Wow. I was being treated badly. I pleaded with my husband to change his ways. He didn’t change. I ended up leaving my husband, as hard as it was. Sadly he didn’t fight for me. Not at all. He watched me pack my things. He watched the removal truck arrive and take my furniture. He did nothing. That was 5 months ago. He has still done not one thing to win me back. As sad as it is, I know I did the right thing. I hope to one day find someone that truly values me... ❤️

@shorts-gc3bp

3 жыл бұрын

Oh my. So terribly sorry about that. How are you now?

@truelove6614

3 жыл бұрын

bless you love

@rachelcoffman849

3 жыл бұрын

You will find someone who deserves you. ❤️

@sharons9284

3 жыл бұрын

I hope you're living your best life now, and never look back 💗

@donnasidey

3 жыл бұрын

Hi guys, it’s now been 13 months since my hubby and I separated... I am happy to say that I have met a lovely guy who treats me well and sees my value!! So glad things are working out for me! I’m still glad I made the choice to leave my hubby. He was never going to see my value. Now I’ve met someone who really appreciates me ❤️❤️❤️😊😊😊

No matter how smart intelligent rich hot popular he is,if he is not there for u then he is COMPLETELY USELESS -dump him

@kali8948

6 жыл бұрын

Maya T ironically they r none of that and they still try to USE respectful people and they actually think they r smarter because you r observing their games they actually think they WON some inexistant games that they were playing alone

@Sugreeka7999

6 жыл бұрын

Ironic dea

@sarahfara1539

5 жыл бұрын

Mali Ali Hahaha, true, I've let guys step on my toes who were neither more smart nor more attractive than me or anything else that would make them particularly "great guys" just because I had this naive belief that everybody is good and loving deep down inside and that I could somehow work it out with them - such bullshit...and I agree for them even being proud about winning their crappy games, such losers :P

@aparnadutta3487

5 жыл бұрын

Like tht

@lizziesjournal6194

5 жыл бұрын

He has everything that i could ask for as a guy but he is not there the time i need him the most instead he just ignores my messages and it really hurting me so much....

I just broke it off with the man i love because he didn’t make time for me. It was so hard and i’m broken. But i’m here just to know that everything will be okay.

@shaylabaker3026

4 жыл бұрын

Same. Everything will be ok

@marjoriebostwick5140

4 жыл бұрын

I have done the same thing. I love him but he is a workaholic and won't compromise to make "us" a priority.

@evilsudoku8084

4 жыл бұрын

Same...I feel so worthless to him..

@sharonguillen8300

4 жыл бұрын

Wow I thought I was the only one going through something like this and was being over dramatic. I did the same 😢

@leahc8347

4 жыл бұрын

You are so brave and strong for doing the right thing for yourself 😭❤💕

Girls if he ignores u break up with him and concentrate on your career because it is the only time you can concentrate fully on your career.

@raji1121

4 жыл бұрын

Wth out any reason , ignoring is very paining u know ? Need to say a specific reason .. if he / she before ignoring a person .. Should tell their problem , if they r not interested now , they r getting bored now , Like these. .. type of such reason should have to know ? Before ignoring

@sristigurung7354

3 жыл бұрын

Oh yes

@starshake8998

3 жыл бұрын

@@raji1121 -- I don't think we are referring to a one-off event, but a chronic pattern of ignoring one' partner. If he is doing it all the time, it doesn't really matter why. It's not a relationship. Breaking up simply makes the existing reality official.

@Esmeanie

3 жыл бұрын

@@raji1121 I was ghosted not long ago and I can say, yes it does hurt but then it is a blessing in disguise even if they leave with no explanation. Leaving without saying anything just means they just didnt like you and value you. Simple. Just let it be, forgive them, and move on. Someone else will come along and value you. I know my worth and I wont tolerate dwelling on that behavior. Its not worth the time and energy.

@ashimakahouli748

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!!🌹

Everything is very easy, no one will ignore you, if they love you. Ladies please, respect yourself more.....

@boostupvibes572

4 жыл бұрын

True buddy

@claudiacastillo5898

4 жыл бұрын

It’s not lack of self respect, that’s rude!

@feliciakidd9358

4 жыл бұрын

Yes love yourself. Forget him 😄

@Hannah-hz2lf

3 жыл бұрын

It’s just so hard...after 8 years I can’t move on... He hurt me so bad... he left me all alone

@Lunadewitches

3 жыл бұрын

It's hard when u already married no matter he love u or not u just find it's hard to divorce

When a man does not see your true value...hes not for you! 🤤

@kelleybright3113

4 жыл бұрын

Period

@beaver8833

4 жыл бұрын

Hes not for anybody

@missanonoymous7829

4 жыл бұрын

@@beaver8833 exactly.

@Luti.balparda

4 жыл бұрын

That's all

@Doglover-qc1uo

4 жыл бұрын

Even when you are just friends and haven’t done anything sexual or romantic bc you don’t usually get those feelings for guys?

I loved how He ended: “always behave like high valued woman” sadly some man will do anything to degrade us and it is up to us to not to allow that.

"Everything we want is on the other side of fear."

@loredanamunteanu5834

4 жыл бұрын

The perfect frase !!

@AhsokaTano101

3 жыл бұрын

Best quote I've seen all day

@jayvondah8373

3 жыл бұрын

POW that sentence just hit me hard, thanks

@anndelacruz1986

3 жыл бұрын

Wowwww! 💯 Agree

@TrendingBeninMovies

3 жыл бұрын

I love that statement

It’s been more than 3 months since I made the decision to let him go. He has not called me. I missed him but it is clear I’m not important to him and for that reason, I don’t want him in my life anymore.

@Sarahh_

4 жыл бұрын

You go girl ! It’s hard but you’ll thank yourself later

@armtz

4 жыл бұрын

It’s been 1 year now since I stopped all communication with him. What has happened during all this time? you may ask... well, I went back to college and finally graduated and 6 months ago, I was offered my dream job!

@Sarahh_

4 жыл бұрын

@@armtz when you start doing you , amazing things happen and you start attracting the best in life. Happy for you! I wish all of us women would not let a man occupy our emotions. but gosh its so hard. :(

@nanc2236

4 жыл бұрын

Ana R Martinez you are so strong WOW IM SO PROUD OF YOU. I will definitely take this as inspiration 🥺

@nanc2236

4 жыл бұрын

sarah it definitely is hard😣

"We accept the love that we think we deserve"

@mythradevi8779

4 жыл бұрын

Right word

@leandresmith8046

4 жыл бұрын

Sarah Joanne Nobbs I even loved that film!! One of the best quotes ever

@hmachhuanisailo5430

4 жыл бұрын

The perks of being a wallflower love this quote

@medha.mukherjee

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah and now I left him because I know I deserve so much better

@hhamsa3363

2 жыл бұрын

Or there is no love in the first place i guess

told my boyfriend what he said during a phone conversation the night before hurt my feelings. he suddenly had amnesia and said he doesn't remember him saying what he did and that i'm just being dramatic and that i'm starting shit and i'm no fun. no apology at all, played the victim all day and tomorrow is my birthday. i have decided to be with people that value and respect me instead.

@plejaren1

3 жыл бұрын

Narcissist- look it up on youtube- they all do the same thing. and call you "dramatic"

@plejaren1

3 жыл бұрын

Narcissist- look it up on youtube- they all do the same thing. and call you "dramatic"

@plejaren1

3 жыл бұрын

Narcissist- look it up on youtube- they all do the same thing. and call you "dramatic"

@everydayisnew1831

3 жыл бұрын

Yup. Narcissistic. Run away. Deal with possible Codependency issues you may have been because you attracted that type of guy. Cocoon, shed, then emerge like a 🦋 in the noonday 🌞. I'm doing that too! Much love Sister 😍

@Jaxmusicgal23

2 жыл бұрын

Mine does this all the time.

Girls, if he doesn't see your true value, then walk away. Never settle for less because you deserve the best. Never lower your standards just to meet theirs. Believe me sis, you'll only hurt yourself soon. I've been there, done that. It just only means they do not respect you enough. So girls, respect yourself and never settle for that kind of man. Never chase them. The right man will never run. 😗

@alinasokolov3657

Жыл бұрын

Yes!!!

@Pipsterz

Жыл бұрын

*"Never lower your standards just to meet theirs."* Truth Maria - Preach!! ❤️

@loveformyfurryangels6765

Жыл бұрын

In India specially for middle class people it won't be easy

It’s called a karmic relationship. Those kinds of relationships you can’t fix because they aren’t meant to work in the first place. They are meant to help you see the internal work that needs to be done & to prepare you for the one you’re meant for. As long as you aren’t learning the lesson, the next person will be same/similar situation, different face. Point blank. When you allow, when you take someone back, it shows them that you are accepting of certain behavior. Has nothing to do with being a forgiving person for the sake of being forgiving. Especially when a pattern comes into play. As a woman, you need to teach your man how to respect you the same as you would teach your son how to respect girls. When behavior is tolerated, it continues.

@komalafzal8004

6 жыл бұрын

Celisse Willis couldn't agree more.

@KK-xk1qc

6 жыл бұрын

Yep!!!

@KK-xk1qc

6 жыл бұрын

You got to train them!

@tshepisoramzzy2810

6 жыл бұрын

Wow thanks... I've been going through same thing over and over again probably because i never learn. Recently took my ex boyfriend back and this is our fourth relationship but he continues to take me for granted...disrespect me in every possible way. Two days ago i left him...feels good though sometimes i miss him

@cherylmcleod6088

6 жыл бұрын

Celisse Willis Amen PREACH GIRL... APPLAUSES

Is it just me or are the men these days just not up to parr?

@SR77736

6 жыл бұрын

airplainchild a lot of the are crappy. They complain about dating women out their league then become bitter.

@aasmshsohbat1873

6 жыл бұрын

Agree. Women are more like "REAL MEN" than men are nowadays. 💪

@alicialiew3594

6 жыл бұрын

airplainchild many guys in asia only see appearance. They r not real men.

@Honeymagmangospoof

6 жыл бұрын

airplainchild it’s not you honey. It’s these men. They’re complacent and take us for granted because it’s easier to do it these days.

@lyndiex4215

6 жыл бұрын

airplainchild you are soooooo right. smh what I have noticed in the last five yrs: ALOT OF GUYS WALKIN AROUND WITH MANCHILD SYNDROME!!!!!!!! Arrogant...narc jerkoffs. This is what happens when people come from broken homes, experience neglect, abuse etc...Arrested development is NO JOKE. Finding somebody who is decent...humble..n NOT A HEADCASE with mommy issues, smh like tryna find a needle n haystack now! Happily single😁

High value and high caliber woman are busy and productive they don't deserve lazy and clown guys.

@sarahgregorio4442

3 жыл бұрын

AMEN

@Nokss87

3 жыл бұрын

Being busy doesn't make you valuable. It makes you busy. 😁😁😁

I just broke up with my boyfriend becoz he makes me feel bad about myself, he puts me down, and blame me.

@titikshyakashyap3073

4 жыл бұрын

Same here 😭

@msmery2290

4 жыл бұрын

@@titikshyakashyap3073 be strong. 😍

@danaj50

4 жыл бұрын

If we don’t think we are worth it how will they

@nicolegray608

4 жыл бұрын

Same, but I feel better already. Being able to be myself and not dealing with his constant mood swings and blame.

@summerluvkisses

4 жыл бұрын

Same here i feel like im a scapegoat

I cant stop myself from crying... it hurts so bad when you real love someone and he takes you for granted.. i just cant see the other men because i was focusing on one man....... He stop communicating with me for no reason and when i ask him what is the problem he said nothing and keeps on pretending as if He is the victim......Thanks a lot for the video I am going to face him and end this kind of relation.

@nenetcarbaquil8534

5 жыл бұрын

Same situation

@neen9438

5 жыл бұрын

You will be fine. Be strong. Better alone than the man that aren t man anymore. Take it from an old one with many wrong man. 😘

@BlackMagic1222

5 жыл бұрын

stellah edmund I feel for you as I’m going through the same. It’s so painful.

@dwdw9325

5 жыл бұрын

stellah edmund you sound like me. I need someone to talk to badly. my husband is like this. never take real ownership

@lisalee789

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly my current situation 😔

It gets to a point when you stop caring. But I gave it my all. And he didnt care. I stopped.

@Hoops590

6 жыл бұрын

Bam!

@cherylmcleod6088

6 жыл бұрын

Mel Rose U did right...hes probably got options or use to women catering to him...Why buy the cow when you can get free milk

@taramyers9799

6 жыл бұрын

Mel Rose I hope you left or made him leave. You’re better off, believe me.

@intentionalgreatness

6 жыл бұрын

The less you care, the more they will.

@marvelouslymelrose3518

6 жыл бұрын

intentionalgreatness by that time. Im done. Nothing left for me to give. Unfortunately

“You are worth it and everything you want is on the other side of fear” beautifully said

My boyfriend keeps looking at other women and I just get tired of seeing it happen and he just lies about it. Not only that he doesn’t like to talk things out

@alexandra2536

3 жыл бұрын

He is a narcissist !

@IwasBlueb4

3 жыл бұрын

SAME...IVE GONE NO CONTACT...IM SICK OF HIS BEHAVIOUR AND ABUSE TOO

@yasmin-zo7dm

2 жыл бұрын

my boyfriend loves me

@JULemonz1

2 жыл бұрын

I deal with the exact same thing and mine told me that he wasn't attracted to my type of physique which I'm not even that bad I'm a little chunky but he lies all the time and definitely doesn't feel like he's interested sexually at all very very boring definitely a narcissist but I'm going to make sure I lose this last 20 lb right before he goes to jail for the next year and a half and it'll be a big hot in his face

@margiestephens7281

2 ай бұрын

Sounds familiar.. .. .. ..

The problem with this is that once they've won you back, they revert to taking you for granted again. I had a relationship like this. I split from him many times and he would always put in masses of effort to win me back but when I went back to him he would soon start undervaluing me again. Eventually, the relationship ended, and I was glad it ended.

@MR-cz9li

6 жыл бұрын

muskndusk sounds like narcissistic PD behavior. He won you back to "win", not bc he truly cared. You are worth more.

@muskndusk

6 жыл бұрын

M Buttitta Thank you, I hadn't considered that, I always thought he did it because he wanted sex. You're probably right, he was just stroking his ego by proving he could get me back. That was a long time ago. I don't let men treat me like that anymore.

@MR-cz9li

6 жыл бұрын

muskndusk well the best news of all is that you don't allow men to treat you that way anymore! I'll never allow it again either. I never set out to become an expert in narcissistic personality disorder or abusive men but I had to to survive it... And boy what I have learned along the way

@nicolettefrench6983

6 жыл бұрын

muskndusk Unfortunately they want the Chase always keep them guessing

@tshepisoramzzy2810

6 жыл бұрын

True...i can relate. I left him.

One day they will end up worse for hurting the person that loved them the most!

@lordsith952

4 жыл бұрын

Vanny L me. I was with my ex for 7 years. I was deeply in love with him. He broke my heart 4 months ago and now hes living and dating his co-worker with her son

@boostupvibes572

4 жыл бұрын

True

I have literally been on a roller coaster ride with this man I’m dating. He makes me feel so unimportant and a benchwarmer that he has waiting on the side. I’m tired of feeling so insecure and used! I CHOOSE ME!

@drjohnsonhungwell5115

4 жыл бұрын

Dom T Why do women take a man who does value them and treat him like dirt but stick like mud to the man he's describing ?

@syrenaxhaferi7278

4 жыл бұрын

@@drjohnsonhungwell5115 i'm a rude biatch to men....i give them a hint....and they take it and leave

@syrenaxhaferi7278

4 жыл бұрын

looks like you want his validation and he knows, and he will never give it to you because you may not really love him, you just want to prove you are good enough...may be related to something else in your psyche....if your having sex and committed and that aint enough f-him....a woman giving her body is saying i trust you wont kill me with stds and you will protect me....how many men do that....I have never met one that could be consistent for more than 2 years...

@drjohnsonhungwell5115

4 жыл бұрын

@@syrenaxhaferi7278 Most of the ones I've met were like that so I don't bother with it or even trying to meet them it's really a waste of time and if a man happens to "win" a woman he actually hasn't won anything except trouble and drama so , I just focus on myself now and my work

@DiamondsRexpensive

4 жыл бұрын

@@drjohnsonhungwell5115to answer your question. I can't speak for everyone but generally women don't want a nice guy, they want a kind guy. There is a difference. Someone who is nice isn't genuine. Someone who is kind is. But he also has to be more masculine than the woman he is with, otherwise it won't work. Masculine as in takes the lead in the dance. The chicks who are attracted to bums who treat them bad have issues that they need to resolve before they can move on to better people and things, hopefully. Some women destroy their lives (and children) chasing bums, and I have witnessed it, more than once.

Yes, I made the big mistake of making his time, energy, wants, needs and opinions more important than my own and the result was he never ever saw my true self/value. As dr phil would say "you train people how to treat you". Lesson learned!

@embracedchimera5886

2 жыл бұрын

what i cant stand are these things are instilled in what they call culture! i kept calling it cultural differences but in his culture women SERVE men and put themselves last if at all and he LOVES that and expects it. ironically those cultures adore and worship their mothers but HATE women. i cant get it at all. makes me sick.

Guys are lazy, they don't bother with high value women, they just have to log on to tinder and have attention from 20 desperate low value women. Just work on yourself and spend time with friends=bliss

@onyxsafira2813

4 жыл бұрын

i'm so tired of dealing w/males that dont expend the effort and lay back and like you said log on to fb! because theyre addicted to getting attention from too many girls lined up to get hearts and male validation. Not fun the stress worry of girls coming in flirting w/him on fb! Can you say immature and ego-driven. I need a guy thats anti- technology that is definitely not on social media!

@lizzarts

4 жыл бұрын

Every woman has value, there no such thing as low value people lol

@sansadrake4133

4 жыл бұрын

@@onyxsafira2813 These men are obviously lacking if all they're after is attention from random women. You should want a man who has value himself and is a deep human being.

@onyxsafira2813

4 жыл бұрын

@@sansadrake4133 Agreed...'deep' someone w/substance/integrity! and doesnt live on fb/his phone! Its enough competition in the real world from othr females but to have to deal w/that on social media ruins any chance of peace ;(

@sansadrake4133

4 жыл бұрын

@@onyxsafira2813 Yeh exactly. A high value woman will move on and not compete for a man anyway. Always live by that. Personally I find social media kind of boring, I'm on it but prefer to form genuine friendships/connections with people outside in the real world.

Maybe the man is a narcissist and he loves seeing you hurt!!

@thewolf14

4 жыл бұрын

I had to study npd stats in uni over and over. Wont date males

@crystalclimenhage7159

4 жыл бұрын

Then u have to RUN and dissappear

@dollyrama1132

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@nicoladouglas3270

4 жыл бұрын

All great love should start with yourself!!!!! I love me!!!! Who you love!!!!!

@DiamondsRexpensive

4 жыл бұрын

@@thewolf14 there are narcissist women too, you know... Narcissism isn't exclusive to men, duh.

Ladies, men are truly lost without us. The only reason why they work out, practice proper hygiene or have good manners is because of us! Please remember that when you lose yourself trying to impress him or be the man in the relationship! And don't let his blindness to your greatness affect your self-esteem.

@rainsara2795

2 жыл бұрын

He stopt being all those things, dude stinks

THIS is an an amazing video. Everything he said was like he was talking directly to me, to wake me up. The saddest part is I’m wide awake, but have STILL allowed him to disrespect me in the worst ways. I’m on day 6 of no contact which I initiated. He knows what he has to do to have a chance with me again...I’m going through a lot & my heart hurts, but what hurts worse is knowing I’ve allowed someone to treat me with no respect & pushed my boundaries that no one else would have been allowed to do. I have extremely low self respect & self esteem because I allowed this & wasted so much time. I have lost myself in this relationship & I decided that I have to find me again. Thank you for this video!

@sherribyrd7130

3 жыл бұрын

What I’m praying for is that EVEN if he comes back, I’ll realize he doesn’t deserve me after all he’s done to me. I pray that I’ll eventually feel nothing for him except the best for him...without me. I know someone is looking for me & when I heal, I know “he’ll show up & show me why it never worked with anyone else!”

@goteamgocrestwoodreddevils1482

2 жыл бұрын

@@sherribyrd7130Hi Sherri? I'm just watching this 11-30-21 I hope you are doing well no matter the path you chose. Your post went straight to my heart please know that you are thought of ❤️💪

@samanthawilliams5520

2 жыл бұрын

Breaking your rules is a red flag. I’ve been here the way you’ve described. As the giver, the flow is in our control so we have to take accountability to the extent we don’t put ourselves in harms way. Love is blinding so learning to see the driving dynamics that puts us in a hurtful relationship is the answer to being in the desired relationship.

I felt this in my throat. I'm literally holding back tears

@mariyamasmaa4053

4 жыл бұрын

Same 😔

@cathrineagatha114

3 жыл бұрын

Last night he broke up with me said he isnt sure with his feeling..i was so calm and collected and let him go. It hurts alot but im just like nothing i can do tho. So ya

@janedoe5510

3 жыл бұрын

@@cathrineagatha114 I love your attitude about this. His lose, hopefully he gets it together imagine going through life not being sure about how you feel 😖

@pampamdnf3422

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@antonietamendoza6677

3 жыл бұрын

I'm one more enjoying the club, yesterday it happened to me

I am in my fifty's and never married and walked away from a two year relationship because he didn't see my value.

@thewolf14

4 жыл бұрын

I dream daily of singlehood. :( Money...

@elbacepeda7134

4 жыл бұрын

I'm am 50 and spent the last 33 yrs playing Bob The Builder to my son's father. I know now it's not my responsibility to fix anyone but myself.

@kelleybright3113

4 жыл бұрын

Goodjob

@cinnamonbun5161

4 жыл бұрын

Strong woman. Your strong man is coming real soon. Since you no longer put up with BS , the dusties fall to the wayside.

@sonalisharma1529

4 жыл бұрын

I'm inspired Stephanie. You have a really strong personality. Love you ♥️

To my lady friends; ask yourself what exactly you ‘love’ about a man who doesn’t treat you well? Who is not there for you? Who cheats ? Who gaslights? Who is disrespectful? Who doesn’t VALUE YOU? Write a list of the real reasons you think you love him .... you will probably see that you were led along with a false narrative from the start. That he did things to reel you in and convince you that you loved him, wanted him, even thought you couldn’t live without him. The real challenge is in being honest with yourself… Getting real with how you feel in your gut about this person that you think you love. Be courageous enough to put yourself and your children first. It’s better to be alone, than to wish you were.

One day, Karma hit them, where they actually deserve.

@michellewall6748

3 жыл бұрын

Let’s hope so!

I changed my number nobody like that can contact me again. I pick and choose who is worthy of me, I'm in control!!

@Hoops590

6 жыл бұрын

i can tell you really mean that God bless you!

@tshepisoramzzy2810

6 жыл бұрын

KIM JACKSON i like you girl your attitude might assist me

@nonamestars4971

6 жыл бұрын

i wann to go also cause am 10 years stock in here .I dont know what to do am not from this country

@KK-xk1qc

6 жыл бұрын

no name stars i cant help you there, no nothing about that

@FreedomofSpeech865

5 жыл бұрын

Yassss! Block and delete here

Been in a relationship for 5 yrs and treats me like the maid. He always goes on vacation without me with his "man" friends and never takes me away. I'm so done & its time to goooooo...

@adriannapatterson9899

6 жыл бұрын

Jaja Sang Runnnnn. You are Way better than this!!!!! Perhaps he likes men, OR going on these types of vacations with men to be with women. I would let him feel the brunt of his disrespectful, callous, asinine and childish behavior! Leave and heal from this, and above all learn from it. Do You for a while, and be glad that you did.

@phayaolem5885

5 жыл бұрын

Oh dang girl. Run! And don't look back!!!

@shraddha_pant

5 жыл бұрын

Dump him. Let him pay the price.

@cinnamonbun5161

5 жыл бұрын

girl he is probbly gay. what man wants to room up with a dude every vacation when he has a woman he can get some from???

@audreyrose_1979

5 жыл бұрын

relateeeee

When he said, "You must have mistaken me for someone else." The magic words! *He will either bring it. *Or he is not worth fighting for.

The answer starts at 5:46

@adelegrandfanm6059

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you

I believed all his excuses. When I started to stand up for myself he discarded me. Best thing he ever did for me.

@margomazzeo1680

4 жыл бұрын

Its coming..

@crystalclimenhage7159

4 жыл бұрын

Thats a narcissist

😢😢😢😥😥am always unlucky with men.. I feel better on my own.. Tired of tolerating nonsense

@christabarrett1029

4 жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you!..men need to @$#@# off!!..like seriously. 😂🤣 now I know why men are with women..ha ha...😃

@lilmammas5661

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@saraa7075

4 жыл бұрын

😩 i always feel so unlucky n actually feel so great single sometimes I think to myself that may be that what I deserve n at times I believe I'll meet the right one someday

@jazamasita7277

4 жыл бұрын

I feel you...

@debashreeatri9621

3 жыл бұрын

So me..im so tired

" I want to be treated differently" is such straight forward empowering statement for self representation!

Excellent! When I went no contact right before my birthday I decided I had to take my social life into my own hands. When he finally apologized I had a whole new life in place and there wasn’t much space left for him. I told him straight out that if we’re going to spend time together we better both be enjoying it because otherwise there are many other things I would like to be doing. Before I would just spend time with him regardless of the fact that I would get upset just about every time. He was never willing to discuss or resolve issues. Very self-centered. Now says he sees that I don’t need him. That’s the best way to be in a relationship. Not because you need someone but because they add value to your life and because spending time with them benefits you more than anything else you could be doing at that moment.

Thank you! My man is treating me with distance and is also short with me for no apparent reason. So, if its distance he wants, its distance he gets!

What i noiticed is that people usually "change" for a short while to get You back, once they do they are coming back to their old habits... so it really doesn't matter that he will buy few times flowers, or wash your car or make a foot massage come on! Few days/weeks/months later everything will come back to its old original version. Period. Sorry for my english if i made some mistakes or something but it's not my original language

@caseyjobobh8254

5 жыл бұрын

That's good you can speak another language, I wish I could :)

@denisefritch9960

5 жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you!

@NikkoYM

5 жыл бұрын

agree: you need to watch their patterns.

@akikoxavier2806

4 жыл бұрын

Yes you are really 100% right..thats what my husband and i really want to leave him as soon us possible..but i cnt do now its bcoz of Covid19

@nicolemarie011

4 жыл бұрын

You're correct. Unless the other person puts in the work to change and wants to change from their disrespecting and nasty ways it doesn't matter if you leave and come back 100x, they won't change.

A man ignores my value, I’m not saying anything, but I will be touching “block” 😒

@olaabu

2 жыл бұрын

Yep we block..No time for nonsense.

"Maybe their hamster is suffering from a depression & has stopped running around it's wheel."🤣🙌🏽👍🏼

@monikamirowska5365

3 жыл бұрын

I love his sense of humor😂

@kaoshi_kutie

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

Don't contact him anymore but block him because they all come back!!!! MOVE ON!!!!

@lucille1173

5 жыл бұрын

it's actually true and ridiculous but yes, they all come back. but then it's already too late

@sarahfara1539

5 жыл бұрын

True, but I can't say that it wouldn't give me a little bit of satisfaction to see them crawling back, so I will block them AFTER that event, lol

@Lolas93

5 жыл бұрын

i agree with you

@KK-xk1qc

5 жыл бұрын

@@lucille1173 I love telling them, I got someone else even off I don't.

@denisefritch9960

5 жыл бұрын

I agree with you Kim

People who do not see our value are less important. EXCELLENT !

"Everything we want is on the other side of fear". Thank you!💟

I have been trying for a year to get a man I care for to see my value. My gut told me early on and something was off, but my mind played the game of he will come around, etc. Finally done after expressing my needs many times. No fighting for me...very telling.

@syrenaxhaferi7278

4 жыл бұрын

maybe he is gay or bi; if you have the money time and desire you can hire a p.i private eye and find out; i got my ex to slip up a few times admitting going to gay bars had a gay hair dresser who was one of his best friendsthat did his hair, he thinks transexuals are admirable .....but he's not bi/ gay okay okay....lol; thank god i never slept with the fool, and he never let me know where he lived yet he would want to come over to my apartment.....he was a big weirdo

Its not that they ignore its more that they wont give recognition to your high value because it makes them feel inferior...If you are a smart alert cookie like me...you often see this.

@sallydames5867

3 жыл бұрын

That's very true! Such coward men

@InshasChoice

3 жыл бұрын

Apparently it's condescending and you're a 'know it all'. He'll lowkey be calling you stupid

@rewireyourfire

2 жыл бұрын

@@InshasChoice which is pure projection from him. Lol

It's better to be single than to hve that kind of behavior of man✌✌

@lastchance1101

5 жыл бұрын

Cherry paz trust me be single thats way better you dont want to go through this shit i am so you dont have to

@RealityxFairytale

5 жыл бұрын

But the most of the times, they show this behavior later on.

@lizzarts

4 жыл бұрын

Having a relationship with the right man for you is amazing

@RealityxFairytale

4 жыл бұрын

@@lizzarts but the "right" one doesn't need to come in your life like ever. And he can be right just for a period of time. 🙂 but I think that keeps the life interesting. Somebody who shows you different things at different parts in your life. Options to see life from different points of view.

@lizzarts

4 жыл бұрын

@@RealityxFairytale totally agree

... 'you should see the scars on my heart...' this man is so hilarious... I can't get enough of you Brian!

Had this conversation with my husband today and eventually I ended up saying “ This relationship isn’t working for me anymore and I hope you understand “ he didn’t say a word. Just sat down and started watching tv 🤣

@Cleverbotplayer

Жыл бұрын

Oh no... I had the same talk with my boyfriend. He said nothing. He sat down to watch KZread and eat cereal... How did things develop for you?

@abdulkareemaisha3569

Жыл бұрын

I'm also in the same situation now😢 the problem is I have children for him , and I don't know what to do

@spyroluver0951

9 ай бұрын

have you gone to a psych together? Marriage councellors? Talked to married people?

It's not our fault people are just not nice these days. They are just selfish

@cinnamonbun5161

5 жыл бұрын

yep. true story with the narc ex I lived with. I made dinner for our family (normal, not low value thing to do, we all have to eat). Him: This crap is too oily! I cant eat this shit! (leaves and stays out to 7 in the morning). First time I messed up a meal and he blew up on me like he couldn't just order out, all because i had a kid and i couldnt back out. That sums up what you said about selfish mean people. FOr the record i did leave him with our baby the next day but had to come back because we lived there! my moneys all tied up in the home! These judgy ppl act like we're just supposed to walk away and be homeless over some BS when he can just NOT do the BS in the first place! I cant stop a grown man from acting like an abusive creep. All I can do is make the best decision for me at that moment until I can get out safely. Then wanna call us low value because a loser is abusive like it CANT happen to them too. smh.

@WouldntULikeToKnow.

5 жыл бұрын

@@cinnamonbun5161 I hope you got out! If not, keep hiding money away and ask for help.

@kiransodi2011

4 жыл бұрын

Seriously

@rafaellablinker9440

4 жыл бұрын

@@cinnamonbun5161 i hope you left him already, but if you didnt, save as much money as you can and plan your escape. If you continue to live in such enviroment you will be destroyed mentally and emotionally and maybe physically after some time. Dont allow it. You need to be in a healthy state when you leave so you have the strenght to take care of yourself and your child. Keep your head up, dont believe the hurtful things he says to you because they are just a reflection of his own hurt soul, and i wish you the best of luck❤

We train people how to treat us

@Hoops590

6 жыл бұрын

right

@pharahsaintlouis3436

5 жыл бұрын

I agree 100%

@TheSandrafabian

5 жыл бұрын

Hyun Joo Kim, You are correct! I tell my kids that. We practice it.

@FreedomofSpeech865

5 жыл бұрын

Some people can't be taugh, leave!

@helenasousa9037

5 жыл бұрын

@@FreedomofSpeech865 That's the truth. Some people don't want commitment just sex . Both man and woman . Leave if you want something serious .

When you take that risk & make HIM less important either 1. You dodge a bullet or 2. He tries to fight for you by coming over & painting your room pink Either way, it's a win win situation. You cannot lose in this case. I needed this. Looking at it both ways, there's no reason to be sad & depressed.

@moni_que9427

3 жыл бұрын

Oh shit. No lie he painted my house yellow lol

This video is so on point for my life right now. My ex and I just got back together after months of being a part. I had high expectations of change and nothing changed. As much fun as we have together, I still left feeling undervalued. I had to walk away again and he didn’t really care at all. Thanks for the great points.

100% true! If he doesn't fight for me, then it's Next!

"Everything we want is on the other side of fear" ❤

@momlife5011

4 жыл бұрын

💕💕💕

Thank you for being a decent human being and for helping those of us who have been groomed to believe we deserve less than common decency.

I was intrigued when he pulled up the book that said “fuck him” ok I’m listening 🙋‍♀️

"Everything we want is on the other side of fear". Wow! That was deep and can be easily be applied to other avenues of our lives outside of relationships. Again...thank you!

@Fefe8484

6 жыл бұрын

Elle Elaine exactly what I said... it makes you think

@unwillingpstar-cluster9652

6 жыл бұрын

" Everything we want is on the other side of fear" Best comment on here is yours. The quote sums it up perfectly. But that fear is a tough nut to Crack.

Excellent advice. My biggest problem is always giving them too many chances and wanting them to change but they don’t so I end up wasting years on them.

@genevievepineda2600

6 жыл бұрын

Reta Lane yep. I hear ya.

@luanab6789

5 жыл бұрын

One day, we wake up and realize years have gone by. 😞

@wenzmeetup8643

5 жыл бұрын

After strike three i say we can just date and I'm going to continue to date other men and spend time with friends.

@GWMCake

5 жыл бұрын

This guy I'm talking to has a gf. But he is talking to me because "he wants to know me more" I don't understand

@denisefritch9960

5 жыл бұрын

Reta you can never change bad habits and behaviors but you have to have the strength to walk away. I married a cheater and I tried to make it work but the true colors came right back after 5/12 months. I divorced him and took care of myself and my respect for myself

Thank you Brian! This really helped me during this quarantine Coronavirus time. I’ve been in a long distance relationship with a guy - and today he said something to me which was just extremely hurtful! I’m done with men who are crying babies about their past relationship and dumps all their shit on high value strong women like me. I’m out!

“Everything you want is on the other side of fear” I have this tattooed ! Thank you for this video this was the message I needed

It's been my experience that if they treat you badly at the beginning and you give them a chance to win you back... eventually they will fall back to taking you for granted. Because love is blind, by the time you see how bad he's treating you... it's bad! Dump him and move on or keep him as a boy toy! He's definitely Mr Right Now, not Mr Right Forever. With love 💜 from sunny 🌞 Arizona 🌵

@KellieDoll28

6 жыл бұрын

Suzi SaintJames Amen to that, sister!! 🤗🤗🤗

@CuriousCat777

6 жыл бұрын

No don’t keep him as a boy toy. That’s dangerous territory. Sex is designed to make you attached to the other person. Don’t mess with that.

@kyvministries

6 жыл бұрын

Yes...he is telling you he is a idiot right off the bat...so no...that's the end of that

@denisefritch9960

5 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏 Suzi!

@mifasola1

5 жыл бұрын

But if you keep him as a boy toy and he STILL isn't responding as you expect it's back to the same old thing.

Don’t ignore red flags 😊 Great video!

Amen everything he said is true. I finally come to a decision. It’s going to hurt for a while, but I know my value and I’m not going to let someone make me feel invaluable! 😢😢😢

"Everything we want is on the other side of fear." -- I love that.

Never put yourself in a situation where your value is unappreciated. It's okay to show your love but don't allow if he didn't reciprocate your effort because a relationship is about partnership.

@intentionalgreatness

6 жыл бұрын

A New Love Official yep! There's a lot of women who have loved but not been in reciprocal relationships.

Just dropped him yesterday caught up with him cheating on me with four other women!😨😱😤😠😡kicked him straight to the curve went and got tested ☝️💯

@vanessatejeda8678

4 жыл бұрын

Butterfly if you got tested get another in 6 months because you don’t know how long he’s been doing plus if he done it few days back on your last sexual encounter with him

@chynatoxic3138

4 жыл бұрын

Girl im with my man child have 5 kids after 10 yeras still going and i know for certin he seeing other bitxhes its very hard i cant break whyyyyyy????

@nadiawoods6137

4 жыл бұрын

@@chynatoxic3138 you can first step is to acknowledge that you deserve better. Next step leave and build you and your children

@tiny1174

4 жыл бұрын

I told my boyfriend someone was bothering me he said dont mind them i thought he would get upset and help but oh well

@badgalruth

4 жыл бұрын

Vanessa Tejeda thank you so much. I got retested up to a year altogether.

I feel so safe watching this. Made the break last year September and have been moving forward with healing. Felt like a death breaking away, still hurts. But I feel safe in my journey to self love x

I believe all women should know their Worth, and value themselves with respect and love. I felt this way, and I’m choosing to walk away. If He realizes one day, who I am, awesome, if He doesn’t, that’s okay🙏

Went through this with a man for two years. Its been over since February this year, and I will NEVER allow him back into my life. NEVER!!!!!

I love that, "One strike and you're out!"

To a man who ignores my value,don’t let the door hit you on the way out.Later potatoe👋🏽

@lady56725

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@kaoshi_kutie

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@AdrianaSilva-iw8ym

3 жыл бұрын

😂

I chose myself and I let go of him just yesterday and today I found this on KZread.... So nice... Thank you. ☺️

If he don't see your value...drop him like a Hot Potato & keep it moving...he is a jackass. Do you and find your value in yourself BEFORE dating 💪🏽

@meenakshibhardwaj6045

6 жыл бұрын

Natasha Martinez righy

Thank u for reminding me that I took the right decision, even though he was the man of my dreams (or that's what I thought) I never felt I was among his priorities. I had this fear and panic attacks & I used to cry so much, now I ended up I sent him a msg telling him it's over he' s seen it and never even responded but it's ok I hope he is eating shit right now 😂😂😂

@shelleydavis5231

6 жыл бұрын

DeedoodaA 88 good on you girl! It's tough though especially if we think we love the person, but I'm proud of you for standing up and valuing yourself, self love is very important, especially when we're down. I always think of it this way when I'm down, if I were my best friend, and my best friend is down or hurt or sad, what would I do to make her feel better?..

@myplacetobe7860

6 жыл бұрын

Ha ha ha... Like your comment.. You make me laugh.. Love it.

@new_7772

6 жыл бұрын

Baby don’t ever text a guy it’s done text let him figure it out himself 💋

@juliehealingleaf6211

6 жыл бұрын

DeedoodaA 88 wow tell me about your panic attacks I knew someone that I got panic after being intimate talk about your spirit saying no.

@dinaomar3159

6 жыл бұрын

Dear Julie julie that was definitely a bad experience, I was terrified that I would lose him and that I won't find someone like him coz I thought he was the man of my dreams. I couldn't eat or sleep The best part is that once you accept yourself and know that you don't deserve to be treated like trash you become afraid no more and I know for sure whoever I got in relation with I won't be afraid to cut the relation off when I am desrespected

Wasn’t even in a relationship just cared about him and he didn’t care about me.. and this video just summarized him In second thank you

Best advice and I applied it. He didn’t fight for me and made my vision clear on what I deserve ❤️

This is setting healthy boundaries... Thank you

I always fear that nobody will like me.thats why even if I am always hurt I accept it.now when is see this vedio I will love my self first.i know my worth now thank you so much

@james_bam11

6 жыл бұрын

Ha NOna I love you

@james_bam11

6 жыл бұрын

Carolina G love you too

@tshepisoramzzy2810

6 жыл бұрын

Felt that way too

I walked away , he was inconsistent. He told me I was making complications all by myself, I deserve to be with a guy who WANTS ME , I know what I’m worth ...he didn’t see my VALUE. He didn’t fight to get me back.

I just think his excuse is..Im not what he really wants.

@jaelesilaba1404

4 жыл бұрын

Thea Thea thats a sad thing to tell someone im so sorry you had to go through that

@pulse-anjalidesilva4303

4 жыл бұрын

Look at u! You are beautiful..u can find good and handsome guy hon. Dump him

@vanithaarulappu5968

4 жыл бұрын

Awww sorry to hear about that Thea Thea

@MMm-le7jj

4 жыл бұрын

His a immature boy - not a man . Run 🏃‍♀️- dodge the bullet - you can certainly do 100 times better. A good Relationship should feel “ compliment” and for filling to each party - not one that “ destroy self esteem”.

@theathea3064

4 жыл бұрын

@@pulse-anjalidesilva4303 I don't know if beauty plays a role in how one feels about the other. I think that has a lot to do in the beginning stages of attraction. The men I choose are good looking, but sometimes those good looking men can have a nasty character that will treat you like dirt. But again it has nothing to do with looks.I think its more their upbringing and experiences in life. In this case I fell for his charm and the way he flirted in the beginning but he was straight from the beginning that he only wanted to have "fun." Now I backed off after he said that, but I wanted to see if I could conquer him..maybe he would change his mind...but nope...so I rejected him after him saying something that totally turned me off. It would turn you off too if he said cooly.."yeah there may be someone else"....with a smirk on his face...this was due to his ghosting me. So I got out of his car and left never looked back...he was yelling at me to get back in the car, but I ignored him.

GOD KNOWS UR WORTH VALUE BC HE MADE U...LOVE THYSELF FIRST TRUE LOVE WILL COME

@inengwahyuni8949

4 жыл бұрын

😭😭😭😭😭

You are such a kind person. Just listening to your voice calms my nerves. Bless your sweet heart.

Thank you so much for your videos!!! They’ve helped me move on from a “relationship “ that wasn’t working for me. You validate my feelings and decisions to move forward every time. I am a high value woman and will accept no less!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

It is so precious when you look at the eyes of the man you love and love you back. Gushed!🙂

Watched all your videos one after the other! Bought your book just 5 sec ago! I love the way you talk, the way you move, the things you say and how you make me feel after listening to you! Geert, you are great! I just love you! Greetings from Germany

20yrs- confusion for me! Figured it out finally, left.

Have been married for over 20 years to a man who does not value me or anyone he says he "loves". He is disrespectful on a daily basis. It is very frustrating. So, at the end of this video when Brian Nox said, "....always behave like the HIGH VALUE woman you truly are..." it hit hard! It actually made me cry! I think there's probably a lot more (rejection) going on underneath than I am consciously aware of.

“if love fails, it isn’t called love”

everytime I second guess my decision to leave I watch these videos read these type of books.. to reassure myself that evenif I stayed it wouldn't have turned better

Such great advice. Act like a doormat and people will walk all over you. We really are largely responsible for how we allow people to treat us. Even when we do realize this we have to change the habits of a lifetime, but when it finally clicks it's worth the effort.

@yuzhao7807

5 жыл бұрын

Love what you say!

6:22 "Now he will start to fight for you." - you're very knowledgeable. However, look up 'Dismissive Avoidant' - they don't respond to the suggestions you're making. Ignore him or make friends and do other activities to show him your value? He won't notice. Tell him it's over thinking he will realize what he's about to lose you? Forget it. He will go inward and into extreme avoidance and be triggered and say to himself "see I was right all along. She never loved me."

this is amazing - thank you, i have hundreds of video journals that talk about bullet i didn't dodge, but now, after 14 years of not seeing my value, but finally speaking up for myself, i noticed that me ignoring him and holding my high value, he is FINALLY fighting for me. He is finally improving his negative qualities for HIMSELF and learning to let go of his old, controlling self. I am simply amazed by how well you put it. thank you.

Everything we want was on the other side of fear! Bravo Brian!!

Yes he does fight for me everytime and when I get comfortable he starts all of the crap again... They only like us with one foot out the door.. I can't be bothered with games.

@irfanaafifa3055

4 жыл бұрын

same shit with me

One word Brian...... AMAZING! I think you're the best relationship expert out there now. Seriously, everything you say makes 100% sense and is so true! I really needed to hear this message. Thank you! BTW, I love your books and relationship reboot course! It blew my mind how good it all was....I wish I had found out about you sooner! 🤦😂👍😊🙏 PLEASE don't stop doing what you do! Us ladies need the truth SO BADLY! Nobody teaches us this growing up. May God bless you & your family. 😊

I sent him a heart-to-heart letter in April. He never acknowledged it, has never spoken of it. I'm not even sure he ever read it. The reason I wrote him a letter, is because he "can't handle" / "gets stressed out" / "feels overwhelmed" when I try to bring up relationship issues face-to-face. He's a truck driver so only comes home 1-2 days a week. So I do understand somewhat that he can't think about relationship issues while driving...but at night, before bed, or early prior to getting in the truck, he should be able to talk. I bought cards that are supposed to be conversation starters for couples, and have brought them with me a few times - out camping, while driving the 2+ hours to go see his kids with him, etc. He "can't handle", etc. even trying to answer simple questions, like "What did you wish you could do, but have never done yet?" I have granted him a lot of leeway because I believe that his ex, who he was with for almost 20 years, was extremely emotionally physically and financially abusive to him. So I have tried to give him time, space and made available several resources for him to recover. They've been apart since early 2015. He and I have been together for almost 2 years. So, less than a month after that h2h letter, he tells me he wants to get his 'own place,' so he has a 'home base.' At the time, I figured that meant he was just as interested in breaking up with me as I was in breaking up with him. He then tells me about this property he is looking at, and wants me to come and see it with him. It's super-cheap, only $20k (no buildings or house). So, while we are talking about it on the phone, I comment something like making sure he can afford it. He responds, almost scoffingly, "You're going to have to buy it. I can't afford it. My credit's shot." So, yeah. I guess that was his 53rd strike. The property is 2.5 hours away from my home, where he has been living. He would not only have to buy it, he would have to develop it, put sewer, electricity, etc. It makes me wonder if he is also expecting me to buy him a house, too! So HE can live there "on his own." He used to contribute financially, but suddenly stopped after about 6 months. The last time he gave me money for 'helping out' (as opposed to contributing financially to his current household) was in December 2019. He does help out with little things, but he also tends to (1) take my things without asking and (2) break them without financially compensating me. It's little things, like a shop broom, and my TV remote (he did finally buy me a new one - after more than a year)...it's just the fact that he breaks my sh__ then expects ME to buy MYSELF a new one. Or, he says, "Let go to Home Depot" to do little fixes around the house, then I have to pay for everything he picks out. He is generally nice to me, complimentary, finds me attractive (even after gaining weight from the pandemic / stress of a new job / our relationship!), but I just am totally turned off by him. I no longer feel like texting him, talking to him, listening to him talk to me, or being intimate. That's one aspect that is still pretty good, but I'm never in the mood; I only give in because he eventually wears me down. It's enjoyable from a physical aspect, but there is just no emotional connection on my end anymore. I'm ready to be done. Just looking for confirmation or something, or maybe just needed to vent about it.