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  • @JonathonAslay
    @JonathonAslay5 ай бұрын

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  • @annajoyce6549

    @annajoyce6549

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you Jonathan❤

  • @doriscastillo7245

    @doriscastillo7245

    5 ай бұрын

    It's hard to trust when you were married for 19 yrs than 11 yrs with a partner that's 30 yrs of alit if nonsense, u take the good with the bad after 50 yrs I encounter with an old high school boyfriend, so Now we get along better than in high school. Do I love him? Not sure I'm trying it out after 2 yrs finally I trusted him to give him a special night is going to happen again who knows. I don't know

  • @nicolacrombie9643

    @nicolacrombie9643

    3 ай бұрын

    I feel like a lot of men who were mistreated by their Mothers almost become their mothers and treat you the way their mothers treated them. I have experienced this twice. I feel men take out their feelings about their ex or their mother on their partner. They need a counselor and not a relationship. It's sad and frustrating.

  • @PATH918

    @PATH918

    3 ай бұрын

    Hi Jonathan i like yoyr program s and can you please cut cut several pieces for different subjects??

  • @Portia620

    @Portia620

    2 ай бұрын

    I agree the old ways are hurting everyone not just women because men can die and leave women behind with no money as well. You might sign up for someone that says they’re gonna take care of you and they betray you so the point is this old system doesn’t work anymore because even if the man did support you, you never know what can happen they could die. Also speak to the fact that This causes a huge tax burden, nobody wants to realize that with women leave it being left behind with children on welfare women being left behind that were may be sick on welfare. I I know of many people that were abandoned and their marriage when they got sick with cancer and other things and I just can’t imagine somebody abandoned me when I got sick and our children. I’m having a very difficult time a therapist to help me and I think she’s confusing me even more. She said I should not have emotional logical, but after being betrayed so bad I think you need more logic and emotion.!!! The problem with being more logical time you might catch feelings for someone, but your heart is very guarded!!! do you want your body keeps the score from the trauma you had from the previous relationship and if someone’s not willing to work with you in the marriage or the relationship then it won’t work it can’t be you just spend 20 years healing because guess what you won’t completely heal nobody ever comes back from deep betrayal completely or a deep trauma. It’s still in our bodies. It’s still there.!!!! We can find somebody that works with us as willing to see that it takes us time . I was traumatized before and trusted someone very deeply that same person traumatized me further!!! Talk about difficult

  • @user-zk9bg5tf7t
    @user-zk9bg5tf7t5 ай бұрын

    I believe that a true relationship is when both people are meeting each other's needs and truly cares about the other person's feelings

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Indeed

  • @dianneciresi7208

    @dianneciresi7208

    5 ай бұрын

    Where's that kind? None around for me sorry to say...

  • @deec411

    @deec411

    2 ай бұрын

    definitely, and I only found that when I let go of trying to find someone and worked on myself until I can honestly say I love myself, warts and all. ✨💖✨ if I met any of my past relationships now they wouldn't get a second date. The sad thing is we settle because we don't want to be alone. That's what I did for 60 years.

  • @rev.anniewilliams3383

    @rev.anniewilliams3383

    Ай бұрын

    Good day Jonathan, my name is Annie Williams. I know you are the coach. But can we date. Let me know

  • @ParisianThinker
    @ParisianThinker4 ай бұрын

    Enjoying hearing what you say. Married 38 years, and my husband was my best friend. We both saved towards our retirement. My husband died on Jan. 3,2024. Our joint efforts led to a secure future for me. There are men out who will love you deeply. Many are widowers and never divorced.

  • @user-fw9rh6mq5r

    @user-fw9rh6mq5r

    2 ай бұрын

    Sorry for your loss. I dated a widower for two years but unfortunately he ended it last fall. I was terribly hurt and would have liked the relationship to continue but unfortunately I don’t think he took sufficient time to heal after the death of his wife of 30 years. He may have only been looking for company and I was available

  • @patriciacollier128

    @patriciacollier128

    Ай бұрын

    Sorry for your loss

  • @OhioGalReads
    @OhioGalReads5 ай бұрын

    If you build trust and become vulnerable with a man, he will open up to you if he is able. It's an amazing feeling to gain his trust.❤

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Indeed

  • @Joy-mm3cz

    @Joy-mm3cz

    5 ай бұрын

    I find this to be true as well. I open up a bit, then he does in the next conversation or so. If you find he’s not volunteering to be open after a few conversations then maybe ask a few questions in a night out.

  • @mfraleigh107

    @mfraleigh107

    5 ай бұрын

    So true.

  • @shirlsshirls8594

    @shirlsshirls8594

    5 ай бұрын

    Key words: If he’s able.

  • @MoonCrow35

    @MoonCrow35

    4 ай бұрын

    ...unless he has NPD. A narcissist will extract the info they need to eventually control you. Love bombing is there first stage...be warned.

  • @ClancySayce
    @ClancySayce24 күн бұрын

    3 years with a guy with avoidant personality disorder ... i am crying over everything I never knew before a huge surprise betrayal. I am determined to get it right next time. Thank you!

  • @stephaniec5215
    @stephaniec52155 ай бұрын

    This was AMAZING!! Jonathan, your ego is brilliant and worth celebrating! Please never spiritualize away your self expression and delicious bombastic, hilarious opinions even the so called, ‘rants’. You know how flat and boring folks can be - who needs that? There is only one JA and you alone can BE the fullest expression of YOU! You are right! ⭐️ Enjoy that space!

  • @Chris-hp2gg
    @Chris-hp2ggАй бұрын

    It's the things we love most that destroy us.😮

  • @marykayengel4341
    @marykayengel43415 ай бұрын

    As hard as my divorce was and I cried for 5 years, yet with constant therapy it was a gift. I agree. I grew so much and learned so much about myself and how to go forward in a future relationship. Fast forward that was 8 yrs ago and I recently met a wonderful man and we both appreciate each other and communicate after getting thru the divorce.

  • @labab1048

    @labab1048

    3 ай бұрын

    Same exact for me! Cried for probably 2 years…worked on myself…met a great guy after 8 yrs…life is good!

  • @kwbaby4297

    @kwbaby4297

    2 күн бұрын

    Congratulations to both of you!

  • @carshi7177
    @carshi71775 ай бұрын

    Why can't everyone just communicate like you? 💛

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    I've been working on this over decades. Thank you 😊

  • @carshi7177

    @carshi7177

    5 ай бұрын

    @@JonathonAslay 🤗

  • @Joy-mm3cz

    @Joy-mm3cz

    5 ай бұрын

    Many men will when a woman leads by example. No judgment, no using it against him, no pushing him. Etc. many men haven’t built that “safe space “ with a woman to feel accepted for himself fully.

  • @MargaretCampbell583
    @MargaretCampbell5835 ай бұрын

    Bonding at a deep emotional level, so many men would not understand this

  • @runsoul1
    @runsoul15 ай бұрын

    You are one my top 3 people! I've been doing what you say and have a new man as of Dec I got right to the nitty gritty day 1, I'm 59 why waste time....we went looking and trying on wedding rings yesterday...Im learning from you my fellow Leo friend all the boxes don't have to be checked off just the big ones...I'm in love and enjoying growing with my man. Thank you xo

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    That is awesome!

  • @user-fn3ne1sb6l
    @user-fn3ne1sb6l5 ай бұрын

    Your absolutely right ,Trust and Loyalty, and Respect is priceless.

  • @joconna
    @joconna5 ай бұрын

    I'm 71, what a trip. Men have lost their minds.

  • @FreeQueen-md7zm

    @FreeQueen-md7zm

    2 ай бұрын

    @joconna 🎯 😂😂😂 ikr?!?!

  • @kelligray1848

    @kelligray1848

    Ай бұрын

  • @Ruth-vy1qj

    @Ruth-vy1qj

    26 күн бұрын

    😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @bacsigabe29

    @bacsigabe29

    14 сағат бұрын

    Well then you'll be sad to know mens brains are higher functioning electrically than women's; as well as 15% bigger (yes that includes body size difference). Also note white women over 45 have a 50%+ higher risk of depression than any other sex age or race of people. Perhaps it's you??

  • @veganvintagegeek2.089
    @veganvintagegeek2.0894 ай бұрын

    Such wise advice. I recently met a man who is divorced, and we are both in our late 40s. I've never been married, nor do I have kids he has adult children. And knowing what I learned divorced men do have deep wounds. And knowing what I learned I want him to be free to open up and not feel stifled. I told him he has a voice, and he can use it, I also told him I do not want to just hear my voice.

  • @joeymatthysen5105
    @joeymatthysen5105Ай бұрын

    I don't believe in online dating.

  • @Indianaparadise

    @Indianaparadise

    10 күн бұрын

    @@joeymatthysen5105 I’m with you on that one ☝️

  • @Bb-k4gd
    @Bb-k4gd5 ай бұрын

    Some older guys have this actitud and don’t put a lot of effort in a relationship, they rely on a women’s kindhearted nature. Like this sweet lady who always drove to go see him. really?… 🙄

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Sad and often true

  • @MelissaHachey-iw6hy

    @MelissaHachey-iw6hy

    5 ай бұрын

    Yes!! I struggle with this because men expect you to drop your own life and bend into their world . There should be give and take depending on work schedules.. That poor woman had to hire pet sitters to he with him and he was complaining about a little gas money. Shes better off without him.

  • @Bb-k4gd

    @Bb-k4gd

    5 ай бұрын

    @@MelissaHachey-iw6hy I know, that was so selfish. And who knows if it was really the gas money, because he didn’t even try, some men are just so stuck in their ways!! Hope she finds someone that really deserves her 💕

  • @sherriflemming3218

    @sherriflemming3218

    5 ай бұрын

    And when you're not kind, they'll say you're unempathetic. Not respecting boundaries. . Some expect you to be their therapist. .These are the broken ones.

  • @Joy-mm3cz

    @Joy-mm3cz

    5 ай бұрын

    Sounds like spender/user. When a man is into a woman, there is no “guessing “ he will move mountains for you.

  • @msBbee-oq7im
    @msBbee-oq7im5 ай бұрын

    I haven't met a good man online yet. I am 62, the guys I met haven't worked on their issues and are damaged. Very disappointing to say the least.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    How about irl?

  • @sherriflemming3218

    @sherriflemming3218

    5 ай бұрын

    IRL, Add health to your years. It's easier to use your situational awareness and your intuition is armed when you meet organically.

  • @mariahhudson1846

    @mariahhudson1846

    5 ай бұрын

    @JonathonAslay I realize you didn't ask me specifically, forgive me. I find that in real life, the men who are putting themselves out there seem much more promising. Online dating is a free-for-all freakshow.

  • @msBbee-oq7im

    @msBbee-oq7im

    5 ай бұрын

    What is IRL?

  • @shellymiller274

    @shellymiller274

    5 ай бұрын

    in real life as in person

  • @virginiadare8152
    @virginiadare8152Ай бұрын

    I watched this on a replay and just had to watch to the end! You are addictive Jonathan! I'm starting my journey of healing, thank you for all you do!! ❤

  • @juliefrecker3811
    @juliefrecker38115 ай бұрын

    I’ve learned a lot from your videos Jonathon. Very interesting and valuable information!

  • @lorijaynepeake1529
    @lorijaynepeake15293 ай бұрын

    Excellent, multifaceted video. It covered a lot of great topics. I will file this video in my treasure chest.🌻

  • @laragordon4663
    @laragordon46635 ай бұрын

    Jonathon, I agree with you. Thank you for a good definition for "In Love".

  • @karenklos9022
    @karenklos90225 ай бұрын

    That’s so supportive of her. She seems like a lovely person. 😊

  • @sherriflemming3218
    @sherriflemming32185 ай бұрын

    Jonathon I always appreciate your facts and wisdom. Absolutely, there are no guarantees. Indeed the foundation of friendship.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you 😊

  • @seilasanchezlucas6361
    @seilasanchezlucas6361Ай бұрын

    Very powerful message here. Thank you for articulating it so well. 🎉xx

  • @elaussies
    @elaussies4 ай бұрын

    Love your coaching!! This episode talks about coaxing. I lived with him for awhile then moved out. He is in the Peter Pan syndrome. Initially this attracted me because he is fun & charismatic. At first all the signs of love were shown with words - sometimes through music. We have been seeing each other for a year. He doesn’t say “ I love you” and does not give compliments or gifts of any kind including birthdays, valentines or Christmas. I was involved with a man I was going to marry, however he died 3 months before we were getting married. Thankfully, there was true love with him. Thank you for your realistic videos about mature love & passion, especially growing which is the biggest red flag with the current Petter Pan connection.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    4 ай бұрын

    My pleasure 🙏

  • @cathjoy9567
    @cathjoy95675 ай бұрын

    Love watching your live podcast interviewing real people !! Loved the interview with Rob ,very authentic, honest ❤👍

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks ☺️

  • @corichang
    @corichang5 ай бұрын

    Opening up emotionally is a sign of a man who truly cares. This is so profound and insightful. Thank you, Jonathon🙏👍

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Exactly... 👍🏼

  • @lynnhigley8787
    @lynnhigley87875 ай бұрын

    I lost my husband to cancer in 2022. I met the man I'm with now by happenstance when I put my deceased husband's pickup truck up for sale. We met the old fashioned way and it means so much to me. I have never been or wanted to be on a dating site......

  • @ParisianThinker

    @ParisianThinker

    4 ай бұрын

    Congratulations! All the very best to you both.😊

  • @shehanhuq1268

    @shehanhuq1268

    Ай бұрын

    You are blessed. All the best.

  • @loiswall5601
    @loiswall56014 ай бұрын

    Best of luck to you Rob!❤️🙏🤗

  • @CindyKrueger-z4z
    @CindyKrueger-z4z22 күн бұрын

    I love your insights, honesty and f-bombs!!! It seems like self-love and how to effectively communicate with others should be a required course!!!! We would be a higher functioning society if this were so.

  • @karenmoriarty5754
    @karenmoriarty57545 ай бұрын

    I have so much to learn. Thank you Jonathan.

  • @debraguerrero-tn4vp
    @debraguerrero-tn4vpАй бұрын

    I agree with what you are saying. So good to hear

  • @MargaretCampbell583
    @MargaretCampbell5835 ай бұрын

    You are so right Jonathon. I’m so glad I have not dated for donkeys years because I knew I would stuff up. But now things are getting better. I created a false identity for myself because that’s what we do.

  • @joanberry235
    @joanberry2353 ай бұрын

    Wow, Jonathan, this was an extraordinary session. You unpacked and covered so much ground and gave us so many nuggets of good information. thank you for all you do. Have a beautiful weekend.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    3 ай бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @patriciacollier128
    @patriciacollier128Ай бұрын

    Brilliant, basically you've got to care for eachother above anything else. Wise words, think this was the best video ever. Thanks

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    Ай бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @deborahbaese7648
    @deborahbaese76485 ай бұрын

    Everything you say is true. It feels true. I appreciate you. I'm learning a lot. Be Blessed, Jonathon. Respect & much love.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    I appreciate that

  • @kathywalker7778
    @kathywalker77785 ай бұрын

    Rob, do not doubt that you'll find the right woman, or she'll find you. You're vulnerability and awareness is a strength, and can easily be taken advantage of if you don't have good boundaries. Respect yourself and believe that you deserve the best.

  • @shehanhuq1268
    @shehanhuq1268Ай бұрын

    I really enjoy that voice! Please continue leveraging it haha. Drives the point home in a lighthearted manner 😅.

  • @susancottenham
    @susancottenham5 ай бұрын

    🎉I agree with you. Your definition when you can say ☆I love you ☆ 🎉 it is very rare.

  • @Mamagreenbean
    @Mamagreenbean24 күн бұрын

    If a man cares about you, you should, and will, know.

  • @SeaViewCLEANERSMartiena-wf3im
    @SeaViewCLEANERSMartiena-wf3im5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for your 6 "I LOVE U" points, what it means !!! Going to help me a lot today and for the future.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    So glad!

  • @jenbb7656
    @jenbb765626 күн бұрын

    He need to be a provider and protector first!

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    25 күн бұрын

    Why?

  • @user-xf1fz6bt8j
    @user-xf1fz6bt8j5 ай бұрын

    Bear hugs to Jonathon ❤🌹

  • @kristenhoffarth9039
    @kristenhoffarth90395 ай бұрын

    Love how you explain what I love you means

  • @user-xf1fz6bt8j
    @user-xf1fz6bt8j5 ай бұрын

    Good for you Jonathon ❤🌹

  • @patriciacollier128
    @patriciacollier128Ай бұрын

    Lovely photo Jonathan, obviously a proud dad, God bless x

  • @2013december
    @2013december5 ай бұрын

    4:30 pm. Jonathan I said good luck to a guy I met for the first time coz he was overly touchy and kissing me. It made me uncomfortable. Plus he never offered to pay for breakfast or tip. I didn’t find him a quality guy. Thank you for your help. You make a big difference to us. 🙏🙏

  • @sherriflemming3218

    @sherriflemming3218

    5 ай бұрын

    Agree Rose. Next!

  • @donniefryer125

    @donniefryer125

    5 ай бұрын

    Same here. A man I met as photographer at a wedding Took me to an inexpensive restaurant for lunch. He said he was coming over one day when I was Sad. He kept Hugging me and kissing me. I had made guacamole and chips. I gave him a nice chocolate bomb christmas gift. He said he did not want a relationship. Apparently he just wanted sex. He stood me up on christmas day go see the christmas lights. Phone two weeks letter and left a message that he had so much to tell me. I just never answered. Thank you Jonathan.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for sharing

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Good for you...

  • @tsunshinegal9102

    @tsunshinegal9102

    5 ай бұрын

    The movie shld be : Revolutionary Road

  • @janetcarrier313
    @janetcarrier3132 ай бұрын

    My mother met the love of her life and had a 5 year relationship with him when she was 81 years old to 86. He was a very tall, handsome and successful man, and was 15 years younger than her. Go mom! ( unfortunately he passed away during the relationship as heart attack ran in his family 😕).

  • @repentjesusiscomingsoon1529

    @repentjesusiscomingsoon1529

    Ай бұрын

    Well, that gives me some hope, LOLOL -- I'm 77 years old!

  • @blackmarkt2250
    @blackmarkt22505 ай бұрын

    Thanks Jonathon for all your sharing💖I hear this phrase "all in" but this an unrealistic practical understatement that I feel may force insecure partners who may be experiencing external stress or other life externalities who don't feel "all in" at times to then give up prematurely. No one is "all in" all the time.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for sharing!

  • @lindamac45
    @lindamac455 ай бұрын

    I understand My son transitioned 9 yrs ago. He was navy special forces.. I am so sorry for your loss. I divorced last year but as a metaphysical psychologist I know that the only thing we have control of in our life are our thoughts .Too many individuals attempt to control everything for fear of looking vulnerable and end up pushing people away. Fear or love. I choose love.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Sending you a big hug 🫂

  • @ijeomanwichi1242
    @ijeomanwichi12425 ай бұрын

    Thank you Jonathon.It's resonating with me

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    You are so welcome

  • @tarahein3415
    @tarahein34154 ай бұрын

    You are such a cool guy, I have been listening to you for more than 6 months. When you find your special someone, she will be a fulfilled woman, and you a fulfilled man, I love the all in concept. We need to prepare emotionally. I recently tried a dating site, I realize now I wasn't prepared, I can be all in, but I wasn't prepared when he wasn't all in. Thanks for your knowledge and heart felt guidance.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    4 ай бұрын

    Wow, thank you

  • @juliefrecker3811
    @juliefrecker38115 ай бұрын

    I agree perfect description of what love is

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks ☺️

  • @loiswall5601
    @loiswall56014 ай бұрын

    Jonathan I agree with you absolutely❤️

  • @jenniferthomas5031
    @jenniferthomas50312 ай бұрын

    Such a great video ! Just found your channel couple weeks ago & so glad I did ! Hard dating in your 50s to find a man that wants a serious relationship:marriage minded man & not just surface level . Need to vet better & work on my picker , lol

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    2 ай бұрын

    Welcome aboard! Thank you as well. If you'd like to hear how I can help you vet better, let's schedule a call. www.jonathonaslay.com/coaching

  • @sandramickle
    @sandramickle5 ай бұрын

    Yes this makes sense. Your saying Men need to go further in their explanations than just being general, as women should in being caring. Without sex.

  • @carenmaslowsky9050
    @carenmaslowsky90505 ай бұрын

    So true about the "artificial intimacy" and attachment issues that take on a life of their own when you finally meet in person. I once talked with someone on the phone for months before meeting and subsequently felt guilty for not being attracted to this man I already felt a connection with.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for sharing 👍🏼

  • @sandralogue1774
    @sandralogue17745 ай бұрын

    Johnathan I agree with you . HOWEVER,Some men don't differentiate caring for and caring about They believe that by bringing in things for the home ,ie groceries it absolves them of any other relationship responsibilities,up to and including intimacy.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Yes... I did day that though

  • @pamelamcinish8695
    @pamelamcinish86955 ай бұрын

    Jonathan, I agree with you!!!

  • @debraguerrero-tn4vp
    @debraguerrero-tn4vpАй бұрын

    Aside from everything, I like your funny voice , l like it makes me smile and laugh a bit.

  • @pkk2122
    @pkk212217 күн бұрын

    Jonathon, I agree with you 😊

  • @jodiewilliams6961
    @jodiewilliams69615 ай бұрын

    Just met a man online. We have only text a couple of times and already calling me “babe”. That to me was a turn off. I’m old fashion and didn’t hit me right

  • @sherriflemming3218

    @sherriflemming3218

    5 ай бұрын

    Agree Jodie. Was he lovebombing? It's not old fashioned to demand respect.

  • @Bb-k4gd

    @Bb-k4gd

    5 ай бұрын

    I feel the same way, crossing boundaries to soon.

  • @lisastites5272

    @lisastites5272

    5 ай бұрын

    Agree with you.

  • @lisastites5272

    @lisastites5272

    5 ай бұрын

    How do you kèep from making him perfect for the next love of his life

  • @lisastites5272

    @lisastites5272

    5 ай бұрын

    question how do I keep from perfecting him for his next love connection?

  • @adriennevanstaden9460
    @adriennevanstaden9460Ай бұрын

    Enjoyed this...in South Africa....widow for 4 years after 44 yrs of marriage.....lots of time on my hands to listen to such important info...sharing all the information with my grownup children...thank you.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    Ай бұрын

    Thanks for listening

  • @charlottasayadkhanian4323
    @charlottasayadkhanian43235 ай бұрын

    Jonathon, I agree with you.

  • @leiladarling4495
    @leiladarling44954 ай бұрын

    Hello Jonathan! Thank you for your beautiful work! Could you do an outdoor presentation? I admire your thoughtfulness spending time with others, you are competent, a person that is in charge updating life and circumstances. Trust God with all your heart. God Bless!

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    4 ай бұрын

    Great suggestion!

  • @user-xf1fz6bt8j
    @user-xf1fz6bt8j5 ай бұрын

    I agree with you Jonathon ❤🌹

  • @janem6688
    @janem66885 ай бұрын

    May you ❤heal Jonathan 🙏.

  • @sunflowerslily
    @sunflowerslily5 ай бұрын

    Thank you Jonathan ❤

  • @KH-ss1ee
    @KH-ss1ee2 ай бұрын

    Great video really enjoyed thank you

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    2 ай бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it

  • @juliefrecker3811
    @juliefrecker38115 ай бұрын

    Jonathon you’re absolutely right about the man with money and bigger ego.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Sad and often true...

  • @pameladeniselong
    @pameladeniselong5 ай бұрын

    Regarding dating co-workers: “Don’t get your meat where you get your bread.” It’s not worth the hassle nor risk.

  • @doitidoiti
    @doitidoiti5 ай бұрын

    Thank you Jonathon, I appreciated the thought you put into this subject. It is all too easy to be blind to a man’s/woman’s avoidance in expressing their feelings. I recognise the need to lose the fear and to be more open. Food for thought 🤔

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Exactly

  • @ricagalang6482
    @ricagalang64823 ай бұрын

    Thanks for sharing your video. I have been thinking these passed few days about my relationship. Our set up is, when my bf is off, i spend my time with him. We are just in his home most of the time and if we go out for example, shopping, i pay my own, he pays his own. He bought me expensive stuff occasionally and i appreciate it but i am looking for something deeper. Being a widow for so many years, and being 57 years old this year, I am longing for a relationship that i can see far ahead. He asked me to move in with him, but he stated that all expenses will be 50/50.. he drives me to my doctor’s appointments coz he insisted, although i told him he doesn’t have to coz being alone for so many years made me independent, but he insists. But i guess i wanted something else.. i want to see more.. my boyfriend is a good man, he is 60 yrs old, i feel sad if i would leave him alone.. he is not sensitive of my being quiet the passed few days. I refused his invitations nowadays. I want him to feel that he should put more effort.

  • @AngelYoung-ng8bu
    @AngelYoung-ng8bu2 ай бұрын

    I am watching and I have to just interject that I would love to borrow from your library LOL

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    2 ай бұрын

    👍🏼

  • @kayesmith8040
    @kayesmith80403 ай бұрын

    Oh my,so true❤❤

  • @shirlsshirls8594
    @shirlsshirls85945 ай бұрын

    I wish I had married my ex from my 20s. I kept taking long breaks from dating for years at a time or staying in relationships longer than I should have. I really thought things would get better with age, I was sadly mistaken and I hate it here. I will teach my daughter different so she makes better choices.

  • @adriennevanstaden9460
    @adriennevanstaden9460Ай бұрын

    Me too... i trust God to meet a special person He has for me everyday...I am on anbadventure to see how God will bring us together....you see God made each one of us so He knows who will be the best for him and me.

  • @CindyKrueger-z4z
    @CindyKrueger-z4z22 күн бұрын

    I am so enjoying your insights and information. I was married 38years, finally divorced (and at peace) enduring various types of abuse, and I took almost 3 years to heal and do-the-work on myself prior to dating. I wish I had read the FIRST CHAPTER of EIGHT DATES! I met a guy on Bumble (an hour away), we really clicked (spiritually, food, exercise, a ridiculous amount of things). First date was just amazing. The second equally amazing….but I did sleep over. I must say it was a fabulous connection for both, we are still really excited about where this is going-just hoping I didn’t screw it up. Thoughts?

  • @maryraven-bk5vk
    @maryraven-bk5vkАй бұрын

    I agree with you Johnathan

  • @Bb-k4gd
    @Bb-k4gd5 ай бұрын

    This is why is not the best idea for women to approach men so directly and in such a bold way; If he doesn’t reject you, he may take you for sex or for his ego. It’s a lose- lose situation for a woman 😏

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Can you elaborate?

  • @lindasigner9402

    @lindasigner9402

    5 ай бұрын

    Whenwomen approach men which if women put too much into the guy, they tend to reject us or just use us. If men do thr chasing, women tend to be kinder to the man. Men have to be more of the pursuer so this doesn’t happen.

  • @Bb-k4gd

    @Bb-k4gd

    5 ай бұрын

    @@JonathonAslay A guy may not like a woman ‘as a partner’ but he may ‘take her’ just because she went to him and expressed her interest in him; His decisión will come from his ego, because he likes to feel desired and he will have sex. He doesn’t put much thought into it as he would if he was really choosing a partner for him self. Men in this position may lie and mislead the lady/ friend just to keep the benefits , this can confuse the lady and the guy may end up attaching to the wrong woman.

  • @sherriflemming3218

    @sherriflemming3218

    5 ай бұрын

    ​@@Bb-k4gd Well said. The woman will attach to the wrong man as well.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    @@Bb-k4gd Yes, I call these men users/spenders...

  • @anneshore1149
    @anneshore11495 ай бұрын

    My experience is there’s always something not right, be it mental health issues, alcoholism, borderline personality,(autism spectrum),selfishness. I’m sticking it out for my son for now but it’s hard.

  • @KiKi-te9yd
    @KiKi-te9yd5 ай бұрын

    *sigh*. Latest guy opens up emotionally. He agrees there is spark and connection... still doesn't want me. FML, I can't win 🤦‍♀️

  • @loiswall5601
    @loiswall56014 ай бұрын

    Yes great video ❤️🤗

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    4 ай бұрын

    Glad you liked it!!

  • @PetsNPatients
    @PetsNPatientsАй бұрын

    Yes, I agree on many points.

  • @sitiny69
    @sitiny695 ай бұрын

    I have a man who claims to care about me and love me, he provides for me by paying my rent and giving me money when I need. He never opened his feelings to me, nor how he feels about me as a person. He has an avoidant attachment style, while I have the anxious one. I don't understand how he claims to love and care about me; yet seems to not really even like me. He never wants to spend time with me or talk to me on the phone. It's always texting

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Sounds like a transactional relationship? Is it?

  • @tnt01

    @tnt01

    5 ай бұрын

    That is an arrangement.

  • @sitiny69

    @sitiny69

    5 ай бұрын

    @@JonathonAslay you mean, that maybe he only helps me for something? We no longer have sex. We haven't spent time together or hardly even talk in over a year. Why does he continue to help me?

  • @kathycoker7763

    @kathycoker7763

    5 ай бұрын

    Wait for the bomb to drop without any warning. It happened to me...

  • @tnt01

    @tnt01

    5 ай бұрын

    @@kathycoker7763 me too. Covert narcs.

  • @deviscott4594
    @deviscott459429 күн бұрын

    Very interesting videos❤

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    29 күн бұрын

    Glad you think so!

  • @janicehoward592
    @janicehoward592Ай бұрын

    Jonathan I want to hear that!❤

  • @deborahann1303
    @deborahann130319 күн бұрын

    Reality check! Breakthrough! Congrats Jane Spitfire! 😀❤

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    19 күн бұрын

    Always!

  • @coriaaquila6488
    @coriaaquila64885 ай бұрын

    Excellent 🙏🏻 Thank you…

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    You're very welcome

  • @Yarnover_PullThrough
    @Yarnover_PullThrough5 ай бұрын

    I could not agree with y ou more on EVERYTHING! Dating while divorced in your 40s is not the same especially if you have children. if they have special needs it’s worse. A lot of the dating advice out there is either manipulative, geared for younger people, or down right toxic. I’m glad you address these issues because I recognize so many of them within my self and or others I have met which brings me some comfort.

  • @user-zt4mc7wy2o
    @user-zt4mc7wy2o5 ай бұрын

    Love is not only looking into each other eyes but the same direction

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Amen 🙏

  • @user-qk4iz9lg7x
    @user-qk4iz9lg7x3 ай бұрын

    True Love ❤️ has no Conditions. The Real World has an Order. Learning to Control the Sweets is 🔑

  • @darritaking
    @darritaking3 ай бұрын

    I enjoy u and agree with u ❣️

  • @gracesidorowicz572
    @gracesidorowicz5725 ай бұрын

    At what point does a person have had enough? Where you just don’t rebound.. after all the tears , the lost trust .. when you are young you really feel like there is always tomorrow.. as you age in later mid life .. lol you realize tomorrow is not a given . Staying in your own lane .. creating a life for yourself that you love is a great priority. Making room for a relationships ..I struggle with this and I picture that pirate in an iron cage you refer to.. lol

  • @jennifercoughlin-ij1fi
    @jennifercoughlin-ij1fi5 ай бұрын

    Hopefully, Rob ends the "situationship." Those type of connections have no good end result, especially a gal who has connections with a past relationship. Rob has a lot going for him, and he needs to attract a healthy relationship. It's time to start creating higher standards for yourself and find a woman with quality and substance. Having a well rounded relationship is amazing. Once you set the bar for better standards, the end results will pay off!

  • @user-kh9si5rz7e
    @user-kh9si5rz7e2 ай бұрын

    Jonathon i agree with you

  • @kari4178
    @kari41785 ай бұрын

    Great lesson. I will move on. Thank you .

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Great!

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Great!

  • @MargaretCampbell583
    @MargaretCampbell5835 ай бұрын

    True about wanting to get ones needs met in the first stage of dating

  • @sherriflemming3218

    @sherriflemming3218

    5 ай бұрын

    Exactly Margaret.

  • @esleslirons2758
    @esleslirons27585 ай бұрын

    This was one of the nicest video's I have seen. Thank you Jonathan.

  • @JonathonAslay

    @JonathonAslay

    5 ай бұрын

    Wow, thank you!

  • @MelissaHachey-iw6hy

    @MelissaHachey-iw6hy

    5 ай бұрын

    I agree!! The people on the hot seat really opened up some conversation

  • @shar1338
    @shar13384 ай бұрын

    Is there anyone out there that has been through a divorce isn’t traumatized? Aren’t we all in a trauma bond when we meet another? How do we even know it’s love at 62! Physical intimacy should come after spiritual, emotional and intellectual intimacy first! Be on the same page. Unfortunately at 60s and up above we look for security.. Fake flirting doesn’t last!!!