Keep your distance no matter what. Never get too attached even when married. Save your emotions for your children.

@uzougwu1511

Жыл бұрын

THIS📌📌📌

@Taurus274

Жыл бұрын

Ayy..gusto ko 'to😊🥰

@cobress5325

Жыл бұрын

Perfectly put! Especially saving your emotions for your children

@mamabear3610

Жыл бұрын

Hmmm. Thank you

@elarisa10

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! ❤️

1.) You have to establish an emotional bond first 2.) Be organically busy 3.) Avoid being too tactical 4.) You can't just disappear

@mamabear3610

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@LilFairy

Жыл бұрын

Right u can’t just start off being distant 😂

@nniferkelsea

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like madness 😂

@sisijames

11 ай бұрын

@@nniferkelseayour comment deserves more likes!!

You have to give space...for them to have the distance.... to always keep chasing you. This is why still dating eachother during marriage is essential. Masculine men love to pursue and romance their woman. It makes them feel more masculine otherwise they often end up feeling that sense of winning via video games which we see a lot now in men. That is the masculine role in a romantic relationship to win your heart so let them sweep you off your feet by giving them the space to. Both gender roles should be appreciated for what they do and bring into the romantic relationship. He proudly gives/gifts and she appreciatively receives.

@elenamaldonado3893

Жыл бұрын

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From my personal experience.... I see that having balance is the golden key .....never over do anything ....too much space can create abandonment insecurities and too much smothering can come off as too controlling.... simply live life and fulfill your God given purpose....and what’s destined to be will just be....it all eventually works out ....leave the stress at the door and keep your joy no matter what ....that alone is powerful and attractive

@sadiekadey8587

Жыл бұрын

The real key is moderation. Everything in life boils down to moderation. You can love too much or too little.

@Warrior4Life3

Жыл бұрын

@@sadiekadey8587 yes indeed my point exactly…. my current relationship is awesome because of that balance

@rositareyes8583

Жыл бұрын

Agree 💯

@suzannecermy3700

3 ай бұрын

Great advice! I'm a senior,pretty good looking,and thinking about dating again

Sigh I just wish we don’t play games, videos for men are saying the same thing so imagine if both parties are giving space etc to each other. Why can’t we all be genuine?! 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Katiepurdy87

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@lisaariottiart

Жыл бұрын

nightmare / 0

@manishabhandari9464

Жыл бұрын

Men dont understand this genuine feelings. They want to play games.

@sheri_elizabeth222

11 ай бұрын

In a perfect world...💜

@TaraChurchGTB

7 ай бұрын

We can! You meet your counterpart. There are always roles in relationships..no matter the gender. I think people who are balanced, secure, self aware and emotionally healthy can build and navigate into an authentic, honest, communicative relationship. These basics are ok but to me that is exhausting!!!!!! If it’s that much work it is inflicting on the needs of MY, as a woman’s, emotional integrity and needs and personally one of my needs is to not question the intentions, especially if a long term partner. In the beginning perhaps there will be games but when it goes over certain amount of time and this shit is still going on…..peace out!!!!

Never lose yourself in any relationship. Great video.🖤

Distance does make the heart grow fonder

@SLove-sx9wz

10 ай бұрын

For men

Healthy self-esteem and appreciating your own value, as an individual, is the key! Very good advice!

I totally agree, I’ve been hurt by a woman I love so very much.. I wish to see a future with her but she’s needs to heal from whatever she has going on in her life right now, she doesn’t give me the time I need so I let her go.. if she comes back clean I know she’s for me.. if she doesn’t I’d still find someone to build a long term relationship with and share my home with

@cheekymonkeygirl3378

Жыл бұрын

Go out with your own race.

@bazzyfrancis

Жыл бұрын

@@cheekymonkeygirl3378 yup

Make a video about how to keep the spark after getting the high value man especially after the honeymoon stage is over

Simple, straight to the point, full of wisdom and pleasant voice to be able to get through entire video. Thank you

I have always really enjoyed your channel, thank you So much for your guidance in these Whacky times. I appreciate you, thank you for sharing your wisdom

I absolutely love your channel! I'm also intrigued by everyone's comments!

All these points are right on‼️

Women too will chase you when you give them distance. Learn to accommodate, it's important for coexistence. Plus it's not a race of who's more narcissistic than the other!

@basicinfo2022

Жыл бұрын

Of course it has to be mutual but you want the masculine role to make the most effort and lead the romance department. Polarity in roles and energy is what creates a healthy, balanced romantic relationship.

@sunmoonstars0369

Жыл бұрын

@@basicinfo2022 nah, only desperate women chase or do 50/50 to try and keep him. If a man really adores you he is persuing you, period.

@raymi9436

Жыл бұрын

@@sunmoonstars0369 exactly

@IntuitiveHealingLife

Жыл бұрын

It’s that, if woman is the chaser, it makes a man relax and become lazy, that’s not good for a man who drives with the testosterone that are produced with activity, providing, chasing…how women can give is show their appreciation when they receive the attention but men are build to do the chase. If a woman gives too much by doing things for the man, she becomes resentful when the man is not putting too much effort when he relaxes too much.

@basicinfo2022

Жыл бұрын

@@IntuitiveHealingLife yes, it's about hormones too, we are biologically different. Men's testosterone increases when they are dominantly masculine. Pursuing you makes them feel like they are winning and earning which increases testosterone. Let them do the pursuing and giving mostly. Dont compete with your man.

Thank you so much very informative

This is golden

Distance and space can also show and reflect vulnerability ✨

@universalsubliminals1174

Жыл бұрын

wait, i don’t understand how. could you explain how it shows vulnerability?

@Theblackswan55

Жыл бұрын

I am also curious to know how it reflects vulnerability

@emmanolan1250

Жыл бұрын

I disagree clingyness shows vulnerability, distance shows strength

@roserovira3104

Жыл бұрын

@@universalsubliminals1174 I think he/she may mean it shows vulnerability because it’s a natural defense mechanism for some people to get distant when they realize they are very much emotionally invested/connected. Some people will withdraw when they sense they are falling too hard, too fast or out of fear that the feelings are not mutual.

@universalsubliminals1174

Жыл бұрын

@@roserovira3104 that makes sense, thanks for explaining. when i first read it, i thought the opposite because i was thinking about it from the lens that distance doesn't allow you to really show any emotion if that makes sense. but i get it now

Love it all❤️✊🏻👑🙏

Brilliant

Thank you!

My Significant other doesn’t apologize and shift the blame on me. I have no issues apologizing when I’m wrong. The buck stops now. I told him how I felt and he still refused to say sorry and tried to brush the issue under the rug. Until he apologized and own up and change. I’m not communicating with him. I don’t respect a man that shift the blame on me. I feel at PEACE and I know my worth. I deserve the best. I’m fine with being single again. 😉

@annacabrera007

Жыл бұрын

relatable and i agree

@NycBeauty

Жыл бұрын

@@annacabrera007 😊

because they are fem boys and not men

I don't know how this is possible, but I fell in love with someone I knew 20 years ago. I don't know how to find him and my heart is aching for him. I miss him so much that I'm crying. How do I find him?

Me n my husband did the same did really call or text a lot so that we could talk during dinner about his day, and I found out he had being doing this with someone else for months 🤦🏾‍♀️

@uzougwu1511

Жыл бұрын

Yea so the space thing sometimes doesn't work because things like cheating comes in unless he is a man of self control

@stephanien2636

Жыл бұрын

True

He will go silence on me , n when I ignore him he will beg n blame me .as if I started it.this make me mad.

No once I block them I’m not going back you not getting another chance with me no-more I either see me as a good women or Theirs no-more. I been hurt and me being empath im always attracting these type of guys

Great information.

I agree what you said but my response to it is, why can't we be genuine and come to each other life with clarity that i want you . Why we are running and chasing or playing such tricks to someone understand our value ? SEE, i lose interest if someone takes too long to respond or disappear and then come. Being on- off relation is sooo disturbing. Imagine someone who is not answering your msg but posting stuff on social media and then answer after days as if nothing happened. Isnt it call ghosting ?

Can someone help me? I’ve been dating this guy for 3 months. But he refuses to tell me his address or invite me to his place. He knows where I live and has seen my apartment. After a month of dating him I broke up with him because I suspected he had a wife/girlfriend. I have No evidence. Just the fact that he keeps his place a secret. After our breakup he kept texting and calling me to come back to him. I eventually did. Hoping things would change. But we had another argument about it and I broke up with him for the 2nd time 😬 This time I ghosted him for a whole month. But again, I missed him so much that I started answering his phone calls and we got back together. I told him it hurts me that he won’t invite me to his place and I’m suspecting he has a wife/girlfriend. He told me he is not hiding a woman or man or pet. He lives alone. He said “my place represents me OPENING UP and sharing my life. But you keep leaving me and I don’t trust you. It’s up to you to show me that you are serious” I’m like dude 🤦🏻‍♀️ I keep leaving because of your sketchy behavior. Am I the crazy one? I’m open to constructive criticism.

@moblicious_25

Жыл бұрын

I have a question - how were your past relationships like? Did they do anything to cause you not to trust them? This guy seems like he has trust issues as well and possibly abandonment issues. He's voicing he needs time to open up to you. Can you respect his boundary? Be vulnerable and tell him what your needs are and see if he's willing to meet you there.

@addyzee1335

Жыл бұрын

@@moblicious_25 Wow Maria. I’m impressed with your assessment. And thank you so much for taking the time to reply. 🙏 Yes his ex cheated on him and he was abandoned by his parents when he was a toddler. He was raised by relatives. Once he became an adult he reconnected with his parents and now they are super close. I myself have had both good and bad relationships. I’ve learned from them and moved on because I know not all men are the same. I’m open to falling in love and get married. He knows this and he has expressed that he loves me and wants to start a family with me. I’m like “you love me but you can’t tell me your address? Or where you work? 🤨” He said “I don’t want you to show up unannounced” I’m trying to be respectful of his boundaries but I also don’t want to be dumb and naive and let men play me.

@moblicious_25

Жыл бұрын

@@addyzee1335 It sounds like you both want the same thing. But what's recreating distance is past trauma. Neither of you can expect each other to heal those wounds. My advice for you is to dive deep and find where those trust issues began. How will giving his work address or home address soothe your trust issues? You're looking for external validation. Only you can heal that part of you. Relationships triggers childhood wounds and if we don't heal that part, we can subconsciously sabatoge it. Validate yourself and give yourself the love you need first before expecting it from him.

@addyzee1335

Жыл бұрын

@@moblicious_25 Hmm…I didn’t think about that 🤔You’re right that I am seeking external validation. It’s hard to discern wether it’s about my insecurities causing mistrust, or if it’s my intuition trying to warn me about this guy. I guess if he proved to me that he doesn’t have a woman living in his house then it will make me trust him and I will relax and be more compassionate. I’m used to men wanting to show me their place, and I’m also open about where I live. I thought that was a normal thing to do as boyfriend & girlfriend. To me, telling my man where I live and work is like telling him my name and age. It’s just stats. Not a big deal. He is the first guy not wanting to give me this information so now I’m becoming suspicious. You’re right Maria, that I am feeling insecure about this whole situation and only I can heal my past wounds. If I don’t, I’ll sabotage my relationship. 😓 Thank you so much for your advice. I appreciate it 💕😘

@moblicious_25

Жыл бұрын

@@addyzee1335 Intuition makes you feel calm and the message is clear. Insecurities/fear creates confusion and stories in your mind. That's my opinion on it. I hope everything works out for you. Take care.💕

If a woman gets distant I just take it as she isn’t interested in me. I don’t pursue once it gets to that point

@Msloverawfood

Жыл бұрын

It is natural for the male to protect and chance and the female to receive and give, just look at our anatomies. I would only want a man who knows his masculinity and allows me to be in my femininity. Of course, these days a lot is backackwards.

@munix9351

Жыл бұрын

You never wanted her in thr first place

@HenrySimmons1225

2 ай бұрын

@@munix9351 No? It means he wants someone who doesn't play these games, distance is a sign she doesn't like you, real men don't stick around for women to "give them distance".

Heeyyy💜

Ohhhhhh! I would like to talk more with my man, because we don't live together and we don't see each other every day. Well, I take your advice into consideration.

Unfortunately boys/men requires or needs a Hug / Recognition / Kiss / Support from Girl / Woman. But a Girl / Woman never needs the same from Boys / Men. That is why such problems occurs. If Opposite Sex attraction could have been voluntary and not natural then so many issues wouldn't have been made. But attraction of Opposite Sex becomes heavy on Boys/Men's mind naturally leading to all these issues. Is there any permanent solution on this so that we Males can ignore the girls / women easily/ naturally and focus on our life and health????? Please guide 🙏😔.

THANK YOU!!!!👍💖🥰

Thank you for that advice...that i really dont know what to do or react..because now i do have a new man...that we seeing for 4 times...that i really in love with him already but the guy is not yet ready for the love thing...hope you understand what im trying to say...im not that good in english...but im trying...and that guy is an american...and im a Filipina...so its really hard for me to understand really his words because he have an accent or his really fluent in english...and really need this advice...because i really dont know how to react towards him...really thank you i found this kind of advice...

@iammerika6921

Жыл бұрын

If he said he is not ready for love, believe him and focus on yourself instead.

They don't 😁😁😁😁

Mine doesn't😅

❤

Is this applicable to men with mental DISORDER (adhd, bipolar, etc.)? I hope someone will able to answer this accurately. Tysm.

As a capricorn woman this has always been in my nature. Sometimes I don't like it and can't explain it to the men that actually care for me. I know within myself im just unpacking my feelings but they dont....why? Because im a private person and I don't feel the need or comfortable sharing that personal part of me. Men go nuts....however Im learning that when I know someone genuinely cares for me im working on letting that person in on that emotional aspect part of myself. I am a busy ass sweetheart though I just thought to myself yesterday....what kind of human being are u?? Lol working on myself I love me and I love the people that loves me too ❤️

How to give space when with kids and living in same house? I mean its my house and I like my luxury time where am I gonna go?

Speaking as a man. We long for women who are innocent and pure, visibly at the very least. Your deduction as to why men chase "distant" women is probably because being distant gives off an asexual/dont-give-it-too-easily vibe, which is something that we like. We also like to observe from a distance for example a woman who does her mundane routines in her life diligently and doesn't give off an energy that's too much for a man to handle long-term. Don't exude an overly-masculine energy. Don't be more masculine than the guy. Write these down! I'm talking about being extroverted/erratic/adventurous/crazy/a partygoer. I mean I guess that's why we tend to fall in love with waitresses and cashier ladies. Too boring and simple but we like it.

@Theblackswan55

Жыл бұрын

I suppose it's a different way of putting it, and I agree with you that women should avoid exuding overly-masculine energy.

@fireeye33

Жыл бұрын

nah, it's simply because men are wired to respond to pain and pleasure. Why men respond better with space/distance. It gives your hunter instinct a challenge. Waitresses and cashier lady are normally hired based on their look (not in all places) + their customers service skill...men are always into physical appearance. Also these field are full of young females who are in their entry level step. Men also wired to like youthfulness due to the DNA they need to pass for survival. If the waitress is 370lbs, old, and rude, you won't be interested either.

@lolaloredana3258

Жыл бұрын

Männer mögen eine unschuldige, oder "einfache" Frau wie eine Bedienung attraktiv finden, aber wenn diese ihn nur anhimmelt, wird ihm das auch schnell über! so ist das leider und genau darum geht's hier ;)

@noface3928

Жыл бұрын

This is true. I grew up introverted yet had guys approach me more often than when I became more extroverted in college. I made the mistake of “throwing” myself at someone I liked a lot not knowing that I was in my masculine energy. Still makes me cringe

@pcnair9868

Жыл бұрын

So all men like the same type of woman? Not sure about that

Here is my question: I am a soft sensual woman and do not like to be too busy or overstretched or always on the go....so how does 2 pertain to me?

5:54 Aw no poor him getting scared and suspicious and seeing me as untrustworthy for not giving him all my 24/7s like all the chicks that are flocking around him wanting to please him 😣🙄 Am I getting with a gutsy man who has some thick skin or a child here? Lady, I feel suffocated and smothered by guys. I'm the one who needs that precious space more than he does to do my thing. Be predictable and let men trample over you all you want. That's what they'll do.

What if he's emotionally bonded with his ex gf instead of u who was a rebounder ? That won't work then, right?

@japsukei8685

Жыл бұрын

He shouldn’t even be entertaining another woman if he’s still attached to someone else. Big red flag

@LilFairy

Жыл бұрын

Lol red flag 🚩

@winning3329

4 ай бұрын

Don't ever get involved with a man who is still not over his ex ,unless you want a heart break.

Please I have a question, I would be so glad if I can get a reply. What if he says he needed to be alone to sort out genuine issues but then goes off for about two weeks and now tries to contact me one way or the other and I don't respond because I've decided to actually distance myself because I feel I deserve better but to be honest I'm confused, I'm I right or wrong for not responding to him? Please I'll be grateful for your reply 🙏

@Theblackswan55

Жыл бұрын

I can't tell for sure because I don't know the whole situation but if you felt you needed to distance yourself, that's probably because your intuition is telling you something isnt right about him so I would listen to my intuition if I were you and let him make an effort if he genuinely wants to get in touch he will find a way.

@michellesworld4242

Жыл бұрын

@@Theblackswan55 thank you so much

Crazy nobody that has successful long term relationships plays these type of games. Once she starts playing the distance game I’m gone on too the next woman

@Theblackswan55

Жыл бұрын

Bye bye hahahah. Seriously AmbushNinja...you are so funny I love your comments.

@TheUnplugged1

Жыл бұрын

@@Theblackswan55 it’s funny you turning all these women into femcels you think you’re helping them but the kind of manipulative tactics you’re teaching don’t work on confident secure men that have options. It’s hilarious when they ignore the men they actually want because they are weeding themselves out while simultaneously creating space for women that will go above an beyond to get his attention and chase his validation.

Well women respond to closeness so we’re at a crossroads. Oh well

@nbee6217

Жыл бұрын

Yep. Too much space and distance, results in a drop in attraction and loss of interest completely.

@NycBeauty

Жыл бұрын

@@nbee6217 EXACTLY, also the things I use to overlook about him ( physically ) I start to notice. Also, his short comings. Lol

He's not responding me. He Wil talk whether he had time or otherwise he Wil not talk.. what can I do

@digitalbrandingservice7056

8 ай бұрын

run away and block him

9

How does this work if it's a long distance relationship though? We communicate most of the day via text as that's our rhythm, but is there enough distance created already because we barely see each other in person?

@stv8976

Жыл бұрын

He’ll miss you still if he’s met you especially if you bonded well during the times you’ve met. But by text though? My long distance ex called almost everyday even if we messaged by text during the day. I don’t know how much text is sustainable.

@fordlafemme

Жыл бұрын

@@stv8976 Oh I wasn't clear there, we Facetime in the evening every single day, occasionally a check in at lunch, but not often. We watch movies together on Facetime too. I just meant we are always in communication unless we're sleeping :)

@munix9351

Жыл бұрын

That's not a relationship. You don't know what he is doing.

@fordlafemme

Жыл бұрын

@@munix9351 Lol, nice of you to try and comment on what you don't know. YES it is a relationship. We see each other 3-4 times a year for weeks/months at a time. He has been to my home in England, met my family, I have been to his home, met his family, multiple times. We always keep each other updated in what we're doing, but you do not need to be in constant communication about what the other is doing. Trust plays a big part here. If you have to always keep check on him and what he's doing 100% of the time, by being there, you don't trust him. We trust each other 100% and know each others daily routines, and spend hours every evening after work, on Facetime. It is without doubt, a relationship.

It all sounds like dumb "mind game playing".! Old fashion days of parents & grandparents were never like this. Why does egos have to be like this. Don't like. . Any answers?

I want to know your standpoint on this. I am in my mid-30s and never had a single boyfriend. However, if I get into a relationship living with a guy, I want to sleep separately and in my bed. I don't like to share my bed with anyone. I want to know why most men are opposed to not sleeping in the same bed. I am sleep deprived and the slightest noise disturbs my sleep. Any feedback is much appreciated! 😩

@gunfugames7430

Жыл бұрын

Firstly you are over the wall so your chances getting decent men are getting slim very fast and also you looking for very specific person like me who like to sleep in peace when it's time to sleep and nothing else. No sounds, smell or touch or anything.

@pcnair9868

Жыл бұрын

Creep

@Theblackswan55

Жыл бұрын

I know many people who would not be opposed to sleeping in separate beds because they also don't like to share their bed or they struggle to sleep in the same bed as someone else. So I would say no to worry too much and focus first on finding someone who is right for you and then see if the issue comes up.

@cheekymonkeygirl3378

Жыл бұрын

@@gunfugames7430 I'm a very attractive lady and for your information, I get attention from a lot of men. So keep your opinion to yourself.

@gunfugames7430

Жыл бұрын

@@cheekymonkeygirl3378 Low quality men which didn't offer commitment. You living an illusion but it's coming to it's end.

Lol no they don't

#Toxic_Femininity

How can i give space to my boyfriend when we are not leaving together and we only see each other’s sometimes and both of us are busy so am not calling or texting all over the day But still sometimes i feel he is going distant and i want to give him the distance so he won’t take me for granted as he is doing now … what is the proper way for doing that ???

@munix9351

Жыл бұрын

Why is he still your boyfriend?

Heyy plz asking help for my friends daughter. They were best friends for a whole year in school and every one knew it . Daily updates and Daily calls . But since past 3 weeks his behavior changed and started ignoring not replying to text as early as before till only weekly calls .So she got angry and stopped receiving his calls for a week and then after a week replied and said Yeah so why are u calling wats up? The answer is I called by mistake. He then blocks her on insta , tiktok and snapchat . She already knew this was gonna happen as her gut feeling was too strong about his change in behavior. Now besides focusing on herself what is she supposed to do?? Common friends saying it's fair coz she acted rude but they dont know he changed so much in 3 weeks time forgetting a year long great friendship. Please help with ur suggestions guys. Thnks a lot in advance

@amysworld5521

Жыл бұрын

Ignore the guy move on

Me being clingy

Work only for Stacy (smv 8+) not for average women. Good men love affection but chasing Chads and try to play games gets you absolutely nowhere.

@Theblackswan55

Жыл бұрын

Why would it only work for smv 8+? Could you please elaborate?

@goddessglow6996

Жыл бұрын

@@Theblackswan55 what is smv+8?

@Theblackswan55

Жыл бұрын

Sexual market value of 8 and above...this person speaks the red pill language

@gailainsley6939

Жыл бұрын

Found the IncEl 🥴

@gunfugames7430

Жыл бұрын

@@gailainsley6939 cope

Choose your thumbnail women a little better.