Note to girls: If a guy you like doesn't ask you out, it's not always because he's clueless or passive lol. He may be fully aware you like him, but is just not into you romantically. A real man will strongly pursue a woman he is into. That being said, a decent amount of subtle hints to let him know you are open/inviting does not hurt at all.

@annenjoroge9695

5 жыл бұрын

Nice one Nathan

@slardebard

5 жыл бұрын

If a woman is average at best, these days, the thought of a man not being interested in her is foreign to her mind. They are fed a steady diet of "your beautiful no matter what" and "you're a bitchin badass babe" and "women are strong and courageous" for just being women, not that they did anything strong or courageous. We are doomed as a society.

@mpazies

5 жыл бұрын

Nathan Kestner well, :/

@annebonnyssister

5 жыл бұрын

@@slardebard Funny, I met more women than I could shake a stick at who were/are told "you are fat/ugly/useless" [ALWAYS by their so called "mothers" - this was then perpetuated, curse that it is, by others, on an ongoing basis]These women are so down-beaten, they can hardly breathe. How dare you speak like this. And WHAT is "average"? If so called "christians" judge women by the standards of this depraved world,then YES, you are doomed. And you DESERVE to be.

@beatricei.gardiner13

5 жыл бұрын

Nathan Kestner what do you say to the woman who is being strongly pursued by a man she doesn’t even like or has no interest in?

Number seven! Remember you're no longer a slave to fear! Fear will make you "not yourself" it causes you to push away the very person you want to stay! Remember you cannot mess up what God has planned by being who He created you to be ! If you feel like you'll run someone off by being honest about how you feel , you're gonna run them off then. Trust me on this. I'll be open/straight forward from now on! 👍

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

5 жыл бұрын

Well said, thanks for sharing :)

@catherineevans4718

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Christina. Thank you for your comment. How true this is! Anyone who cannot deal with you for being yourself is never going to treasure you by trying to tear you down. As a woman, you still need strength, you need discernment, and you need boldness. These are not exclusively male traits, as Satan would have us believe. A true man of God, moreover, the man God has for you, will respect, cherish and celebrate these traits in you. He knows we are not designed to be controlled as crushable wallflowers, but righteous and bold. Note: we are not to crush wallflowers either, they are God's creation, too, but I hope you get the point. Stick with it. He's coming: God's man. God bless you, Christina.

@marsmallow_17

3 жыл бұрын

I can relate. 😣

When young single women complain about not being asked out here's what they really mean: The men that WE WANT are not asking us out and the men who do ask us out we have no interest in.

@divinediva_

6 жыл бұрын

This sounds like a broad, inaccurate generalization.

@alicesbeloved

5 жыл бұрын

Um...and?? 🙄That's the same with men too...lolz. It's called " *attraction*

@alicesbeloved

5 жыл бұрын

@Repent and Believe Lolz ..the many that are too lazy to clean up? 🙄🤣😏

@DARKhorses73

5 жыл бұрын

Very true hahah!

@Kami0879

5 жыл бұрын

True. We're super shallow these days. That's why there's so much unhappiness.

I was told in the church that I was too pretty so guys should not ask me out because he would stubble. So I dressed way down. I got tired of being treated like this. My husband who asked me out where I worked at started going to church more and more when we dated. He was a Christian but not as decated as I wanted. He started getting more passionate for God and then later me. But I will be honest I feel like the church has created a toxic place for men and women to date. We need to create a place that doesn't bring people down and help them get to know each other without saying horrible things about them.

@fightwithbiomechanix

5 жыл бұрын

The emphasis is on marriage. But any local church that tells you your beauty will make your brother stumble is not a place you should assemble. If beauty was bad Esther would not have saves the Jews from Haman the Agite

@robindear5043

3 жыл бұрын

@Jessica Freda It sounds to me like the women at church who told you that you were " too pretty and would cause men to stumble," which is why they wouldn't date you, were actually jealous of you and hating on you. By all means, don't stay in a church environment that is toxic, for any reason.

@hamilton5689

Жыл бұрын

Yes most churches are toxic environments for men and women who are single. They oppose dating for fear of being seen as a "meat market", tell singles that if they express their desire to date they are making that an idol, and want a core group of singles to do various chores that married couples don't want to do! This attitude is wrong and has existed for over 50 years!

@GoldeyLoc53

Жыл бұрын

I totally agree with this!

@hamilton9651

Жыл бұрын

Who told you that you were too pretty? And that guys should not ask you out? Get out of that church now!

I'm single because God wants me to be single for this season Thankyou :) x

@anthi-mariakouvatsou8746

3 жыл бұрын

This doesn't mean that you are not supposed to make an effort for things that you want. God is not just going to "save" you without you doing anything

@deadchannel89

3 жыл бұрын

@@anthi-mariakouvatsou8746 I don't think that what she saying

@benmollitor3776

2 жыл бұрын

How nerdy..

I tried dating in college. No one was interested, and tbh I was uncomfortable with the idea of a bf/gf relationship. I just didn't want one. But I was trying to keep up with my friends who all were dating. But I just couldn't get into it. And I was horrified by the thought of sexual activity. So eventually I accepted that it was ok for me to remain alone. I am single and celibate and very happy now.

@ayomidebalogun2500

Жыл бұрын

This is a testimony to us all and especially to me ✨

@wk4240

9 ай бұрын

As long as you're happy, that's where it's at. 👍 Many people can do bad enough alone.

I do agree here. Though I try to work on sppearence, it’s not easy being that I’m physically slightly disabled. Cut me some slack while I’m getting healthy and trying please.

Well-balanced and real. Thank you!

😊🙏🏼I like the last part of it , yes we need to take care of ourselves

the last problem, is a big one. In my case, guys always told me I’m too sweet and consider me special that’s why I didn’t understand why if they think like that, they still prefer to date others girls that didn’t treat them well. Last year I met a guy, we start having romantic feelings for each other, but he told me we couldn’t be a serious relationship (marriage) because he didn’t find sexual attractive and for most guys that’s very important. At the beginning, his sincerity hurts me a lot, but little by little I understood it, and I also realized why I haven’t have a relationship until now (I’m 26) I was having an unhealthy lifestyle, I didn’t care too much about my appearance because all this time I believed that only personality matters, when is not. It matters, but is not the only thing. I do think people should love you for who you are (I know this guy loves me) but love is not the only thing to consider for a long relationship. I start to improve my appearance by eating healthy, doing exercise and taking care of my skin. I understand that this a way to love yourself too. You do what is good for your body and your self esteem.

@NathanSmutz

5 жыл бұрын

Realizing that we're different is good. Realizing that we don't know how different we are is even better. There are women who are attracted to attainment and prestige; and think that men would be attracted to those things too. A man might be impressed; but it probably doesn't trigger the limbic system. Depending on how she brags, he might get the impression that he can't earn her respect. Respect and gratitude are a very big deal.

@scramblesthedeathdealer

4 жыл бұрын

Not everyone is physically attracted to the same types of people as everyone else. What one person may consider to be an attractive trait on a women/man, another may feel the complete opposite. I think that when you truly love someone, you see beauty in their heart and soul, as well as physically (not in a judgemental way, I just mean that you find *them* physically attractive). Before my wife passed away in 2017, she had been having medical issues and it caused her weight to go up to around 250 pounds. It really upset her, and she told me that she felt like she wasn't attractive to me anymore. That couldn't have been further from the truth! I had always found her to be very physically attractive, regardless of how life brought change. God bless you!

@Barbinez11

Ай бұрын

Good for you!❤

Such a great/hilarious/informative video!!!😂😂😄 I will definitely be keeping these things in mind during my time of singleness!😊

Oh myyyy I meditated on scripture that night and I was guided to that exact Proverbs verse you just read

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

5 жыл бұрын

God is good

Regarding appearance, it’s not just superficial (Well it might be for some, but there are legitimate reasons for caring about one’s appearance). If you do not at least try to be neat, well dressed, and physically fit (within reason), then most people will assume that you lack self-discipline, and that you do not care about yourself (I.E.: you have low self-esteem). This is not gender specific; would any of you ladies want to marry someone who looked unhealthy and dressed like a slob? Probably not. What we look like is the first impression that we make on other people, like it or not, and if your appearance is always disheveled and unkempt, then that will give people the wrong impression. For example, I’ve seen people show up for church wearing shorts and flip-flops (both men AND women), and unless you are on vacation and forgot to pack any dress clothes, dressing for church like you are going to the pool or the beach seems to be casual to the point of actually being disrespectful; taking the time to dress up for church implies that we take worship seriously, and dressing down for church implies the opposite. Just something that I’ve noticed.

@irenageorgieva8011

4 жыл бұрын

Randy G Couldn’t agree more. Undervaluing appearance is just laziness, bad aesthetics and sloppiness dresses up as a spiritual virtue when they are actually an off putting shortcoming

@cocochannel3694

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah i hate seeing people in church wearing hats, shorts, ect....that turns me off completely

@scarletshield009

4 жыл бұрын

We are always obligated to dress our Sundays best, but in my case I was always given hand me down and frumpy clothing so I was always made fun of and mocked. There are plenty who dress in better clothing at church I was sadly not one of them.

@benmollitor3776

2 жыл бұрын

It irritates me when I see people at church wearing shorts and flip-flops. It's sloppy and disrespectful !!!

@flourishorji6681

2 жыл бұрын

we repent!!!😂

Very practical advice. Greetings from Peru!

I love your videos! They are definitely helping. Thank you!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

5 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad to hear this!

Yeah...thanks a lot for also talking about physical attraction especially for the guys!

Love what you said about feminism and masculinity in this!

@markvolker1145

4 жыл бұрын

You are so adorable! Will you be my girlfriend?

great stuff! one little bit of feedback - don't assume your audience is all girls in their teens/20s. :)

Great teaching as always!!

To the point, my friend.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

👍

Well done Mark..excellent points

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Simone Camilleri thanks, glad it was helpful:)

Mmmmmm okay point number 3 got me. Did not know this. Thank you for this video.

Thank you. This help me see why I am usually placed in the "great friend zone." I am guilty of mothering.. What happens also, certain ones call me when life throws the curves. I become the encourager..ministering to the hurt. I become a buffer of sorts..I try not to get a bad taste in my mouth so to speak, but it happens all the time.

@NathanSmutz

5 жыл бұрын

Have you found one you can honestly express respect and admiration for? That might have the differing effect you're looking for.

@coragoss1498

5 жыл бұрын

@@NathanSmutz, I did meet someone whom I had great admiration and respect. He went on to marry someone else but called years later to say that he made the wrong choice...I ended up ministering to him through difficulties he encountered in that relationship..

@joellec.1861

Жыл бұрын

@@coragoss1498 oh wow. How are you doing now?

I confess fear and running from my past instead of learning from it kept me single for a long time.

@Leggs013

4 жыл бұрын

It's Me too. Not the Metoo Movement

@scramblesthedeathdealer

4 жыл бұрын

@@Leggs013 🤣

I think my problem is I'm not usually around guys in general in my friend circle and for some reason I still have trouble talking to them or looking at them. I start shaking and turning red when I ask them where they're from. I feel like an idiot sometimes. I know I have some trust issues though with guys because of my past and abuse. I've never had a boyfriend before or been on a date and I don't know how to be.

@nobody-og5tl

6 жыл бұрын

this is me too

@nobody-og5tl

6 жыл бұрын

Is it normal that I have a difficult talking to boys in my youth group? (I have anxiety and asperger's) whenever I approach someone I'm interested in, I don't know what to say and how to keep the conversation going, and I don't think any boy in church has ever found me attractive, and no one has liked me (so far). Is that a turn off? I just turned 19 a few days ago and I never had a boyfriend, never kissed, never been on a date, etc. I know everyone will tell me I'm way too young but girls in my church are getting married at 20-24. I wouldn't like to date a lot of men because I'm dating to marry as that is the purpose of Christian dating. I had a crush on a boy I met at Church Camp last year but he's a Real Estate Agent and would never have time for me, and one other boy I met at Church Camp too, he's kissed my forehead 3 times and ALWAYS approaches me and talks to me, and everytime he hugs me he never wants to let go but I do not feel a spark; I am not attracted to him and I do not like him. (I've been praying for my future husband for 19 months if that helps-- and praying for patience on waiting for God's Perfect Timing on when I'll meet my future husband because my ADHD and Autism causes me to get very Impatient often) God Bless XOXO

@sammig.8286

6 жыл бұрын

I could not have said it better. I'm 23 and still have nobody romantically. Use this time to draw close to God and enjoy his company. Jesus is a better friend than any boyfriend or husband, but it is natural to want to get married and in God's timing he may bring someone to you. Keep praying and be patient.

@behappythankful6665

6 жыл бұрын

unknown 123 i understand you, im 16 though XD and i never dated either, not even in pre primary school and primary school, i was more as..being bullied by the guys and i dont think it was how they showed their affection towards me 😂 by the grace of God i forgave all of them now but anyway..😆 i didnt got my first kiss either,not even a kiss on the forehead, my brother did but it doesnt count 😝 and never hugged a guy except my brother 😫 in this world, thats really hard sometimes to know that most of your friends, christian and non christian has ever dated guys and you can't relate to their conversation, although i have got many crushes, thats not same you see..i am not use to hang out with friends either, its from last year when i entered the Youth group at Church that i started to hang out with youngsters and it was super hard to engage a conversation with them both girls and boys..but throughout the year i started to try be less shy and this year i succeeded to really communicate normally with each of them even if its sometimes, kinda hard to keep a conversation but with my friends at school..i never have less to say XD and i find that weird cause i should feel more free with Christians of my church right? I even got kind of close to a guy in the youth group, he is, we can say the cutest at church and he would always try to talk to me and i would sometimes catch him looking at me, the other day when we were going to the wedding of a Sister in christ, he made me keep all his stuffs like phone, earphones, purse , sunglasses etc..in my little handbag and o didnt want to refuse him..then as he was eating a chocolate biscuit he asked me to look at his mouth if it was clean and i was kinda embarrased you know XD and today at the Youth day at the beach when we were watching the other youngsters singing he stood next to me and seemed like he wanted to tell me something but I said nothing to him cause I was slightly pissed that he stared at another girl earlier..I don't have a crush on him though..im just confuse..is he just sweet and friendly to me or does he want more than friendship? Even my mother told me "I noticed how he is with you, I believe he has feelings for you" and that kept me thinking, I don't even know what are my feelings for him, I pray that God gives me patience too to wait for the one he choosed for me. Keep on your prayers too,I will pray for you as well 😊 so as we do not lose patience, Faith and date the wrong one

@imunique10

6 жыл бұрын

Sara Hope me either. dating just seems complicated. i dont know all the rules. i just kind of want it to happen without worrying am i doing this or that right. God bless you sis i hope you get the desire of your heart.

Haha point 3 only sending friend vibe is me, I been playing it tooo cool 🤣

single until what I have prayed for finds me :) God will reveal it to my future spouse because I have faith that my spirit and his spirit will be connected and God will lead him to me.....patiently waiting...its worth the wait....I learned the hard way...

@teeshhh2951

4 жыл бұрын

Love this! 😊

@SGOV86

2 жыл бұрын

Why people always say that God must lead the one to them? What makes you so special in Gods eye that you have to stay right where you are and that he will lead the one to you? What if the one is thinking that God will lead you to him/her? I personally think it would be better to say that you trust God to bring you and the one together. I hope I was clear in my comment.

@jazminRodiguez78

2 жыл бұрын

@@SGOV86 thank you your right... everyday i always hope that when im out there we both bump into each other.. i mean i didnt say anything wrong about God leading the one my way, i ment if he lives far away God will lead him...

@SGOV86

2 жыл бұрын

@@jazminRodiguez78 if he lives far from you isn't it possible that God could lead you to him? I hear people often say that they are waiting on God to bring/lead the one to them.

@jazminRodiguez78

2 жыл бұрын

@@SGOV86 all i can say is that God will make a way for a woman and a man to be together just like Adam was lead to Eve, and Abraham's servant was lead by God to find a wife for Isaac, he asked for signs and God revealed it, If God made it possible then i believe for myself that He will make it possible to meet the right man of God..

Great information thank you 🙌🏻🌞

May THE LORD bless you 😊

This is true. Taking care of yourself and showing respect for your appearance and honoring God with it goes a long way. I'm a strong woman who has gone through a lot of hurt. One male friend told me that I probably scare them off because I'm smart and won't put up with any crap. That's true. But I sure don't hate men at all. But this is a great video and has some very valid points.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

5 жыл бұрын

I'm glad it was helpful! Thanks for sharing your comments with us :)

Dude, I will agree to some degree on the physical attractiveness to the point that you must be trying to be in shape, eating healthy, and being well-groomed. It would not be right for me not consider these factors as they show the person is not lazy and has care for their body. However, I found that it is most important to take the heart into account. It is difficult to like a girl for her outer beauty as she often knows it and is quite vain. It says somewhere in proverbs that outer beauty is vain and I know this to be true from personal experience. The ones that had the inner beauty, and were never eye appealing to me (lust), were the most amazing people. According to the many things I read in the Bible it seemed God never wanted us to compare and lust as he wanted us to see each other for the beauty we had in our hearts. That is why it is difficult for me to pursue any relationship that has physical attraction. So, I will say if you are a true Christian you would not scorn or reject others for being uglier than you or someone else you like because God wants you to see them as he does, the good and the bad.

@0hSnapShesHonest

5 жыл бұрын

thats true completely, i read your whole paragraph. but if you dont want to be with someone you shouldn't force yourself. Im not gonna say, oh cause im not physically attracted to you let me just overlook that and go for it. you cant force it.

@sylvia1878

5 жыл бұрын

Wow....You are very wise

@NathanSmutz

5 жыл бұрын

There's suggestion that things like hip-to-waist ratio help men choose women who can bear children with less risk; but there's a lot of cultural stuff on top of that. In places where food is harder to come by, heavier women seem to be more desired. That might be a signal of health and prosperity there. We can speculate on why slimness is valued in places where food is plentiful. Maybe, with the enough-food problem solved, there are other indicators of health that become prominent; or, maybe it's just whatever's more difficult :-). I don't think Brazil leans all the way toward the heavy side; but their women have been less enthusiastic about sports because the bony athletic look goes contrary to their idea of beauty. Again, that could be fashion, or hip-fat reserves might indicate resources for growing stronger babies. In Europe and North America we're under the influence of fashion designers, who seem to prefer modeling their clothes on women who resemble coat hangers.

@tsebosei1285

2 жыл бұрын

❤

@_--Reaper--_

Жыл бұрын

Your name is spelled wrong, it's "Junker" not Yunker

I liked this video more than I thought I would. 😂

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

👍

If you’re playing hard to get, you’ve won your game but lost at love.

Very Good Video.

So true, keep up the good work man

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Samuel Charles amen, and thx :)

A lot of girls in church dont even look at you or they're serious. What's the point in asking a church girl out who's so darn serious.

@mengoingjesuswaytv7319

5 жыл бұрын

José Rivera For real

@christavarghese5399

3 жыл бұрын

We were told at church that we just attract men unnecessarily when we look or smile at them, which are just things humans do btw..and so, we tend to avoid doing that.aybe that's the reason

@MichellesdesignsEtc

26 күн бұрын

I looked at a guy in church and ended up getting rebuked by him💔 😭he like almost literally broke my heart but I have Jesus!

@avidrevivalistawakening1754

14 күн бұрын

If they would just be open to connecting, they would have more friendships with them. And a relationship could happen if it grows into that. But then they wonder why they have to look outside church. Just be open to conversation and even going to coffee or lunch. You never know what God could do. But many of us are struggling and are looking for women of God outside of church because the ones in church are not acting interested in anything other than being single.

This is so good

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you enjoyed it!

Number one for sure: I realize my social circle is mainly composed of women and couples. Then again, Covid hasn’t exactly been helpful 😅

I haven't dated in awhile, as a senior woman, it's I think harder. I'm at a point where I feel I don't have time to do all the suggestions you make in all of the videos. I live a very busy life. So busy, I don't even have time for myself. My work demands alot of my attention and by the time I get home, I'm exhausted. All I want is to rest and relax. It would be nice to have someone to share things with, but again, seems alot of work. ☹️ What do you suggest?

Drop that truth brutha!!!!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Cait Patel 👍

Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7: 8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion

Cuz they're darkness we're light!! What does light 💡 have to do with darkness!!

While I am praying about marriage lately, I keep thinking if it is right to ask for a handsome man as husband. This video just answered me this doubt and made me happy! It’s not easy to wait sometimes, but it’s so good to reassure that we are in Christ before receiving this or any other blessing.

@cocochannel3694

4 жыл бұрын

Ooh yeah you can definitely ask God a handsome man. Girl i have written down all things i want in mine including height, color of his eyes lol..everything but don't forget that God knows what's best for us.

@melodyseverything6999

2 жыл бұрын

@@cocochannel3694 - I agree. It never hurts to ask God. And it's also fine if He says "no", lol!

I don't wanna marry or have a bf anymore. But this is a good advice. 💯✨✨

I have one husband and that is Jesus Christ!! Am in love with Jesus Christ not treating on him never!!

@young_precious_beauty

4 жыл бұрын

hello may i ask you where you from. just trying to meet good christians.

Is it just me or did he completely skip talking about number 5 altogether??? (the 'too agreeable equals boring' one).

I just noticed your insta-spired pouty face in the thumbnail 😂

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

5 жыл бұрын

lol!

(Maybe some of you could shed light on this) When I hear about women not being asked out by men in the church, I always wonder what environment of the church they are referring to, mainly small groups or Sunday morning services. As a Christian guy, I wouldn't have a problem asking a woman to coffee in the right setting, and for me, Sunday mornings are not the best place to do it. My question is this: do women bemoan that guys don't ask them out on Sunday mornings or in small group settings?

@BlessedForever888

Жыл бұрын

I'd love for a man to ask me out at church! It would be awesome!

@Guigley

Жыл бұрын

@@BlessedForever888 I hope that it happens for you one day. God bless!

Yes! I agree with the “taking care of yourself”! Queen Easter had to go through a period of purification with oils before even meeting her mate!👸

Amen 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Leah Collins thx!!

@scottcollins9446

4 жыл бұрын

Hi sis. lol

1. Is the guy I like passive or working in his personality of introvertedness? (I don't mean it in a bad way, just truth) 2. Maybe I'm too nice haha! What are some things that "mother" describes as? I do check up on him and offer to get him things... is that me being too nice or a mother? I am a 3 wing 2 on the enneagram, so my 2ness is part of my personality! (You should do a video about the enneagram!!!) 3. Can you comprehend more on the friend vibe? I don't want to send either sign too hard. 4. I think girls should be treated well, but no way am I against masculinity! 5. I rewatched and did not hear you talking about it?? 6. I do try to look my best!!

When you fall in love no one has to ask anything, you both just know by how you feel

@user-yv1fh3fc8y

3 жыл бұрын

Not always. You may love them romantically but they don’t necessarily love you romantically and don’t t want a relationship.

I keep hearing what not to do , but not what to do instead

I have a question. I try to be feminine as possible but I like astronomy, video games, art, traveling,swords fighting, shopping and learning different different languages is this a bad thing? I'm trying to be like the woman in proverbs 31but do I have to like a specific set hobbies or dress a certian way? I'm also an introvert.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Hi Alex Green, great question. Biblical femininity isn't about external things like clothing and hippies, it's more about your attitude of respect and love for others. This video is all about proverbs 31 so it might help kzread.info/dash/bejne/rHygwa2ulqe1ms4.html

@alexgreen1913

6 жыл бұрын

ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger. Okay ill watch it but I do have another question. I do go on other websites sometimes christian or not to get advice for spiritual or love and I see mgtow all the time. It gets to be discouraging. Understand them but they paint all women with the same brush. Feminism has done so much damage and it makes me angry and also it makes me feel like is there hope at all? I even see things from the mgtow like women should have no rights they need to owned by there fathers and brothers or even I can't wait until sex robots so women can be rendered useless. Will God allow this to happen and should we let it happen so life can balance out?

@The4Tifier

6 жыл бұрын

From a Biblical standpoint, everything we do should be for the love of God and others. If what you do allows you to better serve God and others in your life, then I'd say it is good. That doesn't mean only things that you would never find fun, but the hobbies you choose should help you in your walk rather than point you in the opposite direction.

@alexgreen1913

6 жыл бұрын

True. I do need to deepen my relationship with God. I don't know how my hobbies would do that.

@The4Tifier

6 жыл бұрын

Alex Green You'd be surprised how God's will can be done through things... For now I would more focus along the root motives of what you are doing in your hobbies. Is it purely for yourself and even in rebellion of God? Does it cause you to prioritize yourself over others and enjoy doing so? For me my hobby that wasn't good for God were competitive gaming; the hours poured into my own fantasy world where I wanted to destroy everyone was not good for me. However, things such as langauges can help you connect with other people, travelling and art can also do that, sword fighting for fun with others who like that is also good (even teaching others so they can enjoy it is also good), and video games for fun, especially with others and friends, can also be an act of service to others.

How do you walk the line between mothering and being that female presence that brings the peace to the guy you like that his mother gave him or that he likes getting from his mother?

I assumed that I couldn't be loved or even try to start to find my partner. I know I have to wait a little longer, it is wrong to think or say that way? I really want to be honest but I do tend to appreciate the guys around to and I'm very shy to ask a guy out. I tend to forget what kind of faults I have. I've been ignored for this blessing not active in dating because I'm fed up with older men asking me out, I'm not attracted to any older men why doesn't anyone like me? I feel like I'm very weak, I'm still going to college, I'm saved and now I wanna change my mind is it too late to find a guy? Please tell me the truth :)

For #1 - maybe the group of guy friends they know just aren't interested in her - like they see her as just "one of the guys." Maybe they don't think of her in a romantic way.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

True

@Grillaland

6 жыл бұрын

Maybe they are intimidated by her

@pradeep2662

6 жыл бұрын

Brenda Berrios your shaming tactics are probably the reason for you. Who would wanna be around with someone like you? You gotta understand that you can intimidate someone not just physically but with a cocky attitude. Just because women are weak, you think that they cant intimidate men? If you were a man and a woman changes her tone with you as soon as she finds that your income is lower than her's and it repeats a few times, wouldn't you be intimidated next time you meet a woman who earns well or youre just a robot who can factory reset your brain from time to time? A man who is being intimidated is not always at fault. You have no empathy hence you deserve none.

I get pursued but mostly by way older men, a little too old for me and that’s just as discouraging 😖 I nicely tell them no thanks. I would like someone my age 🤭. I believe God will bless me with someone though and I’m in no hurry!! I enjoy these videos to grow and this is a blessing to me and glad I found this ministry. I’ll keep you two in my prayers 😍🙌🏾

@theagent7514

4 жыл бұрын

how old are you and what age are the men pursuing you?

I agree with all the practical tips. And I would also like to add that God is THE major factor in all this. 1. Be sure to have an intimate relationship with The Lord, that you may discern his heart for you. 2. Be sure to remember it is God’s will and God’s timing. If all of these things happens, they run away, they are turned off by you, or you don’t know how to care for yourself yet, he is not among the male friends you hang out with, etc…I personally believe it is because it is not the time yet. God still wants to mold you, so trust God’s process. when it was time for Ruth to be married: she happen to arrive in Boaz’s town exactly during Harvest season, that is not coincidence. And She was found by Boaz once she chose to join God’s family ( being an intimate of God through Naomi). Folks and young people, be still and Know He is God. He won’t withhold a good thing from us and He has a perfect will custom-made for each of us if we trust Him. Key: Trust God and let Him mold you and Lead you. God bless you all.

What if they friend zone you first ? None the less you send off that vibe but how do you send the romantic vibe if they do that?

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Here's a video on that kzread.info/dash/bejne/g4iMx9ppp7SbfLw.html

@esthersaintil111

6 жыл бұрын

ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger thank you

Amen ❤️❤️❤️🙏

Omg that mothering him let hits home for me!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

4 жыл бұрын

God bless

I seem to always want what I can't or should not have🤪

when i asked her to be straightforward with me and literally not to sugarcoat it so i mean if you don't say your romantically interested in me or your interested in dating me it's not gonna happen I'm still going to try to keep getting clarification i have asperger autism you must be direct and honest it's better than giving me hints i just overthink hints i need you to literally answer more truthfully when i ask

I did not receive an emailed link for your ebook, but only a subscription confirmation. Please advise

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

It might be in your spam box. You have to click the link in the email. You can Send me an email and I will send it to you directly, markballenger@applygodsword.com

Because I havnt been around any. That’s my answer lol. Besides the ex that always said he was but never suggested for us to actually go to church

Can you please elaborate on what you mean by "mothering" the guy?

@tellitstraight8031

5 жыл бұрын

Amy Walsh I believe he means acting like you’re his mother. Always correcting him, being worried about his movements, doing everything for him and stuff like that, that a mother naturally feels for her children

God is love and good

Don't worry ladies. You don't have to worry about scaring me away. I'm convinced that singleness for life is the better way. Undivided and total devotion to the Lord! Glorious freedom from social pressures of the world. Money to give to whatever ministry I want. No people depending on my finances. No sex means no sexual issues! Have friends who share interests and travel all over. I wish I'd learned this year's ago.

@nobody46820

5 жыл бұрын

Amen.

@catherineevans4718

5 жыл бұрын

Good evening, Hamilton. You have it right. God does not call everyone to marry to serve God. The Apostle Paul spoke frequently of the blessings of singleness in Godly ministry. Thank you for having the courage to stand in this truth. Too many in our society, even in the church, seem to believe that they will die without romance and marriage. Therefore they do not trust God for their destiny; they trust how long they have been single, first. God comes first (Matthew 6:33). Thank you and Gods bless you.

@johnerikson828

5 жыл бұрын

The gift of singleness is great !

@catherineevans4718

5 жыл бұрын

@@johnerikson828 Good morning, Mr. Erikson. Thank you for allowing God's grace to keep you able to say this (1 Corinthians 7:1-3). God does not call everyone to marry. For those who are God-called to marry, God knows whom they belong with best. Duration of singleness, longing for marriage, and strength of sexual arousal, desire and temptation do not determine God's will for our marital status. May God bless you and keep you in your God-given convictions, marital and otherwise. (Numbers 6:24-26; 1 Corinthians 10).

@karensoapa959

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah you are true on that point. If God is calling you to singleness, then it is good for this men (women) to be as in Gen 2 :18. However, if it is God's will for you to get marry, then you need knowledge to pursue that life. According to God's word, young people perish because of the lake of knowledge. We need knowledge of God's word in every areas of our lives in order to help us descend to make decisions. The presentation simply response to that, giving more insights of God's word to apply in specific areas of our lives as children of God. There is every season in life. Singleness is not about been lonely but a time to grow more in the Lord, by setting yourself apart, build ,equip and knowing your identity in Christ. Preparing yourself for marriage by learning the principles in God's word is also part of singleness ( if you have the conviction to pursue marriage while you are single).But if you chose to remain single, it's good for you. Thus, take this teaching more with an open mind and be considerate of another brethren. Blessings

What do you say to the lady that says God says in His word that « He that finds a wife finds a good thing” which could mean that men ought to always to do the pursuing or the finding and not women.

Please work on camera and lighting and sound a little, in this video you look washed out. Not a criticism or belittlemen or put down. Just a viewer observation. Topics are excellent, well thought out, and clearly stated.TY. M.

Following me to my car or asking someone for my number is not going to work ladies

@MichellesdesignsEtc

26 күн бұрын

I've been less forward than that (I'm shy and I got rebuked )

Regarding your point on feminism, there are times when women lash out at men because of past experiences, but it's hard to take that point seriously because there are so many times that guys misinterpret equal rights for misogyny. Also, some of us may want the man to take the first step not because it's a man's job or anything like that. We may just want them to make the first move because our personality is one that avoids potential conflicts or potentially awkward situations. And the same goes for men. I understand your point about physical attraction, but there are quite a few people who need to realize that looks are fleeting. Eventually we all get old and ugly, and when you get to that point with your mate you better have a much deeper connection than just physical attraction. And I wouldn't want somebody who's high maintenance, either.

@karikling8812

6 жыл бұрын

That depends what you mean by confidence. If you mean they don't like it when a guy doesn't give up, that would be accurate. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and it's important to be able to take no for an answer. If you mean cocky, we just see that as cocky. Not creepy per se, but not desirable. We like someone who is sure of themselves but doesn't think too highly of themselves. Of course the perfect guy doesn't exist, so it's important to take the cocky guy and consider all other qualities, but we shouldn't give in to people who don't accept our rejections.

@karikling8812

6 жыл бұрын

Guys do a lot of flaking and ghosting as well. That's not something only women do, and we get tired of being around guys who insist they're good guys even when they are jerks or creeps. So, just like guys need a reason to pursue women, we need a reason to say yes.

@karikling8812

6 жыл бұрын

You're going to have to be really clear on what you think makes a guy good because I've seen guys who think they're good espousing beliefs that women should follow their every command, and I've seen guys who genuinely think they're good end up sexually assaulting women while at least acting like they didn't know that's what they did. This makes it difficult when somebody comes along and feels the need to say they're a good guy because I've seen so many others who said that or acted that way at first and then showed their true colors. They also might not be rejecting you because they don't think you're a good person. They might just think you're not compatible with them. I hardly ever get approached by Christian guys, and I wonder if that's because I'm openly a liberal Christian(they can go together) because Christians, by and large, have sold out to the Republican Party. Sorry for getting political, but I'm just giving you an example of why some guys might just see me as incompatible with them, and that's fine.

God heal me I don't know how I still feel towards relationships and marriages

Question: I am 63 year old single woman we need advice as to how to find and date a top quality Christian man who is not wanting a mother, etc. dating has changed and we want to know what they want and how to attract them my age group had been left out far too long

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Hi Pamela, this video may help kzread.info/dash/bejne/oJuI1c-biKywcrw.html

@lynnv8501

5 жыл бұрын

I feel much better since I gave up. The guys I met wanted a younger woman to work and support them. This is real simple: if a man isn't willing to make it so that I can retire then forget it. I'm not going to work all day and come home to a dude who's waiting for me to then cook and clean for him. I'm not his mom, and I only have so much energy.

@scottcollins9446

4 жыл бұрын

You’re a good looking lady at 63 you should be able to find somebody, I’m 53 if I was 63 I would date you, but I’m not looking to retire yet. And at 63 people are really slowing down, I’m still riding dirt bikes, riding Mountain bikes,I’m really active.I look like an older version Of Tarzan On a good day, homeless guy on a bad day. Lol

@elyzazaza

4 жыл бұрын

Repent and Believe you talking toooooo much

@mrenae6798

2 жыл бұрын

You’re beautiful AND I know a few women who have gotten married in their late 60s. God looks at time different than we do. 💜

Hey! What happened to #5?

You are wrong about 'passive guys around you in church not being good candidates for husbands'; there are a lot more factors at play behind the guy's decision not to ask somebody out. Please do not insult them by calling them passive! What if the one they'll eventually marry is outside that immediate setting? In another country/town/whatever? What if the guys are a lot more focused on growing, putting God first, gaining confidence in their faith and actually getting firm in their God given identity? I love most of the content on your channel but this is not right, please stick to the more important subjects.

@ronandheather3079

4 ай бұрын

Women hate passive beta males. Be alpha, be assertive. Go get what you want . Real men are dominant and March to the beat of their own drum. That’s what women want.

Dont fully agree with everything I love a woman that's loving and nurturing.

Here are my standards and please tell me if I am being too picky. Feel free to comment yours and maybe we can help each other. Loves Jesus. Abstains from premarital sex. Funny. Taller than me, but doesn’t have to be over 6ft. Someone I find attractive and someone who genuinely finds me attractive (this is important but not the most important). Someone who likes to travel. Race does not matter. Someone my age or no more than 12yrs older. Preferably no kids, but I am willing to change my preferences on that. A hard-worker who already has a stable job and own place to live. These are the major things I’m looking for.

It is really hard for me to tell which women are available to be asked out. I really don't know how other guys know. I missed class that day they were handing out those social skills, wait, probably more like years of class.

How do you know if you accidentally mothered someone? I didn't mean to, and kind of want to take it back now. But I didn't know I was. We aren't seeing each other but I do know that he is/was interested and I was becoming interested. He got a bad cold, so I brought him some helpful remedies. He was talking to me very often, almost daily and then after I brought him something else after the cold remedies, he seemed to really pull away. I was thinking it was him starting his new dream job at first, but now I am thinking that I accidentally mothered him. Can someone or Mark please weigh in on this for me? I want to apologize to him but that might be wrong too. I just want him to know I didn't mean to mother him. This is new for me. I have never been in a relationship or dated and I am in my 30s, I just don't know things I should probably know. It makes me feel pretty dumb. Thanks in advance for any input/help.

@NathanSmutz

5 жыл бұрын

If someone long and happily married disagrees with me, then probably listen to them; but I'd suggest looking for something you can express genuine admiration for, and communicate respect for that.

@scottcollins9446

4 жыл бұрын

There’s all kinds of information out there,but just be you yourself you are darling, so don’t worry about it, somebody Will find you.Also let somebody know if you’re interested because guys are dumb. lol

@holly3071

Жыл бұрын

I hate statements like “men” want this or that. Men are not all one unit. I don’t believe that there aren’t plenty of men who would love to be cared for. I think you should be yourself as long as it’s biblical and don’t force yourself to fit a mold. There is a man out there wishing he had someone to bring him medicine when he is sick. I am caring and motherly. There is nothing at all in the Bible that I know of speaks against that.. God made us all different

Amen

She doesn't scare me away...she has high standards....so do I.It transforms both into better selves.

@flourishorji6681

2 жыл бұрын

best comment!

In my case ,there is no man about my age in churches that I attend regularly or visit

I think #3 in some single Christian circles we are sometimes told to not be pushy or assertive with stating interest so we swing to the other way and just play the friend card. #4 I have chatted with some men on issue and they say the exact thing you did that they feel confused on how women want to be treated so they just shut down and do not approach those who give a weird vibe. I have watched some different documentaries on the feminist movement...all I can say is the devil is like a roaring lion seeking whom to devour...the movement did not have the same meaning for all women.

@slardebard

5 жыл бұрын

Its definitely in the church they just crouch it in different terms. I think the damage is done and there is no turning back. Men are walking away from relationships period they no longer see the value in them. As an older man I can't see the value in them either anymore. Things were so much different when I got married. It's an alien world to me and my wife.

What if he wanted marry you and all but you are in a long distance relationship....The least bit it got hard he bailed. It was torture because we couldn't see or fully understand what was happening in our lives. He didn't understand being an art major in college is TIME CONSUMING, let alone being a full time student! My days and weekends were taken up by art projects and studying. I couldn't see what on earth was holding him back from up and just moving to a new city like I did, since he was single, no kids, its just him, and he always complained about wanting to leave his hometown. I thought we would start a new life together since were spiritually in the same boat... I guess it wasn't meant to be.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

I agree w your assessment.

I like where you talked about physical attraction..for example men who dress like kids..

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Yes, amen, physical attraction is not everything but it is important.

❤❤

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Tonya Stevens 👍

Alot of men today dont even know yet what's a real woman. Cause they haven't have one or when they due. They chase them away from them. And the sad part about that is that they dont even know it. They start to think that's what life has for them. That's why is good for church to have man and woman service so the can learn things that they need to learn. But the churches have stopped those things.

@scottcollins9446

4 жыл бұрын

Migdalia Mojica I agree the elders should be sharing with them so people don’t make so many mistakes also,I was married for 22 years and I married a great one but not a good one for me and she end up leaving leaving, we fought about money, sex, and housework. She didn’t love me for me and I didn’t love her for her, to bad, we are worship leaders.Tried everything in my power to reconcile, but she wouldn’t and it’s probably a good thing she went to go get happy, maybe now I can. Although I don’t believe it was right,we were still friends.I let it go when she married somebody, last month. Kind of the Amy Grant story except for we weren’t big, lol.

@Leggs013

4 жыл бұрын

Will you marry me ♥️?

@scottcollins9446

4 жыл бұрын

Leggs013 If you’re talking to me,what do you look like and how old are you,I might. lol If you’re talking to her, then it wouldn’t work, because I’m a guy and I like girls.

The motherly one... trueeeeeeeee

What About In College??

Well. My friend Steve karnes from work well I. Really want to leave the friend zone

And yet Ruth pursued Boaz , very subtly until she laid down at his feet and napped with him!

@amywalsh4006

5 жыл бұрын

I like to say that women can indicate their interest but men decide whether to respond. Was it Naomi who said to David to remember her after her husband died? But it was his choice to respond and go after her. I can imagine it would be terrifying for some guys to make the first move. But if they're given hints, then they'll feel more comfortable approaching the girl

@amywalsh4006

5 жыл бұрын

My mistake it was Abigail

@KianoUyMOOP

5 жыл бұрын

People are taking that story WAAAAAAAAAAAAAY out of context, and it's driving me crazy.

@young_precious_beauty

4 жыл бұрын

it was a picture of the plan of salvation. it picture the way we should approach God and what Jesus did for us.

@cordeaniaknox4158

3 жыл бұрын

@@young_precious_beauty God can use his word to speak to each of us differently

The problem is that if a guy is an introvert, then the woman should take the initiative and talk to the guy, but pray about it first, because if you seek God, then God will let you know if he is the right one for you. Ask God to send the man that He wants you to have as a husband.

NO YOUR STINKY...LOL BLAST!!! God bless you

It's also about trying to be, look &become our best through Christ. Our bodies are truly temples, & need to be treated as such.

Being single is the greatest and the BEST blessing. I've been in a TON of relationships and have to say being single is great for most men now. Times changed. You are no longer a "selfish" person for not being a husband or father anymore.

Omg Good point regarding feminism. Can’t have both ways . #superbowlhalftime

@itstriplem2069

4 жыл бұрын

indeed, comrade, there are many things feminism has hurt men on, same with MeToo, that's why there is MGTOW and RedPill Rage. Women should be influenced and should listen to the bible, not the dating advice od the world because its what we have now.

The reason number 1 is a prevalent reason why women in my country don't get asked out much especially among Christians were the ratio is already 1 man to 6 women and even those few are mostly passive. The problem is where do you go to find those active courageous men and surround yourself by them if this is a global sickness in post communist countries where men have been robbed of their identity and purpose....I know tons of girls not been asked out for years by no one whilst none of other reasons you mentioned are the problem. :/ you are right but what's the solution... Should we all emigrate? Ive been praying for foreign men and cultures who arent passive and weak to come and take our women to show our men how to treat them....and I advice international dating sites and travelling... .but still... Not much you can do normally... will need some big miracles

What ever age u are..u should be contented.The Lord will order the step of u and that individual in the time and season to connect.The bible said ..not to be anxious for nothing.When u go out of the plan of God ..u will so reap that reward. I just recently ran into a man the Lord has been talking to me about on multiple occasions.And with confirmation.In those yrs apart and not hearing from him I wonder if God had said what he had told me of the individual.So I prayed and specifically ask God to allow our parts to cross if this gent was the one.As I was going about my business and had forgotten what i had prayed one day.My mind went on him as i wondered.."what if I ran into him.It was only a thought.The next day as i was out..i had to go and licence my car..i suppose to go at 8:30am but i had to delay it until 1:00pm.As I stood in line to be serve..about another hour had pass..There comes the gent..walking towards me.OMG!!!! I Froze with shock and disbelieve.GUYS GOD IS REAL.IF GOD TELLS U SOMETHING PERSONALLY...BELIEVE HIM..HIS PROMISES ARE YES AND AMEN IN JESUS..AMEN...I AM A PRAYER WARRIOR AND INTERCESSOR..YES IT'S NOTHING WRONG WITH LETTING A GUY KNOW U LIKE HIM..BUT ALLOW GOD TO TAKE CONTROL IN HIM PURSUING U..GODS WAY IS ALWAYS BEST.THOSE YRS DRAW ME CLOSER TO GOD AND TRUSTING HIM MORE.ITS OUR INSECURITIES THAT SOMETIMES CONTROL OUR OUTCOME NEGATIVELY.WE ARE NOW IN CONTACT.AND AM WAITING ON THE PROMISE OF GOD TO COME TO PASS.AMEN!!....AND I STILL DIDN'T TOLD HIM WHAT GOD HAS BEEN TELLING ME EITHER.THATS NOT MY JOB.BUT GOD!!