An old friend of mine once said: "How come that one mother can take care of 7 children but 7 children can't take care of one mother?".

@plumeria66

3 жыл бұрын

Because that is the culture they created, where the children don’t want to do it. Their own children won’t either. It will keep going.

@f0repl4y

3 жыл бұрын

In the western world, its difficult to do it. We have to WORK WORK to make ends meet. And in the US, 70% of people are working paycheck to paycheck, barely making ends meet and could barely take care of ourselves. So I understand people who do not have time to care for their loved ones, its a 24/hr care especially if our love ones have dementia or alzheimers. You need money to care for the elderly, its not free and it requires time to work and make $$. But despite this, I know several families of all races who care for the elderly in the USA. It's just not talked about.

@potatoO0o

3 жыл бұрын

It may sound like a thought invoking question but it's a stupid one. Kids go to kindergarten, then school and quite soon they're able to be alone for a few hours per day when their parents are at work. A person with alzheimers or dementia can't be left alone. Where else are they supposed to go when their kids have to go to work? Having private carer is expensive. Imagine having to pay a ful living wage to someone. Unless you're rich, you can't.

@64linney

3 жыл бұрын

So true

@sv19570

3 жыл бұрын

@@f0repl4y when you become older you realise better and not now

I'm a physician and my sister is a nurse. My Mother died at the age of 88 and suffered from dementia the last 3 to 4 years of her life. My sister and I took turns caring for her in our own homes, but she begged to live in her own. So, our parish priest helped me find a wonderful immigrant couple in their 60's to move into my Mom's house until she died of a stroke. They treated her like family, and Mom was so happy. We paid them a monthly salary, and when Mom passed away, I gave them my portion of the proceeds of the house, so they were able to sell their home and live in my Mom's home debt free. They were the kindest people and a godsend!

@LPS-ww4wl

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful to read Delia . There is no care homes where my parents are from youlook after your own i have work for different agencues and care homes . We have beautiful glitz ab glam homes here now . When my turn comes i want less glitz and glam ,but more cares . L

@CSI426

2 жыл бұрын

If you live in the states with high immigrant population, many will be glad to be lived-in care giver for an affordable price. Nothing beats living in your own home. The one thing dementia patients remember is home.

@paoolguin7366

Жыл бұрын

Te pasó un milagro de encontrar a esa pareja y que no te defrauden de ninguna manera. Gracias a a Dios 🙏

@genxx2724

Жыл бұрын

I know someone who made a similar arrangement. A couple with a young adult son moved in. The husband had a job, the wife kept house and cared for the father. The son called him Grandpa. They were all Mexican, so the father liked the lady’s cooking and he was happy and well cared-for. His adult daughter lived nearby, and stayed overnight once a week.

@pastryshack551

Жыл бұрын

You did the right thing, I always wonder if people are not able to do the job themselves, why not hire some one like you did. I like the lady who moved to Thailand to be with her mother. To live in Switzerland leave your wife in a other country is cruel

I have muscular dystrophy and can no longer walk so I needed assistance with ambulating. I looked at American nursing homes. The good ones were extravagant charging a fortune. Some even required huge down payment to. The places I could afford were overcrowded and understaffed. I moved to a care home in Colombia. The staffing ratios are amazing. I basically have what amounts to a studio apartment. A hospital bed, oxygen, a stirring area, a fridge in a small kitchen, a beautiful large patio. I am so happy here.

@nicolasdeandrade849

2 ай бұрын

Thats great to hear that from my home country In which city?

@M.Campbell

2 ай бұрын

I'm truly happy for you. You've found a solution for yourself and it sounds like it is working out very well. In my elder years I will also need to find my own solution, for care. Thank you for sharing. I didn't know such places existed. You've given me hope.

I remember talking to a woman from Africa who immigrated to the US a few days prior. I asked her what things she found odd about America. She thought about for a bit then answered, “Two things: daycares and elderly homes- where I am from the elders look after the children. The children keep their bodies and minds strong while the elders teach the children. It’s a perfect system. I don’t know why this is not done here’. I’ve never forgotten her words. Our country is so broken.

@i.m.7710

Жыл бұрын

I agree!

@rainorshine7816

Жыл бұрын

It is not a child’s responsibility to look after the elderly. Elderly can not see to the children properly if I’ll and the child can not see to the elderly without proper training, knowledge and insight. To be clear….no child is responsible for an adult person. The child did not choose to be brought in this world, they are only responsible for themselves and their own life, no one else’s life.

@rainorshine7816

Жыл бұрын

@transplanted1599 it is one’s choice and free will to do as they wish, ultimately each individual is responsible for themselves, period. Just because a child was brought into this world, does not mean now they are responsible for the parent. It is a choice one makes according to what is best for their life. Adult Children need to stop feeling guilty if they can not mentally, emotionally, physically or financially look after a parent. If they can then they can, not everyone can do this. It is their right to choose and not be made feeling guilty because it is an obligation or duty. Your duty is to yourself, first and foremost.

@shannonross8258

Жыл бұрын

White America brought this on everyone now there paying for it they want to put their burdens on Thailand they have there own elderly to look after who Isibg o cefor m

@shannonross8258

Жыл бұрын

@@rainorshine7816 According to the word of God it is the responsibility of the fmily to care for their elderly family members.what are you an atheist old hearted human eing

Same here. I am Mexican we take care of our own. I took care of my mother round the clock for 5 years after she became ill, sadly she passed 2 years ago. I now take care of my 92 year old father and I will do so until the good lords takes him home...It was an honor and a blessing to do so with my mother and its so with my amazing father.

@MinisterYolanda4230

3 жыл бұрын

God bless you

@hiroshijing

3 жыл бұрын

We Filipino too take care of elders with care , love and lot of patience

@user-un2xh2oe6s

3 жыл бұрын

The same in Russia. The most people take care of their old parents.

@elpidapapastylianou8441

3 жыл бұрын

Maury Hidalgo I have no words to say to you ,you have made me cry, GOD bless you and to give you all the goods in this world because u deserve it !

@MinisterYolanda4230

3 жыл бұрын

You are so sweet thank you same to you as well thank you for being so kind..God bless u

My mother looked after me in the beginning of my life.......i looked after her in the last years of her life.

@neldonah2833

3 жыл бұрын

Thats the only way it should ever be

@bonitanottingham5351

3 жыл бұрын

@@neldonah2833 I agree.🙂

@penyarol83

3 жыл бұрын

exactly... but the people who farmed out their kids to strangers to care for them when their little, can't expect anything different from their kids when they get old.

@charitznjusakots5007

3 жыл бұрын

My mother is my life, I make sure she is in good health & great care. I cannot be with her physically at present for I need to work to support all her expenses but I make sure she is in great hands. I will be retiring early to be with her, she is 87 years old now & I miss her. I phone her everyday to great her a good morning/goodnight & in between during the day. I worry when I cannot reach her phone. I can say that Mom is lucky to have me & my siblings, my question in life is, who's going to take care of me & my husband when were old?

@wiamhaddani

3 жыл бұрын

@@charitznjusakots5007 I understand how you feel. it seems to me that people commenting on this video are either rich or on benefits. cause if you have a job and bills to pay you cant take care of your mother 24/7. you still love your mother.

My grandmother had dementia in her late 80s. When she was not able to take care of herself anymore, my mom and her sister took turns having her at their homes for a month- periods. It was exhausting. My grandmother went to sleep at 7 pm and took walks around the house at 3 am as she could not sleep anymore. Obviously, my mom could not sleep either as she was worried grandma could hurt herself or set the house on fire. Another thing was that she followed my mom everywhere demanding to go home and arguing for hours. So when you finally felt she understands why she cannot go home, in 30 minutes she forgot all about it and the arguments started all over again. My mother started having very high heart rate and had to start taking medication. Half a year later, she picked up a phone and arranged a good care home for my grandma in the same town with 24/7 professional care. My grandma was taken care of, she had a family member visiting every day. She still wanted to go home, but my mom did not go crazy and could finally get some sleep and her health in order. It is easy to criticise if you never went through it.

@helen4652

2 жыл бұрын

Taking care of a lovedone with Dementia or Alzheimer's is very different from taking care of a lovedone that can remember and understand.💓

@alexia3552

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for commenting this, sometimes it's possible to care for family at home if they have basic needs that fit in with the family's time, energy, and finances, but sometimes the elderly have drastic health needs that require 24/7 care, and their families have to work to make income, go to school, and even then what nurse can be on duty 24/7? Not to mention the average person doesn't have the training or the medical equipment to care for severe illnesses like dementia. Families that are able to have their elderly parents and grandparents in the home until they pass are in a position to be grateful they were able to do that, rather than to look down on others because their lives didn't work out that way. On top of that, it's much easier to care for the elderly in a home or family system with many siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, children that all live close. Many families nowadays the elderly will have 1 or 2 kids, and no extended family to speak of living close, or maybe none at all. If there is only one adult child to care for those aging parents, and they have to work 60 hours a week, how are they to properly see to the social and medical needs of their parents? Sometimes it's more merciful to put them in a home with other people. The real travesty is the quality of retirement/nursing homes available, not that families fall into a position of needing more help to care for their family members. Honestly if we had a public health service that covered home health aides as a matter of course, elderly would have far better outcomes and families might have enough help to keep more elderly relatives at home.

@ponohawelu4608

2 жыл бұрын

I spent 10 years taking care of other people's elderly relatives. I loved my job. In the USA many adult children are in the midst of demanding careers and have adult children & grandchildren, also. They are extremely busy. Many still find time to visit almost daily. Even if they live with their elderly relative, it can still be isolating because few people have the time to spend hours a day entertaining the loved one. And unless you have ever spent time with someone with dementia, it's impossible to understand the exhausting demands. Dementia patients can be very difficult to steer away from dangerous situations and have to be watched VERY closely. Also, most families are not prepared to do the bathing & toileting often times that's required. These care homes in Thailand sound wonderful!

@cynthialobo1500

Жыл бұрын

True.

@stunnedmulletblah9714

Жыл бұрын

Whitey again

I took care of my granddaddy when he had stage 4 cancer and when he passed I had peace because I know I did right by him! 🙏🏾

In Africa, we stay with and take care of our elderly. Its fun to have them around. There is also more interaction between them, their children, grandchildren and great grandchildren.

@charleyshaaz

3 жыл бұрын

But in Africa they are not aware of it, I read some post about an old woman who was burned alive, because they caught her at the neighbours house and she was confused, didn’t know her name, they then said she was a witch😭😭 Her children posted about it as an awareness.

@mdsabahuddin8251

3 жыл бұрын

In the Indian subcontinent as well.

@kjjosker

3 жыл бұрын

This is also how it used to be in the west throughout history except for the last few generations. Wealthier nations tend to pay people to take care of their elderly and I think that is sad.

@Komeshokakunanwene

3 жыл бұрын

@@charleyshaaz of course in every society, there will always be a story or two that is way off, it does not mean we don't take care of our elders. Overall, Old age homes is something that we don't think of in Africa, we live and interact with our elders until their last day on earth, the way they prefer it. We Africans generally prefer it that way.

@hannahpocock4152

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly, it makes them live longer when they have young people around them. They need that energy and vitality

Im proud to be filipino we take care of our elders to their last breath.

@CE-vd2px

3 жыл бұрын

I cant wait to ditch my parents. Best financial decision ever.

@ethelbentancourt2233

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you you're a blessing 🤗🤗

@CE-vd2px

3 жыл бұрын

@Joe Smith Hey, it's just life. Lions eat gazelles 🤷‍♂️

@mytwoandmeis3

3 жыл бұрын

@esaesa07 you are right, but it is also a white western thing for parents to kick their children out of the house if they are not "mini-me's" of themselves.

@Flameouslife

3 жыл бұрын

@@CE-vd2px im sorry you have such an awful life

I am crying this is so beautiful. As a retired nurse I have seen the horrors of the American long term care centers. We kept both parents at home till they passed. There is something terribly wrong with how we treat the helpless elderly. Thank God there are places like these.

@MrSridharMurthy

2 жыл бұрын

You have a heart! ❤

@olgatellomorrow5898

2 жыл бұрын

Vert true , there is something very wrong here in America and other countries the way they treat the elderly and sometime ways to Children's the babysitters some of the people who take yours the elderly or the children are awful abusers😢

@--Skip--

2 жыл бұрын

American care homes are barbaric. They starve the patients so they are not heavy to move. When they are a bit of trouble, a morphine injection sends them to the undertaker for cremation.

@CroisMoi

2 жыл бұрын

It is not “we”. It is the facilities that hire these animals with no skills. If they spent more money on staff, they would get better results. It is all about profit.

@linanicolia1363

2 жыл бұрын

One thing you can do is to give them a voice and let them decide....I am pretty sure they want to get the Hell out of their ailing , decrepit bodies. Try to see their side and NOT yours.....They really want OUT !!!!!! death is the freedom of the soul.....the body has become a burden. Why promote that ? You have been mislead to feel , you have to maintain a shell that no longer can handle the soul, trapped in it ????? Think how you would feel if it were you !!!!

The journalist wife is absolutely what true love is all about. She MOVED to Thailand to be near her husband. This is soooooo wonderful.

My mom isn't going anywhere. She's staying with me.

@tfernando5580

3 жыл бұрын

Same as mine. Disgraceful Westerners for doing this to their elderly. I am glad Thailand is providing them a home

@lynxlynx8125

3 жыл бұрын

@@tfernando5580 mine staying at home with me as well. Time for me to return their care. Oh and I am westerner.

@justanothersmith6012

3 жыл бұрын

As long as nothing happens to you . Don’t break any limbs. Don’t get cancer. Don’t get in any auto accidents. Don’t lose your vision . It’s admirable & I was able to have my dad with me his last 7 months , only because my husband was willing to stay by his side at night. We still had kids in elementary school and my dad got up all night long. He forgot he couldn’t walk and would fall if someone wasn’t right there. God bless my husband . The credit all goes to him.

@jingerjar1365

3 жыл бұрын

Would u like to adopt me? 71 still perfect

@lithium8847

3 жыл бұрын

Same as mine if parents can take. Care 10 kids how come 10 kids cant take care of their parents its sad parents live revolve around their children but when they grow their worlds only rovlve around them

I’m proud to be an AFRICAN. We live with our parents and grandparents no matter what.

@sontayatoemsook1266

3 жыл бұрын

sounds like hell

@peepypeepysan4082

3 жыл бұрын

Yes this is not part of us, I am proud to say I was with both parents when they passed my Dad passed first then a year later my Mum she was my hearttrob and my Son was with her all through that journey he had the best of love and care for her that her passing devastated him for years he's healing now but the memories a such a joy of recollection for him. RIP Mamaa💗

@alflerran3536

3 жыл бұрын

We live without our parents and are proud giving eachother the freedom to decide over our lifestyles ourselves. We support eachother in need, but are proud when it is not necessary.

@bahdembo1171

3 жыл бұрын

@@sontayatoemsook1266 yes! To you

@sontayatoemsook1266

3 жыл бұрын

Africans are easily proud

I am American. I purposely came home from California to Pennsylvania to be with and take care of my mother at 79. She lived comfortably in my home. We experienced great medical care and wonderful loving doctors. At the end, we had in-home care from hospice. Her primary care doctor came to see her, sat on her bed and told her how much she loved her. Mom lived to 99.7...just short of 100! She died peacefully holding my hand. I would have it no other way...It was a Gift!

@erinmcdonald7781

2 жыл бұрын

You were fortunate. My mom is currently caregiver for my dad, and they live with my brother. They've had a devil of a time getting decent doctors and appropriate care in a timely fashion. Not to mention all the crazy co-pays. My father really should be in a 24/7 care situation, as my mother is frail and beginning to lose some faculties, however, there's been nothing reasonable that they could find so far. We need healthcare reform badly in this country.

@steveclinton4084

Жыл бұрын

Hello Elizabeth how are you doing hope you’re doing well, I’m sorry about your mom she’s gonna be okay leave your faith in God

@Starfish2145

Жыл бұрын

You had an unusual experience

My 90 year old grandmother lived with us when I was aged 6-14. she was an alcoholic and verbally/physically abusive. I never forget the day my father needed to physically restrain her from attacking my mother. She had a huge bruise around her wrist where my father had grabbed her arm. She wasn’t a frail granny. She was strong and aggressive. We were terrified of her as kids. It took us years to get her into a care home as she refused and lied and would play sane for the assessment team. Eventually she played up in front of one of the assessors and they saw what she could be like, which validated everything we had said. Some old people are just mean and aggressive and cannot be cared for by their own children. It’s life

@LilMan-bj8wx

2 жыл бұрын

I am a retired Nurse and I refuse to care for my Mother-in-law of over 40 yrs. My husband agrees! It's hard to honor those whom honor is not due. It would bring me great joy to wipe my parent's butts if they were alive today! I envy those who have loving parents to care for.

@cindiloowhoo1166

2 ай бұрын

Perhaps with some dementia or whatever disease processes, the person becomes quite belligerent, stays angry and can become dangerous to themselves or those around them. That does not necessarily follow that they were mean and nasty before they became ill, or that they were not cared for in a loving, caring manner. Various Behaviorial filters simply vanish. When my gramma or her sister got an idea in their head, come hell or high water they were going to do it; if they had to take you down, so be it. They can be astonishingly strong. I agree American Care Homes pretty much suck. It is a sad, wretched situation for all; not everyone has funds, family members or facilities to cope. May The Good Lord Have Mercy On Us All ~~~

@lwedel3361

2 ай бұрын

@@cindiloowhoo1166 For sure. Dementia is just so so sad. My gran would go for a wander around the neighbourhood and decide it was her day to be with God lol. She would find the nicest flower patch and have a sleep in it. Several times the cops had to drag her out and bring her home haha. Indeed. I am thankful for God's patience and mercy and grace.

The lady who moved to Thailand to be with her husband, showed true love, made me cry x

@momurda6

3 жыл бұрын

I guarantee you people said she was a gold digger earlier in life. Jokes on them.

@bettywith2girls

3 жыл бұрын

I'm surprised tho why they don't live together in Thailand, adding a caregiver when she needs help or an evening out with her friends? Why is she living almost right next to him in a separate place yet only comes to "visit" him and lives a separate life? Shows she loves him, but it's odd, don't you think?

@rozhang7353

2 жыл бұрын

She stated that place gives her ability to be his wife…

@sofiachampion2543

2 жыл бұрын

You can’t be both. Chose wife or care giver.

@sofiachampion2543

2 жыл бұрын

I love Thailand.

So sad Westerners can keep dogs cats etc but not their parents.

@kamsanihusain9761

3 жыл бұрын

@bluebe11a No excuse for not taking care of ur parents during their late age regardless what are their condition. They have done so much sacrifed to bring u up until where u are now. Don't forget retribution will come later. One day ur kids will do the same as what u did.

@earthsigngirl

3 жыл бұрын

@bluebe11a everything seems hard when ur not sincere. Me personaly think Is better to send parent to carehome , instead of keeping then abusing them in some cases. But as an asian i still choose to take care of them. Dementia or not, theyr still ur parent.

@lejlaj876

3 жыл бұрын

@@potatoO0o they may have Dementia, but they are not an "elderly demented person". Having that sort of mindset is part of the problem. Yes, there are some people in awful financial circumstances who truly cannot afford to live on one income and have one to stay at home with the parent/grandparent with Dementia, but it also can't be denied that there has seeped in a mentality in many western countries where elderly people simply are not honoured anymore. Families are being brainwashed by nursing home providers and governments to see the elderly as just some "helpless infants" instead of treating them with much respect, dignity, and honour.

@potatoO0o

3 жыл бұрын

@@lejlaj876 you're talking out of your ass. People with dementia need 24/7 care. Who's supposed to take care of them when their family is at work? Who? People in western counties work, hence their higher standards of living. When I was a student I helped a family with a demented elderly. She almost set her house on fire when she was left alone in earlier stages while her family was at work. She went out and didn't know how to return. Then I volunteered to help her while her family was away. A few months later she went to a retirement home and they were all happier. She had company 24/7 and her family wasn't worried sick while they weren't home. People need to take care of themselves as well, taking care of people with dementia is both physically and psychologically demanding, especially in western countries where everyone also has a job.

@lejlaj876

3 жыл бұрын

@@potatoO0o not sure what you are being so aggressive about. Is it common in your country to use foul speech like tell people they are "talking out of their ...."? My guess is that you come from America because only American talk in such awful manner to strangers. Do you know how to talk civilly? In my comment I actually agreed with you that in some cases people cannot afford to look after the elder full-time so I am not sure why you have glossed over this? And the fact that "everyone" in the household in western countries are forced to work full-time jobs in order to make ends meet...do you not see this as a problem that the society has been set up in such a way that everyone is now corporate slaves? And yes, people must be in a psychologically good place to look after loved ones with Dementia, with support if necessary. I never thought/said otherwise. However, in western countries there is now also too much reliance purely on psychologists instead of communities helping one another.

He’s right : the respect of the elderly in the East is something that we can learn from.

@mariemiller8740

2 ай бұрын

We always respected the elderly I'm in my early 60s but no elderly went to a home unless they had dementia and family couldnt look after them

@kibblenbits

2 ай бұрын

That's ridiculous. It happen's in the East as well as the West. Look up and read about the elderly in China, who are left on their own, living in cage apartment's.

This is beautiful. I've spent many years caring for the elderly - many of them Alzheimer's patients. I've seen abuse in American nursing homes. And I've seen very pitiful situations where elderly live in unattended squalor at home. Eastern culture tends to treat the elderly with great respect. I love this.

@user-lvqk2wdp8sjn

2 жыл бұрын

Well, the times they are a changing (at least in Japan, Korea, China), "thanks" to urbanization, globalization, modernization, Westernization (But the East is also working on robots and AI to cope with this).

@oliviastar3812

2 жыл бұрын

@@user-lvqk2wdp8sjn sad to hear that; seems westernisation is rot.

@firehorse66elaine

2 жыл бұрын

and how do you know they will not be neglected or abused in Thailand? Especially since it seems most of their families will not be living there to keep an eye out for them?

@kevinbadalkar9740

2 жыл бұрын

Mary Ellen. Being Indian myself, I can vouch that ostensibly it is true that we Asians traditionally tended to take care of elderly ourselves but this was about 30-40 years ago in the age when most Asian (esp Indian) families tended to be extended and big (minimum 7-8 family members with most of them adult). As families have gotten smaller and nuclear, this is no longer the case even in India. I can assure you the abuse and other horrors at nursing homes exist over here too and dedicated compassionate people are difficult to find here too. Ultimately, this is really going to be a long-term disaster in 15-20 years worldwide. While we have to take care of the unfortunate people who already have dementia, I think there is no doubt the real solution is to both find a medical solution if possible to the problem and also try to prevent it as best though dementia is a really tricky situation. Its not a relatively simple disease like even heart disease, kidney disease etc. We don't know the etiology of the disease really at all.

@sobeliever1638

2 жыл бұрын

@@oliviastar3812 Not all of it. Given how the East treats and values menmore than women and the differnece in how they treat thoses with disabilties it is not exactly free from issues as well

I'm gonna want to have my mom and dad with me no matter their age, they've fed me, showered me, helped me walk when I was younger. The best I can do is the same when they get older.

@karenmorris2239

2 жыл бұрын

God bless you ! I look after my mother and she’s 100 and I’m her sole caregiver, I have no siblings, She has dementia and it isn’t easy it’s a 24 seven job. You really have to find a way to survive it and have any time at all as your own. God bless you for wanting to do this. It’s by grace alone that I can do it. But I know I miss my mother when she’s gone, and I’ll know I couldn’t do anything better than I’m doing making her life as lovely as possible.

@taminy2051

2 жыл бұрын

I made sure not to take care of my parents. They weren’t particular good parents and I don’t feel the need to be a particularly good daughter.

@josephinewayan9719

2 жыл бұрын

And God will bless you.

@karenmorris2239

2 жыл бұрын

@@josephinewayan9719 God bless you Josephine🤗

@yenchu1237

2 жыл бұрын

@@taminy2051 I totally understand your choice.

I lived in Chang Mai and I would be very happy to be put in a care home there. Thai people are kind, respectful of their elders, and patient. They couldn't be in a better place.

@judymckee5992

3 жыл бұрын

Elizabeth Scott, I come from Malaysia and lived in the USA. I told my husband , we will lived in Chang Mai and have carers there, in our old age.

@kaycee2396

3 жыл бұрын

@@walkersmith2791 huh?

@walkersmith2791

3 жыл бұрын

@@kaycee2396 u feel meh? Knomsayn

@kaycee2396

3 жыл бұрын

@@walkersmith2791 no. i don't. pls explain.

@sparx180

3 жыл бұрын

Elizabeth Scott I absolutely agree. So sad when you hear about abuse, which I know is common place in the west. Asian countries treat their elderly so much better than westerners.

When I briefly worked in a nursing home, one of the hardest things was the pain and confusion the patients suffered, wanting to go home, but not feeling at home anywhere.

@oliviastar3812

2 жыл бұрын

I've seen that too and also noticed how many with adult children were hardly ever or even never visited by their family; if they did visit, they had no empathy and just came & went once in a blue moon. Then there was the abusive night staff who at best were disrespectful of elderly people and stole from them (clothes, etc); it was quite an education.

@throttle4593

2 жыл бұрын

@@oliviastar3812 Heartbreaking.

@lynnjudd9036

Жыл бұрын

I hear you. Been there, seen that and I agree that is the sadest part of nursing home work.

I just moved in with my Mom. I consider it a privilege to be able to care for her. I also am a nurse; and these people look great, they have been very well cared for. The caregivers are using the perfect approach; they are so gentle and that is absolutely what dementia patients need.

@prestonsmith9824

Жыл бұрын

Hello Lazy, Greetings from Preston is very sad to see old people being treated badly I agree with your comment thank God there is a place like this. How about you, how are you doing hope you are fine and staying safe, where are you from home you don't mind me asking.

I used to work in a nursing home it was incredibly depressing. This place is literally paradise compare to the soul sucking place I was working at.

@eara8426

3 жыл бұрын

I'm a CNA, and I understand what you're saying. The nursing home does not care about hiring more workers in order to assist the vulnerable patients.

@georgiamanu6353

3 жыл бұрын

@@eara8426 it's not just hiring more workers but it's the fact that these environments do not breed any type of happiness.

@eara8426

3 жыл бұрын

@@georgiamanu6353 The facility only cares about saving money while leaving staff with not enough workers, and I believe that's what create an uncaring environment.

@wiamhaddani

3 жыл бұрын

@@eara8426 nursing homes are also over-regulated. you can't try anything new that you might breach some CQC regulation. if you try some sort of craft activity and someone hurt their selves you are in trouble. also in the UK not even kids have a healthy outdoor life/activity, how could elderly with dementia or Alzheimer and all other multi chronic diseases?

@ummesalma1037

3 жыл бұрын

@@wiamhaddani maybe this is what needs to change..maybe there needs to be more real talk not just between policy makers but also the actual family..why don't the West reach out to others who are doing better and take some learning points ...it helps everyone..the management, the patients and the families.. Also only people are serious about caring for dementia patients should be taken in..they should be paid more, the the work load is more difficult ..these palaces are making enough, the issues is how poorly it's managed and how much it's ending up in curroption. My best friend and her husband have a very caring facility..they treat the elders with respect and care..when the old people glow, the families can see they in the right place..even families can't give that kind of care due to not having the right recourses...better to have a better care system than to throw parents in any care system of it comes to that..but children should make more effort to visit..there needs to be some balance of this root is taken.

I pulled my 89 year old mom out of the nursing home during COVID to live with me because she was crying and begging me to rescue her.There are an abundance of MEAN and LAZY nursing home nurses here in the midwest and I've met way too many of them.

@martika324

3 жыл бұрын

Plus the smell in those facilities.....sooooo gross!

@michellegordon4211

3 жыл бұрын

sad to say, but often nursing homes are the last option for nurses who can't cut it in a more "professional" setting. there are lots of angry, barely-making-it staff in these places with some very disturbing personal histories...

@susannebergstrom9129

3 жыл бұрын

@@michellegordon4211 as a retired RN I agree, and dont just look at the caregivers, but management and owners set the standards.

@peachion2

3 жыл бұрын

In America, facilities are understaffed by poorly trained, low paid staff. I am a home health aid. It is hard work, low pay, little or no benefits. I won’t work in a facility. This looks like a great option. I wouldn’t mind going there.

@ivoted-5489

3 жыл бұрын

Here’s a reason... “Lawyers were suing nursing homes because they knew the companies were worth billions of dollars, so we made the companies smaller and poorer, and lawsuits have diminished.” medicareadvocacy.org/who-owns-nursing-facilities-and-why/

The lack of honour, respect and dignity given to so many of our valuable elders across the world is a complete disgrace of humanity. I had the honour of caring for my dad in his last days and i feel blessed to have spent this time with him and to have the opportunity to give to him love and care like he had given me throughout my life, our world needs to fully realize the value our elders bring to society.

Being a full-time carer for a dementia sufferer is the hardest thing you'll ever do. We have taken care of my cousin at home for five years until she began to have extremely violent fits and would climb out of a window to roam the woods. After six weeks in a psychiatric-geriatric hospital, after the last episode where she destroyed her room, a locked behavioral memory care unit had an opening. They have the ability to use chemical restraints as needed for her safety and the safety of others. We had to face the fact that we couldn't keep her safe. It's sad because even her slightly lucid moments had disappeared entirely. The progression of dementia is unpredictable and no case is exactly the same. The western world is not ready for the explosion in numbers of an aging population with an increasing percentage of dementia.

@jeanlanz2344

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this extremely difficult situation with your cousin and your extreme dedication. I'm sorry. God bless you and her.

Nothing wrong with going to Thailand for proper care, but I think their spouses should live there as well. Seems crazy to drop off a loved one 10,000 miles away.

@mikewizoski7593

3 жыл бұрын

I think he has to work Switzerland dollars or pension to pay the Thailand services

@suen5006

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe they need to work to support their spouse. Not always possible to do it remotely.

@seanryan5005

3 жыл бұрын

They have three children who still need one parent. I am a care worker and I get what your saying. But people with dementia forget those they love. And as it was said on here, sometimes they can even cause more distress to them as they know they should remember them but they can’t. I have many residents who’s family live minutes away and still don’t visit. I think this is a brave but amazing decision to make for your loved one. I work night shifts and 4 of us care for 38 people. Here 4 people care for 1 person round the clock. That’s a no brainier.

@kateboy7

3 жыл бұрын

Alzheimer’s... she probably can’t remember who her family is. 😞, that is the pain of dementia.

@luv2dancesalsa

3 жыл бұрын

hopefully you noticed that that is EXACTLY what the one couple did... they were both journalists... now he's at the resort and she's writing a book... and they brought their dog... so they are together... until the end... bittersweet story.

My dad got Alzheimer's in 2007. I quit my job to care for him because I couldn't bare to put him in a home. It was the most difficult 4 years of my life but I loved him more than any human and I would do it again. Care homes here are horrible. I wouldn't mind Thailand!

@infinitecanadian

3 жыл бұрын

It is difficult to watch out for someone 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

@LuluFrance

3 жыл бұрын

100% agree. I had 7 yrs of full-time in my care; and I'd have jumped at a place like this in Thailand. The care homes in the west are horrendous, my father was in three but none could cope with him, nor were they happy places. I'd suggest anyone who judges harshly on the decision to go to care homes like that above, hasn't been through this experience. It's difficult no matter what one does.

@infinitecanadian

3 жыл бұрын

@JAN III SOBIESKI That is unfortunate.

@kosongkanaku6810

3 жыл бұрын

May god bless you, its difficult at first, when you realize test from, its direct lesson from god, difficulty came from god as lesson, change easy by god, when you awake and do right responsibility to god creature that god made just for you, God made the man and woman just for your soul be place, its just creature you should take care until your soul be calling back to the one, to summarize experience, soul came alone and back alone, you doing right to care of your father no matter how, the true love is behind all this.. once back to love one dont be sad, and you following to love one the creator all of us. Just sparately when came to world temporary, we born in different culture to let knowing each other not be less knowing cause by border, war, raciest, before we be knowing, be called, we invisible as one and soon will back to one leaving all..

@ghitahansen7798

3 жыл бұрын

Jeg passede os min mor til hun ikke var her mere. Det var hårdt til tider da jeg var helt alene om det men ville ikke ha undværet det....

If you're a parent yourself, one advantage of taking care of your own parents is that your own children get to have a deeper relationship with their grandparents. One of my best memories as a child is having grown up with my grandparents. That experience stays with you forever, and we want our children to experience the same

@chrisparrish6229

Жыл бұрын

Setting a good example for your children!

When I was young, I worked in a care facility and saw many abuses. Nursing homes are understaffed, but the aides were expected to get all their work done, which was impossible, so they lie on their charting. We all had to. If we told the truth, we'd get in trouble for not getting our work done. Looking back, it is painful to know that we could not give these beautiful old human beings what they deserved. Because I am low income, I truly fear being put in a home. I could not imagine being taken to a better place. In America, people's choices are few. When and if I get unable to care for myself, I would love to have my last days in such a beautiful place as Thailand! Even if I was aware of my surroundings and could not understand a word. Love is more important than words.

Our parents took care of us while we were little. As children we must take care of our parents when they are old. They need love in their twilight years.

@Flourish_today

3 жыл бұрын

Tell that to western children.

@moondog7694

3 жыл бұрын

@@Flourish_today Asian children need to be taught to respect animals, strangers, gays, people of other races, people of other religions. They only care about their own family members. That's why their rates of organ donation and blood donation and veganism are so low compared to western children. They don't donate money to animal shelters or wildlife refuges or apply to veterinary schools when they are living in the west, even though they make more money and have higher rates of university education than the western natives do. They only care about their own kinship group. SerpentZA has made many videos about this. Go read Jayman's blog article "The Rise of Universalism". Go read up on cousin marriage and the Hajnal Line on HBD Chick's blog.

@sanjeevsharma6386

3 жыл бұрын

Totally agree with you.

@nellycious1692

3 жыл бұрын

@@toxicwaste920 i understand your pain and no, my parents didnt abandon me but my dad made my life miserable.....but still its not an excuse to not care for them even if he or she abandoned me. Don't repay evil with evil bc you will breed more evil. Bc what you do to them you will get back even if you were good to your children bc you sowed a seed of neglect. Pls be kind to them bc it will give you nothing but peace in your old age.❤❤❤

@nellycious1692

3 жыл бұрын

@The Aphotic Cacophony of Merry Epiphanies lol. Yea i know...but still take care of them. Be better for yourself and your future.

My mother RIP stayed with me until the last moment. She was 97.

@paulemboy6066

3 жыл бұрын

She was very old and died in a good old age. I’m so sorry for the lost of your mother hopefully she can enjoy staying in the paradise peacefully forever.

@ajl2232

3 жыл бұрын

I am glad she lived to old age. I am sure youre doing well now knowing she has lived a long life.

@davlatmoy7310

3 жыл бұрын

I wish for you dear that you children will do the same for you. God bless you dear.

@baniavedillo1818

3 жыл бұрын

same with me. my mom passed away just 2 weeks ago and i miss her. weve been living together for 60 yrs

@antoanetaslavescu2086

3 жыл бұрын

@@baniavedillo1818 I miss Her every day. Her memory stays so fresh in my mind, and my love for her is with me always. 😢

I've been trying to tell friends about this. I did a paper in college about nursing homes in America. It is an absolute nightmare. Staff not replacing the sheets and elders left there rotting in urine. Staff throwing elders to their bed. Just brutal. It is really inhumane. In Asia, people treat elders like human beings. They talk to the elders and listen. And this is the most important part. It is the human to human exchange. They treat elders like their distant grandmother's. Very personal and caring. America is an absolute nightmare. Even a high cost facility in America don't give you this kind of care like in Thailand.

@imveryhungry112

Жыл бұрын

The teenagers here in the USA look at 55 and 65 year olds and just dismiss them by saying , OK BOOMER. Imagine how must worse they treat them when they get 75 or 85!!!

@itsablessingbeinganamerica1401

2 ай бұрын

Try working at these homes and you can imagine elderly neglect and abandonment.

The Philippines should have one or more like this caring facilities. Filipinos are English speakers, have soft heart and respectful of elderlies, and will feel blessed to have this kind of job in the Philippines, without having to go abroad.

@pipipupu5104

Жыл бұрын

It will make Phillipines a more tourist freindly place

@subotaiKhan

Жыл бұрын

Philippines need better infrastructure first before that can happen.

@marinefrod7685

Жыл бұрын

Yes, so that they won't be away from their families to go to middle eastern countries just to be abused and be underpaid.

@jon_nomad

Жыл бұрын

Philippines should improve it's own social welfare and economy first before embarking on this endeavor.

@i-am-your-conscience

7 ай бұрын

@@subotaiKhan There are enoug places where the infrastructure is already working quite well. And there are already such homes. I know of at least two in Cebu and Iloilo. Also the workforce is there, mostly overqualified, with an degree even, for a job as elder care, where in the western world almost no elder care worker has even studied.

50 years old with alzimers wow that's so young

@letsgetsocialinfo

3 жыл бұрын

@Rusty ok thanks

@prettyme3150

3 жыл бұрын

@Rusty It's so true. I'm a pharmacist. Many years ago, during my time in pharmacy school, I learnt about the side effects of some drugs, which I'm surprised are approved for use. Statin and daily oral contraceptives are one of them, and I resolved never to take them. The side effects are overwhelming but remain unknown to common people.

@missqt48

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe if people would be responsible for their aging parents, the same way those parents did when they were children, you can easily monitor things like drugs prescription. Drugs alter the brain, that is most likely why he has Alzheimer’s at such a young age. This disease is very rare in Africa.. I wonder why.

@esmeraldagreen1992

3 жыл бұрын

@@missqt48 I think because people there eat natural food that they prepare fresh every day, without preservatives and pesticides hormones and unnecessary antibiotics and flavor enhancers and so on

@heatherbeane3234

3 жыл бұрын

I took care of a farmer at a care center that was diagnosed with dementia at the age of 45-47

My mum used to say, "When I get old and decrepit, don't put me in a home, just push me over a cliff." She passed away in hospital, after keeping her illness a secret. She didn't want to be saved - she had had enough. She was 71.

@jo-annemuise470

3 жыл бұрын

She was NOT going into a "home" .. she did it her way... God love her !

@DulceN

3 жыл бұрын

I have the same way of thinking, I prefer to die instead of being in a nursing home depending on strangers.

@barbaras6792

3 жыл бұрын

I have filled out and signed a form, saying I do not want any extraordinary resuscitation and wish to be allowed to die, if my quality of life is impaired. I have given a copy to my daughter and to my doctor. I feel better for doing this, because I know I will not be dependant if my health goes.

@katalincatchpolenefister8954

3 жыл бұрын

Bless 🤗

@oliviastar3812

2 жыл бұрын

@@barbaras6792 Please see Ray Comfort's videos on YT then.

My mom is now in a nursing home very close to me. I'm the only one left and it got to the point I could no longer care for her without ending up in the hospital myself. I bring her home for day visits. I go spend time with her there. I've decorated her room to make it a bright, happy place. The key is checking in often. I'm very grateful they love my mom and take great care of her. It's not as simple as the statement OP posted. If I'm not ok, mom won't be ok and she needs me. There are thousands of reasons this statement isn't realistic or fair. Capitalism doesn't give is the ability to care for our older family.

@erinmcdonald7781

2 жыл бұрын

Your last sentence! I believe part of the reason we don't have compassionate care for our elderly is the value our society places on profit. Literally everything that's done in our culture is done in relation to money: How much does it cost? How much would it cost? What can we make off of it? How can we save money? Who can do it for less? And so on..... As someone who's struggled to have enough to make ends meet, I find this type of existence to be soul sucking. Hopefully I'll be able to find something better, that we'll find a way to do better.

@faithrada

2 жыл бұрын

@@erinmcdonald7781 ANY system is only as good as its components of course. The problem, which does not seem fair somehow, is that a few "Bad Apples" can contaminate the whole barrel. It does SEEM as though humanity is doomed simply because we, as a group, never seem to LEARN from our mistakes. We might have better "toys" these days but our fundamental INABILITY to consistently chose .. AS A SOCIETY.. THAT which is GOOD and DECENT, HONORABLE, JUST, and Compassionate over petty self interests and greed has doomed us to perpetual failure and suffering. Basically, the human race appears incapable of moving forward in any meaningful, lasting way. I blame it partly on our Tribal mental which pits one group against another... creating "enemies" where NONE exist. As long as ANY human believes that they are fundamentally BETTER than any other human being... then as humans, we will never move to the next level of existence. From time to time a rare human soul may well make the LEAP from animal ego mind to Divine Mind... but they will not, can not lift humanity up with them. Those great eternal BEings such as Jesus, Krishna, The Buddha ( all simply different forms of THAT Same Divine ONE), have shown that most are incapable of following the simplest of instructions.... Love others as yourselves. That one simple teaching could set them free... and yet humanity is incapable of doing it. It is the ego's fault... that ego which convinces us that we are EITHER Better than another... OR, just as damaging. . LESSER than another. Because of this 'false' ego we BELIEVE that we are somehow DIFFERENT from one another... when at our core essence.. where it actually matters.. we are EXACTLY THE SAME.

@erinmcdonald7781

2 жыл бұрын

@@faithrada Wow. A profound, yet simple answer. What you say is true. On the whole we can be quite a disappointing species. It is probably also true that this would fly right over the heads of a number of people with this attitude. What I hope is that we can push the numbers living the golden rule, or Beau of the Fifth Column's Rule 303, where if you see a need, do something (paraphrased), to outnumber the others, thus gradually improving the situation. To me, there are enough people with heart in our world to justify hope. I hold no illusions, though. Things aren't going to go easy, or smoothly. All we can do is what we're able accomplish. Whether that's enough, only time will tell.

@faithrada

2 жыл бұрын

@@erinmcdonald7781 I agree with your approach... to at least make an effort is a worthy endeavor. I suspect however that the only ones capable of rising above the fray... will be those who selflessly strive to better humanity. So.. it will happen... one soul at a time. Then again ... THAT which we are exists in the Eternal.. sooo patience wins the day. 😉

@erinmcdonald7781

2 жыл бұрын

@@faithrada Truth! It will likely take more time than I have, but this is for the rising generations as well. Also, I agree there's more than just this existence. I'm guessing there will be some surprises, and hoping there will be new vistas.

What I found the best, was that the carers can stay in Thailand and be near their families. The UK woman was in denial. I lived in the UK and the vast majority of carers in the system are foreigners. So much for language being vital. Love is through gestures, just like with children. Carers who bond with their patients know what they need. I worked in care in France, in a dementia hospital.

@nancyrandall1762

Жыл бұрын

I agree about language; I lived in Thailand and while I did learn a bit of the language, more important was the way I felt accepted and loved by those around me, as a teacher, a friend and a neighbor. Language is wonderful and ideal if one speaks what others do, but it's not an absolute necessity. Thais are wonderfully warm and have an atittute towards everyone of acceptance and warmth. Great people and so happy for those who have been fortunate to find this type of care. Some day I will probably need it and now I know where I will ask my children to send me.

My mum NEVER went to care home! ( DESPITE THE DOCTORS ADVICE) Yes, I live in the UK and put everything on hold to take care of her! She is mine! RIP mum! I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU!

@Samira-su9xp

3 жыл бұрын

This is the way it should be. RIP to your mother

@annalafayette838

3 жыл бұрын

God bless you❤️

@flourishingme7208

3 жыл бұрын

Bravery

@inerit5175

3 жыл бұрын

@@annalafayette838 Amen! And God bless you too!

@paquitaelmaestro1576

3 жыл бұрын

💜💜💜

I hope I never have to put my mother in an old-age home. May God give me the strength and the circumstances to care for her till her last breath. Ameen.

@cherylkemp8954

3 жыл бұрын

When it comes you'll know - God Bless you.

@cynthiahju2678

3 жыл бұрын

Amen🙏👍

@mamanature4992

3 жыл бұрын

Ameen

@ohsohkhim8780

3 жыл бұрын

Amen

@marietaylor5174

3 жыл бұрын

I was hoping that as well but it didn't turn out that way.

Great decision!! They have nursing home too in the Philippines. My aunt moved to the Philippines (registered nurse) to hire a 24 hour nurse to care for my uncle who also suffered from dimentia and alzheimer. They sold everything in California and decided to permanently moved to the Philippines. Now, my uncle and aunt are both peaceful. Closer to their families too.

@prestonsmith9824

Жыл бұрын

Hello Beth, Greetings from Preston is very sad to see old people being treated badly I agree with your comment thank God there is a place like this. How about you, how are you doing hope you are fine and staying safe, where are you from home you don't mind me asking.

My mom went into a nursing home a bit over a week ago. It's a very bad place. She's post stroke and I was told she needed 24 hour care if she was to come home with me instead; at over $10k monthly I feel like there weren't any other options. At least at the nursing home she will get consistent rehab and I hope she gets well quickly. However everything else about it is horrible. Unclean conditions, missing full/entire days of giving her her blood pressure meds; it's been stressful and I can't imagine how all of this makes her feel. God bless everyone here that commented that they were honored and enjoyed their time being a caregiver. I must be in the minority in that although I want the best for my mom I am a bit horrified of the potential stress, commitment, possible safety issues that could happen, getting along, etc., after she does need to come to a home environment after she's done with rehab in the nursing home. I am her only and sole source of any type of support and I'm quite fearful. I know God doesn't give us a spirit of fear but it's hard thinking about all of the potential upcoming life changes. Again; I admire all that have happily been caretakers for family, friends and other loved ones...you are a source of motivation for me.

@deborahriley7212

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🏼❤

@jadexplores2100

Жыл бұрын

@@icequeenspits Can you send me $4000 a month indefinitely for part time home care? Please tell me that is what you are going to do since you are apparently more concerned about my mothers welfare than I am. That would help a bit as I’d still have to find several thousand more dollars for full time care but I could probably make do with $4k. Because you just have missed the point where I mentioned how much all of this costs to bring her home. There is NO other support and I would have to bathe her, dress her, toilet her, take her to appointments, do exercises with her, prepare meals, clean up the incontinence accidents that happen almost daily, all while working a 50 hour work week. And can you come to watch her for me when I have to travel for work? Or at least find and pay for the care that’s needed anytime I have to do so? Do you even know how the system works for poor people who live in the US who end up having a stroke or some other unfortunate accident that leaves them needing 24 hour care? Unless you have the family support to take turns caring for that person in the home (doing all of the things I just mentioned) and/or the money for someone else to do it, you are screwed. I cannot bring her home right now and still work. I will lose my job caring for her. I literally moved states they day after I found out she had a stroke in order to be closer to her. I am talking to attorneys, have hired a social worker and I’m constantly at the nursing home being her only advocate. I literally had no choice of the home she got sent to after discharge-it was the only nursing home with a bed available that would take her because she has no insurance, no Medicaid, no house or assets or income or job or money whatsoever. That’s what landed us here and that is why I’m complaining about the nursing home..because I DO care and I want to get her out of there! As bad as the situation is I’m working every day to try to find a better home for her. Of course I wish she could come home with me but I am not trained to provide her with the level of supervision and care she needs and I love her too much to take a decision of bringing her home and ‘not’ being able to care for her like she needs lightly. This is a very serious and complex situation that you just jumped to conclusions about with literally 0 details. Try harder next time not to judge situations when you’re not the one that’s actually in them. SMH

@jadexplores2100

Жыл бұрын

@@icequeenspits Also go back and read my post. Where did I say I was her only child? I said I was her only source of support. She has another child. My sibling will not contact her..not even one time since the stroke. That sibling knows how hard it is dealing with someone like my mom who is very depressed, irritable, argumentative and likes to complain and even yell. She can’t help it and it’s not fun at all dealing with someone who has these issues but I am here trying to find a better home for her because despite all of this as I wouldn’t abandon her in the way my sibling has. And don’t get me wrong; I’m not even that mad at my sibling because this is not an easy thing to do at all and dealing with the personality issues makes it SO so much harder so I don’t even blame them really for disappearing in the middle of all of this.

Shocking to see those fragile elders being treated so bad, bless the Asians who keep there parents with them

@alexcarter8807

3 жыл бұрын

It's as simple as that - Confucianism vs. hyper-individualism. I am white-passing and grew up in US white culture and it sucks - no one cares about anyone.

@sylviabriggs4087

3 жыл бұрын

Alex Carter, but you care and I care and that's what matters, x

@november132

3 жыл бұрын

Slavic countries also don't dump the elderly in care homes

@Dachdogoriginal

3 жыл бұрын

It is good that they only work 6 hour shifts. That keeps them from getting burned out. And they get the best care. Some people here say that they don't want to put their parents in a care home. They're keeping them at home. But I would caution that you need help. One person can not do it all and not have a support system. It is a LOT emotionally and physically. So have a respite plan. This is nice. But I think the family needs to be around too. Not 10,000 miles away.

@desertmoonlee6631

3 жыл бұрын

Asian and middle eastern in general countries that still believe in values and old fashion

I’m actually in tears watching this. To see people with dementia have such a quality of life and excellent care. We have to send our loved ones 10,000 miles away to achieve this!

@mrrobot4840

3 жыл бұрын

you can take care of them at your home do you think that they want to live 10000 miles away from you?

@marietaylor5174

3 жыл бұрын

@@mrrobot4840 they don't know where they're living.

@birdgirl1516

3 жыл бұрын

If they live with you, there are sooo many wonderful home care nurses who can help to give breaks to caregivers or while you’re at work. There is also what’s called “companion care” in America. There are options...

@emandem3088

3 жыл бұрын

@@birdgirl1516 Unless you have more than one with equal or more intensive care required. The point being you don’t know what else the caregivers had on their plate. I have 3; husband with chronic and life threatening disease, daughter-in-law with chronic and life threatening disease, autistic grandchild. Soon decisions will have to be made as I age and the ones requiring care age as well. Where would you have these loved ones go? If they are cared for, safe and happy, I would be more than happy to look at options as I get to the point of requiring care myself.

@trizahmacharia2939

3 жыл бұрын

Em Andem I guess yr parents cared for y'all when yr growing and y'all had different needs!

It's wonderful how the Thailand people really take such wonderful care of elderly

@christinaphillips5933

Жыл бұрын

In front of the camera

@elizabethtobin6894

Жыл бұрын

They are not all wonderful.

@magdapatriciaromerorimoldi5751

Жыл бұрын

Mmm.. la familia ..

@alislomeatanael8581

Жыл бұрын

I can care them because I love them

I looked after my father full time for the last 3 years of his life ( I was in my early 20’s at the time). It was difficult but I wouldn’t have done anything less for him. I think my kids would want to do the same for me but I would not want them to suffer. I became disabled at 54 with a form of GBS that left me a quadriplegic. I have fought back yo being able to live independantly but I would not want them to spend 20-30 years looking after me in their home. I’d go to Thailand in a heartbeat if that was an affordable option.

@faithrada

2 жыл бұрын

I hear you. Plus I would not want to extend my life through extra measures and have all my hard earned savings be eaten up by medical expenses. I'd much rather have something left for my children to inherit. God knows it's hard enough for honest, hard working young people to make ends meet these days.

@Jaydaydesign

2 жыл бұрын

@@faithrada luckily for me we live in Australia where we can access free/cheap basic healthcare that will not bankrupt the citizens. I know that this is sadly not the case in places like the US.

@alicewangari1302

2 жыл бұрын

​@@Jaydaydesign hey how are you

@prestonsmith9824

Жыл бұрын

Hello There, Guest! Greetings from Preston is very sad to see old people being treated badly I agree with your comment thank God there is a place like this. How about you, how are you doing hope you are fine and staying safe, where are you from home you don't mind me asking.

@alicewangari1302

Жыл бұрын

@@Jaydaydesign hey

I loved this it's very excellent care I love it.., my mother died of Alzheimers 2 years ago.i loved her so much and I am an RN I took care of her 24/7 on my days off..i worked 3 days a week at the hospital..she had a caregiver for my 12-hour shift. Then I came home put her to bed and got her up before work...i had cameras at home so I could watch her...i would give anything to hug her or feed her again...i still cry I miss her so much

@cherylkemp8954

3 жыл бұрын

My Mom passed about 3+ years ago and I can so relate, I miss my Mom allot. I Thank God that He gave me such a great Mom. So grateful to my Heavenly Father!💔

@lovelymanna469

3 жыл бұрын

B G 💙🙏🏾

@marjoriejohnson6535

3 жыл бұрын

I took care of my parents needs for almost 10 years..first in their home and after dad passed mom in mine...i finally had to find a private nursing home for her. My doctors and her doctors told me that i was going to die before her if i didnt do something different. It was hard but i am glad i held out till the last llittle more than a year in her life. I couldnt ever forgive myself if i hadnt. Even then i am disappointed in my self that i wasnt stronger physically , mentally and financially to finish the job.

@cherylkemp8954

3 жыл бұрын

@@marjoriejohnson6535 Please don't be disappointed in yourself. I sometimes have the same thoughts and feelings. But please forgive yourself, I know for sure that your Mom and Dad appreciated everything you did for them, the care you gave them...🙏❤💓💕💔

@acajudi100

3 жыл бұрын

I pray you are cared for as well God is stepping in and showing out,so if you have lost your income, God will punish these evil and greedy old demons! God will take care, and supply your every need. Karma never loses an address.

Thank you Aljazeera for putting this story together. I am a 69-years-old American man, who spent over 10 years of my adult life in Thailand. For the last seven years, as an only child, I have been the caregiver for my elderly parents. My Mother (95) recently passed away on July 23, 2020. Now, I am caring for my Father (97), and preparing to take him to Mexico while he's still mobile, to help him get out of this house full of memories. Soon I will be dealing with the end of his life, as his frailty increases daily. Wherever we go, I am prepared for any eventuality. In THAILAND, I witnessed the highest standard of culturally-based care for the elderly that I have seen anywhere. In the United States, although we are making some scattered progress in end-of-life care, we are still very much, a death-denying culture on the whole. Death is too often viewed as some sort of failure, or "mistake". Due to the fact that Buddhism teaches all Thais, and from a very young age, that life is subject to "suffering" (which is experienced in our Birth, Old-Age, Sickness and Death). This worldview, and the Thai culture's respect for the elderly, have helped Thailand to become very much exemplary in their standard of care for the elderly and disabled. The level of patience and compassion they practice is truly incredible. Videos like this can go a long way toward helping other cultures to see what is possible in their own countries, for raising care of the elderly to a higher standard. Each of us, from the moment of our births, are like arrows that have been shot toward the ultimate "target", which is death. We should teach our young people from an early age about the fact that life is permeated with impermanence and change. That all lives, whether long or short, happy or unfulfilled, end in the experience we call "death". Taking care of our own loved-ones, as they get near the end can often be overwhelming. This is exacerbated by debilitating diseases like Alzheimer's and Dementia. We are making progress with these heartbreaking.maladies. But it's our responsibility to ourselves, our families, and our societies in general to improve our approach to helping the elderly to navigate death as painlessly as possible, as none of us here will be able to avoid this most profound of all life's poignant experiences.

@ashashraa6579

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this thought provoking comment. God bless you.

@SD-yf8lp

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Brad. Beautifully, said. I wish you the best

@barbarajones9385

2 жыл бұрын

Agree with what you write. However, the unmentioned factor in the video is money. How much do Thai and Mexican carers get paid? If you are paying in American dollars for care in Thailand as in the video, although it is undoubtedly not cheap (people featured appeared to have money and time to travel back and forth from US or Europe to visit their relatives), it would be immeasurably more expensive to buy the equivalent care in Europe or America. Most Americans and Europeans could not afford this level of care for themselves/ their relatives. Most people would not wish to end their days in a foreign country where staff may not speak their language or understand their culture. New ways of thinking about this problem are required.

@graceliljeblom1436

2 жыл бұрын

Well said in regards how aging in the US is viewed as a failure and how we somehow are blamed for becoming old.

@jeanlanz2344

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your dedication to your mother and father, Brad. Your love for them is inspiring. This life doesn't end with death. It's a door to eternal life with our Creator and Savior who loves you and them. God bless you.

So happy I stumbled on this video. Here in US had been quite a journey to have finally found a good nursing home for my Mother, who suffers from dementia. These are an inspiration for improving the nurse home environment everywhere.

@prestonsmith9824

Жыл бұрын

Hello Cathy, Greetings from Preston is very sad to see old people being treated badly I agree with your comment thank God there is a place like this. How about you, how are you doing hope you are fine and staying safe, where are you from home you don't mind me asking.

If you havnt lived it you dont know. Thailand is the best!! My wife is currently there after a serious stroke and the love and care she gets is out of this world. Im in NZ and we can communicate every day via line. God bless the people of thailand.!!

@4davidn

Жыл бұрын

what are the logistics to put the love one in these facilities in terms of visa? How long can they stay and approx cost per year?

I am an American, I was with both my parents until the end. They gave my Dad kimo he feel in the hospital hit his head. I road 18 hours on a bus to get to him. I believe the hospital killed him. I spent 8 years taking care of my mother, the visiting nurses kept trying to get her to sign hospice paper work, she had to have dialysis, if in hospice they won't give you dialysis, she would have died in 5-7 days. She lived 8 years because my sister, my brother and I WOULD Not put her in a home.

@carolesmith4864

3 жыл бұрын

I did not know this. My brother in law has kidney disease and is on a transplant list. If he ever mentions hospice, I'll tell him they won't let him have dialysis if he signs the paperwork for it.

@mindyward7449

3 жыл бұрын

That was 10 years ago now they have a classification called Pallitive care, within hospice, and they do dyalises.

@Cookiecrys

3 жыл бұрын

Wow 😔 ❤️

@marshabenjamin-hawaaboo5778

3 жыл бұрын

God Bless you richly!

@carolynnr.6409

3 жыл бұрын

God bless you all. It is not like that for my family.

I’m so so glad that woman moved there too to be with her husband ❤️ No matter what how good it is, I couldn’t send any family member to the other side of the world on their own. I’d be worried sick and the guilt would eat me up.

@theeggtimertictic1136

3 жыл бұрын

Yes it seems to suit them well. I couldn't send someone on their own either.

@keagleeagle821

3 жыл бұрын

@MrThemorningsun For your information in Africa we take care of our parents. Parents came first. We build our husband parents house first before our own. Now we build our house and we have already included a room for them. In Africa its a known fact you will take care your parent no matter what

@keagleeagle821

3 жыл бұрын

@MrThemorningsun I just realized your knowledge of Africa is from western media propaganda. Those who told you cant do business i Africa are the one here investing. Please educate yourself

@diananoonen2262

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed!!! She stayed with him!

@ruedadi2682

3 жыл бұрын

@MrThemorningsun stop saying bs you don’t know about. You probably have never been to Africa yourself so don’t make assumptions that aren’t based on facts

I placed my dementia mother in an expensive nursing home in California that I'd paid $6,500/mo private room. I sensed that the staff had no heart and had treated my mom coldly like a number so I took her home.

This really hits the heart for those of us who were caregivers to our parents.

As a long time professional care provider I see so many things that these places are doing right. The clients appear to be doing better they would be at home. Well done.

@annafreed9932

2 жыл бұрын

This is untrue of the ones, and this are most of them, that are dumped and their children are ill trained.

My grandma also suffered from dementia. I was just 10yrs old but I cleaned her potty and also fed her like a baby.

@freerangeboogie7293

3 жыл бұрын

Bless your heart 💐

@jilllangman9343

3 жыл бұрын

Very good karma for you. Well done.

@marthawarrington7748

3 жыл бұрын

God bless you

@KS-cl8br

3 жыл бұрын

Do you feel bad about your parents for subjecting you a child to such demanding chores.

@leeleeneeta

3 жыл бұрын

@@KS-cl8br No, not at all. By looking at my mom cleaning and feeding grandma it came naturally to me that I should also take responsibility. Mom managed her job, house chores and grandma. Me and my siblings had only school so we looked after grandma when our parents were working.

I think it's also important to remember that the cost of medical care is so outrageous in the West compared to Asia that many folks just can't afford it in their own country.

I wish they would have talked more about the facilities in Thailand. Like is there a waiting list, how much do they charge in US dollars, if it is extra to have someone with them all of the time or if this is standard, if they feel like these facilities (IF affordable) will REMAIN affordable... etc.. I worked in a nursing home a while ago part time while I was in school and was and am living with my parents. It's hard watching your parents get older but I was in one of the best facilities in our little town and was disturbed at some of the things. They are DEFINITELY understaffed and underpaid and it's hard work, couldn't stand the guy that ran the place (very hard to talk to or reason with), some of the staff were very nice, some stole and were rude or did as little as possible, the cleaning staff is often a separate company of underpaid not very well vetted people who again some are nice but some are awful at actually sanitizing properly or making sure clients get there things back that go through the laundry. Often people would wait to go to the bathroom way too long because it would take two people and the caretakers on their hall were ALWAYS busy with others. Hard work but important work. I really respect people that do it right. This convinced me that I couldn't stand the thought of my parents crying and being ignored or being hurt.... not sure what I will do.... I will try to take care of them as long as I can.

This is not paradise but...it’s much much better than the long term cares in the west, especially during the pandemic....shortages of staffs, rising costs, abusive system, neglected...

@hibiscus4809

3 жыл бұрын

You forgot to mention the warm weather 365 days, outdoor fresh air living and friendly helpful staff.

@fourdayhomestead2839

3 жыл бұрын

I work in long-term care, and it is disheartening.. It's so depressing to see once interactive residents, just hold out in their rooms & give up. It's gotten worse the last 3 month's.

@lasvegasnevada7514

3 жыл бұрын

This is so embarrassing. I’m currently studying Nursing and majority of us (classmates) were struggling academically. Embarrassing because we are so focus on academics as it is important, you do not want to make mistakes injecting etc. but we are not being taught how to practice patient care.

@hesh2892

3 жыл бұрын

Thai people are good at this.other asians also good.

@imankamara2766

3 жыл бұрын

And they are racist to none British people in their country. They will not let other foreigners elderly parents come to the uk to be cared for by their family . Don't let the uk in your country.

What is it with Filipinos! I just became a carer after years of being a Director of Advertising. I decided to go back to work after my son went to university. I thought a caregiving career was closest to my true self. So I got a job in a Carehome and have been trained by a mother-daughter Filipino team. My god! I’ve never witnessed such efficiency, intelligence mixed with such love-respect and empathy! These women work their a-ses off! But no matter what, they’re loving and truly care. I adore them and feel so privileged. I’m shocked at how underrated this career is.....I’ve never worked so hard and I ran 13 magazines! I’m so privileged to be working with these Filipinos.

You did the right thing for your wife and don't let anyone tell you different! God Bless you and Mia, this could be anyone of us.

@prestonsmith9824

Жыл бұрын

Hello Cynthia, Greetings from Preston! How are you doing hope you are fine and staying safe, where are you from the hope you don't mind me asking.

In caring our 93-years-old mother, all members of our family has learnt a lot of things significant for living and caring ourselves.

Yup, Southeast Asian people respect their older people very much. We will not send them to home care.

@dcinreallife905

3 жыл бұрын

yup and we take pride in it generation after generation

@sandhillpreppers

3 жыл бұрын

And that's how it should be for all people! Take care and respect their elders! Til the end! I helped my grandmother almost daily in her last years tried to see her everyday , our time together was most valuable precious time !some of the best best memories was made with my grandmother before she passed away from a stroke! I sure miss her everyday!

@samuraijackoff5354

3 жыл бұрын

The idea of filia piety is strong. Many asian countries have the idea of respecting elders high on their list. Good or bad.

@yaxl

3 жыл бұрын

Unless you have no one else to take care of you, in which case you'd have no option but to bow out of this world. Their governments only encourage people to procreate and indoctrinate young people into respecting the elderly at ANY cost to mask the failure of building a humane social care system, and of course, as always, for the tax revenue.

@samuraijackoff5354

3 жыл бұрын

@Respectable Man Usually in those cases, they sent to a nearby care center. Usually the parents who are old enough to still talk live with their children. Some elders who have terminal illness like cancer would themselves choose to live and die within their children's homes than get treated.

This is why our ancestors all lived under one roof. They respected their elders. You took care of one another. Now it’s me me me !

@lolal2502

3 жыл бұрын

@Saluki N 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

@sarahjames927

3 жыл бұрын

Also I don’t think it was as expensive and time has different standards.

@dawnj2360

3 жыл бұрын

@Saluki N Thank you for telling us. I think you're making a good decision for your children and your own mental well-being knowing you won't be a burden to them.

@moondog7694

3 жыл бұрын

No, it's that empathy has been distributed to strangers, so there is less empathy for in-group kin members. This is why there is less racism nowadays, more vegans nowadays, more organ donation and blood donation nowadays. The more people care about their own family members, the more ethnocentric in-group racial preference they have, the more homo sapien in-group species preference they have (and therefore less likely to become vegan, donate to a wildlife refuge, volunteer at an animal shelter, become a veterinarian), the more likely they are to ONLY donate an organ to a family member but not to a stranger, the more likely they are to be corrupt, because they don't care about hurting strangers via tax evasion or hiring nepotism or giving 5-star reviews to their friends and family members' businesses even if the business is low quality, which compromises the trustworthiness and effectiveness of review websites such as Google Reviews and Zagat restaurant ratings.

@pastelpurpledeathbed

3 жыл бұрын

Whats wrong with being self centered?

This is wonderful this family put their loved one in a safe place with compassion.. My sister was abused in America but she was moved out of the abused place. Love doesn't cost much just a kind word hugs and more hugs.

I just finished watching the video and I read a few of the comments and I thought back to two cases of elderly people being cared for in their own homes. One was in the south of the US and they basically just left their mom in the basement that had no windows. SHE would just be in the bed all day, all night. The other one was in the south of France where I worked on a vineyard picking grapes in my youth and they kept their mom in a room in the upstairs part of the house where she stayed in bed all day everyday. Hence I'm not too impressed with people taking care of their parents because often it's just what I've just described. I think what I saw in Thailand was brilliant and the important thing that people don't realize is there's two things that you can't get if you just caring --whatever that might mean to you --for your elderly person in your own home. One thing is the nature in Thailand surrounds them with such a diversity of fauna and Flora which I think would fascinate an elderly person as they lose their cognitive abilities. THE other thing-- equally important-- was pointed out and that's in these Asian countries, they respect their elders and that's innate in them as they're raised with that quality from birth onward and that radiates out to the elderly person they're caring for. In America, age is looked down on and the elderly all looked down on and that begins in the home with the kids who then grow up and treat their elderly parents in a despicable fashion without even realizing it because they do not radiate respect & they do not radiate Joy or anything of that sort to their elderly relative, ratherthey radiate disrespect; boredom and sometimes shame. I am taking note of where these people were located in Thailand because actually I have no children which sort of makes me happy in some ways because I know of stories with children treated their parents terribly --although they ostensibly were caring for them-- or they tried to hasten their death so they could get their parents money. NEITHER of those two things will happen to me but if I do start to develop dementia --which I do not foresee because it's in my family nor do I sense it in myself-- but if i di, I will-- when I still have my cognitive abilities-- seek out such a place such as this one in Thailand and I will go there and live my last days in joy and in beauty and in respect which cannot occur in the land of my birth.

"I can't remember to remember..." God, that hit me hard.

I'm so thankful that my father and my wife's mother lived with us and our children during their last months/years. They neither wanted, nor deserved to live isolated in a nursing 'home.' No son/daughter should do any less for the one that give them birth/life/education/love. I miss you, mom and dad.

@brahim119

2 жыл бұрын

*@Moirbasso.* Thousands of blessings upon you and your family. 😍

@prestonsmith9824

Жыл бұрын

Love your comment Greetings from Preston how are you doing hope you are fine and staying safe. Where are you from the hope you don't mind me asking.

@moirbasso7051

Жыл бұрын

@@prestonsmith9824 the U.S. Midwest, basically

I don’t understand why relatives with loved ones with Alzheimer’s want them to “survive”? As soon as my dad lost it I wanted him to die. Solely for him, I wanted his suffering to end. He had no life of any kind whatsoever.

@prestonsmith9824

Жыл бұрын

Hello, there! Greetings from Preston! Yes, they need someone they can trust, and that someone is the one who shows kindness to them. How are you doing? I hope you are fine and staying safe. Where are you from? I hope you don't mind me asking. It's not easy looking after the elderly, but we have to accept that it is worth it. Do you live around elderly people in your county?

Thank you for these wonderful updates.. .

I must say as an American were taught from birth that we are are great moral people but now I'm older I see that we aren't all that good at all!

@dawnj2360

3 жыл бұрын

yeah...Sorry, but you guys seem to be taking the approach of 'kill off all the old people' right now. You must have a lot of empty seniors homes by now. I wonder if that will bring standards up or prices down?

@moondog7694

3 жыл бұрын

No, it's that some of the empathy that we ONLY had for our own kin has been directed at non-kin, due to outbreeding. This is why Americans treat strangers, animals, gays, refugees, the disabled, people of other races, and people of other religions, with more respect than non-Northwestern European-descended people do. I think this is a good thing, and not something you should be lamenting, as you seem to be doing. Sure, Arabs may treat their own kin the best, because they practice cousin marriage more than anyone else, but at the expense of treating strangers, gays, animals, non-Muslims, non-Arabs, the disabled, and strangers worse than any other group does. From JayMan's article "How Inbred Are Europeans?'" on his "jman" column on the UNZ website of Ron Unz: "It’s hard to escape the observation that there might be a “sweet spot” when it comes to clannishness (and hence perhaps inbreeding). This is apparently centered somewhere around level “3”. At that level, you get most of the advantages of outbreeding, including liberal democracy, functional institutions, and a high-trust society, but retain a certain level of nationalism and ethnic cohesion that allows the society to resist opening itself to non-reciprocating outsiders, as the most outbred Northwestern Europeans apparently have. Some of these countries in the 3-4 range seem to lack much of the deleterious universalist sentiments found in those scoring 1-2. This may be the case in Finland & Japan, and might explain the interesting “in-between” characteristics these societies have."

@deborahfoss904

3 жыл бұрын

the same goes for all societies, even those who proclaim they do are flawed, we all are.

@comfortlynumb5585

3 жыл бұрын

@@moondog7694 I'm just a flawed human being that like many others unfortunately, talks without thinking things through. It's hard to do with all the misinformation that we are bombarded with on a daily basis, did not intend to offend anyone.

Caring for a family member that has alzheimer's is brutally tough. My brother in laws mother has it at 53 and its so hard on her and her family. She is slowly losing her mind and she knows it...its really heart breaking.

@tinyGrim1

3 жыл бұрын

Aw, so sad. I believe people have right to end their life if they choose, and still can. Should not be illegal.

@Peanutdenver

3 жыл бұрын

@@tamikog7645 Its rare I guess and she looks younger than her age. The average for alzheimer's is 80, though a small percentage see early signs at the age of 65-75 so i'm told.

@nyk3334

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear.

@Peanutdenver

3 жыл бұрын

@@nyk3334 Thank you

@Flipper86

3 жыл бұрын

There is an early onset type of Alzheimer’s. One well known person who had it was Pat Summitt, Tennessee Women’s Basketball coach.

Watching from USA 🇺🇸 and kudos to him to do that for her not for anybody else . God bless and God bless. To your family . Loves prevail .

I worked as a care assistant in Switzerland and also a years ago in UK. I consider this place in the nature as a good choice for this people. God bless them. Namaste.

I have been working with health aids and in personal care homes for 20 years. My honest opinion is that Thailand is the best place for the elderly. I had the pleasure of knowing Thai families growing up, they care deeply for their elderly, it is about a culture of respect.

@g.s.5868

3 жыл бұрын

in Thailand : money , greed & corruption is the only thing

@DG-bx5hu

3 жыл бұрын

We don't judge people we don't know though..

@LilMan-bj8wx

2 жыл бұрын

Truth!

Compared to western age care homes it looks so much better 🙂

@madelainepetrin1430

3 жыл бұрын

It's also a matter of scale. They're comparing a huge people warehouse to 10 people in a resort. My Dad used to go for respite care in a fabulous home, with maybe 30 patients. It was a really nice place but not home 😔.

@lieutenantlascivious1992

3 жыл бұрын

ya when the cameras are filming...

@IGETvapes

3 жыл бұрын

@@lieutenantlascivious1992 have you been there Eric?

@ljnoble9167

3 жыл бұрын

@@lieutenantlascivious1992 very true. I did my training in one of the home care in bkk. Witnessed a lot. Even local elderly were being treated not well. There are a lot who are nice carer though. But I thought that Thais are more compassionate, patience and caring bec of their beliefs and in their cultures. But still, it is still depends on the attitude of an individual human being. Never let you deceived by the smiles alone.

@TLK22

3 жыл бұрын

I live in Thailand and can say that it's in their culture to take care of the elderly. My mother in law and her mother live in the house next to mine. I never heard of Thai living in a edelry home like it's common in the west. In fact a quick google search only show service targeting foreigner.

My grandmother's wedding ring had been in her hand for nearly 80 years. One of her USA nursing home workers told her that they needed to clean it. She never saw it again.

This sounds brilliant and looks warm and clean

I have no children. I hope I can go somewhere like this when I’m alone.

@mryllkhryss8880

3 жыл бұрын

You can always go to your relatives. 🙌🏻

@fluidarts1061

3 жыл бұрын

@@mryllkhryss8880 Not when your relatives don’t have time for you.

@puritycourtois1724

3 жыл бұрын

I have no parents I hate Christmas

@puritycourtois1724

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheTazzietiger I'm sorry to hear that, we can always virtual hangout if you want

@puritycourtois1724

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheTazzietiger I'm in France

I feel so sad that the mother had Alzheimer at 50 years old.

@futon2345

3 жыл бұрын

Yes and her horrible family threw her away to Thailand.

@SKBottom

3 жыл бұрын

Horrifying and Terrifying

@ashleysaavedra1476

3 жыл бұрын

@@SKBottom my mother is 58. Praise God she is fine. I pray for her to be healthy

@esperanzaletchido2255

3 жыл бұрын

Yes still so young

@iamthedaughteroftheking3704

3 жыл бұрын

@@esperanzaletchido2255 IKR my mom is 58

Thank you for sharing this beautiful video

@steveclinton4084

Жыл бұрын

Hello Rose how are you doing hope you’re having a great time with your family may God bless you and your family

Thank you for this wonderful story.

This is where I want to work. Being a PCA/CNA in the states is mentally, emotionally and physically tiring.

@value8035

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your work!. It is the most delicate job, and i can understand it is stressful when you are not uphold by a proper community. I hope somebody will be there to care for you too, when you are old.

@nurse580

3 жыл бұрын

@Ivan Poohbear Yes totally agree. I’ve just retired after a lifetime in nursing as an RN. I’ve seen firsthand the extremely complex problems families face in trying to care for parents at home. If dementia is present with mobility it can be beyond all the physical and emotional resources of the strongest person, it being a 24 hr job as they often don’t sleep and eventually relieve themselves anywhere in the house, are constantly trying to get out and can have very resistive and even physical aggression towards family members. So yes, people who have ‘romantic’ ideas of how everyone should look after their own parents have no idea of the very varied and complex individual situations people face Of course do it as long as you can if you’re lucky enough to have a parent who fortunately doesn’t have the above problems but don’t destroy yourself and your family in the process when or if it changes and becomes unbearable. I’ve also worked as an RN for years in Nursing Home facilitates ....another area where the public have very little idea of the complexities of the broken system that exists in most Western countries. I’ve had 45 years experience in almost all fields of Nursing and Aged Care was by far the most challenging, frustrating and exhausting job I’ve ever had. There has been many dedicated, hard working staff up to now doing the very best they can under sometimes impossible conditions but unfortunately as more and more of the older experienced nurses and Carers are leaving the system the future is more bleak than ever.

@transforming2013

3 жыл бұрын

Being a buttwiper is hell on earth, they need to set up nursing home work camps & let young old boomers live on site and care fir the old old boomers so they can repay the damage they did to America

@jgdooley2003

3 жыл бұрын

@Ivan Poohbear The concept of taking care of people at home is fine until mobility or competence to do so becomes a problem. I faced this decision twice in my life and it was necessary to put my parents in care when it became impossible to lift them and get them to the toilet etc. These tasks were better done by qualified people who were strangers rather than by unqualified family members. The only healthcare worker in our family was disabled and too physically unable to take on any role in this care.

@SL-lz9jr

3 жыл бұрын

@@nurse580 Well put. My grandfather was a very strong man. When dementia took over, he became violent and threatening. My teenage cousin had to follow him if he slipped outside to make sure he knew how to get home. He’d brandish knives in anger. It was not safe for anyone to continue caring for him at home. And, worse, if you’re caught trying to restrain someone like him at him, someone would call the police saying it’s elder abuse. Better to let the professionals handle it. Too bad nursing homes cost more than college tuition if you want to send your loved one to a good one.

I would be happy if my children send me to a place like this rather than throwing me in a dreary place.

@sharonritchie6365

3 жыл бұрын

It looks like heaven on earth to me.

@gregh7457

3 жыл бұрын

@@sharonritchie6365 I'm with you guys. Thailand has got to be better. It can't get any worse in our home countries

@cinpeace353

3 жыл бұрын

I will pick my own place 😉

@diananoonen2262

3 жыл бұрын

It is certainly an option.

@Fumi007

3 жыл бұрын

I work in a good care home and I’m proud of the way we treat our ladies. We take them to the salon to get their hair done, they shop, some of them have small jobs, and we even do things like aromatherapy when they’re stressed. But care homes generally are terrible and I would much rather go to a place like this.

This is a great place to take your family. As a person in the medical field they really seem to put the resident first. We have to fight to get what the residents need in America they see the patient as money, not all nursing homes, but majority do. I am glad to see so many people taking care of people that love doing there job. I love doing my job as well, but it hurts when they ask me to stay, or they say you have to go home now. I would never leave this place, if; I worked there. America needs to learn from this video. Trust there are a lot of us who really care for our patients, this type of environment; I know these residents are flourishing.

@prestonsmith9824

Жыл бұрын

Hello, there! Greetings from Preston! Yes, they need someone they can trust, and that someone is the one who shows kindness to them. How are you doing? I hope you are fine and staying safe. Where are you from? I hope you don't mind me asking. It's not easy looking after the elderly, but we have to accept that it is worth it.

Beautiful documentary 💌

Looks cleaner and more lively than any of nursing homes I've seen in US!

@doxasophosmoros

3 жыл бұрын

That's because it's fulmed for TV and these places are EXPENSIVE. but you can't even drink the tap water there, or shower in it. Or cook with it. It's actually very very expensive to go to a home there. It's not for regular working class people. It's to make money off wealthy foreigners. Otherwise why would they open a care home? The up keep is so costly cause the govt pays for no infrastructure there. You pay for everything out of your pocket. No transport systems there, either . Highest traffic accident rate on earth, too...

@doxasophosmoros

3 жыл бұрын

And I lived there so I know! No health care system either. And the mozzues are so dangerous. Carry so many diseases. It's tropical climate. It's very hot and humid. I prefer Australia. Cheaper to live here, too . I can drink tap water for a start, and don't have to brush my teeth and cook with bottled water!! It adds up as you can imagine, in Thailand! And you have to TIP everyone.. omg.. it's so stressful .. Thailand isn't like this expensive resort for old people. Most of it is trashy. This old care home is first class, would easily cost over 100,000 pound a year! I know cause I've lived over there.

@frenchartantiquesparis424

3 жыл бұрын

@@doxasophosmoros Of course they can shower with the water! Have you ever step out of the US? You sound ignorant.

@RogersMgmtGroup

3 жыл бұрын

@kaboom Of course you can shower in Thailand. Water filters are cheap for drinking water - we even filter water in Canada for goodness sake. Carehomes in Canada take 70% of the persons income. Cost of real estate and labor is so much cheaper they can provide vastly better services for a lower cost. Lower labor cost impacts everything from food to cleaning to washing to the nursing staff. I already know I can live in SE Asia at the same standard of living or better for 1/3 the cost. If your income is from the west and independent of where you live (like a pension) why not lower your cost of living? Someone that needs care like these people can’t increase their income, but they can decrease their expenses.

@hesh2892

3 жыл бұрын

@@doxasophosmoros thailand is way cheaper than australia. normal hotel room in oz is $100/day .in thailand $20. caregivers are esp cheap. in oz it will be $150 - $200/day. what about childcare and babysitting rates ? oz is very nice but has high charges in certain things esp house prices. its mad !! dont know about thai prices but in india, a 3 bed house in a seaside town can be bought A$50 K

I was overwhelmed taking care of my Mom who had dementia. She didn't sleep at night and needed 24 hour care. She needed a full-time staff with cooks, bathers, cleaners, prescription maintenance . Many of the care givers in assisted living were Philippino. I am grateful for their care.

@27pumpkin65

3 жыл бұрын

Filipinos are respectful of their elders, family oriented, have a pleasant disposition and a strong work ethic.

@lymf9157

3 жыл бұрын

Asian people values elderly..

@valdpenha3088

3 жыл бұрын

Yes.....Eastern people have great respect and reverence for the elderly.

@qwenethnguyen3252

3 жыл бұрын

It was painful for us to send my grandpa to nursing home. But you will soon realize that one person can not care for an elderly 24/7....no matter how hard you try! We had a live-in helper but grandpa was up ALL hours of the night and still think he’s 18 years old and does what he wants! He would never ask for help nor ring bells for help...instead he would try to get out of bed or wheelchair by himself and fall everytime! I swore I would check myself into nursing homes when it’s my time....but Thailand sounds much more interesting

@lymf9157

3 жыл бұрын

@@qwenethnguyen3252 your parents and grandparents able to take care of you when your a baby 24/7 and now that they can't take care of themselves, you won't able to do that? I don't like people who given up their families because they just though they can't take care of them. Its just like your wasting the last minute of their lives feel like they're being abandoned. I took care of my grandfather until he died, he can't walk and he started behaving like a child, I fed him, change his clothes and everything he needs for 2 years because I know he only had limited time, that's why wanted to be with him so that he won't feel alone, I'm only grade 4 at that time. I don't like standing there doing nothing, I want to help my uncle and aunty taking care of grandpa.

I have a cousin that spent a long time in Thailand and said she’d like it to be her retirement destination. She said the people overall are very kind.

No matter how many butterflies. There is not place like home. I have been a geriatric nurse for 28 yes. Having your lovely caring family around is the best medicine.

In India also old parents like us stay at home with sons, daughter in laws and grandchildren. I'm 71 yrs not too much old.

@redhedhik-chik2510

3 жыл бұрын

That is sweet. You ARE still young 💕

@redhedhik-chik2510

3 жыл бұрын

@B Bush well...I am coming from MY perspective as a nurse. If you live to be 100, you have 29 yrs to go if you are 71 😊 Many of my patients live to their late 90s. But, I get ya. Life is about perspective, eh?

@moondog7694

3 жыл бұрын

Yet the Indian immigrants in the west, who make more money than the native population and have more education, don't become vegan even when they were raised lacto-vegetarian and therefore never developed a taste for beef, pork, chicken, fish, or eggs. You don't become vegan because you only care about your own families. It's also why Indian immigrants donate blood or organs 8 times less than the native population. You'll only donate an organ to a family member. You only hire your own race. You don't care about strangers, only yourselves.

@redhedhik-chik2510

3 жыл бұрын

@B Bush Greenfield, Ohio ❤ I talked to a man from Vancouver last week (we purchased a 'Puller Bear' from him and started comparing Covid-19 experiences. I couldn't help myself (😊) to encourage them to take vitamins asap. So, let me say this: I am blown away that my patients who were already on Vitamins D, C, and Zinc cruises through Covid with barely a symptom. Even if they had pre-existing conditions (diabetes) and were smokers. Sadly, those who had not been on vitamins prior to Covid-19 became very ill... or passed. Never have I witnessed anything like Covid.

@samuraijackoff5354

3 жыл бұрын

@@moondog7694 That sounds like everybody.

My heart broke when she said she didn't realize she has a son. This is so depressing, hope they're getting all the care they need

@deborahfoss904

3 жыл бұрын

This is a fact of life throughout the world as aging populations increase. In the name of progress, people want independence to live their own lives so it falls to others to provide formal care, it is demanding both physically and emotionally, caring for others no matter what age or disability and in most countries 'Caring' is an undervalued occupation. Is it the wish of the person experiencing dementia, to live in another country, away from their network of friends, family and familiarity and does this transition further impact on their deteriorating condition? or is it the families decision and why???. (In who's best interest)....! 'One lady said she wanted to return home'. !!!! Consider is she being Deprived of her liberty and is it lawful. What safeguards are in place to ensure people are well cared for. There are many issues in the care industry all over the world, but there are also formal carers all over the world, who are passionate about their work and go above and beyond to ensure their cared for persons have quality of life, dignity and respect, both in the community and in care homes. Just some points to consider before such a decision is made...

@pilatesyogataichifit

3 жыл бұрын

Happened to someone I know too. He went to visit his mother at Christmas and was greeted by "who are you?" No one had warned him and he was in shock from that.

@jansonshine9082

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately that's the cruelty of the Alzheimer's, not a reflection of the care she receives. The caregivers make special photo books of their friends & family- complete with their names & who they are to remind them.

Working as an agency nurse for 20 years I've seen it all. The good caretakers don't last long because the management of health facilities want the profits and not provide the proper care. As a matter of fact the care could be considered abusive. If you reported the abuse, you were fired or ostracized. Management closed eyes and ears to the actual running of the facility.

@prestonsmith9824

Жыл бұрын

Hello Judy, Greetings from Preston is very sad to see old people being treated badly I agree with your comment How about you, how are you doing hope you are fine and staying safe, where are you from home you don't mind me asking.

GOD willing hope I have the strength to take care of my wife. She's 77 I'm 76.

thai people look after their families,they highly value the ones that bought them up,its how it should be

@Ammiel7

3 жыл бұрын

All Asian people love and respect their parents and children and look after them carefully

@jeaniemarczniec7755

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, whether in the UK or the USA, they seem to put violence or lack of care for the elderly and that is sad. If this place is a place to be it is good.

@donnaharris8097

3 жыл бұрын

Western countries make money out of therapy , diagnose the parents as cause of all ills ... Is there any wonder respect is eroding ..

@moondog7694

3 жыл бұрын

@@donnaharris8097 Respect is eroding? No, western countries are becoming more respectful than the non-Western countries are. The West has made better strides in respect for animals, respect for people of other races, respect for the disabled (I've heard that the disabled are treated poorly in the middle east, and I've heard that they like to hide away the disabled in northeastern Asia. I've heard Asian women abort disabled fetuses at much higher rates than white women do). Western countries have made the greatest strides in respect for gays and others of different sexualities. People in the west probably respect people of other religions more so than in other countries; they allow people of other religions to immigrate permanently to their own country. I've heard that the middle east does accept refugees, but they have to be the same religion as the majority of the people in the country they're immigrating to. Also, watch the film Borat to see how patient and polite and accepting the white Westerners were towards the perceived Muslim Borat when he was in the USA. Also, we respect the Earth in the west more, as evidenced by the higher rates of obeying fishing laws compared to Asians. It can be seen as respecting future generations of humans, since humans will need air to breathe and water to drink and food to eat in the future, and without a functioning ecosystem, that will be impossible. Respect for their own university is also more common in Westerners, as Asian Americans are more likely to cheat than white Americans: see the article "Asian Immigrants and What No One Mentions Aloud" on the EducationRealist blog on Wordpress: educationrealist.wordpress.com/2013/10/08/asian-immigrants-and-what-no-one-mentions-aloud/ :"The stereotype, delicately put: first and second generation Chinese, Korean, and Indian Americans often fail to embody the sterling academic credentials they include with their applications, and do not live up to the expectations these universities have for top tier students. Less delicately put: They cheat. And when they don’t cheat, they game tests in a way utterly incomprehensible to the Western mind, leading to test scores with absolutely zero link to underlying ability. Or both. Or maybe it’s all cheating, and we just don’t know it. Either way, the resumes are functional fraud." Also read the University of Minnesota article "Culture and Academic Integrity": "International students may come into the U.S. academic system with training and beliefs about using sources that can lead to dire consequences. In a number of cultures, students are expected to know and use the words of others - experts - rather than their own words, and this does not need to be acknowledged in their writing." wins.umn.edu/considering-culture/culture-and-academic-integrity. "This is to say nothing of the differences in academic cultures between different countries. The Faculty of Graduate Studies references this on their page regarding international applications as it states, ”Some cultures do not view plagiarism as a problem. Some may even view it as good scholarship. In fact, many international schools have no policy or definition of plagiarism. However, in Canada, plagiarism is a serious academic offence." - www.carillonregina.com/plagiarism-an-ongoing-issue/

@moondog7694

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ammiel7 All? Love and respect their children??? Read Lloyd DeMause. "Mr. deMause states that the further back into history one goes and the further away from the West that one goes, the worse the incidences of child sexual abuse become. In many countries in the world, incest is routine among families. Fathers, brothers, uncles and grandfathers molest little girls. Mothers, aunts, sisters, and grandmothers molest little boys. India, China, Japan, the Near East and the Far East are just some of the countries that incest is prevalent in today. Little girls are treated worse than little boys because in many countries, little girls are considered worthless with no value of any kind." How about Amy Chua not allowing her daughter access to water for hours on end (or food, or sleep) before she played a piano piece perfectly? Or the Korean parents who remove their children's bed from their bedrooms to force them to study until 3am and then force them to wake up at 5am to go to cram school? Or the Korean parents who spent days at an internet cafe, leaving their baby to starve and dehydrate to death? Kim Yoo-chul, 41, and Choi Mi-sun, 25. What about the Sugamo child abandonment case, and the Osaka child abandonment case, and Rie Fujii who abandoned her two infant kids in her apartment for 10 days, which caused their deaths? Did Jennifer Pan love and respect her Tiger Parents? So much that she hired hitmen to try to kill both of them? Lookup "coin-operated-locker babies" on Wikipedia. They do that in Japan. 65% of Cambodian boys were physically abused, according to the Al Jazeera documentary "It's a Man's World". From The Journal of Psychohistory: " most Japanese parents still regularly have sexual in-tercourse while the child is in bed with them,(161) one wonders how scholars can continue to maintain that nothing sexual usually happens to the Japanese child in the family bed, particularly since none have yet ask-ed the children themselves about their sexual experiences. This stone wall on information about incest in Japan has been breach-ed somewhat by four recent studies. The first is a Japanese feminist sex survey modeled on those of Shere Hite that reported one-third of the respondents having memories of being sexually abused by relatives or close friends as children, a figure considerably higher than comparable American questionnaire studies.(162) Secondly, other studies show that the majority of urban parents in 1981 reported that they had lately begun to be bothered by the thought that children with whom they slept might be aware of their intercourse - a growing guilt about incestuous activities that was increasingly common in the West in early modern times and which led for the first time to separate beds for children"

I worked at a nursing home for one day and quit the same day after I found out how horrific the employees are to not only the seniors, but also their coworkers. It’s really sad how people abuse these elders so I’m glad people are looking at other countries as an alternative

@xadenemblem8770

2 жыл бұрын

And you left? So what kind a person are you then? Listen women, you are responsible for bringing the decline to human society by refusing to give birth! This will be your ending as well!

@combatmedic91-b76

2 жыл бұрын

I worked in nursing home for a year when I was a teenager I enjoyed it. People in America have no respect for patients & health care has gone down hill in America since covid ruined it & fake news hides all of our governments ugly garbage.

All of Western civilization is in need of a family atmosphere in this culture of entertainment.

Glad even as a disabled with nobody believing that i make it, it was a great decision to come here by myself. I don’t need a caretaker yet, but many people offer to help me. Elderly and disabled are just normal humans here. Not always felt like that in Europe