No matter how calm/not calm you are... what's something that just TRIGGERS you? I'll go first lol - when people don't take the time to properly read/watch/comprehend something (anything) and start asking questions that could've been answered had they just paid attention. Now you go.

@chaingangritesh

3 жыл бұрын

It's easier said than done though 😞

@xsamix

3 жыл бұрын

ME TOO OMG it aggravates me when people ask questions that are common sense or just things that are kinda "duh" haha

@MerryOlSoulGigglesmith

3 жыл бұрын

I legitimately scream into a pillow from time to time. It really rather suggests i have some anger issues but better out than in. You Lana are a Massive help to me. Thank you.

@theresegonzaga9676

3 жыл бұрын

same lana same

@umeshnathun2333

3 жыл бұрын

The main thing that restrict me to get rid of anxiety is some triggers, like certain situations,places & feelings. Now automatic chemical reactions happens in my brain through these triggers, it leads me to pattern of thinking & i grow anxious 😭😭😭😿

I try to be calm. I'm calm. But people keep crossing the line and testing my limits.

@oblivion3720

3 жыл бұрын

this

@jizzasterrr6185

3 жыл бұрын

Frustrating asf

@velocity8937

3 жыл бұрын

So i roast em :)

@enas6679

3 жыл бұрын

my life story

@c-ring5638

3 жыл бұрын

Same here😏

When people assume that I’m boring because I don’t care about drinking and partying in college. little do they know that there’s more to life than recreational alcoholism.

@THEwildYNA

3 жыл бұрын

Same for me.

@jonabobani1264

3 жыл бұрын

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

@letiziareis.

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly a lot of people think that you’re missing out on something but no I don’t think so I just like to stay at home 🤷🏻‍♀️

@SKumar-ki1yb

3 жыл бұрын

In France we say "fumes avant que la vie te fume", which means that we have to embrace our moment by partying etc... but i'd rather prefer to improve my behavior🤷‍♂️

@torryv3501

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Whenever Im stressed, I watch documentary about the universe. It never fails to make me realize how insignificant all these “earthy problems” I have 😌

@lavendermelon7889

3 жыл бұрын

Could you like suggest a few. And where can I watch it?

@naomiri3837

3 жыл бұрын

Lara Ackermann I love what you wrote here😍☺ i will try that too❤😌

@naomiri3837

3 жыл бұрын

Bist du aus Deutschland? Fällt mir grad so auf hahah

@Annisatisa

3 жыл бұрын

Naomi Ri yesss and I am certain that u will feel better afterwards 😊

@Annisatisa

3 жыл бұрын

Naomi Ri hahhaha nein, aber ich habe in Berlin gewohnen 😂 und ich kann auch Deutsch sprechen 😊😊

U did not mentioned that Your environment plays the important role. I live with my family and every time i try to stay calm I ended up affected by my parents. Screaming, throwing things, it's stressing me out. The only way to stay calm is to move, to change your environment

2 жыл бұрын

When you can't do that I'd recommend staying somewhere where you can be at peace such as your room and a playlist of calm songs that's what I do

@welovemusic8542

2 жыл бұрын

This is sooo true

@senben7116

2 жыл бұрын

totally agree, same as happening to me 🤦🏻‍♀️

@mellisabellaa

2 жыл бұрын

true calmness is about not letting anything around you affect your state of being, if you just remove it you’re not letting it become an opportunity to develop your resilience. in other words if you’re letting yourself get affected by the exterior than you depend on your surroundings to feel calm instead of finding calmness from within.

@zhijhin8617

2 жыл бұрын

I agree, I'll always try to relaxed before my anger takes everything but It's so difficult so I agree that a new environment will help a lot to change.

People always ask me how I'm so calm. I don't think I'm calm so much as I think everyone else is constantly overreacting, lol

@LanaBlakely

3 жыл бұрын

Haha, right?!

@mr.silver1614

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed!

@queenichii9542

3 жыл бұрын

Love this

@hayfaheni7128

3 жыл бұрын

Yesssss

@Xscape128

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. Stimulant/noise/drama addicts

The vibes in this video is what I feel while reading books

@peaceful3607

3 жыл бұрын

I thought the very same thing! 📚

@SunshineRain20

3 жыл бұрын

Definitely! I feel it too.

@natebilamu2516

3 жыл бұрын

Lmaooo or after a meditation outsideee

@Dhivyaanjali

3 жыл бұрын

The Guernsey literary and the potato peel pie society... Why do I remember this on seeing you🙂

@obsessedglenn

3 жыл бұрын

I thought so too. This is amazing. She is amazing.

For me, human relations are so complicated. I try to stay away from people as much as I can. I find peace and calmness in being alone.

@lovetoeat3012

Жыл бұрын

Same ✌️

@vikram9377

Жыл бұрын

its the comfort that kills you though, try to do things you dont wanna do

@rakshayadav123

Жыл бұрын

Yes

@shanti2344

Жыл бұрын

Same here

@kai06116

Жыл бұрын

i try to find peace by being alone but it make me feel very lonely and i hate it

Simplicity, humility, calmness and gentleness are very attracive

@deutschmitpurple2918

Жыл бұрын

True, I always prefer to be calm

@MaysMeow

Жыл бұрын

Kindness

@sujaltamang5994

Жыл бұрын

D

I think this quote about calmness is quite good: "Be like a duck, paddling and working very hard inside the water, but what everyone sees is a smiling and calm face" - Manoj Arora

@michaelangelo7383

3 жыл бұрын

love this perspective

@linak7155

3 жыл бұрын

Quack!🦆 👍

@peterhasudungan2616

3 жыл бұрын

damn, this is so fucking true

@veraorsa5398

3 жыл бұрын

so true

@Babushkab0ii

3 жыл бұрын

@@peterhasudungan2616 *this is so ducking true 😂

LIFE is 10% what happens to you and around you, and 90% how you react to it.

@oklol5276

3 жыл бұрын

Yesssss

@satya_diva

3 жыл бұрын

u got 666 likes my homie

@cekiw_1885

3 жыл бұрын

for me only 1% and 99% coz i dont give a shit about this life lol

@PrincessFunni

3 жыл бұрын

I love this, thanks

@natebilamu2516

3 жыл бұрын

Most definitelyyyy

This is so healthy to practice, instead of creating a bad habit. This habit can influence your surroundings especially your children.

@Lanablakely01

Жыл бұрын

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I work in a call center and I'm watching this video so I could apply this to my daily work. There are days that it so hard to deal with, because people take the anger they have on a very personal level. I'm a very understanding and caring human being but sometimes the insults and humiliations I get is too much. Hopefully I can get something from this because the stress and the negativity gets in to me and I want to avoid that and I hope other people who is watching this can get a lot from this too. Sometimes we forget to consider other people's emotions just because we are too frustrated. "Screaming and throwing things around doesn't magically summon missing objects."

She is so elegant and feminine, and also her work ethic itself.

@sabothebooklover1978

3 жыл бұрын

Right

@cekiw_1885

3 жыл бұрын

u too, anyone have own style

@natebilamu2516

3 жыл бұрын

elegant for sure!!!

@natebilamu2516

3 жыл бұрын

great channel icon btw Angela

@nadiaa9268

3 жыл бұрын

I wanna be elegant and feminine too 😭 she rocks it

As someone who suffers from an anxiety disorder with the constant feeling that everyone hates me, I appreciate this video so much.

@ayanita761

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@biplav32

3 жыл бұрын

I hate everyone.

@milkberry698

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@JopClerinVEVO

3 жыл бұрын

Sameeee

@tummyhertz

3 жыл бұрын

exactly, same here

Listening to you for 10 minutes is the best meditation session I've ever had

There has been a significant shift in my life since adapting this type of mindset; none of this will exist 200-300 years from now, so do what makes you happy and don't take things too seriously. Great content! I am going to attempt a voice-over type video here soon and you incorporate it effortlessly!

I feel like this channel is like a little fort where only introverts hang out in

@MasteringJohn

3 жыл бұрын

A Fortress of Solitude, perhaps?

@LanaBlakely

3 жыл бұрын

aw yes!!

@KirakiraProduction

3 жыл бұрын

Lol i’m an extrovert learning how to be an introvert with this channel. I think introverts have the key (or are closer to the key) to living meaningful and peaceful individual lives.

@Shg228

3 жыл бұрын

@@KirakiraProduction Girl same! I'm an extrovert but I feel like introverts have it all figured out. They are so chill and I need to be more like that

@ashlyreny590

3 жыл бұрын

Hy yes

"Screaming and throwing things around doesn't magically summon missing objects." That's so obvious, but why can't we realize it?

@exursix

3 жыл бұрын

its most likely how anger kind of puts your mind on autopilot. you get blinded by anger and cant think about things that easily than being calm and not so worked up

@laraselters9185

3 жыл бұрын

Nothing wrong with being exicatble either though. It's kinda fascist to put the one mindset about the other.

@chhunheranhbill3575

2 жыл бұрын

My dad does that...

@JoshAmes1980

2 жыл бұрын

Some people are just addicted to how they feel when they rage. Recognizing that is the first step to getting over it.

@stephaniemartinez256

2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes it's about releasing emotions, which isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes being "calm" in a situation isn't "real calm", it's bottled up anger. It's funny, but sometimes throwing a towel or whatever can calm me down. Breaking items or yelling loud and scaring people isn't okay, but the pent up energy from anger can be used up from singing or screaming into a pillow, and the destructive/throw things energy can be recycled into certain types of art and sports. It's just important to recognize when you're "releasing" emotions as opposed to egging yourself on and making yourself feel worse.

this video gave me books vibess idk why

I often feel like I'm the only calm person on the planet. Most everyone I know is always so stressed or angry. Always one second away from losing it. This video provided some much needed enlightenment. I never knew how to vocalize my perspective, but this really taught me a thing or two, and certainly helped me feel a lot less alone in my way of life. Thank you for that.

*I think I’m just constantly torn between “every single little thing matters and will trigger my anxiety” and “literally nothing matters-we’re just a tiny piece of insignificant dust and none of this will ever be important in the grand scheme of things anyway”* THIS IS THE INSIDE OF MY HEAD, CONSTANTLY! finally someone gets it!

@auntyjasmine2566

3 жыл бұрын

OMG ME TOO SIS

@mauve9266

3 жыл бұрын

Chris Wyma but I feel like then I’ll use that to justify nothing mattering ever 😂

@EveArtie

3 жыл бұрын

Me too!!!!

@Spiinellii

3 жыл бұрын

i guess im not the only one

@Alex-rl3kj

3 жыл бұрын

This is me every time

If your reading this... you are the most beautiful person! :)

@michellemugo8831

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, mee😂✨

@beaglemit

3 жыл бұрын

Being beautiful affects your life. Having that told to you all the time, stuff getting done for you. Everything is all good. Calm.

@xinshu6358

3 жыл бұрын

🙋

@Bioniking

3 жыл бұрын

Nah

@DK-th5nt

3 жыл бұрын

I would but I don't want to sound like some creep xD

I get the same thing, I talk to people for a living. I'm always getting the comment of ""your really chill". Like even when i'm trying to be energetic and feel like i'm talking really fast, i'll hear myself on a recording and think.. Dang i'm just a more expressive calm. I wonder if it's the crippling depression, who knows.

@Lanablakely01

Жыл бұрын

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I’m glad I’m not alone on this. I’ve always been told why I’m so calm all the time that sometimes I feel so out of place and weird but I realized it’s because I choose peace, to have compassion for myself and others than allowing anger and frustration control me. It also starts within, when you learn to accept that things aren’t always going to be in your control and treat yourself with compassion and others.

I had a fight with my mother. She can be SO toxic and mean spirited. So, she provoked me and I felt for it. I screamed and said so many mean things. I was trying to stay calm but what she said was so unnecessary and mean that I failed to keep my cool. My goal in life is to always control myself in all situations.

@mauve9266

3 жыл бұрын

Parents (mums especially) can be hard to deal with

@chenrobyn8817

3 жыл бұрын

❤️

@smileyface5350

3 жыл бұрын

Just stay away from her. Dont be around her. Talk about important things only. Also cancel anything that involved her. Just shut up when she angry or say nasty things at u.

@claudiap.6838

3 жыл бұрын

Smiley Face you Just won’t believe what just happened. At this very second I have tears in my eyes. We just fought again and I’m living with her because I’m pregnant and I’m still at university. I need her help. She was mean to me again, I begged her to respect me, I will give birth at any moment now and did not want to fight, she said, you know what? Just pick your things and get out of my house. I came to my room now and begged Jesus to comfort me, to help me and seconds later I saw this comment of yours. Maybe it is a sign. and if it is, it is telling me to stay as far as possible from her, even if I’m still living under the same root.

@natureloverdude

3 жыл бұрын

@@claudiap.6838 Jesus is the way to go. 👍But don't forget to repent of all your sins! Could be you have unrepentant sins and unforgiveness.

When I was on high school I used to not worry about exams or homework. I had classmates that lost their hair because of the stress of those times, classmates that would cry because of the frustration. I feel sad they had to go through all that and I remember a lot of people would say I was always chilled, and I like being like that! I do what she says, I pick the battles that are really worthy in my life, big decisions, mental health, never about exams which marks don't define me! I hope whoever is reading this can also start being like this, it's a little of inner peace and it's nice, but I still trigger sometimes mostly when it comes to racism, animal abuse or machismo, I'm not cool in those moments haha

@aphradite321

3 жыл бұрын

You sound like a person I want to be around

@denisedeharenne1270

3 жыл бұрын

@@aphradite321 have a nice day!

@NaraTam1121

3 жыл бұрын

heyy not to sound rude and i really appreciate your way of thinking about life and exams but coming from a place where everyone really cares about your grades and academic things,, sometimes people cry not because of the frustration but because the results don't come out as expected and they've worked really hard on. I hope it isn't offensive to say this but 'cry like babies' just a bit disrespectful. Not saying anything like marks should determine who you are and stuff, but sometimes it is really painful to see that your hard work doesn't pay off and i hope you understand :) have a nice day!

@denisedeharenne1270

3 жыл бұрын

@@NaraTam1121 yes you're right! I'm sorry. I had to drop out of college due to never being able to organize my studies. It was messing up my mental health and maybe I didn't care much in high school bc I didn't like anything my school was teaching me, but if your goal is to do things a certain way/getting certain results, it's hard to "just not care". Thank u. And I hope you have a great day too ❣️

@NaraTam1121

3 жыл бұрын

@@denisedeharenne1270 awhh thank you and the whole reply was just hoping that you won't use the term 'cry like babies' since it sounds really bad while letting out your emotions is pretty normal,, just a small friendly reminder!

As a person who is constantly battling anxiety... I FREAKIN LOVE THIS!

I needed to hear this so much today…I feel so peaceful even when I’m supposed to be anxious I’m so grateful for this moment and I am happy to always be in this frame of mind ❤️❤️

Her beauty, the cinematic skills, the way she talks, and THE BACKGROUND MUSIC. Is perfect this feels like a tv series.

@reemhasan37

Жыл бұрын

Yassss

@deutschmitpurple2918

Жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you. I have really liked your comment. Thanks for sharing

I act calm but i have a mind with high anxiety.

@linzym.nunezc.1207

3 жыл бұрын

Y e s.

@Haruki_chan

3 жыл бұрын

It’s always funny when ppl think you’re always so calm but you know that in the inside you’re panicked af, your brain is on fire and analyzing everything

@iiiestullaiii2689

3 жыл бұрын

same (sad but same) ✌🏼😪

@jesuislapluie695

3 жыл бұрын

Your not alone. And you are alone like every one of us huhu ❤️

@junkfoodie21

3 жыл бұрын

Omg same!!

A time that triggered me so much and still continues to trigger is when I am introduced to unnecessary mess inside the house, mess that's not even caused by me. Thus, why I'm here watching your video, thank you so much Lana for the great tips!

You're calm because you're free! Your Mind is your own....very rare in this life

@makizenin1840

Жыл бұрын

I was about to say that! And from my experience I believe that Calmness or any sort of emotions that we feel is very much related to the environment we have grew up in.

why do people find being calm as weird? sometimes, they would literally laugh. what’s wrong with being calm?

@megapet777

3 жыл бұрын

Because most people are tards and dont appreciate how powerful thing calmness and quietness is. I'm by far the most calm person in my family

@Cookiedesigns254

3 жыл бұрын

Because some people grow up in a toxic environment so seeing calm people is not normal to them

@resilententity470

3 жыл бұрын

good question, if anything it should be the new norm!

@louielemon3098

3 жыл бұрын

They're just jealous on how you get to handle the most frustrating situations.

@1982A

3 жыл бұрын

Blame on kardashian Family

I started recently to act more calm, and to change my perspectives, doing that made me realize how silly i've used to look when stressing out about small things, also, i'm experiencing much less anxiety and several anger last times, because i am choosing peace, day by day. By the way, sublime video, Lana.

I love being an Introvert

"You have power over your mind -- not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength" -Marcus Aurelius One of my favorite Stoics

@peaceful3607

3 жыл бұрын

Wisdom, justice, courage, and moderation. That's all we need!

@natebilamu2516

3 жыл бұрын

Ouuuu

Lana **gets in a fight** _"kindly shut up"_

@CANDIEELU

3 жыл бұрын

😂

@lilbean2239

3 жыл бұрын

In wish i could like this comment but it has 666 likes 😕

@ahnrho

3 жыл бұрын

The right words. Hah.

@aseema2408

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

this video is so peaceful, honestly i think i already found my inner peace. i need to improve, but i love this energy.

You're just so down to earth, sometimes I find it difficult because I tend to always look for better and more so often.

"You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength. " -- Marcus Aurelius

@Hypie582

3 жыл бұрын

Stoic?

@Hypie582

3 жыл бұрын

And how do I control my ADHD? Is Stoicism the cure?

@misssamawal9859

3 жыл бұрын

Same:)

@deutschmitpurple2918

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing

I honestly can't tell how many times you post about something I was worried in that exact moment it's crazy

@LiilLouii

3 жыл бұрын

Same here!

@anushkashanbhag6631

3 жыл бұрын

I know right!!

@viki9666

3 жыл бұрын

She's our fairy godmother ✨

@stephaniee6740

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!!

@zaramalik799

3 жыл бұрын

Same here

Wow you have such a calming and gentle voice. Plus I loved how you introduced the sponsor within the dialog you were making. Thumbs up for that.

I would so love to find someone as calm and mellow as you to spend the rest of my life with

I aspire to be as unbothered as lana

@cab91312

3 жыл бұрын

If by unbothered you mean not caring about worldly desires (like being liked, noticed, praised, materialism) then yes. But I would say things definitely bother her/concern her. For instance it bothers (not angers but bothers) her that some people can't accept her calm personality. Otherwise she wouldn't have made this video. It's important to care about things, but we need to prioritize what we truly care about which is what she intentionally strives to do and likes to talk about on this channel (which, by the way, she does well 💕)

@SandraintheCity

3 жыл бұрын

Camille Baca wow you phrased that so well! But yes, that was sort of the meaning to my comment :) thank you for elaborating

@venusa4606

3 жыл бұрын

Camille Baca h

I think I've fallen in love.

@suruchigupta6639

3 жыл бұрын

or maybe you're overreacting..

@elMore1107

3 жыл бұрын

Nah me too

@klee06able

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@christian_kansas

3 жыл бұрын

i don't think i've fallen in love, i've definitely fallen in love. (why did this have to happen again, s**t)

@ayoubkhiro4184

3 жыл бұрын

Simps

The entire experience of watching this video and your vibe is so helpful.

everything in this video feels so calm .. i mean her setup, her voice, her teachings, her background HAHAHA ❤️

Words of caution to all calm people out there. I was and still am “the calmest” among my groups of friends since I was in high school. When I was 27, I went to therapy and the therapist legit said my anxiety is higher than average. I was confused af. But then realised that being calm for me is a coping mechanism and me suppressing my emotions. I was so unhealthy emotionally. The same happened to my “calm” friend. So guys, I’d recommend going to therapy at least once just to see if you really are calm in a healthy way or not.

@ketkimehta4368

3 жыл бұрын

So true..i always tell people what's bothering me..a lot of people have said that i'm too straightforward..but i always felt like if i will hide or supress my emotions it will get worse

@mayanujaim

3 жыл бұрын

Being calm shouldn’t mean suppressing our emotions or ignoring them, we can be calm and still accept our emotions and manage them properly!

@CleoraAleise

3 жыл бұрын

Ketki Mehta this is the one. Repressing emotions isn’t healthy.

@BonBonHassan

3 жыл бұрын

@@ketkimehta4368 yeah I used to intentionally detach from situations when it was too much, now I’m learning to speak through things with someone I trust to confide in

@melmel7011

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the comment because I just couldn't relate. I'm impatient and short tempered If I care about something that's not going my way. The only way to stay calm is if I consciously decide to disconnect from it. I'm a Scorpio too

*screaming and throwing things around doesn’t magically summon missing objects* Well yes but it makes me feel a little bit better 😅

@evaistheway

3 жыл бұрын

But not nearly as better as knowing you have carried yourself with poise and respect

@Charlie-Charlot

3 жыл бұрын

Kaz Kaffenberger nah this doesn’t work at all with me, I guess it has to do with my personality.

@EllyJellyBean99

3 жыл бұрын

I think you're right Charlie. I think some people look at life through a lens of emotions and intuition, their thoughts are scattered. Holding these emotions inside can be damaging if you just pretend they aren't there when they in fact are and can be incredibly strong. To these people it would be inauthentic and would likely cause a bottling of emotions which would then only have to resurface at a later date. Others in our society are more logically minded people who take a methodical approach on life and their thoughts are linear. They are less impulsive and therefore to them they see the logic in the situation such as 'getting angry won't help me to find the charger'. The emotionally driven of us takes the emotion and that's how we decide what to do in a situation. It's about how we make decisions in life, based off what we feel or what is logical and we're all on this spectrum somewhere of how much weight we give to one over the other. I've done a lot of self-development over the years and I think I've come to realise that you can change yourself and make life better by altering the way you react to things and your conditioning but you cannot change the core of your essence. I find the Myers-Briggs test to be a great indicator of your true essence and by removing things that take you further away from this and working on the weaknesses of your character you'll likely get to the best place for you as an individual 🥰

@Charlie-Charlot

3 жыл бұрын

EllyJellyBean99 that’s true, what mbti personality are you ? I’m ENTJ apparently

@Charlie-Charlot

3 жыл бұрын

Scarlet Baxter honestly I don’t find the ENTJ type to be really accurate for me but I took the test 3 times now and I get the same results each times. Sometimes I feel so much different than most people I know that I fear I can’t relate to any type in particular

Such calming words that i feel like we know, but needs to be told to us every know and then, in a gentle reminding way like this. Thank you Lana

I always relate and learn something new when I watch you on KZread Lana. Thank you for being 'you'.

I remember back then when my classmate told me that he wanted to be me because I was “stress-free” and “calm”, but little did he know there was a chaos in my mind lmao

@Verbsdescribeus

2 жыл бұрын

the quiet have the loudest minds...

i resonate with Lana so much as a fellow introvert. in our society its like we have to make friends, interact with people, show energy. but most of the time i just want to go to my room because people are so exhausting

@sanjanatatikonda9156

Жыл бұрын

I totally relate it’s so nice to know there are others that feel the same way:)

@PennPearson

Жыл бұрын

Exhausting. Yes. When I was young, human contact seemed to be worth the price I paid in stress and fatigue, but as I've gotten older, that's less true.

I am calm to the point where like you said, people often think i am indifferent. I think the only situation that would mess with my head and make me panic outwardly is when i have late work for class and i dont meet the course deadline. Love your videos by the way, you tend to voice a lot of what i think. Great Job

u're the actual definition of mature for me, thank you so much for inspiring my life 🥺❤

So basically.... whenever ever we're having emotional reaction about something....stop for a moment and think about that reaction logically by either having verbal conversation with your self or simply thinking it....then it helps you to whether reacting on particular situation is rightful thing or not at all :)

@luckycharm1212

Жыл бұрын

Actually we need to feel the emotions in our body as physical sensations and recognize what emotions we're experiencing. We need the emotions to pass on its own. Then comes the step of logical thinking. If we don't process our emotions we will never know what our triggers are and how to make peace with them.

Be like water not coke bcos when water get shaked it stays the same, however coke will explode

@khwanyothwe9610

3 жыл бұрын

Randem Kt owo nice quote

@seven0570

3 жыл бұрын

Good analogy

@antartico0

3 жыл бұрын

We found new Socrates

@chlo.ech0

3 жыл бұрын

And even though coke tastes better, water makes you feel better in the long-term

@natebilamu2516

3 жыл бұрын

Ouuuuu that hit home niceeee

i’m applying this on a daily basis and it’s been so so helpful. this was life changing for me, thank you so much Lana

Her voice is so soothing

We're just spiritual beings having a human experience

@honeybunnybunny1958

3 жыл бұрын

Yep! This is not our actual home we are actually aliens to earth we are temporary residents here

@serenitybeats1677

2 жыл бұрын

@Truth is here maybe you arent

@M_K_M_K_M_K

2 жыл бұрын

“I am not my body, I am not my thoughts”

"The universe is vast, and we are so small. In the end, there is only one thing we can truly control. Whether we are good, or evil." (Oma Desala)

@user-qp4bk6xe5x

3 жыл бұрын

My opinion, we might have good or evil thoughts; but will we go for doing these evil thoughts or not?

@ everyone in the comments: you can be calm and have boundaries set; you can have emotions and know how to express them and process them properly. Being a calm person doesn’t equate to being a doormat, and no one is “testing” you. You’re allowing them to “test” you, learn how to set boundaries properly, and how to space yourself from people with this energy, as well as learn where THAT persons hurt is coming from? And why they’re projecting it into you.

It took me almost 20 years of work to attain your awareness to keep calm and get out stress as Quick as necessary. Your philosophy is woderful ..

Listening to you is managing my stress somehow

@piumisenanayake

3 жыл бұрын

Dude same.

@stavrosstavrinides635

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@anasofia1076

3 жыл бұрын

Btw pro pic🥺 Jungkookie❤️ Am I right?! Cutieee

@vaishnavihangma276

3 жыл бұрын

@@anasofia1076 yesss

@j_lvly7257

2 жыл бұрын

me too army 🥺💜

I can relate to this Lana.

@andyc6752

2 жыл бұрын

Hey it's you

@andyc6752

2 жыл бұрын

My sister watches you

@mpajonas7023

2 жыл бұрын

yea, most other lanas confuse me a little bit too

oommmggggg I have never heard anyone else say that they would cry at the thought of separating food from their family and friends!!! THAT WAS MY WHOLE CHILDHOOD!! I couldn't even eat cereal without worrying the whole box was the family and I wasn't eating the whole family, therefore separating them and they would be sad!!!

This video was very soothing. I am also a calm kind of person and I stay calm almost 99 percent of the time but still there are days when no matter how much I try I do get affected by my surroundings... earlier I used to feel guilty at these moments where I couldn't control my emotions but now I accept being not calm all the time...

*We Introverts always stands apart but are still together!💜 That makes us Special than others!💜*

I’m literally a stress ball. I cannot relate. 😅

@MerryOlSoulGigglesmith

3 жыл бұрын

Screaming into a pillow helps me.

@douloureux.

3 жыл бұрын

A Noob & Her Dog Blue sameeeeee. Always and everywhere

@iknowexactlywhoyouare8701

3 жыл бұрын

Not “literally”

@parmenides9036

3 жыл бұрын

Your doggo is adorable..when your stressed jus giv him pats

people misunderstanding me and thinking that i’m just a lier. people giving attention to others more than giving it to me. people thinking that i’m boring. i’ve realised that all of this comes from me not really taking the time to actually live in the present moment and constantly stop thinking about others or on things i couldn’t said or should have not said that would cause drama, since drama can cause people to dislike me etc… i just need to calm down, appreciate what i have, never please others to feel appreciated, work on myself, love myself, realise how unique and important i am to myself, not avoid my emotions but instead use my energy to heal what triggers me. most importantly to understand that im not alone, and no one should feel embarrassed for being who they are. stop doing stuff for people by getting out of your comfort zone. care less. just deepen the connection with myself and love myself unconditionally will probably solve 99% of my problems.

hey there lana! thankyou so much for this video. apparently, i was going through a rough time and i knew I had to be calm because i needed to. this video was exactly what i needed. thankyou. you are a blessing to the community

people have told me that they'd appreciate seeing me angry because it seems so opposite of me because when something upsetting happens i try to react in an understanding way most of the time. thank you for making this video

Okay but the real MVP's are those sound effects perfectly placed

@LanaBlakely

3 жыл бұрын

Ok this is the best compliment

@jonycas2000

3 жыл бұрын

@@LanaBlakely ahahaha thank you!

Growing up I was always that rambunctious energetic kid who would blurt stuff out to gain attention. As I've grown older and matured, I am now the exact opposite haha. The calmness I can have in certain situations almost surprises myself when I think about it, but one of the most rewarding benefits to this in my life has been seeing people not for what emotion they project or an action they do, but for who they truly are. To look beyond their actions and words and appreciate them in an intentional way. Being someone who doesn't say much in a room full of friends, my silence speaks louder sometimes, so when it does come time for me to speak, people listen intently because they are aware that I will not just blurt stuff out to be "apart of a conversation", often times, silence speaks louder than words. With that being said, that's not to paint myself as this perfectly calm dude who never gets bothered by others or myself, its more so in agreement with what Lana Blakely said beautifully, I choose my battles well. Being calm consistently can become part of your lifestyle but its for sure a habit that is developed consistently over time. Learning form mistakes, realizing what you prefer about your own reactions/presence and then tweaking it to what suits you personally. I loved the video! I just discovered your channel but I gotta say, this is one of the first times I've been able to relate to a KZreadr so well. Thank you.

Miss, you've articulated everything I've been thinking. After hearing your words, I no longer felt like an alien and alone, knowing that at last, there was someone else who felt and behaved the same way as I do.

I'm naturally like this too and people seem to perceive me as emotionless. which i'm far from. I'm just not reactive.

@alyxms5826

3 жыл бұрын

Word

@samanthasteell

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! My parents always think I'm either not listening or i dont care just because I don't say much or react. My sister is the exact opposite; she is the definition of drama queen, she is loud, gushing with empathy and warmth and talks your ear off. It makes me look like a robot when actually I feel and understand so deeply.

Yes!! Thinking about your response before you respond will change your life! Is it really worth getting upset over? Will reacting cause me to feel upset? So key to living a peaceful life. Love your videos by the way. They give me a TON of inspiration for my channel!

@LanaBlakely

3 жыл бұрын

Yes this definitely changed my life and relationships!

@niara6

3 жыл бұрын

I do tend to get upset over small things, i don't know how to cope up with that.

@alexirossi

3 жыл бұрын

Niara R looking into a mindfulness practice might help!

@ayanita761

3 жыл бұрын

@@niara6 same here

this is the most beautiful video ive ever seen in my life. thank you for bringing peace to the world.

you're so mature😭 With that mindset you can get whatever you want and have peace with yourself. I admire that mindset so much and im here throwing tantrum.

KZread really know I need this right now. Only youtube knows me.

I'm calm. I'm beautiful. I'm grateful.✨✨✨✨

watching this makes me calmer than ever

I meditate 30mins every morning, and I find that gives me a little buffer. Placing your hand over your heart creates cohesion which is powerful. The peace it generates helps me focus.

That's true, sometimes it can be taken as indifference, like I don't care about anything. And is not like that, in my case is more about stoicism.

@LanaBlakely

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@ahauntinglybeautifulmelody

3 жыл бұрын

You're right ! i am currently reading Marcus Aurelius' Meditations and it's life-changing

I’m usually pretty calm and collected, but one thing that starts getting on my nerves is being in a situation where I have to talk to people I don’t want to.

Just watched this video, it was the first one to come up when I googled how to be calm. The whole aura of this video is beautifully calming. :)

MOST RELATABLE VIDEO FOR ME THIS YEAR

haha I love the title on the thumbnail "The art to care less". I just spent 10 minutes reading the comments , can we all agree that there are a lot of gems here?

"There's no need to get too worked up when things don't go your way.... " Lana Blakely.

@user-qp4bk6xe5x

3 жыл бұрын

True.

It is most likely that genetics, culture, environment, and upbringing, have a giant role in our identical mindset. I agreed with every point you mentioned and I hope more people will adopt this calm mindset. Great video Lana.

I found your channel not very long ago. And i really love your content. You have the solutions to lots of people's problems. I'm trying to be the better version of myself. And your channel is the best solution to that. I'm grateful that KZread recommended me your videos.

Suppressing feeling, its very hardest situations specially for anxious person. And age by age as it grows, we feel lack of patience, being judgmental & having OCD. Day by day now I'm getting panic attracts. I wish i could get rid of all these things easily 😭. Emotional and mental pain hurts more than physical pain.

Watching this also made me calmer for some reason lol

@LanaBlakely

3 жыл бұрын

Haha, glad to hear :-)

@ahmedabdulai9852

3 жыл бұрын

@@LanaBlakely yeah she has a calm energy in her videos. Very well made

Your voice is litteraly so calm

Screaming and throwing things around doesn't magically summon lost objects?? You need to scream at the right pitch with some amount of authority. THEN throw things around. Its works for me all the time.

“The ideal man bears the accidents of life with dignity and grace, making the best of circumstances.” -Aristotle

From all the "life hacks" that I have learned which helped me keep my cool and calmness, the most powerful is forgiving myself more: forgiving myself more often for my lapses, for my urges, for my unbalanced emotions, for my humanity. Forgiving oneself, I realized, takes so much courage. But once you forgive yourself more, you will begin to feel peace naturally; it becomes easier for you to let go of negative emotions; you likewise become more forgiving of other people's humanity. You become a better, more peaceful person which is best for yourself and for the people around you. So, forgive yourself more often, folks.

It's been a year but I just realized that every single time I watch this and finally think to myself to realize that I could be getting something done right now I just need to turn on this to remind myself that because I have a horrible memory and I want to try to work on being able to do that on my own but thank you

yes reading can really help in expanding the mind so much . learning from others life experiences can shape our thoughts