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@satyabhamakrishnan108

Жыл бұрын

Hi Danish brother how come you not become a flying monkey or a narcissist even though raised by narcissist parents ?? Please do video on how children become flying monkeys of their parent son shares every thing with his father even after marriage is that a messed up relation ??

Both my parents appear to be covert narcissists. Suffice to say, my childhood was full of manipulation, shaming, emotional neglect, walking on eggshells, and changing goal posts. I am 43 now and they continue to relate to each through passive aggressive behavior and arguing. They also continue to try to control me and my kids through money. My mother has also finally discovered my fathers double life and infidelities which has been a nightmare for everyone. No physical abuse or verbal abuse between them. A shitshow indeed!

I have been in denial my whole life . Even I thought I had the best mom but the memories of her standing and watching when my dad was thrashing me haunts the hell out of my life. To anyone in the same situation, do not lose hope. You are going to have the best life once you move out and heal ❤

My therapist called my mother “a weirdo, wacko.” He got that right.

@ND-or5so

Жыл бұрын

Lol

My father is a grandiose overt narcissist and my mom a vulnerable covert. You just explained my life and it does feel like I grew up in hell. The pain I feel is indescribable. Seems like someone ripped my heart out my chest 💔

@nicoloclemente6564

Жыл бұрын

Same here!! Anyway i believe that after having experienced absolute hell we become invincible!💪 Do you live with them?

@LiveeLife

Жыл бұрын

@@nicoloclemente6564 yes me and my mother do. It’s as if I’m her parent now and she relies on me to bring her joy. I haven’t spoke to my father in years. But I do agree it def makes you invincible! 👍

True, children are the biggest victims in this dynamic. They have to suffer throughout the life in one or other way.....

Thank you Mr Bashir, your videos are a lifesaver. Dealing with 2 narcissistic parents is absolutely horrible, even if you get rid of one you're still pretty fucked until you're 16 old enough to move out. Narcissists are the closest approximation I have to a demon from hell, and the only way to deal with that issue is to educate people about the tendencies so they can avoid those people and avoid becoming them

@lilfairycupcake

Жыл бұрын

agree, education.

Omg This is literally about my life that im living right now. Its good to know im not the only one in this predicament

Danish, I too had two narc parents, both malignant. My dad was the grandiose and mother very covert. She was violent too though, not so covert when she was raging. She would rage often. She would sleep alot too. She was always a victim and she just loved to play that victim role. My dad was a liar and cheater and mother looked the other way. She was a liar too but so very cruel, sadistic and abusive. She wanted a husband that would pay her bills and allow her to abuse her children horrifically. She would often tell him to hit us and she would watch with pleasure. This went on daily. They were a match made in hell. Their relationship very transactional, she only wanted his money and a date on Sat night. Neither have closeness or attachment to anyone, No trust, No friendship. Just a very chaotic, violent, crazy house. My Dads parents also disordered and my mother spent a lifetime hating being jealous of my grandma, all while sucking up to her pretending to like her. They were so phony all those years that is until my dad died. Oh how they turned on each other. They were all after his money of course. Never once were her kids considered. It was always all about them, the most self centered people on this planet. My 30 year old nephew who still lives with grandma and doesn't work took the role of my sociopathic father and he is now my mom's abuser so she can continue her victim role. It never ends. She needed to keep that going and she did!!! She tried to hate on me like she did my grandma but I cut all contact with her so she can't play that one out. My whole family is disordered (sisters and their kids). I ran away from looneyville at age 14. By 16 I had my own apt. Finished high school and went on to college. I went no contact for many years not even knowing what was wrong with them. I just thought they were crazy and I needed to keep away to stay safe. I tried to reconnect as an adult thinking I could set some boundaries. Oh what a mistake. They are very clever in how they continue abuse and violation. It's like air to them, they can't stop ever, they need to do this. So I went no contact again, but this time with understanding of what is going on here. I appreciate all your videos so much, thank you for being brave and sharing, you are helping many Danish. Your helping me so much, I felt so alone in this. I'm sorry you went through similar hell as me, I know your pain and what it is to have no family. I do have my young daughter, her and I are NOT disordered. We having a very peaceful, quiet, loving home, just the two of us and our loving pets. She does not know them, I have kept her very safe. But I'm still trying to heal the brokeness they caused and live the best life I can.

@sara-xc8lt

Жыл бұрын

I don't know in the past when there wasn't an opportunity to validate and name our experiences in these forums how people could get past it or even understand it. Thank you for your contribution and my my best wishes to the family you have created. Do not even let them look at it, zero contact!!.

My father is a neglectful narcissist and my mother a covert narcissist. It's more or less what you described, only adding the neglectful tendencies which are pretending you're not even in the room except when he needed to bark

Danish, i am so sorry about your childhood, being raised by two narc parents must have been hell on this earth. The ex is a malignant narc and the damage he has caused our children is just heart wrenching. Should children who are adults now still stay no contact or let him back into their lives. Everytime they forgive him he pulls a nasty stunt on them.

Oof! Your words pulled the tears from my eyes. Yes, after 32 years in therapy, in treatment for depression and CPTSD, I learned that my father, as well as my mother both suffered from NPD. This revelation came about, with my current therapist of 16 years, while compiling information and memories to write my memoir of survival. The realization hit me like a lightning bolt. I had been so blind to my father's narcissism, seeing him only as a victim all my life. Everything you say here is true. The cold, unstable, and tumultuous environment of my childhood home offered nowhere to rest, and no one to go to for help, nurture or affection. We were trapped in their war zone, never developed social skills, and were poorly equipped to enter adult life. When my brother and I reached adulthood and left home, my parents were left with no buffer for their constant attacks on each other. They briefly separated and my mother feared financial abandonment. So she devised a plan, demonized me, took my children, (I was a single mother), and turned them against me. Oh,how this elevated them in their community and their church, taking in those poor children! My mother took custody of one son without my knowledge (falsely claiming abandonment) while my father absorbed and completely spoiled and indulged the other son. My income was low, I was a psychological mess and I could not compete with the resources they had to raise my sons. I lived in the next town watching the falacy unfold, turning inside out with longing for my boys, seeing therapist after therapist for the depression that never seemed to end. I would visit, try to have some involvement with my children but my parents would say, right in front of me, "don't listen to your mother." And they didn't. I became just some lady who visited that was somehow related but carried no significance in their lives. Fast forward, I am nearly 70. I lost one son to a drunk driver 20 years ago. I was devastated. He was a kind soul and he told me just weeks before he died that he couldn't validate his grandparent's estimate of me. He thought I was fine and that he loved me. My surviving son is forever tainted by their influence. My relationship with him is much like my relationship with my father was. The parents have passed away as well as a brother who was their golden child. I am left alone in this world astonished that I have survived at all. And so, the only thing left to do is to tell my story. Hopefully, someone who might be in the same situation will find the courage to survive and thrive. And hopefully, it won't take them 32 years to do so. Thank you, Danish. I feel we are connected by this trauma. I wish you love.

Yess they know that they did bad to you and they won't apologize for it

My dad overt my mom covert. I didn't find really it to be a power struggle, my dad was the dominant one because he was 6'2, mom 5 ft. Yes indeed pretending publicly to be a happy couple and good people, but behind the curtain. They would literally have the community believe that I was just a brat. Its like not living in reality being attached to these people... I've been basically no contact with them for like 3 years now.

@sawdustadikt979

Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry you started out like that. If I may encourage you based on my experience. Maintains the distance between you and them like your life depends on it. Learn to forgive yourself and be patient with yourself. Learn deep gratitude for where you are and how far you have come. A lot of us never find the bravery to leave.

@darien9891

Жыл бұрын

@@sawdustadikt979 🙏

@RunninQHsRock

Жыл бұрын

Are you sure it was only height? Females are generally more passive than males, that's just a fact so there's one thing. My mother is autistic, I think my father is also but its far lesser degree and I don't think she has a very high iq. Anyways, They're both narcs in a cartoonishly weird way, but my father would out maneuver mentally and due to her upbringing, ''shutting down'' was a way to sidestep feeling ''on the spot''. I'm always suspicious of power imbalance in relationships. Whether it be age, money, status, physical attractiveness, intelligence, etc. Healthy people are largely attracted to their equals. Very easy in for one to use such things against another.

@darien9891

Жыл бұрын

@RunninQHsRock I'm not saying like just height, My dad was just a very big scary angry man who my mother was essentially helpless against. He's not someone anyone in our household could really overpower. If he wanted to win an argument, no matter how stupid, he could because there was nothing anyone of us could do...

@darien9891

Жыл бұрын

@RunninQHsRock my mother was also smaller then me and all my siblings.

Thank you so much for posting this. It's largely a taboo subject but catastrophic if it's your childhood reality. This was the dynamic between my grandiose father and my covert mother. It's not something you can talk about or figure out when you're a child but I remember reasoning if we could just lie low till we were adults we would have more of our own power then and we could band together. Both my father and my older brother had died by the time I was 18, so that plan was shattered. I didn't know the whole picture but I knew there was some connection between my father's violence to him in childhood and my brother's early death. However everything was still blamed on him and I came under heavy suspicion for loving him. My younger brother had a troubled life and an early death too. My covert mother alternated between being nice to me on a surface level to keep me in her service and feeling justified in subtly insulting me frequently bringing up non events that seemed too trivial to mention and left me feeling unreal. I figured bits of it out as I went along but it's only now I have a grasp of more of the whole appalling picture. While it's still not something you can talk about without driving people away, at least I've got out of the habit of blaming myself. My mother lived to 92 😱 and although I didn't grieve in the conventional sense, I had to work through deep grief with a skilled trauma therapist about my mother's appalling dark legacy and the sinking realisation that much of it was deliberate.

@ND-or5so

Жыл бұрын

I agree. It was deliberate. Others don't know about Narcissm for us to talk about this in depth. People need to be educated on this. I even met therapists who can't recognize their behavior by myself describing them to a T. It's frustrating, especially therapists who say well I don't know your husband," so I can't say." Oh, really now? Not good at all.

@coralmccrystal4606

Жыл бұрын

@@ND-or5so Yes. It takes a skilled trauma therapist who knows about narcissistic abuse and how to help. We went for couples counselling but my narc ex- husband charmed the counsellor and came across as calm, stable and reasonable while I was agitated, struggling for words and unable to think straight. Looking back he successfully manipulated both the counsellor and me and basked in the winning feeling.

@llkellenba

Жыл бұрын

Agree anyone who has lived through such horror really cannot share it with “normal” people. It’s hard to feel separated and isolated in this way. Let alone be deprived of a normal life. There’s no explaining it. My siblings shared the trauma but we had different roles in the family and there’s challenges relating as adults. Warmth and love is not really available either in a family that has been ravaged by parental narcissistic abuse 😢

@coralmccrystal4606

Жыл бұрын

@@llkellenba Sorry Laura. It's such a terrible hand to be dealt. There's also the ideal of mothers being so loving and self sacrificing that if you speak up you're being ungrateful about all they've done for you. Also if you have a job, an education and a house, how bad could it have been? I have learned in trauma therapy that there's part of you they can't touch - a solid core - but it gets overlaid with defence strategies which you have to revisit and update - or I had to at least. Sending love. ♥️

@llkellenba

Жыл бұрын

@@coralmccrystal4606 thank you I appreciate the insight and experience you share. True I’ve managed to “succeed” in some key ways despite the toxic nature of my upbringing. School was a haven. I leveraged that experience. Relationships are another matter. Trauma healing ❤️‍🩹 finally an option! Yay for the healers and all resilient humans who go through this process and come out the other side…

YES! I had been contemplating this about 2 family members and I couldn't figure out which one might be the "victim" because they are so similar. One is clearly overt and the other covert/malignant.

If you are at the end of this toxic relationship it makes you feel like you are becoming narcissistic because your having to play games to survive.I. It’s crazy making. I walk on eggshell to protect my child. He does things that make them think differently of me. He will go to them and tell their mother will be okay just have patience with her .. He tells me he is just supporting like a good husband . Next day blows up with me till he loses his voice. Then acts like it just normal part of a relationship and he is aloud to take it out on me . When I spend time with my daughters they figure out some of this and we go back to being close again. He starts love bombing them so they get more confused and start thinking am the emotionally unstable mom. Then they get distance again from me. . One my girls are figuring this out and she doesn’t want to be around him. She tells me it’s too confusing and she didn’t want to disappoint him so she will give in to what he says then she doesn’t know what is true about me. I am working on getting a divorce after being with him for 26yrs of being stay home mom raising 5 kids. He cheated on me back in 2017 and I believe it was just coffee and talking till a few weeks I put some emails together. I asked him to tell me the truth and he would not . I hated what I did to get the information from him. I started to Cry and beg. I really needed closures. I needed to know I was being gaslighting for 7 years. He told me yes. Btw he is a pilot. Works 15 -18 days a month. I was his supply at home and then one day he it wasn’t enough and found an old girlfriend that he knew when was 20. He is 63. I am 56 .when I found out I pretzeled myself up for my children. He being a pilot made it much easier to do then if was a guy that came home every night. I don’t regret doing this because I have learned a lot about myself in the last 3 years. I worked on getting a career. I finally kicked him out this year Jan8th. It’s been really hard. Thank God I have a big support system and I got a coach to help me. I have more peace in my home. He still scares me and if we talk more 15 mins he blows up at me starts excusing of ruining my daughters lives then says crazy things that isn’t true. Then next day asked me if I need help with anything. Like nothing happen. It all boggles my mind. somedays I take my daughters to school then come back crawl back into bed till I have to pick them. I pray to God please help to have the courage to stay strong on the path to freedom . I am afraid to get a divorce because he is going to make it hell. I know in the end I will be okay. It’s just is all very surreal I can’t believe I am going thru this nightmare. I never thought this man would ever do this to me. I was blind to all the signs. Now I know it was a trauma bond from living with 2 narcissist parents. I felt comfortable and excused his behavior till I couldn’t anymore. Thank you Danish you have taught me so much and given me so much peace. I don’t blame myself so much anymore and I am on the path to healing one day at the time . I hope for myself not for the relationship. No more hope on hope anymore for him to wake up and magically go back to that guy at the beginning. Thank you for sharing your experience and teaching us this is abuse and to trust yourself that it’s real even if no one has even seen the abuse. Just knowing that you know is validation enough! Knowledge is power! 💪🏼🙏🏼❤️

Same as you say. Very confusing for any caring person, especially children.

Not my parents but my ex new girlfriend is a narcopath as well! For you and children alike this is horrific. My mothers sister and husband are the scenario you speak of. With my ex it was a blessing for my daughter and myself. They were so busy fighting we were able to move far away. Save what left we had of ourselves.

My mom is OVERT and my father is COVERT narc 😢

@ND-or5so

Жыл бұрын

Charukesi Arunraj: Are they still together?

@sunflower7532

Жыл бұрын

Poor you, I can relate to that upbringing but at least you know, it’s not you. It’s them.

@CharukesiArunraj

Жыл бұрын

@@ND-or5so yessss

@davionpendleton9086

Жыл бұрын

Same, but my dad is malignant and my mom is a vulnerable narc

@soumyakrikrishnan1661

Жыл бұрын

My mom is malignant overt and dad is covert...😢😢

yep... this describes my childhood perfectly. Mom = High-range Malignant Borderline Narcissist with episodes of what looked like Schizophrenia Dad = Low-range Grandiose Narcissist (a lot better than Mom but still horrible, Mom was a demon, everyone looks in comparison) Took me 10 years to recover from childhood like that. ps. Didn't talk to Mom in ~15 years. Didn't talk to Dad in ~4 years.

I'm so happy you went into this, untangling this dynamic was the hardest part of untangling my life ❤

I'm pretty sure I was discarded by a covert narc for an overt narc. It's hilarious to me.😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 The justice!!!!😄

@becky9196

4 ай бұрын

SAME!! She is unhinged. We still all go to the same gym and she has literally pissed off every person there. Her mask slipped and everyone saw her for what she is. Guess whose fault it was? GUESS!!!

My dad tried to killed himself with his car by driving into a tree. First time visiting him with my mom and other siblings, my mom said to us: "Look out for sharp stuff so he doesn´t do it again". That´s how we got to know what happened, we of course never talked about it. My dad said he had a blackout and didn´t really try to do it. Imagine being the most vulnerable possible and your partner humilates you infront of your children. 15 Years forward my dad controls my mom and she even signed a paper that in case of needing help, only my dad is responsible for her and no state help. He owns her. They live in their own hell. Their whole life is a Steven Spielberg horror movie and mine was, until i realised the truth.

@davionpendleton9086

Жыл бұрын

My dad controls my mom in a different way (and mom controls dad too but he’d never admit). He guilts her with all of the things he does for her along with badgering her with religious, misogynistic bs. Telling her she’s responsible for the kids and gives her a list of chores to do and then if she doesn’t do it like he says then he just says she’s not good at being a wife and he threatens to leave and he just repeats how worthless she is to him. He says that all of her opinions are secondary to his because God made him the man of the household. He pays for everything so she’ll feel like she can’t do anything or get anything without him, then he’ll say she doesn’t do anything and that she’s lazy or something when he’s frustrated. She’d say he’s stressing her out and he’d say that she has nothing to stress about because she doesn’t do anything. She’d complain about my brother being his scapegoat and he would say that my brother is a bad kid around her so he has to be extra tough on him. He’s extremely malignant. She isn’t as malignant but she’s definitely overt. She yells and throws tantrums and gets in our faces and talks about how she used to fight people when she was younger or she’ll walk out of the house without a word. She only beat us a few times. He literally tortured us year-round. I almost think my mom is mean to us because she doesn’t know any better and my dad (the sadist) let’s her because he doesn’t care and he can use it to say she’s just as bad as him. My family is real fucked up.

@davionpendleton9086

Жыл бұрын

He also would talk about her behind her back to everyone. About how she doesn’t work and about how she’s so emotional and about how he’s had more attractive women interested, etc.

Chaotic, constant fighting and throwing stuff, making up and starting all over again. Affairs, out doing each other, separating, blaming, involving others. Inconsistent moods, I was terrified and too thought my poor, ( covert narc) mum. The massive victim and I became her parent. But little me, I was blamed for everything including their acrimonious divorce and was sandwiched until, before it was popular, I broke away. It was decades before I saw how it set me up romantically and in friendships but I became an over achiever and very successful otherwise and learned how to parent well and I am very close to my kids. My late husband (happy life) helped me untangle this toxic family but oddly after he died, I had a romantic relationship with a malignant(father) fellow and then a shorter relationship with a covert fellow(mother) but I educated myself, lessons learned. I guess I was playing out my childhood and standing up for myself because I dealt with really painful toxic bonds. Now I get it, I have found peace. I feel cleansed.

I like how u say shit show. 😂 what a world . God save us!

This is my parents. Father is overt grandiose Malignant Narcissist pastor. Mother was preacher's kid, became covert vulnerable Narcissist who wanted to be a preacher's wife despite hating the life in which she was brought up. I'm the scapegoat child who figured it out and has tried since I was a teenager to confront and hold them accountable for their abuse. Always denied, told that my perspective was wrong because I was just a child, and my siblings don't all see it in quite the same way, though I have heard plenty from them to know that I have the full picture. Definitely correct here about how the kids are used to project the pretend image of the perfect pastor's family, all so well behaved and reflecting the best attributes of the parents. It wasn't until a year and a half ago that the church became aware of the abuse and confronted him, and I didn't feel safe living with them anymore. My dad literally wanted to unalive me. I've tried going no contact, but it's incredibly difficult because, as anybody who knows what it's like dealing with these people knows, they DO NOT RESPECT BOUNDARIES. And they left me relatively unprepared to live without them, so I have unfortunately found myself in need of their help from time to time. My daughter is also unfortunately caught in the crossfire, acting as go-between because she still is in a sort of love-bombing phase so they're more willing to do things for her.

Way too true. My big sister is an overt narcissist, and she married a covert one. Neither of them are emotionally available for their kids, and they avoid each other (according to my niece and nephew). My husband's brother is an overt who married a covert. They one-up each other constantly and admit (through covered jokes and complaints) that when they go home, they go to separate parts of the house and live separate lives. Chaos for sure!

Yes, similar to you. From what I can tell, not being a trained professional. My father a malignant, sociopathic narcissist and my mother boarderline covert narcissist. They divorced when I was little. My younger brother followed in my father’s footsteps. We had lots of changes in custody. Had many step parents in the picture. My father, being so violent, angry and enjoying it so much, my mothers crazy bullshit was “easy” in comparison. But was no picnic. She was as malevolent as he was with her sabotage and build ups to neglect and abandonment. I separated from my entire family maybe 20 years ago, in that time I began to wonder if I was being like my mother and was dramatizing my memories and experiences. Till I have been learning about cluster b personalities, C-PTSD and Narcissistic Abuse. It was all to real, and the bad stuff I buried. By learning about this stuff i get vindicated and feel more trust in myself about how I feel, my perceptions and my memories. Before that I was gaslighting the shit out of myself to move forward in my life.

@sawdustadikt979

Жыл бұрын

@@jbrown2908 yes, I do think it was a primal coping strategy. Kids do it all the time. So in order to make space in my mind to be able to move forward with my life, I put it all behind me. I grew up in poverty, starting out that far behind is a huge task. I needed every advantage I could make for myself. Growing up in that, I’m always checking myself. Making sure I don’t get caught up in my own confirmation bias. But I, like anyone, can over reach at times. I value humility highly from all that.

Excellent presentation again, Danish. Spot on. Hard to believe until on lives it.

Darnish, you hit it out of the park. My experience with both vampire parents was a toxicity that only Jesus Christ would save . My sisters and I suffered our childhoods were full of anxiety

You described my parents. They divorced after 2-3 years and things went bad.

my X swapped me for a narc who was worse than him. my mum is more of a narc than my dad. my X's the covert 1, both clout chasers. she is the aggressor.

In my case the overt father and vulnerable covert mother put all Their projection into their golden child toxic daughter

I know my dad was a malignant narcissist. I don’t know what my mom was. I think she was extremely unhappy with her life and could never be pleased. She never pretended to love me though. She was very codependent with my dad and favored some kids over others. Always talking about one sibling to another. I’m not sure if she was a narcissist.

This just opened my eyes. I have the same combination at home and could never understand what was wrong with me

@LiveeLife

Жыл бұрын

I have the same family structure as well. It’s their gaslighting and manipulating ways that make you feel this way. I’m pretty sure your an awesome person! 💪

Very true, my both parents were narcissists, I was the victim. I suffered a lot . Now I am no contact

You narrated my life in 7 minutes 20 seconds

One hundred percent ♥️ Danish , these narcissists are despicable

After 34 years of abuse from the narcissist ex, I find it satisfying to know that the person he's been with for the past several years is a female version of himself. Apparently, according to my adult children who still occasionally talk to their dad, he has to answer to his partner for every penny spent(of his own money), has to put the phone on speaker every time he makes or receives a call,(especially from any of my kids), he has to rearrange or cancel any plans he makes that don't align with HER plans or approval, and she has essentially isolated him from his family and friends and expects him to only associate with HER family and friends. Ahhh....Sweet Karma 😂

@sanjmalik6282

Жыл бұрын

@ Silver Wolf, Sweet Justice in its finest form. I am really pleased that you got to see it.

@khadijahoneybadger1

Жыл бұрын

You thank the lord for letting live long to see ur ex paying for what he done to you and the kids. But sometimes it make me think how women out there acquire such power to make out of their husbands a docile poppy?

Thank you for shedding light on this behavior. A lot of people have grown up with such parents and thinking it’s normal or okay. Abuse is abuse and it’s not right. This description fits my folks, that’s the environment we grew up in, constant verbal and emotional abuse they are still swimming in the murky mess they call their marriage, I maintain very low contact with them after I realized the abuse doesn’t end even when we are adults. It’s like being in a circus of the absurd for a lifetime..

My dad was a cruel Maligant Narcissist while my mom was a mix of Grandiose and Covert (though Grandiose most of the time). My dad dominated their relationship most of the time, my mom caving into his iron fist to appease him, while secretly thinking herself morally superior to him because she wasnt as violent as him and considered herself virtuous for staying married to him despite his behavior (even though she blamed him for ruining her life). Thank you for making this video, Danish. A lot of people think its impossible for two narcs to be in a relationship long-term (my parents are still married), and it's really invalidating to hear. My childhood was destroyed by two selfish, irresponsible, evil people who only repopulated to boost their own egos and the fantasy of having a perfect family.

For 29 years i endured my grandiose father and covert mother. Not anymore. I'm moving out for good.

Awesome video!!!

Right on so Right…thank you

Spot on. Wow!

So basically most celebrity and politicians marriages 😂❤

ur one f d most honest young man God bless

I found this insightful.

They deserve one another

Born to narcs...pure HELL!

Literally same though My mom got remarried to a grandiose narcissist while being a vulnerable covert narcissist herself. I use to think she was a great mom, which kept me from letting my dad take her to court for custody. I was also worried about her, because her husband would get very verbally and sometimes physically aggressive with her the most I got so messed up from that it took me so long to finally figure out what was really happening and how I never was to blame, my feelings were always valid and that in reality she neglected me. I cared far more about her safety and stability than I think she ever will for me

100% My ex narcopath left me for a woman who knew about me and had been the side supply for two out of the 4 years that I thought I was in a monogamous, committed relationship. I was ghosted after being humiliated in public without provocation. It was brutal. When I least expected it, he contacted me at work. He needed health insurance! But then I knew he had moved in with the supply, who was young enough to be our child, actually. I told him that, since he was already living with her, he should marry her and get her insurance, since I could not provide him with health insurance. He got mad and blurted out “I’m not getting married, she’s just like me” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 it was so hard not to say “Oh, you ended up with a narcissistic, cheating, alcoholic?” He added “we fight all the time”. I confess that it did feel good to hear he had met his match.

Yup, both my parents are covert narcissists and take turns abusing the other. Most of all they abuse me

i had a messed up childhood, but at least i did not have to deal with this flavor of crazy.

I lived in Hell for 51 years

Every word of this video describes my life! I also thought my mother was a saint (compared to my overt father) until I realised how things are. Coverts are so good at what they do, I have had to watch a million videos to understand what happened to me! Thanks for this video! ❤

They are like pirates among themselves: In their ships they battle for the power and theirs treasures, zero loyalty... but if they come ashore to loot a 'city' (others supplies or common objectives) they collaborate as if nothing had happened. Same cycle of abuse, different weapons. Superiority belongs to whoever has more than what the other wants/or needs. In my case, my father who is a planning and cold psychopath, like Putin, has devastated my mother who is an emotional narcissist like Angelina Jolie. Her toy is k***** her but she, because her arrogance and little practical intelligence, does not let him go of. They share properties, he just waits with a shocking patience...😔 The psychopath are not affected by the narcissistic games, she has only been able to regulate his behavior by putting things in front of him of his interest or threatening to touch his social facade of success and normality.

A book can be written on this!

Narc on narc actions = The worlds collide!

My ex had a overt perverse father and a Covert mother.

Good video

The pair that I witnessed fell apart once the children left home. Her children, his stepchildren, they made the kids lives hell and the extended family (including me) enabled them, thinking we were being supportive and protecting the children. It didn't work, just allowed them to play their sick games for longer. Never enable a narcissist! (I only wish that I'd had a name for their personality type and behavior back then, narcissism wasn't talked about).

Danish please tell more about your family, have you tried to tell them who they are, how did you understand who they are etc ❤

My narcissist likes to do this. One divorce, two houses sold, still am sure he will find another narcissist to cement with.

Take pop corn 🍿 and enjoy the show.😂 They deserve eo. I feel bad for kids tho. You did very well Danish 👏. My dad is product of narc parent's and he is a covert narc himself.

My brother inlaw is grandiose, his wife is covert. Theyre terrible. When their mad at each other its scary. Theyre now 700k in debt keeping up their image for their egos. Theyve always been involved with criminal activity. Its exhausting...im no contact.. they gave me the silent treatment together for 6 months while seeing me 5 days a week... because I disagreed with them. Of course my inlaws are enablers, they have literally told me"they just cant say no"🙄

Dad is Schizoid Narc and mom is covert watch them physically fight when I was young my dad is compulsive gambler and con artist. It wasn't fun growing up in this household. I told my mom few years ago I would prefer to live with a foster family than my own family.

Two narcissists marry- one overt one covert. They have 3 sons- 1 schizophrenic, 1 grandiose narcissist and 1 co-dependent who married a bi-polar woman. True story. I’m the one who married the grandiose narcissist and I just figured it all out. Very sad family.

Yes. My parents were that. My Dad was Overt. My mom was covert. Then they were divorced. They both married another narcissist. It's true. A lot of jealousy. Trying to put the children in the middle of it. My sister would wait to be picked up from soccer practice for two or three hours.

Both parents were narcissists. Mother was covert. Father was malignant narcissist and married to a covert narc. These people are everywhere unfortunately!

I grew up in a nightmare. Both of my parents are narcs

Last night i seen a guy fight with leave his gf a at lake she its like wow lol think he wanted the other chick at the lake

My mom sister is a covert narcissist and her man is a grandiose narcissist. Recently they controlled me and even used me as supply i left very easy. But I have to deal with my own personality disorder

I belive both my parents are narcissists.

Can you talk about a relationship between narcissists with bipolar spouse? How narcissist abuses and invokes mood swings rage agression in bipolar spouse.

How to deal with Narcissist father who want money and torture mentally if I refuse to give him ?

@annekerotterdam7499

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no contact!

Both were narcissistic more or less…toxic disaster. Add alcohol as accelerant. Voila routine explosions 💥. The things we witnessed and heard were insane. Including DV. Mom hid under our beds while dad raged through the house to find her. Nights were not for sleeping. Emotional neglect and parentification routine. And those were good days. Children of narcissists cannot escape CPTSD and other personality issues as adults. 😢 Their last years of life and deaths were bizarre/wildly irresponsible … not remotely “normal” adult planning or behavior. Painful to the bitter end.

Are relationships always ending in power struggles a sign of the dual narcissistic pattern, going forth?

Can You Please Do A Video On on 2 Narcs Living Together While I Live Next Door To Them

My dad passed away am not sure if he was a narcissist, my mom is a covert narcissist...

It’s all well and good until they have a kid, and by some strange twist of fate the kid doesn’t turn out to be a narcissist or psychopath… me. Suffering until legal adulthood

Danish 🥰 , my narcissististic mom and narcissist stepdad , oh dear G-d they are exactly like my narcissist stepdad's father , dear G-d they are Monsters with no end to the verbal abuse that is always their "joke"

It is hilarious only because my narcissist mom wears the pants in her marriage and my narcissististic stepdad is only now in last two decades waking up 😂😅🤣

Match made in hell 😁

I'm not sure... Confused.

Would these two parents make a narcissist though?

My ex just married his match. Bring out the popcorn .

Only one I doubt my mom is one.

Yes, this is likely. It will not work. Fortunately, I am no narcissist. So, this was it... As I suspected. My parents are both narcissists. Pom pom poooom. I still want to try the narcissist girl.

Looooooooooollll

Lol oh my God

Narcissists are really monsters or that just a disorder pls make a vedio on this😢does karma act on them?

@nouska91

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Their brains have physical abnormalities in areas such as those that regulate empathy or consciousness, which is why they can commit monstrosities. I suppose that a bad person is the one who consciously commits acts of evil, and that is his case. They know how to control their tyrannism, that is why they are integrated, they distinguish good from evil, that is why they are imputable and responsible for their actions. They smile when they get negative supply like destroying someone, including their children, if that's not monstrous... The psychopath does not suffer, the narcissist and the sociopath do.

@purbipriyanayak8422

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@@nouska91 thank you ❤️

They can have eacthother

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I like your channel, but have not had a chance to watch for awhile. I came across a few of your episodes with cover photos that showed you appearing shocked and overreacting, and those pictures diminish you and your message which is important regarding narcissism. Please stop with the “acting” faces and just look natural and serious as not to turn people off from your important messages. Thank you.