Guys chill this aint a discrimination - a sikh understands why u have to wake up during amrit vela and he will do it with u ... wjereas - a muslim or hindu might not do it with u ... the purpose of getting married is to unite the soul into one ! And most importantly a spouse if there to bring u closer to god ! Remember u will only succeed if u are travelling through a single ship - if u put ur feet into 2 different ships - u wont succeed .. the choice is urs

@sdhillon3649

5 жыл бұрын

very well said

@anon21qwerty17

Жыл бұрын

yes!

Another answer could be that one purpose of marriage is to get connect with vaheguroo together. With that being said, you couldnt get married to anyone other them a sikh because u lose the chance to connect and to do kamayee together.

Basics Of Sikhi I would first like to say thanks to God for blessing your souls to Earth to help move the Sikhi vision forward. There was a very big disconnect between the Sikh culture of people being raised versus the way our Gurus wanted us to find true spiritual enlightenment in life. You are doing the work of God, here from Northern California I support everything you guys do and will try to spread the vision. Never stop what you are doing. Love and Blessings- Pauldeep Gill

@evisuification

Жыл бұрын

Why do you have paul in your name 😡

The other way to look at is this, if you marry a sikh, your opinions and morales should be almost the same which means no conflict and therefore a succesful marriage.if you marry someine from another religion, conflicts arise. For example If i where to marry a hindu woman and we had a son, i would want him the keep his kesh. However she may want to shave the babys head at birth and keep it short. How do you resolve this? You simply cannit without sacrificing your own beliefs and going against everything the gurus have said

@HS-kk8mv

10 жыл бұрын

Very well said

@mmsb12

10 жыл бұрын

appologies for the typos, the post was written on my phone

U dont understand the basic point he is tryin to put across!When u take lavan phera around Sri guru granth sahib,it means u believe in guru granth sahib,u are swearing by it!If you dont believe in guru granth sahib,it doesnt matter which sect you are from,u are doing drama when ur doing pheras around sri guru granth sahib!Only a believer shld marry in gurudwara otherwise ur disrespecting guru granth sahib!If a sikh girls wants to marry a non sikh,then atleast he shld b believer in guru granth sahib or they shouldnt marry in gurudwara!And if a sikh girl marries around any book other than guru granth sahib,then she isnt sikh herself!Its plain common sense!Im not saying he should convert to sikhism as such,but he should be believer in guru granth sahib!

Jagraj explained it beautifully,and the 'air plane mode' and 'blind people' analogy was a great way of explaining it. My best friends are the ones who I can count on one hand and guess what we all share the same interests.So I've shed off all the people that had different reasons to be my mates over the years.So in the same way would want my children to marry someone who thinks the same away about things.

A sikh follows and adheres to the teachings and Hukams of the Guru. ਗੁਰੂ ਬਚਨ ਸਿਉ ਤੂਟਾ ਜਾਇ । ਦਰਗਹਿ ਤਾਂਕਉ ਮਿਲੈ ਸਜਾਇ । ੧੫ । Those who do not follow the commands of the Guru, will not find the court of the Lord. -Rehatnama Bhai Prehlad Singh Ji,Sri Mukhvaak Patshahi 10 A Sikh marrying a non-sikh is against Gurmat and Infringes the Rehat. It's plain wrong. It doesn't matter whether your a "Sahajdhari" or Kesdhari or Amritdhari/Pahuliya/ Khalsa, one must adhere to and try to practice the Rehat. Those 'sikhs' who argue against Gurmat and marry non-sikhs have no excuse or defense of their actions whatsoever. If you wan't to marry a non-sikh, do it in a marriage court or some other place. The Guru made it clear not to marry non-sikhs. "A Sikh should not let his child or spouse be in bad company" -Mukatnama Patshahi 10 ਨੜੀ ਮਾਰ, ਸਿਰ ਗੁੰਮ, ਕੁੜੀ-ਮਾਰ ਨਾਲ, ਰੋਟੀ ਬੇਟੀ ਦਾ ਨਾਤਾ ਨਹੀਂ ਰੱਖਣਾ | "Those who consume any intoxicant, cut their hair, or those who kill their baby-daughters - do not keep the relationship of eating from food from them or marriage with them.”-Rehatnama Bhai Nand Lal Singh Ji ka, Sri Mukhvaak Patshahi 10 ਕੰਨਿਆ ਦੇਵਹਿ ਸਿਖ ਕਉ ਲੇਵਹਿ ਨਹਿ ਕਿਛ ਦਾਮ॥ "The Daughter is to be married to a Sikh, he must not accept (or give) any dowry." -Rehatnama Bhai Sahib Singh Ji ka, Sri Gurvaak Patshahi 10 Guru Sahib has clearly state his views regarding the Marriage of a Sikh. There is no debate.

But I am with A Sikhi I am not a Sikhi but I study it and I feel drawn to it. I want to be Sikhi too but I don't know if their is exactly something you have to do to be a sikhi or if you just show that you have Waheguru in your heart. WHat if your not sikhi but with one, and your like me, addicted to learning about it???

@basicsofsikhi

8 жыл бұрын

If you start to live as a Sikh, then you are a Sikh. We have a video called "What is a Sikh", that should help. Its great that you are interested and your partner is Sikh too

Fully correct, the laavan are not a formality but an oath taken by two souls to say their lives will evolve around their Guru, following two different mindsets will confuse the offspring especially when all religions have different ways of looking at things.Sikhi is not a missionary faith if we give our children to other faiths who will become khalsa within the confusion?

one question. Im Sikh and I went out with someone who is a Sikh for many years, when it came to marriage, my family was up for it but the other family was not. You know why ? because Im a chamar and she was a jutt. What about that then. I believe in my religion but im angry because of it. Brother if it's not your caste, it's status, if it's not your status it's your height/age/education/job etc. Ive been through it. Caste system is the worst thing in Sikh's.Trust me.

@karanveersingh1234

7 жыл бұрын

charanjit1974 the caste systems sad part of indian culture, not part of sikhi

@karanveersingh1234

7 жыл бұрын

charanjit1974 the caste systems sad part of indian culture, not part of sikhi

Is this explicitly stated within the Sri Guru Granth Sahib, or is this a part of the Rehat Maryada?

@basicsofsikhi

9 жыл бұрын

ghaer Its part of the Sikh Rehat Maryada and in the Hukams of Guru Gobind Singh ji

The people who keep coughing they could not take the truth im sikh my self and I felt it rude the teacher is speaking and teaching thats the most powerful person I felt.

Airplane mode.. Damn good analogy!

I've recently become a student of your translations but I did find my self hosting conflicting opinions with some of the statements you made here and that might just be due to the fact that this is a very poor medium to truly be informed and clarify misconceptions because at the end of the day it is just me watching a video and not being able to directly raise any questions....Anyway, I believe what we sometimes fail to realize in all this is the definition of a Sikh. Sikhism is not a religion. Its a difficult concept to fathom for our rudimentary minds, but a Christian, Muslim, Jew, Hindu (shout out to every other religion as well) can all be Sikh. A Sikh is very hard to define and categorize and this is due to its inherent property of equality, which is a double edge sword because while it does protect all humans, it also makes it difficult for us to understand what it truly is as classification becomes difficult. We like to divide belief systems into religion (my god vs. your god). Sikhism believes that if you have a easier time calling your God Allah, or the father of Christ...thats fine, you do you. That is not as important as your primary willingness to acknowledge the fact that there is this superior source of energy beyond our comprehension to which we owe our existence as we are all collectively the product as well as composition of this energy. So should a Sikh marry a Sikh, yes.The bigger question is, what is a Sikh? Everyone is of equal status. A God fearing man/woman is a Sikh. (I dont mean "fear" in the literal sense) With that being said, I'm 23, born and raised in NYC. You'd never think I was religious by looking at me (spiked hair, ear pierced) and perhaps I'm not depending on the individual who takes it upon him/herself to judge me. All I know is that I believe I am the product of a source of energy (for lack of a better word) that is far beyond my comprehension. I owe everything to this energy and believe I harbor bits and pieces of it within myself which grant me the gift of every breath I take on this planet. I try my best to connect with this energy on a level beyond the physical. I believe every other individual I come across has this energy within them whether they are able to recognize it or not and that all man/woman is equal. However, as progressive as I like to consider myself, I will be getting married to a woman of the Sikh faith (in a traditional sense) not because my "religion" compels me to, which it does't (in a traditional sense), but because I believe these teachings to be true and would find a situation in which my spouse shared my belief system ideal in an attempt to pass the knowledge on to a future generation. Doing my part, if you will. Been up for over 24 hours, don't know how I went from studying a chapter of CVS pharmacology to educating myself on religion so please excuse me if the presentation of my thoughts is a tad bit incoherent. Oh, and just because I caught a glimpse of Barry B's comment under mine, a Sikh woman who marries a Hindu is not any less Sikh. Sure it might be interpreted that way from the way she is treated by her family and friends and I recognize that as a very likely result of such a scenario. However, that would mostly be due to expectation which inevitably lead to disappointment. These are human tendencies we all harbor taking into account attributes such as traditions, customs, etc. opposed the being a direct result of Sikhism. The only way she wouldn't be a Sikh is if she stopped believing in the ideologies that made her a Sikh in the first place. Anyway, good night (good morning actually) everyone....peace and love from NYC

@nmvhr

4 ай бұрын

No. An idolator cannot be Sikh, nor can one who believes that the Quran is the holy word of God. Yes, we all share one God, but we are not all Sikh. Being Sikh means resting your faith in the Guru, and Guruship has been given to Gurbani. So, Sikhs believe in Gurbani. Gurbani is not claimless. It criticizes idolatry and fasting. So, partaking in idolatry and fasts, one forsakes the Guru. It's not really complex. If you don't act like a Singh, you're not a Singh. A Sikh woman who has married a Hindu, is just a Hindu. Just like a Sikh man who has married a Hindu woman. They have brought someone into the Gurudwara to lie in proclaiming a faith in the Guru, when evidently when they don't follow what Gurbani preaches. They are not true believers. In short... "What is a Sikh?" Sikh = follower of Guru, Guru = Gurbani. (a), Sikh = follower of Gurbani. (b) "How are people of other faiths not Sikh?" Do people of other faiths follow Gurbani? Nope. (b)-> People of other faiths = not Sikh. (c) "Why can't they still marry Sikhs?" Sikh marriage involves proclaiming faith in Guru, (a), see previous Q/A, would it be a lie to proclaim the faith? Yeup. You have not married a Sikh woman; she is probably just a Punjabi woman.

Can you link us to the wageguru simiran that you have in the begining of your videos please

@MargaritaSage

10 жыл бұрын

Usually there is a direct link found by clicking on the "About" link above, but I don't see it there. It's sung by Bibi Jagdeep Kaur of the duo Qi-Rattan. They have a YT channel, Facebook page, and they are also on Sound Cloud. Hopefully Veerji will provide the exact link, but if not search through this places. Good luck!

@basicsofsikhi

10 жыл бұрын

MargaritaSage The link is there, its always there - too many requests about this!

@Aman Singh The guy asking the questions only sounds arrogant to you because he is brave enough to question protocol and faith. This should give you cause to understand your faith at a deeper level. To be Sikh is to learn to learn is to ask questions. Just think in this mans thought stream just one response or insight could allow him to see a new perspective he had never thought to test. This could not be achieved if he or anyone for that matter remained silent.

U r ryt a sikh guy marry a hindu girl nw girl still read his religious hyms wat he would give to his son same den how he wil learn frm his mother hindu culture Being a sikh he can't learn sikh maryada

I am a person trying to be a good "Sikh" born to "Sikh" parents. I believe most people don't understand a single word uttered during Anand Kaaraj ceremony. If you are making a promise to God then you should understand what you are promising. Non-sikhs who can actually be bothered to read and understand the Anand Kaaraj ceremony are in my view much more suited than a "Sikh" who is pushed around like a puppet on the day of their marriage by the gianis/secretaty/whoever. Surely it's more important to understand why you are doing something than just being born into a Faith and follow like a blind sheep. What's the point of wearing a turban for the wedding day. Then shaving you stubble off when you get to the wedding party? That to me is more offensive to the guru than a person from another Faith marrying a Sikh who can actually be bothered to read and understand the Anand Kaaraj ceremony and make a concious decision to take part in it! If you don't understand it just have a civil and be done with it! Don't disrespect the guru!

If this is true, this may have just broken my faith in Sikhi....please, show me these quotes that say this, I'm still trying to study Sikhi to decide whether it is definitely what I believe/feel

@sdhillon3649

5 жыл бұрын

and Why is that???

"Sikhi would not except anyone who is an atheist as doing the right thing." Yeah that's a awful thing to say.

I don't agree with the idea that all Atheists are bad necessarily. If anything, a good deed from an Atheist is far more selfless then from those who are doing them in the hope of getting rewarded in heaven for example. I think a human being should ultimately be judged on their own actions and if they are inherently a good person. Having said this, in my opinion it comes easier to those who follow a religion (such as sikhism) which provides a platform to living a pure life, and instills core principles and values into those that need guidance, which is most of us...nobody's perfect, right.

@anon21qwerty17

Жыл бұрын

it is not about ''good deeds'' is it? it is about meditation to reach GOD. an atheist whose views are 180 degree with yours, are bound to create conflict in a marriage. result? breakdown of marriage. use brains

i am not realy worthy for any to say ,,,, yet i feel this strongly,,,, Dhan Pir eh na aakhian, bahann ikatthe hoiye, aek jyot doie murtih, Dhan Pir kahiye soiye. dear bhaji benti sahat,,,,, it would be helpfull for all of us if you could kindly translate( in english) this to every couples in or to be in partnership of short or life time. ps sory an manny thex, god bless

Don't be confused everyone has their own knowledge in making explanation of issues about sikhism .when two people make a pledge to live together,.their decision should be based on their similar thoughts rather than desire of lust .They should be attached to the divine knowledge of one God in order to succeed in building their better relationship. .

Why would it break ur faith? Hes explained it so well! If you marry someone out of your religion you're out of the sangat. Obviously being a goood person is the main priority though.. :) thanks for another great video!

@HS-kk8mv

10 жыл бұрын

For example a Sikh marrying a Christian. Does that mean the Sikh is out of the Sangat? Meaning he/she are no longer Sikh?

@basicsofsikhi

10 жыл бұрын

harpal singh I didn't say that marrying achristian would finish your sikhi. I said that Guruji recommends this and especially for our daughters.

@jasbirkaurvillaschi8019

10 жыл бұрын

harpal singh Bhai Sahib, it didn't break my Sikhi meaning my faith but the reality is until my life partner has Amrit I cannot be recognised as Guru ka Sikh. I can read the bani, do the sewa of bringing up Gursikhs live my family life with Guru ji as my support but it is a waiting game for me still ...

Phaji do we need to marry someone in Sikhi or we can be single for all our life,if u r a gursikh❓❓❓

well said. Why others deny God I will not understand but that is there choice. We can hit a nail in the wall to hang a picture but if the frame is broken the picture falls out.

I want to marry an amritari sikh. But m not sikh. Can I marry him after taking amrit?

@samarpreetsingh1052

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah

very true

I grew up in a Sikh family, but I'm an atheist woman. If I was your daughter, what would you do with me?

@basicsofsikhi

10 жыл бұрын

I'd check if you knew the history of the Gurus and about the meaning of Gurbani and depth of raag kirtan and take you to meditation classes. Being an atheist is in itself contradictory, there is no proof of God nor proof of there being no God, so one cannot choose a belief without a proof. So... the only option left is experience. So when we meditate, we can have an experience of God, which then leads to a belief. I'd encourage that experience.

@babloo1666

10 жыл бұрын

i'd do the same thing bhajji said, and if the child as an adult, still doesnt have feelings for sikhi, then i wouldnt be able to relate to that child, we'd be very distant, because i would have feelings for sikhi and i would want to go that way, but the kid wants to go another way, so we would basically be walking away from each other

I've always admired your translations and teachings, but I found this one rather controversial. You have a point that a non-Sikh person marrying in the Gurdwara may be more of a ritual to them than to a true commitment - I agreed with you until there. But Sikhism isn't a religion in a way that it can exclude other religions. And while it might be easier to maintain one message throughout the generations when Sikhs marry only Sikhs, it is, as we are taught, not the only way to reach God. (Also, in the modern world of equality, as you said, a woman may do as she pleases -- she does / should not have to marry into a family, and become subject to their whims, which hopefully, reduces the chances of her being ill treated). And I believe you offended that guy who asked about a Sikh girl marrying an atheist. You may also put off many people with the misconception that we do not respect them. Atheists are not useless like a tripod with two legs -- many atheist scientists appreciate the beauty of nature and the universe much more than your average Sikh, and there is a path towards spirituality in that, as well. And you know, there are plenty of people who spend years and years in meditation, seeking God, who do nothing except seek God -- Are you saying you believe that these people are better than atheists who spend their entire lives doing charity work and other good deeds?

@basicsofsikhi

9 жыл бұрын

Bandhagi Bajaj Im not sayings Sikhs should have a superiority complex, I think I've said that many times before. Sikhs who dont do simran and paat need to start. BUt that being said, doesn't mean that Atheists are okay. Read bani to see if Guruji approved.

@kirpakaur7973

9 жыл бұрын

I think in Sikhism it is believed that we're not expected to be isolated from society to reach God. You can still be part of society and try to bring positive change as a way of connecting to God. The purpose of the Sikh wedding is that you're not only vowing to commit to your partner but to God as well. If you're an atheist, I think it wouldn't make sense to take the vows as you do not believe in them...it's best that you perform the ritual another way such as a court marriage.

@gill21

5 жыл бұрын

Atheist are basically bemukhs who have turned there back to god and gurbani tells us all the time to reject the company of bemukhs

@premsingh-yi4dg

2 жыл бұрын

@@gill21 Correct. Agreed.

DUE THAT U HAV TO ATTACH WITH WAHEGURU ONLY ....THERE SHOULD NOT BE ANY RISK OF CLSH BETWEEN THOUGHTES OF BOTH .

Satsriakal sir ki sikh istri 50 sal di umar vich duja vyah kra sakdi a ?

@anon21qwerty17

Жыл бұрын

kyu nahi kara sakde. bilkul kara sakde

You can marry anyone! First I want to know the meaning of Sikhi(Learning) do if anyone is learning that means he she is a Sikh (the way describe in Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji). Secondly none of the Guru said that Sikh cannot married non sikhs. This happened when some stupid men wrote the Sikh conduct was written in 1920's something. If anyone having a interfaith marriages I urge them to teach your kids and make them master them to be language of mother and father. Sikh conduct of code was written to protect Punjabi language. I am ashamed that many Sikh men women who marry outside they try to avoid speaking teaching their language to their kids.

@GurpreetSingh-fz8sw

8 жыл бұрын

sikh code of conduct ... rhetnama .. was written by bhai nandlal g .. and narrated by guru gobind singh g himself ..and in 1920 sgpc .. a gurdwara management body was formed .. it has nothing 2 do with maryada .. it only formulated ardas thats it ..

@tarun.s1493

7 жыл бұрын

Gurpreet singh brother rehat maryada are write by gurudwara parbandak commitee in around 1920s

first of all individual is marrying because he/she love her/him and sikhi is all about spreading love. they are not being forced to love each other . they love each other that's why they are getting married in the first place right? and Getting married in front of the guru granth sahib g for a non Sikh person is not a pakhand. it's marriage we're talking about

@anon21qwerty17

Жыл бұрын

again, sikh marriage is not regular marriage. it is a commitment to GOD first and then to the other person to support them on the path to GOD.

Why do Sikhi feel god from the top of the head? Why not from the heart? They cover the head because it s a sacred place that god dwells in ,I believe !! I would like to understand .plz explain . Thank you and god bless you all

@basicsofsikhi

10 жыл бұрын

Why do we see with your eyes and not our fingertips? Cause God made our body that way... the 10th Gate (dasam duaar) is on top of our head.

@jigerkijeet

10 жыл бұрын

This is just his miss-understanding

@kaurageouswarrior1496

5 жыл бұрын

Your conscience lies at your head not your heart, your brain is in control of everything, the dasam dawar lies on top of there. Your heart to say really can't make decisions, your brain does everything...

Does this mean sikh men can marry whomever they choose?

@anon21qwerty17

Жыл бұрын

no. both should be gursikhs for marriage to work

i think we should not worry about such things

@babloo1666

10 жыл бұрын

i think we should, a year ago we had 3 sikh girls marry muslim men here in the US, and a sikh boy marry a muslim girl. in my own extended family, my uncle married off both his daughters to hindu households. only a miracle will ensure that the offspring of these marriages will one day become Khalsa. But these sikhs themselves dont give importance to the Khalsa code of conduct in the first place, thats why they've married outside sikhism. if they married another sikh, they probably still wouldnt teach them about sikhi and Khalsa

with all due respect sir, I want to say that I am really hurt to hear non Sikh boys or girls are not allowed to do ritual of marriage by moving around of Guru Granth Sahib Ji. non Sikh couple (one from another religion) are not allowed to do marriage in gurudwara? why you are thinking in stubborn way. Guru ji is not obliging that only Sikh will follow protocol for do marriage in gurudwara. They both have souls that love. One wants to do in Sikhism way and other wants to do in other way. Atleast one of them has deep faith in Guru Granth Sahib Ji. He or She should do as individual's will. Sikhism is for all. And it's not just a religion. And the way you are explaining with analogy of tripod is not a satisfactory explanation. I would like to meet you personally and want to talk about this. Where can I find you sir to have a conversation on this @basicsofsikhi

@ManpreetSL

7 жыл бұрын

When a couple has a marriage in a Gurdwara (an Anand Karaj), they're promising to follow Guru Ji, but surely if one, or both of the people getting married have no intention of doing so, why would they have any reason to bow down to Guru Ji and make false promises? It doesn't make sense to me.

yes nikos you must be a sikh you are welcome to marry outside of our gurdwara respect our religion dont question it when you are ignorant of it my freind bolay sonihaaal

Wahe Guru Ji Ka Kalsa Wahe Guru Ji Ki Fateh,🙏🙏🙏☬☬☬☬ what can make one muslim wife if she wants to be a sikh and her husband is also muslim and don't let her to go to Gurdwara and don't let her to become a sikh?🤔🤔🤔

@mehar134

4 жыл бұрын

@Ayesha Saeed The best option is to divorce your husband amd find a sikh husband. Husband is supposed be your lover and support your decisions, not force his male ego on you. He has no right to stop you from following a religion. This is against basic human rights.

@mehar134

4 жыл бұрын

@Harman Singh Several muslims have converted to sikhism, infact the first follower of Guru Nanak dev ji was a Muslim, bhai mardana ji who converted to sikhi

This guy who asked the questions seems like a very arrogant person

@daggawagga

7 жыл бұрын

In which ways was he arrogant?

@RajSingh-cd9iz

6 жыл бұрын

Daggawaggaboof his tone was rude. Was not humble with his questions. List goes on and on

because many of us dont undestand such qustions

I don't believe in something over a head

that is soo fucked up. for him to say that "sikhi would not accept anybody who is an atheist". god is a very personal thing. sikhi is about being a student and learning your entire life. someone can be a good student and still not want to believe in god. that is entirely up to him. and his choice. its not that i am hating on him or anything. I am a sikh but i do not believe in the idea of god. I AM A SIKH whether SIKHI or ANYONE accepts me or not!

@basicsofsikhi

10 жыл бұрын

I understand you might be upset. I would recommend you watch our "One Day Course" videos expecially the one about "What is a Sikh?"

@Virkbyheart

10 жыл бұрын

in that video, its basically stating that one is not a sikh if he does not believe in god. in a sense its saying that you are not a student and you won't be accepted if you don't believe in god. doesn't that sound a little unfair? i find that idea a little discriminating. I thought the gurus accept everyone from all religions, faiths and beliefs. that is the reason that the golden temple has 4 different entrances leading to one place- the place where the guru resides ps: I sincerely hope i am not insulting anyone and i hope you are not offended by my questions and comments

@basicsofsikhi

10 жыл бұрын

I think you are conflating two viewpoints. Firstly, one about acceptance. We accept everyone, including atheists and those of other relgions. Anyone is welcome into the Gurdwara and to have langar and listen to Kirtan. The other viewpoint is who is a Sikh. In this case, it has to be a disciple of Guruji, not just an attendee of the Gurdwara. If someone does not believe in the One, then they are not listening to Guru Nanak when he speaks of the One Creator Lord, therefore that person cannot claim the right to call himself a Sikh. For example, if you are student of maths, then you are welcome into a maths class. But if the teacher teaches a particular viewpoint on Maths and you do not accept it, then you can hardly claim the right to call yourself a follower of that teacher when you dont accept his viewpoint. Ie imagine saying you are socialist when you dont believe in equal opportunity, or being an environmentalist when you dont believe in recycling.. I'm not saying you should stop coming to gurdwara, I'm saying you should continue to attend and least but you are only a follower of the Guru when you Listen, Accept and Act upon his teachings.

@Virkbyheart

9 жыл бұрын

Harpreet Pentlia but you see, its not very sikh like to deny someone the right to marry whoever they want and say that if you dont marry a sikh , you yourself will not be considered a sikh anymore.

@tanveersingh5423

7 жыл бұрын

amrit ji from where did you get your sikhi???guru granth sahib ji and all 10 gurus believed in god....you said you are sikh but you don't believe in very basic things guru said...so is it your own sikhi or it is written somewhere in our scipture??just curious

I don't see how daughters having a husband of the father's choosing or approval is equality when the same thing doesn't apply to the sons. Let alone the fact that the husband has to believe in God to be a 'good person'. If I don't believe that, does that make me no-longer Sikh? Can daughters not be trusted to find a suitable husband the same way as men? Women can be just as bad as men in relationships, should sons not be given such advice the same way women are about men? I understand that putting women to a higher status in society is needed to counter the patriarchal thinking of our community but labelling women as 'precious' is implying that they are items that need protecting, kept under a watchful eye and perhaps 'given to the highest bidder' metaphorically speaking. I know that female vulnerability to the lustful eye is high but women can be raised to think of themselves as equal to men I.e. Defend themselves the same way if confronted by such attackers. There is a lot I want to say on this, I'm not done here, please don't see this as an attack on faith, I am simply questioning and taking it a bit personally...I will probably write a blog...rsbsikander.wordpress.com I have already included bits about being a Sikh in my blog, you'd be interested to take a look

""sikhi would not accept anybody who is an atheist".....Sikhism sounds elitist? Richard Dawkins sounds more accepting of other cultures than this guy, apparently? Am I wrong on this? Peace, my friends.

@niceman1ful

8 жыл бұрын

+Dale D. I think he meant it as marriage. No religious family would let an atheist marry there daughter/son. Guru Nanak said before you are hindu or muslim be a good human first. So as long as you have a good heart and good intentions you are accepted by sikhi. But maybe not in a marriage sense. Just my perspective here

@Xx0Mystic0xX

3 жыл бұрын

It's not considered elitist for you to not accept someone's views, especially if they deny the existence of your Guru. You can still love and respect them all the same as human beings.

Syaan paat laakh hoi ve ek na chulle naal.... To the person tht was bieng contraversiol needs to comprehend that articulation doesnt take you any where but your actions and their frequency do. Waheguru ji

@docguyster

10 жыл бұрын

U dont understand the basic point he is tryin to put across!When u take lavan phera around Sri guru granth sahib,it means u believe in guru granth sahib,u are swearing by it!If you dont believe in guru granth sahib,it doesnt matter which sect you are from,u are doing drama when ur doing pheras around sri guru granth sahib!Only a believer shld marry in gurudwara otherwise ur disrespecting guru granth sahib!If a sikh girls wants to marry a non sikh,then atleast he shld b believer in guru granth sahib or they shouldnt marry in gurudwara!And if a sikh girl marries around any book other than guru granth sahib,then she isnt sikh herself!Its plain common sense!Im not saying he should convert to sikhism as such ,but he should be believer in guru granth sahib!Otherwise its a disrespect!!I personally dont think that just bcz ppl are born in different religions,they are absolutely forbidden to intermarry!This can neva be gods will!But yes their are certain practical considerations that too shld be taken care off!

@SharonBhara

9 жыл бұрын

Gurpreet Singh I absolutely agree with you. Thus, I fully understand and fully agree with the author of the video here.

@SharonBhara

9 жыл бұрын

Harpreet Pentlia no im sorry seriously cant spell in punjabi english. So bhul chuk maaf from me to you.

@Sukie7777

9 жыл бұрын

Sharon Bhara

Miss u mahapurusho

where are these 52 hukams from? they are definitely not written in the adi granth (SGGS). And any sikh scripture outside guru granth sahib is very controversial to many sikhs because they weren`t assembled by any of the gurus, rather they were assembled by sikh "scholars" at a later point in time who in their opinion were putting together guru ji`s work.

@Cheema0113

10 жыл бұрын

***** no he didn`t write them. they were written by sikhs who said these were the hukams that guru gobind singh came up with and advised to them.

@Cheema0113

10 жыл бұрын

but how do you know what is the truth?

@jasbirkaurvillaschi8019

10 жыл бұрын

***** Bhai Sahib, Bhai Mani SIngh ji and Baba Deep Singh ji BOTH were Jiwan Mukht ...not what you said that they were not given mukhti ...it a a very different thing to be given Sewa of Dharam Parchar by Dasam Pita ji only a person of ucchi suchi jiwani could have achieved this sewa da dhaan

@aman113

10 жыл бұрын

***** Sikhs are not to accept anything other than Shiri Guru Granth Sahib Ji as their Guru. These new texts are being forcefully associated with Guru Gobind Singh Ji when in fact Guru himself has told us specifically not to accept anything other than Shiri Guru Granth Sahib Ji. You tell me one thing that Shiri Guru Granth Sahib Ji is lacking just one. To even think that Sikhs need to source their knowledge outside of Shiri Guru Granth Sahib Ji is disrespect of the highest order. The decision with regards to Sikh Rehat Maryada have been made over a period of time with many great scholars taking part. They have tested and screened everything written in Sikh Rehat Maryada based upon Gurbani which resides in Shiri Guru Granth Sahib Ji. So even though lot of stuff has been taken from bachitar natak (dasam granth), it has been done so with thorougher discussions and using Gurbani as our benchmark to test each and everything that Sikh panth now calls Sikh Rehat Maryada. The rest of the dasam granth does not stand up to the truth of Shiri Guru Granth Sahib Ji. However, even if it did we are still ordered to only accept Shiri Guru Granth Sahib Ji. "Satgur bina hor kachi hai bani bani ta kachi satgur bajho hor kachi bani kehndey kachey sundey kachey kachi aakh vakhani" Without the true Guru, all other word is false. Without the true Guru every other word is false. All other sermons are but false. False are the utterers, false the hearers, false the reciters and false their authors.

@jasbirkaurvillaschi8019

10 жыл бұрын

***** Veer Amandeep Singh ji, Guru de Hukamnameh during their lifetimes are also accepted as rehit and are documented within our history.52 rules is simply a collection of all the hukam/Gurbachan Dasam Pita ji gave to sangat and piare gursikhs compiled (and sometimes translated to english) so that younger generation do not miss out on things that can improve their life experience and level of attainment. Dasam Granth was compiled by Bhai Mani SIngh ji and Mata Sahib Kaur ji do you honestly think their judgement was off ? That they could not recognise Dasam Pita's bachan . I know that mischief makers from the very start have tried to create doubts in Sikh minds about their scriptures, if you follow sikh rehit maryada then you have to accept Dasam Granth in its entirety because that is the decision that was made by our Gursikh scholars.

DEAR UPLOADER PLZ READ THIS. U r taking the meaning of Sikhism out of Sikhism. There r many paths to god, Sikhism is not the only one. If u decide to marry a girl from another religion, u might like the other path or she might like ur path. All our gurus told us to reach god. Sikhism is just a practise to reach god and not create strict rules to live life inside a box. All the gurus have taught us to define good and bad, and that should be our fine line and not religion. I am a singh, believer in god, and Sikhism as a pathway to god, even though I am not a giani (in terms of knowledge not turban) I think this vid is a bit too much.

@basicsofsikhi

10 жыл бұрын

Guruji defines Sikhism, not us. A Sikh has to surrender ego to Gurus hukam. Sikhi is not giving us strict rules, its giving us guidance and lets face it, if the Khalsa Raj is ever to come, it must be when Sikh parents make strong Sikhs children.

@JmanSKokh

10 жыл бұрын

I agree with u for the first part and that is what i meant to say. Sikhism gives us freedom to be wise and be good. but the video is portraying to stay in certain limitations, and as far as i know sikhism does not give us any limitations, it rather tells us to broaden our sphere and find the fine line between good and bad, and not "sikhs" and "non-sikhs." which in my view is being portrayed by the video. not all 4 fingers are the same, we need to find the good and carry on with the hope to unite with the ONE and only GOD. even The Guru Granth Sahib Ji was not written by only sikhs, all the gurus left us with such an example of finding the good. and i appreciate the uploader for reading my previous comment and answering it, and thanks for reading this one. Let's make humanity and not wars between religions, political one's are already taking a heavy toll.

@basicsofsikhi

10 жыл бұрын

What does this have to do with creating wars? If a Sikh doesn;t want to smoke, does that mean he is at war with smokers? Why do you take things to the extreme? No one here is talking about spiritual ability or viability of other faiths, simply Gurus advice to Sikhs to marry Sikhs and thus ensure Kids are brought up with Sikhi. Its kind of like criticising French Teacher for wanting his kids to marry to french speaking people so that his Grand Children keep French alive.. Doesn't mean that Teacher wants to destroy all other languages, but does want to preserve French from becoming dead. No offence was intended. This is purely about us wanting to follow what Guru told Sikhs to do..

@JmanSKokh

10 жыл бұрын

Sikhism was all about uniting people whereas this video is totally trying to tell us to divide out people and make groups of only sikhs, hindus, muslims, or christians. therefore i conclude this man to have a low level of thinking and has no understanding of sikhism. and thanks for agreeing with me # Mal Malhi.

@jkvlondon

10 жыл бұрын

Sikhi is a nirala panth in that its path is in many ways opposing to central points and mandates in other religions/faiths . To conduct the day to day duties of family life means often banging heads with these 'elephants in the room'. Sikhi does not believe in Caste, Circumcision, idol worship, tomb worship, human intervention in salvation or absolution, woman's lower status or pollutive nature, purdah etc etc . SO ....PC though your intentions may be for one person to operate happily will grind against the other's sensibilities plus if kids are in the picture then that adds to the level of complexities BTW I am speaking from experience ... I am a Sikh and he a Christian, we were married by Anand Karaj and all our lives together have been possible through my personal compromise, but our kids are fully in Sikhi , the older three have had Amrit of their own choice my daughter is only six but I would honestly hope all of them find someone who can meet their minds and souls fully and I have told them that to do what I did is very hard and needs so much more energy and patience, it is a rare instance that this kind of thing works out.. only with Waheguru's kirpa I have achieved anything. The first thing He recognised " I will never be as much to you as your Guru, will I?" simple answer "Yes"

According to guru gobind singh jis 52 hukums A sikh cannot give their daughter into other religion, their is special place in hell for that person , or his or her lineage with no get mukti

This surprised me and brought lots of questions to my minds veerji -Not all the Sikh men s are good. -There are lots of people who does not follows the god but they are very good people. (i know the tripod theory) but i steel believes in freedom of living. -what about marrying an agnostic?

@basicsofsikhi

10 жыл бұрын

Bhenji, Guruji is giving the ideal advice, but every situation is different. We still have to know the ideal and try our best anyway. Its their advice, we're just making people aware.

I don't like this rule.... i thought sikhism is a religion of love.... and that we are all equal no matter what religion we are... now you are saying that i HAVE to convert to sikhism to marry a sikh girl??????!!!!!!!!!!!! so you are forcingh me to be a sikh... why don't you become more modern? would you like if other religions did the same? Chhristians marry only christians mustlisms marry only muslims pagans only marry muslisms etc.... What kind of rule is this? Does god wants this?

@basicsofsikhi

9 жыл бұрын

nikos t Marriage is a partnership. Sikhism is a religion of love towards God and service and compassion towards others. Doesn't meant that we think that not having any rules and guidance is the way forward. Sikhi has to survive and Sikh kids should be exposed to Sikhi early rather than later. A family is part of Gods plan, so obviously a Sikh family is the first place a child is exposed to Sikhi. Sikhi is practical, not just theory. Nothing about this is old fashioned. If you are an educated and ethical person, you will likely marry someone of similar education and values.

@PeopleoftheCommunity

9 жыл бұрын

nikos t God really doesn't care. These people want this because it helps them push their agenda. They'll rationalize and justify things that are blatantly wrong any which way they can as long as they keep convincing those that can't think critically that this is the way.

@Nicholas.Tsagkos

9 жыл бұрын

Desi Comedy i agree...god doesn't care about marrying same religion... he doesn't have a prefered religion... human created religions not god.

@GurpreetSingh-fz8sw

8 жыл бұрын

+nikos t wow bro u r an enlightened person .. u really know what GOD wants .. start a religion .. I will follow u .. lol peace

@Nicholas.Tsagkos

8 жыл бұрын

Gurpreet singh i am what i am.

in shri guru granth sahib ji it is mentioned that sikhism dont believe is race caste and religion every one is a human....firstly.."ek om kaar" god is one and that means everyone is the child of that one god and later came into marriages if our gurus didnt believed in race caste and religion they why are you are saying a skih can only marry to a skih...you are spreading the messages of our gurus wrongly..

@RajSingh-kv1zt

4 жыл бұрын

ya but how you will breed sikhi

i am not realy worthy for any to say ,,,, yet i feel this strongly,,,, Dhan Pir eh na aakhian, bahann ikatthe hoiye, aek jyot doie murtih, Dhan Pir kahiye soiye. dear bhaji benti sahat,,,,, it would be helpfull for all of us if you could kindly translate( in english) this to every couples in or to be in partnership of short or life time. ps sory an manny thex, god bless