I once had a crush on a choir director so did all the other women in the church he was a widowed handsome man he played the piano like nobody else could he sang Christian songs and even preached at times in place of our pastor. he was always friendly at the door is people were leaving and he would shake my hand reel tight look in my eyes and say it was so good to see you today and I thought he liked me the way he shook my hand with meaningful gesture being a very shy and humble person I am and I considered myself at least attractive I had confidence in myself in that way so I was bold enough to ask him if he would like to take the opportunity to go to a concert with me I had two free tickets. he suddenly said he was sorry that I should just ask somebody else in place of him. oh my goodness that was such a let-down I was never so embarrassed. I guess my crush just went right down the tubes. so I decided never to try to date someone at church. I believe men and women want to meet a good Christian values person of worth and it's very difficult to cross that line at church. so how is someone to meet someone if they are Christians and can't find the right person at church. I later knew that God was protecting me. I found out he was having an affair with a married woman. never put any man or woman on a pedestal until you really know who they are the only one that should be on a pedestal is Jesus Christ he is perfect

@lornaswasey4687

4 жыл бұрын

Chocko

@nancyingrace

4 жыл бұрын

Gabrielle Budd woow 😳

@jerrylisby5376

4 жыл бұрын

Don't base everything on that one man. Doesn't mean a thing. Don't be afraid to speak up the next time. A man that likes you will appreciate you speaking with him.

@BluDrop5

4 жыл бұрын

@Carly Fournier God was protecting her from being another one of this man's mistresses.

@doramilaje9750

4 жыл бұрын

In hindsight most of the time I felt rejection I found it was God protecting me from a mess. 🥰

Simply follow the Holy Spirit rather than your feelings. He'll convict you of what you should or should not do. Because if the desire you have for someone comes from the Lord, the Lord will do the work. What I mean here is you don't have to appear desperate because Abba will provide a way. It won't bother you if that person likes someone else. Because your security comes from the Lord. He is enough, our bridegroom, and our everything.

@southernsunshine2566

Ай бұрын

I REALLY like your comment. It is simple yet very profound. ❤

I think Isaac and Rebecca give us a great tip about how a woman should approach a man. In the Bible you don't see Rebecca going after any man. She wasn't anxious about that, she was just working and the blessing came to her. I think trusting God is the key to get the right guy for a Cristian woman! Great video!

@karenbantiyan6025

4 жыл бұрын

Amein agreed

@Cora_is_Thriving

3 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏🏽!

@stpatrickcentre7694

3 жыл бұрын

Hello

@brittanybrooks430

3 жыл бұрын

I agree amen.

@susanadamu3867

3 жыл бұрын

True, I agree.

1. Talks to them a lot more than you talk to other people. 2. Encourage them. 3. Use the power of invitation. Invite him to spend more time with you but not in an obvious way. 😂 1. Don't tell him directly but giving him signs how you feel about him.

@petersayatshkin7454

4 жыл бұрын

YES, YES, YES and once again: YES! I’m a christian guy (27, freshly and happy dating) and I approve every part point of that advice 👍 1. I do get suspicious, that a girl likes me, when she takes her time to talk to me. 2. Any honest (important) positive comments on my skills were more worth that ANY thing, she could else do for me. (Don’t get discouraged by guys possibly awkward response to your compliment, neither push it to strong, just let him know, that you like the way he does stuff). I want for my girl & future wife to be the best, to serve her and be appreciated in my ability to navigate the world, grow and reach my goals in a way God helped me to develop over time. That feeling of being respected is iiiiiiiiiiiiiiinvaluable. A very strong fuel. Use with care and honesty:) 3. Inviting a guy to do something for you is an awesome strategy! Win-Win-Win-Win. One thing though: he might just be friendly and not romantically interested, buuuut you might still have great time and a problem solved (or at least partially solved, or at least get a new perspective on the issues, guys lllove to give there perspectives of issues 🙈) and you two might know each over a little bit better, no pressure:) or he might be interested, but just be busy at that time... dunno) just some thoughts of mine. Best of luck, sisters!!!!! Pray for your relationships, be patient, trust your Creator and let Him shape and prepare you for the life he has planed and prepared for you 😌✨ God bless you!! 🌿 !

@haleyv6487

4 жыл бұрын

@@petersayatshkin7454 Thanks for taking the time to write out all of your feedback on these!

@shersher6074

4 жыл бұрын

Peter Sayatshkin thank u for the insights

@serenity8295

2 жыл бұрын

ugh to late

@lillyfahey1921

8 ай бұрын

Thank You.

I agree that men should do the pursuing. But ladies, telling men they need to "man up" and "step up" will absolutely not help. Instead of assuming the worst - that we are cowards and weaklings - please try to understand that we are just as fallen, broken and in need of understanding as you. We need grace as much as you. And grace is really attractive.

@mariahconklin4150

2 жыл бұрын

I love this. Thank you

If it’s Gods will it will happen, regardless things will flow so naturally :)

@enriba7842

5 жыл бұрын

Evelyn Calderon Tu sera mia, nomas no te pierdas en nuestro flow.

@lamentations3226

5 жыл бұрын

You are SOOOOOOOOOO CORRECT !!!!

@claribelcenteno5358

4 жыл бұрын

Evelyn Calderon exactly amen

@jerrylisby5376

4 жыл бұрын

Not without some effort on your part.

@chasingthesun90

4 жыл бұрын

You must make the effort to position yourself

Ruth put her best clothes and perfume on... she put herself in a position whereby Boaz knew that she was available and desired Him as a husband😁👌☺️💕...she then waited to see how he responded...🙏🏻❤️

@trishg8852

4 жыл бұрын

Child of God Yehovah exactly! a good example. ❤️

@daniellefawn

4 жыл бұрын

Trish G amen she slept at his feet in submission

@scottwhitley5542

4 жыл бұрын

Ruth pursued Boaz. Ruth PROPOSED marriage to Boaz. That Leverite Marriage deal took 6 to 9 months to carry out, while she pursued him. And this wasn't just an oddball situation because Levirite Marriage was the Law, for everybody. Where does the Bible say a man is to pursue a woman? Don't put words in God's mouth.

@BluDrop5

3 жыл бұрын

@@scottwhitley5542 Ruth didn't pursue him - she invited him to pursue her. Look at Adam and Eve, Isaac and Rebekah, Jacob and Rachel, Moses and Zipporah, etc... Biblically, after the man had an evident relationship with God, had a purpose (job or calling), then his wife was led to him. Then, he pursued her.

@thalescavalcante4150

3 жыл бұрын

@@BluDrop5 Great examples, well said!

"Encouragement is biblically flirting" 😂😅

@inezae.eliane798

5 жыл бұрын

Tehillah Praise 😂😂

@joolspools777

4 жыл бұрын

Oh nice

@bkincs07

4 жыл бұрын

Tehillah Praise my current situation. Will tell you how it goes 😂😂 I’m not flirtatious but I know how to be nice.

@lubutosdiary8896

4 жыл бұрын

Tehillah Praise will try that 😂😂

@chantellejohnston3008

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂 But also 💯

Guys need to start stepping up and pursuing women. Thats the Godly way!

@Chaosmite

5 жыл бұрын

I would have to agree with you, however, with today’s society with metoo and feminism is just harder to approach. Not only that, women hides their signals more these days with showing their interests. (Not saying you, just in general)

@agraciousgiftfromyah7398

5 жыл бұрын

I don't know your heart, but incase you are, or you will... Please don't think playing mind games to excessively keep him chasing is a Godly way either, that's playing mind games, and it will almost always lead to game over, and if not the buttons will be stiff so you won't get very far in the relationship. If a woman is excessively trying to make me chase her beyond what's natural, I'm backing out, unless God told me otherwise. I understand it's natural and I find it cute but when it comes to excessively trying to bend the strings to make him chase you, it will exaust him and you will become selfish, and end up sincerely accusing him of being selfish because you feel neglected, but he isn't actually neglecting you, it's because you probably have wounds of past hurt which God needs to heal, and if you keep that mindset, you'll be insecure throughout your relationship, because when he's unable to you'll be insecure about it. It's covetousness for attention it will hurt your heart, and it means you need to ask God to fill your heart to be the main one you need attention from. I've got some past wounds that need healing to, it's painful.

@jackjones3657

5 жыл бұрын

This is true. I also don't think there's fault in a woman observing a guy she is interested in and genuinely engaging him in conversation as a clue to your interest. Feel him out as to personality etc. This will also illuminate how you can best proceed. Some guys are more reserved and guarded, especially with modern cultural hypersensitivities

@lanag9318

5 жыл бұрын

I. agree with you on all of this as it most certainly is. Be blessed always. 💖💖

@markwatson2814

5 жыл бұрын

And women need to stop giving good guys attitude

My friend had a crush on a guy for years-finally she told him her feelings. They are in a relationship. So while I can see guys’ wanting to “take the lead,” I think sometimes being upfront is refreshing. Ruth is an example for me.

@musicislife7464

2 жыл бұрын

Wow lol

@chloeleinster251

2 жыл бұрын

I agree, a man won’t know how someone feels unless they tell them. It won’t hurt just letting them know you’re interested, that’s definitely not too strong or initiating anything.

@childofgodyehovah187

2 жыл бұрын

I like it!!

@sweetman5249

2 жыл бұрын

@@chloeleinster251 I love anything that is too strong. I am looking for nice woman to get married .

“I enjoy small talk with my wife....that’s because I want my wife to like me” 😆😂 that made me laugh

@selene3171

Жыл бұрын

That

As a dude I can verify everything that was said is spot on. If any of this is too complicated, just throw some more smiles his way when you're talking. If he's at all interested in you, thats only gonna make him like you more.

@praisetashblessed7065

2 жыл бұрын

Johnny Thus very true my friend.thank you

@yvonnegrijalva1047

2 жыл бұрын

I’m hoping so I surly SMILE every chance I have when bi bump into him.. HE Smiles back and he gives me his full attention... an we both hinted about coffee together sometime and he answered I like that... but nothing had be of it yet... so tell me Johnny, should I just continue going onwards and just forget it.... may he really don’t want to get know one another

I truly laughed at the first point because guys love to assume you like them even when you're just being friendly. I actually have to not smile as much when interacting with the opposite sex because I'm generally a friendly person. I even have to temper myself when it comes to encouraging males because it comes naturally to encourage others. Too many men are not pursuing women for fear of rejection.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

5 жыл бұрын

Well said!

@SoddingSuperHero

5 жыл бұрын

That fear, any fear I believe are works of the devil. We shouldn’t be fearful and think negatively and dwell on our past rejections and bringing that mindset into our present circumstances . So, we should always remain positive of the possibilities that the person may reconsider accepting you back even if they rejected you the first time. Relationships are a big commitment to handle too.

@favour597

5 жыл бұрын

Marvel: Spider-Man the fear of the Lord is the only righteous fear🙌🏾🙌🏾😁

@enriba7842

5 жыл бұрын

Divine Diva Come be my freind will see if you can handle the beauty I am, like all the girls who want to eat me like a desert. 😍😚

@melissaatuatasi495

5 жыл бұрын

I'm dying of laughter because I do both 1 & 2!!! I'm in leadership & super social, talkative.. it's the Jesus in me to be social & all that. And I mass texts or write encouraging notes to both guys & gals all the time!!! 🤣🥰🤣🥰

Many people choose someone, they prefer or 'think' might be a good choice and then ask the lord to make it work. Whoever, we end up with, we should be confidant that it was his choice for us, not our own, which is why it is important to receive confirmation from the lord. When we give God the option to choose our spouses, he is mindful of our needs and our expectations as long as they align with his will. The more we understand and accept how much we're loved by God, the easier it gets to patiently wait and trust his timing.

@kasiasaved6233

5 жыл бұрын

I love your anserw

@user-de3sg8iv2k

5 жыл бұрын

But if we ask God then how we can understand and read the signs he gives us?

@aalayacooper2948

4 жыл бұрын

Sugeta Arul so good and so true! I believe this 100%

@BluDrop5

4 жыл бұрын

So true!

@iceblaze3043

3 жыл бұрын

I believe God gives us multiple good Choices.

I did the blunt approach once after a few years of confusion. He gave both vibes (friendship and romantic). I needed closure to the confusion. He eventually let me know he was interested but decided he wasn’t interested in me romantically anymore. It was good for me so that I could move on.

@RoniiiB

4 жыл бұрын

Ebony Oliver amen 🙏

@randyg22152

4 жыл бұрын

Speaking as a man, I assume that if you give a guy an "obvious" hint, and he acts like he doesn't get it, odds are, he knew exactly what you wanted, but he wasn't attracted to you, and he wanted to spare your feelings and avoid a potentially awkward situation by rejecting you outright.

@BluDrop5

4 жыл бұрын

Typically, a man is clear (e.g. verbal, non-verbal, the way he treats other) about what he wants. Thus, he wouldn't show friend vibes to someone who he wants to be romantic with. So, if you perceive this, move on because he's not ready (for whatever reason) to be in an exclusive relationship with you.

I told his sister (my friend) I liked her brother, and she told him I had feelings for him. He was already showing me signs, and she told him to pursue me if he felt something back and he did :))

I cannot believe how I was out of track before watching this video!😨 I am literally doing all these things with the guys I don't like and completely the opposite towards the guys I like. That's why they never approach even if they seem that they notice me. I can't believe it. Thank a lot for these words of wisdom and advices. God bless you

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

So glad this was helpful! God bless :)

@vuyiswapriscadlamini6207

5 жыл бұрын

This is so me as well.

@williampalmer9828

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for admitting your shortcomings. You being authentic and honest about it is the first step to doing & being better. Keep doing better & you'll get a different result. An honest woman. Very admireable. 💯✔

@melisslacour15

5 жыл бұрын

Definitely have been making this same mistake as well!

@marsmallow_17

3 жыл бұрын

Me too.

King Xerxes: Come to my banquet pls ily :p Queen Vashti: no lol *Queen Vashti has been kicked from this server*

@favour597

5 жыл бұрын

mmm lasaga oof😂😂🤧😅

@gchijioke12

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@vastisalvatore1114

4 жыл бұрын

Come in dude. That's how my name is. Lol

@vastisalvatore1114

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler Gibson in Hebrew its without the H

In all seriousness. Perfect love cast on fear. I don't think a perfect formula exist for how to start a relationship but if you go to overboard to fast it will scare anyone you like. We are all human get to know the person first and see if it's a good experience or a bad one. Not everything that glitters is gold.

Thanks Mark, I really needed to hear this. I caught up with a girl, had an amazing time with her. She extended an invite to me the next day which I accepted, and then when I saw her another time I got really nervous and overwhelmed around her and got attacked horribly by the enemy by past hurt in opening my heart up. I just felt in my own head that it was moving so quickly out of nowhere. She even asked me a week beforehand that she wanted to catch up with me, but I was busy at the time, but this planted a seed in my heart and started to think of her more than just a church friend. Now I desire to pursue her by getting to know her more, but not being too direct too quickly, might take a couple of days to pray over this and ask God to give me the capacity to love her as Christ loves me.

@LoveFirstYou

4 жыл бұрын

Listen to Yolanda Adams's song, "Open My Heart." Ask God for guidance. He will answer. Trust in all that He reveals to you in due time. You will know.

@sarahlaborde2680

Жыл бұрын

This is so beautiful! ❤

@sarahlaborde2680

Жыл бұрын

@@LoveFirstYou ❤ God bless you, I'm taking this advice all the glory to Jesus Christ !!!!

This makes me so happy becuz i was doing all of these points without even knowing it was the right way and he's definitely interested and responding well... we've developed a great steady friendship within romantic interest... iit feels good and led by the Spirit... thanx Mark Ford confirming what the Lord was already doing in my life!

@JustLouns

5 ай бұрын

You need to teach the rest of us. I’ve fumbled a bit

Yes, but I also recommend either letting things grow like you would with any other friendship in the body, and also spend some times praying about the guy you are interested in and asking God if it his will to open his eyes, in the meantime spending time adoring the Lord and loving others. Because he will be more attracted to the fruit of a godly woman.

@starshadow5167

3 жыл бұрын

So beautifully said. I agree. 🙂

@yvonnegrijalva1047

2 жыл бұрын

Gracias for so True praying on if it is the person, an asking MyDad♥️☝️♥️🕊🙏🏼

@Sybil28520

10 ай бұрын

This!! ❤

Thank you Mark. God bless you for helping single people find a husband or wife.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

You welcome Maria :)

If I have a daughter- I’ll definitely warn her to be weary of men who’s concept of masculinity is so fragile it shatters when a women takes the initiative 😂

@kannot1

3 жыл бұрын

it's about the long term effects... some men become lazy and spoilt when women do all the pursuing. I've seen it and it can be quite exhausting for women😕 don't set your daughter up for a life like that

@jamesdiamond2583

3 жыл бұрын

@@kannot1 It’s about the long term effects... some women become lazy and spoiled when men do all of the pursuing. I’ve seen it happen too and it can be quit exhausting for men. Don’t set your sons up for a life like that. 😂

@childofgodyehovah187

2 жыл бұрын

Lol

@childofgodyehovah187

2 жыл бұрын

It has to be real... pursuing seems like effort... but if you love each other then surely it’s no effort?

@candacehearn1771

2 жыл бұрын

Is there childish conversation happening between you two or what? Personally I think the man should pursue the woman. But both parties should show interest😊

Just from personal experience here. I am very relationally clueless. I had this girl who I was head over heels for and I always made it a point to talk to her whenever I saw her, but I never really initiated anything because I wasn’t sure how she felt. One day she came in the store with a guy and she was dropping slot of hints and chatting me up, and honestly it felt like she might’ve been flirting. However, seeing this guy she came in with standing next to her I thought she was already seeing this guy and therefore just being friendly with me so I didn’t take any of the bait. I later found out from a sister that this girl did really like me and I went up to her and asked her out, unfortunately by this time she had found someone else and moved on, and I kick myself for that a little more every day. So just a guys advice for the ladies, just because he doesn’t respond doesn’t always mean he’s not interested, he may just be stupid like I am, so take that as you will 😅

@nanyummyify

Жыл бұрын

That's so sad 😭

Just to add a little bit of a woman's perspective, I sort of was blunt with a guy and told him I liked him (after a few months of back and forth where things were unclear). I do regret being blunt, and as you said, instead of starting a relationship it ended a friendship. But at the same time, I'm kinda glad it ended b/c there was no going back to what it once was, and it helped me to move on. So I think sometimes it's OK for the woman to be blunt and get it out of the way. But that's just my 2 cents. :)

Flirting doesn't have to be sexual. It can be a playful way with words that shows you are a fun person to be around.

@smokerx6291

2 жыл бұрын

How do you flirt without being sexual?

@tantig5923

2 жыл бұрын

Correct, Thank You!! Words and actions too Can be non sexual. We as Christians have this thing so mixed up. The comments confirm why so many are single.😔

@praisetashblessed7065

2 жыл бұрын

Loraine Wilson you have pinned it.i also second your complement

@jessicamerced9116

2 жыл бұрын

@@smokerx6291 I kind of hate that I'm so "flirty" without being sexual..I get told this often 🤨 I smile, give eye contact a lot, laugh, compliment people, but it's just my personality. Ironically, the one person I do have a crush on, I act exactly the same around him as I do other people..the only difference is I try to talk to him more than other people and how nervous, happy and warm I feel 😫😅

I enjoyed your video! 1. Little talks with the guy 2. Encourage him 3. Invite him to do things with you

Great advice. Would you be open to work on a video for women who are having trouble trusting men from past relationships and, how to gain trust through God's wisdom in a loving acceptable relationship? How to spot men who are truly authentic, non-judgemental. If you have already done this, I will check your videos. Thanks!💛

@Happy78704gal

6 жыл бұрын

Tanya Stevens agree, I need it TOO!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Yes, I love this idea, great suggestion. I will add it to my list and hopefully do this soon

@kimdkus

5 жыл бұрын

Yes please!! I was horribly abused growing up and trust is hard for me.

@pinkfuschia8140

5 жыл бұрын

"But Jesus on his part would not entrust himself to them, because he knew all people 25 and needed no one to testify about anyone; for he himself knew what was in everyone." (John 2:24-25 NRSV). If Jesus didn't trust any then how can we?

@Abmarp

5 жыл бұрын

Tanya Stevens YEESSS

I feel like some guys are so insecure even if I give them signs they still doubt it

Small talk: one purpose is to open a conversation which can lead to deeper more profound talk.

I had an interest in a woman who showed all these signs so I sat back and waited to see how things would develop. The more I got to know her the more I saw that she was most likely just being friendly. But it gave me time to get to know here objectively and from that I saw that we were not on the same page as far as Bible knowledge went. As a result, I was able to assess her qualities and move on from pursuing her without any one getting hurt. And her none the wiser. As a result, the Lord has used it to establish me in my purpose to encourage others to grow in the knowledge of God and to be free to go wherever He directs me to go. God will always work good to those who love Him and are called in accordance with His purpose. The ultimate purpose for humans is to have a relationship with God and this far outlasts anything the temporal reality we reside in can offer.

Just the fact that you spend YOUR time making these videos to help and lead Christian Men and Women means so much. Your wife is lucky to be married to you and I am sure you feel lucky being married to her! Thank you for your efforts and the time you make for this ministry :) :) South Africa

When all three happened and you still get friend zoned 😂… Lord is good

@siskristie2113

2 жыл бұрын

Awww.... being in the "friend zone" is not a bad position. I would recommend that if you be the best friend to her that you can possibly be, eventually she will come around. Use that position, out shine the competition. You will win her over! Blessings to You!!!

It’s really nice to hear a guy’s perspective for us Christian single women! Thank you so much for sharing this, it’s much needed!!

This video showed up in my reccomended and it literally answered all my questions that I've been praying about lately. Thank you! :)

You explained this really well. Very practical.

I’m so shy when I like the guy .. I talk to everyone else everyone real easy Except the guy I like !! What to do when shy and liking that one guy I avoid .?:/ but really want to talk to him .

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

It might be hard at first but the more time you spend w him the easier it will get.

@jenniferamartey4475

5 жыл бұрын

I am having the same issue, we are in the same group so we get to contribute on group level but when it's just the two of us, I get really nervous so I normally have someone join us for a chat but I do text him alot basic things like what our brother is talking on

@palmaraja4850

5 жыл бұрын

I have spent a long time studying how to get a man to love you more and found a great website at Covert attractor audit (look it up on google)

@marysanchez2981

5 жыл бұрын

Moroccanluv88 Bite the bullet..gurl

@dreamwishergirl

5 жыл бұрын

Just talk to him I promise it’ll be okay

You’ve showed me a different point of view with the pushiness... I truly didn’t knw tht. I’m a very straight blunt person and hate wasting my time. I will take your advice 🤩🤩🤩Thank you and God bless!!!👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

I'm the same way Patrice Wiley so I've had to learn gentleness the hard way :)

@DinahAnaya_Artist

5 жыл бұрын

Pushiness. Dominating. Strong Character...why does a woman do this? Why are people men or women needy? How do you heal if you have been hurt and you turned around to be the dominating one? You forgive, but your gentleness is about gone out the door like way back?

So funny, every time I think about a question that I would like to write on here, another one of your videos come up which answers the question I wanted to ask. So no need to ask. So far anyway 😂😂😂 Mark, you are definitely a blessing to a lot of us. I’m sure a lot of women would agree with me on that. Thank you for starting this ministry. God bless you and your family!!! 😊❤️

Thank God for notifications 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾 I see there’s levels to this. Lol 📝

seriously, it was my first time, but I was kind of dating someone two years ago, and suddenly our friendship faded away and we stopped seeing each other. anyway, nothing happened just we stopped seeing each other. yet i got a dream and heard a voice when i was praying in the chapel in the eucharist chapel, the voice was to be patient. every time i pray about these lovey dovey stuff, i get dreams like crucifix or/and cross or sometimes i see our Virgin mary and they tell me to be patient. every time. i am not kidding..

This was extremely helpful. I have done a few of these things. And I was about to make that fatal mistake of telling him, based on advice from 2 young, single ministers. Thank you!!

Your advice is always so good! I appreciate your non-judgemental candour.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

So glad you enjoy these videos :) 👍

This was very good. I'm married, so I technically didn't need it for me, but I have a lot of single friends in church. When I was single, the message I was given was that women had to be 100% passive and just wait to be discovered. This led to a lot of passive-aggressive flirting, instead of the straight-forward signals given in this video. Good work.

Amen, a great message given,God bless you🌷🌷🌷

Lol!!!! Im currently organizing some laundry and usually while i get busy with housework, i let your videos "autoplay" ... i have to say that i laughed so hard throughout this video! Awesome video with very relatable points and information with a super awesome personable delivery. Thanks, Brother Mark!

Good one! I think there needs to be a video about the guys that "don't have the guts" and are fearful/in denial and how to handle that!

Just found your channel, breath of fresh air to hear you advice with faith in mind. Thanks

I really enjoyed this one and I'm probably going to try it out! 😁 Thanks.

This is helpful in many ways. Thank you for the advice and clarity.

8:38 beyondish, Dont agree. *HE* WHO FINDS A WIFE FINDS A GOOD THING. If it is Gods will then he will ask us out. It also shows me that this person isnt timid. I need a strong Godly man who can be bold not timid. This world is rough i dont have time for games. Pursing a man *N E V E R* works

@davidisrael9412

4 жыл бұрын

it isnt pursuing ..letting a guy know by paying attention to him that youre intrested....until then he isnt probably going to even think to ask you out...yet you never know...lol, would you like to got out:? just saying david777aqua4Jesus gmail.com and be humorous ok Romans 8:28&29

@wilney6327

3 жыл бұрын

I agree with you Alina, women of God, don't worry about having a guy or no. Because God have plan for us and now, we just focus on our relationship with God until God says it's time. When the time comes, you'll just instantly knew He was the God Chosen one for you. We don't have to go looking or pursuing any man. Because God knows our timing. There's a reason for closed door ❤

Solid advice! So glad I found your videos because they are biblically sound and encouraging. Bless you!

Thank you for the topics you treat. So relevant!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

My pleasure! So glad the videos have been helpful :)

I just recently subscribed to this channel and really find the videos informational. I trust God with all of my heart and pray regularly for His WILL to be done. I just hope that if God is going to put "it" in my heart for somebody...that He puts in that person's heart also. ☺I don't have any particular person in my mind at this time but, I do hope it's a true, mutual connection...when it happens. And when He does put in his heart, that the guy will be brave enough to trust God too.

@newgreenstone3259

4 жыл бұрын

Tamara Hathaway PHILIPPIANS 4:3 well said

I've been divorced for quite some time, and have gone on a Christian dating site, but not a lot of good replies or ways to meet via social media I am finding out. So I'm looking forward to hearing more about dating as a single older woman and being found by a quality Christian man in today's society.

Great tips! I have tried tip 3 and will try the others. Will keep you posted. If its God's will its His will.

I am so grateful for your ministry through videos brother in Christ. I will be praying for you and your family as you are helping many! Looking forward to new videos in 2020.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

4 жыл бұрын

Amen! Thank you Bethany! All glory to God!

This is some pretty good advice. Sounds like I might actually be doing something right

Thanks so much for this vid, bro! Some meaty nuggets to knaw upon! May our Lord & Saviour Jesus Christ continue to bless you & your ministry👍💖👑

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Amen Disa Jardine, so glad this was helpful to you :)

So all christian singles are here with simular problems and hoping for a marriage..... ?!?

@moroccanluv8810

5 жыл бұрын

🙏🤣

@joolspools777

4 жыл бұрын

🙏

5:42 hahahhaa. That made me smile! We all need encouragement. I used to be so hypocritical of men but I have learned to edify people with my tongue. Man or woman. :)

Hey, could you do a video on how to if a shy Christian guy/girl likes you? Or, anything about shy Christians? Thanks!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Hi Fuzzy Mino Kitten, here's a video for introverts kzread.info/dash/bejne/Y6eB2bVwcZDSiM4.html let me know if you have follow up questions after watching it :) God bless

Thank GOD for this video. I almost made the mistake of bluntly laying my feelings out on the table but the HOLY SPIRIT stopped me!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

5 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad this was helpful to you :)

@glow-raynkwana7910

3 жыл бұрын

Same here 👏

@em77775

Жыл бұрын

Whew!!😂

This was a great video! That was one of the best piece of advice I've heard on the topic! Blessings Marc.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Amen, it's encouraging to hear this, God bless :)

Really cool video. It let me see some things in a different light. Thank you brother. God bless you.

Stay away from the clueless ones... If they don't "get" what is going on before you date, just think how inept and clueless they'd be after you're married. Men shouldn't be mind readers, but women shouldn't be mommies to their husbands either.

@BluDrop5

4 жыл бұрын

FACTS! They tend to be clueless in other areas, too.

@ReasonAboveEverything

4 жыл бұрын

@@BluDrop5 Please, do feel free to give us examples.

@davidisrael9412

4 жыл бұрын

what do you mean ok hehe ! yet Shellie? sometimes a lady may say you know what you did wrong that is why i didnt want to talk to you for 2 days...and you dont got a clue what she is talking about ...but she wont tell you because in her head she thinks you know, ty

@shellieperreault6262

4 жыл бұрын

@@davidisrael9412 Like I said, men shouldn't be mind readers.

@davidisrael9412

4 жыл бұрын

@@shellieperreault6262 i agree we are not, and if a lady wont tell what is bothering her expecting him to know..it creates a problem.i am a Messianic Jew...and totally agree with you...we must be careful because feelings can lead us instead of His guidance..the good shepherd will lead. david777aqua4Jesus gmail.com ty Shellie

awesome content I feel confident to test the waters of relationships

Loved the video! We’ve got #1 down! I did #2 today (before I watched the video)! Not sure I’m bold enough for #3. How do you determine if he’s “relationally clueless” vs not interested or maybe just shy and introverted?

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Celeste Cummins, I would assume he's not clueless and is just not interested. However, if you become friends or know this person well you may realize he needs help :)

Rewatching this again to prepare myself 😬

I think your videos are wonderful, so well spoken and beneficial for everyone. You are very smart and good, i am a muslim woman and i love watching your videos. God bless you and give u strength

Great advise and very informative.

Great video brother, I appreciate what you're doing!

I hold back on the feelings, it's usually the guy declaring all his feeling quickly. I tell them when I'm interested but when they get to heavy, I ask their interests and what they like to do. I don't know another way of doing it, I hope it's right? 🤔 I have watched so many of your videos, they are great and so informative thank you! ❤

Excellent teachings! Very plain!

ThankYou for this video. Im actually asking the Lord to show me his way to proceed with the person im interested in. I'm an introvert but i wil talk to him more and with God's grace, i pray, he wil notice me.

I found this really good in my opinion. Thank you for it

Thanks for your guidance,God Bless you & your family

Excellent!!! Thank you very much!!!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

5 жыл бұрын

My pleasure!

I love this video. Perfect advice !! Thank you

So as far as your last point... it was date 3 for us where I felt the need to spell things out at which point he finally opened up and admitted a lack of dating. I finally got to meet the awesome guy I had been talking to online with for months. That was August. It's been so great stepping back and letting God work.

Loving all the details! Thanks!

Having no interest in a woman who is dating others is not male insecurity; rather, its God's wisdom.

I needed this long ago (sigh). But this is stll a great video. Good job!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

👍

I've been praying to God for a long time to help me meet the right person and who loves God as I do and live for God as well and go to church and pray with me everyday, and be happy together 🙏

@davidisrael9412

4 жыл бұрын

cool now relax...keep loving Jesus, and leave it in His hands...He will shake you when it;s time...dont try and do the job for Him

Your videos are very helpful. Thank you very much! 👏👏👏💕💕💕

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad they are helpful to you! God bless!

I like how you mentioned invitation. It makes me feel like my presence matters.

Thank You for this wonderful and helpful video,God Bless You.

@kieshacarumba9211

4 жыл бұрын

Like what Mark said, the importance of signals, if he ended up early it is a signal that he it is not that in to you..... God always have the best in mind for you. It His will not our will be done. 😊🙏🙌

Went to church for the first time since I was a boy in the 90's this past Sunday. So many women stared at me. That was kind of awkward. Then a few women came up to me with big smiles on their faces and just said hi to me and left. It was kinda cute to watch them like get all nervous and watch them hype themselves up and come up to me. I'm curious what my second time going will bring. I don't care for all the singing. I enjoy the preaching though.

@karenmazzu

2 жыл бұрын

I hope you kept going back!

Thanks Mark for the lovely tips

Thank you!💕

How do u talk to him more, without making him feel annoyed/scaring him away😭😭😭I’m so scared that a guy talks to u back/snapchats w u frequently just because he’s the leader of the fellowship, and he has the responsibility to care for each member, esp for new frds.

@davidisrael9412

4 жыл бұрын

xin chao...just relax a friend is a good place to start...live in His amazing grace and friendship...then nothing is impossible

@mariahconklin4150

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! For me personally I feel like such a child when I date so I’d rather just be friends with the person before hand and see how it goes.

Thank you for sharing this! 🙂

I never thought of encouraging as a healthy way to talk to a Christian guy -- thanks!

Appreciate your wisdom and Godly perspective I ve!

Keep up the good work 👍 love your videos

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks Lulu Love!

Just tried the 2nd advice 🙌

dude ur blessed with wisdom

13:10 was funny cuz it was like the “i like you alot, maybe we can hang out or something” vine 😂

Thank you for the good advice!😊