When he stops paying attention to you STOP paying attention to him,I match the energy you give me to the energy I give you ,I never want to force somebody to be with me

@gmatinky3965

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly On Point ✔💯💯

@isabelladasilva1645

5 жыл бұрын

Totally agree with you 😊

@marishkaspirit

5 жыл бұрын

Girl, yes

@namatovupeninah2445

5 жыл бұрын

When he decides to keep silent I do exactly the same

@DebraCTrialByFireProductions

5 жыл бұрын

Truth plus they play too many games

When a man wants you, he will be consistent in his energy AND actions period!! No games no bs

Really ladies, it’s as simple as matching the energy he gives you and don’t be easily impressed. Most men aren’t worth your time so why pour energy into an unworthy cause? Be as in love with yourself as humanly possibly! It’s the only way to protect yourself from the time wasters.

@rnopes21

3 жыл бұрын

This!!!!

@renee5506

3 жыл бұрын

Facts!

@flyfish2562

3 жыл бұрын

So wise Natashea!! 😊

@hotcut6630

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@chinmayiadiga515

3 жыл бұрын

Makes lot of sense...you are right..

The chasing thing is not love. When you’re soul mates you set up the grounds and commit to each other. That’s what valuable relationship is.

@summmer77

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Wow! Finally! It is easy and natural! That is what love looks like. And if he looses interest or stops valuing you because you are always there for him he is more into the adventure than your own person! A man that truly likes and loves a woman gets excited when she answers, not when she doesn’t.

@irenawanjiru

2 жыл бұрын

Precisely, if you like what you see , why start playing stupid games and women of certain age do not have time for indecisive men.

@peaceofmindofpeace1650

2 жыл бұрын

Amen

@peaceofmindofpeace1650

2 жыл бұрын

@@irenawanjiru It's really hurtful.

If a men stops chasing you. Just let him go! Is obvious that he’s not interested in you anymore...

@mstyles2667

5 жыл бұрын

Amen. These people are CRAZY with their stupid games.

@nurhesen

4 жыл бұрын

Some men don't chase actually. I just give a little interest and if she doesn't appreciate it enough i just act as she doesn't exist and switch to other girls

@leesteal4458

4 жыл бұрын

@@nurhesen You're a fool.

@nurhesen

4 жыл бұрын

@@leesteal4458 life is too short to wonder

@A-list

4 жыл бұрын

Not all men chase & are aggressive. Some are actually shy / inexperienced and prefer women to show interest...

"Never accept bad behaviour." So key. ♥️

I really don’t have patience for this ‘chasing’ game. I’m just going to wait for a non complicated guy that really knows what he wants. Dating should be more simple, natural and less stressful.

@sb9758

Ай бұрын

Keep waiting all your life. There's no such guy coming in 😂😂

It’s actually sad that my boyfriend use to chase me until I started really caring about the relationship. Now I’m always a 2nd choice to everything. Thank you for the advice!

If he stops chasing you, stop giving him attention. Pretty common saying but it's true; "Men are like cats, keep chasing him and he'll run away, ignore him and he'll come running to you"

@peterchou5161

5 жыл бұрын

This is THE WORST advise anyone can give. You're advising women to play hard to get. Keep this up and they'll lose their crush for good. Know the quality of a guy before you run from him. Remember, you're just one of many fishes in a barrel.

@Lunala97

5 жыл бұрын

@@peterchou5161 If a guy really likes you then you should have to fight for his attention.

@myerst52

5 жыл бұрын

Shut up

@peterchou5161

5 жыл бұрын

Starcaller - Not true. I really like this girl. I gave her a lot of attention to the point where I'm borderline needy. All she did was kicked me to the curb. She's very talkative w her co-workers, but has very little to say w me. Plus her attitude is very stuck up toward me.

@myerst52

5 жыл бұрын

@@peterchou5161 shut up

If a man stops chasing me this means the police finally explained to him about the restraining order.

@cobrass8033

5 жыл бұрын

Lol

@aniakocak5086

5 жыл бұрын

that`s it

@Vixinaful

5 жыл бұрын

Bahahaaaa! Didnt work on my ex tho..

@costsnothingtobekind7779

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@kathrynt5899

5 жыл бұрын

@@crimestoppers1877 I'm sorry someone hurt you....💔

I thought I liked men but now I'm reconsidering

@lorelaigilmore813

4 жыл бұрын

Lol, me too

1. As soon as he knows he has you. 2. Only spend time with him when he shows he really wants it/deserves it. Don't lavish him with attention. 3. Don't accept bad behavior. 4. Allow him to do the chasing. 5. Don't play games. Really be hard to get.

@monroelin9505

5 жыл бұрын

thank you Andrea this is so true, as soon as he knows he has me, he started to reveal all his bad behaviours. you are right, dont play game, be really really hard to get

@jenrusiana8534

5 жыл бұрын

True..

@dravidiangmb7242

5 жыл бұрын

@@silversilver0 Women are the prize? Hmm...not with that chubby face lol

@education461

5 жыл бұрын

@Dravidian 071CabooseBoyz Chubby women can get high quality men, they just do not get easily low quality and immature boys but that is a blessing. I am not chubby so I have to spend time getting rid of low quality men hitting on me and is annoying.

@dravidiangmb7242

5 жыл бұрын

@@silversilver0 Sorry butter face, no dice

ughhh im too lazy for all these rules + men play too much. Im being a nun. byyyyee. EDIT: woww thx for all the likes. comments got me 😂😂

@Vixinaful

5 жыл бұрын

I agree, they DO play too many games. I've also given up. But I thank people like this coach who tells the truth so we can make the decision to stay away. You should check out Greta dating coaches videos aswell.

@Marcellopez1249

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂 it's true. Why toooo much holywood in love

@vuyisekaluphuzi8249

5 жыл бұрын

Ay thought I was the only one who's tired of these rules and games I don't have energy nor heart for, just exhausting and sounds pointless

@oliviapsalms9111

5 жыл бұрын

when you really like someone, youll suddenly gain all the energy and creativity youll need. LOL

@eladan867

5 жыл бұрын

Me too 😔

If true love does exist , there’s shouldn’t be chasing and being so difficult . you love someone from heart 💓

When a man stops chasing you. RUN THE OTHER WAY!

@KandyKoatedKrafts

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!

@DivineProphetessCoral

5 жыл бұрын

Lol. That is right.

@rosag7386

5 жыл бұрын

Amen

@elizaash358

4 жыл бұрын

It works.

@way.truth.life.

4 жыл бұрын

Literally

This is exactly how I landed my dream man. It happened naturally, there was no game playing on either side. I wanted to change fields and wasn't happy being a nurse. I applied and was accepted into college to chase after another degree and break off into the psychology field. I was so busy with all that i couldn't prioritize my time with him and he loved having to chase after me and think of ways to steel my time away from my studies. He wanted to go back and get his masters too and my studying all the time inspired him to prep and study more as well.

When a man stops chasing you probably he finds someone new that’s it !

@annabelleplazo5960

5 жыл бұрын

anne smith right this moment we’re not together and you are right. So from this day onwards I should love myself more than him as he didn’t see my worth. Focus on possibilities of everyday brings me. I will get up from the mud he puts me. Love myself than love a person who never existed! Life is beautiful than to waste on someone who wasted my true love. Thanks for the advices and thoughts. Bless us all

@annabelleplazo5960

5 жыл бұрын

Crime Stoppers by saying he loves me but he’s with somebody , accusing me some things I’ve never done but it was him who does it, shaming me , degrading me and calling me all the names I’m not. I can’t imagine how a man I loved so much would disrespect me😞 but yeah one day I may forgive him but right this moment I can’t when I know in my heart I have this hates

@annabelleplazo5960

5 жыл бұрын

For me? It’s not ok for a man or a woman as well to have two loves as it will be named by what we call “cheater” that is why those who love truly will get hurt more than those who play. Why can’t be contented?, why can’t be so damn honest and tell someone I didn’t love u anymore, why need to cheat and take someone for granted? But they won’t . Worst part ? They will left u broken

@annabelleplazo5960

5 жыл бұрын

Crime Stoppers in my opinion regarding about this one u talking is that, why need to enter in that complicated situation? When U can have them single women out there for sure, I really not agree about having a relationship to a married woman or man not bcoz it’s a sin nor husband or wives can file a case against u but bcoz in the eyes of GOD it’s not acceptable and it’s immorality. And let us say u both pursue that u want it, do u want to be divorced and all the things u had will be given to her? Do u want to have a cheater wife? Do u want to have a non peaceful life? Yes we are all free to do whatever can make us happy But is doing that thing can make us genuinely happy? I know woman in USA are liberated but I know also that there are some who’s single and loyal

@annabelleplazo5960

5 жыл бұрын

Crime Stoppers a “gold digger cunt “ one of the names my Ex calling me , how come a ever loyal woman called by the names like that?, how come after all the sacrifices I’ve done for our relationship he has the courage to call me like that , how come when I didn’t asked anything specially money matter , but yeah, maybe he can’t accept his mistake , he want to show everyone his perfect! that is why the woman he loved he didn’t hesitate to shame in any cost whenever he gets a chance. Saddest part of relationship when u love truly u will die daily. Honest and loyal woman exist but others take them for granted. Other woman cheats because their partners cheat, man cheats because of sex but other woman cheats because of love, affection, commitment that her husband or partners cannot give her. Man cheat not because he has no respect to a woman, Man cheats because he has no respect in himself. Man cheat because contentment was not in his vocabulary.

Real men won't play games!

@anissaantoine1019

5 жыл бұрын

There are no real men out here most men are married some gay others to lazy

@8v71buses

5 жыл бұрын

Cheryl Lesley Thanks and the same goes for real women too. Only the hurt and bitter women out would say otherwise and it’s best that they be in no relationship or marriage with any man with that type of toxicity. Thanks again for sharing because there’s there’s still some of us real men out here 🙂

@lolitahorton5830

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly! It is or it isn't!

@madeinhisimage3447

5 жыл бұрын

Mature Men won’t play games especially if they are older than you and there’s some good age gap going. Right there is built in value for the woman being a catch and a prize simply because she’s younger and more youthful. I’m not thrilled about this much because I tend to date younger men and my one gripe with older men is they do tend to be too paternal and controlling at times. It’s a total turn off.

@japneeshpawar2331

5 жыл бұрын

There are no real men

If a guy stops chasing me, there is nothing I would do to prevent it; I would encourage it. If he stops chasing me, that tells me he isn't into me and I should value my time and love myself better to move on and find someone mature who doesn't "chase" but wishes to get to know me. If the chasing stops, I embrace it and run away like the wind.

@cladius2292

5 жыл бұрын

Anna Marie k think by “chase” you may intend to state “pursue”... If a man IS chasing you, then it is probably because you are already running away...

@jamiemohan2049

2 жыл бұрын

Not necessarily true. Most men into the chase are players. They love the chase so you sleep with him, then when they have sex they disappear. Likely telling all their friends how they had sex with you. There are plenty of men not into chasing or mind games. Why would a good man chase a woman who seems uninterested? Good luck with your logic.

so are we supposed to make a guy chase us our whole frickin life?? omg exhausting lol

@madeinhisimage3447

5 жыл бұрын

G G exactly!! Boys Vs. Men! More accurately...a man who’s had a strong taste of his mortality will be ready to settle down! Prior to this they think they are going to live and be youthful forever!!

@chanelknight6880

4 жыл бұрын

Right smh

@lavayuki

4 жыл бұрын

I assumed it was just until marriage

@shin-ishikiri-no

4 жыл бұрын

@GG T87 Woman logic.

@wowerman

4 жыл бұрын

Exhausting for who?You meant for men chasing women .

When a man stop chasing you, you should stop looking for his chasing and move on without him. Some men just don't know what they want. They are miserable with themselves and make up poor excuses to support their unstable habits. Women don't force a man to love and appreciate you, know your WORTH!!!!

@0221dmcalister

5 жыл бұрын

This is exactly the dating advice men get... "Don't chase women... Lol so if both male and female aren't chasing one another or show normal human emotional pull to each other... Then everyone is gonna die alone... Lol good luck

@makeitcount2985

5 жыл бұрын

@@0221dmcalister I don't think woman care because men are mostly not great partners which is why the divorce rate is climbing. Men just want someone to baby them, have their kids and give them sex and women land up feeling so alone and used therefore zero incentive to get with a man

@0221dmcalister

5 жыл бұрын

@@makeitcount2985 .. I'm sorry you've been burned, but I could easily say the same thing about women and how they spread their legs for any swinging dick. Us as men are fed up with taking bs from women... A ton of us are going MGTOW. If you don't understand what that is, look it up... Stop feeling sorry for yourself

@Noortje394

5 жыл бұрын

Abundance!!! 🙌

@makeitcount2985

5 жыл бұрын

@@0221dmcalister feeling sorry for myself lol, is that what you took away from my comment seriously!? You took woman feel lonely and overburdened in empty marriages and equated that to self pity I'm gobsmacked. Why would women want to be with men who aren't good partners!?.... and I mean emotional connection and partnership here. As for a handful of slutty women, who you guys don't hesitate to sleep with, those women are not representative of the majority of women

Men are sooooooo much work. Where are the guys who like me and just want to be around me without me having to jump through hoops to keep him interested??? UGH When can I relax and just be myself?!!

@Realname251

5 жыл бұрын

Becky Tull right now! You should always be yourself, that's the only way for you to attract the one who is worthy of beautiful you!!:)

@beckytull8505

5 жыл бұрын

Yuli Nahari I am myself and then they leave. The girls who play games and treat guys like crap get them. Im better off single if I have to constantly turn myself into a damn pretzel. People only date my looks they don’t care that I have a heart and want to give support

@tula__

5 жыл бұрын

Becky Tull it’s better to be single than faking that you’re okay while anticipating some necessary attention from your boyfriend. Been there done that. Just chill away on your own stuff. You deserve to be happy whether you’re in a relationship with someone else or just yourself!

@sorry_im_schizo516

5 жыл бұрын

ikr! but i just found out im schizo, so im screwed. at least you have hope. count your blessings.

@Evathebrave

5 жыл бұрын

Becky Tull I’m going to be honest it’s probably because you’re chasing after the wrong guy

This is so true. He started remembering his friends. He started remembering he wanted to play games. He started remembering there are sports he wants to do and I became an annoyance. He wants to spend less time together. Want more time for himself... because I'm always available. Because I loved too much. 💔💔💔

@toms2949

4 жыл бұрын

Funny but it is true what you say. ....

@janhabidey6098

2 жыл бұрын

Yes very much true

@itoshii12345

Жыл бұрын

How are you with your relationship so far?

@mariem4015

Жыл бұрын

I experienced the same if there are things that i learned now is that i shouldn't be available and keep myself busy love myself more and value myself more .

@survingmostest4481

Жыл бұрын

@@itoshii12345 relationship did not survive. Love in moderation and don't forget yourself in the process.

This is hysterical to me. I was engaged 7 times. Yep. SEVEN. I left 2 at the altar. I decided I wanted a marriage like my parents had (57 years until Dad's death). After realizing how happy I was and how grateful I was for my life, I met a nice man. Attractive, same religion, same politics, similar educations. We dated. When he asked me to marry him I said "Why ruin a great thing?" I did accept and then he got scared after giving me the engagement ring and said we should "think" about this for 24 hours! He actually set a time limit. He never got it. I removed the ring and told him I appreciated his "gift" but I couldn't accept anything from anyone so uncertain or conflicted. Neither one of us had been married before, I understood his fear. I thanked him for a lovely evening and said "Good Night." Hysterically, 24 hours went by and I never heard a word from him. As much as I cared about him, I knew that without him, I still had a wonderful life. He phoned at 28 hours. He was amazed that I was calm and hadn't called him! Simply put, 38 years later, he's a wonderful father, a wonderful husband....and funny, but a great friend! Ladies, you CANNOT value a husband or subsequent children if you CANNOT first value YOURSELF.

@kotic007

Жыл бұрын

thank you for sharing! :) Life improves when you value yourself!

@sallylemon5835

Жыл бұрын

What happened to all the previous 7 engagements? Why did they ended? Did they cheat or neglected

@chamomile3620

Жыл бұрын

@@sallylemon5835 same question.

@mio3677

Жыл бұрын

Thank you💜

@katasandberg8110

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like a jackass just waiting 4 another time 2 let you down!

I never bother doing anything if a guy stops paying attention to me. There are so many more.

@Missgevious

5 жыл бұрын

Elisa Mastromarino how is that working for you? Interested 😉

@priscylamello7149

5 жыл бұрын

Elisa Mastromarino show me where they are kkkkkkkk.

@not_a_cool_handle

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly why we men shouldn't chase.

@legingembrefou5981

5 жыл бұрын

Lol maybe if I looked like you....

@elisamastromarino7123

5 жыл бұрын

MC1R Mutant Faerie You're perfectly beautiful. ❤

Sometimes when they quit chasing, I breath a sigh of relief!!!

@BeckEddie

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

Brian, I'm quitting on men. I can't stand all this walking on eggshells over flaky men.

@MagicWandsTarot

5 жыл бұрын

Sinhah true its not fun i think rather than helping women he is turning them off men I guess 😂😂

@michaelatorn8380

5 жыл бұрын

This comment section turns me off. (M)

@margotabone3616

4 жыл бұрын

Brian I’m 63 years of age and I can’t believe man my age still are playing these games this is to much work I met this guy 3 months ago and lately he calls me and our conversation are 5 min always answers the other line and always has something with his friends I’m so done

@tashaequeen8935

3 жыл бұрын

Amen!! I'm so tired of doing that because I'm so worried about if he's going to disappear or lose interest. Smh o well

@terrystevins8199

3 жыл бұрын

Stop finding the wrong men lmao there’s many good ones out there you just got to find them.

so..never let the man "catch you" but also "don't play games!" -- one big long game

I've lost faith in men. Been hurt for so long I'm done :(

@ladymaiden2308

5 жыл бұрын

Cleo Muñiz ... sorry, Cleo. I think I'm about 5 years away from coming to that conclusion myself. But you know what, I can give up but I don't want to become bitter. I would give up just to avoid becoming bitter. And I'm the type that would turn bitter if I wasn't careful. You my friend, just sound so sad about it. I hope your heart heals.

@Hopekayeny

5 жыл бұрын

Same here. I just use them for money now

@nonabaldwin1202

5 жыл бұрын

You hurt yourself by allowing to be hurt.. If you noticed someone was bad for your kid you'd do ever thing in your power to watch out for then do that for yourself to hun stop neglecting yourself

@_____dafifeexx5914

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@gladesnilgulle5583

4 жыл бұрын

I feel you 😔

Too complicated... I'd rather stay alone.

@bushranizam4836

4 жыл бұрын

Epic 😎

@gripitl6878

4 жыл бұрын

Bushra Nizam 😂😂

@cherisew

4 жыл бұрын

LMAOOOOOO! OMG. i really feel like that tho. i deserve to just be myself and get the man i like. this is tew mush.

@leeslyrose

4 жыл бұрын

It’s what you’ve been doing the whole time it’s just that roles are now reversed and there is attraction in the relationship

@rnopes21

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed

I literally had this guy chase me for 2.5 years while I was in a relationship with someone else. When my relationship finally ended... he asked me on a date... I said no, I wasn’t ready to date. A month later... I agreed to hang out with him. After hanging out a few times... I began to catch feelings. Told him how I was feeling and asked him how he feels about me. Whole dynamic changed.... like dude... you literally puppy dog eyed me the entire time I was dating someone else. I’m finally interested back... and you get weird? .... what’s the point if this is the way it works. Ugh. Ugh.

@Protestan88

4 жыл бұрын

He's making you suffer the 2.5 years he wasted on you. It's payback time. And it's obsession. Not love. Love hurts. And most can't handle the pain. Did you discuss his feelings in those 2.5 years? Did he show his frustration openly?

@sudipta2420

2 жыл бұрын

Typical hunter mentality of men

@carinaa.6394

2 жыл бұрын

@@Protestan88 No one asked him to.

@Protestan88

2 жыл бұрын

@@carinaa.6394 I don't think he's being rational in his decision making. People do weird things when they're hurt and emotional.

@Jakynast

2 жыл бұрын

It sounds like you mistreated him to be honest. He was wise to give you a taste of your own medicine.

Your skin isn’t paper don’t cut it Your life isn’t a movie don’t end it Your heart isn’t glass don’t let others brake it Love your self 💕💕💕

@beckytull8505

3 жыл бұрын

My heart is glass after all the gaslighting and BS I’ve been out through. Everyone is different

Some men chase women just for the thrill of it...once that thrill wears off they move on to another. Much like a child with a new toy.

@susanp7194

5 жыл бұрын

Very well said, very true.

@sonicfoxxmusic4281

5 жыл бұрын

Good point..end of.

@susanlansley8655

5 жыл бұрын

and women do

@Nina-vv3ev

4 жыл бұрын

Christine Begg true

@samanthasnow5452

4 жыл бұрын

Yup

Good msg bottom line, keep your friends and life! Don’t make him your everything! He can be a big part but not everything!

But this is really hard when you like him a LOT ☹️

@kajalbhagat75

5 жыл бұрын

Let him go... simple

@MsMesem

4 жыл бұрын

@@kajalbhagat75 no not simple

@whenpigsfly8483

4 жыл бұрын

I knowww 😭

I stopped chasing when i knew that our goals and dreams are different. It just didnt feel worth it anymore. 🤷

So, you're basically saying relationships are just sport for some men. Therefore, he will never be satisfied.

@maretvilla1531

5 жыл бұрын

Shanta Webb No. He's talking about men by nature. Unlike their grandparents, women today are so easy and pose no challenge to men they fail to excite or activate men's hunter's mode. When it comes to sex men find it so effortless to get them to bed they are like cheap items at dollar store. Even commitment is something men don't feel pressure to do anymore because they believe they can always move to the next easy and available, effortless woman they can have relationship with.

@helenosagie-miller7540

5 жыл бұрын

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@guesswho5790

5 жыл бұрын

@@maretvilla1531 Having a man chase you doesn't really depend on when you start having sex. It's how you let him treat you. That's the whole point of the video.

@angelameadows5546

5 жыл бұрын

It. Always. More. Fish. In. The. Sea. Forget. Him....move. On.

@daphneepaul3737

5 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately it is a sport/game to men. Even when you’re married to them they still go out to chase other women. The relationship is not the game women are the game. THey see us as game or toy instead of a prize.

So if a man stops chasing me, it's MY fault that I didn't know how to play correctly?! Many of your tips are nice, specially for the dating stage, but after a while, other things (should) take place and we can't be the mother/therapist/player the whole time, we're humans!

@lorelaigilmore813

4 жыл бұрын

Well said

@ankitaa2400

3 жыл бұрын

Exactlyyyyyy

@terezarehakova507

2 жыл бұрын

yes! Man is not only his brain that released dopamin while chasing someone like an animal. We should get above this animality. Many men know what they want, a stable commited relationship, and those I want. Not those dopamine junkies...

Just because we stop chasing you, doesn't mean we don't like you. Sometimes we feel like the more we push, the worst things get along with some patience on your part. True showing interest is good for both sexes but sometimes leaving things to work themselves could be good for everyone in the end.

@amberg4131

Жыл бұрын

I ended up watching baseball which I thought was such a boring sport. It's alot funner when I'm watching it with him. Plus he gets so into it. I don't know how you guys remember all these details and player names and records and stats. It's amazing. Anyway it's a nice binding activity for us. Watching the game Every game. Guess I'm a Mets fan now lol

@amberg4131

Жыл бұрын

Oh and I forgot to add, hes been giving my Korean films a chance also. Which usually people think foreign eww.but their great

In love for you to be successful, use your own tactics.. These are just personal opinions....if both of you are mature and interested in each other.. It will happen naturally.. No chasing no running.. Period.

At first man are very good he is showing to me his activities sending me pictures of what he is doing the day his hobbies. Its like he is impressing me. Saying good morning. But later on he become lazy he will not sending messages anymore. Why all man like that. Only in the beginning you are good. So if man like that dont be excited and depends on that action beacuse it will not last for long time. Dont used to be in that first day because it only on first day the other day he will stop doing it.

@valencyabaynard1830

5 жыл бұрын

Xylene Vera just stop texting him.

@jackdeniston9326

5 жыл бұрын

What do you bring to his life? Maybe he figures out how little that is...

@jackdeniston9326

5 жыл бұрын

Tell me one thing...

@JobeeTabs

5 жыл бұрын

Because some women don't reciprocate. That is why us men, easily get bored if the woman don't answer back.

@alexguerena9333

5 жыл бұрын

Ugh going threw it! Whatever i sent my last text yesterday i fell for all his BS ... now to forget him.

Anyone, male or female, will be kind and pay attention to you if they care about being with you. Period. It's about reciprocity. If the give and take isn't from both, one is codependent and the other is playing them. If a man (or woman) doesn't come around equally, they've lost interest and you can discuss it to find out if this is just being preoccupied with life in general or if it's real disinterest. I've learned you reep what you sow. People may need space once in a while and that can be expressed and respected. Respect yourself and the other. Be authentic. The chemistry will happen on its own if both parties are honest and respectful. This cat and mouse game is for teenagers. I'm way past that.

I absolutely loved this video👍👍👍 I came to this realization some time ago. This is a fact. I have a horrible tendency to fall quick but now when I see the man stop chasing I pull back, then the chase resumes😊 It's sad though that you can't just be yourself & go with the flow, you have to play tag to find love😖

How can you say don't play games when all of this is a damn game. It's ridiculous. You're absolutely right about the predatory nature to chase after the runner but damn women run for good reason. We give our time and love to the ones we value and run from the losers. So all I'm hearing is I'll be chased by the Narcissistic entitled losers, and I'm supposed to play hard to get with the one I value the most. This is emotional manipulation at it's finest and is so damaging. Dating this day in age is beyond stressful and a major turn off. That's why so many ppl are in uncommitted situations! The Fuckery!

@luciaespinoza8125

5 жыл бұрын

This is the comment I have agreed the most in my life until now.

@elizabethtara7658

5 жыл бұрын

do true

@janiemiller825

5 жыл бұрын

Audrey Beckwith Well said 👏 I agree 100%

@education461

5 жыл бұрын

Audrey Beckwith No I think the video is trying to say that you should give your time to just the guys you like and love and of course those are not losers but that doesn't mean you should give all your time to any man. In other words you should spend more time in you so when you devote time to loving your partner both people have the energy to give their best. You can't expect men to act like women because you will get bored with him in a minute as you want to date a male with masculine energy not another woman.

@Nina-vv3ev

4 жыл бұрын

Audrey Beckwith exactly

He's not your true soulmate...

@MagicWandsTarot

5 жыл бұрын

Stella Ercolani there you said the truth hun

I don't like playing all of these games. Its so ridiculous! But I have seen that this seems to be the reality of relationships. Sad.

Finally found a video that deals with something that happens before dating, at a FLIRTING stage, like for example at work places.

When. A. Man. Stop...chasing. You? That. Means. He. Not. Interested. In. You .

@kristine8338

4 жыл бұрын

Angela Meadows, 👍

I've always had ANY man I wanted - no issues. Always had to turn many away. Now it's totally different. Guys you FINALLY decide to like them back and make them very happy seem to run away and hide out. It's totally ridiculous. IF a man really likes you, making him "happy" shouldn't make him hide. Totally freaking ridiculous. You say it's not playing hard to get, but clearly it is.

@davidsirmons

5 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you're looking in the same places for men NOW as you were back THEN. That's not what you want, because the men from those "back then" places are players. You have to try and look in better places for better quality men, and give up those old places.

@evelynr.7596

5 жыл бұрын

Men say they want one thing but it's not true. You can't give men everything they want, then they lose interest or leave. I've been with mine for 9 years cus I dont give him shit lol jk. I even said no to marriage and he's still here. Plain and simple, men will take you for granted when you, the dream girl, becomes a reality.

@Goldan1

5 жыл бұрын

Wow that is so true. Very recently had a guy chasing me he has been for years. In May low and behold I fell in love with I am still in shock that happened. We decided to have a relationship now he is not treating me good at all. Missing for hours no communication for hours. Taking long to return my calls. I have shed enough tears over him i am really fed up. Indeed the dream girl has become a reality.

@onangelwings462

5 жыл бұрын

This is exactly true for me too. I'd go on a date and we'd like each other and then it was a relationship. Now? It's exactly like you described. It's disgusting.

@rapunzelmane9592

5 жыл бұрын

Golden1 + He might actually be a Malignant Narcissist. They start off 'Lovebombing' you and then reject you and when you are about to disappear they Lovebomb you again. It's called the 'Sweet/Mean Cycle'. Your brain gets addicted to the chemical ups and downs and that's how they keep you hanging on. Narcissists are toxic, they are incapable of change, they cannot develop a conscience, which makes them extremely dangerous to your self-esteem, heart, health, bank-balance and soul. Research Narcissism on KZread, then Run For The Hills and keep on running!

Value yourself instead of games. Well I must say that if a man ignores me for two weeks then I have already other plans. Two weeks is long time and everything can happen. I can already be on the road over two weeks traveling on the other country....(well actually happened)

Screw the cat and mouse games...I don't want to spend my life lonely manipulating men to chase me. At some point doesn't the chase need to end...I prefer openness and directness and if a guy is too much of a hunter then he's not my type. I like emotional intimacy and connection. All these chase and hunting analogies sound way to rapey for me. It makes me feel like a guy only wants to hook up with women who aren't really into it and don't fully like them. I would prefer a man who appreciates my love and kindness instead of taking it as the hunt is over and on to the next pursuit. If this is how guys think I need to just become a lesbian.

@NarnianLady

5 жыл бұрын

The game is exactly what many men's groups are promoting... endless chase and conquest to feel like 'the alpha male'. Committed and genuine men are mocked as 'betas'. and then single men cry that women only fall for 'bad boys'... Nope.

@janiemiller825

5 жыл бұрын

Feather Lol 😂 I agree 100%

@NarnianLady

5 жыл бұрын

@Kris 999 That may be for some, however, there are men who complain that women are so happy and independent that they don't need men anymore... The best thing is to be authentic, admit your own needs, even at the risk of looking too needy. The right person is going to appreciate that, and that is all that matters.

@anitarogers2877

5 жыл бұрын

Feather : Hey Feather, I am just like you. I am caring, spiritual, giving, sharing, compromise, 'adult' when it comes to relationships, to allow something to work. After out of choice being single for 8 years, 2 years back I decided to trial dating again. Never met anyone I wanted to see more than a second time. Last summer all that changed when I met unbeknown to me a 'Player' who I shared an incredible, unexpected spiritual bond connection with - even to his surprise he felt and experienced it! (Met on-line, over an hour apart.) I don't play games with people's emotions, I continued to be me: the giver/sharer. He pulled away and returned to his 'Player' ways. All I did was connect and be 'me' because I felt that was right. He was communicating seeing others, and stopped communicating with me. He'd respond to my texts once per week: claiming he was too busy with his 24/7 working hours, and then seeing his children at the weekend! Only met in person 3 times in total re his 'excuses' of too busy, had only a handful of telephone conversations, the rest of communication via text: mostly me. Every time I said I was walking, he'd hook me with a promised date, only to drop me 2 hours before. In total this went on for 6 months until I pulled the plug for good last week. I don't 'get' why people won't accept good things that come their way, and only want hard work. Life is stressful and difficult enough as it is. Love allows us to feel ease and happiness. Men should open up to the fact women aren't possessions to run after and acquire. Love isn't a business-deal to be closed. Women have more value - we are not business. Playing hard to get isn't the way: teaching if something is of value you have to work hard for it and chase it. If it flows to you easily, it's worthless. Societal/cultural conditioning: it's all still so out of kilter. Much Love, Anita xxxx

@makeitcount2985

5 жыл бұрын

@@anitarogers2877 players always play, and will give you an STD. The connection you felt was clearly one sided or he would have stopped seeing other woman. Don't fool yourself into believing that he has feelings for you, don't waste your time move on

This guy is the king of analogies. Well done :)

I wish someone had told me this when i was in my teen years!!

@flyfish2562

3 жыл бұрын

Me too!! Where was KZread university in 1997!! Think of all the losers I could have saved myself from dating!!?!!

Can't wait for your new book by the end of this year, my life going so much better now.

I wish my boyfriend was just happy and appreciate that he´s got me instead of becoming lazy. It makes me feel like I´m a lot less important to him. When he stopped the "chase", I panicked bc I thought there was something wrong or he didn´t like me as much anymore and then I was the one chasing him bc I was trying to hold on but I realised that he needs to come to me on his own free will. I realise that I should focus more on myself, selfgrowth and doing things that fulfil me and only give him as much attention as he gives me. My boyfriend is an amzing but I think he really is the hunter described in the video. I really hope whatever is going on with him/us is not bc his feelings have changed but if it is then there is nothing I can do but focus on myself as a person bc that is my best shot at getting him interested again and if it doesn´t work then it will hurt but it´s ok too bc I have already learnt a lot out of our relationship and have had great moments with him and the knowledge and the memories have enrichend me forever.

Playing hard to get has NOTHING to do with REAL love. These advices are good for the beginning stages of "in love" games. But when and IF the REAL feeling happens, there is always a movement towards each other, in loving acts, in taking care, in desire to grow together, to put their partner as a priority.. It is never too much but always not enough time for each other. It is a movement from the surface to the depths of both. Because in REAL LOVE people realise how actually short their life is in order to express and experience the grandeur of that amazing feeling. These are signs that distinguish LOVE from simple gender games.

I discovered your channel today and am binge watching your videos since. Your kind of dry and intelligent humor and analogies crack me up 🤣

Wow!! Such brilliant, powerful and valuable advice. I wish I had of found your channel earlier, as it would've saved me a lot of heartache with players and narcissists!!

You got it!! NEVER PLAY HARD TO GET & LET HIM CHASE YOU!!👏👏

I stopped texting him, not easy cuz I love him unconditionally. But, I won't force him to love me back..not possible. This woman is moving on hunny.

Women, we grow up with the idea of having to put al lot of effort in what we do. For instance, we are natural givers and we also have multi-tasking, and throughout life we become much more aware and emotionally mature. I don't see what there is wrong in giving a lot to the man we love and to the relationship. And that doesn't mean necessarily giving up all of of our life or being needy. I really don't see the problem of a relationship in which two people both give a lot and value each other. If someone is afraid both to receive and give love, then they probably have some attachment or emotional issue. Instead of blaming the person that knows how to give and love without fear, they should face their own limitations. These videos are all about men picturing themselves like super secure and strong, while blaming women that if things don't work it's because they are insecure and needy. I am sorry to say this, but it is deviating and often disturbing. I think we are really missing the point of who has issues. Enough with all these strategy games. Instead, maybe start focusing on finding ways to coach and educate both women and men to emotional intelligence and affection, which is a human need, beyond these very limiting gender stereotypes. I think the world has changed by now

We’re at 2 yrs now. And my man still chases me and I chase him back😜so far all good👍🏻

I completely understand. dating is just getting to know a person, not dating as being in a relationship. You have to have a life too. Thank you.

You are simply amazing, Brian Nox. Your understanding of man's psychology and your amazing way of explaining is incredible. Your videos enlighten me. Thank you.

I'm so sick of these immature games.... What about just being relaxed around each other?

You said don’t play game, but your advice is advice of game.😜

@ShraddhaVyasofficial

3 жыл бұрын

Good observation...

The boar and hunter example was amazing! Thank you Brian!

Thank you. I am old fashioned and I think this is still good today. So many confusing videos today. I will love myself and stay a high value woman, concentrate on my life and not lose it in him. Confront any bad behavior from the start and stick to my values.

You explain it very well Brian. Even though I have heard this before, it will stick with me after listening how you explain. Thank you 😇

Well put. I learned this lesson and changed my behavior. My husband started to pay more attention to me. I was so available before attention wise, he told me I needed to go out more. So I did and our relationship is much sexier.

@cladius2292

5 жыл бұрын

Sense of Peace nice 👍

@itoshii12345

Жыл бұрын

I agree. My husband told Me too. I believe we both need space

Love is not about chasing anyone. When you are in love then things flow in their own way. You don't need to do much efforts or ask other one to do for you. Cuz you naturally do things to make your lover happy n if in any case you are doing less than also it doesn't seems less to your partner cuz they know efforts n love n honesty matters more n vice versa. No judgement, chasing or confusion.

A man chased me. He got me. We were seeing each other. Whenever I wanted to take the next step he didn't want to. We would stop talking. I'd move on. He would resurface. I'd get hooked again. He'd get bored. I'd move on again. He would resurface. Now I'm moving on with a man who wants me everyday. Who wants to show me off to his family. I don't have time for men who don't know what they want

Please make videos every week .... we really love it .... and you are totally right in this video that's what happened to me .... thanks for this video and please make more one time in week

Trust me but not all men are like that. those men are shallows and there are men who are not. there are still men out there who want real relationship, who dont get bored easily and who know how to treat their women right. trust me but not all men are like that. those men are shallows and there are men who are not. there are still men out there who want real relationship, who dont get bored easily and who know how to treat their women right.

@tula__

5 жыл бұрын

Shekinah Dizon its not so straight. They’ll say they want you, would even marry you when the right time comes but they will ignore you after a relationship is established and fun goes down, things turn monotonous. Yet they won’t be straight with you. Who wants to miss the cake even if the icing has been eaten.

@8v71buses

5 жыл бұрын

Shekinah Dizon Agreed we still do exist out there that are honest, real, loyal and we don’t play games. Thanks for the compliment btw 😊

@cladius2292

5 жыл бұрын

Bunny it can happen when there is a relationship without real commitment.

His voice n energy is so calming. Ahhh I love it. ❤

I love the way u speek.. so positively.. speeking each and every word clearly.. confident.. u r literally a gud speaker and teacher.. love and blessings..

Excellent advice. Ladies may not like to hear it but it’s true

wrong....in the wild, everything runs, nothing wants to be eaten, no one is doing it for fun.....

@janiemiller825

5 жыл бұрын

Susan Ralph Great point 👏

@nurarich4945

5 жыл бұрын

Lol

You are truly wonderful thank you i will remember not to feel guilty My pride is my worth, to not loose my self . I will listen to this over and over until i get it right🌺

He has some very valuable and valid relationship thoughts to share. I use them. Some of us are listening to too many different relationship coaches and are now overwhelmed. Find one who ruffles your feathers or disturbs you a little with wisdom to offer and stick to them. Too many "cooks" (so to speak) spoil the soup. May God Bless us all in our ❤ healthy quest!!

This new relationship, sometimes I wont answer his call. Or if I miss a call from him, I wont return his call EVER. He's so crazy in 💘 with me that the poor guy cant stand it!

Guys compartmentalize, they don't realize right away that women are a great addition to their lives, not just another responsibilty to compartmentalize. I back off (just wait for them to figure it out) while I Live My Life! They always come back! And even if they don't...who cares?! Lol

@virginijar2907

5 жыл бұрын

@kathryn T How do you back off ? My boyfriend of one year is acting cold and stopped replying to my messages

@christinacataldi877

5 жыл бұрын

Kathryn T best advice right here!

@christinacataldi877

5 жыл бұрын

Virginija R hi Virginia, can you give me a little bit more context? What led up to his going cold??

@virginijar2907

5 жыл бұрын

I actually don't know , we haven't seen each other for almost three weeks, maybe I nagged him to much how I want to see him, when he was busy during that time? Though I apologized for that... but on our date he said he didn't slept well, was annoyed and later on when he got very cold said he is tired. Though we had a lovely goodbye, we kissed and he held me in his arms before he left. At evening he cancelled our plans for the weekend says he has to work repairing the house. Then yesterday he complete ignored my messages. Don't know what to do...

@Bomber411

5 жыл бұрын

Virginija R stop sending him messages and move on. Really move on.. get busy with something else. If he matters, he'll come back to you.. but you'll be busy. Don't reward his shitty behaviour with "I love you's" and "I miss you's". Tell him you have plans. Really have plans though... don't just say that. Go focus on you while he's focusing on whatever he's busy with.

If he loses interest. I back off and move on. Simple as that. It's simple when I get that "oh" moment.

Ugh. I’m gonna date woman . Then when you walk away from these men they cry like their limbs have been cut off.

@kreatorkrazy2423

4 жыл бұрын

Oh how broken you are.

@carinaa.6394

2 жыл бұрын

Haha. So true.

So is the chasing ever finished? It is impossible act like that in marriage and when you have a family is immature and stupid ?🤔

@Pdrum2

5 жыл бұрын

If a relationship established then no

@LadyofCleves65

5 жыл бұрын

No once you are married there is a commitment on both side or should be. This game is only in the beginning.

@christinacataldi877

5 жыл бұрын

Ela Dan according to the RULES by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider NO! It’s never over if you have a Masculine MAN. I’m convinced that if we can but learn the valuable lesson of losing ourselves first and foremost and staying true to our calling and purpose in this life and also learning the fine art of letting go (being willing to let the man depart whether that’s just emotional maybe even physical as in location in some cases) meanwhile getting back into your calling and center which is what initially attracted them to us in the first place it will keep things fresh and alive forever! Each time this happens we are reminded that we could find another partner too if we wanted and that we emanate something that attracts people both Male and female to us when we are in our passion and at peace. This also assists the man in also being reminded of your worth and value that you could easily be snatched away and it assists him in regrouping in his own psyche that helps to further solidify his personal assurance and determination to settle in his heart with you alone. And yes, I still think this dance continues into marriage until finally he is so certain that the frequency of this game/dance becomes less and less. We are the most complex in the animal kingdom and it’s actually rather fascinating and beautiful how man and woman become one flesh.

@maricam16

5 жыл бұрын

I am married to this dude and let me tell you....it NEVER ends...NEVER.

@maricam16

5 жыл бұрын

@@christinacataldi877 loved your reply. I definitely agree.

I want to cry! He was chasing me for a long time and when I fall for him he just left! I really hate that!

@Hopekayeny

5 жыл бұрын

Uyanga Battulga same here

@havrlxask1386

5 жыл бұрын

I feel youu, me too:((

@roshanaynisar8758

5 жыл бұрын

This has happened to me too. It's heartbreaking

@laurademan5200

5 жыл бұрын

Weĺl hes a fool. Not meaning to offend. And its good that he left. Cause you will meet a nice man who will treat so well.

@AlveMartins

5 жыл бұрын

Story of my Life :-)

Absolutely brilliant. Priceless advice. Thank you

act as if you donot care about the outcome of the relationship even if you are nervous because you think you love him and if it does not work hes not the right guy for you just go on with your life and never surrender to your feelings

Good info! We are all so complicated! I like love to be straight forward not this chasing and running. Having self esteem and valuing oneself is very important for all. Not all men selfishly try to get away with taking advantage of a woman but if they do, I feel they are not worth having. Rather be alone. ;*)

@dforcella

5 жыл бұрын

I also agree we need to have good boundries. We train others how to treat us by having healthy boundries.

This advice works! I did this years ago without any expert knowledge and I have been happily married for several years now. I look after my hubby and he looks after me. I also stay a little detached from him and I don’t go crazy with the lovey dovey stuff. He is always a bit worried that I might trade him for a better version. 😉 It’s good to keep them on their toes.

@TBMamba24

5 жыл бұрын

Helen Choudhury rule # 1 for men, never trust a woman who is really to cheat with you or leave another man for you. You will lose her the same way you got her. Also, you do have a expiration date on your look, you cannot trade up for over. There is always a younger better option around. A man can trade down to a younger and more attractive fertile woman as well. Just don’t play that game but man can play it too.

@HelenandLolly

5 жыл бұрын

TBMamba24 TBMamba24 What you say applies to both men and women. As both are capable of cheating and both can attract younger and more energetic partners. We need to move away from the sexist notions that women have a sell by date. If we believe that women are past it at a certain age than so are men. Not all men can attract younger women and a lot of men do not look great after a certain age. Women, nowadays are more financially independent and have more freedom of choice. I never mentioned cheating, playing games or trading in my hubby. It’s his fear that I might trade him for a better version. You may have misunderstood me. We have been happily married for many years now and if what I do works for our marriage, can help other couples, and is not hurting anyone than there should be no problems. 🙂

@12.kharismacitra65

5 жыл бұрын

Did Brian pay you for this?

I thank you, Geertz, for your work. Your videos helps me not only in my dating life, but in the other parts of my life as well (not a surprising, but very delightful fact). I find that your words at the end of this video present a wholesome admonition for everybody of us. So, I'm profoundly grateful to you ). Natalya from Russia

Never heard such a nice explaining of this topic! Very nice explained!!!!

Currently going through this and I never realized how much of myself I give up so quick... emotions and time being the biggest things I give up. Love really is blind :’( I need to get it together! Thanks for this video! 😊

@tinabone2801

7 ай бұрын

❤

This video was definitely made for those who like to chase women, soooooooooo this video is 'Not For Me Ever.' Not all good men, like myself, likes to chase women!!! Not trying to discredit this video or anything, but you were wrong on the part where 'If a woman fully gave herself to him, there would be no fun it, etc" (Paraphrasing here), according to my knowledge, it is an phenomenal experience for a woman to give herself to her man wholly rather then half, and of course vice versa. Would it be fair if you gave yourself half to her while she's giving you her full self all at one time? To be honest, this isn't fair at all. It is supposed to be reciprocated. For a person to hide themselves at a half percent of a hundred, then most likely that relationship will burn to bits and die out. My suggestion, be at your full, so that the other mate can feel comfortable instead of awkward.

@Dina-wx4ol

5 жыл бұрын

SoljaChild.....Chasing isn’t of God. When God created a man he created the woman for him. He did not create her to be chased after. A man knows what he wants.... if one has to chase something is wrong in his life..... and need to get their mind right but most importantly get their life right with God....

@Hopekayeny

5 жыл бұрын

I love your perspective but unfortunately it doesn't work in this generation. You have to be cold to get a man

@francineharris9473

Жыл бұрын

@@Hopekayeny all men are not the same and people are different, but a man that finds a wife finds a good thing., The problem here is what is he chasing you for is it because you have money, a car, only looks, is he lonely. Some men will chase you and then not want you after he get you, because he like the chase, On the other hand, this video I believe is talking about when you first meet someone and don’t really know them. We are not to allow ourselves to chase a man after knowing him more then he us. Some men will chase you to get into your panties, but this is not the real man If your not a cold person then this won’t work for you unless this is your makeup, and if you have to be cold unless that’s you then that is not the right man for you.

Thank you for talking about the amazing high value women having blind spots to their mistakes in dating, I relate to this, this video really helps, I just wish I had watched this some time ago. I really love this and your channel, need to get the books!!

Thank you so much Brian Nox! i needed to hear this today.

Thank you very much that is great advice neve forget how valuable we are if we don't value ourselves then who will. I love your videos

Thanks for saving my time

This was very helpful. Reminded me why I used to enjoy guys chasing me at school while I used to run away from them.

Tq so much man .love from India ,u told untold,unknown problems of women who blindly fall in love, the real value of woman. World needs more men like u.