Who on earth can be bothered with all this manipulation and mind games. Just be yourself. If others dont like you, who cares, move on!

@Autumn_Forest_

4 ай бұрын

You just made Brian’s very point: BE YOURSELF, show you have standards rather than complaining or showing off, and just chill while feeling comfortable in your own skin. There is no mind game or manipulation; quite the opposite actually.

@teresanevins7167

3 ай бұрын

Being yourself is best of course, but some of us have behavioral habits that are not healthy so do not encourage healthy relationships. So the saying- we attract what we are.

@EverydayGrowin9

Ай бұрын

LMAO you clearly doesn't watch till the end and just judge, huh? That's exactly his point LMAOOOO

@carromboard3451

25 күн бұрын

​@@teresanevins7167So true, being yourself means a constant struggle to understand oneself and the impact of their interaction with others.

I’ve never argued with a man that wanted to walk, never cried in front of them, never got angry in front of them, and never looked back I’m glad I never did If a man wants to leave, let him Don’t ever take him back either

@loyduncan3728

3 ай бұрын

Same

@athena6693

Ай бұрын

Just because someone didn’t do those things don’t make them less likely to not walk away with their power. I cried because I’m a genuine lover. No I never got angry, but I did find the courage to walk away! Also we need to stop this pattern of don’t take him back, the only reason u shouldn’t take him back under no circumstances, is if he was abusive or a cheater anything in that nature. Men are humans too. If he does come back as a woman that’s your decision to make, especially if it wasn’t toxic, and the falling out was petty.

@judyperri9496

Ай бұрын

@@athena6693Nope if you take a man back it shows them that you will put up with their crappy treatment They take it as a sign of weakness and it will just get worse Nope put your best foot forward because I will never take a man back that doesn’t treat me the way he should You might settle for seconds, not me

@athena6693

Ай бұрын

@@judyperri9496 it really depends on the individual situation but, I said never take a man back under no obligation if he doesn’t treat u right, cheat, is toxic, or abusive. Believing so hardly into pushing a man away if he haven’t done those things can really f up a relationship that had potential, so this technique doesn’t always work or does anyone justice, Is the point I’m making. Understand that space is needed. But Pushing a good guy away would be very unfortunate.

@jodyjackson5475

Ай бұрын

Nobody ever left.. or wanted to ‘walk’ it was always me who ended my relationships, returned the rings and asked for divorce but still maintain friendships with them all including my first husband ….and my second husband accepts that is who I am…I love love ❤

Being a worthy woman is an art.

Self awareness and emotional intelligence is key. Period.

Always be ready to walk away if things don't work out. Ladies do not loose respect, do not beg a man or demand attention

I am 70 and for over 3 years have been in a relationship with a man who lives 1000 miles away. We get to spend a week together every now and then, and have fun. He knows that I am fine on my own. Once he behaved badly, and understands that if this ever happens again, he's out. I am not playing games, but I am independent and love him but don't need him

@user370Z

3 ай бұрын

Hi Marie, I am 74 and I have met someone in another state in Oz. We have been talking on the phone for about 6 months and texting. We are trying to work out a place about half way to meet. He is 19 years my junior and he doesn't care. I don't want to marry again, love my independence and have told him that I want to always have my own home. He said he would relocate but would have to have his own home. I hope things are going well for you. Love from Paris in Oz

@mariecurie7491

3 ай бұрын

@@user370Z hello yourself,we did videocalls for 6 months before meeting. He broke all sorts of rules to drive his Fiat Panda to where I live... and when we hugged, it felt like I was coming home. He looks after his 92-year-old widowed mum - having come back from Thailand to do so. Our relationship has blossomed and hope yours will, too. Love from Siracusa in Sicily. Go girl!

@crystalflint8638

2 ай бұрын

J😮​ 10:32 @@mariecurie7491

@neginf9818

Ай бұрын

You two ladies are sp lovely and inspiring! Thank you ❤😊

@user370Z

Ай бұрын

Thank you Negin!

EVERY MAN is different. Just like We Are ALL individuals. Men either Love You or they don't .

I expressed my needs.....remained patient.... then I said, "I'm sad that maybe this is just bad timing for us, I need (.....)" And today my needs are met. 😊 Love is in the air ❤

@MissTalkToMyHand

2 ай бұрын

Love that. But do you mean the same person or a different one

@BebeClair-ty3qm

2 ай бұрын

@MissTalkToMyHand Interesting way to read that. I have to ask first, would it matter? I am not sure? Huh?

I left a man like that. Don’t like making demands because he might sabotage me. I love being alone It’s great. My husband died four years ago after 34 years of marriage and a textbook midlife crisis and I think that enough for me.

Don't try to be someone you're not. You'll end up attracting someone who doesn't want you

@yvonneschwartz3929

3 ай бұрын

Better yet! Learn to not need anyone and just be with a partner if is a real match or when he behaves like one! Is simple you put same effort they put!

@birgitbinninger6893

2 ай бұрын

This advice is soooo true. The consequence of your thought is: first love yourselve then you can love your neighbor. Otherwise around it’s BS

Basically move on ladies and no sense to complain. I don’t put any person on a pedestal! Do you have a life and be unbothered for real and ALWAYS be able to walk away no matter how much you love them!!!

@smoothtruth

6 ай бұрын

❤

@nadia_margaret_3458

6 ай бұрын

Nope! We are crazy for each other ❤

@susannefitzpatrick9955

6 ай бұрын

The old British saying is true: “Treat ‘em mean, keep ‘em keen.”

@farah_di_ipoh1968

6 ай бұрын

Ok

@therocknrollcook

2 ай бұрын

@@princessofgenovia1407 better than getting dumped by them !

Ironically, i got out of a relationship where i made many of those mistakes. After that, it’s not that i didn’t want to find love. I just saw all the nonsense clearly. And i promised myself that my sanity and not crying my eyes out was the most important thing to me. I was still kind and spoke calmly, but i no longer lived as if it was my entire job to make a relationship work. It will work because he pours into it. Because he accepts my standards. Because he’s happy to have us. Not be because i stressed over how to be what he wants or because i talked till i’m blue in the face and tried till i was exhausted. It was actually the most peace i’ve ever known. I didn’t care who called back. I didn’t worry about what i could do to be more attractive or that he would be scared off, if i said the wrong thing. I just kindly said no thanks to the guys who seemed just semi interested. And i was honest about my opinions and what i wanted in a man. And long came the right man. And i’ve never been so at peace and happy. Do not be scared to lose a man. Be afraid of trying so hard to keep the wrong man, that what you end up with is so much less than you deserve

@flowergirl7260

6 ай бұрын

Exactly. Trying too hard and watching too many videos just takes you away from your Self and where the True Love is: inside.

@Bleepbloopblarp

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for this. Wonderfully expressed and definitely something that I need to work on to find that inner peace.

@marwaabdelkader2409

6 ай бұрын

Well said!

@geenaxmeow

5 ай бұрын

Ur were words are perfect! ❤

@TheDutchOracle

5 ай бұрын

This is great advice ❤

"He wishes he was more like you." This is such a thin line with envy and jealousy. Eeeeeeee!

I'm here for Brian's humor. 😂 He'd make a great stand-up comedian on dating humor or male psychology humor. ❤

Just honor his love for you but love yourself even more. No one is perfect and the day will come that he isn't able to show love or support, love yourself then! And take care of yourself, just like you've always done. When he was not around.

This was hard to hear as a wife but I pray God will help me through the pain

Be yourself , the best and worse and if he did not see those moments. How can a long term relationship last as life will always present those moments.

When my man started ignoring me like a school boy I just walked away.... I felt highly offended because I really liked him. But at the same time I didn't want to pressure him. Maybe he wasn't ready to be in a relationship. That's ok... Maybe he was with someone.

@NicoleAndrews-fw7su

6 ай бұрын

Some things about a woman are sacred that a man is not supposed to see as some things about the sanctity of being a man is not meant for a woman to see. I don't expect my man to reveal his entire soul. But I do expect honesty. I don't have any spiritual or physical sickness , illness or diseases. Love, intimacy and sexual desire is important to me. Sincerely, Nicole R. Andrews.

The best advice on the internet ; simple, clean, umderstanding, helpful, Eye opened insight. Thank YOU , sir!

Hi Geert. Your teachings have been "a wake up call", for me. I can really see some of the poor judgement and negative traits I displayed in my previous relationships. You absolutely right on setting boundaries and being your authentic self. I often compromise, my standards to appease my other half and thus gave them the impetus to take advantage of my heart. I wish I had found your channel years ago!!

There was a quote on Facebook: Boy says to a bunny: "It's interesting after the storm the grass is the only one that remains standing." The bunny says "Sometimes being soft means strong". It seems, that nature sometimes shows that a natural and soft approach is the strongest. It's about energy. Maybe therefore after the rain comes the sun and the flowers start to bloom, the animals start to thrive in peaceful energy, the immunity of the human body increases thanks to the sun, etc.

You get right to the point and with the best humor as well.

Guilty on a few of these….without realizing it ofc, and wondered why I was ghosted. Yikes. Thanks for the video.

My car looks like it cane out of a hurricane but bless her- she goes and no upgrade on the horizon for the most practical of reasons!

Thanks for your candor and sense of humor. You're so right about not putting him on a pedestal, etc. And, yes, I always watch the video until the end! LOL This may sound funny, but as I've matured, I've shifted my approach in evaluating if a man is "relationship worthy" the way that I approach a job interview. In a job interview, I'm not just answering their questions, I have my own set of questions to ensure that it's a good fit for me. So, my perspective is shifting to: do I actually like him, and why? Rather than "oh i hope he likes me...hope he likes me...etc. Merry Christmas, and hope you have a joyful holiday season!

You are great! I just lost a great guy I dated for 4 months, because in the last month I was crying when I din't have his attention, and more of his time, so he just ran away. I just tryed to please him and be nice tot him all the time, I wasn't authentic all the time, I never said I was bothered by him not calling me or replying nu messages earlier etc

Brian Nox, be blessed!

Gheert I am so happy to see you continuing to help people

You have good insight on relationships and needed to hear this. Thank you!

Thank you Brian you help us all so much to see where we go wrong and what to do if we do go wrong 💯👌

That means that person is awful. If you have to go backwards, be inconsiderate so that you'll get princess treatment, he'll like you, etc.. dip already. That man is emotionally unstable. TF bro. Really. I am glad I left. Best decision of my 2023.

Communication is the key

@jackdeniston59

6 ай бұрын

Biggest chick BS ever.

One thought that comes to mind is: Should we tell them what we are looking for/needing in a relationship? Cause they can try to be what we want and hook us in. Then later go back to their old selves.

I've been a big fan of your books for years, so pleased I came across your channel!

I love your content almost as much as I love your accent, Geert. I don't know if you're married since you're not wearing a wedding ring but I would love if you could give tips to married women to keep their man happy. I believe marriage is a constant choice and I make that choice every day, but I would love to know how to keep our relationship healthy and happy so he can also keep making "us" his choice.

@Mayfloweralways

6 ай бұрын

I hope you don’t mind what i’ve learned. Men love to hear that they are doing things right. I’ve seen so many other women get so defensive- like “i shouldn’t have to say anything! He’s a grown up! He should be doing those things!” It’s as if they think appreciating is the same as coercing. One says you know you have a good husband and you want him to know that you see him and all his wonderful qualities. The other is that you’re saying nice things in the hope that he’ll start being a good husband. “Honey, you’re so sweet to take care of the laundry.” “You’re so thoughtful to bring me coffee.” Don’t over do it and make sure it’s sincere. And men love touch. Sometimes, i act as if i’m going to walk by and i hook him it a surprise hug. Sometimes, i walk up from behind and put my arms around him and kiss his neck. Sometimes, i make his favorite meal or grab his favorite snack. I just smile and start cooking. Lol

What you are describing is the anxious attachment of women very likely being directed to an avoidant type. That never works out anyway. As much as I love these relationship - and dating advices: most people are deeply screwed (including myself) that all the 5 million rules I have to consider in order to have a so called healthy relationship...I decide to rather not have that but to take care of myself and myself only. That is enough work already. By the way, you cannnot make someone else feel something in particular and no, most men do not want to see the real woman. That would mean, they know themselves...tz...that is so not the case.

@HaleyMary

6 ай бұрын

Exactly! If I like a guy, I'm going to show him, if I don't like a guy, I'll just ignore him. Besides, I have too many hobbies to worry about chasing guys. I used to try to show interest in guys who I liked when I was in my twenties, but the guys were jerks. Now, I'm in my thirties, happily single, focusing on my cat and my art. I guess you could call me WGTOW. Women going their own way feminist.

@Maria-gg5yv

5 ай бұрын

👏🏽

@SR77736

3 ай бұрын

This. When she shows up as herself, he always tried to change her for his ego. Most don't accept a woman as is then resent when we try to change them.

Great content very helpful. Straightforward and relatable. Thank you.

The heading to your video is why the majority of relationships fail, the divorce rate continues to soar and why there are so many (financially and emotionally) broke men out there - because he’s based relationships by how ‘turned on’ he is.

@bethteer1509

6 ай бұрын

That's called "Thinking with the WRONG Head"!!!

@shrilakshmi4238

5 ай бұрын

Not learning and following sanatana dharma is the main reason for all relationships ship problem s

You are spot on, always are. This is exactly the experience I've had currently. Can't thank you enough for helping me process x

@rayc9899

6 ай бұрын

After 45 years of marriage, my husband told me this morning that he still love me as much as when we got married, his love for me is so deep and honest. I'm a lucky woman to have met him, he's a keeper.

Thank you sooo much for your videos… The contents you share and the way you do it, litterally make my day every time🙏🏻 Your vibes are amazing

Brian you’re the man all the way til the end💪🙏👏❤️‍🔥

How very true...and SIMPLE...

Really good reminders, thank-you so much!

Lol brian has a sense of humor. I always stick till the end and hit like button! Thanks brian

I just subscribed, just saw your channel accidentally, and loved listening to you. Great advice.

Your videos always help me in life thank u 🙏🏼

I loved this! Thank you!

You have a lot of great suggestions. Thanks for the video.

I love the videos! You have a great sense of humor. I like the weaving of good advice with the kidding around. Thanks!

I love your videos. Alas I don't seem to meet anyone to be able to try any of these! I don't feel very confident either :( But I still enjoy listening to you talk.

You crack me up. Thanks for the giggles.

As always a great piece of advice. Thanks ❤

Thank you for this video 🙏🏻 I’ve had some realizations.

Thank you imaginary fatherrrrr❤❤❤❤❤❤ May you be blessed❤🥰

Great advice! 👍

Excellent video!

brilliant - brian, you're so practical, funny and articulate. it is so helpful to hear from men what men think. your videos are so easy to listen to and learn from. thank you ;-)

You make me laugh. Good sense of humor.

That kind of connection isn't for him. And I felt like ewwwwww.. I want out already

Great video. Thank you so much.❤

Great advice, thank you.

I want to thank you for doing this video because it made me realize how much my boyfriend loves and respects me. ❤ Your suggestions are bang on

Not always a person feels less just people want to be honest as some people don’t date people with their life a mess. Thats authetic not trying to sell themselves . Perspective is everything

I love your sense of humour 😊

You are the best Brian, thank you, and for replying to my email recently that was so nice, all the best to you,love Donna from Sydney Australia

Great advice thanks ⭐

I like your videos so much, they helped me a lot, thanks! 😊

Hihihi. I love you, Geert! ❤❤❤ Thank you for another great video... Much to learn still 🙉

Your euphemisms, love them! (Not the car, dangerous waters indeed😂)

Great advice.

Valuable information, delivered cheekily with just the perfect amount of humor, and confidence, to reinforce the information presented. 😉 Totally have enjoyed your presence, and presentations, since discovering them. Thank-you.

Very wise Brian!!

Excellent 🧠

Yes!! This is great Brian❤

Great video as always! Thank you! 😊

So helpful and love the accent

Brian Nox = Instant Extra Large Self Esteem Potion

Excellent video.

Brian, you always make me laugh 😂 I enjoy all your content and the way you are, thank you so much 🫂🫂🫂🤩

Ur so funny 😂😂😂 in like such a simple and ur clearly being urself way and are naturally funny, thanks for being ur funny self throughout ur videos, makes the information much more enjoyable and makes the information stick a little bit more. Thank you for reminding me what I believe in, that Learning While Having Fun is sometimes crucial, and well a lot more helpful especially to be more engaged and to continue learning lol so thank you 🙏🏼

Brilliant as always! Thank you Brian for the great advice and the good Karma lol😂❤

Love your videos.

This video was really useful .. thank you

This is so good🔥🔥🔥❤️❤️❤️🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

lying attracts liars. be yourself

@MoiraiScarlet

10 күн бұрын

Agreed. Like attracts like. Kind of same goes how some people attract toxic relationships while not being aware of their own toxic traits. This is why we should always strive to become a better version of ourselves. Our relationships goes better from there! 😊

Thank you!

U have a great sense of humor.😅

well, who knew!😂 When my husband and I first started dating, he and his buddy were talking about enjoying strip clubs. I told him that he was welcome to do whatever he wanted, but I would not date a man who went to strip clubs. THAT would not be a part of my life. He said he preferred me to the clubs.

Love desire has not changed for long-term

😄 I watched till the end of the video. I am just going to be myself and not hope I get the man I really like. I don't care what he thinks of me anymore. 😊

Great advice. Got the Karma Thumbs Up 🤣🤣🤣

Great video💙

Activity Dates are a great thing 👍 I can recommend this also.

😂 love the end!

You are so funny. Your content is also so good!

I've missed you, Brian!

Geert ❤ you are georgeous 🎉 love your humor and pictures you paint here 😂 Amazing 🤩

Teenage love advice for relationships ❤

Thank you Sweet Pea ❤🎉

I've been searching and not able to find you for the past 4-5 years. Here you are! What happened to 'I love my panic attacks!?