Do you feel like you are judged harshly as an INFJ?

@edenalexandrite3671

3 жыл бұрын

Yes😭

@JohnDoe-np3zk

3 жыл бұрын

People really can't handle the truth, let alone take the time to figure out if you are telling them the truth. So, tough toenails to them. Hard cheese as they say. You won't be able to convince them. Also people are extremely jealous when they see someone with success because their success sucks because they suck as people.

@nikitasankhe2891

3 жыл бұрын

Yes... By family...by colleagues it is hard but only realised what said in your video few months before they don't understand and I no longer need to make them understand me. I just need to find the right people

@Dylan_ology

3 жыл бұрын

Yes.

@Resolute070

3 жыл бұрын

Stunning how relevant this video is to my own experience. As a highly-visible HR leader, my sensitive nature made me aware people either love or hate me, not much in between. Too often I felt I could and should do something to help the haters appreciate what a good person I am. Of course, we teach people how to treat us. How could they know who I really am if I didn’t know and appreciate myself? Your video makes it clear it was all about me trying to salve my own ego & insecurities. I’ve only now in my 50’s largely stopped caring about either adulation or disapproval. Very insightful video. 🙏

I've always felt like people are assholes to me because they know I won't harm them or shout in retaliation. But when people have pushed me too far they always regret it

@imdjc4

Жыл бұрын

Same here. Ironically, I was raised by one yeller and became one myself (which worked in the 70s) then decided to drop it in an effort of self-improvement and spent years learning anger management and its emotional triggers to remain focused, calm and effective in situations. Now....I too won't harm or shout back - mission accomplished - yay me. I just watch the old me and knowingly remain in control while watching them lose theirs. It's also a kind of win/win too because angry people won't unload on me because they can still sense that I still won't take their s**t either by my attitude or the ineffectiveness of it all, and yet I still remain calm. Now back to work on the remaining list of other disfunctions!

"spend time with people who see your worth, who appreciate you"...*looks around, there is nobody* ...*hermit mode, activated*...episode #45

@evadebruijn

3 жыл бұрын

Look in the mirror 💡

@serban2139

3 жыл бұрын

@@evadebruijn awww, who would've thought? thanks haha, yea well I guess that's why we need time alone

@evadebruijn

3 жыл бұрын

@@serban2139 Solitude = bliss! 🤗

@lightofall

3 жыл бұрын

Many years of emotional isolation is not bliss. I believe there is an emotional pandemic.

@evadebruijn

3 жыл бұрын

@@lightofall We're living in the emotional dark ages. ❤️💪🤸

My mom used to say “you could be the best peach pie maker, and there’s STILL gonna be someone that hates peaches” and my dad used to say “no matter where you are at, there will always someone who is just a bit better than you so you always have to keep working forward”. People will flat out hate you, or dislike you- and the hardest part is realizing that it is okay, and not a deficit from within ❤️ love you all my INFJ family!!!

@joey5816

Жыл бұрын

You are so blessed that your parents took the time to teach you things. I can count a couple times my dad taught me something.

When I finally met people who accepted me for who I am it was the strangest, most freeing experience! Yes, I do feel a bit of a pang when I think back to my childhood, but I know that it was my survival of that unpleasant, painful loneliness that makes me the strong person I am today.

@justinburdick6480

2 жыл бұрын

That's great to hear

@Groovytunes96

Жыл бұрын

I can't wait for that day.. it's been decades.

@patienceobongo

Жыл бұрын

I give it back.

As an INFJ, I think we are the Human beings who subconsciously are on the cusp of trying to tap into our ancient ancestral minds, opposed to the Humans who are imprinted into the box called society. Metaphorically speaking, sometimes I feel like one of the human beings in a Zombie movie trying to navigate through the hordes of zombies in a Society that has been aggregated to be the new norm so to speak.

@evadebruijn

3 жыл бұрын

The sad thing is I even feel like this in INFJ facebook groups. I feel like Cow from oldskool Cartoon Network Cow & Chicken: 'I want to HERD!'

@Kennedy4OurCountry

3 жыл бұрын

Not so far off the mark. Seems like there's a mass psychosis.

@johnnyblaze2257

3 жыл бұрын

@@evadebruijn I have no business trying to be Social, so I wouldn’t know, I don’t have Social Media, I have my theories about the algorithms manipulating your decisions.

@ashleyheitschmidt5250

3 жыл бұрын

My god. Yes.

@joshuachase9742

3 жыл бұрын

I had a coworker once who pointed to a poster for a movie titled, "Man Who Fights Alone", and said that was going to be me one day. My only response was "okay" followed by mutual confused expressions before I walked away, but later I realized he was suggesting I should change who I am to blend with the crowd. It blows my mind that going with the crowd matters more to him than personal convictions.

I like the saying other people's opinion of you are none of your business. It's often a lot of projection and deflection anyway.

@righteousree9837

3 жыл бұрын

Indeed...

@deborahwolff5651

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

I've really had to come to terms with the fact that the people I spent so long supporting don't have the capacity or willingness to do the same for me. Instead they hate seeing me grow and evolve in a different direction. They saw value in me but only used it to serve their own motives and needs, while not actually respecting me as an individual. I was basing my self-worth off of never feeling as if I belonged anywhere. Recently it hit me that, I'm never going to "belong" anywhere because I'm not meant to fit in. And I'm going to stop giving myself that pressure to fit inside some already defined box or desire others to love and approve of me, when they aren't even on the same journey as me.

My goodness, this is such an important video and this really hit home with me. Do I feel like I am judged harshly as an INFJ ? Yes. It has been difficult to deal with people that simply do not understand me. It's tough because I have to take the time to either apply verbal discipline in order to bring them to the understanding they must have, or the " INFJ door slam" comes into play. All that instead of them just behaving towards me properly. I do believe that people tend to be unnecessarily jealous of us INFJ's. Instead of being that guy, they hate that guy.

@fazzaustralia8932

3 жыл бұрын

So true Mate I experience exactly the same things as you including the rudeness and contempt from people who can't be civil. Interesting that you mention the jealously, I've even been assaulted in the past by people's jealousy!

@lucid2184

3 жыл бұрын

Behaving properly can be a big stretch for some people in some circumstances. Also we INFJs are cool! We have it together like nobody else!

@ashleyheitschmidt5250

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@hawkrose2698

Жыл бұрын

Yeah the jealousy is real. I hate it to be honest.

I love that if you remove the judgement of yourself then others judgement will not impact you as much. My happiness is MY responsibility no one else's.

I love the part about just accepting that in some people's opinion I will never be good enough. Just take pause to accept it as a step to getting on with my life. A therapist once told me that there are always going to be people who don't like me no matter what I do or don't do, and at the same time, there will always be people who like me no matter what I do or don't do. I've seen that play out. Great video

Girl I've been saying, that I love being the one that is the element of surprise. Let them know talk, them looking dumb is satisfaction to me

@amyj.4992

Жыл бұрын

I get to be whoever tf I want, by myself

@amyj.4992

Жыл бұрын

That shit is so satisfying and liberating

@amyj.4992

Жыл бұрын

I allow myself to disappoint people, without concern of being scolded lmfao 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Sometimes I find that the people who judge or dislike me are just envious. I can feel it by the way the look at me. It's written all over their demeanor.

I just stopped caring. I went numb. Lol Great video wenzes

This defined for me my current place in life. I'm in the practice phase of what was described in this video, where I've realized that I'll never be good enough for most of the people around me and none of them really care about my success in life, but I'm still working on not caring about what they think of me. This had led to me distancing myself from almost everyone in my life and each time I do that, I feel like I'm dropping off dead weight. However, I still fear hurting their feelings and how they must think I'm a terrible person for doing this. The biggest reason I'm not still seeking to "fix" the situation is that I'm just all out of energy. Part of this is because I have established a friendship with someone who has shown me how a person acts when they do care, which allowed me to see that what I was waiting for from others was never going to happen. This also pushed me into concluding that it is time for me to move on, and that any pain from that process falls into the category of growing pains. Frustrating and difficult to be sure, but necessary. Thank you for helping me to understand the process better and encouraging me that I am taking the best path.

After years of judgement and criticism, I went to live and work in Vancouvers downtown eastside. Sure I met a lot of weirdos but the respect and reverence I received here elevated me to a level of celebrity status as a quiet kind maintenance and renovation . This made me a hero to the destructive people whose damage I repair and a hero to building owners who also benefit. I am highly gifted with extreme practical ability and one hell of an amateur psychologist And a Mennonite preacher in a way

You’re single handedly saving so much of my life,, like so much I’m too grateful I can’t put it into words ❤ “Don’t dim your light”

I am constantly criticized by my family, but now I find it funny. People are all over the place with their judgement towards me and I can't take them seriously.

@manuellemarie-sainte9395

Жыл бұрын

😂

Leaving the world of judges and takers it’s fortunate to discover someone so kind and so wise. Thank you

I don't mind being judged by my action and words. That's character. We are all responsible for our actions and words and prudence is a virtue. I don't mind that. Prejudice however is inexcusable. And that's what I deal with the most. Assumptions based on looks.

I feel like I’ve been working in this for a few years now. As a child and teen I always knew I was diff rent and saw the world differently and more deeply than my peers but as I was confident in who I was so I didn’t feel like I needed to hide in order not to be judged. My problem has been with those close to me, I’ve struggled so much with my parents expectations and managing their disappointment or confusion over me. I’ve found myself adapting to friends to make them happy and comfortable at my own expense. It might sound bad to some people but being diagnosed with MADD (mixed anxiety and depression disorder) changed me for the better. I finally realised that my mental health, physical health and well-being is more important about other people’s dreams, expectations, pre-conceptions of me. I had to drop it all because if I didn’t I would break. Well I did break. But in letting out my worst emotions and saying out loud what I knew other people thought made me able to heal so any of my relationships and make 5em healthy. I’m sill working on it but feel I’m making good progress

today someone called me weird😒but i wasn't bothered because i know i am an infj.. it's in me..and i smiled😅

I spent the whole day yesterday justifying myself to my dad in my head. I've already gone no contact with my mother. But you see my brother was like me, probably INFJ, and he died ten years ago from a drug OD. It's left me on my own with them and I'm more harshly judged than ever! But the worst thing is my daughter has cut me off. She had a baby in Feb and I went to visit them.. They live 700km away because her father moved her interstate without telling me let alone asking me. He has alienated us most of her life because I left him when she was a toddler. But I didn't leave her, I did everything I could to see her. He's told her lies though. I go through so many emotional states it's crazy. I'm also in the process of moving.. Anyway thank you, this was interesting ❤

I'm starting to realize that as an infj I feel like an anti-hero

@amandamarie5178

Жыл бұрын

We are totally the anti-hero's of the world.

Yep, you’re so right, our biggest problem is that we want to constantly prove ourselves… that’s what makes us such people pleasers, this is what attracts abusers and narcissists to us…

I'm 64 and losing everyone as I become myself. I just feel so isolated how on earth can I find ANY connections. For now I only have my 24 year old son and we are very close. Otherwise I think I'd crumble.

Just putting it out there, you're amazing. I've been stuck in this cycle for a long time. I've never had someone explain it to me like this before. Sending you my best wishes ❤

I AM FREE BECAUSE I DO NOT CARE!

If you're looking for validation in the outside world you will most likely never find it or people will just tell you what you wanna hear. Or they will down play your dreams because of their insecurity, which in a way is understandable because they don't wanna lose you in their life. You have to do what's right for you, all the answers are inside you if you dare to look...You can do this and you won't find them anywhere else. Nothing changes if nothing changes...

@kategreene7258

3 жыл бұрын

Well said

I identified with this video! I'd struggled with these issues, too. But by the time I was in the late twenties, my relationships were mostly good. Then I moved 1600+ miles away (2575 kilometers) I saw a lot of the same conflicts with criticism and misunderstanding happening again. I knew that more needed to be done. This was in the late 70s - no computers and internet. But I committed myself to honest self-examination for self-sabotaging behavior, and read helpful books. My experience was probably similar to yours - my oft-repeated phrase "just-like-it-only-different." Also, learning about Myers Briggs in general and the cognitive functions in particular transformed my understanding. Like you, for the past several years I've had a lot fewer misunderstandings. I like the way you told us that we must approach it as adults instead as if we were still kids "back in the day." It was a journey - still is. 🙂 And it's worth it.

Unfortunately; I understand this all too well as far as being judged one way or the other for whatever excuses they had, has kept me on the road. So tired of being targeted in the workplace in which I had recently quit a job but not before doing all I can to avoid such a weighty decision. Worse kind of person to have in charge is a narcissist. Narcissistic stupervisor's weren't fond of my attitudes towards them. I just wasn't gonna allow anyone to talk down to me; regardless of their rank, and fall over myself whenever they happen to address me with snide remarks as most would tolerate to gain favors. Disgustingly spherical as to humor stupervisor's who got off on getting their egos stroked and worse yet are those doing the stroking. Whereas their primary jobs become secondary. Companies must make a huge profit not to notice huge loss of profit. This isn't to say that I haven't worked for great supervisors; who've had my utmost respect, but those kinds of supervisors who're responsibly unbiased; as to understand the job takes priority in order for quality to prevail, are far and few between. Someone once asked which was more of a statement "You don't like a authority, do you?" I don't like abuse of authority I've got along with coworkers for the most part as there would be those who'd misjudge me and see me as an opposition for simply doing my job to the best of my ability. Having nothing to do with however they chose to conduct themselves in the workplace. Apparently I had a bad habit of raising the bar and this simply won't do. After having found out these traits as I am in fact an INFJ having wished I had found this out when I was young would've helped me. Nevertheless I am here now and reflecting on the kinds of jobs I've held which weren't the kinds of jobs best suited for me. Although they served a purpose for the timed being. I look at those who judge me now as laughable whereas then as a young man I would've fell into a pool of tears and drown myself in extended periods of depression wondering what the hell is wrong with me and why am I soul damned weird. However these days I am fine with myself and for anyone to go out of their way to judge me best be prepared to be judged themselves. Sacred boundaries should be honorably respected and transgressions in an form won't be tolerated.

I feel like once people realize how different I am from them they start to get really passive aggressive or treat me like I'm not intelligent and drop hints of them judging me or watching and observing me and it's sad when I considered them a nice acquaintance or even potential friend and once I pick up on this I don't want anything to do with that person, it's sad that an individual thinks if I don't measure up to their ideals or standards that I'm the " bad person" when at that point all I want is to get away from that person, and I know don't deserve that judgement because if I did then they do too, though I know they would think opposite...and people can only be pushed and cornered so far before something happens.

Where to start? First off, you can show up as somebody totally different, totally yourself, but people around you very likely won't be able to see it. They have an image of you and no matter how you show up, they continue to see you through that lens. I had a mind-blowing trip to Hong Kong in 2010. It shook me to my core and totally transformed me in the 10 days I was there. I knew I wasn't the same person I was when I arrived, People there, because they had no particular image of me, took me at face value, and they welcomed what they saw in me, they appreciated me in a way I had never been appreciated. When I got back home, I expected to be have this new, more authentic me to be seen and embraced. Guess what, no one treated me any differently than before. I felt boxed in and got extremely depressed. At work, they actually told me no one care about my trip and my experiences there, so just shut up. I talked to my husband about how changed I was, but he just didn't get it and didn't treat me any differently. The experiences I had in Hong Kong were so profound, I dreamed I was back in the city every night for 40 days after returning home. I lived two totally divorced lives, the life back home, where no one cared, and the life in my dreams, where I kept exploring the city and meeting new people. It was insane. Eventually, I just gave up hoping that people in my daily life would recognize the transformed, totally alive me. The people I had met in Hong Kong kept that image of me alive until I returned for another visit 3 years later. The biggest issue in my life has been finding people I can physically be with who see me (and more importantly, celebrate me) for how I truly manifest: the enthusiasm for "weird" interests, the desire to always explore, to always learn more, to master new things, to keep questioning and delving deep. I will be 65 in 8 weeks. I have spent my entire life just being myself, throwing myself into my passions, and for the past 20 years I have one friend and a husband who truly "gets" me. My real community is online. It is international, spread over many continents, time zones, and languages. It isn't only one special interest community, but several that don't overlap. But how nice it would be to share face-to-face with someone about any of my interests. That is one of the great regrets of my life, not being able to share myself more fully with the world, to engage with other people passionately and enthusiastically and be accepted. I feel time is running out. I honestly don't know how many years I have left on this journey. My jobs (certainly not a career) have never been satisfying or a good fit. My academic degree didn't lead to the career I had hoped for due to the sabotage of an extremely influential and powerful person, I did so many things that I loved in my life, but none of them ever made any money. So I lived a bifurcated life, the little me who did what needed to be done to hold down a job and keep a roof over my head, and the big me who researched, wrote, danced, traveled, and lived large in worlds far away from my physical reality. I gave it my all for so many years that now I'm just tired. So much of my life has been totally self-generated since childhood. I am looking at finally retiring from full-time work at 70. Then I have no idea what I'll do with my time. I have begun exploring some possible volunteer opportunities focused on what I got my academic degree in decades ago, but at least one possibility appears closed to me, which is disappointing (you have to be an undergraduate in the discipline I received my Ph.D. in to even qualify for the volunteer program). So, currently, I feel a bit lost, depressed, and so tired trying to imagine my life in retirement. Frankly, If I had the money I would retire now and pursue my dreams. But the mortgage won't be paid off until I'm 72 (and requires two fully employed adults to pay it), we need a new roof on the house, siding, painting, etc. I have over 20 years in my current job and I have good benefits and several weeks a year of vacation. So while the job is not satisfying (to say the least), I need it to meet these financial obligations before I can retire.

It's really lonely. :/ but I'm learning to channel my thoughts and feelings, observations, etc into artistic expression. It's like...I don't have a choice. I'll get depressed because I have this manner of connection that is almost too fast-tracked for many and when I let that slip out, people withdraw or assume malintent. I'm always leashing my expression. I want to go to the root of who people are and skip all the fakery and facade however...that's not thoughtful of their needs or where they are. Then, I worry about how I come across to the point of locking up and, in effect, imprisoning my heart. I am terrified of hurting others unintentionally and then being abandoned. But, journaling helps me process whatever judgments I concocted in my head or those that I confirmed. It helps me turn back around to self-compassion and compassion for others, no matter what.

You have transformed my life!

Very relatable. The problem is people just don’t like hearing the truth. The politically correctness and fakery conforms to all the little sheep’s expectations.

I deal with the judgement a LOT. And I think what I find difficult to 'accept' is this feeling of people looking down on me, or finding me directly repulsive. I think most people would be hurt by that, to be fair. The problem is, even when I fight it from within, and I know they don't know the full picture. I always believe their version more than my own. And very often, it seems to be so-called 'empaths', who perceive themselves as someone who sees things deeply - but in reality, they are kind of superficial. And they don't see things from other perspectives, and can't accept people who are different from what these 'empaths' think they should be. It seems so arrogant, and I find it very difficult not to call them out sometimes, or bitch-slap them to try and wake them up. The problem is, if I open my mouth, it *will* destroy them. Literally. And though I can be really pissed off, it has to go pretty far before I do that. I often try to just keep doing my thing, and give them the cold shoulder, because I don't want to be someone else's idea of me. Unfortunately, this means they continue to abuse until they push me over the edge, and I lash out. I particularly seem to experience this with ENFJ's actually; it is as if I have some kind of superpower to pull them to the dark side.

This is huge for me...im there. I really really appreciate this. I always end up wondering 'what's wrong with me?'

Here- crab mentality is all over, but there are a fee good ones still who exist. But i do want to surround myself with good positive people who i can grow with and learn from. I have constantly tired to keep improving myself despite all my hardships. In the past i had to play dumb and dim my light so i wouldnt offend them because there were people even in my family who would belittle me and compare me to others too- and other not so good stuff wer done to me when i was molested too by family members at age 4. When i dedcided to standup and shine my light they didnt like it- they constantly beat me down and destroyed me with their envy, and with things those bad people did and acted as if i caused everything. But thank you for your advice. You always have great advices ❤️ God bless you always and more power to your channel ⭐️💫

Such empowering words! Thank you!

Expect us... 😉This was like a satsang with Sun Tzu himself.

I resonate a lot with this video. I used to have self doubt, either caused by myself or how people view me. However, recently there is the INFJ power coming in that you mention in the video - and now that I don't matter much on what people think about me. I just want to be me and being comfortable.

There is one thing I,m very happy to know by knowing the MBTI. I love to say that the things you choose, not just material things, all your way of life, are the things that choose you. Yes for most people this will sound awful - why can you say that I'm not choosing my life, that I don't have full controll of my life, but not for me. I don't believe in accident's. Everyone is given meaning to the world, everyone has a role. No one can be like the INFJ or what other MBTI type you guess, no one can be like everyone else if it can be correct, so everyone's uniqueness is a gift and strenght. You just have to believe that your place in the world and society is for you and no one else and that's for reason. This maybe sound's aloof but it's pretty straight on to the topic. It's stressfull and depressive when you want someone to react in one way, but that person reacts opposite, with that Fe and the fact that INFJs put so much passion in the things they really want, but take it a a sourse of power. No one actually knows what is inside your head, pretend like nothing has happened and take a conversation or a coffe with someone close to you and forget about tha drama. Someone don't want to be on my side... I have waste enough time to let my self down again in such a chain of thought, I don't care anymore, I am who I am just like the others and I'm standing for it. As you make me more and more standing for my self I grow stronger and stronger, not you.

I do deserve better.

I'm very tired of constant judgement and rejection. Often I do not understand what's wrong, why some people are feeling that about me when I don't mean anything negative. And I see a particular pattern happening all over again from time to time. I'm trying to fix it but not always successfully. This makes me upset and depressed, willing to hide from everyone in a shell because I'm sick the pain the people's reactions give me. I wonder why I was born like this and what is the meaning of being such a person if you are always a one odd out.

TY. This is exactly what was on my mind but couldnt voice clearly in myself

Oh! So the oversharing then undersharing is related to concern for others judging? Been doing this alot. Trying to change it.. i can tell i am getting there though😎

this made me cry. darn it. its the truth

Needed this ty 💜

Yes. Go for better! All of you. Me included. Let's make this happen.

One of your best vids yet

You speak straight to my heart!! 😁🙏🏻

INFJ'S have their friends that understand them and when they see the INFJ 's love ,kindness and empathy they get positive feedback and they get the love back . I know INFJ'S they are happy because they have the right kind of people in their life and they are accomplished in their life these INFJ'S that I know are positive and healthy individuals .

Wenzies, this so helpful to me right now. It's profound, how much you understand this INFJ situation. I guess this shows how much you have insight about this, how INFJ of you. God bless you, keep going, you are doing a great job. ❤❤

Watching your videos is very inspiring! And I actually have a hard time following you and keep my attention because the minute you say something that resonates with me I start to think about it: how it affects me, how that is related to me situation, how can I start improving, even some old ideas start to make sense. And then I lose you! Lol! But I think that’s good! You’re giving so much value to the INFJ community! Thank you!

So true. Thank you

Dope video....

Thank you amazing.. always on point

Thank you Wenzes! Needed to hear this now!

I am surprised at how much you are able to help me and how much you seem to understand.

It was important to hear. Thank you.

Thank you for this. I needed this 👌🏽✨🙏🏽♥️

Dang, this one really resonates🔥

Thank you, Wenzes. This was really helpful for me on a very personal level.

I love the thumbnail for this video :)

Ahhh, I never thought of it like that!

Your amazing!.... So grateful.

Wenzes you are the best! I love all your videos.. Thank you so much for helping me understand some things about myself.sending my prayers of love and light. KEEP IT UP!!!

You have been a saving grace in my life. I sincerely thank you for all you do, for who you are and whatever you’ve endured that built you… we are blessed for it. You’ve given me more peace than I could ever really express. Thank you 🙏🏽 you are so precious and loved

First time ever I recognize myself in some description and situation. Wenzes - I am following you now. It is a world opening to me. Thank you.

Great video Wenz. Birds of a feather flock ogether i guest. Good Job. Peace.

You are simply superb.

Hey, thanks. I probably could've done to have discovered this a few years sooner than I have but either way it is helpful for me and balancing out some bits I didn't realize.

Yep! I totally agree @Wenzes! I'm currently in that space. I'm not really phased by much these days. However, people have done the opposite and have left my life.

great vid Wenzes, thanks for all your advice, very helpful

Its amazing how all your content feels so personal to me. You have a great way of explaining things. Something i myself not good at when it comes to my own life. I can easily analyse and explain other's life. You have an amazing gift! ❤ I think you're one of the most healthiest INFJs lol and overall a healthy person

You’re brilliant and strong and beautiful. Thank you for sharing yourself

10.39 ff., Thank you, Wenzes👌

Thanks for the video and also you should make a video on topic' what happens if infjs get appreciated ' as you know when infjs get appreciated then they become angel to that person and whole bad things started

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

I really like that 👍

So true.

Sometimes as I watch your videos especially this one men are from Mars women are from Venus FE all of the jargon sounds like two different languages but I understand everything you’re saying there’s the onepercent that’s how I know what my affliction is lol it is a learning process in the learning curve is all over the place especially when you throw in real life complications foster homes one of many lol but this ain’t about me I just wanted to say thank you you help me make sense out of nonsense even though I can barely read next to zero college but I can follow what it is you’re saying or should I say as the rock likes to say I can smell what you’re cooking have a great day thank you for what you do for just being you much love and respect for me and my girls👊🐶😎🐶👊

@Johnnyo1300

3 жыл бұрын

I just noticed your video is 11 minutes and 22 seconds long I have that tattoo on the back of my neck 1122 you just can’t make it up coincidence for most

@evadebruijn

3 жыл бұрын

@@Johnnyo1300 Synchronicity ❣️👍

I so needed to see this. The way you put it, makes so much sense :)

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i watched it

I've been called crazy for having big dreams look where this person is at right now exactly a coward

Cool house

Hi guys, Since many of who have watched this are INFJs I have a Q .... If we just wrote down the things that’s happening in our mind and what we think about, what do you think the result is gonna be ?!

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Fellow INFJ here, I am so stuck and I can't bring myself to find my soul tribe. How do I find the courage to try again after so many rejections ?

@David98004

2 жыл бұрын

Baby girl if you ever feel alone or stuck I want you to first of all remember that you're not alone and you have a bunch of friends you just haven't met yet. We're considered the rarest personality so it's hard to find others like us to connect with. Here's my humble advice for you babygirl, do me a favor Alright I need to carefully observe the moment you start to judge yourself. I need you to observe for real like really pay attention alright.....now after about 5-10 seconds you're FE will kick in which in turn will make you feel either physically sick, anxious, stressed, depressed and defeated. Us INFJs by nature are very highly sensitive people. As a highly sensitive person negative judgement will most definitely effect/hurt us more than the average person but the judgement isn't the problem because here baby girl the problem is the guilt or the shame that comes after the judgement. Don't let that shame or guilt dictate how you're day is going to feel let you're beautiful soul be governed by feeling of joy and gratefulness because always remember that as an InFJ you're feelings trait comes before you're judgement trait. Peace and blessings to you loved one...Happy Thanksgiving 🧡

If it wasn't for you, I would go crazy

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Judged by whom ?😊 0:23

The world system is mostly run by the 2 material or sensing temperaments. They are the phlegmatic and choleric. The opposite to this is indeed INFJ or the melancholy and sanguine The material Jewish Pharisees were predominantly the very opposite of the Christ, a melancholy sanguine dominant temperament or INFJ according to Meyers Briggs. I challenge you, show me 12 carpenters and I'll show you an overwhelming majority of predominantly melancholy and sanguine or INFJ. Christ in human form was also a carpenter. My Kingdom is not of this world. The material world belongs to Christ's opposite temperament who basically dominate this material world. We all have all 4 of these nature's and depending where our focus is, we can be spiritual or material, most always a bit of both. INFJ more spiritual on average but sold out to Satan can be vile and perverted too The prodigal son and his brother who remained at home were an example of the difference between Christ and the unforgiving Pharisees

I have read that Fi is better than Fe. Is it possible for an INFJ to become more Fi oriented?

@nicholasjh1

3 жыл бұрын

It's considered a shadow function but I have been able to bring some of it out with a lot of deep emotional therapy... However it will probably never change my core of considering what others think feel though it does modulate things.

@Anu-us4rh

3 жыл бұрын

@@nicholasjh1 Thanks for the reply. Could you explain a little about the emotional therapy? Did you do it yourself or did someone help you with it?

@nicholasjh1

3 жыл бұрын

Mostly with therapists though I have done a few practices that help bring it into my life.... Accountability structures. But for the therapy Hikomi, experiential intuitive psychodrama. Man kind project for self emotional work.

Any personality "type" arrived at via the Myers-Briggs test is completely meaningless. The test was developed in the 1940s based on the totally untested theories of Carl Jung and is now thoroughly disregarded by the psychology community. Even Jung warned that his personality "types" were just rough tendencies he'd observed, rather than strict classifications. Several analyses have shown the test is totally ineffective at predicting people's success in various jobs, and that about half of the people who take it twice get different results each time. Jung's principles were adapted into a test by Katherine Briggs and her daughter Isabel Briggs Myers, a pair of Americans who had no formal training in psychology. To learn the techniques of test-making and statistical analysis, Briggs worked with Edward Hay, an HR manager for a Philadelphia bank. This isn't a test designed to accurately categorize people, but rather a test designed to make them feel happy after taking it. This is just one of the reasons it's persisted for so many years in the corporate world after being disregarded long ago by psychologists.