Everything, literally everything ends up in a dump eventually. Store up your treasure in Heaven.

It's not sad, it's just how it is. Enjoy your stuff during your life and know you can't take it with you when you die.

@debbiedrey3482

Ай бұрын

Well said!! A good reminder.

@berenicehickey9755

Ай бұрын

Of course! Material things are only of value to the owner. It's just inanimate crap in the scheme of the universe! What matters is people and pets. The rest is just relics of the past.

@LFetterman7903

Ай бұрын

Yes!

@Skyfoxx23

16 күн бұрын

Exactly

@kellir.747

7 күн бұрын

Agree. Also, do not make your life about accumulating stuff.

I heard a preacher say in a sermon, “I never saw a U-Haul hitched to the back of a hearse on the way to the grave site”.

@aislingbooks

15 күн бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

I will soon be 69 and I began when I was about 55 giving things to people that I knew they wanted and all my nice jewelry went to my granddaughters. I wanted them to enjoy and have these things while I am alive. I have been estranged from my son for over 10 years, however I still have family. I learned a long time ago that I don't own anything. Nothing. Things I have and enjoy are just mine while I am here. I don't care if I am not remembered 40 years from now. What I care about is how have I treated people and the planet today. I will be burned naked, put in a jar and taken to Ireland (my favorite place on earth) and sprinkled in all the spots that I have felt magic. This has been paid for by me and I know that the people taking to Ireland will know right where to leave me....where they fell magic. I know that the thread of love never dies, ever. Most of my family has gone on and I still know they surround me. In a song, in a bird, in a thunderstorm, in the early morning when I hear a phrase in my head. So I will not spend one minute worrying about things. I will take my next breath and my next step until I don't. I wish everyone on this channel true peace.

@dianejones493

Ай бұрын

Leah, It's beautiful comments like yours that make me glad to revisit and read the new ones. Your words are a true gem. 🍀🌟

@niamh6272

Ай бұрын

Very wise words Leah, you reminded me of the importance of non attachment to things and focus more on how I treat people 🥰 I'm Irish living in Ireland, I'm curious where you felt magic here? No bother if you don't want to share. My sister lives in the US but I wouldn't want to live anywhere other than Ireland

@leahmaples6921

Ай бұрын

@@niamh6272 Walks in Killarney National Forest in the early mornings, at a fairy tree by the side of the road near the Fjord. In the walled garden at Kylemore Abbey. At a small bridge in a little town in the Connemara region. I also found magic in the wonderful people that were willing to interact with me. I will be in Ireland again at the first of September with my niece and one of my granddaughters. I am counting down the days. I hope you have a wonderful summer in the best place on this planet.

@queva3062

Ай бұрын

Me too but my ashes will be thrown to my favourite Mediterranean sea❤

@pmeehan_3

Ай бұрын

If what you care about is how you have treated people then why are you and your son estranged?

Last year I went to an " estate sale" ( more like a tag sale) in my neighborhood. The house and yards and garage were open to anyone who wanted to rummage through stuff. A few people sat in lounge chairs under beach umbrellas to the side with a cash box, smoking cigarettes. I assumed they were relatives of the home owner who had recently died, but later learned that they were neighbors; the deceased had no near relations.. Nothing of value left (if there ever had been) but dusty, broken boxes of family photos, letters, old birthday cards signed " love you", books on airplanes and the history of aeronautics, a tea pot collection, some very old children's books, a record collection focusing on classical guitar music and an assortment of magazines. There on the wall, above this riffled -through mess, hung a framed black and white photo of a dark haired young man in uniform, probably from the early 1950s, with a serious earnest expression on his face. Hours later I could not shake the image of this man's life being picked through by scavengers hoping to make a few dollars on ebay. I wondered into what dumpster was that photo of the proud young pilot entombed. It gives one pause. No thing, no one escapes the forgetfulness of Time.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Very haunting image 8ofwands! Things like that affect me too! I have always been a history geek!

@johnsmith1953x

Ай бұрын

Yes. In a BILLION or TRILLION years, all this will be forgotten.... "I've seen things, you people wouldn't believe, mm Attack ships on fire off the shoulder of Orion I've watched C-beams glitter in the dark, near the Tannhauser gate All those moments will be lost in time,... like tears in rain"

@MaryJoBlocker

Ай бұрын

Jesus is the only one worthy for us to be attached to , only him.

*"You spend a lifetime collecting stuff, and then you try to get rid of it near the end"*

I cared for 50 children, over 35 years. Some were foster children, others permanent foster children or adopted,, one was a ward, and two were my biological children. I accumulated a lot of stuff, caring for these children, and for some, what they left behind is all I have to remember them by. I have things they made for me, some of their clothes, photographs, and gifts they gave me. All of these are precious things, but they take up a lot of space and no one is going to want the items after I'm gone. So I've been photographing items, before donating them, and that allows me to hold on to my memories without leaving a bunch of stuff for my family to have to dispose of.

@johnsmith1953x

Ай бұрын

Yes. Photographing items then give/sell/throw out. Google videos keeps photos supposedly, "forever" for free.

@joycewright5386

Ай бұрын

Those 50 children probably have wonderful memories of the time they spent with you. What a wonderful legacy you gave the world.

@CherylBerryl

27 күн бұрын

God bless you for all that you've done for So MANY children. I do feel sad for you that they never kept in touch after all you were to them in their lives.

@drbettyschueler3235

26 күн бұрын

@@CherylBerryl The little ones went back to their families or were adopted by others. I adopted two and the ones that aged out are still members of the family. We keep in regular touch.

this does hit home, I have no family so all my stuff will end up in dumpster. no one will give a crap when I die, I won't be remembered even a few months after I kick it. stuff from my air force days which means nothing to anyone - gone. like I didn't exist.

@bettyir4302

Ай бұрын

Give your military stuff to a museum. Little local museums would love it before it is all forgotten. Write on it names, dates and location or it will indeed mean nothing. We visited a museum in a little podunk town where my family was from and they had several photographs of the family at important local events and my grandmother's dress - who knew? Give sentimenal and historical family stuff to a family genealogist. Do a search and send out feelers for that family historian who may be your 3rd cousin once removed who would give their eye tooth for that stuff before, again, it is all lost forever. Pictures and articles from your school days can be sent to your old schools. If they throw it out, then that's no skin off your nose but you tried to preserve it.

@cherievivian9830

Ай бұрын

Never doubt, you DO exist AND after you die, you DID exist. You may think no one will care, but rest assured, there is at least one person in the whole scheme of your life who you made a difference for or impacted their life. You just may never know. It's like the tree falling in the quiet, hushed forest. No one can hear it, supposedly, but the tiny insect knows it fell. In the meantime, I suggest you find some simple little joy in life and share that joy with someone else today. They will remember you. 🌺

@linak7155

Ай бұрын

I have an acquaintance who sells family members estates on Ebay. That is how she makes a living. She has found some rare items n has held on to a few of significance to her. I think delving too deeply into this topic could get morbid and leave us with a sense of emptiness. Plan? yes! but dont dwell on it for too long! To me, all we have is today. Tomorrow is in God's hands. We plan, but He decides the outcome. I have witnessed many a person without any family who find someone to check up on them and hold their hand as they leave this world😢❤

@lizafield9002

Ай бұрын

"Like i didn't exist." You are not your stuff, or even the ever changing molecules you wear. You're a spirit, & the longer we live, the less attached we can be to earth's heaviness & the sticky webs of human dynamics/opinion. It's possible to be a moth/butterfly, v larvae, BEFORE we die. As for old larvae life, it's "like it didn't exist." Yay, throw that old sticky dead cocoon out, fly free!

@Selah1141

Ай бұрын

Much love and many hugs. ❤

I have been downsizing for awhile. If someone comes over and comments on an item, I give it to them. I also donate to local charities. It makes me happy to share. I don't care to deal with selling items. I don't want my child to have to deal with a house full of stuff like I had to do for my parents. I have funeral arranged and paid for. Just got to finish things up. It's ok.

My Mom would give me stuff and expect me to keep it and talk about it for the rest of my life and would even ask if I still had it because that stuff was important to her...now I am almost 70 and have decided I want ease of access, function and happiness with my books, music, plants and my computer, I have two grown unmarried daughters and no grandkids etc no nieces or nephews and I have told my girls "IF there is ANYTHING I HAVE that you want, tell me NOW whatever it is and get it now, so when I purge stuff I dont have to worry about anything and no one has to sort it all out when I am gone, I myself dont have knick knacks, bric a brack etc lol, or expensive jewelry or antiques but have come to terms with it all going, I have always let things go and told them "Goodbye old friend, go live a good life somewhere else" and never even heard of "Marie Kondo" haha....I have found a thrift shop that is run by our local Hospice and have taken car loads!!! to them, given to neighbors, even stuck things in front yard with a "Free help yourself" and I even surprised myself with how actually good I felt passing things on!

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing this Chris! My mom would ask me the same thing!

@andrewarsenault1906

Ай бұрын

You have the exact right attitude and idea! It's nice to hear someone being practical and realistic. It doesn't have to be heart wrenching!

@sandyosullivan

15 күн бұрын

Same here. It’s hard letting go of stuff that meant something to them. Mum died in 2021 and my brother looked after all of mums stuff and kept it. Mid - 2022 my brother died, and I had his and her stuff to go through. It’s hard in grief to manage that, Now I think about that with my own stuff… who would do it with me? It’s changed what I’m keeping.

😅when Mum turned 70 she sorted her”stuff” and portioned out the “ heirlooms” between four kids. Im 73 now with one daughter, I’m getting rid of my stuff now and giving her the few things she would like so she can use them NOW. Minimalism here I come.

My stuff is my stuff. No one is responsible for the things that give me joy. It’s my memories and I am ok with it. In only two generations or less no one will remember me. That’s life and death. We don’t acknowledge our short time here. Storage unit? Never.

@Peter-Du

Ай бұрын

Such is life."Tis the closeness of death that exalts life"- Henry D. Thoreau.

@kaylancor

Ай бұрын

Lol, had to laugh at your storage unit remark. I'm the same way. No way am i keeping so much stuff I need a storage unit!

I’ve lost everything I owned twice - once in a flood and once in a hurricane. Now my “stuff” isn’t important to me. It’s nice and I like it, but I’m not emotionally attached to it anymore.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Yes, I understand that happens to people who go through disasters such as you have. It changes what's important to us.

@zenduffett

Ай бұрын

Survived a house fire and two floods.I’m attached to photos a couple of bits of jewelry,and that’s about it.

@ukulelebutterfly

Ай бұрын

Hallelujah!!! Me too!!! As painful as I 'thought ' it was losing my stuff, it gave me Freedom! I still like it. But. I could care less. ~ 🦋

@dianaray1470

Ай бұрын

Great life lesson learned

It’s funny but my perception of unused objects is that they are dead. It’s like keeping small cadavers of things past in your home. We are made of many layers: us, relatives, friends, memories, house, garden, neighborhood, city, useful things, useless things, forgotten things gathering dust in the dark…

@peztopher7297

Ай бұрын

That's quite perceptive and profound, actually.

Don't put stuff in a storage unit it just ends up staying there for 2 or 3 years and you end up cleaning it out and throwing it out and you throw all the money away

I worked for 30 years as a mover. I'll be 73 in a few months. Believe me, 99.9% of "stuff"I have absolutely no interest in. When I got too old for moving, I went back to school and started working in rehab. A young woman with some issues got evicted and asked if she could keep her stuff at my place temporarily. She took no action on it for a couple of years, and one day she died of an overdose. Now I have that stuff. Not just furniture, but a lot of various mementos. If I last five more years, her son will turn 18 and I'll see whether he wants this stuff. As for my own stuff, there's not that much and I really don't care. Almost all of the photography is on my phone. Whenever this subject comes up, I think about what one homeless person told me. She said, "I'm not homeless, I just don't have anywhere to put my stuff." That just about says it as far as I'm concerned....

@francoisthibeaux-brignoles8399

Ай бұрын

That's a good way to look at it. I agree!

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing this panatypical! It's nice of you to keep her stuff for her son in a few years.

@azmike1

Ай бұрын

I owned a moving service from 1992 to 2020. The last 5 years was a nightmare. I have bad dreams today.

@panatypical

Ай бұрын

@@azmike1 2015 around here in SoCal was the beginning year of a downward trend, at least as far as interstate moving is concerned. The last day I worked as a mover was September 30th, 2017. I can see to where the local stuff would be nightmarish also. That's where I started out. I still have a couple of good dollies, but it's getting to where even for the few things I own, I'm going to have to hire a younger friend.

My Grandmother was an artist and had a lot of interesting things. She was extremely generous and shared with me all through my life. I am told that the current generation doesn't want their elders' stuff. Pity, because alot of it is built like a tank and lasts!

@chrislastnam6822

Ай бұрын

I recently read a WSJ article that said that even furniture from upscale companies like West Elm and Ethan Allen is built poorly compared to your grandmother's furniture.

@user-zy3zd3sx2d

Ай бұрын

Make arrangements with thrift stores, social services like Salvation Army or Volunteers of America, local churches or other places that help the needy to come get your stuff, discarding what can't go to help others.

@tonyhoffman3309

Ай бұрын

Many young people DO want our grandparents stuff. We just can not afford places that are large enough to fit older style furniture.

Emotionally, for me, it’s was hard to grasp. I had several good cries discarding 70 years of black n’ white photos that belonged to my deceased mother. Then came my childhood and images throughout my life. The digital age generation does not want to hold on to actual photographs. They get the concepts of not collecting “stuff”. Sooooo little by little…..it’s gone. Like me someday. Time marches on.

When you’re dead you won’t care what happens to it all. Take care of the few important things, the rest don’t matter.

My mother is 90, she has a 3BR house and a condo packed full of stuff. She's steadfastly refused to get rid of anything. It's going to take a couple years to even throw all this stuff out. I live 2500 miles away and have no other family. I'm aware this denial is very selfish.

@sct4040

Ай бұрын

When the time comes, take all the personal items, and sell the house and condo as is.

@wildflowers5555

Ай бұрын

...'The Salvation Army' and many Church Groups will come out and get items! Give them a call when it comes time!

@michellebilodeau3882

Ай бұрын

Been there.😊

@steveshea6148

Ай бұрын

It will take 3 guys and a 30 cubic yard dumpster about 1 day

@andrewarsenault1906

Ай бұрын

There are some very caring and qualified folks that specialize in these types of transitions. Contact a high end retirement community near her for a recommendation of a company that can help. They can address reselling (Maxsold) donations, practical solutions for disposal...with an eye towards easing into assisted living or "paring down" to continue to live on her own. Good Luck.

This brought back a very sad time for me. Many years ago I lost a sister in law to a brain anurisum and she left behind three young children. I went to another state for a month to care for them and it was a very emotional time. After being there a couple of weeks my brother had a yard sale getting rid of all his wife stuff. There was a sign made that proceeds would go for the 3 children's future. You would not believe how people would try to haggle over prices. It made me so sick I had to remove myself from the situation. The things that mattered so much to my sister held no value to anyone else. I was angry that my brother did not hold on to things for his kids. I must stop because this has made me very sad. I am growing old and have no one close so I hope to be rid of my things before I go. Blessings prayed for all who is met with this heartache. ♡

@eldergal

28 күн бұрын

It is truly horrifying that people behave in that way. Appreciate you sharing this sanmassara! Sorry for the loss of your sister. Take care!

Best to get rid of unnecessary stuff as time goes on instead of getting overwhelmed and become a hoarder

@Tulip90XE

Ай бұрын

There is a difference between being a hoarder and having some stuff. You shouldn’t have to live in an institutional environment because no one wants your stuff

@stevejaubert2892

Ай бұрын

@@Tulip90XE I think a lot of us gather for the "rainy day syndrome" due to not having enough at some point in life.

@liddlekiddle1962

Ай бұрын

@randomletter-5i4 True! Those episodes always inspire me to not be like that and get rid of more stuff.

@RichRich1955

Ай бұрын

I was exaggerating somewhat. My mother got angry when my brothers spent time cleaning and painting. Not sure why she held onto worthless stuff. Fortunately it wasn't alot. My brother seemed to be a hoarder. As a child, He was cared for ​by a vile nasty woman and it affectedhim for his life. @Tulip90XE

My mom is still living and after she moved into a senior living community, I had the daunting and highly uncomfortable task of going through ALL of her stuff (a whole houseful).. After a couple of estate sales, I had a free to a good home grab and go. Some churches and volunteer organizations took what they wanted, but I was still stuck with my dad's ginormous stamp collection. Thank goodness I found a collector who took it off my hands. I got really depressed and overwhelmed throughout this process. Nobody will want your sentimental stuff. Good attitude about knowing people will toss after you move on. Enjoy it now. I have stuff like that, too, we hich I plan on getting rid of. They serve no purpose in my life and are only getting in the way of clutter free happiness. Sacrificial burning is good for this purpose. I have a fire pit and outdoor fireplace, and burning helps me with the process of letting go. I refuse to put my son through what I went through with my parent's stuff.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing your experience with this Jennifer! Burning things is a good way of letting go, as you say.

@debbieschmidling8158

23 күн бұрын

I went through this with my mom‘s house and possessions about four summers ago, and she passed away in December, 2022. I’m an only child, and our daughter is an only daughter, so she and I went through things and kept what we wanted to keep and are still going through things. It is hard to get rid of sentimental things, at least it is for us. Slowly, but surely, though we are downsizing her things and keeping only the things that we really want.❤❤❤

You are absolutely right. The more stuff we have, the more work we have to do to take care of them, our kids don’t want old stuff, the clutter can cause more stress.

My husband and I are reaching retirement age, our last child is twenty years old and is moving out. So we're selling our house, having a garage sale, and selling off all of our stuff and going to make a new start. We've only our two kids and they're not interested in any of it, with no one else as family, it is just better to lighten up and get what monies we can get and enjoy life now

I’m in my 50s and am currently getting rid of stuff. I don’t want my son or sister to have to deal with it. What I keep I am organizing so it’ll be easier for them. It’s the responsible thing to do. I’m keeping stuff I love and or use.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Sounds like good planning sewmeone!

You may be surprised how little of your stuff your kids want. I asked my sons. One wanted nothing. The other wanted one painting and I was happy to give it to him. It's very freeing. I can dispose of everything without guilt.

This is the case with most people. Even if you have a loving family and group of close friends, chances are, they won't want to be saddled with your things.

@queva3062

Ай бұрын

Only those that they're interested in, don't talk abt selling -- they want them for free

I upload every old family photo I can on sites like Ancestry, Family Search and Find a Grave. Hopefully relatives will see them and make copies.

@bettyir4302

Ай бұрын

Send copies of photos to the towns they came from such as to the local library and historical societies. Perhaps small furniture items or clothing or tools if a museum is interested.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

That's an idea Denise! Thanks!

@suen5006

Ай бұрын

Yes thank you for saying this! I love finding pictures of relatives I never met online!

@enjoystraveling

Ай бұрын

Thank you, ! I’m on some DNA sites and I’ve already seen some photos that I’ve downloaded that are some of my distant relatives like a great uncle and I never knew what some of these relatives look like.

My daughter is my sole heir. Whilst she has encouraged me to downsize for myself she told me to keep the things that that bring me joy. She admitted that she'd probably sell or give away the items that she doesn't want or need, but there are many things she also loves and will keep too. She lives with me and is a good child so I know my belongings won't just be thrown into landfill without a care :)

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

That's great that you know your daughter will be caring about your things. Thanks for watching!

@lisapinto3679

Ай бұрын

While

@debbieschmidling8158

23 күн бұрын

My daughter feels the same way about our things! For that I am very thankful! ❤❤❤

I really hope your son is never put in a position where any child of his rejected him. He'll know how hurtful that would feel like.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Me too, Jojo! Thanks!

@dianevalentine7612

Ай бұрын

By example he is teaching his children how to treat their parents when they grow up. He will reap what he has sown.

@BettyWhite-rr2wk

Ай бұрын

You are so correct. ​@dianevalentine7612

@1ireneaustin

Ай бұрын

I understand. Family is gone.when you have a depressive illness that you deal with through your life just getting up and going to work and paying the bills takes sverything you have. I look forward to retirement where i hope to have the time to spend with Jesus in prayer and serving Him in whatever way he directs.

This really hits home. When my mom passed, we had to deal with all of her stuff and she had a lot. It was very overwhelming.

@sharon70418

Ай бұрын

Same here.

A few years ago I read the book on Swedish Death Cleaning. It made me think about my 'stuff' and I began the process of going through my belongings. I too have daughters that have no interest in any of my things and even their own childhood things I had set aside for them. I ended up throwing out most of the mementos they didn't want and then got stuck at what to do with my wedding dress and their beautiful christenings gown sets. I donated the wedding dress to a non-profit that collects them and sells them as fund-raisers. Then discovered a local hospital that took the christening gowns to give to mothers whose babies had died at birth. They were buried in them. This lessened the pain (on my part) of letting go of these beautiful things that had always meant so much to me which I thought would also be meaningful to my daughters. They brought a measure of comfort to the grieving mothers. If your beautiful skirt were mine, I would donate it (when I was ready) to a historical society that could use it in their museum where I know it would be appreciated and well taken care of. Thank you for sharing the term 'essentialist' to replace 'minimalist'. It describes me and the life I'm in the process of creating so much more accurately. I also have a bunch of photographs with no family to give to. The ones that are hardest are the ones that I've saved of the special times in my life. They will be meaningless to anyone when I'm gone so I'm leaving them to a niece with instructions to burn them when I'm gone. It's not a big box and I know she would do this for me with love. i love you channel and am very happy I found it.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing what you have done here emcee!

@suen5006

Ай бұрын

Oh don't burn them! Some day someone in your family might love to have them. I spend hours searching for old photos online of family members I never met. You can digitally scan them and post them online with explanations of who is in the photo and what is happening. Imagine in 100 years your great grandchild or great nephew wanting to find out more about you and finding your pictures.

@LucitaBrown

Ай бұрын

@@suen5006 Agree!

@nicolecarter1072

Ай бұрын

Scan the photos and post them with names and dates on a Geneology site. These things are priceless to people interested in their extended family tree

Nobody wants our crap. I couldn’t care less what happens to any of it. Why do we care? For what reason?

@starstuff5958

Ай бұрын

so true.. I have stuff that I want to give to certain people, best do it now and let them enjoy while I'm still here. Or perhaps take photos and put put their name on the back of photo of what you want to pass on and let it fall where it may. When we're gone no one cares..........

It's so heartbreaking, to understand that none of that will matter soon. The precious things that we so dearly cherished and carefully preserved during our lives because they created sweet memories of younger us and our children, will end up in a dusty dumpster. It's as if our own lives, our own existence, our joys and sorrows will end up in a garbage pile. Forsaken and forgotten.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

I know what you mean vparakhin! I would like to think that when we pass on, it won't really matter to us in our new "home" - and our souls won't forget!

@vparakhin

Ай бұрын

@eldergal I know what you mean about afterlife. It's just that while we're here and now, it's so hard to come to terms that the mementos we valued so much will be meaningless and worthless to others, even to our children. When I was a child, a long time ago, we had so many photographs in the attic. And then, when the elders gradually died out, and the youngsters grew up and moved away, all those photographs were discarded. And now most of my relatives, close and distant, are forgotten in time, as if they never even existed on this earth. I don't even remember their faces and their names. And thus the time will come when no one will remember us, either.

@TheQueensWish

Ай бұрын

@@vparakhinLater in life I became interested in genealogy. I cherish any and all old photos, letters and items I’ve recovered. Why? Because I’m using them. I’ve made them all digital. Beautiful photos of ancestors put on my family tree online at Ancestry. Not only that, their signature, their wedding invitation for example. They have a digital life now. I will hand the “keys” to this to my niece and nephew. They will look at it in wonder. It’s a roadmap for them and it takes zero physical footprint. All digital. Log in, log out. That’s it. Also they can add new family member, their spouses and children, etc. And when they are old, keep handing the “keys” to the next digital custodian. All these family people really did exist! I know I keep them online and I visit their graves and leave flowers for them.

@suen5006

Ай бұрын

@@vparakhin Do the mementos matter or is it the memory attached to them? For me it's the memory. I really relate to Elder Gal going through her stuff with us, I have the same type of things. The physical stuff is like the "dust in the wind" but the memory of love and doing things we enjoyed and that were meaningful is what mattered.

@kimr3755

Ай бұрын

I've seen family Bibles in the garbage and it's just heartbreaking. And I am not religious.

A neighbor who went to the hospital for something, didn't know till later that everything was thrown away..even his 300 + movies that meant a lot to him. He willed himself to unlive & he did in a matter of a week! He wouldn't eat or drink bc of those ppl who took everything away.

@benton-benton

Ай бұрын

Wow the disrespect for him! That was awful what they did.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

That is so sad Dakota!

I come through with a scythe every few mths and work hard to not accumulate anymore. Each time I slash a swathe through the weeds, the pile gets closer to the ground. I hold on loosely, and my favorite things are not things I inherited from my mom, dad and brother. They express me and my personal taste. I am proud of all of us who are doing this.

I no longer hold attachments to physical things .. everything I own fits in a small backpack 🎒. And yes, when I die, management here will throw out everything unceremoniously in my apartment...That's just the way it is. What is unbearable is that after I die, in a few weeks time, a month perhaps... nobody in my building will think about me anymore, or speak my name or remember me. In a year's time I will be completely forgotten about almost like I never existed. All my hopes, dreams travails, accomplishments in life...gone, like the wind. There will be no obituary, no memorial service...nothing to remember me by...

@deekorbel5259

Ай бұрын

Same here. I love the old National Parks old slogan "Take only pictures, leave only foot prints".

@piedpiper7051

Ай бұрын

I won't know when you've passed on but I'll remember you because of your post...it touched me. The great beyond won't forget any of your life's moments. Energy never dies, it slips into a new season. ❤

@Selah1141

Ай бұрын

Much love and many hugs. ❤

@lewing658

Ай бұрын

and we will be dead for a very long time.

@minfamilie4319

Ай бұрын

Or maybe not. Maybe you will be remembered. Back when I was a teen and lived in my country I had a sweet neighbor elderly lady who had a pekinese dog, she died during a surgery because of an infection. I still remember her kindness, her name was Marta. I also remember her mother who was also very kind. I remember many of my neighbors specially the ones who were nice. When I say nice is the people who offered me a smile or a small talk.

I have moved recently from the UK to Portugal. It was too expensive to ship my stuff. I tried to sell things via Facebook market but nobody wanted to pay a reasonable amount. People wanted things for free. Now I am in Portugal and here everything is so expensive, even second hand 🥴

@queva3062

Ай бұрын

You're right!! They want for free!! Even friends😮wishing you happiness in Portugal. Hugs from spain

If you own your own family farm, you never have to get rid of anything. If you need anything to do something, and need some weird thing, ask me, and we've probably got it somewhere around here. You build an empire, not live like a refuge vagabond. Take care of your stuff and be a good steward of it, and pass it on in a big lot to the next generation. Not a single thing needs to move an inch, if you organized it and took care of it all right, and everything is where it should be.

@lorihamlin3604

Ай бұрын

My brothers and I just inherited the family farm that is being farmed by the fifth generation (and may be the last). It started in the mid 1850s and there are things all over the farm from an ox yoke my great great grandfather made that hung on back of barn my entire life; it’s now hanging on my screen porch, to my father’s first tractor from the 30s. They saved and “recycled” everything over the course of 150 years. There are buckets of rusty straightened out nails, pieces of equipment parts that has kept for future repairs on now defunct farm tools. Farm’s kind of turned into the extended family playground and I foresee it being that way for another generation or two..then who knows? As long as taxes paid and minimal upkeep it’ll still be there for someone whether family or not. It’s been drilled into all of us “never mortgage the farm” even if it means no new school shoes! Very frugal family.

@choppergirl

Ай бұрын

@@lorihamlin3604 Yep, we got an Ox Yoke hanging on the wall of the back porch... you're not an old farm unless you got the metal rims of wagon wheels lying about, and everything is held together with square head nails. You need to mow that farm and keep up the roofs... the jungle will encroach and neglect accumulates. It's not enough just to "pay the taxes on it". That seems to be what my sister thinks she'll do someday, and is her excuse for not doing a dmmn bit of yardwork around here. So far she's not done any work ever on the farm, nor paid any taxes... all her money goes into buying yet another new car. Don't be like my sister. Get out there with a hedge trimmer, push lawn mower, riding lawn mower, and fight that jungle back, and fix those barn roofs that the wind has blown the tin off of :-)

@lorihamlin3604

Ай бұрын

@@choppergirl nephews and brothers have got some state of the art equipment/toys and I pay them to keep up the roads and fences in the woods (which was my part). It’s still quite a mess from a hurricane in 2018 with fallen trees but slowly getting cleaned up. I’m working on the old hunting cabin in the woods and equipping with solar. A niece is living in the main home and keeping it up and nephew in other house on property. My home is through the woods. One nephew still farms and he does a great job keeping things up. The generation coming up are all girls so time will tell. My niece is getting an agricultural degree so maybe she’ll be the savior! Sorry your sister thinks a car has value over farm property. Seems like it always falls on one person to keep up for everyone else to visit. I’m fortunate to have family around (although shrinking) who have strong ties to the farm.

Houses are oversized for the most part. The reason is that builders will make more and the government receives more property taxes. Then, the oversized house needs to be filled with stuff. Most stuff isn't really needed. Eventually, all that stuff is just collecting dust.

I send old letters, photos, old journals etc to the Oklahoma Historical Society Archives. They are very happy to get them and will take good care of them. My daughter told me when I die that although it will hurt her to do so, she will just throw them all away. So when I send them to the archives, I feel I am relieving her of the hassle and the sadness of throwing them away. I’m not sure I could stand to throw them away but I find it almost easy to send stuff to the archives. I have told friends that I’ve written to over the years about the archives and those who have saved my letters are sending them to the same archives. We like thinking of our letters keeping each other company in the archives after our deaths. You can send your things with the stipulation that they not be open to the public until after your death or until a certain year. They may not be of much interest now but 300 or 400 years from now they may be considered very interesting.

I am going thru photos and digitizing the ones I want to keep. I'm making a binder/scrapbook of a few photos and of my nursing degrees and an essay of who I am, my family history, and my likes and desires, in case I ever go into a nursing home, I want the staff to see me as the human I was and hopefully treat me like one.

No one will want my "stuff". I don't have children. I have given my niece and nephews family items that have been handed down to me that have any meaning, jewelry, etc..., and now I'm taking anything of value to the auction. I feel if I get a buck it's better than the garbage dump.

This hits home as I was POA for a friend he died widowed with no kids and a niece and nephew who didn’t want anything. A lot of stuff was donated but a boatload of personal stuff was left with the house no doubt the flipper that bought the house just had it all thrown in a dumpster! Sad but that’s life!

@eldergal

11 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing mapman!

Management takes over the good stuff that family doesn't want, and sells it .

"For the living know that they will die but the dead know nothing at all. Nor do they have any more reward because all memory of them is forgotten." 3cclesiastes 9:5.

I was an only child with only two parents and two kind, dear single aunts. My husband & I took care of them all in different ways. When they all passed away, I inherited all the "stuff".....Nothing of great value; but, practical items. I've spent 30 years sorting all these items and respectfully passing 95 percent of them to people who needed them. I thought it disrespectful to trash these items. Not so today. I don't think many people would take the time or want to. Into the trash they go! That's why I'm trying to disperse my items now. I enjoy your channel and can relate to much of it. Thank you for your insights.

@eldergal

7 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing this Eleanor! I know what you mean, about people just not wanting the stuff anymore. It's good that you're working on disposing of it gradually. Appreciate you watching!

I got nothing when my dad died. His wife took everything. My brother got nothing too.

Take your stuff to a charity thrift store... That way, somebody who would like to have your things, can afford it and the charity will make some money. That's what I am doing right now. I am 77, very healthy, and moving to Ecuador in about 6 months. Will be shipping a container of my treasures for me to enjoy. If my family wants to come down and divide my remaining stuff after I'm gone, they can come, but arrangements will be made for the distribution. Since they don't bother with me much now, I doubt anyone will come.

@rickponce1277

Ай бұрын

when you get to ecuador say hola to the grumpy old gringo, don shader!

I’m 75 and going through things and getting rid of things now. I’m close to my daughter and I don’t want to leave a mess for her one day. I donated a set of china that had been in the family for years and my daughter didn’t want it. A lot of the younger adults don’t want these things. The older I get the less I care about “things”. I had saved a big box of cards from people, looked at them again, enjoyed them then threw them out. Trimmed down the photos as I didn’t even remember some of the people in them. I may some day move into a senior apartment or assisted living and I want the move to be easier when it comes.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing Nancy - sounds like you have a plan here. Thanks for watching!

Also don't forget that animal shelters can use old linens, blankets, towels, etc and some nursing homes will take good used clothing! call first and ask, I do and some of the residents have no family to get them clothes etc so they appreciate it.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Thanks for the tips Chris!

One thing I did which was easy for me . I went thru my pictures and every one that didn't have a person in it I got rid of it. I had taken pictures of trees or flowers and all of those I got rid of. On my last move I donated furniture to the Habitat for Humanity store and GW. Music boxes had been stored 20 years (Gone ) Take care

@brendatreaster6411

Ай бұрын

Great ideas! I especially love the one about photos. I have lots of old photos. I need to sort & get rid of some! Thank you!

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing booklover! I did something similar with photos as well.

I suggested similar to someone who didn't want to get rid of anything from his son's childhood. The son is still alive and doesn't want his bedspread from when he was 5. I told him take a picture of things and write a story about it. What it was, where it came from and the memories it brought. Put it in an album and maybe the son would want that.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Good idea Kim! Thanks for sharing!

My kids are so busy just trying to scrape by dealing with my crap is not something I expect

I remember when my only sister died at 61. I had to pack up her stuff and empty her apartment. I remember the devastating feeling that her life, all the things she cherished and gave her joy, now, all in so many bags headed for Goodwill, charity shops for strangers to pick through and pay a few bucks for. I'll end up the same way as I have no one. Ive made a few beautiful photo memory albums of all my late family, but Im the last living ( and im only 65) no one to even leave family photos to, they will all go in the trash when I die.

@coppingtonfarnham7731

Ай бұрын

My aunts Shirley and Leona (both in their 90's) left behind thousands of photos. I'm adopted, so not biologically related, but even my cousins who were/are related by blood didn't care about their many albums of memories. Ultimately, nobody cares whether they ever went to Florida, Europe, were preserved on film celebrating countless holidays or office parties at places long gone. My cavalier cousins dumped all their photos in the trash. The cousins didn't even care about photos of their sister who died as the result of a traffic accident at age 25 in 1980.

After years of storing my kids stuff in my garage and taking care of them and then the grandkids while they work for years, they can deal with my stuff!

i rounded up my "journals" and burned them a couple of years ago. They weren't of interest to anyone but to me. I write and publish my own books now. That is what I want passed down or shared. They are print on demand and nothing has to be carried around with me.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

I think that was wise Peggy! I encourage people with personal journals to think about what they might others to read after they pass on. Thanks for sharing!

One trick I've used is to take pictures of things. I started doing that with my kids' art when they were small and I couldn't keep all of it.

I've been downsizing for 7 years now. I rent a space in an antique store and that's how it goes bye bye.. one item at a time. It can be a daunting task but it must be done!

Eventually, it all ends up in the trash. Personally & professionally I've delt with this very issue. The personal is tough. The sad reality, no one wants it. Great video!

@lewing658

Ай бұрын

When the sand or dust blows in our face, it is just someone who was alive before.

P.s. I do have a fairly large library of books that I cherish. I cant imagine anyone not trying to sell them bc a lot of them are valuable money wise. I haven't the strength or means to haul them to the used bookstore. I do love my books and hope they dont just get dumpstered.

@julieking4304

Ай бұрын

ask your local library for advice.

@graveyardghost2603

Ай бұрын

@@julieking4304 good idea, thx Julie :)

I try to live by William Morris' advice - 'only keep what is useful and/or beautiful to you. I bet most of us own 40 - 50% which is neither useful or appreciated by us.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

I would agree betcarbery! Thanks for your comment!

This video is very relevant to me. My dad died last yr and we are sorting through his things, and I am also moving, so I am packing all my things. So many things…

What an excellent topic! I'm struggling with this right now.

I have a house full of stuff and I can't part with these things. Not a pack rat but I can't part with my things. When I pass away my kids will a have a field day with everything I have. Some stuff I don't care if they toss, but they know some of my stuff I have has a lot of value, so don't throw it away. They can sell whatever they don't want. As long as I'm still around I want to have fun with these things. I can't part with them 😩

You know what, when I die I will for sure not worry about my stuff. Not being rude, just realistic

I don't care what happens to my stuff after I'm gone. I only have a niece & she said she will go through my home & either keep, donate, sell, giveaway or trash my things. My home is small so this can all be done in a single day.

I have a large family I am very close to. I don't expect any of them to want my old things. In my view, it's best to get rid of things so your family don't have the burden of throwing them away.

This is sad and heartbreaking. I've started to do the swedish death clean because my only child doesn't want my stuff and I understand. Letting go of my stuff has been liberating.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Yes it can be liberating Christy - thanks for your comment!

Right now I'm at a place where I don't care how much trouble I am to my so called kids, so if they have to spend some time cleaning out my things, so be it. They don't care to spend the time now, so it can be a chore after my expiration date.

@steveshea6148

Ай бұрын

It's really not a big deal

This is so encouraging. I am 71 and having a few health issues, nothing serious, but I have a 92 year old best friend who has been doing what you are discussing for many years, and more so now. She, in her own way, encourages me to start culling and I want to. Just kind of a daunting task when you sit with so much stuff around you. But hearing you say some of the very same words I've heard my friend say about her house clearing, kind of solidifies it in my mind. Encouraged. Thank you and pray you find just the perfect place to move when you are ready. God bless you.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Thanks so much for your comment Debbie and for sharing this. Glad your friend inspires you to start the culling process. Appreciate you watching the channel!

I haven't thought about my stuff on what will happen if I'm gone only now when you have discussed it. They can throw it all in the dumpster or just leave it in our ancestral house except for my jewelries that has monetary value and will be given to my partner and daughter. I will just enjoy all my stuff now and when I am gone they can do whatever they want to do with it.

@eldergal

11 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing this biboydoce!

Hi, I am 45 yo and all my possessions fit in a couple of medium size boxes. My life is simpler the less I own, and I am happier

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing this! I am hoping someday to get to that point.

@61sunset

Ай бұрын

Yes it's so freeing getting rid of stuff. It gathers dust no more 😊

I'm thinking, get rid of anything potentially embarrassing for yourself or whoever finds it. Who cares about the rest. Its just stuff.

I am purging and preparing for the time I leave this world and it won't be far off. My friend will be gifted with my house and belongings. I plan to make a move in two years. I want a small place, the smaller the better.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing deedee! It's good you have a plan.

I’m with you on the sentimental things, like the sweet little sweater, booties, and cap that your grandma had knitted or crocheted for you!❤❤❤ Things like this are treasures that can never be replaced, and I don’t blame you for hanging onto it! These are the things that I have trouble getting rid of myself. I just recently found a small box from some of my mom’s things that I was going through (she passed away in December, 2022 and we’re still going through some of her things that have been packed away in storage tubs), and I found a little hat that her father, which was my grandpa, wore when he was a tiny baby! It was handmade and my mom had put a handwritten on it saying that my grandpa was so tiny as a newborn that his mother made a little hat to keep his head warm! These are the things that are so heartfelt for me that I will never be able to get rid of! My daughter will treasure this forever! She truly has a heart for things like this!❤❤❤

@eldergal

23 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing that about the baby hat Debbie! Glad your daughter will treasure it.

We should prepare where our soul goes.Heaven or hell while we alive.

Museums! Local, national. Never think that YOU dont matter because you do, if only to yourself and YOU matter too!

I think about this alot since my only child has estranged himself from me. It makes me sad.

@eldergal

26 күн бұрын

Sorry. I understand that kind of pain.

To answer your question about the baby clothes, all of the pieces are definitely crochet. It is a very fine yarn, so the stitches are pretty small, but I can totally see how it is constructed.

TRUTH IS IT MEANS NOTHING BECAUSE WE NEVER OWN ANYTHING,,,GO TO A CEMATARY AND LOOK AT THE GRAVES THERE YOU'LL SEE JUST GRAVES...FORGOTTEN GRAVES FORGOTTEN PEOPLE...LIFE GO'S ON

Dont give your stuff away now, you are not even 70! If you are not sick, you might live another 15-20 years...

@juliesanchez77777

Ай бұрын

Yeah I agree. Why on earth are you thinking you are so old?! 70 is nothing! I take care of people in their 90s still going strong. 70 is young spring chicken.

@megansfo

Ай бұрын

Yes but in my early 70s I can still move lighter furniture and pack and load boxes into the car myself to deliver to goodwill. At 85, I wont be able to do that. Plus, I like the feeling ofnot being overloaded with stuff.

@sct4040

Ай бұрын

She plans to move overseas.

I watched a video the other week, of cleaners clearing out a home where the owners had no family to leave their belongings to. It's so sad to see it all get binned. It did though make me think to use my 'good stuff' now, instead of waiting for a special time. It also makes me think about creating 'memories' instead of 'collecting stuff.'

I’m elderly and am gradually getting rid of a lifetime’s worth of collecting and hoarding. I don’t know why I think I might “need” this stuff one day. I’m beginning to realize I’m never going to “need” the belongings again.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

I know what that realization feels like Melody! Thanks for sharing this and for watching!

Things don’t need to be thrown out, they can be donated. A phone call to various Associations like The Kidney Fund, The Salvation Army and many other local charities can be contacted and they will pick up what you have. It makes me sad to see a new bed or sofa thrown out simply because the person didn’t know there’s people who will come and pick it up for free and is usable for others.

I'm 57 and starting to thin things down. It's taken years to get to this point. What started the ball rolling was that I had a temporary storage unit rented while I painted the inside of my house. The day that I went to clear out the storage space a U-Haul parked across the way. A car followed & about 8 people were milling about. I was overhearing them as they opened the unit. One person said "We're going to have to take everything to the dump!" Their mother had just died & they had to clean out her apartment & storage unit. It looked like no one had opened that storage unit in years. It was sad. The stuff meant nothing to them, especially since it was all covered in dust & crud. I realized then that I had to be careful with what I kept in life. That memory was seared in my head.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Sounds like you had a moment of clarity when you saw that. Thanks for sharing LAVirgo!

I got all my things together that are important and already gave it away. Everything else can be donated.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

That's good foresight Barbara!

I became a minimalist, and I do not tend to attach myself to things.....or people for that matter. Love your videos😊

I'm 63 yrs old.I told my children ,when I am gone to take what ever they want. Then send the rest of it to goodwill. I am a crafter ,and a lot of it came from there.

I'm sitting here looking at the back of the chair you're sitting in outdoors, and darn if it doesn't look identical to a green rocker that I own! I've had mine for years. It was part of a set of outdoor furniture, very heavy, not very comfortable, but I do use it daily in my living room. Anyway, about people not wanting your stuff, you are so right. I'm near 70 but learned how true this is when I moved my mom in with me when her Alzheimer's worsened back about ten years ago. She had lovely things, sets of china, a big gorgeous dining room suite, nice furniture. My own home was close by, and I had my own things and no room for much more. She would never have agreed to move in with me had it not been for the fact that her mind was pretty much gone, her vision was not the best, and my home looked very similar to hers in layout. I moved all her bedroom things right into a bedroom very similar to her own in her house. Long story short, her home sold very quickly, and people who said they'd love to have some of her things never showed up. We had held a garage sale and hadn't gotten rid of much. My sister and nieces wanted nothing. My brother happily took all of Dad's tools in his garage with my blessings. I ended up calling a St. Francis thrift store nearby, who arrived with a big truck to haul furniture and other things off as a donation. Actually, over the years and moving several times myself taught me to just get rid of stuff. I'm now in a small apartment and love open space. I know many women younger than I am who continue to collect things and have storage facilities they pay a monthly fee to in order to house all their junk, and I find that ridiculous. One thing I've learned to avoid like the plague is women my age who request my help to fetch and carry some heavy object they really don't need, move something for them, help them find it, etc., especially when they have family who can help them. Guess I'm just not all that sentimental or sympathetic with this kind of behavior. I feel I did my time in caring for my own mother for several years, and I vowed I'd never do it again. I cut grass and did physical chores I never want to do again for myself, let alone anyone else. And no, I don't care if they want to pay me, I don't want to watch their dog/cat, plant flowers for them or run any errands, especially if they do own a car and have no trouble getting around. My last two neighbor ladies, both younger than I am, both wanted this kind of "friendship" with me. They both do have brothers, sisters, nephews, nieces and a more active social life than I have, with friends dropping over. I can't help it if they aren't close to their family members; maybe it's time they try to get closer. It might be another story if I actually needed the money, but being frugal, I now happily say no thanks and am very careful about making new "friends." Lol.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing Cynthia!

@benton-benton

Ай бұрын

I kind of love watching cats and plants. Because I love cats and plants lol.

I’m with you 100%. I’m working through the Swedish Death Cleaning concept in preparation for a big move. I internalize the action as a gift to both me and my survivors. The process is hard yet so freeing. Thank you for inspiring and fortifying me in the process!

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing that you are in the process of clearing out Sharon! It is freeing!

I have learned to remove emotions from many items in my home in order to pitch them.

@Selah1141

Ай бұрын

Me too!

@ladybugblu60

Ай бұрын

I'm trying to get to that point

@MichaelaH2059

Ай бұрын

@@ladybugblu60 it’s tough at times 💜

@nancybryant4325

Ай бұрын

I’ve been doing this too and it can be difficult

@MichaelaH2059

Ай бұрын

@nancybryant4325 I will go through boxes and items I was overly attached to 3 years ago seem to have less value currently. I find if I just give it time, I may have a different view of things, and it's easier to let go of them.

I understand, especially about the precious family photos! Thankfully my daughter is interested in family memorabilia and things that have been passed down through the generations! I am an only child, and our daughter is an only child as well, so she is definitely interested in a lot of things from both sides of the family, and for that I am thankful. We are in the process of downsizing as well because our house now contains way too much stuff! I’m 64, my husband is 73, and our daughter is 27! She is now married and we now have a new grandson who is only three months old! ❤ I am sure he will be taught to treasure things that have been passed down through the family as well.❤

@eldergal

23 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing this Debbie! So glad you daughter values the history and memories.

My parents died a few years ago and left their house exclusively to my sister. My husband didn't think that was fair. I was "Are you kidding? She has to deal with all their stuff!" I feel I got the good bargain. She is still slowly going through their stuff which includes artwork. I have a few things my mother gave me when she was alive and that's plenty. I have memories. Don't need things. I hope I can clear our stuff so my kids don't have to deal with it. They will also have their memories of me and that will be enough.

@eldergal

Ай бұрын

You have a good way of looking at this pintsizestories! Thanks for sharing!

@MegF142857

Ай бұрын

My Mom did that with my sister. House with household goods. My Mom tried to cut down while alive, but cancer took her too soon. Yes, my sister is slowly processing it all. Thankfully my sister loves the house & the things, so it's not too bad. -- My MIL was a hoarder & home full of mostly junk. She got dementia & left all that to family to handle in the end.

For items that I'm on the fence about, it can help to take a picture of it. Then keep the picture instead of the thing. Also, I sell items, then take that money and put it toward something in particular that will make me happy or be useful. It's a kind of recycling. Every once in a while I look back at the pictures of the things and thank them for bringing me something I needed or wanted.

What we have is memories and it sounds like you were loved by your family this is something to treasure. I downsized once and it was heart wrenching to do. Now it’s mostly a full file cabinet that I gradually will empty out. I just don’t want to burden my children with having to throw stuff out. It’s a process…

@eldergal

5 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing this Vicki! And kudos for not wanting to burden your family with a lot of stuff!

@vickichadwick7508

5 күн бұрын

@@eldergal I really feel for you regarding your sons actions. I wish I could give you a hug and him a nudge to remember his mom loves and needs him...

Hey, it's my stuff ! I won't care when I'm dead. But until then it's mine, I spent a lifetime collecting this crap, and if nobody wants it when I'm gone oh well. Bit I'm keeping it until then

Around a college area, ya can put good furniture outside & it gets used @ student apartments.

@coppingtonfarnham7731

Ай бұрын

I live on a busy side street. Since it's so difficult to take furniture to charities (if they even want it) I put pieces (in good condition) by the street with a free sign. Almost everything is taken before the disposal company arrives.

I have 2 large totes of photos, working on paring it down to at least 1 ... eventually I will pare it down to a small shoe box.