting to start a family are so valid, and relevant. I did not have my son until I was 30 years old. I had been in my career for 10 years at that point. I was financially secure, and so was my husband. Even with all the financial security, health insurance, etc. We still struggled! We didn’t want our son with a babysitter or in daycare, therefore we had to change to opposite shifts to have someone home with him always. We literally handed him off to each other at work. Me a registered nurse working nights. My husband a physician’s assistant working during the day. It was not easy. My parents had 5 of us. We’re from 🇬🇾. My mom would literally have one of us and drop us off in Guyana with my grandparents, while they built a life for us in the US. When I was 10, they brought us from Guyana to permanently live in the US. We lived a good life as children. But, they worked hard to provide it. I can’t even imagine having so many kids in these times. Grandparents work. They have lives. Most don’t want to be babysitting grandchildren. Most can’t afford that luxury. Times are different now. Take your time. This is a lifetime commitment. My son is our only child. We didn’t want to do it again. People told us we were selfish for only having one child. But, we don’t care. Our son has the best of everything. We are content with having just one child. Do what makes sense to you. Disregard what people have to say.

@ericabelcher8760

Жыл бұрын

Omg!! My family is from Guyana as well. My grandparents had 10 total & literally did the same as you mentioned! In the sense of trying to get a better life in the US. My grandparents brought half over here & then had to send for the other 5, once they could afford it. They were staying with different relatives or ppl they knew from church groups. Man the stories I heard growing up from my mother, Uncle's & aunts, its just sooo difficult knowing all the pain & trauma they experienced! I definitely understand what you're talking about! I rarely see Guyanese ppl on here! Thank you for sharing love! Praying for the very best for you & your family!❤🙏🇬🇾

@theanswersisinsideu

Жыл бұрын

Mine did the same 8 children 🇬🇾

@annettewilliams4681

Жыл бұрын

I’m happy for you..I have 1 daughter n she’s amazing.. I work 2 jobs to put her thru college and she always spoils me

@ericabelcher8760

Жыл бұрын

@Annette Williams Thats really sweet love!❤️

@ankank2990

Жыл бұрын

Amazing, I’m also from 🇬🇾 Im in my early 30s, divorced… people always asked why I don’t have kids but financially it is a struggle & things weren’t going well in my marriage with a cheating partner. God willing I hope I can have at least one some day.

Thank you for sharing your experiences and stories. It’s a great blessings.

This conversation is deep, but so much needed in today's society. Thanks for the conversation.

I had so much pressure on me in my 30’s to have kids. It would make me feel so bad. People never know what you are going thru in your life. Now that I’m older and I do have kids in my later life. I asked and prayed to patience and the tools to be a parent. Open my mind to understandings. It has been challenging and rewarding. Thank you for sharing your story. Ling and Lamb you guys are amazing. Huggie Huggies

The subject of having kids is a conversation ALL couples should discuss as intelligently and honestly as these two have! I greatly appreciate this video and the knowledge they share. Thank you, Ling & Lam, and best wishes for your continued success.

@shalom744

Жыл бұрын

True. But it is scary to have that conversation.

Ling and Lamb thank you for this conversation. You made a lot of good key points. Don’t rush or be pressured until you are ready. Enjoy you life experiences and adventures.

Thank you for sharing . My husband and I I waited 2 yrs after marriage and that was not long enough . I loved those 2 yrs spending time together but once the 3 kids came over the next 6 years , it was so hard because he didn’t change diapers. He didn’t feed any babies, and I got left a lot at home . Before I could pack a bag and just run with him.. this would’ve been a good video for me to see when I was younger. They’re all grown up and doing fine.

I've learned a lot today from you guys, and you've opened my mind not only in having children but also to look deeper into myself how I want to prepare my life for my future kids. I know you guys will be a great parents one day. Thank you!!

Love this. It's good talk, we have people who go and have children and expect others to provide for them

Thanks for this video! I feel the same way with the financial part and family members or people rushing you to have kids. This is a crazy world we live in now times are way different

You're right, guys. Bringing a life into this crazy world is a decision that shouldn't be made lightly or based of other people's expectations. It's just like marriage itself. Don't get married because everyone of your generation is doing it at a certain age. You have to be ready to want to get married and/or have kids. Thank you for sharing your perspective on this very important subject. Much love to both of you

All I can say is Amen! So happy you guys talked about this.❤

I am glad you are not only KZreadr, but a teaching life coaching. Thank you guys love you 🇭🇹

The world would be a better place if more people would be this thoughtful about conceiving and becoming parents. This is a topic which should be more openly and honestly discussed within families. Kudos to both of you for the maturity! ❤

Very lovely discussion, please don't be moved about what people are saying or what they want... Be happy with yourselves, that's what matters. Love you guys ❤

I appreciate what you have said. This rings so true on so many levels. You two are awesome. Stick to your values and don’t let anyone talk you or rush you into having babies before you are ready. What you two have ( from what I have seen on this channel) is beautiful.

The beautiful thing for me is that y'all are on the same page. That alone is a blessing. I love the realness and the wisdom of your reasons, too. There's so much to raising a child! Mad respect for y'all!

@shalom744

Жыл бұрын

They are lucky.

We need more of this. It’s so educative. Thank you for bringing this up.

Very interesting conversation. This is what I needed 20 years ago. Blessings to you both.💙❤ I agree with all that has been said. 🙏🏽🙏🏽

With or without kids I will keep coming back to your channel! Honestly, I love kids, but I don’t want any. My bf and I have an 11 year age difference and his daughter is 19 so that has changed my mindset. I am 29 and I’m just like nope nope nope. Kids are absolutely beautiful but woo is it a sacrifice and commitment. You two are enjoying each other in your marriage and that’s important. If kids come, or not for you both you’re both extremely amazing people and I love how you both can sit down and openly talk about topics. Blessings to you both ❤

@misswallis4050

Жыл бұрын

Lovely couple

@tyara.collins

Жыл бұрын

@@misswallis4050 they could be mentors. I honestly believe this is how they are on and off camera. Their marriage is absolutely beautiful ❤

I love when adults take up important conversations like this☺️🤝. I really do appreciate this because I've always thought that having kids is something that should be carefully planned for and not something you just do, just because. Thank you Ling and Lamb. This somewhat healed my young soul✨😌🤍.

You guys are doing the right thing. Take ur time .That was a great conversation that u guys have.

Thank you so much for sharing this video and opening up about the topic. What you said needed to be said, thank you for standing up for what you believe in. Power couple goals!

I am so impressed with how wise and self assure this was. As a single person without kids I truly truly appreciate you sharing this and speaking so eloquently. While I would like kids I am also ok without them for many reasons and it’s difficult for some people to understand that. Thank you for sharing

@daniellehlebari9103

Жыл бұрын

You will think you don't need a child until you start looking for one. this is just nonsense excuse they are financially stable at this point, there is nothing more better than having children in your youth. Many years later they will come back here and say the worst decision we ever made was not having children.

Solid conversation full of wisdom.

@babiidehen3699

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely 👍 I hope young people are listening to you on this topic, God bless your marriage and home forevermore 🙏

This was a very candid conversation! 🎉❤ Glad I came across this.

Been following these guyz since 2020, they barely had 60k followers, glad to see em rocking millions now. Power of Consistency

OMG! These are the conversations that need to be had! Love you guys for this! These conversations would save a lot of heartbreak, divorce, and time wasted with a person who probably was so wrong / incompatible with you in the first place! We who have kids love our kids dearly but bringing a child into a messed up unstable situation is quite selfish! No one goes through life wanting to struggle everyday trying to make it or to make ends meet! I understand totally where you guys are coming from❤❤❤Thank you!

@bossladybee8323

Жыл бұрын

You need to put this in an ebook. Cuz u said exactly what I was going to say. In fact I have an aunty who tells people to get kids as soon as they get married. And when u do, she comes back and say- oh my dear, one child ain’t a child. You need to have 2-3 just in case something happens to that one child 😮. Which I think is crazy!! For her to say such things. She’s insensitive. No one should be rush to have kids.

@carolwhitevlogs

Жыл бұрын

❤❤

This video is much needed for our younger generation. I pray that it goes viral.🙏🏾 There is no doubt that God put you two together. Excellent message!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Oh my God, the reasons you guys gave for waiting are solid gold. I wish I had thought of this before I’d had kids. What a difference it would have made.

@adenikeosesina3426

Жыл бұрын

It might not work for you.Just thank God for your life.

@nnamaniruth4756

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!

This video is a Perfect Explanation, to Mind Your Own Business ... Do You ... All decisions aren't for everyone ... I've seen ppl, pressured ... "Rush To Have" ... most times, it Backfire ... Then run guilt, if you don't help ... Great Video ...

Whether or not you have children, or when or how many, is NOT of anybody's business. I consider that extremely rude to ask. Once a couple has one child, a week after childbirth people will pressure to 'start' a second child, because they say an only child will be lonely, then when you have three children, many will say stop etc etc. You can never please everybody, even they expect you to. You have a very balanced and wise view on this matter. Love you guys

@adeolawalsh7240

Жыл бұрын

This is so true. I remembered having my 2nd and the nurse asked me when would you have your 3rd😐

@DayoA1

Жыл бұрын

Yes, it is very rude! They are so polite for answering, I would not have!

Loved every bit of this conversation. I'm 33 got married a year and half ago no children and neither one of us plan on having any for awhile. Its so important to have a strong marriage before bringing children in it because you will be tested. My mom had 3 kids thats including me and she has been a single mother her whole life neither one of my siblings or myself share the same father. Im the oldest so for me having children is a very stressful conversation because of what I've seen my mom and friends go through with men. Im happy just enjoying my marriage for a long while .

@shericewright7762

Жыл бұрын

Yes so true

@rayanderson1941

Жыл бұрын

Yes. And as they said, you have to get to know your partner first, before bringing another life in this world that you have to spend so much time with, and less time with getting to know your partner

@tonyjeffers2606

Жыл бұрын

I Hope you have some eggs frozen #biological clock

@deannachristine845

Жыл бұрын

@@tonyjeffers2606 if it's in the plans God will work it out. I'm not stressing it because I'm like Ling I don't have a huge desire to have children.

@danieltob6362

Жыл бұрын

There is no difference between licking and leaking jare. Don't stress Nigerians o

Totally agree with you both and nobody should be pressured.

I am so proud and happy you are sharing your perspective. Society will have you doing things you are not positioned, ready and should not do! Don't bow to the pressure of society. They will have you messed up. Many of us don't know who we are. We are in an identity crises because we live life through social media. PLEASE, get a mentor, counselor, someone who lives what they say. It should line up. Someone who can help you navigate, learn and grown through your journey! Learn yourself first, do for yourself first, respect yourself first. Love yourself first! Love y'all

What a beautiful videos! I’m married with 3 kids but was still blessed and learned so much from you. Hurting ready for kids is very important

This thing of bringing kids into poverty is not cool. Be financially, emotionally and spiritually ready to take care of a kids life with the right partner all together. I feel you lamb and am just like you.

@collenwalton2409

Жыл бұрын

I agree with you, real talk

Omg, whatever works for you❤Children have also been known to destroy relationships. Both people have to be utterly mature, willing and ready. Don’t rush it guys.

I like this. Being very honest and independent on your decisions, and not letting pressure and opinions/advice from others affect your choices.

Such a much-needed conversation! Profound and True! Continue to live your lives to the fullest with or without children!

I really do love your openness and thought process. I wished I had heard all these before but I am thankful I did now. Thanks to all the beautiful comments❤

All your reasons are valid 💯💯💯💯Children deserves the best, the attention, the love,excellent parenting and healthy environment with no violence and abuse…Love you more for this 🤗🤗😍😍👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

I love that they are having this conversation. Just last week I had to explain to someone that I will not be having any kids because mother and father (and their relatives) were horrible individuals and parents. He is spot on....they have kids like going to the store and buying bread. I will never bring a child into this world

You guys are super inspirational! I've truly enjoyed your journey together 😊❤️. Keep doing what you're doing. I look forward to watching more content from you guys. ❤️

@LingandLamb

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the love and support of our channel. We’re glad you enjoyed this video in particular ❤ xo

As a parent of two I can totally understand this. I also grew up with a grandmother who was overburdened with too many kids (15 due to DV). Out of all of these, my mom was the only one who went to college. Everyone else worked in factories or as maids and had children really young. I knew I wanted to follow in my moms footsteps to continue to build up our family and then... I got pregnant at 18. I was devastated since I had a 4.3 GPA and was Ivy League bound. But with hard work and a ton of support we still accomplished our goals (attorney and therapist) but 1- it took much longer 2- we had to work 10x harder with less rest 3- our child didn’t experience financial stability until he was about 5. We had the basics but were always struggling It would have been easier if we were established first.

I absolutely loved this conversation. So much wisdom

The only that keeps relationships together long term is being friends with your partner. That is the key to this whole thing. You guys are on the same page and enjoy each other’s company. With that, you can build together well and ease the financial burden that comes with having a child. I have no doubts that when you guys are ready, you will be ready ready. Don’t let anyone pressure you into the process. Continue to celebrate each other and build a solid foundation and you’ll be just fine. Thanks for sharing!

I love this so much!! Girl I've had so many people ask me this question and I had to tell one person under of of my comments how insensitive it is to ask people that because like you said, what you HAVE been trying and can't or what if you were and lost it? People don't think about the possibilities. I still want to have one but on God's time. I've been through a lot (which you know!) And my biggest thing at this point in life is what both of you said, building together, enjoying being loved SAFELY and making sure that we are prepared properly. Thank you for sharing this part of your marriage. NOW PEOPLE CAN MIND THEIR BUSINESS! 🤣💕 Love y'all!

@LingandLamb

Жыл бұрын

😂 👏

Love this video. The fact that you're sharing this and having the conversation is going to truly help others. 🙏🏽💜

Thank You for being so genuine and informative. Not everyone in your age category takes time to reflect and reassess their life/Journey and ask themselves these difficult question, “are we ready for a child?” It also speaks in high volume that as a couple, in this relationship there is Commitment, Compassion, Empathy, Consideration and above all,, Love. You are both young, Beautiful and must say also Wise. I think the day the both of you decide to become parents you will well equipped and ready. Many Blessed to the both of you and keep up the awesome videos. 🙏🦋🥰

Really good talk. You guys brought up key points. This is a great conversation for young men and women. Many children suffer due to lack of the preparedness on part of the parents wether it's emotional or financial. Thanks for sharing.

With or without babies you guys are just simply the best

@optimalscore

Жыл бұрын

Better than all the rest! Sorry I couldn't help myself 😂

This is awesome. I've NEVER heard a man speak so consciously about their future. Honestly, not everyone wants to have kids, and that's OK. Don't feel pressured to have kids, especially if you feel it's not for you. Kids are a LOT whether you have a village or not

Love this conversation, because I have to agree that "spiritually, mentally, financially especially were key for me before even considering starting a family" I believe those are foundational, or at least be working on them, like you all. I wanted to be in a place that I can add value to my children, and it is God's will for my husband and I. My husband and I have been together 11yrs, married 7, and we just had our first child. People think that they get to decide, for couples, and it is not about them, but the couple and God's will. I bless you both, and when God is ready you will be fruitful and multiply. I absolutely love your Chanel keep being a blessing.

I respect you guys so much! Thanks for sharing!