A "relationship" with a narcissist will never go anywhere, and won't amount to anything. It's just a waste. The only thing I can say is, it made me a stronger, smarter woman. I am more responsible for my heart. They have no soul...please beware.

@lynzee6837

6 жыл бұрын

I agree with you. I been going through that for the last 10 years and it never amounted to anything but a big headache. Thank you.

@klueboy131

6 жыл бұрын

Yonna Joseph that’s what the narcissist said to me when I was a child. “You won’t amount to anything” Turns out, they were talking about them self. The sad part is, you grow up believing those words. The good part is, God never forsakes you even when others do.

@koolmot7663

6 жыл бұрын

Usually they are scared emmotionaly and terrified of the security you have in your self. So they attak you with braggery and clubhouse intintion bating like you ain't nothing If your not in my club lol

@heartmomma6460

6 жыл бұрын

Amen sister. Well said

@klueboy131

5 жыл бұрын

Kool mot so true. I got discarded today by two “Christians”. A year ago that would have stressed me out, but today I was extremely grateful for God moving them from my path. The false teachers are many in these end times.

The hardest thing is letting go when u really love a person but as much as u love him you know he is no good for u.

@empresserica

2 жыл бұрын

Yep

@tammeramiller43

2 жыл бұрын

So true

@emiliarichard5445

2 жыл бұрын

It is the hardest thing going thru this right now don't know what to do

@darnellanders8768

2 жыл бұрын

So spot on it hard to come to terms with the fact that they have hearten hearts... Very miserable and its there mindset.

@sandramadrigal6320

2 жыл бұрын

Literally the hardest thing. Specially when they bring back the act everytime you leave. So hard to accept it is just an act that means nothing

But we can all say we’ve ignored the red flags. If we are honest with ourselves.

@RealLifefunny81

3 жыл бұрын

I know I can. My first red flag was how he spoke to his son’s mother...🤦🏽‍♀️

@iamdannita

3 жыл бұрын

True that, I got many Red flags in the beginning of the relationship but I was already numb, I couldn’t leave. His demon already had took my spirit. Now I see back and can not to find other explanation..

@lmd9364

3 жыл бұрын

@@RealLifefunny81 and what did you think when you heard him speak to his son’s mother like that? I’m now the “son’s mother” and I ignored how he spoke to his own mother. I saw the red flags and I had years of walking away from men and female friends with red flags, but this was the first person who could get passed my boundaries even WITH his red flags.

@Mspuddin67

3 жыл бұрын

So true!

@l.5832

3 жыл бұрын

And when you are born to a narc mom? You know NOTHING ELSE! You don't know normal if it hit you in the head. You are told that the mother's way is the correct CHRISTIAN way, and what you witness in other families is a sin! And then you marry a narc because back then, the word 'narcissist' wasn't even heard of. Even when I went to a psychiatrist in the early 1980's to find out what was wrong with my upbringing, the term narcissism did not come up. The psychiatrist suggested I laugh at my mother when she was abusive to me! Do you know what happens if you laugh at an abusive narc? I sought help and there was none to be had. Only in the last decade did narcissism become mainstream and I learned what was going on. I left my abusive marriage and birth family. In order to ignore a red flag, you need to know what normal is, and have something to compare abnormal to.

They're jealous of anything that you have that they don't have. Also just because you are nice to people and people like you they hate that too.

@moonlitbalcony2861

6 жыл бұрын

kirmora molone girl yesss! They hate the idea that people are fond of you. They are very immature!

@kirmoramolone

6 жыл бұрын

Moonlit Balcony yes girl also have you also see the ugly face they make when you do good things for people? Especially when you don't look for anything back. They hate that.

@40amule16

6 жыл бұрын

kirmora molone Exactly I was in a relationship with one who took me around his family and after he saw how his family took to me, he actually got jealous of me. It was frightening too see how a grown middle age man could act like this. It was though he felt I was getting more positive attention from them than he was, and to make things worse he said I had them all in a trace??😢 So he broke up with me and got with some TRASH because he knew his family would not want that woman around them. Narcissist are pure EVIL!

@shalalong843

6 жыл бұрын

My ex always said I was too nice, he hated me, I always told him that.

@mytestimonyisreal5024

6 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏

Was married to a narcissist. They drain your very soul. Thank you for the prayer.

@TheonlyChocol8one

6 жыл бұрын

Alisa Moore amen! Been there, done that. Left him and divorced him.

@alisarandall2589

6 жыл бұрын

I am going through the divorce process now. Please pray for me and my process. SMH. Good for you on your victory!

@TheonlyChocol8one

6 жыл бұрын

I will. Just pray for strength and preparation for anything that can arise. Plead the blood of Jesus

@karlaitsalllove6997

6 жыл бұрын

My sista how did you get out?

@alisarandall2589

6 жыл бұрын

Karla, It's all love I had my brothers and sons come help me move out. It took a few times to actually leave after I figured out he' just a toxic person. And will always be toxic. I knew I didn't deserve to be treated so horribly.

For when you place them as a Priority, They ONLY see you as an OPPORTUNITY to advance themselves.

@antoinitaviolette4140

6 жыл бұрын

Liz Taylor which never happens in God’s eyesight.

@DoraRaine

5 жыл бұрын

Omg.... so very true!

@Moi-io7yi

5 жыл бұрын

This is a fact. To them you're nothing but a stepping stone and don't even try to have a grown conversation with them not only about how they hurt you but also about how they could grow or improve for the better with your support cause they'll despise you. How could something beneath them help them? It's a sad and very powerfully memorable life changing experience. Even if I get amnesia I'll remember that.

@yosminehampton

5 жыл бұрын

Girl yes!

@BeautiffullySpoken

5 жыл бұрын

Liz Taylor YES!! it’s true!

My Narc was a charming, insecure, seemingly humble Person that flipped out whenever I had a different opinion. Also praising me like I was the best thing that ever happened to him, 3 hrs later I wasnt good enough, couldnt articulate myself well enough and so on. It was a rollercoaster ride for 3 yrs. All my flaws he used to make me feel bad about myself. Every secret I told about myself got used against me, every information about my family was used against me...just anything he could use to make me feel bad. Just get out and run! These ppl will make you doubt your every thought, your whole being and bit by bit they are working on destroying the love you have for yourself. Leave and run as fast as you can !!!

@karabomohlala7257

2 жыл бұрын

I also went through this it took me some time to realize he's a Narc coz he was so charming n smooth talker n made sound arguments sometimes I never suspected anything cos I was consumed by him made me feel small n insecure I was afraid of him coz every time we fight he promised to leave n would use silent treatment as a means of controlling me

@VictoriaMeeker

2 жыл бұрын

Right here now .. eveything you just described I was physically abused and rage and mentally and emotionally it’s hard I knew what he was but stayed and it’s werid almost like he knew I knew and started to manipulate more of myself into thinking I was just as bad as him it still hurts .. 😭

@alicegachui3726

2 жыл бұрын

I relate so well

@darawatkis7084

2 жыл бұрын

OMG I can’t believe I’m seeing this video now. I went through the lies and the twisting of blames on me not knowing what I was dealing with til now. My Narc was charming, loving and yes full of himself. But the minute I checked him or did something that he didn’t agree with he would shut down and disappear. Then returned to blame me . I was confused but I stayed strong and reminded him that it was his wrong doing or lies that caused the issues. I finally blocked him and I’m looking forward to putting that energy back into ME. Thank you bishop.

@jazzsoul1695

Жыл бұрын

Like my older sister. A shark looking to bite and destroy you!

Narcissist is by definition so minor. Once you have been abused by one and educate yourself on one. You would be amazed how scary these people truly are. Pure evil. Its taken me everything I have to heal from one. Thank you for covering this topic.

@brandynicjones

4 жыл бұрын

Rochelle Ravert I agree, since I’ve been watching all these videos I’ve been terrified. You never know if they are still plotting on you

@caramelspeaks3034

4 жыл бұрын

It's even worse when you have children by one

@saxenas

4 жыл бұрын

That's why God allows us to go through the abuse first hand. So many survivors including myself are hard on ourselves because we were duped and didn't get out earlier. But u can't really understand true evil until u actually dance with the devil personally

The Narcissist is the jezabel spirit, their emeshed with jealousy, envy, hatred, anger, rage! Unfortunately I encountered one I had a relationship with he almost destroyed me, and had other so called friends that are Narcissist, God told me too come from amongst them, and that's exactly what I did. I got Baptized March 18, 2018 best thing I ever did!

@prayfrog

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience and I can definitely relate to what you experienced. I'm thankful that the situation did not destroy you! Psalm 91 - prayer of protection.

@ladycrystal3293

6 жыл бұрын

Congrats, Shar, on your baptism..praise God!

@Neneham1966

6 жыл бұрын

Narcissist will destroy if allowed. Most don’t realize they’ve been with a narc until it’s too late. It’s a spiritual lesson.

@iamabideinitastjohn1567

6 жыл бұрын

Neneham1966 AMEN! That’s why we need to help Pastor Blake with getting this message out there - we women need to share our experience and testimonials so we may assist in educating others who are ignorant to this form of the devils devices.

@Neneham1966

6 жыл бұрын

I agree.

The biggest flag to watch with narcissist is their "Love Bombing" in the initial stage of the relationship. Like Pastor Blakes said they change their identity to match who you are in the moment. BUT, they overload you with time, attention, gifts, dinners, etc. THEN, they DISCARD you and watch in enjoyment of your separation anxiety. Lord I thank you for Pastor Blake's revelation of this new area he is studying. Help us to be mindful and not flesh fulfilling.

@elizabethcampbell6334

6 жыл бұрын

Love God Bette words could not be spoken...Amen

@stephtrader4662

6 жыл бұрын

He mentions that in several lessons... Very interesting.

@MsSonya6

6 жыл бұрын

Stephanie DeVeaux Yes. Love all his messages and books.

@MsSonya6

6 жыл бұрын

Ainka Ryan you are correct....they love bomb. Thx

@alisarandall2589

6 жыл бұрын

Their love bombing is sooo crazy. I remember dating my husband he purchased the entire case of chocolate covered strawberries in the Godiva Chocolate store.. It made me feel weird. They will go broke during the love bombing stage. Him doing too much for someone he doesn't know, is a sign he's CRAZY!

I am 3 years removed from a 5 year relationship with a narcissistic sociopath. I lost a home, car, job, damaged family relationships and put my health and safety in jeopardy. He lost nothing, not one thing. I know that I only survived by God's grace and divine protection. I am grateful daily for God's faithfulness and never leaving us. Healing from this is a long painful road but possible. Education is key to understanding. Thank you Pastor for your words on the subject.

If you stick one hand in a shark tank, and the other into a Narc tank, you'll probably keep the hand in the shark tank longer.

@ellehub2136

5 жыл бұрын

HILARIOUS! SAD truth but HILARIOUSLY put! Thank u 4 interjecting much needed humor!!!

@fannie445

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@suepeek3368

3 жыл бұрын

Well, just understand they want to eat your soul for lunch and not the physical body. Like vampires of the soul they are.

@alisha55555

3 жыл бұрын

Screaming

@HD-xb9mj

3 жыл бұрын

Lol ! That's a good one .

God use the Narcissist to bring you too him! It’s a cycle that only God can break!

@vfree4579

6 жыл бұрын

K Gor and Let the church say Amen because I know I did and then I started to study this Behavior.

@cozymelodiccorner

6 жыл бұрын

Amen

@karlaitsalllove6997

6 жыл бұрын

K Gor yes i can no longer think I can help.

@liztaylor6546

6 жыл бұрын

The patterns! You think once you recognize the patterns you can understand the individual... I do believe it is a personality disorder. It is emotionally and mentally exhausting. Fascinating how the individual will not own up to faults when they are "found-out" (proof and all), they will still deny any "accusations" made against them. As long as they have someone to take "sides" with them, they are good. They will make you feel bad or less than and get angry if you challenge them in anyway to take ownership for their actions and behavior. They will even sabotage your great efforts to succeed in areas that mean everything to you and expose private vulnerable areas of your life to exalt themselves. It truly is sad. When you are in too deep, may God give the strength, POWER, discernment, wisdom, knowledge to break from such strongholds. Don't try to BE a savior. Let God be God. ONLY He can Deliver and Set-Free. I plead the Blood of Jesus now in Your Holy name, dear God. Amen.

@kleegspeaks6654

6 жыл бұрын

You have been called by God! The Narc is the Jezebel Spirit which put you in an cycle of Narcs to keep you from God. They will feed off your blessing and ruin your life. All To make you give up on God, Once you know God, you are giving an understanding of things your past and present. I mean When you hear these people, you catch on faster I mean fast! RCBlakes have been saying so much for years ask questions and listen! That’s all just Listen. The Narc cycle traps you because you are fleshed mined leave that in the past become Christ mined and you will see through them! Once you become Christ minded they will be even afraid to talk to you some will try but if you give one the time of day then you start that cycle again! Which will upset God! once you see through “the game” it’s a new You. One last thing when you do see someone new and past your the test. Ask God to reveal and be ready if God says run then it’s ✌🏽it’s no way you can fix this person.

These individuals can NEVER give of themselves. They will deplete you financially and emotionally. You can never give enough, show enough, buy enough or sacrifice enough to prove to them that you love them. Because they know that they are not sincere and they don't believe that you are.

@liztaylor6546

6 жыл бұрын

It's not that they don't believe that you aren't; they depend on that and take advantage of it. They just don't Believe IN you. I honestly don't think they truly want to invest honestly into your life with you because they dont know how to truly be honest with themselves. They can repent but its not a true repentance -- the cycle continues to repeat itself. Unless you step back and allow God to do His thing.

@natashaandspencer

6 жыл бұрын

Yes....my brother wife is so this and he is finally seeing it but having a hard time letting go. We have told him this for 13 years now.

@jondough679

6 жыл бұрын

Liz Taylor I do sometimes feel so sorry for them but must remember they will just take advantage of even such pity

@TheMonica82

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, they project their "Cheating" onto You! But, it's them! SMH...

@yemedemure414

5 жыл бұрын

YES!!!!! My goodness

Narcissist hate any type of light you have in you. They hate anything good and anything good is of GOD so they hate it. They protect their own all narcissist protect other narcissist.

@gapeach14

5 жыл бұрын

Social media is the perfect example of narcissists protecting narcissistic I got attacked because of quote I posted they got mad and said they didn’t like me but none of them deleted or blocked me as friend I had the same of number friends on Facebook for over seven years....I not surprised that they have turned in narcs because they were bullies in school as well and I was one of they victims and had the nerve to ask me to apologize even though I never asked them for apology in my life I always bottled it up....Honestly I thought I was the narc for a while they make you feel guilty about your mistakes but won’t apologize or even acknowledge what they did.

This is a true mental illness, it's not talked about so, I really appreciated this message. I was married to a narcissist. While pregnant with my son seven years ago, I left him. It's been the BEST DECISION I could've made for myself and my kids. These ppl are masters of manipulation, take head of the signs and run away from them like Forrest Gump.

Thank you for this. Narcissism awareness is SO needed, especially in the church. Because narcissists LOVE to hide behind God to give that public illusion of their "holier than thou" "good man/good woman" image.

@queenology1014

6 жыл бұрын

EnMode It's called Spiritual Abuse

@OrangeSkyMusic

6 жыл бұрын

EnMode... Hiding behind God is what is happening.. Many use God to tear families apart.. It's done little bits at a time.. It makes them look good.. No one would believe this person to be deceiving someone.. They are real good at how they hurt someone.. This is not against the law.. Only against God.. Thanks for your research. God Bless You 💜💙💜💙💜💙💜💙💜💙💜💙💜

@lynzee6837

6 жыл бұрын

Amen to that!!!! So true.

@jamesmcmccray8255

5 жыл бұрын

EnMode my old pastor Lassiter was a narc look him up

@jonesadew

5 жыл бұрын

thats so true, that is my soon to be Ex Narcissist wife, a preacher but total narcissist

Narcissist: Extremely Self-centered. Exaggerated importance of Self. Do NOT connect to your pain even when they cause it. No sense of empathy. #fromNormaltoPathological #selfishness #vain #pride *2 Timothy 3 1-7

@larindasims438

6 жыл бұрын

Liz Taylor FACT

A narcissistic mind is full of Pride and Self-Righteousness. They are people with low self-esteem and have extremely selfish attributes that can be demonic in behavior. A romantic relationship with a narcissist is a controlling and one-sided one. To fall in love with a narcissistic person is extremely unhealthy. Only God and God alone can help a person like this. When you have a narcissistic parent, you must pray, be objective and set serious boundaries. While remaining respectful you must forgive them and pray for them because narcissists are manipulative, and often displays demonic behavior. They are liars and hate to see the person that they are attempting to control, doing well or having any sense of happiness without them. The men are often very charming and you must break any soul-ties with this person by getting in the presence of God and pleading the Blood of Jesus for your own mental and spiritual health. Thank you for this most needed teaching Pastor Blakes. God Bless your ministry, "Another spiritual daughter of yours"

@TheMonica82

5 жыл бұрын

Amen... You said it All! Thank you for sharing~

@evelynvelasquez7999

4 жыл бұрын

Very true

@evelynvelasquez7999

4 жыл бұрын

Agree 100 per cent

@sabrinakelsey8815

3 жыл бұрын

🙌🏾

@myarobloxgaming9511

3 жыл бұрын

Mlp

A narcissist is the Jezebel Spirit.

I tell anyone to get out because I been there, they have no compassion for anyone. Thank you

I wished I could have liked this a million times. This spirit is destroying people. Unfortunately many in spiritual authority are narcassist themselves and will not bring healing with the truth. Please man of God do not stop with this great light thats bringing darkness on the world. For what is life without love and what is the world absent of empathy? Hell on earth is what it will be.

@18QueenHearts

6 жыл бұрын

Truer words never spoken especially @ "many in spiritual authority are narcissist themselves". They seem to be becoming more and more prevelant!!!

@ThatCaliFoodie

6 жыл бұрын

Ashiah Indigo Yes ma'am I love your comment thank you so much. But as you know we are in the last days and the greater love of the numbers has truly cooled off. Its unfortunate but our reality in these times. We have to protect ourselves. Sad times.

@ThatCaliFoodie

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you Pastor Blake. Truthfully spoken.

@beverlybush5004

3 жыл бұрын

that's exactly what is going to be like when the Holy Spirit leaves from this world is going to be hell on Earth which is coming very soon

This man is very WISE. A GIFT FROM GOD!💝

Great message. I married a Christian man. It was so important to me. He seemed to be solid in God. Within months he literally walked away from anything to do with God. Fast forward 11 years and he walked out on me 3 months ago. He changed overnight a few years into marriage. It was shocking. He became emotionally abuse and very self absorbed. I reached out to a local Pastor who in the end told him he was being abusive and one day he’d lose this woman who loved him. Things got worse and worse. Only I talked of God. Eventually I was broken and suicidal. I was physically sick, had adrenal fatigue, depression, anxiety, insomnia for ten years. I couldn’t take care of myself, work or go to church. I was destroyed by his Narcissistic abuse. The levels of selfishness were incredible. No matter what my needs were he didn’t care about meeting them. If I cried and sobbed he’d just watch. Silently. Never ever comforting me. It was horrible. He withdrew all nice things, compliments, affection, time with me. I see now it was me giving and trying to save the marriage. Trying to get him to put God first. I literally almost died.the last 2 years were the worst. They use a cycle to keep you hooked. 1. Love Bombing - when they flatter and seem to be so loving and nice. 2. Devaluation - this is when gaslighting happens, they’ll deny things, say it didn’t happen, blame you, never be repentant or sorry they’ve hurt you. You get destroyed so much in this stage. I had no self worth. 3. Discard - this is when you are tossed aside. Ignored. Given the silent treatment. Calls ignored. Important tasks ignored. You are left desperate to work out what you’ve done wrong. You ask and get no answer. In fact getting a straight honest answer is impossible. Then if they sense you pulling away, wising up, seeing past the fake image or being ready to leave suddenly they employ a technique called hoovering. This is them saying what you want to hear like I’ll go to church, I’ll go to therapy, I will take you on date nights. You stay. Then the whole cycle keeps repeating. In the end it’s proven you’ll have chemical imbalances in your brain. It’s like Stockholm Syndrome. You know it’s abuse but dopamine is released during the short phases of “normal” so when you leave or they leave its likened to a heroin addict in withdrawal. It takes a few months to recover. PTSD is common. I felt deceived. I too searched the bible and read done brilliant books written by Christian women who were survivors. I tried everything to make it a healthy marriage not knowing it was impossible. Now? I’m so glad I’m free from bondage. I could barely reach God during it all, now my faith and hope is strong. God will restore. The lack of empathy is so true. No matter how I was hurting or anyone else there was no setting it right or any care. They only care about themselves. I’m an author and God is leading me to speak to Christian women under this abuse and desperate for help. They need to know God abhors abuse and wants them set free.ill write a devotional too. People in the church need to stop telling these women to stay and submit. These Narcissistic people need to be confronted. I was so lonely and utterly broken but God has brought wonderful new things into my life now and I’m aware of how healthy love feels. Thank you for your ministry and God Bless! Happy to discuss my own extensive studies if you want to discuss.

@sarahvee1516

Жыл бұрын

Thank you. What books did you read

@ohmilah6723

8 ай бұрын

Thank you so much. I’m sorry you had to go through this but God is always present. This sounds similar to my story. I met a man when I was 17 and he 6 years older than me. It was instant attraction and I felt like I couldn’t live without him. All resulted to childhood trauma. I knew my dad but he never cared for me a day in his life. May his soul Rest In Peace. I trauma bonded with the guy and he saw how naive and obsessed I was with him. He asked me to marry him since he was an international student and his status was expiring. He told me to not tell anyone because they would not approve the marriage and if we didn’t do he would have to return to his home country or he would marry someone else for his status. A year later we got married, a month after our marriage I saw he would keep in touch with his exes a lot and he even talk to a lady calling her babe and so intimate . Things were very toxic before the marriage but I didn’t know any better. I confronted him about his behaviors he apologized but after there were many instances he would disrespect me verbally and emotionally so I left to my parents home and start a night job where I met someone else and developed a relationship with that person. It wasn’t right away but it grew into that because my relationship with my husband was just toxic and I’ve cried almost every day in the bathroom. I’ve been suicidal and called the hotline for help too many times. I begged him to see my worth. He was extremely manipulative and after an argument he told me that he is going to make my life a living hell by 25 if I don’t leave. That’s when I left. We continue in touch for his immigration affairs and he knew I had moved on. He was okay with that till he fell into depression and suffered a lot. My new relationship was with a narcissist that would use me as well( given me alcohol for everything) and I found out he lied and was married and I left. In the midst of depression, I reached out to my husband and let him know. He hugged me and told me to seek therapy. He wanted to work on the relationship but I was so lost and broken I refused. He made me believe overtime he had forgiven me and we can work past everything and start over. I believe it all. 2 years in, I found Christ again and working on the relationship, I felt drained and lonely, abused and depressed. We have had difficult times and told him to seek therapy as well but he claimed that I have issues not him. He lost employment for 11 months and I had to be the breadwinner. The past have really kept me a slave to several forms of abuse. He made me believe how I was a narcissist and have so much issues, I believe them all.I saw another side of him I didn’t knew, he used the past to keep me from moving forward. I found out im pregnant and he denied the pregnancy using what happened 2 years ago. It’s been 6 months since me and unborn baby are alone and somewhat struggling. He had told me to leave the house since he is close to get permanent residency. I left . I was still going because he would pretend things are good. 2 months ago he threw all my belongings out and told me to not come back. I called him for help providing for the baby, he started telling me about the past which I no longer am ashamed of, he hung up and say to not call him anymore. I wish him the very best. He said he had to fake it for his citizenship.

My god l was married to one of these things for 33yrs and it was pure hell.....🙏🏽. Thank god im free!!

@donnawoodford6641

5 жыл бұрын

Was married 41 years until the end of February, off and on continuous and repetitive. I'm glad religion is finally publicly acknowledging this type of person. Now the legal system needs to recognize the evil done to the spouse. Pastor Blakes is speaking the truth. Narcissists are manipulators. ☮️

@Tess-tu1gq

5 жыл бұрын

Me too! 35 years! I couldn't put words to what I was experiencing until someone told me about Narcissistic Personality Disorder! I'm working to help my children to recover!! We should talk!!

@Tess-tu1gq

5 жыл бұрын

@Vhampton81 35 for me too! We should talk!

@Tess-tu1gq

5 жыл бұрын

@@donnawoodford6641 I didn't think there was anyone out there who had experienced this longer than me! I'd love to talk to you!

@elderjonathanwhite6633

5 жыл бұрын

I got to get out , I can see that

Thank u Pastor. This was my nightmare for 5 years. I had to be strong to walk away, I almost went crazy I thought it was in my head. This man was horrible to me and treated me like nothing. One day he was nice the next day he was satan. He had different personalities. Definitely needed help. Am free now and living my life day by day. Sometimes I still question myself how could someone say they love u and the next minute turn on you. Looking back I don't know how I put up with such all these years. But with faith and prayers there is light at the end.

@hopediamond2153

6 жыл бұрын

Congrats hun.....It has been 5 yrs for me and soon hope to be in your shoes.

@yemedemure414

5 жыл бұрын

I understand your story. Discarded my ex narc of 4yrs. Worst relationship ever. Not an ounce of empathy in their soul. 3 of my family members died 24hrs apart. They were brother and sister. Then we lost another relative 2weeks later. He never parted his filthy mouth to offer his condolences. I knew I had to get away from this monster. I couldn't even grieve around him.

@queenchocolate2876

5 жыл бұрын

fabian imbert Its A PLAY ON KZread CALLED MY BOYFRIEND'S WIFE BY MYCHEA... ITS REAL GOOD THE GUY WAS A STRAIGHT NARCISST UNTIL SOMEONE GOT HURT... THANK ME LATER FOR WATCHING IT🔥🔥🔥👏👏🙌🙌❤

@tiffwashington1

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I'm trying to get there. 🙏🏽

@kialove5364

Жыл бұрын

I still trying to get mind back

It's always too late....they are master deceivers. You will believe with all your heart you have met your soulmate.

@laceydonald8248

5 жыл бұрын

very true....they pretend so well

@sherryfreeman4120

5 жыл бұрын

They are really a pathetic disrespectful loser...... they don't know what love is nor do they want to be loved..... just selfish and EVIL! 😈👿

@tshegofatsomokonoto4928

4 жыл бұрын

😢😢😢 i married him and am only months in, i am TIRED!! I feel like his satans son period

@1983Karamel

3 жыл бұрын

@@tshegofatsomokonoto4928 I am a year in and I am having the same dilemma. It’s so hurtful. I have been feeling like I’m going crazy. And the most hurtful part is, they don’t care at all about your pain.

@cjb34

3 жыл бұрын

@@1983Karamel I hope you are well and safe.

Empathy is impossible for the narcissists- Oh Lawd did I learn that the hard way 🤦‍♀️

@moonlitbalcony2861

6 жыл бұрын

Marcelline Zacca they have none! I found out the hard way too.

@MsCeCe-lt1zg

6 жыл бұрын

me too

@andromedawebb6786

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

Alot of your talks on soul ties helped me break from the narc who nearly destroyed my life. Your wisdom on this subject is appreciated.

@christinamurado4374

6 жыл бұрын

Andrea me too!!!!!! Finding out I was souls tied to a narc changed my life!!!! I’ll never go back and be under his sick and evil spell! I have been released of him THANK YOU JESUS

@andthnwat

6 жыл бұрын

Christina Murado Amen!

Selfish men and women. When I see em' I high tell tail it out there. They simply don't care and are rude. I only seek to be in alignment with people who show the fruits of the spirit.

This made me sick to my stomach! 😲 I was impacted by individuals like this my whole life I'm learning so much about this kinda person I pray to God that I heal completely. Thanks for your teachings pastor blakes you are helping so many!

narcissistic will also turn you away from friends family they'll fit on your family if you let them they cannot be trusted they never tell the truth they will date any member of your family including your friends they have no limits there's no empathy here it's truly scary

@shirleyguinyard8183

Жыл бұрын

I truly believe this my ex Narcissist slept with his uncle girlfriend

Thank you Bishop! My experience with a narcissist husband.. he would say something then change it around and tell me I misinterpret or misconstrued what he said.. it got to a point where I begin journaling every conversation we had. He played mind games with me and had me think I was loosing my mind. He would lie, cheat and manipulate and turn it around on me like I caused it or was my fault.. never apologize when he was wrong. It was a very uncomfortable marriage.. He would always need money and would take and never give.. it was like he felt entitled to everything I had and would take until it was no more and still want. Whenever he was around I began having anxiety issues. I thank God for exposing him to me and I thank God for allowing me to hear your teachings for deliverance and healing.

@vfree4579

6 жыл бұрын

Kim Crawford it's called "word salad " playing word games with your mind then say I didn't say that. That's a classic characteristic of narcissistic behavior. Look it up

@kimcrawford783

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you.. I will research now

@iamabideinitastjohn1567

6 жыл бұрын

V free “”WORD SALAD” - a confused or unintelligible mixture of seemingly random words and phrases, specifically (in psychiatry) as a form of speech indicative of advanced schizophrenia.” WOW... Fundamental thought disorder. And they can’t express themselves properly for the other person to understand. CONFUSION. All demonic. For them in their mind what they are saying makes sense but to you it doesn’t therefore which makes them think you’re unintelligent, ignorant bc you don’t understand them. All demonic. God is not the author of confusion but of peace. Amen.

@ksfaith87

6 жыл бұрын

That's call gaslighting too. Been there. It's used to make you feel unstable and cause you to question yourself. It creates insecurity and dependence. Thank God you are no longer with him.

@moonlitbalcony2861

6 жыл бұрын

V free thanks v I didn't know that. I went through the same thing as kim. He even made me feel inferior to him! I'm trying to heal also. I feel so used after eighteen years of that mess!!

Just my experience. Intimacy is difficult for them. and, most times things are one-sided or have hidden agendas behind their actions that can be misleading. Exhale.

@antoinitaviolette4140

6 жыл бұрын

Liz Taylor oh yes! They make plans for your life WAAAAAY AHEAD OF TIME, for their seeming advantage, so God’s plan should be for His children, so we have to know and depend, seriously, on the Lord.

@kendrabennett5041

6 жыл бұрын

Liz Taylor narcissists are incapable of intimacy, it's not that it's hard for them. They are COMPLETELY incapable. Intimacy if you break it down ( into me see) , it requires to have the ability too see/hear others and even be introspective and self reflective . All of those things are impossible for a narc because they lack empathy, they lack a desire to connect, they don't even live in reality. So everything to them is different than to a normal person!

@kendrabennett5041

6 жыл бұрын

j j True, accept the irony is I'm actually happy when I'm alone as I'm a naturally happy person and super bubbly. Like cheerleader bubbly and they even piss me off lol. They're a bigger buzz kill than buzz killington lmfao😖😂😇✌

@kendrabennett5041

6 жыл бұрын

j j that's hilarious, yeah . these are not normal ppl so thetefore the interactions are not normal. It's lackluster at best! It's made some kill themselves at worst!

@kendrabennett5041

6 жыл бұрын

j j yeah , I got to the point in my walk with codependency and addiction I discarded the bulk of the narcs. It's weird to say but drug/alcohol addiction was a blessing in my life it broke the addiction from men and codependent relationships , I loved my wine so much that I was discarding them lol. Now I'm clean from all of it. Thank jesus! Don't even have narc lady friends anymore. It's so peaceful!

I'm so broken fram a narcissist man, I pray Godcreleases me from this bond!

@kimvannote5024

3 жыл бұрын

Amen

@kaoshi_kutie

Жыл бұрын

🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

I'm just getting out a relationship with a narcissist and I thank God I made it out alive it was by the blood of Jesus that i am free

Good teaching Pastor. These people need constant applause, and appraisal. They will offend you but the moment you say something back to them that causes "a narcissistic injury" they become enraged. I believe they are capable of murder.

@keepthefaithwithtori

6 жыл бұрын

Tina Linwood Wow!!! That struck a cord with me....I believe that....I'm not speaking to my mother bc I always feared that she would hurt me....like Marvin Gaye dad .....

@diannwhitaker6

6 жыл бұрын

Tina Linwood that's how I feel about my narc husband. He has actually proven it by choking me. My daughter heard the commotion and came upstairs, saw him choking me and went into attack mode. My daughter and I beat the crap out of him and called the police. Now he's emailing me, stating that God honors marriages and confessing his undying love for me. If I go back to him, I deserve to die for being stupid when he has already showed me who he really is.

@truthiswealth1074

6 жыл бұрын

Tina Linwood Indeed

@tania0070

6 жыл бұрын

Tina Linwood - That's the absolute truth! I kept thinking he would kill me and I always thought that he had killed in his past.

@queenology1014

6 жыл бұрын

My sister was stabbed to death by her Narcissistic husband so yeah they will kill u

God is a phenomenal God, because he will take your greatest pain& make it your Ministry!!!!! I dealt with a narcissist for 15 years!!!!! And,got out!!!!! I never looked back!!!!!! I wanted my healing more than I wanted to be in a ungodly soultie with a narcissist!!!!! I prayed all day everyday,had prayer partners,went to Conferences,worked out,went back to school,and begin to give myself the love I know I needed to heal!!!! My process was HELL!!!!!!! But, I wanted the pain of change instead of the perpetual pain of bondage with the narcissist!!!!! You must desire your healing & pursue it aggressively!!!!!! To God be the glory!!!!!!

@emma509life8

6 жыл бұрын

Diannah Minefee. Congratulations ! After 15 years. It's really a long time. Sometimes " the pain of change" is harder to bear than the " pain of the bondage" because we get out of our confort zone of compulsive caregiving. Loving ourself 💯 % on a daily basis is scary at first because we never learn to in childhood.

@marianawhitaker7001

6 жыл бұрын

Diannah Minefee Amen

@yemedemure414

5 жыл бұрын

Amen Sis!! I'm ready ❤❤❤

@trisharundle1964

5 жыл бұрын

Me 2 after nearly 17 years 5 weeks free now. I beg abba father to take pain away. Why do i love him when he was so horrible to me please help x

If someone is all about his or her self they need to be alone. That's what's wrong with a lot of people selfish and that's sad.

Damaged my soul to the degree where I did no know who I was. Learning to love value and care for myself helped me heal. Obedience to the great and second commandments.

Ladies what looks good,aint always good.on the inside they can be mean and evil,true colors eventually shows up,and shows out!

Love is complicated and wonderful. But it's also work. Because it usually involves two people. A narcissist cannot see this. It's all about them, no one else. And in love, there's no space for that. It's made to be two people with the best interests of the OTHER PERSON at heart as they work towards communication, loving & life together.

Four years ! Four years of this. I had moved on , engaged . And he came back into my life, because I was vulnerable. Just to neglect me and tell me that he missed the chase. Now, he’s telling people I cheated on him and going to counseling. This is so typical for narcissist to play the victim and flip things on you because you’ve called them out on their mistrust. Everyday is a struggle, but I’m so thankful for your messages. You are helping me to heal!

Just broke up with a narcissist permanently ! It was all about her ; was very cheap, selfish, self-centered and a complete taker. Never reciprocating love, kindness or gifts. PLEASE ... beware of this type of person, when the red flags FIRST begin to show. RC Blakes nails the narcissists characteristics exactly to the core ... thanks Robert !

@cerisesmith5317

2 жыл бұрын

Glad u ended it

@belv13

2 жыл бұрын

@@cerisesmith5317 Cerise, the very worst part of the entire relationship was the deception. She appeared to have wanted a serious and committed relationship. All along, pretending to be a sheep and christian, but a ravening wolf inwardly. Don't waste time. If dating, in the beginning, always ask the person what are their ultimate intentions for meeting you ?

Pastor you are absolutely correct. These individuals are heartless. I wouldn't want anyone to experience such a relationship. I'm still healing after 8 years and was only married for 18 months.

@trueabby1162

6 жыл бұрын

Catherine Gervin wow ! really ? that person really hurted u.

@catherinegervin6910

6 жыл бұрын

Christine Calderon hurt is an understatement. These individuals will destroy you emotionally, financially, abuse you verbally, mentally and sometimes physically. They master control and manipulation. They are compulsive liars . By God's grace and mercy he freed me from this. When I looked back, i was shocked, ashamed and amazed that I had ever been in such a relationship. It felt like a nightmare! Yes, I'm still healing, but I'm in a very good place. To God be the Glory!

@trueabby1162

6 жыл бұрын

Catherine Gervin Thank for sharing... I was curious but is that I'm not sure if I'm personally dealing with a narc. o the person I'm dealing with is bipolar....

@catherinegervin6910

6 жыл бұрын

Christine Calderon Huge difference! I have friends and associates who have been clinically diagnosed with bipolarism. A narcissist feelings are flatlined to their "source/supply". Just listen to Pastor Blake's teachings on relationships and you won't fall victim. I wish I had come across Pastor Blake's teachings years ago, unfortunately I didn't have a father to teach me growing up. There is a young man you can google named Quinn Holliday who also has a wealth of information on the subject. I appreciate Pastor Blake's biblical perspective on this subject. Be blessed and be smart.

@trueabby1162

6 жыл бұрын

Catherine Gervin thank you for the reply ...☺

WOW. This was great because the ex narc called me a jezebel when all he was doing was projecting who he really was onto me. I saw his mask fall off. The unlawful soul ties is the way they connect with their victims. They are big hypocrites because the very gifts and talents the narc say they love they actually hate. God is love. #SELFLOVE campaign

@annatullison1482

6 жыл бұрын

that is interesting how you stated that @Mrs Henry "BIG HYPOCRITES because the VERY gifts & talents" the Narc say THEY LOVE they ACTUALLY HATE".....there was a friend who really was not wanting a friend but wanting more time and energy that I was not willing to give her. I let that go real quick.

NPD & Cluster-B has been the problem with the world.

Feel like this is so true, " the narcissist was like an actor in the relationship." Playing the role. What was so sick, I went off and became toxic in the end, made threats, went out of character. It's like the Lord​ took me down to see what I was doing and I stopped.

Pastor, You have just described my EX- husband in It's entirety. Now he has moved on to someone 17yrs younger than he and she has no idea what she has gotten herself into. I've attempted to give her genuine insight on him but of course he has played it as if I want him back(not the case). I just wish someone tried to warn me. But I praise God and I'm forever grateful that my children and I are no longer in such a toxic situation.

@alisarandall2589

6 жыл бұрын

The new supply will never listen to an ex. Remember they have filled their heads with, my ex is crazy. Just like they did us. So don't even wast your time. Pray for her/him and leave it at that. They always repeat their patterns. So its just a matter of time before they leave the narcissist also. I was warned, but his love bombing was off the chain. LOL. So I believed him instead of the warnings. They pray on people with a good heart. We are their best target. The fact that you warned the new supply was a "win" for him. They want that attention unfortunately. I'm 100% no contact. Best decision I could have made.

@lalocks4992

6 жыл бұрын

Fran Foster. That would be the worst thing you could do. You will look like a jilted ex wife. My grandmother always told me " Bought sense is better than told". Let her find out on her own so she can learn the lesson.

@kendrabennett5041

6 жыл бұрын

Fran Foster Yeah, unfortunately like with your case they just spin it and gaslight the new victim if you warn them. But they also do this with police( if you call them for help) , family members, sometimes YOUR friends or colleagues!

@livafofana1032

4 жыл бұрын

I went through the same thing. After 5yrs I left with my kids. Very abusive cruel and demonic. Nothing good come out being with them. Its just a waste of time.

If you keep marrying or dating a narcissist it's because you were abused by one or witnessed abuse growing up. When a narc is allowed to continuously harm you it really does lower your self esteem. Even if you know you are valuable and is worthy of love it still leaves a scar only unconditional love can heal. God can provide that love. When you grow up with a narcissistic abuse, subconciously, you are choosing a narcissist because it is familiar. It's most of what your subconcious knows. You must become aware of what your subconscious is doing: choosing for you even when you think you are choosing someone different. To break free you must change your subconcious by repeated positive affirmations daily; by the renewing of the mind and keeping the mind on what's good and lovely. It helps to study the Word daily and to seek wisdom.

Bishop Blakes I thank you for this video. I am the daughter of a narcissist who once had the audacity to call himself a pastor/man of God. His inability to love has left my family broken and my mother without a husband. He was very emotionally unavailable to all 5 of his children which caused me to have a false sense of what love is. He never told me about men and how I should be treated as a young lady. Through your teaching Bishop Blakes I have not only learned what it means to be a Queen Conscious woman, but I too have learned the tricks of the enemy when it comes to the characters men play to manipulate women. Thank you for words from the Lord because they have truly helped young women like myself.

It's taking all within me not to break down crying at this desk. I was raised by a narcissist. It has taken me 52 years to recognize EVERYTHING you have detailed in this session. As difficult as it is being in a romantic relationship with this type of individual, it is PURE TORTURE being parented by one. By God's grace I am a survivor! And, THIS is just confirmation of ALL He has been imparting into my spirit for the last 5 months regarding this individual. Again, I thank God for you, Pastor RC Blakes and your obedience to teaching on this ministry topic.

@yemedemure414

5 жыл бұрын

❤❤❤

I have been under narcissistic abuse my whole life . I'm in tears hearing your video R.C Blake's. I'm so depressed and sad . I even thought of killing myself . Thank you for the video

@hopediamond2153

6 жыл бұрын

I completely understand hun; That was my experience also and still. Hugz.

@faycollymore9352

6 жыл бұрын

Be strong x

@antoinitaviolette4140

6 жыл бұрын

BLISSFUL ABUNDANCE LOVE YOURSELF INSTEAD, if others don’t, who is depending on them. “I love you!” (Jesus) For He said, Tell them that I love them. YOU’RE ATTACKED BECAUSE OF THE CALL OR CALLINGS GOD HAS PLACED EITHIN YOU. The devil doesn’t care to mess with those he already has under his control.

@nasimaa9438

6 жыл бұрын

BLISSFUL ABUNDANCE hang in there and fill yourself with the future love and happiness believe me as I am telling you I tell myself

@frankieroberson3398

6 жыл бұрын

First, hugs & prayers go out to you. Secondly, you can heal!!! Break all contact with the individual{s) displaying narcissistic behaviors. Do the inner engineering otherwise, the same cat will keep showing up; pour when your cup is full, sprinkle patience and you will go far. Check out Lisa A Romano, Inner Integration (Meredith Miller)& Quinn Holiday, & Queen Bee all of the played a hand in my progress; respect, where you are in the journey but by all means, seek help.

i love this guy❤ how cool is he. God bless

@glory9585

6 жыл бұрын

tay tay Very cool 😎

I started watching your videos about a month ago and I want to say you are awesome. I'm a Muslim and my beliefs are somewhat different, however, I am truly grateful for the work you do. Many of our people suffer and it's people like you that can and do make a difference. The video again was great. Thank you.

@RCBlakesJr.

6 жыл бұрын

ruth whiteside Thank you. I’m honored.🙏🏽

A chameleon...with fangs and horns! 🐉

I am having a child by one and thank god I got pregnant because that actually revealed the truth of him to me and allowed me to flee an upcoming physical abuse and sad to say my daughter won’t know her father because I he doesn’t want anything to do with her but out the blue he came back around saying he wants to be responsible but I won’t allow him around us . He’s nothing but negative energy , he still says things to try and hurt ME after all this time away from each other and I just don’t want him nor his demons around me because he’s intentions are NOT to be there for the baby but to get around me to try and continue to destroy me verbally . My babies a blessing tho 🤱💕

I was in a relationship with someone who bragged about being an "actor". None of my concerns in regard to my feelings seemed to phase him. Now I get it. Thank you once again!

Count your blessings if you are younger than me (age 70) and learning this. But indeed I am grateful I learned this at my age. Thank you R.C. Blakes!!

Narcissism is the "Jezebel Spirit"

I've been studying this subject for a few weeks and am glad to hear your biblical perspective of this demon. Thank you Pastor.

@kathyworiax1089

6 жыл бұрын

Love God Amen, it is demonic!

@Neneham1966

6 жыл бұрын

Kathy I totally believe they are demonic.

@hyg44gu54

6 жыл бұрын

Here's a really good link!! . biblicalperspectivesonnarcissism.com/

@kathyworiax1089

6 жыл бұрын

Hyg44 Gu thank you! 😊

@hyg44gu54

6 жыл бұрын

Kathy Woriax Pass it on!!

Thanks so much for speaking on this. My dad is a narcissist and it has taken me years and YEARS to understand why I had so much trouble with relationships. I have accepted this about him and finally have no expectation that he will change.

Bishop this was great! The Judas example is exactly it! Please know that you've addressed how to remove myself from these narcissistic relationships through your teachings. Once I began to know my own worth and placed my own crown on my head as only a Queen 👸can!! Some behaviors and relationships can simply no longer exist. That's what happened for me. I am not Jesus ! I cannot save another hurting person I can pray and forgive and ask to be forgiven. Now that I have my crown securely on🙌👸💕! I separate myself from those who cannot align there behavior towards me with respect and love . I'm not perfect but I'm certainly healing. God bless you Bishop!

@tania0070

6 жыл бұрын

Journey Drifter - Amen. You hit the nail on the head. I know who I am now and I won't allow anyone to treat me any kind of way anymore. I've healed and learned.

@RCBlakesJr.

6 жыл бұрын

I am starting to connect the dots. I’ve been teaching it without knowing it. Wow. Thank you for reaching out.

@sheilagarnett7155

6 жыл бұрын

Pastor Blakes thank you! thank you man of God.

@brigitb4850

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you, you put that very well!

I was married to a man whose mother is a narcissist. She was horrible to deal with.

@perfectlyyoubeauty

6 жыл бұрын

Sherri Baker me too so sad. It destroyed our marriage

@ThrivewithJesus

6 жыл бұрын

Sherri Baker me 3!! And he being her only child turned him into one too!!!!

@sherribaker1546

6 жыл бұрын

Same with my ex Marcelline.

@sherribaker1546

6 жыл бұрын

It destroyed ours as well.

@queenchocolate2876

5 жыл бұрын

Sherri Baker Its A PLAY ON KZread CALLED MY BOYFRIEND'S WIFE BY MYCHEA... ITS REAL GOOD THE GUY WAS A STRAIGHT NARCISST UNTIL SOMEONE GOT HURT... THANK ME LATER FOR WATCHING IT🔥🔥🔥👏👏🙌🙌❤

These kind of people ,narcissistic people tears me up ,lacking in empathy apart from their own needs and reflection ,have been plagued by theses kind of people all my life ,vulnability is what they seek out in people , and then I woke up to self , been a long journey of discovery to stand strong in self , I spot them so much better now ;and stay far , Pastor Blakes may God continue to bless you, to serve us ,and instruct us in the godly path, god bless you ,your queen and the Blake’s family

@vfree4579

6 жыл бұрын

Maggie Edwards they are attracted to empathic people

@angiemcgee2156

6 жыл бұрын

Amennnn!

@belindaphillips2779

6 жыл бұрын

Vulnerability EXACTLY....then when we leave them they chase us

@brisav73

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you Pastor God bless you .

@Cornbreadfed82

6 жыл бұрын

Maggie Edwards I also have been attracting these type of people my entire life. I just discovered that my mother is one and being raised by one, I've attracted them in friendships and romantic relationships.

I married a covert narcissist with a masters in psychology. Understanding this has helped me understand past events that not only left me speechless but also questioned my doubts to blame myself. Here is my words of advice from my experience: "Educating Oneself Is The Key" Lately I’ve been having a ❤️ to❤️ talk with myself as to understand how my Codependency has kept me stuck into attracting Narcissists. (Ego feeds ego) Knowing both personalities are equally unhealthy I'm learning what draws one to the other keeping them unhealed unhealthy stunted and stuck. I am also learning what perfectly describes both traits (Narcissist and Codependent). This understanding gave me a hard look at myself to understand the hard work I need to do within myself to be healthy and what it takes to stay healthy I'm understanding and breaking down each trait of my parents/caretakers that played a role in my childhood experiences and what formed inside of me to use the protective shield of Codependency as well as researching the opposite spectrum in what forms a Narcissist to understand why both unhealthy unhealed incomplete's need/feed each other to make a whole to understanding how destructive this coupling is. December 21 2017 I learned a new word gas lightning that was a pivotal moment of clarity for me that I believe all Codependents should know how a Narcissist uses this tactic that feeds and keeps codependent stuck. 15 years ago I decided it was time for me to do the hard work and heal. I decided I no longer wanted to stay on the rat wheel watching myself repeat history by attracting the same type of men. I believe this is a priceless gift one can give themselves so this I gifted myself to no longer be walking in a coma in life but to be awake to experience and be fully present in life's journey with knowledge. I believe it's important for me to share my healing process and what that looks like for me. It's also important to know the hard work thats involved as well as what it takes within myself to prepare and be in the position of being open and ready to receive. I wish for all as I do for myself that all have the life they desire by finally healing and breaking free victoriously and being a magnet of healthy to attract the same. My best for all in your healing journeys With ❤️️ My empowerment message is this- Strengthen yourself from your experience but never allow a dysfunctional "ANYONE" to turn you bitter from "their"behaviors See the lessons to be learned from your experiences and thank those internally or if safe outwardly with compassion for being the teacher to help you see through their example of what was needed for you to heal to no longer allow behaviors as such into your life. Thank this person for modeling what you no longer want in your life. Surround yourself with amazing healed individuals that will help you to see the importance of it all to form the word "Complete". As PROFOUND as it may be we are all in this journey together just on different paths. I also see why compassion for oneself is a necessary key of importance for understanding those who know no other way of being. Stay strong & wise in the knowing and choose to doing "the work" to receive peace from the knowledge found. Choose to grow from your experiences by doing the work to gain factual knowledge and welcome only healthy people into your presence while allowing all the rest to just be. For this is ones choice that only belongs to you and no other can make. Do not second guess your intuition. Understand “Emotions” are gifts into the awakening that will show you where more exploration is needed to understand in full completion of all that was needed for growth so change can occur to Ignite your light and glow to its full glory once learned to then be passed to help others 🎯Remember You complete your life and others enhance it. I’d love to share 2 poems I wrote: Truth True love is not seen but felt. True wisdom is not learned but known. True love is not about the sensation within but about the light that surrounds one who Ignites all to share in the bliss. True surrender is not to let go of but to be embraced. True joy is experienced in the observations of life and the understanding of the fruition of what yin and yang teaches one that arise from the unfoldment of events True growth is not based on ones age or studied but done in the state of childlike openness that's understood in a multitude of ways for ever changing and never restricted. True Wisdom is not restricting ones thought but awakens the self to find the spirit. © 2018 Anitra P. Raju To Live In The Echoes Of Space ... The space I call HOME. Where unsettled knowing presents PEACE. CONFRONTING the past to no longer fearing the future. Ohhh to live in this space I call HOME Where only PEACE survives and ego dies. This is where I reside. Ohhh to live in the Echoes of space. Uncluttered and FREE. Allowing life’s turbulence to TEACH me. Understanding with CLARITY as to why this journey was meant to be. © 2018 Anitra P. Raju Thank you for sharing your knowledge. May each day unfold to bring light onto the next Anitra

So blessed to have come up on this because I've been dealing with a narcissist since 98 and just now in 2019. I'm finally breaking through from this devil spirited person. They are only their to destroy you. Get a joy out of causing u pain.

Its insanely dysfunctional for those that have been soul tied to these demonic individuals. No words! God help us!!

Hi Pastor Blakes, I am thankful that you are teaching the people about narcissism. My experience with a narcissist boyfriend was so horrific that I wish I could save the other women that are involved with him now. Because once you allow them into your life you are automatically drawn into their world and their web. You are correct they are actors and this man was also a professional liar. They are like a drug except for this drug "the narcissist" doesn't want to let you go especially if they consider you to be a "good source of supply." The issues with this situation has consumed my life which makes it difficult for me to pray for myself so I just cry out to God to forgive me and restore me. Through this unpleasant experience I learned alot about myself because I questioned how and why did allow this spirit of destruction into my mind and heart. My hope is that you will continue to deliver this message and I hope that the opportunity presents itself where you can broadcast this message on TV. We all need to be knowledgeable about narcissism, especially woman because we are more emotional and quick to fall in what we think is love. God bless you, Pastor Blakes. Thank you!

YOU HAVE CHANGED MY LIFE!!!!! I need to meet you in person!!!!!!!

Thank you R C Blake's for your study and teachings on Narcissist. I am retired (LPCMH) License Professional Counselor of Mental Health, while I had some book knowledge/clinical training; nothing prepared me for the actual experience of being married to a Narcissist. The marriage lasted 27 months. I believed that I was marrying my dream man, a keeper; it turned out to be my worse Nightmares. The lies, the hidden agendas, the hatred for me, the masks, the pretending, and no empathy, almost made me lose my mind. Thank God for his presence and protection, the many prayers that were prayed for me in that situation. Do not isolate, seek help, your pastor, and professional counseling. Folks this is REAL✅. I pray for all those going through right now. Know that God is able to deliver and heal you. He restored me so I could help others. The Lord gave me beauty for those Ashes. The best is yet to come. Please remember to do your own self-care. There is so much I could say on this. Be Blessed in Jesus Name.

A great study and topic indeed! A narcissist can go undetected for decades because of their great acting skills. They really are like wolves in sheeps clothing! I tell young women (and young men) to check/inspect their fruit/clothing because of their ability to disguise the truth. I only know because I interacted (I would never call it dating) with one for about a year (almost 20 years ago). Sometimes, the only way to blow their cover is to dive a bit deeper (and ask God to show you who they really are), ask the hard questions in love and when the truth is revealed, run like mad! I pray for this individual that they are able to get their freedom in Christ. It would be a shame to have been in God’s house all one’s life and be lost because they never received deliverance. I fault a lot of the leaders who allow this spirit to exist unchecked due to the individuals giftings. Cast it out! Yeah, you may lose them but you’ll protect the sheep! These individuals will go through the flock (seen it with my own eyes) and destroy unsuspecting women with a quickness. I agree that the narcissist are really broken individuals that have learned a new way to cope, however, a very destructive way. People who interact with them come away more broken than the narcissist and usually require healing, deliverance and counseling themselves. God showed me up front that this brother was “fragile - handle with care”. Whilst I never ever want to experience this again, I can say I learned some very valuable lessons about this personality type and am able to warn others about it. I’m overjoyed that you are addressing this topic here. This and other similar topics will only strengthen/fortify the church overall! Thank you sir, yet again! You are a voice to the Body of Christ for such a time as this. Your messages bring the necessary adjustments for this hour we are living in. Please don’t stop!

Been waiting on this topic, was in a 9 year relationship with one! This is truly on point!!!

@queenchocolate2876

5 жыл бұрын

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@newmamaful

3 жыл бұрын

You might be interested in The Royal We here on KZread.

Thank you Bishop! Yes they take take and take until they drain you of everything. I’m in the process of divorcing a narcissist and I thank God for allowing you to bless me with this message.

@ladybugbrack2834

6 жыл бұрын

Kim Crawford Amen. Blessings on your new beginning.

@kimcrawford783

6 жыл бұрын

LadyBug Brack thank you and God bless you 😊

@ladybugbrack2834

6 жыл бұрын

Kim Crawford You're welcome.Thank you for sharing.

@meenanaicker8999

6 жыл бұрын

Hi I am also getting a divorce. When I look back on 28 years of marriage...yes he is a narcissist. I am drained in every sense of the word.

@kimcrawford783

6 жыл бұрын

Meena Naicker stay strong and trust God through the process. It's tough but remember God is still in control! Stay Blessed!

My experience of these types of people is that they hate themselves & project this self-hatred upon you! They will kill you in an effort to destroy themselves. These sorts of relationships are dangerous! Walk away & if you can't get out straight away seek support from those around you to assist in making an exit plan. And know when you leave that you'll be flooded with either coldness (death threats possibly) or sickely apologies(tears etc). Once you have the upper hand & they realise your power i.e standing up against their negative forces because you are in full knowledge of their behaviour- you'll be in the driving seat! One way of controlling the situation eg. co-parenting with these people, is keeping the conversations & subsequent actions extremely formal. Trust, they will try to re-access your emotions- but you have to stand guard. 20 years later after walking away, I'm fully in control of co-parenting situation with my ex (God be praised). This person knows, not to cross me! But, it took almost ten years to leave. Stay prayed up & cover yourself under the blood of Jesus Christ.

There are Covert or Vulnerable Narcissists that withhold because they don't see a purpose in what's being asked of them, because they can't grasp certain emotions. For example, I would try to explain to my ex husband that I was bothered by how he wouldn't change his relationship status or share pictures of us or our children. He told me he didn't see the purpose. He would share pictures of when he got finished painting a motorcycle, but not his own family. I said you share pictures of the good times you share because you had fun and are proud. I don't know if he was just never taught or "mirrored" back to know that emotions are important... For the most part he wouldn't be overtly abusive, just withhold affection, intimacy, silent treatments.... very controlling

I was married to a narcissist and during our marital counseling he actually said that he married me for convenience.

@antoinitaviolette4140

6 жыл бұрын

Jacqueline Bond just care for yourself now. You are not here to try to think about what he doesn’t even know he’s thinking about, that crazy making stuff that makes them mad. God has a call on your life, and the first portion is Matthew 22.26-40 - God - Yourself - Then others who really want your God given services, that God leads you to.

@Laura.D3101

5 жыл бұрын

I think all narcs marry out of convenience just because they're incapable of feeling love for anything or anyone. The best tribute we can give to their attempts of destruction is moving on and be fully happy again without them.

@harrietboateng5239

5 жыл бұрын

wow..............wow..they are not even hiding their opportunist side anymore. dont worry they use EVERYONE they marry/date. their relationships are purely transactional

@jesuswilljudge7296

Жыл бұрын

They are opportunists

Exactly! Women are not attracted to bad men. Bad men are acting like good men until they are ready to take their pieces of silver. My mother is a narcissist and this is true for many daughters. And it’s a very treacherous life. Basically, in this situation you must cut them out of your life because their need to destroy never ends. It can morph but it ends up as just another way to destroy.

Thanks so much for covering this topic the way you did such a blessing. i have a child for one and everything you mention describe him and more. the narcissist dont have any stability or genuine interest when dealing with people they love to have you wanting them hurting longing over them while all the while they dont care about you are what you want with them. its a very strange and confusing thing to experience dealing with them is like a nightmare that refuse to end they will find your most vulnerable point and exploit them and in the process get you to completely be ok with the abuse which is emotionally sometimes otherwise too. They will give no closure and will not leave you alone entirely unless you go no contact. They will do you the most hurtful things to you and expect you to be ok with it. They enjoy taking someone from normal and healthy to their crazy dysfunctional way of being and if possible have you stay there with them. as they say misery loves company. these people are crazy to think of it they have very delusional thinking and unrealistic expectations of people. the list goes on. may God continue to bless you as you discover and share with us.

Thank you, man, of God! On the last video as I mentioned there is a connection here. There is indeed a connection with both of these spirits. The true hidden agenda is self-worship. Its a waring spirit that ultimately wants the victim to eventually self-destruct but the devil is a liar for those that are covered under the blood. I told that spirit in its face you thought in this marriage you would break me but greater is he that is in me. Its a classic backstabber and flows in the spirit of witchcraft. Nothing pleases them and it shuns humility. Just completely wicked! I am waiting for the next video you have. Shalom!

I almost choked on my food when you broke that thing down like that. You was on point on EVERYTHING you said. Thank you for breaking down from natural to spiritual I needed that. I was in a 10 yr relationship with a narc. He caught me at the lowest time in my life when I lost my mother. He ran through me and I didn't even know it. A narc is a different type of person, before it's over you will be left with nothing and the recovery is so serious. I know it's been 3 yrs and I'm just getting my life, heart back. It still hurts but I've come along way. He dump me like a piece of garbage before I could blank my eyes. But God has put me back together again, the most thing I've learned from all of this is seek him first. I hope I've helped someone. This video is all you need to know about a narc. Pastor blakes thank you I listen to you all the time. A wise season man, most of all a man of God thank you

Yesssssss!! This is the truth, everything RC blakes said is right & on point. There's nothing I have not be through as far as a man. The acting of a man is just so painful to a woman. But God sees allllllll!!!

Thank you! I just moved across country, after God gave me enough SUPERNATURAL POWER to truly exit this kind of relationship. Thank you..HEALING & WISDOM is for me!!

Omg thanks so much for covering this topic . We NEED awareness for this phenomenon, I wasted YEARS of my life on narcissistic family,friends,colleagues, work places, and partners. Thank jesus I've been delivered from codependancy and I let their BS be theirs and I take responsibility for myself! Anyone who has been through this is qualified to speak on it! Also with my background I will correct you and say personality disorders cannot be treated with drugs! Yes they need God and to get over SEVERE childhood trauma that creates this disorder! God bless sir!

@velvetsimmons9513

6 жыл бұрын

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@kendrabennett5041

6 жыл бұрын

Velvet Simmons I'm sorry, I dont know what this means?!

I was told by him he didn't know how to be genuine. I was like "Seriously?"

@lyndiex4215

6 жыл бұрын

Liz Taylor woooooooow😒

@thumperboots5087

5 жыл бұрын

Oh yeah✨😂

God in their bio doesn't mean God in their life. Lesson learned, I promise you!

Thank You Pastor Right On!!! These Narsicists lack empathy and it's all about them. Your pain means nothing to them and they dont care about how You feel and like You said they are great actors therefore You bring your guard down and then their control, manipulation and abuse begins I was married to one for 9 years Thank God I'm divorced now they are the worst.

Yesssss sir they cause pain!! I dated a Man like that last summer.....he was sooooo good at what he did even when we went to church he would have the first Lady mesmerized !! I was sooooo hurt®®®!!

They usually are reprobate.

Yes, indeed! You are on it Pastor Blakes. I would always say of my ex-narc husband and his family (Yes, there are entire families stricken with this demonic spirit.) The behavior is not only accepted, it is expected. During my marriage I told my ex that I feel like I am simply a piece of a** and a paycheck to him and I felt used. He replied, "You are supposed to use your spouse for everything they have to offer. I am supposed to use you!" "You are my piece of a**and paycheck!" Wow! My eyes began to open from that moment on. I realized that he was well aware of what he was doing and felt entitled to do it. Thank you Pastor Blakes for being a part of my healing journey.

@intentionalgreatness

6 жыл бұрын

Rose M. Its amazing how the demon inside someone will speak to you when it gets cocky.God makes sure that you remember thou as a means of helping with your healing.

@rodeorose5565

6 жыл бұрын

intentionalgreatness You are so right! I would often say in my mind I think he's possessed. Now, I know that he is. Thanks for the encouraging words.

@moonlitbalcony2861

6 жыл бұрын

Rose M. Wow that was so cruel for him to say such. These people are sick! Absolutely sick!

@rodeorose5565

6 жыл бұрын

Moonlit Balcony Yes, spiritually sick!

@Nanbebe7

6 жыл бұрын

I totally flipped the script on my narc ex husband and insisted he pay all the bills! He was furious but I didn’t care! If I had to suffer then he had to suffer! So glad that’s all behind me and I am at peaceful place!

Thank you so much. The Holy Spirit whispered this word in my spirit about 3 years ago. I could never figure out why my marriage was always going through an abusive emotional cycle. I tried to please this man, but nothing I did pleased him. What caught me off guard was he professed to be a Christian. I got tired of this demonic relationship and began to pray that marital sole ties would be broken. That is when the word narcissm was whispered in my spirit. Honestly, I had never heard the word before. Shortly afterward I stumbled on one of your videos. I have been untied and am free from this little boy.

I was married to one for twenty five years and never knew it until i saw your video. We've been divorced for four years now, praised the Lord.

Thanks for that sayings. While you are talking, it came to my mind of certain people were in my life. I cut them loose because they are fake and don't care about me. I am so relieved after I cut loose out of my life. Thanks 👏👍

Thanks Dad great teaching.

Reverend R. C. Blake, Jr. You are the Father figure in my life. I watch, listen to , and absorb what you teach. Thank you so very much for reinterating truth as well as GOD's word. Please alert me when you come to Atlanta as I would love to attend, please. I also love your beautiful and graceful wife Mrs. Cassandra Mack. I've subscribed to her as well. Love you guys much!

This spoke to my former behavior! I have been free from this behavior for many years! Thank You Jesus!

I def wanted to here this since I grew up in a home full of a narcissist. It’s tough. But much of what you described was spot on. It was always about him. My feelings never did matter. I always felt some form of attack. I always knew inside of him was anger, and him not being happy. Inflated since of ego/pride. To this day we still don’t really talk to one another. I just left it all in God’s hands.

I was with one for 2 years he completely drained my soul.... the only way he showed love was through gifts, sex, or money.... he was very jealous, controlling, and insecure.....he barely wanted me around my family or friends....it's like he had no soul...he left me for another woman .....thank God he removed him, I finally have my peace back 😊

@bwilliams4266

5 жыл бұрын

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5 жыл бұрын

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@tshegofatsomokonoto4928

4 жыл бұрын

True they are good providers,i held on to my relationship even when i got red flags and i even married him...i told him for years that i cant point out whats wrong with him but all i know is we dont share the same vibrations...

Hello Pastor Blakes. Thank you for your words of wisdom. I dealt with a narc that literally tried to reprogram my mind into thinking that i should believe everything that he said to me. It started off with him telling me that i should never leave him know matter what happens because thats what real love is. My response was "there is s limit to my love". What put the icing on the cake was, he kept receiving calls late at night, and I grow suspicious. One night I decided to answer, and it was another woman, but what was so strange about it was that she wouldn't speak when i tried to speak to her, but when i forced him to speak she would talk. It was honestly the weirdest experience ever, i kept thinking does this woman not hear me lol. Then it dawned on me that she does hear me, he just has her, excuse me for saying this, he just has her trainined well. After that he kept showing up to my house, with gifts like nothing ever happened. His last attempt to my house, was nothing nice and it ending with me telling him that i would call the police. I changed my number and didn't hear from him for a while then a month later the gifts on my doorsteps started again along with notes. In these notes he's still talking to me like we're cool. No one understands why i feel so determined to cut all contact from this guy because he does those sweet things, but I spent 7 years with the father on my son who displayed similar traits but not on this scale. Although, it was an unpleasant experience i thank God every day for that experience because i know now how to spot a narc and cut off all contact asap. But, one thing that i am working on daily is to not look at all men as men that want to hurt, belittle, and manipulate me, because there was a time when I only saw men as monsters. Ladies know your truth, if you start to see those signs of a controlling man leave, also remember to let love in, but never settle if it doesn't feel right. Keep pushing towards greatness and getting closer to the Lord.

I pray I meet someone like you. I’ve been through hell! I have lost absolutely everything because of a narcissist. God bless you and Lisa 🙌🏽

@usedabusedandmisunderstood8205

5 жыл бұрын

Me too