When he pulls away, HE disqualifies Himself from being with you.

@CynthiaAva

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, 100%. That is exactly how I feel about that.

@briana14333

4 жыл бұрын

yesssssssss

@e.lm.l.6246

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely,someone who let you go,never valued you,so why should you care for that person?

@VioletFlame-Ivy

3 жыл бұрын

Men have a natural need to pull away. Everyone does. Love is not a natural romance where if the person loves you, done, he gives you the money and the stars and the happy dolphins jump around you. Love is a strategy and psychology.

@rdunyc554

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! I had to rewind that and play it louder! Such great advise and wisdom. Just bought one of his books via Amazon.

I agreee if I have to play games to keep a guy around then im good luv I’m looking to be a wife not a athlete .

@dianalee603

4 жыл бұрын

Love your comment.

@darleneguingona7884

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@keva4672

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂💯

@BijinMCMXC

3 жыл бұрын

Ok?!

@michellenono3405

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

When I ignore him, he didnt come back, he have new girlfriend, but it open my eyes, that I deserve better. Now I am a happy married woman with a guy who really deserve my love..

@gioovannabp

4 жыл бұрын

That’s amazing!

@brujalinda

4 жыл бұрын

Wow That’s awesome !

@sharonsanders1658

4 жыл бұрын

Ignoring them doesn't work all the time bc that's what they probably wanted you to do

@vm6796

4 жыл бұрын

@@sharonsanders1658 at least by ignoring him it allowed her to see what he really wanted. Even though she didn't get the reaction she wanted it allowed her to move on and find her own happiness with someone she was more compatible with.

@Goldforever-vp8zq

4 жыл бұрын

Sharon Sanders you shouldn’t be using ignoring him as a strategy it’s a boundary for your heart not his.

I was dealing with such a guy. Whenever I approached him, he pulled away. Whenever I ignored him, he approached. I ended this. It was immature behaviour. I was kind, open. But maybe too available

@whiterobin01

4 жыл бұрын

My mom always told me I was too available. I think having a full life apart from your loved one is vitally important.

@lennonice4363

4 жыл бұрын

@@whiterobin01 as long as it still includes the person you're with. Mine never had time for me.

@selfpicture5480

4 жыл бұрын

Mine did the same and after some time he told me he isn't over his ex 🙄 he was wasting my time.

@brujalinda

4 жыл бұрын

The same happen to me smh

@kenyacudjoe8083

4 жыл бұрын

Monia Monia you did the right thing

Everytime I’ve issues with my bf I start to watch dating tips 😅😅. Who does the same??

@akilasmith6063

4 жыл бұрын

Me, me, me. I build up such strong resolve, only to be done in by a "WYD." I NEED TO DO BETTER.

@fitnesswithsofi8622

4 жыл бұрын

Yup me too here

@kanch_pink4883

4 жыл бұрын

Me...

@salmayusuph7421

4 жыл бұрын

Here too 😅

@kaiscurlock8906

4 жыл бұрын

Yup

"Let him date an alligator with a bad temper." 😂

@fan-jc3vg

2 жыл бұрын

oh katniss 😂

@jiahmartinez7615

2 жыл бұрын

Hahahha I know that was funny 😆

A guy ghosted me once and I showed him that I was unbothered - I didn’t even bother to text him or even block him 10 days later he came back begging me to meet up with him and begging for my (as he quoted it) ✨ one last reply ✨ so I replied to him 2 days later out of my kindness with a simple “Hey I was busy I didn’t even notice you weren’t texting” and never replied to him ever again. If he gives you red flags and gives you time when it’s just convenient for him, give him your time and that time is called NEVER AGAIN. You a queen not a damn athlete.

Just dont put men in the pedestal. Please dont. If he pulls away, let him be. Dont be clingy. Enjoy your life. Find some other men to date or dont. The bottom line is, just let it be, dont be obsessed with the idea of the two of you. It's okay. Just chill.

@iamtoogummy5590

3 жыл бұрын

True

@samxsara

2 жыл бұрын

Best comment. I don’t know why we put them on pedestals at all

@Dreamsareareality

2 жыл бұрын

This is one good comment. ❤️👍🏽🙏🏽

@michellemoffett9458

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

@natashakovacevic6155

2 жыл бұрын

Find someone else to date. Good advice. I’m doing just that right now. Mr.Hot&Cold has been noticing I’m more aloof and has called me twice this week already. Went on a first date last night😛

If he pulls away it's because hé is insecure about his own feelings.It 's all about him,his hot and cold behaviour has nothing to do with your personality etc. If he ignores you,he does it on purpose,só there is no reason why you should pull him back in your life.The Best you can do is Let him go .Respect yourself more!You deserve someone who doesn't play games.

@svetikchum6988

3 жыл бұрын

Like he can’t handle liking u so much ??

@jbalgo

3 жыл бұрын

Rubbish, sorry. Men don't think that way. We always go for what we want, unless she is unavailable. If we come back its because of our ego or because we really like you. Discernment is key.

@thinkingoutloud675

2 жыл бұрын

What do you call a girl collecting my number messaging me then leaving me unread?

@jenniperkins4260

11 ай бұрын

Exactly

The minute I have start thinking I have to play games or do things to save the relationship, I'm out. Never chase and definitely never invest yourself more than the man. When he loses you that make his loss even greater. Trust me...and don't let him back in. A good man who loves you will never put himself in a position to lose you.

If you ignore me, I go away. Not a game player.

@euphoriapeace2224

4 жыл бұрын

So easy

@andreaedwards5557

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

When I ignore someone, I dont want that person in my life. That person is dead for me.

@francedc4247

3 жыл бұрын

SAMEEEE

@winebabe

3 жыл бұрын

Same here, when I am done, I'm done. I am all or nothing! So if I decide to be done with some one, I cut them off completely. Do not leave your self available, because guess what, they will keep trying to lure you in, to offer you, their nothing!

@kaursingh8095

Жыл бұрын

Rest in peace 🎉

Wow that is so true if they lose interest when you give them attention, they’re not right for you

@francedc4247

3 жыл бұрын

Why do I only date men like these?! I guess I am mentally unstable

@SuperShandy777

3 жыл бұрын

@@francedc4247 I'm mentally Ill it's not easy xx

@yaasmiinn

2 жыл бұрын

@@francedc4247 Don't think any less about yourself . It is them , not you .

This was so real and direct! You are amazing! ❣ Yes, relationships are not games, when it starts to feel like a game, it's time to end it.

@ttyflower8424

3 жыл бұрын

I didnt get what exactly he says ..can anyone please explain me the main subject of this videos ??

@knowlightknowright

3 жыл бұрын

Its always a game with narcs

@fireflyflixer

3 жыл бұрын

@@ttyflower8424 u

@Sunflower-uh3em

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree 💯💯

@divyakhanolkar3130

10 ай бұрын

​@@knowlightknowright7u

Narcissist runs back all the time block them for life to stop them from stringing you along.

What it really boils down to is when you're a grown up( that part is important) you should date mature people who don't play all these stupid games! Then you don't need to wonder what the heck is going on! If being yourself and giving someone your love makes them lose interest in you, they were never interested in YOU to begin with- only the reflection of THEMSELVES they see THROUGH you!

@jennifermcmillan1945

4 жыл бұрын

Ikr. You reciprocate a man's feelings and then he pulls away and ignores you. So many men do this all the time. I don't get it.

@elizabethmusialela8160

4 жыл бұрын

@@jennifermcmillan1945 Exactly my thought. I just don't get, how does showing love,attention n interest to somebody you love turn to chase him away???

@cherish.o.m4453

4 жыл бұрын

Yes yes yes mature in brain.

@natthebratster

4 жыл бұрын

Preach it!!

@sriya9788

4 жыл бұрын

Actually at the deepest level, it is due to their suppressed emotions that they would not have healed. It also comes to the surface. Also a test of your feminity within. If you are mature, you will let go. If you can't, you need to do some serious work on yourself :)

It was me and my ex bf.. When i care for him he ignores me .. And when i ignore him he comes back .. I got tired of it .. I was tired of pretending and acting like i didn't care .. But this time i really don't care .

@funclassylassy4426

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@robertmoruri6762

2 жыл бұрын

,🤣😁😃😃 it's hurting to pretend you don't care cause deep down you want to burst out asking them so many questions... but you Choo to pretend that you don't even care 🤣😁😃

@summersday7894

Жыл бұрын

@@robertmoruri6762 still though, after it gets tiring, it's ova.

My mom taught me this when I was about 14, and it has proved true for 50 years!

eye opener . been involved with a jerk who comes and goes as he pleases. enough is enough . thank you

@natthebratster

4 жыл бұрын

Same!! It's exhausting.

@aprilsunshine7565

3 жыл бұрын

I love you all!!! Lol!! I though I was going threw this emotions myself!! Ladies I am so glad we refuse to put up with the bull crap!!! Yes it hurts! But it burns even worse the longer we stay there!!!

@mariannemiladelhamy

3 жыл бұрын

@Jolly Roger not when he "accidently" touches your chest ! not when he holds your hand while driving . not when he massages your foot ! and when you ask him what on earth is going on.. his reply is: "No, I don't love you. I am physically attracted to you, oh and by the way, I am dating someone else" !!!!!!!! yup. jerk with a capital J !

@mariannemiladelhamy

3 жыл бұрын

@Jolly Roger nah, he was trying to take advantage of me :)

@mariannemiladelhamy

3 жыл бұрын

@Jolly Roger because he is a jerk ! didn't you read my comment where i stated some of the things he did ?! he had some time on his hands and he needed to have a fling . no strings attached. and who is better than your best friend? :) it started as "conditioning" me for a long time. simple gestures that are so subtle. then he worked his way up to things that you can't just ignore anymore ! and when i finally had enough of those mind games and inappropriate touching i asked him.. do you like me? do u have feelings for me? and his simple answer was : No, I don't love you. I love someone else and I am dating her and I might propose to her. I just find you so attractive & you should be flattered " !!!!! I told him that he is ruining our friendship that way. his reply was "our friendship was ruined from the first time he laid his hand on me ! don't tell me this is not a narcissist. he didn't care about our friendship, my emotions, my body , his image in front of me . he just didn't care as long as he got his fix.

Nope. Out of sight, out of mind for me. If you ignore me I ignore you and move on. Easy peasy.

@findingdori442

4 жыл бұрын

💜

@upashnamoktan7374

4 жыл бұрын

❤😂

@barbie8891

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly 😂

@krisydaley8296

3 жыл бұрын

Petty

@SherlyPM81

3 жыл бұрын

Woww... Your tough 💪

Thank you for your perspective. I became vulnerable. He is ghosting me. I'm a good person. I'm moving on. I feel no guilt. I deserve better.

@Sunflower-uh3em

Жыл бұрын

Saame !! Made me more aware but more vulnerable, and now I can see red flags from far away .

@istoppedcaring6209

7 ай бұрын

maybe he was shy, I certainly have that with slight autism making answering harder than you might think, it is the stress of somehow messing up something amazing that ends up ruining it by failing to answer in a reasonable time, and the longer you wait the harder it gets

It's an emotional manipulation mind control tactic...my ex said he thot if he ignored me it would make me want him more..but he forgot to hook my emotions first. All it did was made me realize I enjoyed not being with him. No one talked about this at that time.

@SherlyPM81

3 жыл бұрын

👍... Hope I can do same as u.

@springfauna1465

3 жыл бұрын

And that's a good point. If a guy ignores me, all he's doing is conditioning me into getting used to being without him. After a while it doesn't matter cuz I don't care.

I was in a “”thing”” (that’s what I call it now) with a narcissist. It was like trying to cover a whole in a boat while he was causing another wholes and saying it was all great and we were sailing together. It’s been 3 months since I decided to not ever talk to him again. He tried to ask for my forgiveness 2 weeks ago: not happening. I know how much I have suffered, I was attached, 3 years. It had to end. Don’t accept anything less than you deserve 💕

@Mandy.S.

4 жыл бұрын

Good analogy... I've been there and that's really true! I once got mad at my ex and told him I built while he tore it all down as I went! That didn't go over well... glad to have gotten out years ago!

@Koko-jx7cm

4 жыл бұрын

GIOVANNA PANDOLFO I’m in this situation now... 😔

@LatvianLover91

4 жыл бұрын

Same boat here, girl. 4 years in a "situationship" with a total narc. Time to move on and give myself a chance to find happiness elsewhere. The mind games never end with them.

@travelfoodielove

4 жыл бұрын

Hole not whole

@fortunatenamat7770

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you moved on.Was in the same mess and it was only by God's grace that this whole thing ended.

" is that goose smiling at us?" LOL! I'm stealing that.

I just get rid of any guys that try and play games like this with me and I have had a lot of guys do it. In fact my husband tried this on me too and I divorced him! It is childish and immature behaviour!

@lydiarueakchai7359

4 жыл бұрын

Agree

@Annamelese

2 жыл бұрын

It better to put them 6feet under

"If this happened in the first place, if it's easy to turn someome off, ...you are not right for each other". Well said.

😂😂😂"He should go date an alligator with a bad temper" 😂😂😂. I love your videos! Great advice with a great sense of humor. Thank you!

I find this a little wrong. I literally know stories where the husband or boyfriend took his girlfriend for granted and totally pulled away from her but when she changed, when she stopped doing everything for him and took her life in her own hands, he literally wanted her again like before. Men want a challenge. People are predators and our feelings are our responsibility not theirs. These days the advice for everything is to break up. It comes from the belief that love is natural and if someone loves you, he will never be away from you and do everything right- just like a romance movie. Totally wrong!

@btstakescareofmewhenimsick4892

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. every relationship is different. You cannot apply general rules to specific situations

@georgialee6755

2 жыл бұрын

Healing Light Agree. But this is why a woman should not be doing much for a man in the first place. She should not be doing everything for a man. The less a woman gives to a man the better off she is.

@blak_momba3056

Жыл бұрын

Agree 💯

I love your humor with the tips, you could moonlight as a comedian lol

@aprilsunshine7565

3 жыл бұрын

Yes Lena! Lol I agree !! His humor towards certain things had me lol so hard!! Wow I needed this..!! The comments and video truly helps. Putting it towards my daily life!! Shoot I have a 10 yr old son that takes all my energy!! Don't need a second one which is an immature man playing games that still needs mommie breast milk!! Lol

His humor is always on spot lol My scrap book from age 7🤣🤣🤣

Date an alligator with a bad temper🤣🤣🤣LMAO!! Needed to hear that!! Thnx Geert..😉

Thank you. I needed to hear this. When done with sincere and love, you cannot do wrong with the right person. ♥️

Finally!!!! A guy who truly makes sense. All the others tell you to pull away but he tells the truth! He's just not that into you so dont waste time! Thank you!!!❤❤❤👍

Simple, but refreshingly realistic take that many other relationship coaches do not share. You are rigt, if he pulls back. Let him go. Don't invest more energy in the game playing.

Thank you for making me understand that he’s not the one for me , I value myself and I want someone who will want me as much .

Thank you so much, this is exactly what I needed to hear. It's a hard pill to swallow but I needed to hear it from you since you know more about this than I do. And just for the record, the girl you were on vacation with obviously had no taste. You are intelligent, charismatic, seem very kind and sweet and are very handsome.

Hey Brian, your video helped me opened my eyes on men pulling away. If he pulls away, it means that the relationship is not meant to be, so move on ladies and don't waste your time! You are the best coach, thank you for helping us, women ❤️

Great point. I truly like this advice. This is exactly what's been happening to me. So must completley let him go. It's a waste of time

@nebj1014

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! The moment he shows red-flag behavior, or you have to wonder what is going on in the relationship bail out and don't look back (I know from tooooo much experience)

@nataliegaines8722

4 жыл бұрын

Hey fellow Virgo! 🙂

“An alligator with a bad temper” got me lol

Thank you Brian Nox you've shown me that I'm on the right way..

I adore your voice when you say "here you go" 😍😍

My now husband did this only once, I told him if he does it again he can forget about me, fast forward we have 9 years of marriage, and almost 13 years together

When you find yourself in a couple of relationships you get to gather your advices! And you understand your self worth

This is terrific advice, and very well said with illustrations. Too many times people get trapped in this unhealthy cycle thinking it’s because the man is supposed to always want to pursue the woman. I really appreciated this video.

Oof 🥵 time to get off the merry-go-round

@Darswar4

4 жыл бұрын

Same!

@PeaceDayCortez

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@jennifermolinagonzalez7892

4 жыл бұрын

I feel ya

So truth, thank You very much. Your wife is the lucky one. 😊

Thank you for this video. I am newly back on the dating scene and already feeling discouraged from all the mind games and tricks I have to employ to keep a guy interested. That just means they aren't the one for me. I will be patient.

You are the smartest relationship coach in the world! Always right, always on target, unmistakable. I do feel every situation, every person, is unique. Although the gist of content is accurate, we must always take into account the person(s) involved, where they are in life, what may be having an effect on their reactions. Let your common sense and instinct be your ultimate guide.

I feel like listening to you everyday - you are such a sweetheart 💕

Soo good!! This is the most real and genuine advice online in regards to this! Too many of these other channels get you to keep playing games and wasting time with the wrong people!!!

For me it was the most enlightening video of all time.

@dempster2157

4 жыл бұрын

I agree

If you find your self having to play games to keep a person, run. However, by having stuff going on in your life, you become naturally “too busy to be needy”, and whoever is with you (or trying to be) will feel that “scarcity” Brian talked about. THAT is a good side/angle of this “ignoring them” thing. Cause you’re not doing that on purpose, to hurt them or test a theory. You genuinely have other things to take care of and think about. So, you won’t reply to their messages in 1 second and you won’t be always available

This is amazing. I feel so much lighter now

So glad that I found this video! Happy to see that a man who is making this video and have such high awareness about relationships from both sides!

Just what I needed to hear to clear my doubts and move on ... Thank you Brian ..God bless ..

You deserve so much more followers !! Thank you, I love your Books!! 🙏🙏

Had 2 years of men messing me about because I’ve been ‘too available’ emotionally and now the latest guy who says after 5 weeks of wooing me he can’t find time to date me I’m completely ignoring him. He hasn’t got time for me I haven’t got time for him after he manipulated me into believing he was mature enough for a relationship and saying all the right things. It’s a game to these types of people .A man who plays games isn’t a man anyway. Time to value myself not their issues. An ex constantly lied and cheated and I chased him thinking his ‘good periods ‘ of wooing and being kind were real. No his cheating and lying playing games was real. I’ve finally woken up. Never chase a man ladies. Real men don’t play games. Thank you Brian great video

Thank you so much for your work. Finding you has had an incredible impact on my life and how I value myself. 💜

@BoopBopBeeBop

4 жыл бұрын

This!!! Same here!!

Thank you for this video!!! You’re truly the most genuine and upfront counselor out there! God bless.

Straight to the point .. Couldn’t be more clear!! Thanks

You're amazing Brian. I like how you establish the difference between drawing and line and bailing out on a bad investment. You posted this exactly when I needed it. Thank you, you are the absolute best.

Thank you, Dear Geert! I love your point on being authentically yourself! Have a beautiful day! Xxx

I like it when you tell stories of your own experiences

Explained so well! I’ve been on a roller coaster with this guy for so many years. I’d always allow my kindness get the best of me & forgive him. Smh! Each time we just never work out. He’s so quick to be done & not want to put in the work that I do. Any who, I can’t do it anymore because I deserve better! I’m somebodies wife ❤️

I’ve spent the last 2 days binge watching you. You are so much better for me than that top guy who dated the pop star. Not that he’s not good, but he isn’t for me. I have learned SO much from you!! Thank you!

This is great! You inject the perfect amount of humor in your videos. Thanks for sharing!

Yes yes yes 100% agree! So many women have suffered and been through this situation, including me, ahhhhhh! Let's love ourselves first!

OMG! You are much younger than me and so much wiser! Listening to your words everything makes so much sense! Thanks!

Just wanted to say I love you for being so helpful. I’m over my ex but your videos come on my page time to time and I still want to watch your videos. Thank you 😊

EXCELLENT ADVICE!!! A great truth. Words of Wisdom💯

I have watched nearly all of your videos and this one struck a chord with me; on a good note 😁 This really was amazing advice and confirmation that I’ve made some good choices lately. Thank you so much for your advice! I greatly enjoy your help navigating the often murky daring waters.

Thank you, Brian. It is a pleasure to watch until the end. 🙂

Your videos are amazing. Practical, funny, insightful, direct and accurate.

You really add value to my life. Thank you for sharing what you share with us!

Brought a lot of clarity. Thanks Brian

This is literally so on point ❤️

Another fabulous video! Your fun and witty but get straight to the heart of the matter and paint a clear picture of the situation. . Always valuable information! 👍Thank you for helping women everywhere :)

This was a very difficult pill to swallow

Thank you ❤️ this helped me so much. I was dating a guy for a few months and knew he was pulling away but ignored the signs. We finally ended it a week ago. He still wants to be close friends but it’s not what I want and it’ll only hold me down from finding someone better.

@dianalee603

4 жыл бұрын

Never be friends with an ex. It's a B.S. ploy by players.

@Poweredbytofu

4 жыл бұрын

@@dianalee603 :(

@Poweredbytofu

4 жыл бұрын

@@maryave7158 Thank Mary, I'm ok now. I want to move forward not back.

I like this guy, his voice, and always straight to the point. 🇵🇭😍

Dear Bryan..i really really am lucky to find this video of yours.. 💟 your video so honest and does help a person who's losing her self esteem due to a very bad break up, find her way back to gain her self respect and power..thank you so much.

That was a great video. If we enjoy being together and can be ourselves without having to play mind games, we are on the road towards a real relationship.

Wow- this may be your best video yet. Thanks!

This was perfect and terribly illuminating, thank you! ☺️

Thank you for this. I needed a reality check.

This is true. My boyfriend treated me cold for a week ghosting me...etc...when I asked why I was told I know and he hates it when I pretend. I should think about it and when am ready to talk get back to him. I ignored him after this. After the fourth day he was by my door. Now he is like he was to me 5yrs ago. Surely am not needy. My love should not be taken for granted.

Best video ever. When he's pulling away he's not the right one. Thank you for the video!!

Wow!!! Just what I needed to hear. It's time to move on. Thanks Brian🤗

Thank you Brian 🙂 You always make me think about the situations in a new way... while adding your great humour too 😁

Thank you very much Brian! You confirmed what I felt deep inside- I appreciate this 🙏🏻

Thank you Brian...Another great video with an awesome message!! I just got this in my feed..I am going through this right now at the moment. Your absolutely right..100 %!!! Stay Awesome Brian!! 😊😊

I love your videos. And this is great advice. The thing is that everyone needs space. Space and disinterest are two different things but so many people don’t realize when they’re being needy or all over someone. Independence is attractive.

I just started watching this guy but i love you you made me see things in a completely different way and i needed that truly i needed that thanks

Thanks Brian, Your messages exactly what I need.

Omg exactly my thoughts! Evrytime i hear gurus says no contact, not showing your kindness be cold and play with his ego... i am like how can you sustain that in a long relationship? Like ok the beginning stage u can act cool ect but after that? Wearing a mask is tiring and your true color wanted or not will come to light soon or late

@lilit3552

Жыл бұрын

Agree It's so unnatural

Thank you Brain! You’re very wise and adorable!🫶

Thanks...you said exactly what I needed to hear.

Excellent content! Thank you, Brian.

This is spot on and his humor is great. 👍👍

Love the guidance given!! It’s so real :)