Have you ever been ghosted? What did you do about it?

@tacy-annbrown2652

6 ай бұрын

I didn't do anything. I let them go!!! It was a choice. I respected peoples decision.

@trudieristich795

6 ай бұрын

Got happy because they're a*******And. And did you a favor

@helenavuckovic5242

4 ай бұрын

Yes, l was ghosted and l am very proud of myself because l didn't know anything about ghosting but l 've Been acting as you described: l noticed that it was their reaction/decision to go. As l started to fall in love, l noticed that l've Also chosen to be with him and as l love him, l respect his decisions , even it means that l am not choosen . This was so emotionally deep and taugh to live with it but it was healing. And really, with this ghosting situation l noticed how much l have selfrespect. I healed much earlier than before when l was asking myself "what did l do wrong?" . And dear, thank you for this video: it is kind reminder of selflove❤

@maryklima1404

2 ай бұрын

That’s 100% true

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

@@tacy-annbrown2652 Awesome! Well done.

When someone ghosts you they teach you to live without them

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

:)

@tacy-annbrown2652

Ай бұрын

True.... it's actually a blessing in disguise!!

If somebody drops with no explanation, they were never you friend to begin with

@YourUnifiedMind

Жыл бұрын

That is often true. Sometimes they can't hold boundaries well and ghosting someone is the only way they feel they can do that.

@Eurospec73

11 күн бұрын

Very true

Ghost me, then I’ll respect the dead and leave you in peace…

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

YES! Because you deserve respect

If they’re a toxic, lying narcissist… Celebrate!

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

LOL. Yes

Sometimes ghosting is the result of just feeling too depressed to talk. It just depends on the person. Don't take it personally. Easier said than done. I've been there, too.

@YourUnifiedMind

4 ай бұрын

What a beautiful way to say this. Thank you so much for that input.💚

@Snailmail1

3 ай бұрын

Would they eventually come around

@Thecharmedonee

3 ай бұрын

Imagine being depressed yourself and having to not take it “personally” because your friend can’t effectively communicate what they are going through

@lmiller1413

3 ай бұрын

@@Snailmail1 I would hope so. Depression is a beast.

@lmiller1413

3 ай бұрын

@@Thecharmedonee yes. It's hard. I understand.

I ignore and let them go.

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

Good!

Super hard to deal with . Hard to find the answers by yourself . But here I am taking one day at a time .

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

You got this!

The silent treatment from those in our close circle is even worse. It's ghosting by a loved one that should know better. BUT you're right, it's still about immaturity and an unwillingness to address difficult issues. SO frustrating tho.

@YourUnifiedMind

21 күн бұрын

They do say that being ghosted by a friend (or a friendship break) is harder than an intimate relationship- because there's more capacity to maintain and reorganize the way you interact without completely leaving the situation.

makes me feel garbage, messes with my head

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

How about telling yourself instead that you got lucky by avoiding someone who is going to treat you like crap anyway and now you get to go find someone better? Mindset shift.... Not always easy, but play with it!

I just focused on myself when that happened to me! I really don't understand that ghosting behaviour but I also think that it says so much about the person who does that..

@YourUnifiedMind

Жыл бұрын

It's true. Many think it's the easy way out, and now it's become "normal" to do. uugh.

@jademartinez5373

2 ай бұрын

And truly just means that they’re just not meant to be in your life. But God always takes certain people out of your life for a reason.

No matter what happen , I will be happy.It's about them.Move on. Thank you so much for your video!

@YourUnifiedMind

Жыл бұрын

No problem! I hope you enjoyed it

Yup I've been there and I did not handle it well back then LOL...But it came from someone who was very close to me and completely out of nowhere

@YourUnifiedMind

Жыл бұрын

It's such a heartbreak when it's from someone close. I have had the same thing.

Very hard of letting go so. È people. Some friends, some exes, some people that ghosted me. Really felt a bit betrayed from friends that all of a sudden gang out with others and you feel left out, not chosen, not needed. Us painful asoevially when nothing terrible happened or just because you live far away and they don't lice chat or phone calls. When friends ignoring messages when you have dove nothing bad to them, that really hurts. I still can't move on completely and many times my head goes back there or I try to send a text. Is just annoying, sad, upsetting. I need to learn to let go more

@YourUnifiedMind

4 ай бұрын

I hear you and feel that pain. I'm curious, would you like to learn a technique to help calm that emotion on your own? Search the EFT tapping stuff on my channel and it can help a lot. You deserve to have friends that honor and respect you. 💚

Very helpful ❤. Thanks 🙏

Marriage caused me to lose several friends as my partner didn't like certain people, so in due course they were given a wide berth. Then difficult to pick up these friendships in the future because the damage is done and time has passed. I guess its just a sad reality of life.

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

Relationships of all kinds change. Are you interested in attempting to reengage with the lost friends? To apologize and ask them to start reconnecting? (It may be a slow process as trust will need to be rebuilt)

Good advice. Been recovering from a ghosting but I'm still having some trouble getting my heart and my head on the same page. I know in my head that I shouldn't contact her and move on. My heart wants to give her the benefit of the doubt and reach out to her again and hope to get some answers and closure.

@racebannon96

6 ай бұрын

If she wanted to be with you, she would be putting some effort into you. Its over. Walk away. Keep yourself busy and do the things you enjoy. Go No Contact.

@lmiller1413

5 ай бұрын

I'm sorry. I hope you find comfort. I've been there. Easier said than done. Again. I get it. And I'm sorry.

@YourUnifiedMind

4 ай бұрын

And how are you doing now that there's been some time between?

@NWWood17

Ай бұрын

@@YourUnifiedMind Hello Dawn. Thank you for asking. I'm doing much better now, no question. But the hurt and the sadness is still within me. It's like having a scar. The wound has healed but the scar is still there emotionally and sometimes something will remind me of what happened. I'll feel sad for a while, and I get pass it. I'm going on with my life. I know I'm not quite the same person I was before the ghosting. I'm much more guarded and more wary of people now. I thought I had met someone who was very much like me. Someone I could trust and open up to so getting ghosted really shook me up internally. I keep myself busy with hobbies, work and family. Not much else I can do.

Thank you for this video. I really needed to listen to this. I even wrote some of what you said (word for word) down in my journal. A friend of mine completely has left me in the dark. Im hurt and confused. Ghosting just leaves a big question mark. You dont know what happened. Its cruel and immature to do that to someone. Im trying to believe its not about me.

@YourUnifiedMind

21 күн бұрын

@angelinavasquez4964 I'm so glad you found this valuable. Being ghosted is hard, and does not reflect on your value as a person or in the way you interacted in the connection. It's about the other person's unwillingness to step up and speak whatever truth they could have. (anything from "I'm not feeling this" to "I need to change these things in our connection"). May you find healing soon and embrace your power and beauty in the process.

Appreciate for sharing your wisdom !

@YourUnifiedMind

Жыл бұрын

You are welcome!

This was so important!! Thank you for talking about it

@YourUnifiedMind

Жыл бұрын

My pleasure.

Very useful. Thanks.

@YourUnifiedMind

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome!

this is exactly the video i was looking for thank you!!!!

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

Glad I could help!

so much positive energy! thanks for the talk! :)

@YourUnifiedMind

4 ай бұрын

My pleasure!!

I like your energy. And...thanks :)

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

Oh thank you! I love helping where I can.

thanks for this video , it will help me understand myself

@YourUnifiedMind

4 ай бұрын

Glad to hear that. Remember, many people ghost others out of their own insecurity and lack of ability to communicate. Or, sometimes even from honest mistakes.

My ex ghosted me. The biggest puttymouth i have ever seen in my life. He humiliated me, my friends, my ppl, it was always abt him. This one time he crossed a red line with a stranger, a woman, and i dint support him. He froze me out saying i dont deserve him. He used to blast ppl nobody could stand him except me. People used to walk out on him because he never used to let them talk. They walked out humiliated or seeing his bs behaviour through. After giving my all, he ghosted me. I dont knw how to feel like myself again.

@YourUnifiedMind

28 күн бұрын

I'm sorry to hear that happened. And, this is going to sound harsh, but it sounds like he did you a favor by leaving. You deserve to be treated well and to be with someone who honors and cherishes you. It can be hard to feel like yourself after being broken down and standing up for someone for so long. And, I know you have it in you. I know you have the strength and the courage to find boundaries around how you get to be treated. And to demand that from someone else. How can we support you in doing that? Where can you find support from your friends and family, and see your true value and worth in the world?

@rose7777

28 күн бұрын

@@YourUnifiedMind im numb. I poured my heart and soul. I somehow understood him so well (even though he didnt understand me) i could tell seconds before what he would think or do. I truely cared. Was that not enough? I defended him, gave him time, space…i must be stupid for him to freeze me out in 3 seconds. “No need, thanks” these are his final words after our relationship. I couldn’t even say anything or get any closure. Just tell me 1 thing, did he ever care?? Will he ever remember the good things i did for him? Edit: im crying while im reading your kind words. Thank you.

Thank you ❤ The ghosting was very painful to deal with initially, but as time went on I went through my healing PROCESS which takes time, as it should. My ex hurt me but I'm better than okay now... I'm stronger and wiser. I'm still without answers as to the reasons he cut off contact. I tried to reach out to him, but I did not chase him. I'm done. He never replied. I wish him peace.

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

Congratulations. I am glad to hear you are healing AND that you did not chase him. Sending peace your way.

Its all about coward mindgames

@YourUnifiedMind

4 ай бұрын

Fear is rampant in so many people, as well as insecurity.

This what I'm facing right now ..really hurts,and I feel bad and lots of mixed emotions, questions in my mind ... the best thing to do is move on . In god purposea person or people who is doing that kind of stupidity is coward and immature...they don't know how to talk and confront u..they don't know how to deal with .. they just stab at your back,..well what we can do is love our self and keep going .let them go and forget those people.....😊🙏

@YourUnifiedMind

21 күн бұрын

Yes! love yourself and move forward. That is a great way to handle. it.

My best friend blocked and ghosted me on purpose and was not a NATURAl transition and no reason for it. she is immature, stole my work and is now hiding .

@MatrixMaster777

2 ай бұрын

Sounds like she is doing the right thing^^

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

Ooh, That's tough. I should have framed in the video I was talking about dating life. So sorry to hear for you.

When someone ghosts you there is SERIOUS chance they have a Dismissive Avoidant attachment type. This can be CRUCIAL to understand, I don't see that mentioned, and in most cases is the reason, and also the reason you need to RUN from anyone with DA attachment.

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

I didn't want to get too complex in this particular video, as DA is only one of many reasons. For example, the Thriving Center of Psychology says 65% of Gen Z/millennials have ghosted someone else. That's not all DA attachment.

@rose7777

29 күн бұрын

Wow. This helps me think in a brand new way

Sometimes people ghosted you out of guilt. They did something wrong to you and they have remorse. They don't know how to tell you that. Ghosting is a protection from God. Don't beat yourself up when ghosted.

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

Love it.

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

I love this response.

Ye I have, but got over it

@YourUnifiedMind

Жыл бұрын

Good! You deserve happiness and healing.

I really appreciate it and I hope you can help me out I Really like playing with my self

@MarioArroyo-uc2fc

Ай бұрын

I love you 😍 I love her but she was married I always wanted a woman like u

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

😂

What's it mean? About them!!! the person that Ghosts you is a coward and has no character. They should at least tell you that they're going back to an x or they have feelings for an x. That's usually the answer. There's an x in the background. And ex-boyfriend and ex-girlfriend bottom line been there, done that. I have 2T shirts. They still have feelings for the other person. You're just a rebound. It could last 2 weeks to a year and they'll still go back to their ex. Beware of rebound relationships... And yes, it sucks the hurt the pain. They shouldn't even date anybody to their healed.

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

I agree that people should be "over their ex" before they start dating. that also means ready and powerful within their own being. You sound upset.. as if there's a past ghosting experience that could be let go of? Curious...

My girlfriend does this to me every time she has a bad day. I feel so unwanted by her and this is really a form of punishment. I have not seen her now for over a month and to be honest ( I don’t even care ). Her family is so codependant that it’s pathetic.

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

I wonder if she is open to learning a different way to process her bad day rather than doing this to you? Have you asked her?

@james8156

Ай бұрын

@@YourUnifiedMind I did ask her and she says that when she gets angry she shuts down.

Some people are Toxic and deserve to be ghosted… sorry

@dollymadeson3963

4 ай бұрын

Maybe the ghoster is jealous of her big boobs. I found out my employee hated me because I had long thick hair and she had thin hair that refused to grow!! How petty!!

@YourUnifiedMind

4 ай бұрын

Yes, some people, even when you say you are done, refuse to take no as an answer. Boundaries are important for sure, and it's also appropriate to set a boundary in writing/verbally when the communication has reached an end point, don't you think?

@YourUnifiedMind

4 ай бұрын

It seems petty; you could also notice that she is insecure and have some compassion.

@cherrylane79

3 ай бұрын

Some good people get also ghosted, so that's not always the case.

@rose7777

29 күн бұрын

Oh yeah? Not man enough to end it words? Lol ok

Me and my friend always talk like almost everyday, 2 months friendship is going well and we also playing games together. However, now she rarely reply my message, i know she is a shy person and thinking what to reply taking 1 hour. Last one they said "busy, my cousin open the account for minute only". But i am started to have trust issue with her explanation "busy" all the time. Is there any way to cope with this because i am not a type of person that cut relationship just like that.

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

I am curious... sometimes it is because they are depressed or sad and don't want to admit it. Or they start feeling like they aren't worthy. Maybe it's worth "forcing" her into a face to face conversation so you can see what is happening? Also, is she in a relationship or position where something else is stealing her time?

@NamNam-ms3tn

Ай бұрын

@@YourUnifiedMind hello, thank you for your response. Yeah i am trying to talk to her, but it end up she ignore my message again. Honestly, this is hopeless for me and her TT

Yes baby

My own mother ghosted me! I had to let her go.

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

Good for you. It can be so much harder when it's family or long-term friends. I honor your process!

@anandanabila8439

21 күн бұрын

Bravo ❤

This happened to me right now some girl I planned a date with for tomorrow I tried talking to her before then and haven’t heard from her in 7 days then confirmed the date and no response I consider myself ghosted it sucks and makes no sense communication needs to be better I feel like messaging isn’t the key to communication I unmatched with her and called her a ghoster so the date never existed immature behavior never knew what actually happened you never get closure with it which sucks anyways great video we’re not alone

@YourUnifiedMind

27 күн бұрын

It can definitely be challenging when that happens! I had a whole weekend vacation planned with someone who ghosted me just before.

You can also tell how that person is too when they do this I was never even Finn’s go in the date with her anyways it showed me lack of trust

@YourUnifiedMind

27 күн бұрын

And how great that you learned early. Even though it sucks.

Pls stop. I have not ghosted u. I am very busy. U know this,so stop or i will ghost u.

@YourUnifiedMind

4 ай бұрын

lol. i hear that too! I have a friend who accidentally ghosted someone she liked. Opened the message, thought she replied, then was bummed when she thought he ghosted her.

Been there, it is the ultimate cowards’ way out without saying the truth, whatever that is. After 40 years,%it is not interesting,I understand, but you have wasted my precious time. You have deep pockets, thus many options,are open to you.

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

Time is so valuable. It really can't be replaced.

Mmmm😮yesbaby

I wish u ghost me

@YourUnifiedMind

4 ай бұрын

:)

I personally feel that anybody who Ghosts is a Narcissist.That happens to be#14 on my deal breaker list lol... And btw... You are one of the most Beautiful Women I have ever seen(Inside and out) Thank you for your message.

@YourUnifiedMind

27 күн бұрын

Thank you for the compliment. It doesn't make them a narcissist necessarily. Definitely inconsiderate; yet they could be struggling in some other way such as through depression or social anxiety or self doubt.

@joe102769

26 күн бұрын

@@YourUnifiedMind Trust me? She's a Raging Narc! She checks all the boxes,and then some.

Just move on don’t give a shit

@YourUnifiedMind

21 күн бұрын

By not give a shit do you mean let go? Or shut down and block emotions?

@anandanabila8439

21 күн бұрын

@@YourUnifiedMind letting go and focusing on self love

I sometimes wonder, how beautiful, good hearted, blissful girls like u get ghosted.. u Sure u not lying? That's beyond my understanding spectrum

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

People have fears; they sometimes let their mind talk themselves into feeling not good enough. They go through busy stages and forget. They find someone else who resonates more. Tons of reasons. :)

Thank you very much! I really needed to hear this after some pretty tough heart break in the last few weeks. This came at exactly the right time ❤‍🩹🙏

@YourUnifiedMind

Ай бұрын

You are so welcome. I'm glad you are finding comfort for yourself!