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@Invisibility397

6 ай бұрын

Don't make a man guess your not going to like it. Use your words and the outcome will be more acceptable. Assertive Communication Skills. Critical Thinking Skills. Emotional Literacy. Good luck

@AB4Jss

6 ай бұрын

I just came across your channel and I heard not introduction of who is behind the voice. I would like to know who you are & your background.

@Portia620

6 ай бұрын

Is it ok to laugh about a man treating us that way and able to be cordial to them when they come to New Year’s party?? asking for a friend, of course. I don’t entertain any disrespect name calling and he called me a B.

@Portia620

6 ай бұрын

You are so wrong. People respond with their own energy. You can be very healthy and draw out vultures (aka Narcissists). I study them and you need to correct what you’re telling women. You are victim blaming. You can be a beautiful, shiny diamond and draw very toxic people. What’s important is if you have the self-esteem and no the tools to keep people like that out of your life. Follow Dr Darren McGhee she knows all about it.

@Portia620

6 ай бұрын

When dealing with narcissistic men or women, it is the worst thing to do is to tell them to show you actions you’re giving away the game then they know how to play you better watch peoples actions🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

1. Know your value before you get out there. Never doubt yourself. 2. Look like you take yourself and your worth seriously. You need to act like a king to be treated like one. 3. Don’t give easy access to yourself. Access to your energy should be expensive. 4. Don’t express your boundaries. Show them. 5. Always be ready to walk away 6. Show that you are focused on actions not words. 7. Have a healthy degree of skepticism. You’re not naive and you’re not negative. 8. You must be willing to say no and be willing to losing the man. 9. Never chase a man! A truly worthy person does not chase a man pulling away.

@Alchemymelany

4 ай бұрын

Not all heroes wear capes! Thank you

@zahra1308

4 ай бұрын

What do you mean by giving access to your energy?

@Lovejoi222

4 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@CarolIncierto

4 ай бұрын

When I got married, I was really afraid of losing my husband. He cheated in secret. He watched sex videos. He sext with gays. And sex with women too. That means he is double bleed. Guess what we ended one time, I gave second chance but life with him was so difficult. He cheated again, watched sex videos again, had a gay relationship again, chatted his ex gf. So stupid. This time I walk away and will never return. I'm fed up. I don't chase men either. If they leave, so goodbye. Have a nice day. If they don't text or chat, okay goodbye too. I'm tired of chasing pretty rainbows just to let them stay. Better walk away and never return. Thanks for the video

@sensiblemindset423

4 ай бұрын

@@CarolInciertoglad you left 💪🏾 honoring yourself is essential

For me…no sex before marriage. I learned the hard way. If he refuses to wait then he is not the one God sent for me.❤

@CrystalDatingCoach

5 ай бұрын

I wouldn't wait till Marriage... But at least when your in a Relationship. How he makes love to you shows a lot of about his character.

@lobedenherrnmeineseele3114

4 ай бұрын

Amen! Same goes for me.

@realestatecoach8626

4 ай бұрын

Amen

@TheSofiv

4 ай бұрын

In the same time they say if you don’t have sex it’s mean you a child and universe is going to block you from money, because child don’t need a money , I’m confused

@Zazezoo

4 ай бұрын

@@CrystalDatingCoachthis is your belief, it works for you, but some of us have morals and can’t sleep with every man to see his character. There’s many other ways 🤷🏿‍♀️

As a 64 year-old woman, I can tell you the concepts in this presentation are true and accurate. I sold myself short all the time to “win” substandard and damaged men. It was always a win for them, but it was never good for me. When I learned these concepts in my 50’s, I found a high value man to whom I am still married. This is the happiest I have ever been. I not only use these standards of behavior for him, but for employers, friends, and in business. If you don’t measure up in your treatment of me, you’re fired from my close circle. I will continue to treat you with respect and kindness, but you no longer have the best of me.

@marypetterson8650

5 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this!! Very inspirational!

@Sheherhis

5 ай бұрын

This is great! Thank you for sharing got a lot out of your comment💯

@ItsEle333

5 ай бұрын

Absolutely true… I’m learning this now and it’s a total relearning process.

@denisewilliams7573

5 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience with life.. We really have to stand our grounds. God bless🌹

@nafania11

5 ай бұрын

I have a hope! Thank you for sharing!!

Instead of chasing a man rather use that energy to chase your dreams and love yourself more .😅

@consuelodi2617

Ай бұрын

I needed to hear this. Thank you ❤

@sabat8068

9 күн бұрын

I need this... ❤❤❤

@hf..7271

6 күн бұрын

I love that versions ! Know your worth 🥰🙏🤗

If you're reading this I pray you receive the highest form of love. You are worthy, deserving and good enough to receive the best.💗🙏🏼

@liveinthenow3571

5 ай бұрын

Agreed. What is that line from the movie Pretty Woman? "The bad stuff is easier to believe."

@michellemann6362

5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much.Blessings to you.

@LoveAlways-mt7ke

5 ай бұрын

Thank you Mandy likewise🙏💕

@afrofaeries

5 ай бұрын

Amen ❤❤❤

@celined.4833

5 ай бұрын

Amen! Same to you 🤍

Excellent video! Men ALWAYS try to push your boundaries to see how much they can get away with. Best thing I ever do is withdraw the moment a guy tries to push my boundaries. If he then tries to act like nothing happened, I walk away without explanation. Men know what they are doing, they are not dumb, naive, they know ehat they are doing and they're hoping to get away with it. Nope. If he checks your temperature, burn him with absence. My Dad always told me this. He always said, men can control themselves, men can respect people regardless of who they are and men are actually more self aware then we realize and to never give them grace for disrespect, testing boundaries or playing dumb. He needs to revere you. So having no trouble walking away with zero F's given is powerful. Thank you lovely! Happy new year! 🎉❤

@Theblackswan55

6 ай бұрын

Happy New Year to you too 🎉🎉🎉

@PrincessT21

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for this comment. “Men know what they doing” but for some reason we were made to believe that men don’t know what they are doing, they cant help themselves, all that b.s. etc etc

@chryzbre4336

6 ай бұрын

​@@PrincessT21they also try to use the "young card" & act as if they don't know any better. The fact is if a man really likes a woman he'll get it together & do everything right, make corrections to any mistakes the 1st time & even the busiest of men will somehow make time for u. If he likes u u will know it.

@bhatfield1417

6 ай бұрын

​@@chryzbre4336well what you're saying isn't necessarily all untrue... I think what you ladies failed to understand is that having an open and honest dialogue with your partner is the only true superior way to go. Like all these words and tricks can't beat out open communication.

@bhatfield1417

6 ай бұрын

If you can walk away with the zero f's given then I don't know why you were dating in the first place. It's either really early on or you never cared.

My husband told me that he became very attracted to me when I told him no the first time he tried to go beyond kissing. I made him wait a little while. But once he got the green light he hasn't been able to keep his hands off me for 16 years! And I'm ok with that ☺️.

@user-up6fj5rn9q

2 ай бұрын

I'm happy for u!

@evansfam2838

2 ай бұрын

That’s really great.

@realtalk313h.z.3

Ай бұрын

Well it sounds to me that he didn't notice your worth from the start. He was testing you to see how far you'll go though he was initiating and very disgusting behavior that if you acted upon it you'll be the whore. Well if you did give into him what would that make him?? I'm sick of dudes playing God when they're the problem. Now he's your husband? Boy! How would he feel if some dude did that to his daughter and his daughter gave in, because we all know it's true women do have needs as well that that dude would look at her as a whore! I have a daughter and the thought of some dude doing that too her annoys me. Like, who do these dudes think they are????

@sharinaross1865

28 күн бұрын

Great for you.

@LovePeaceDontHateWar

13 күн бұрын

I imagine a confident woman wouldn’t feel the need to brag about her sexiness online. lol

The fact that nobody talks about the booknWomens Magic Truths on borlest speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance

@ponyexpressponyrides

Ай бұрын

What is the name of the book?

I would have benefited greatly from such advice as a young woman. However, it is never too late to learn. And I thank you. ❤

@lf3554

6 ай бұрын

Never too late indeed. I. just turned down the request of giving out my number to a man and felt no way about it. We just had general conversations and next thing I know he is asking for my number. Why do you want my number sir? I'm very discerning about who I let get close to me.

@Brakka86

6 ай бұрын

Men are easy tbh. What we look for: youth, health and a pleasant personality. Men will run from a woman who causes drama, nags and is needy / insecure, but also if she is physically unhealthy, unattractive or too old for kids. Its not complicated. What never crosses a man's mind when looking for a woman: how educated she is, her social status, how much money she makes, her achievements. She could be dumpster diving and poor, a man will still find her attractive.

@MB-xv7er

6 ай бұрын

@ sgf1495 Looking for a woman based on if she’s attractive typically doesn’t end well for a man. Attractive women are opportunistic as they should be and I say this as a woman with very pretty friends . Beauty fades so that’s not a good measure in finding a partner

@Brakka86

6 ай бұрын

@@MB-xv7er As long as she is at least slightly below average or average in looks and she has a pleasant personality its all good. A woman does not need to look very attractive for a man to be interested in her. As I said men subconsciously look for youth & physical as well as mental health. Everything else is optional / not really necessary. We don't have complicated thought patterns or standards when it comes to this to be honest. There are no lists, no secret that can be cracked. Its simple: young, fit and mentally healthy. Women don't seem to believe it tho. The pleasant personality part ensures she will be a pleasant partner long term. Its why most men avoid women who complain, nag and are difficult all the time. Old women aren't fertile, so men tend to not find them sexually attractive sry to say. Friendship is possible tho.

@MB-xv7er

6 ай бұрын

@ sgf1495 As I said looking for things like youth or beauty are superficial. It does not end well for the majority of men and this has been proven in our current society. Perfect mental health is also superficial as that requires no flaws. Chasing superficial will lead to poor outcomes

If a man likes u u WILL know. If unsure or getting mixed signals walk, he's not ready or not for u. If a man really likes u he'll make time for u. Even the busiest of men w/ professions will find a way to make time to see u. Never fall for their I've been busy crap & flakiness. If he doesn't like u enough you'll know. U deserve better. Don't let a man use u & string u along w/ his words or stay in hope that he'll change. If he likes u he'll make corrections quick the 1st time. If u let things slide & keep staying he won't respect u. Hold your value high, hold out for the right deserving man. I wish I knew these things b4 but unfortunately learned from experience. Save yourself the heartache, trauma & your time. Hope this can help anyone 💙

@adaofcharles1217

6 ай бұрын

Thank you

@svlun8987

6 ай бұрын

В моей юности говорили : не гонись за мужчиной и трамваем, придёт следующий . And yes you are right if man like you he turn over mountains for you . If not- he just lost his chance to be happy!

@mamachicksie5405

6 ай бұрын

Thank you. I will copy and paste these words to my personal wall. Each word is true and valuable

@lilylovesitaly3932

6 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for your words of wisdom.❤️❤️❤️ I’m 48 and still learning.

@rayc9899

5 ай бұрын

@@adaofcharles1217 Let them do the chase, cause at the end you have so much to give in return, but make no mistake, only if he's deserve to be with you and respect your boundaries.

I had a great connection with a man and we had been friends for years. So i eventually fell for his words and i he started sending me mixed signals. I eventually just walked away just as you said in your video. Without explanation, without talking to him about it, without begging, without turning back. I just walked away and even left the country without saying good bye. He found out later and has been trying to rekindle our former friendship. Walk Away even if you know you like that person and you know you share a special connection. If he does not treat you with the value you deserve, walk away he does not deserve you...

@claudiarainone5548

5 ай бұрын

What if the man i like is younger than me & i am older ..i never married & was alone for a long time. I know he may never marry me but could we remain close friends ?

@shinyvalley5145

5 ай бұрын

@joyfuladventures7036 What if this guy was a friend since 10years ago when we were in our very early 20s. He once told me he was interested but we never had the chance to date because of distance we were not at the same place. But we’ve always been friends for so long chatting n texting and sharing personal loses and academic work. We share used to share our failed relationships sometimes. Then recently we met in person and we got physical and intimate, for about 2 weeks we stayed together, we shared and used everything together and I came to like him romantically. But when he left he didn’t tell me he was interested he was getting in touch often but he didn’t tell me what he wants. I gave him space, he came to town after sometime and said he wanted to hang out with me for a while again. Then later when he left i asked him what’s between us but he gave me excuses like he’s not ready and planning certain things for his life etc. My question is we’ve been friends all these many years why isn’t he interested now in a relationship after we got intimate. His communication has reduced after I asked him what he wanted from what went on between the two of us. So I just giving him space. Also do I just remain friends with him or cut off that long time friendship I had with him completely and not even send him a birthday text on his birthday.

@amangopal7659

5 ай бұрын

​@@claudiarainone5548 same question but it's an older man in my case

@lunaspearitz1948

4 ай бұрын

​@@amangopal7659 Ask yourself why an older man wants to be with you. Maturity is attractive to mature people. Youth is only attractive to immature (or physically young) people. As wonderful as you may be, he should have more life experience than you and therfore relate better to another person his age. If he truly relates best to you, he's immature in some way and as you grow as a woman that won't work for you anyway. If you value yourself, you'll pay attention to the ways he tries to control and demean you and then walk away without explanation as she says

@lunaspearitz1948

4 ай бұрын

​@@claudiarainone5548if you want someone to marry you, why would you settle for a "close friend"??

A pretty face gets old, a nice body will change BUT A gd kind, honest loyal women will always b a gd women ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Ignore and walk away. I dont even block them😂. They think they still have access to me but I just stop reacting to them 😂

@mattkath2332

6 ай бұрын

Just recently broken up . Painful but its necessary. I’m worth it. I initiated it cause he’s hiding something but do not admit it. I know that he is divorced and had this affair with a married woman with 2 kids but he told me its long time. Almost a year i hust recently find out until now they are together. We are together for half year and we’re ldr after since he need to go back to his coubtry. Little did i know just figure out that he’s a liar all along! He still dont admit till I end it. Until now he’s begging to come back he said he’s sorry and ready to tell me his secret. Lol still want to keep me hanging. I walked away 2months i did no contact, never reply never answer the call. I did not block so he can see how I elevate my life and move on without him. If he’s not treating me right, another man will. So God bless 🎉❤

@LaibaRafiq-ts5qr

4 ай бұрын

Best comment ❤😂

@andriavinithalobo5813

4 ай бұрын

Wow

@mariannasantorinaiou3535

3 ай бұрын

This is the best way😂❤💯

@whatupdoemia

2 ай бұрын

❤

Also I want to add to never tell a man how badly or how you accepted less from a man from your past. Yes we women have accepted bad behavior from our past relationships because we didn't know better back then, but now know that telling a man how badly other men treated you in your past will tell other men in your future that you will tolerate bad behavior. Also tell men that you're last relationships the men treated you well and you broke up mutually. He doesn't need to know details about the breakup. Let him think that he is being held to a higher standard than the last relationship.

@omc333

6 ай бұрын

Good advice 👌🙏

@andydufresnejr

6 ай бұрын

As a man im going to tell you that we know when youre lying about your past relationships and all the trauma you've been through. And the fact that you're so adamant about lying about this stuff and not trusting the man to have sound judgement and treat you right is the reason why you're no good.

@hiannahgus574

6 ай бұрын

@@andydufresnejrOne need not go into details about a previous breakup. It’s sufficient to say that it was no longer working for you both , so you both ended it. Boundaries are important, especially when discussing your past life with someone new.

@Andr0mi

6 ай бұрын

Ending your past relationships when your partner was pushing your boundaries means your where not accepting that and shows your high standards and value. So, in my opinion, it is not neccessary to lie about such breakups. Or lie at all about any kind of breakups. Better just say the general details, not going super deep into it at first. A good man will respect that and not ask too many questions. Relationships are built on trust and understanding. I cannot imagine myself having to remember BS I made up to fit a man's interest in me and then later having to explain why I lied, showing I could have lied about other things as well and that I am not a trustworthy person, no.

@andydufresnejr

6 ай бұрын

I dont think its necessary to discuss past relationships in detail but are you just going to ignore the part where the OP tells women to not only withhold and lie about the poor treatment and poor decisions you've made over the years but also create a lie about how all your past relationships treated you well so "he knows hes held to a higher standard". the wording and tone of the post is so blatantly and unapologetically manipulative Im not sure OP is even aware how disgusting she sounds. she clearly hasnt even worked through her own trauma but is narcissistically giving other women advice on how to turn their relationships into trash like hers @@hiannahgus574

I’m 52 and I’m finally learning this. Luckily I can teach my daughter while she’s still young. Luckily, she has a very loving father who has always treated her like a princess. So I think that makes a huge difference.

@real_hello_kitty

5 ай бұрын

Well, if you have a very loving husband, then why are you listening to this?

@Febi_Me

4 ай бұрын

@@real_hello_kitty What a stupid comment 😂

@TauruSeason

2 ай бұрын

@@real_hello_kitty loving fathers can get divorced or broken up with as well

@IDFK__

Ай бұрын

⁠@@real_hello_kittyI have a loving father but, it’s more impactful for a young girl hearing advice like this coming from their mothers or women in their lives…

@real_hello_kitty

Ай бұрын

@@IDFK__ You mean, loving father, but not so loving husband. Like Eminem, for example.

As a women who was raised by an alcoholic father and co-dependent mother, I never learned anything similar to this, so I really valued this video and I am learning to love myself and appreciate my value. Thank you

@MeadowDay

6 ай бұрын

Oh I so hear you 👍

@margiel2180

5 ай бұрын

Me too

@AlongBella

5 ай бұрын

wish you all the happiness in the world

@ngindratt

5 ай бұрын

This is my exact story except the stepfather was an alcoholic and my real father abandoned me. Trying to learn these important lessons in my 40's.

@tamishareid1124

5 ай бұрын

I can relate... beautiful video to put things in perspective

👸this should be mandatory teaching in every school. saving girls all over the world a lifetime of heartache & pain.😌

@kimberlymay9497

6 ай бұрын

👋🏽👋🏽👋🏽 so true!

@edwardmylnychuk5774

6 ай бұрын

until females stop being 304s nothing changes

@user-oi5rb3lj3r

6 ай бұрын

Indeed

@dawnssunrises6050

6 ай бұрын

Extremely needed!!!

@kmc9646

6 ай бұрын

Agreed!

Some of these concepts can be applied to friendships too. Don’t accept rudeness and disrespect. Know you value in friendships also.

@beverleyonyejianya5710

6 ай бұрын

Absolutely . Applies to all relationships

@whitneyvercammen4017

5 ай бұрын

Yes!!

@beverly8396

4 ай бұрын

I couldn't agree more!!!

@memoryveremu3244

3 ай бұрын

Absolutely

@araventerpriseservicespllc289

17 сағат бұрын

It's about human interaction 101

I came across this video at my age of 52 years and although I realised it’s very late but I won’t go back to being worthless now. No chasing. Staying in my power and yes all plans set to walk away. Making a home of my own to move in to. Thank you. Appreciate you sharing this video❤

I like that this is even more about showing ourselves our worth than showing a man. When we value ourselves, others will see

As a man, I know I'm not the target audience for this video but as I listened it dawned upon me that if you replace the word "woman" with "man" - and vice-versa - in each of your points you get advice that is equally good for a man approaching a prospective woman. It's not always true that what is good for the goose is also good for the gander but when it comes to boundries and self-worth, these values are universal. Just say'n ....

@amberg4131

6 ай бұрын

I noticed these help tools work like that for me and my bf. He’s a manly man, I’m feminine in most ways. Just a lot of these tips for men to handle woman work best for me managing my bf and our relationship. We each grew up in our own households. It’s really interesting. The gender isn’t specific to how someone will be. Everyone is different. Sometimes you have to mash up the advice of a man woman and a woman to man because not everyone was raised to be the typical man or woman.

@bradsalz4084

6 ай бұрын

@@amberg4131 I was just pointing out that the advice Black Swan offered for a woman to communicate her value to a man will work equally well for a man to communicate his value to a woman in a courtship setting. That's not the same thing as saying the qualities a man values in a woman are the same as the qualities a woman values in a man. Of course they are different because men and women are different. I'm just pointing out that the advice given in the video is agnostic to sex. The goal is the same: to convince someone of the opposite sex that you have the qualities of a desireable mate. So, your bf will try to communicate his "manly man" qualities that he thinks you desire while you will try to convince him that you have the feminine qualities he desires. From your description it looks like you both accomplished that - which is good for both of you.

@Jenzy-K

6 ай бұрын

I think the same. When I watched this my thoughts were on people, not men. I would apply this to friendships including family - man or woman. We are treated as we see ourselves - people are our mirror. 😊

@dianapalmer4185

6 ай бұрын

And I think a lot of women rag on men & are disrespectful to them!

@bradsalz4084

6 ай бұрын

@@dianapalmer4185 Yes, you see a lot of that in the comments to this video. The same is true in the opposite direction as I've seen in many videos in the so-called "red-pill" space. Social media seems to have silo'd men and women in such a manner that we talk past each other instead of to each other creating an artificial war between the sexes. This would be humorous if we didn't live in an age of plummeting fertility worldwide. Not a good look.

I'd say the most valuable thing a woman can do is not say a word. Great video.

I love that "If you don't measure up in your treatment of me then you're fired from being in my circle!"❤❤❤❤❤

I've wasted so much time! I've been breaking my own heart with bad habits and the lack of knowledge. Well, it's a New Year, and I'm going to rewire and reprogram myself for a better future!!❤😅

To be honest, when a man treats me any less than what I deserve, I think it’s their problem, not mine. Because some treat me so well, while some don’t. It is because your actions are the reflection of yourself or what you think of yourself. So if someone treats you badly, it actually means they don’t respect themselves first. Because good men and women will still treat you with respect even if they don’t like you or have anything to gain from you if they respect themselves first. Someone’s behaviour is never about us. Even in a very toxic situation a person can keep their cool and exit it when they get the access. But a less headstrong person will get ruffled in trivialest of stuffs.

@angelinelegrand2414

6 ай бұрын

Keep living in the clouds If you appear as low value, you better build up your self esteem. If not people Will mistreated you to no end.

@poppytaylor765

6 ай бұрын

Exactly they want to see how much they can have from you/ get away with, without putting any effort in to get it. Them having that frame of mind is a reflection of themselves and the fact they want good things for free in life- these people will go for the cheaper options their whole life. It is then your choice to look at their behaviour toward you because EVERYONE tells on themselves by what they say or do and you can work out their intentions, then it’s your choice to walk. eventually I’m hoping women raise their value so these types of men don’t use them anymore!

@tula__

6 ай бұрын

@@poppytaylor765 easier said then done. Women, especially younger women, will have a few cases where they will be used before they learn the lesson. And the lesson learnt through experience stays. Nobody is born perfect. We are here to learn. Each of us. And you can't expect things would change entirely unless you go for the root cause: Patriarchy. Our society is patriarchal one more or less. Women have been suppressed since generations. Many women still fake an orgasm, for instance, just to avoid confrontation or break the "peace" in the house, because it's less womanly (apparently) to raise her voice. You'll be surprised to know that it's a popular opinion. You can't get rid of 1 problem (when there are actually many) if you don't solve the root cause!

@beez991

6 ай бұрын

​some people will and some wont. A good person would not take advantage, but a bad person will no matter if you have self worth or not. You need to not live in a fantasy world and think everything you think will control other people. You don't have that power over others actions

@tula__

6 ай бұрын

@@beez991 exactly

I love how she respectfully describes "women who do not know their worth," inferring that all are worthy. As opposed to another popular relationship advisor who refers to women as "low quality" or "gold diggers" 💖👏

@LilianaMe1978ro

3 ай бұрын

please, disclose the other popular relationship advisor here, he is not a women friend, definitely. Women need to be helping each other.

What an awesome impact! Men are of a different breed; everyone knows about this except women. They have more temperatures than a thermometer; they change their minds more quickly than a chameleon changes colors, right before our eyes we (women) choose to ignore it as they blame us for being "complicated" or on the cycle. I turned 60 years old in 2023 and I am just now getting this. What an amazing confirmation. Thank you......

@nele8554

5 ай бұрын

😂😂❤

@amangopal7659

5 ай бұрын

Yes ma'am! Spot on

A man has never been allowed into my home unless he has long term potential. I don’t even first date unless I know I’m sincerely interested in knowing a man mind and heart. I love being in my private space and look forward to sharing it with someone special.

@2blackcatz426

5 ай бұрын

Have had men in my home...but never 5he bedroom meow

@l-train7876

5 ай бұрын

Agreed. I never have men over to my home unless it’s a serious relationship.

It’s true that women don’t know their worth, but make no mistake, that men don’t know what their worth either, or even what worth is. Ask a man what his worth is and he’ll start talking about leading and his wallet. Which implies that money is his worth and he’s looking for a woman who abandons herself and all of life to follow a man’s commands. And ask him what a woman’s worth is and he’ll start talking about supporting him, putting out and cooking and cleaning. How much she abandons herself to build up a man. NONE OF WHICH IS WORTH of himself or women. So, since most people don’t know what their worth is, here’s what I do.. I don’t concern myself with worth and just protect myself and my happiness and peace of mind. I stay out of trouble and don’t bother anyone. And in my lifetime, I noticed that men are most responsive to a challenge and authority. To women with strong standards and courage to put their foot down. Women who are not looking for a man to lead. Women who are easy to get, too nice, and aims to please are the ones men take for granted and don’t treat right. Although these are qualities we hear men say American women don’t have anymore and why they are getting passports, they mistreat women like that whenever they get one. And those foreign women are definitely not easy. Why would they be? If they don’t want the messed up fellas in their country, why ever would they want messed up foreigners? So ladies, don’t be so quick to let a man have your body. Don’t be so quick to offer him food or any kind of help. Don’t be so quick to go on a date with him. Don’t believe anything he tells you until you see evidence of it. And continue being a good human being. If he is deterred or dismayed by this, that’s a clear sign that he’s not ready to be with a woman and your worth is nothing to him but a supply to be used.

@Lavenderspice942

6 ай бұрын

Very well said! Thank you! 😊

@beverly8396

4 ай бұрын

Amen

@scorpiohughes2383

2 ай бұрын

God Bless You!!!!!

@user-nx9fd5xt9x

18 күн бұрын

Wow Thank you

It has taken me decades to understand these principles you are sharing here. I grew up in a very abusive household and had NO boundaries, no self-worth, no sense of value. I've only begun to understand this recently, after so much failure. These are painful lessons. If I had known this growing up, my life would be different now. It's tragic.

@juliafisher5844

6 ай бұрын

You can start afresh at any age .. I'm 67 and still learning

@subspacescout9951

6 ай бұрын

1976 - it’s not tragic, it’s a New Beginning. Now We Know. Carry On …

@CoralBalmoral

5 ай бұрын

1976 I'm so sorry for your hurt and the painful childhood experiences you were put through. No child deserves that. And it must also be hard if people don't understand how horrible it was and the impact at such a young age, the start to life. I wish you well bringing healing and loving, joyful experiences into your life. Thank you for sharing 🙏❤️

@CeciledeLuire

5 ай бұрын

@@CoralBalmoral you're so sweet, i just had to say this!

@janetanyango7168

5 ай бұрын

It's never too late dear, you can still make it so long as you're alive and believe in yourself

Good advice. I found that people are more interested when you are less interested.

I knew my fiancée for a year through mutual friends. Once we started dating he asked me to be his girlfriend on date 3. He proposed 4 months ago right at the 2.5 year mark. A man knows if you are the one he wants to invest time in or not. If he’s loligagging he’s got other options or someone he likes better. Period. Move on! Life is short we don’t have time to waste!

Simply by being a woman you have value. You don’t have to prove your worth to any man, and if he does want you to perform/prove said value, run, that man is toxic & he don’t like you. Don’t get used queens!

@angelinelegrand2414

6 ай бұрын

Keep lying to yourself

@ufos-cos

6 ай бұрын

@@angelinelegrand2414 it’s only a lie to you. bless. You have a nice day.

@kimberlyturner820

6 ай бұрын

Simply being a human, you have worth. Smh.

@anabae2706

5 ай бұрын

Correct ❤ Yo why ppl so triggered? 😂

Why didn't this video exist for teenagers in the 90's. Today's mature teens are lucky to have access to sensible advice when they lack role models in real life.

In the past I felt that I was not valued, important or loved and that I was not appreciated. One time I did things from the heart for a person and I was kind to him and helped everytime he needed something. I came to realize that this person did not even give a cup with water and I said aloud God, how come I can do things from the heart for someone, do good things for someone and a person does not even give me a cup with water. I am mad, I am sad. After that prayer a voice told me " Tú tienes tu valor" You have your value. From that day I do not feel like I used to feel before because today I know that I have my value and I do not have to wait for anyone to give it to me. Thank you God.

High value is a short cut for saying that you will not allow yourself to fall into a codependent relationship. I just left two and found it to be super painful. There are things you just can’t let slide. It’s easier to stop a codependent relationship at the beginning than after decades of your life. This goes for any relationship - friend, boss, family. If you were raised raised in a codependent family, you are set up to have more in your life. You need to learn how these relationships work in order to avoid them.

No sex at all because once you do it your value will decrease. Let him know your standards. If he doesn’t want to wait for marriage. Leave him. As long as you don’t sleep with him, you will not get used and you’re heartbroken. You won’t have to worry about an STD or pregnancy or getting played. Be smart and keep your legs closed. If he values you, he will marry you. It may seem old fashioned but it works. Tell him you are a Christian and want to wait till marriage. You don’t want him to take advantage of you. Get the ring and marriage a full commitment. Let him know you believe in marriage and family. Be wise. 😊

@tonyp5016

6 ай бұрын

I’m agree with you

@ayoolagbaju2090

6 ай бұрын

Not true for me I got my heart broke and I didn’t even kiss him! Still can’t get him out my spirit and it’s been almost 6 months.

@freedomprime641

6 ай бұрын

yes ma’am! Wise words spoken. Thankyou!

@kenyarodriguez3853

5 ай бұрын

@@ayoolagbaju2090you mostly likely put him first instead of your God

@CoralBalmoral

5 ай бұрын

@msdee2905 Is that your personal experience and how did it turn out? Thank you

Honestly, if you feel you constantly need to prove your worth, he ain't even into you. My best advice is to date your best friend. Be friends first- that way you are totally who you are, there are no pretenses, judgment nor expectations, you both just enjoy each other's company for the sake of enjoyment. You're not having sex, but you're truly seeing what each other is about. That's the purest way to get to know someone, without the uneeded power play. Just have fun!! It's that simple- connect with your mind, heart, and spirit. And then, if there is physical attraction, things will fall into place. *Friends first is the smartest approach - it's all about athenticity and both people being REAL , being present, in pure BLISS !

@chanorou2075

6 ай бұрын

👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

@FreeQueen-md7zm

6 ай бұрын

💯 sooo true! And the longer u live and can STILL mutually give/receive (respect/value) from that friendship is the BEST "benefit" that NO amount of $ can ever buy! ❤💯

@bhatfield1417

6 ай бұрын

No bro you got to know you're worth and be ready to leave and burn the other person like a psychopath 😂 I'm not sure what people are getting out of these videos

@NarnianLady

6 ай бұрын

Sadly very few men are capable of such healthy connection ..

@leliadan2167

6 ай бұрын

Omg it's so pathetic walking on eggshells like this woman wants all women to act around men. I rather him think I have no respect for myself than play her games, or not have a man.

This is like the Holy Grail of advice for females! Love this so much.

I wish I knew all of these before getting myself into the worst relationship possible but it’s never too late and now everything that has happened to me makes so much sense. I lived with the false sense of family values which led to not having any value, even tho I thought my good heart and being a good wife were only qualities I needed to have to have a happy marriage: Life is interesting and there are endless things we need to know. Thank you!!

@leticiachikelu.2109

5 ай бұрын

Right

Seeing this 1/1/24 & affirming my journey to pour into myself. 🧘🏽‍♀️ No one else can build my confidence for me. My worth is determined by how I view myself & I am worth the investment. Thank you for this video! 💕

I’m so grateful that God has blessed me with insight to see my worth.

@laurabernard2094

4 ай бұрын

Finally! Lol🎉

This is the absolute best advice I’ve ever heard being given to women. My mother told me all of these things while I was growing up, and they were imbedded into my psyche. (Constant lectures! ) Thank you. 🙏🏻 🙏🏻

All spot on! Stand tall in your power , know your worth, and do not settle for less than what you want!

Right on time. This is a message that every woman needs to hear.

Honestly, if a man can’t tell my worth, then he’s not the one 🤷🏽‍♀️.

re-watching this video all the time , taps into a sense of happiness I cannot explain, beautiful

You are so deeply embedded in your worth that you even expressed it by not desperately asking viewers to like and share this video like so many content creators go overboard doing.

I know my worth enough to appreciate not wanting to have to be in a relationship. That's the main path to sanity!!

No sex till marriage. Boundaries are magnetic.

@hiannahgus574

6 ай бұрын

There is no way I would marry someone without knowing sexual compatibility. It is an important part of a relationship. I respect that they wouldn’t be the right decision for you, however. To each his/her own.

@juliabliss1477

6 ай бұрын

@hiannahgus574 Even if the sex is "good" before marriage, it won't last. Why? Because you gave away your wife benefits before you were his wife. This kills magnetism, romantic polarity, and the far-reaching benefits of a super hot marriage that ages like a fine wine. Studies show that the divorce rate increases with premarital sex. Interestingly, when you wait till marriage, your capacity to be sexually compatible increases dramatically due to the deep level of devotion & trust that is felt when sex is preserved for marriage. Deep seated trust activates a healthy sexual drive and brings the very best out of one another. I've been married 18 years. We waited. We absolutely love our married life. It's truly a magical dance *when the proper foundation is laid*! 💃🕺 I wish you the very best love life. 💘

@ssiegreen5292

6 ай бұрын

Julia - good luck with this! Unless a man is deeply religious and true to those believes, there's generally no way a healthy man will wait a year or two with no sex involved, until you get married. While celibacy by choice is possible, it's not very likely - at least not in a young-ish man [say up to 40/45 ish]. Most men, if they are celibate, are due to not having access to a reliable sex partner, or being tired of relationships that don't work out. Actually - that would be a red flag for me - there are either potential sexual hang-ups/restrictions, sex drive compatibilities, weird fetishes he can't bring himself to discuss, any possible type of sexual deviations including sex addiction/pornography, closet bi/gay/DL that you are not aware off, never mind STI's he's hiding, potential Eds, or other sexual irks + quirks or just being bad in bed, AND assuming that none of the above applies - being a potential cheater.

@hiannahgus574

6 ай бұрын

@@juliabliss1477 Wrong! We had sex before marriage (lots of it!) and my 30 year marriage proves you wrong. It certainly can last!

@hiannahgus574

6 ай бұрын

@@ssiegreen5292 Well said! You addressed all of the potential problems which would raise red flags which would be possible, if not probable, if the man is still celibate at that age. Furthermore, even if he were not sharing sexual gratification with his girlfriend, it’s quite likely he would be getting it elsewhere, or through porn. There would quite likely be a deep psychological sexual issue(s) hidden under his cloak of celibacy.

After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!

@torbjornnilsen

4 ай бұрын

I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??

@joshyd2000

4 ай бұрын

Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Claudia Vecchi Nese .

@joshyd2000

4 ай бұрын

She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸

@joshyd2000

4 ай бұрын

After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.

@DulceJaramillo-ri3pn

4 ай бұрын

Finding yourself a good broker is as same as finding a good wife, which you go less stress,you get just enough with so much little effort at things

I wish these talks could be shared to High school girls before graduation 👩‍🎓

Wow... i liked this video because it took me 15 wasted years to get there!!!! Learn this lesson ladies and implement it immediately. It turns the tables

@jessicabradshaw1746

5 ай бұрын

Don't see it as wasted time. It's just lessons to learn. We only learn our lessons when we are TRULY READY to. A lot of the time we think we are ready, yet we are not. You are so worthy and now is your time. 🙏❤

This is excellent! Still learning into my 60’s. I’m an empath, kind and loving/fun-loving and have put up with too many wrong men and their behaviors. I recently caught myself again, after one caught me off guard.

I’ve gone through a lot this past year and have lost the confidence that I used to carry so effortlessly in my younger years. This attracted the wrong kind of man to my life and the only toxic relationship I have ever known. I simply could not let him go. I believe it’s because I still need to do the inner work and find myself again. I cannot see that I can do better, nor feel that I deserve happiness. I make excuses and point the finger back at myself whenever he does/say something cruel or unfavorable. I have never known another man to utter some of the words he has spoken to me or about me. It’s been 2 years of on and off. We are currently “off”. I needed this video. What a happy accident. New subscriber and looking forward to exploring your channel further.

@beatrixbrennan1545

5 ай бұрын

If you have to "fake it til you make it" then that might be your only option to produce the value in yourself to keep you safe from these toxic relationships. God bless

@beverly8396

4 ай бұрын

Nothing is by accident, it's all in G_d's plan!

When a man really wants you and wants to spend his whole life with you, it doesn't matter if you invite him to your house on the first few dates. I know my husband is one of the exceptions, but I invited him early in our relationship. And now we are married. But most men may simply take advantage of the situation and not move forward with the relationship. There are exceptions, and they are few, and that is why they are exceptions.

I feel so proud of me developing self worth. Some times it's hard because Some men deselect themselves for let's say not coming over their house on a first date. Not chasing.. not being thirsty. Videos like this are encouraging..it is like a support system. Thanks babe

If you ever have to show somebody your worth, that person is not worth of a second of your time.

you naile it each and every time, every video feels like it's 5 or 7 minutes. No lengthy intros, no rambling, ugh! I love it

That last part "and such woman holds her value and her worth much higher than her desire for another human being" really got me! I have listened to it multiple times to really soak that in! I've been really feeling that desire and getting curious with it more and knew there is something else more important to stand with before even entertaining that and my VALUE and WORTH are two things I really need to dive more into - if anyone has any advice or meditations or videos - I am open to that!

@CAJASLEENKAUR-pp4im

3 ай бұрын

You can watch Byron Katie , osho, Eckhart tolle, Acharya Prashant, Jiddu krishnamurthy, Alan watts

When he compliments you, simply smile and say “Prove it.” Then change the subject and drop the conversation, period. Hope this helps! ❤

@brendarewan7441

6 ай бұрын

First say thank you. Proving that you agree with him. Then anything else.

@NewYorkNadia

6 ай бұрын

@@brendarewan7441 There's no need to thank him, as he hasn't done anything for you. We thank people when they take actions to assist us, not when they say words. Secondly, there's no reason to "prove" you agree with him with words; the way you carry yourself and the boundaries you keep are all the "proof" that's necessary, should there be any doubt. By telling him to "prove it," to put action behind his words, he understands that words aren't going to be enough to hold and keep your attention; he'll have to show you how he feels through his actions. Period. At the end of the day, actions are all that matter - yours as well as others. Hope this helps.

@jjsmama401

6 ай бұрын

Just say “thank you”. Prove it- sounds like you are a game player.

@NewYorkNadia

6 ай бұрын

@@jjsmama401 Actually, it sounds like the opposite. Games involve wordplay; when only actions are recognized, no games are possible.

@larabardot6836

4 ай бұрын

I’m a little confused by this…so if a man compliments your looks for example and tells you that you are beautiful your reply is going to be “prove it”?? 😂

The power of No has been a revelation for me. Setting healthy boundaries and having the wisdom to understand how this impacts your relationships and dynamics sets you apart. I don't give access to my personal sacred space to anyone, let alone on a first, second, or third date. I'm always ready to walk away, because I'm accustomed to meeting immature boys vs respectful men. Thank you for this video, and reiterating / validating my approach. People may think I'm conservative or hard to please, but I'm not here to please the average Joe or after with the status quo.

@CeciledeLuire

5 ай бұрын

the average Joe 😀 i agree though.

@cutie13581

5 ай бұрын

@@CeciledeLuire😅😅

@CeciledeLuire

5 ай бұрын

@@cutie13581 😁😉

Great advice, straight to the point, non-ai voice, subtitles, cute pink background... Instantly subscribed!

I am in my forties and was NEVER taught anything about a man as well as things were put in this video. I was taught how to cook, clean & tolerate bs & substandard treatment 😢I thought I was holding myself to a high esteem but then I listened to this video & I have work to do🤦🏽‍♀️ much appreciated

Every young woman she listen to this. Such wise advice

Well thank you, great way to start the new year! “one of the indicators of knowing your worth is not reacting and becoming stoic about anything that condtradicts your belief about your worth” ❤

Excellent. Clearly articulated. Coherent.. Smooth transitions. I just sent it to 6 different ladies from all walks of life and ages.

@Theblackswan55

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!!

36 here and barely learning thess things but I immediately shared w my 9 year old daughter and my 15 year old son

I love the fact that you are able to be so concise in all of your videos! This one is such a lovely new year's gift from you to all the women who watch this channel! Thank you so much!

@Theblackswan55

6 ай бұрын

Thank you. It was indeed a New Year Gift and I hope you all enjoyed it and got value from it. Thank you for being a subscriber.

@trickywily2823

6 ай бұрын

😂😂😂 All chicks know what to do they just love drama so the F everything up

@criticalthinking9924

6 ай бұрын

@@trickywily2823 4chat is waiting for you!

Awesome video. I’m showing this to my teen daughter who is entering the dating world. I definitely tell her these things but maybe she’ll receive it deeper from something else. It’s all about preparing her and teaching her, her self worth. A teen series would be awesome 🤎

@kimberlymay9497

6 ай бұрын

Check out Pastor RC Blakes if you haven’t already he is a woman’s savior when it comes to self worth ❤ great teacher!!!

@madelenaherrera1919

6 ай бұрын

@@kimberlymay9497 thank you! I’ll definitely check that out 🤎

Each time I come across these videos I attempt to listen then analyze what definitely is applicable to me and where there’s need for improvement and even further-what I object to but in the same breath what I’d alter or how I’d phrase! This I consider quite objective as I can not simply concur but with a form of disagreement I can also state my input. Value and Worth are essential attributes to have and to hold-it’s rather sad that many of us never sought to contemplate but perhaps even more profound is that we never were taught nor introduced to such! Much gratitude to my adopted grandmother who instilled and inspired-that now I’m well groomed and much disliked for what I will hasten to say are endeavouring qualities! Continue to inspire and motivate as I likewise continue to do same with influence amongst those with whom I associate who have an ear to hear!

This information is EVERYTHING!!! Thank you for teaching it so beautifully. My soul resonated with everything you said. I’m going to watch this over and over. Thank you

Haha. I never had the need to show my worth to any man or any woman. I AM and that's more than enough. I don't care what men think. I just follow my own mind, heart and my own ways. Who cares follows me... 🤩

@CeciledeLuire

5 ай бұрын

that's the spirit 😊

@beverly8396

4 ай бұрын

Absolutely

My gosh!!! This is the 1st time I have heard a description of my personality described in words. I have embodied these discipline from a child that read books far beyond her years and noted the winners and losers of the heroine. The world is a stage and everyone has a part to play. My move, your move then my move which is and unwavering checkmate. That unwavering checkmate brought me many positive things. I hope that younger women can learn from this video because I am a testament that it works. Don't believe when they say it

Just be authentic. We know our worth. Keep your head up. If the man likes you and is authentic the fit is made.

I agree with everything. This is exactly how I handle myself with men.

The only relationship that must exist Is between husband and wife. Previous to that there should only be ROTATIONAL DATING.

Breaking rules for someone you like is my weak point. I don't like people easily so I put too much importance onto it and betray myself.

There are two points that are somewhat mutually exclusive - or one has to be very skilful and confident to apply them correctly- Not afraid to show negative emotions and not show that you are emotionally triggered…

Every Young Ladies out there, I challenge you to follow what’s she’s saying. It’s All True!! This How you should be, If you want a Real Man to respect you.💪

The saying is, I can show you better than you can tell them, let's go, stay blessed and have a magical New Year! 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

I am glad I didn’t get into any detrimental situations while not knowing my worth. It’s never too late!

I began listening to this because it seems very interesting, it really is!! However firstly I must succeed in finding a normal man 😂😂😂 That's a big big challenge. Even younger, I was beautiful, and had many qualities. I was admired etc but never found a man worthy of my Worth!! Today I'm less younger but still look pretty etc, but most of my life has shifted into Virtual. I love walking through the Forrest, nature or being at home, visiting my family, grandchildren. I never liked going out in the evening, cuz Alone. But even r Then at home I can cook something nice, etc etc.. I used to be put down a lot (parents, husband, etc) then I suddenly got angry, it was the last drop and I suddenly learned to love myself. Not just admire my pretty face in the mirror. With that came setting boundaries, and knowing my worth. Loving oneself changes absolutely everything.

Thank you for the info as i turned 45 i am back to dating again and had been abused before so i have learned my lesson.

All these things can be done without looking like a Diva expecting every man to bow. You can state your worth and get respect without looking like shrew. This had excellent points.

I have to admit it is a hard pill but furthermore the absolute truth. Sometimes you have to go through all of the 9 example ,in order to finaly undestand what your God given worth is. ❤🎉 I have graduate on 2023 And I am a Master of Professional

I’ve been subconsciously searching for the right video that articulates what is needed to become your best, most healthily authentic high value Woman…and my goodness, THIS IS IT! this lady has hit all points accurately and hearing them all has definitely changed something inside of me. I feel confident I can now go forward in my life with a fresh strong and healthy approach, Elevating in mind, body and soul. Thank you so much for sharing 🙏🏽✨🔥

Actions speak louder than words!

Number 1 is so 🔑! Last summer I was hanging out with women who would shame me for not using dating apps or putting myself out there. I tried my best to explain that I have trauma I need to heal and that needs to come first. Until I actually stopped seeing them as friends, I still felt guilty and like there was something wrong with me. Now that it’s been months, I realize how right I was not to date just to have something to talk about with my “friends”. But it’s very hard in this society to come to this realization, especially when friends and family are always pressuring you.

@krissyhall2838

6 ай бұрын

I can totally relate girly.There is no time stamp in life Gods timing is perfect and he knows what you need.A relationship with a man isn’t the end all be all in life.Take time to grow and be content with God and yourself and everything will fall into place 🤗🌸

@GiannaMarie212

6 ай бұрын

@@krissyhall2838 amen sister 🙏🏻💕

@Tinayoga777

5 ай бұрын

thats great! you are vibrating higher that your”friends’. The universe will bring you friends or boyfriend same as you! keep saying no if your intuition tells you no. Never have a guilt fir doing good for you! That is called”Im embodying my higher self”❤dating up I ve never had..my husband and I are same! he also never had one.. he always believed he will meet his wife on d beach snd he did!😃my point is do what your heart wants, not what society do!🎉

@GiannaMarie212

5 ай бұрын

@@Tinayoga777 Thank you for this encouragement 💖 this will serve as a reminder anytime I think about going against my intuition. Best to you and yours 💞

@2blackcatz426

5 ай бұрын

Ive been celibate 10 years and it hasnt killed me meow

They definitely like to test women to see how far that they can go. Facts

I now that I know what I've been doing wrong, with this advice I may be able to get it right. Thank You for this information 🙏

I enjoied every moment of this. Very good choice to not show your face and use the words so that we focus on what your saying and the words are sinking in. Well done. Message received. 😊

This was one of the best videos by far that I’ve ever seen on this topic. It even showed me so much about myself positive and negative.

Enlightenment taught me this in my later years. But it's still working for me.

I am a woman, and while I agree about the need to have a self-esteem, i m shocked to hear that there is no need to talk about the boundaries

@elizabethkahn9155

2 ай бұрын

It makes sense though because in my experience when I've conveyed boundaries that gives others the feeling of a license to undermine or talk me out of them. My boundaries aren't up for debate

One of the very best videos. Well explained, to the point without any background music distraction. Absolutely loved and will be listening it a few times. Thank you.

Lots of women (and some men) have been conditioned to be love addicted. Highly recommended, 12 step program, SLAA, sex and love addicts anonymous starting from an early age. They also have rehab for this problem. Once self esteem is restored , people can begin setting boundaries. No advice can be applied where self esteem doesn’t exist. No one is owed anything except from their parents who usually fall short. This creates childhood trauma that sets us up for addictions, which are lifelong and need to be managed through the life span. As with all diseases, early detection and treatment are critical.

This is so true and I wish I had heard this advice 10 years ago.

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Same

I have been with my husband for nearly 13yrs (since I was 18). I had very little self worth and at the age of 30 I’m only just building myself properly. Luckily my husband has never treated me badly but there has been times in the past where I wouldn’t have let certain behaviours happen without speaking up and placing boundaries. I hope we can both grow together as we find ourselves. I think the process has been a bit delayed due to starting a family young as well. I look back and I’m like…. I had no idea who I was. I’m excited as I step into who I am.x