It’s simply hard to believe that people can be so cruel and cunning. I still struggle with the question “maybe they were not so bad?” Yes, they were.

@sudhakhristmukti1930

Жыл бұрын

Yes. They were cruel, cold, calculating.

@McSpaddenator

Жыл бұрын

That's what my dad says about my sister. My nickname for her is Chickzilla.

@catherinepraus8635

Жыл бұрын

Ya that benefit of the doubt clouds up the truth and thats when the Pounds Pounds

@denisedevoto5703

Жыл бұрын

Yesterday, I went into the DMV and said to the guy at the counter, "I need to remove Satan's name from my pink slip, I mean my ex husband's." He laughed, and of course it was a joke, but, really, calling him Satan isn't that far off of what he was.

@bm3211

Жыл бұрын

I still want to dig deep and find out why they are so mean and what happened so bad to them for them to think it's okay to treat people the way they do. I had a bad child hood and I'm not a narcissists. I finally understood that I will never know. They are evil and heartless. Whats even worse is having a kid with one and knowing they will never be unconditionally loved by their Dad.

Doctor Ramani, you saved me from a 3 year narc relationship. I had no idea what was happening until I found these videos. I got out a year ago and I’m a trillion times happier. I’ll never be able to thank you enough.

The work you do on Narcissism is very important to recognize , reconcile and recover a sense of self. The life path I traveled is littered with poorly equipped counselors at recognizing the effects of parental narcissism. Please don’t stop helping the next generations. I deeply value your work, you’ve helped me redefine what deeply empathetic means by giving me the wisdom to fend off and recognize, past, present and future narcissists in my life. At 60 yrs I’m feeling at my best self.

@lynnsonmor4330

Жыл бұрын

Well said! You are a quick learner , it took me until 66 w Dr Ramani help . I have never been so much at peace . I am so happy some of us at least can enjoy out senior years in a safe environment. The very best of luck to you 😊

@Brooksedge

Жыл бұрын

@@lynnsonmor4330 So very true! Best of life to you too!

@maevebutler4641

Жыл бұрын

@@lynnsonmor4330I so agree with you!

@allywolf9182

Жыл бұрын

I'm destroyed and trying to regroup after cancer and being abandoned at my diagnosis. I was raised by one so my life has been a nightmare... they find me instantly

@susantalebzadeh9741

Жыл бұрын

And I am sure you are beautiful in so many ways!

Knowledge is definitely the key. I am a very empathic person but since learning about Narcissistic people, my eyes have been opened and I am walking away from my 30 year marriage.

@DJH97

Жыл бұрын

Good for you. I walked away also after 30 years of insanity and degrading and sarcasm and pride and arrogance and sneakiness and being used. I was exhausted both mentally and emotionally.

@maevebutler4641

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations!

@sararichardson737

Жыл бұрын

Glad to hear it. I too have woken up from the nightmare of the nightmare. it hurts but at least now we know. Knowledge is power.

@sararichardson737

Жыл бұрын

Brilliant exposition. Vis childhood: “red flags are all you’ve ever known”. And yes I have walked away from potentially “good enough”. Relationships in favour of dysfunctional ones. You’ve flicked the switch Dr Ramani and the light is on. Friends, lovers all dysfunctional all abusive. And yes, I created an alternative childhood.

@sw6454

Жыл бұрын

@DJ I think if anyone asked me what the hardest part of this whole situation was to get over, I would say for sure the unfairness of it it all. I can see now that the only revenge or justice that you can get is moving on and having a better life. I still slip back into the how unfair it is mode, but I can definitely see a shift in my thought patterns. Listening to the KZread videos made by Dr Ramini and Dr Carter keep me sane and make me learn to trust my intuition again.

To me forgiveness does *not* let them off the hook. I can forgive but I won’t forget. I’m with Tutu on this. I don’t want to carry around toxic resentment because that is like taking poison and hoping the other person gets sick. I have forgiven the narcs in my life but I will do my level best to keep my distance from them. In my world forgiveness does *not* leave the door open to future abuse. Healthy boundaries are essential.

@saloni2117

Жыл бұрын

💯💪🏻

@windysmith7367

Жыл бұрын

Yes, this is the healthiest belief.

@lorettanericcio-bohlman567

Жыл бұрын

Tutu and Dalai Lama!

@6reynoldsgajsjk

Жыл бұрын

I agree! Not forgiving is a heavy resentment to bear. I think forgiving is confused with excusing behavior. I can forgive all day long, and not excuse or be ok with the behavior.

@davidm4566

Жыл бұрын

You're right. We have to forgive for our own health and peace. Forgiveness means you don't retaliate for someone dumping trash on you and act like it never happened, but it doesn't mean you have to let them dump trash on you again.

Dr Ramini, you nailed me. I am a people pleaser, a rescuer and I give 2nd, 3 rd and 4th chances. My narcissistic grand-daughter has used me and gaslightd me for years. Because I love her I am easy and she uses me as an ATM, she steals from me and throws hissy fits. I put up with it because I am also guardian of the most wonderful person I know, this narcissistic addicted grand-daughter gave me a beautiful great grand-daughter who I love & have custody of. Since Christmas 12/22, I am doing a tough love by drawing boundaries around my life. She is not allowed in. Your videos help me. Thank you.

@catherinepraus8635

Жыл бұрын

Hang in there your the only light that baby will see is you stay strong

@sirena9167

Жыл бұрын

How old is this grand daughter? Is she a child in which she may need discipline or is she an adult in which she will not listen to reasonable expectations?

@aubreyj.tennant1123

Жыл бұрын

Great to hear you know why this is happening. Imagine how many poor souls at this stage in life - blame themselves bcs they’re blind to the narcissist personality. Leave your mark on your great Granchild! Take care 😊🤗

@deborahedelman7866

Жыл бұрын

Sounds very challenging. God bless you and your family ❤️.

@CaraMills0106

Жыл бұрын

@Sirena My grand-daughter the mother, is 30 years old. She was abandoned at 13 years old by her mother and father with me. She is now drug free but will not leave a toxic relationship with her boyfriend from the 9th grade who is father to my great grand-daughter. When he got out of jail I offered my grand-daughter counseling and help but she chose him, I gave them up to raise my great-grand-daughter who is 14...

Finding oneself in repeated narcissistic relationships is sooo true. I was in four over the years…(I’m 70 now and done!). But though I managed to extricate myself, I fell into yet another. My narcissistic mother was disgusted and blamed me for just not being able to get along with anyone. My real friends don’t think that way. “Too soon old, [almost] too late smart.”

I was unable to accept the draw to a healthy relationship because I was never felt good enough, therefore fixer-uppers became my thing. I did not understand how dysfunctional my family was till 50 years of narcissistic fog became overwhelming.The fog turned to a complete blackout which gave me the desire to uncover the truth and speak out. I have discovered my family hates the truth, and me for finally exposing it.

@heatherbaker5035

Жыл бұрын

Here too.

@anniewang9723

Жыл бұрын

Same here. 51 years with a toxic narcissistic family.

@westieyolowinston230

Жыл бұрын

Same here; I know it’s not recommended to call them on their crap but I did tell my mom to pray about her anger & there is so much to be grateful for & she got even angrier. Oh well

@soniahathaway1

5 ай бұрын

Me too 🙄🤗

I will never feel guilty ever for putting my needs first and cutting off narcs.

The narcissists in my life kept me stuck using my empathy and religious teachings against me. You have to forgive and forget if you are a good person. I was so naive in my toxic family system. I have the freedom to choose who I want and don't want in my life.

I know hyper forgivers in my friend group and they will often gaslight others as well. “It wasn’t so bad, they aren’t all bad, you’re being so mean, surely they have some redeeming qualities, relationships take HARD work, you need to forgive more, oh that doesn’t sound so bad, well they’ve always been so nice to me, all mothers love their daughters, everybody loves in their own way.” If it wasn’t obvious I have a lot of resentment and hatred for “hyper-forgivers.”

Oooh, the overly empath “only realises the cracks after having kids” hit like a gut punch

Learning I was enabling the abuse 😭 Finally doing the work to put my healing first 🌞

Once a narcissist told me people who decide to stay with him & be his friends are winners. I cut off my ties with him after that. Now I am a proud loser :P :P

@whereisyourhumanity7557

Жыл бұрын

I told my ex the only women he respects, are the ones who leave him. And the ones who won't date him in the first place.

@cc1k435

Жыл бұрын

​@Where is Your Humanity? So true! About to get some respect back myself one of these days. 😅

Everything Dr. Ramani spoke of in this video is me, me, me! Until most recently, I thought if I tried harder and gave more, I could somehow make the unhappy people in my life happy but I realize now that I have surrounded myself with toxic, unhappy, narcissistic people my entire life and there is absolutely nothing that I can say or do that will ever make any of these people happy for longer than a millisecond. I'm trying to pivot and make myself happy and all those grumbly puss people can sit with their own misery and keep it.

It's almost 1 a.m., and I have to stop at about 22:00 into this video. But My Lord... I am really seeing myself in most of what I have heard thus far. 😳 It's embarrassing that I'm over 50 years old and I'm just recently coming into this realization. It's a relief to know this valuable information is out here, but I'm also saddened because I feel like I should have seen this sooner. Dr. Ramani, I thank you. I needed to hear this. I'll pick back up with the rest as soon as possible. Peace to you all

@messue428

Жыл бұрын

It’s never too late to learn give yourself some credit

@soniahathaway1

5 ай бұрын

How would we know if it is all we have known? Took me till I was 60, and yes I feel similar. But the joy of knowledge and the chance of a more toxic free future is exciting. 🤗

Dr. Ramani, you offer hope and compassion to all of us who have repeatedly chosen the same narcissist in a different person. ❤ 🙏 Bless you! 🙏 ❤

@soniahathaway1

5 ай бұрын

Sounds like my first 50 years of life! 🙄🤗

@starrycrown

5 ай бұрын

@@soniahathaway1 Exactly!

My brother isolated me from family starting at the age of 8. I have no chance to connect with extended family... i had to endure a smear campaign as a child and i deeply internalized the feeling of being wrong and defective

I had to learn to change a lot in my mindset. I had to give up on closures, on happy endings, on unlimited beliefs on "the inner goodness in every people" and on a toxic "carpe diem" in which the desire to be with someone was enough. And mainly, I had to learn to not stay in abusive relationships just because I understood the reasons why someone was acting like that.

Self- empathy first and foremost... Forgiveness does NOT mean automatic reconciliation... remembering without allowing repetition, thank you! 😊

Another great video.♥️ We can get so familiar to disfuncional relationships from our family of origin that we view the toxic abusive relationships as 'normal". I find genograms to be helpful in seeing generational patterns.

If it’s our 1 and only parent and 2 half siblings, it’s unavoidable. I excelled beyond my mother and siblings. I had one hell of a childhood but I still turned out ok. Their antics, rejection, emotional abuse, physical abuse, neglect and discard only polished me to shine bright and I’m so independent and you have to do something really really shitty to hit me in a place that would push me into vulnerability. I’ve researched this abuse in my family and it’s really helped me in validating what I saw but as a kid I didn’t speak up or ask questions. I was the product of an 1 night stand that my mother had with a married coworker. Unplanned pregnancy. I bore all that shame of her choices and was blamed for her life not being good. I went no contact after the numerous dilberately cruel moves by my family to hurt me, shame me and damage my reputation. The older I get the more I understand.

@mindovermatter2day

Жыл бұрын

The more I understand the more grief I feel at times. I was thrown out of the home at 15 with no money, no family to help me, they had lied to the family about my character so no one would help me. I didn’t have a drivers license. I did not drink or do drugs and had never even had a boyfriend or my 1kiss but the story that was told to family, and authorities was entirely different than my truth. I can remember being shunned for doing drugs, and being a whore and it was exhausting defending myself. I began seeing the cut as freedom from the abuse and a family took me in and helped me to stay out of foster care. It was horrible how I grew up. I’m 58 now and animals are my live and passion.

@mindovermatter2day

Жыл бұрын

This channel helps

@HahaT634

Жыл бұрын

@@mindovermatter2day So sorry. I’m 38 and I can relate to the experience you have described. The shame, neglect and endless invalidation. I was born to married parents but with a deformity, I was blamed for being born. Since she decided it was my fault for being born, she made sure I was readily available to soak up her shame and every negative emotion. Going through divorce from a narc and they’ve taken sides with him. I can relate to grief, sometimes it hits me when I’m not expecting it.

@mindovermatter2day

Жыл бұрын

@@HahaT634 Remember this.. you are being polished to shine brighter than anyone who dedicated their lives to causing anyone and most disgustingly their own children hurt, shame , cruelty, rejection and untruths. Imagine the inner turmoil they must feel inside to extend energy into treating others in that manner. Think of the things that others might do to throw you off your center after thriving that abuse? I’m sure the list is short because resilience and empathy are more powerful than their hate and self loathing they feel. Keep focusing on your strengths and you will survive, thrive and become better. ❤️

@RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper

Жыл бұрын

I'm also one who was in actuality a virgin and not into any drug alcohol in my teens online to find out years later I'm the promiscuous junkie in the narrative of the narc. At this pointed almost age 50 I absolutely prefer the paws to the company of human....

I completely agree w/Dr. Ramani about the “forgiveness” piece; our Western Christian cultural value of “forgiving those that trespass” is our own undoing. It continues to allow these people & their ilk into our lives. Holding that boundary is about self-love & respect, not about being a person who lacks ethical values.

This has got to be one of the CLEAREST, most brilliant videos on NPD I have seen! Absolutely fabulous. I think of so many of us who needed to be born with this manual right out of the gate; how that would have utterly changed, and shaped our lives. The awareness of vulnerabilities, and especially of those with high empathy, is priceless. Acknowledging the value of empaths, AND the need for knowledge, boundaries, and support - makes for rebuilding an unsuspected life shattered by this real human darkness. THANK YOU much, Dr. Ramani. In the name of true love, your work is redeeming.

I’m not very forgiving, I hold on to the idea that if I forgive my husband/minister/narc I will set myself up for another lie, manipulation.

@tinabrooks4397

Жыл бұрын

My husband is very self righteous to the point of unbelievable. I believe that forgiving him would just feed that ego and pride that he so lives in.

Hit it right on. Always made to please parents and siblings. Always made to take blame as a kid and adult for whatever went wrong in the family. Then 2 narcissistic husbands. One overt and physically abusive and the next one covert and sneaky passive aggressive to the max. Arrogance and pride was out of control. Gave them both chance after chance after chance. Divorced the latter a few years ago after decades and then finally getting counseling and learning. Not much contact with origin family as they never changed. I still get blamed for everything. Moved to another county. You’re right on Doc. So glad I’ve been listening to you. Thank you.

i am a total narc magnet. I finally broke down and joined an online facebook narc abuse recovery page. I made 2 posts. On both posts someone attacked me.. i posted that my daughter is keeping my granddaughter from me. This person posted that my daughter is probably trying to protect my granddaughter... this with no background info except for the fact that I joined the narc group and said my daughter was the narc. This is why I don't suggest support groups. It's just more pain from more ignorant people. I do love your videos, though Dr. Ramani. Thank you.

@skywalktriceiam

Жыл бұрын

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Thank you for this insight. Many people blame, "It's all your fault for letting him/her do that to you" or "He/she is just doing that to you because you let them". I believe that a narcissist was a narcissist before I even met him/her. They do "love" generous/ forgiving/warm people. They love the good traits that good people have. It is NOt your fault that you have so many positive attributes and are a great warm human being. God loves people like that. Narcissist like people like that so they can suck them dry and move on to the next one. God sends people like Dr Ramani and others out to assist good people to share insights and apply some protection from narcissists and their tactics. One big lesson I have learned is that it is ok to PLAN an exit and not just leave right away. Not everybody can leave quickly. Also, from this video I am reminded that being generous/caring/warm are NOT weaknesses and are not causes of narcissistic abuse. The narcissist was a narcissist before I met him/her. Good people learn from other good people re: how to deal with a narcissist (i.e.keep everything surface level and not "deep", for example, and maybe to exit over time with a plan). Thanks Doctor !

I used to be Pollyanna and people pleaser types, but sometimes now I don't recognize narcs, as t's my normal baseline to be surrounded by arrogant narcs & obnoxious enablers. I need to pay very close attention with new situations and people, especially high stress and conflict environments. Familiar feels easy but should be bad, but my brain can go on coast and autopilot.

@gottabme

Жыл бұрын

Yup!

@antiantipoda

Жыл бұрын

As a child I was told by my narcissistic mother "Be more like Pollyana". It hurt so bad. When I was adult I told her "Pollyana was a masochist! People starved, neglected and were mean to her and she smiled and looked on the bright side. I will never be Pollyana because I will defend myself." There might have been a reference to anal sex with sand and cracked glass up in there, for emphasis. :) I do believe that most people are good most of the time. Evil is the exception. And I am entitled to defend myself.

this video really hit home! every single part of it my ex even told me that one of the things that he liked about me is the fact that I forgive so easily. in hindsight I realize it's just a lack of boundaries and a fear of being alone and the trauma of breaking up.

@garysmith4796

Жыл бұрын

I understand. I have those fears too, so I am leaving her slowly with a well thought out plan (before leaving, during and after).

So true. My friends say I’m a drama magnet , when all along I’m hiding from it.

Had I only heard this like 20 years ago. By now I've grown more similar to the people I've been attracting.

So accurate. Was caught up in the overly empathic situation until I finally got it and now I'm quite alert and eyes wide open. Thank you for what you're doing, Mama. ❤️✨❤️🙏🏾✨

My ex husband screamed at me, “You’re right, you’re right. My love is conditional! It’s always been conditional and it always will be conditional!”

While I have been a narcissist magnet for most of my life, I was not a magnet to my narcissist grandmother and narcissist daughter. I was stuck with them as an ugly accident of birth. Especially as the mother of a narcissist, I wanted to forgive and excuse my only child, but she is 44 years old now, and she gets no more breaks from me. Did Grandma prime me to be a narcissist magnet? I think she did. She was my daughter's great grandmother and I believe that there is a genetic component to narcissism that's overlooked.

The timing of this video is impeccable,😂 just left my narc after 7 years

Dr. Ramani, you are so right at all points. I was raised by a a narcissistic mom . Honestly, my mom and dad's entire community had a lot of narcissistic, chauvinistic and autocratic attitude cloaked in Christianity.😕😕😕 I'm not sure how I was able to sense that something wasn't right but I've run from the worst and therapy has been my life line. But at 60+ I'm still learning what happened to me and learning the red flags. My mantra, "Not bitter, but better". Unfortunately, I am willing to be single, quit my job and have a very selective small group of people. No disrespect to others but You're the best.!!! Thank you again❤❤❤

Dr. Ramani you truly are the best. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, validating us and empowering us.

22:53 I understand 2 things now. 1)after almost 2 years listening, learning, following Dr Ramani, and from starting therapy, that coming from these type of environment we cannot identify differently. Exactly as described; not until poking holes into the childhood history, we learn. Like asking a fish 🐟 for a description of what is water🌊 💦 If once out of the water, the fish 🎣 might be able to tell. 2)I've learned now, listening carefully, that empathetic people are like the other side of the coin 🪙 What makes a person, think, they can 'change' someone else? It does not work for marriages, parents, even for some rehabilitation programs. Why would it work with narcissistic /difficult people? It's well established, people who change, are only willing to do so when we reach a point of no return. Whatever the reason, it only comes from an own individual personal decision.

Lots of time there are abandonment issues, beliefs in scarcity, and fear of being alone. So much codependency and social conditioning against strong, independence singles for decades. Once you figure this out, you're a lot less susceptible to falling for the narcissist bull so they can't suck you in as easily. Not involuntarily shining like a beacon marking blood in the water is a whole other task, though...

Forgiveness does not mean that the offender should be put back in the same place of honor or respect. It does not even mean one must have any contact or relationship with the offender. It is the healing work to refuse to lock one's self into a proverbial prison of bitterness, hatred, mistrust, and fear others will do the same thing to you. It is also important to remember forgiveness is not giving someone a free pass to hurt you any time they want. Their doing so is showing you who they are, believe them and end the relationship because they will only do it again and again.

@gitarani9269

Жыл бұрын

Totally correct.

The moment that you said “in a world…” I absolutely expected you to movie trailer narrate. I need you to do opening narration through my life😂

Weak boundaries, empathy, agreeableness, cooperation, conscience, and just trying to see the best in people are traits that are taken advantage by narcissists. They are emotional vampires

My weakness is a natural inclination to want to be helpful to others when they really need help, someone to hear them out and offer some suggestions to solve their problems or some kind of sympathy if I can’t. My strength is that I can’t stand listening to chronic griping from people who seem to not be looking for any rational solutions to whatever alleged issues they are having. People play on my sympathetic nature. The chronic griping or some form of trying to get my sympathy is the red flag.

I remember the Dialogue from the movie American Sniper when the Father is telling his son “There are only 3 Kinds of people, 1)Sheep 2) Wolves and 3) Wolf Dogs. I’m a sheep and Dr.Ramani is a wolf Dog 😂

It wasn't until I had my girls that I decided to leave for good. I'll never forget the exact moment of my 2 year old plugging her ears because he was yelling.

I really struggle with knowing when to ignore the narcissist (neighbor) and when to confront. If I say nothing, he thinks I'm a soft target and the poor behavior continues. If I confront, he takes offence and the poor behavior escalates. I hate these demons.

In my family, my parents always made me apologize but nothing was ever their fault.

Thank you Dr Ramani!

I do "hate" the 💡 idea that love can't fix or heal broken people. It is very very hard to break away from a narcissist, it is like the "walking wounded"! So true, the children are a "wake up call", you have to protect them from the narcissist abuse and manipulation. Knowledge is power!

Thank you Dr. Ramani. I only had time to listen halfway through your video, and you might have already mentioned it, but as an empathetic person I can say that I am used to sacrificing...my needs, my wants, food, my time. The N doesn't seem to be able to do that without a "you owe me" mindset (my mother/brother). I was always the person behind the scenes orchestrating events and setting up "the domino's" so to speak so that everything went right for the N ppl in my life so they could have the credit. I still, to this day, look past the glory-grabber to see who is working in the shadows.

@huzzah590

Жыл бұрын

True, I find glory grabbers suspect. I think who are you stepping on? 🤔

Now that I love myself and know my worth lots of narcs are running and not really trying to get in my life as much,then there are stubborn demon narcs that just don't get NO.

Thank you so much dor this vital key for protection

You are so brilliant at explaining all this. Thank you so much 🙌🏽🙏🏽

I kept putting myself in the adult child's power because I was not going to be selfish like my own mother or distant and uninvolved like my mother in law.

I am recently separated from my husband but keep giving him the benefit of the doubt because he had such a hard, neglectful and abusive childhood. He would cry when talking about some of the things and it would break my heart. So there was always that underlying “reason” and excuse for his violent temper at the smallest of things and even nothing. Also, there is another reason I keep letting him back in because I have seen him demonstrate empathy, although it IS limited and I have seen him USE empathy to gain something. I have greatly struggled with the question, does he have BPD or NPD?? That gave me a false hope that he could change if he does indeed have BPD. The reason I separated from him was his violent temper, regular abuse and threats on my life. I decided that it didn’t matter what he has, he was so abusive if I didn’t leave I would surely die. I would LOVE to understand more about how narcissistic traits show up in BPD and if one shows so many of these traits, do they fall within the callous, using others bracket outlined in NPD. Is anything say sincere?? These are questions I struggle with everyday.

Thank you for this. It was eye opening

Awesome show yesterday with Dr.C,love you both✌❤

Great insight here. Thanks Doc!

Thank Goodness… you’ve reached over a million!!!

Thank you! I should have seen the red flags when I kept telling everyone that my boyfriend (now husband) was just like my mom, but at that time I didn't realize that she was a narcissist or even what it was.

@Feribrat99

Жыл бұрын

yep, I didn't know much either then, I saw him as like my father and that should have been a flag, but I still had not a clue as to why it should. Live and learn. Mine is the victim covert type and an enabler for his mother and relatives all over the place. he is 70 and still gets valentines from his mother, LOL. What a piece of work she did to him and he has no clue and does not want to see it. Not even when he saw how my mom was and how she treated me. It is all over his level of comprehension is what I have realized. That really sucks to not even have a single connection but retirement in my instance. If I leave I also have to leave the acres I have loved for over 40 years. All the choices have a level of sucking it out of you. Looking back is easier than see what is going down sometimes since they are experts at the diminishing of your own spirit.

You pretty much simplified my life in this video…

I really needed to watch this. Thank you Dr. Ramani❤

100% this has been my journey. Knowledge was power, and looking at my family of origin has been life-changing

I can’t wait until the next episode of this series comes out. I have been wanting to learn this information for so long. Thanks Dr. Ramani ❤

Dr. Ramani, you got me pegged! I'm in awe!

@misshobbyhomemaker8376

Жыл бұрын

I married a neglectful narcissist and then adopted a family members children who came with a host of issues that I thought love could fix. I've learned the hard way that love is not enough. I'm broken. I don't know how to fix it.

Dr. Ramani I love how you explain things!

Wow this is so eye opening. I tend to gravitate to narcissists and now I know why. Knowledge truly is power. Thank you Dr. Ramani.

Thank you Dr. Ramani and team!

I'm so thankful that you addressed forgiveness when dealing with narcs and how it actually enables them.

Hello thank You very much Dr Ramani 😘💕

One of your best videos Dr. Ramani.🎉 Thank you!

Thankyou alot of help, I look forward to the next part of this series.

Great video as usual, really learned a lot from you . Thank You so much 🌹

Thank you Dr. Ramani! This one was very helpful for me better understanding why I seem to keep attracting these types of people. I am definitely the overly forgiving....compassionate.... empathic soul...and have been that way since my childhood...and grew up in a family dynamic of the complete opposite just as you described. I will continue my healing work with this deeper understanding of myself you've now equipped me with of knowing WHY it keeps happening.

So Powerful Thank you! I have watched all of the videos and they have really hit home and have helped me keep my distance from my family member that terrorized my mothers funeral. They had “gotten to” many of my closest family members resulting in my isolation and total loneliness at the funeral. Your videos keep me strong to not go back. However I was missing this one piece on WHY I kept taking it ,forgiving and putting myself in harm. This Empath knows now and I see my childhood was the training ground in giving until there was nothing left and still not being enough. It’s hard to have the words to thank you Dr. Raman you have changed my life ❤

Thank you for this in-depth clarification, Dr. Ramani. Every word of yours is wisdom and worth listening time and time again to remind myself not to fall again. I feel seen and lifted in a way, and deeply relieved to be able to gain this level of insight.

Excellent!!!! ❤❤Thank you🌹

EXCELENT POINT- THESE QUALITIES ARE GREATLY APPRECIATED BY SOMEONE WHO IS HEALTHY, NOT A NARCISSIST.

Thank you!!!!! Dr ramani😊 I truly appreciated this video as well as all the others they're alll GPS to navigate through these types of personality traits 😊 Thank youuuu!!!!

Thanks for this: "self-preservation is a right."

Wow: thanks for the heads up on the subject 😊 Looking forward to more of the series.. Being a hermit sounds like the best thing to do. 👍 I can relate to all you talked about.

Highly compassionate and hyper-empathetic...nailed it!! Still here, waiting on the time that is right (for me).

Watched you and Dr Carter yesterday my you favorite therapist please do that again as always much love don't let them slap both sides of your life

I'm late diagnosed autistic,and my hyper Emphaty has caused me a lot of pain and sorrow,i have been a total magnet for them all my life,and my lack of TOM doesn't let me read ppls intentions, so I'm very naive and used to take ppl by face value, and i understand their childhood traumas so i forgave over and over, bcs i wanted to fix them too ,and i couldn't abandon my vulnerable narcissist ex bcs he was so miserable and lost and it felt cruel to abandon him even tho he could break my heart over and over ,thank you so much for sharing all your knowledge,this videos should be taken in middle school so kids can start learning early about NPDs ,i wish i learned this when i was a child .

I have said exactly what you said.I’m a smart empathic person why do I keep getting hooked in.Learning more about Narcissists through all your teachings👍Thankyou🙏🏼

What an eye opener! Everything you say here is so validating. Thank you for saying we empaths are worthy of happiness

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Amen. and worthy of respect too.

Thank you so much for these videos Dr. Ramini! I had NO clue I was with a narcissistic man until I watched your videos and now I’m starting to realize that I’m not the crazy one.

Thank you so much Dr Ramani for validating my reality you are literally my safe space❤️❤️keep up the good work 💯

Fantastic work and analysis. thank you for teaching us the language and the framework for recovery from these toxic people.

Thank you for your continuing education on this subject it helps so very much to navigate going forward

Again spot on! I love your videos, thank you!! For me since I had been around narcissist folks most of my life, I found it felt familiar without realizing it. As though I was somehow trying to fix the past. My emphatic nature, being naive, people pleasing, feeling not good enough, low self esteem, list goes on , I discovered the hard way these traits within myself attracted narcissist people and controlling people be it friends or romantic partners. I also was unaware of my own toxicity. I am thankful for your videos, Dr. Romani, and grateful to be on a more healthy path that will continue until I leave this world. 🙏

if you realistically look at the balance of light and dark energies, you come to accept that both will continue and you have to make a choice, generally to allow that person (the narc) to live out their life course. I once thought myself responsible to save my family, but honestly there is a WORLD of knowledge out there to make a courageous choice to change themselves. Insecurity IS the baseline ....be a victim...or be victorious over the addictive patterns.

Dr. You had made a very good and very valid point!. Emphatic forgive because they think that the person will change! But that is not always the case here!

wow Dr amani you look amazing! love those colors!🗡🪃🪞🗝

It took me years to understand that my ex was a narcissist. Years after I finally divorced him! On the few years I have followed Dr. R, I have learned the words for my experiences and can now trace it back to my father. Thank you Dr. R for this latest insight into why I have been a magnet for these people. 🤯

You are so helpful, Dr.Ramani. I feel like I'm in a maze I can't get out of. You are a beacon of light. I have multiple narcs. that I'm trying to get away from. Thank you for this channel. You help me so much. Thank you so much. Thank you for this knowledgeable information.

Dr. Ramani. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ADD TO THE END OF THIS A A SHORT CLIP OF YOU DROPPING THE MIC! This is for me your drop the mic moment! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You nailed me and my experience!

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Thank you Dr Ramani I was blind for 24 years and your podcast has helped me understand what I was going thru you were so on point in everything you said about being hipper empath is been a year since I left him and no longer make excuses for him thank you I love listening to you❤️❤️