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Enneagram started out as a way for me to create characters and figure out their motivations, but this has been such a great way to help myself deal and I feel like I understand myself so much better now.

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

Ooh, I never thought about the Enneagram as a tool for creating literary characters... I love that!!

@jessiesalerno3545

3 жыл бұрын

Same, most of my main characters have an enneagram, mbti type, and also a Big 5 type.

@sophianieves9378

3 жыл бұрын

enneagram’s are soooo helpful for character creating

@crystalcleara.k.a.missyoko1430

3 жыл бұрын

Oh yess it has helped so much

@DarkCartoon_music

2 жыл бұрын

I totally do that despite the fact that I'm a poet and not a novelist. I'm a cartoonist and reference the personalities for characterization.

Imagine being violinist and eneatype 4 and watch the intro of that number with a violinist guy...just made my day 😂

This was so thorough but also a really good length. I'm always so pleased by how you capture each type without stereotyping too strongly. I'm a self pres 7 and most of the 7 content out there seems to be about the over the top, energetic 7s - but you manage to make me feel included when you describe 7s!

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

Yay! I'm glad you felt each type was captured well... that's the most important part! ♥️

@jbr2991

3 жыл бұрын

I'm a 1. Sometimes I really want to be a 7.

@sethegreen1

3 жыл бұрын

@@jbr2991 aww, well each type has its downsides. The grass is greener you could say haha.

I was going to say I'm impressed with the acting work in your content and then I saw this video and learned that you were a theatre major or you did theatre. No wonder! 😃

Type 1 Desire- have integrity and be good Fear- being wrong or evil Weakness- resentment Longing- to know they are truly good Type 2 Desire- to be loved, wanted, and appreciated Fear- being rejected Weakness- pride Longing- to know they are wanted and loved Type 3- Desire- to be successful and admired Fear- being unproductive and failing Weakness- deceit Longing- to be loved for who they are, not their achievements Type 4- Desire- to be authentic and unique Fear- being insignificant or flawed Weakness- envy Longing- to be seen and loved for their authentic self Type 5- Desire- to be knowledgeable and competent Fear- being ignorant Weakness- avarice Longing- to know that their needs are not a burden Type 6- Desire- security and guidance Fear- fear itself, being without support or guidance Weakness- anxiety Longing- to know they are safe and secure Type 7- Desire- to be fully satisfied and happy Fear- being deprived or in emotional pain Weakness- boredom?? Longing- to know hey will be taken care of Type 8- Desire- protect themselves and their loved ones Fear- being weak, powerless, or manipulated Weakness- hiding their weakness? Longing- to know they will not be betrayed Type 9- Desire- inner stability and peace of mind Fear- being in conflict and losing connection with others Weakness- sloth, repressing passion Longing- to know their presence matters

@jiblits6053

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for helping me with health class

as a 4 i can describe the two sides of my personality in two types of movies: a indie noir black and white movie with low budget and a symple script that consists in two actors walking and discussing the subtleties of life; and a megalomaniac upbeat and colorful hollywood musical with an original soundtrack and many dance numbers with a stratospheric budget exalting the beauty of cinema.

A 20 minute Abbey Howe video? I didn't realize my Christmas present was coming early this year.

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

Hehehehe. Glad you are happy about it!! I was like... this is the longest video I've ever made 😯 😳 😬

@jeremychadwick5914

3 жыл бұрын

@@AbbeyHowe Honestly, I like your long videos. Keep up the good work!

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

@@jeremychadwick5914 thanks Jeremy!

I initially took a test because I was bored like 10 years ago. None of the top 3 results were me, so I was all, "This is crap," and moved on. I came back to it because my counselor suggested it, tested again, still didn't resonate with the top 3 results. It wasn't until I watched videos and learned more about ALL types that I was able to figure our where I fit in there. Tests can be helpful, but they can also get it TOTALLY wrong.

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

so true!!!

Finally a definition of the Eight that wasn't about them being super aggressive and your boss.

I haven't been completely certain as to which type I am, but now I'm almost certain I'm a 4w5. It makes sense since it's the most common result I see with INFJs

I mostly relate to the description of both Type 1 and Type 5. Most relatable description to least relatable description. 1. 1/5 2. 6 3. 3 4. 9 5. 2 6. 8 7. 7 8. 4 For my wings I'm either 1w9 or 5w6. My tritype is 153/513

I am in tears here. Your story is so similar to mine it is absolutely astounding. I have been a theatre kid since I was 4 years old and Broadway has been the goal for as long as I can remember. My dad passed away when I was 11 years old so I have always felt that if I didn't "make it" that he would be disappointed in me and I (still) so desperately want to make him proud (even though the logical side of my brain knows he would have loved me no matter what) I have felt so terribly lost lately because I have been fighting with myself about giving up the theatre thing (the pandemic was a rude awakening as far as the theatre dreams go) and I just can't believe how called out I feel right now. Thank you for sharing these free resources and for making people feel seen ❤

MY BRAIN IS SO HYPED!!! I LOVE personality types and how they all work, i find it very interesting and i just stinking love it.

You are so adorable. This video made me smile so much. I cracked up at the scenes where you ask, "Have you heard of the Enneagram?"

I’m definitely not unwilling to share information. It’s actually one of my favorite things to do. Otherwise spot on. I didn’t have a whiteboard, but I did do a “where is this thing going” chat with my now husband back when we had just gone on a couple dates, lol.

My first step on my quest to learn more about Enneagrams lead me to this video. I loved that you briefly tapped on each type and additional information in a simple manner. I loved the theatrics. 🤩 I almost jumped out of my pants when I saw my nephew in there. 😀 8:15. Type 4. Literally. Playing either his viola or violin. 🤩 Ready to watch more. 🍿🤓

so, basically you were a Rachel Berry?

Your videos are so well done. Informative, thorough and entertaining. Well done.

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much AnnMarie!

Great interesting and fun content. Thank you. I'd love to see some videos on tritypes too as I found that helpful when no single type seemed to fit properly but a combination of 3. The tritype test was long though!

Abbey, As a relative newcomer to the Enneagram within the last year, I can honestly say that this is the best overall presentation I've seen. I'm a 1, but I think that for some weird reason God put a lot of the 5 in me as well. I love to read and research. I actually chose to do a two year long research thesis instead of taking 6 hours to complete my master's degree because I thought it would be fun. Not my wisest choice. So I have read a lot, and watched your videos, Leanne & Michelle's vidoes, several psychologist, and Christian educators regarding this topic. I just found this video tonight, and I love it. If you have time, I do have a question. Inside I have always wanted to be like a 7. Even before I knew about the Enneagram, I sometimes just wanted to do something completely spontaneous and outrageous. For example, just go to NYC for the weekend without planning anything ahead of time!!! 😲🌆 But I always reign myself in with logic. Then I noticed that at the beginning of your video, there is a diagram with a blue line going from the 1 to the 7. What does that mean?

@leogrrrl5876

3 жыл бұрын

You may have both 1 & 5 in your tritype. 1 would be your gut type & 5 your head type. So to get a more complete picture of who you are you would just need to add/figure out your heart type. There is a line connecting 1 to 7, & there is also one connecting 5 to 7. The first is considered the path of growth; the second the path of stress. But keep in mind that although this is a very common concept in the Enneagram, it is disputed by Katherine Chernick Fauvre that says it was an idea that was tested out, discarded, but still widely spread. Instead, she & others believe that their is use to any of the connecting numbers. So connecting to 7 could be very freeing for you. It could also have some downsides too, but then just pull on your other numbers for strength. 1 & 5 will keep you practical & not too impulsive. But 7 will help bring the fun! 🙂

Best video! So many good nuggets! Thanks!

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it! ♥️

I love your videos! I've enjoyed learning about the enneagram since high school when my parents got into it (so 20ish years ago), and I find your explanations both the most entertaining and informative. I'm 4w3 and also feel some influence from the 5. Thanks so much! :)

Hello 👋 I love your videos. I’ve been binging them and subscribed today. I’m TRYING to be a writer lol so I’ve been learning about personality types. I would love to see a video going in depth about the different paths of each type.

an easy way to get typed : if you get teary eyes from hearing its core longing, thats your enneagram.

Hey Abbey! I know I've posted before but I think I'm actually more in tune with the sexual or one-to-one side of things. I'm a 1 and proud of it! :D

Great video Abbey!!!!

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Hillary! ♥️

Process emotions. Interpersonal coping. (Towards away against). Relational styles.

@trustyourself-ashleyching3646

2 жыл бұрын

Tests as a tool to narrow down type

I think that most people who are watching this are type 5s Becasue type 5s strive to learn more and better understand the world around them and are often intelligent. Im a type 5.

I'm a type 6 and totally agree with the assessment, describes me totally😬

Awesome and you made it fun!

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

Always!

Excellent. Very simple and creative presentation.

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Vinayan! Cheers!

I subscribed. Liked. And turned on the notifications. ~as an infp 4w5 I think your video is so significant 😂❤ Will share it in my MBTI group chat hehe

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing!!

@naaberfindmoi2791

3 жыл бұрын

@@AbbeyHowe worth it haha

I just took a Test and got Type 3. I’m really not surprised given that I’m a Leo and an ENFJ - all three match together almost perfectly 😭

I love your videos!

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

Yay! I'm so glad!

3w4 represent!!!

Did yall really make us sit through that long commercial? 😳

I am a type 1,3,4,5, and 8... with a wing 6 and 7.

I never get a specific one... It's either 9 or 4 .. so idk ...

I am type 1, and when someone talks about my type I feel that I get compliments even though they are explaining it not saying that they like it or not. And that make more sense why I am trying my hard and best and efforts to be perfect.

Thank you so much Abbey :) I can see now that I'm a 9w1

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome! 💕

Yes Abbey thank youuuuuu. I want to get other friends into the enneagram but I haven't been able to explain it to them well to pique their interest. This will help me catch them in my enneagram net muahahaha

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

Muahaha! Our master plan has worked!!

What does it mean if I take a test and I tie with 3 different numbers?

I recently ran across enneagrams. I tested as a 5, wing 4. That seems to suit me well enough, but when you described ones, the quest for personal honor is one of my prime motivators. Then, describing eights, fighting for justice is also a trait that is important to me. I realize that no one number describes a person, so I'll look into this more. My sister is a definite two though.

@rgill2910

7 ай бұрын

I’m a 9 that can see myself in a little of each number.

Hello! I hope you will notice this! Thank you for this channel for it helps me learning about personalities. Your organized playlists help me learning about each type. Just one request (if you have no pending videos or what). Can you make 'Healthy and Unhealthy Type (No.)'? The first reason I requested it is because I want to know how each type reacts in a complete opposite way. I wanna see how unhealthy one is different from healthy one, etc. The second reason is I am writing a book. I wanna rely my characters to each type since I find it hard to craft compelling characters. Btw, I am a 4w5 so... you know! I am waiting for the 4w3 and 4w5 video! Thank you so much! (Sorry for my English-- not a native English speaker.)

Great video, good examples. Thank you Abbey. Is any group coaching/personal coaching included in your $8 monthly plan?

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

I do not offer group coaching on Patreon but you will have access to me to ask questions on my weekly livestreams and BFF tier gets 20% coaching sessions!

I'm definitely a 2 🤔💯😆 I'm a BIG empath and often over help to a fault cos sometimes it's not wanted but I just can't help it! Lol 😆 XxXxX

Nine and four both really sound like me... The type four things I relate to are finding beauty in things (when I was little my parents used to always say that I was good at that), wanting to leave an impact on the world, wanting to stay true to myself, not wanting to be flawed, being a hopeless romantic, and wanting to be better than I am. The type nine things I relate to are wanting to have peace of mind, seeing different sides of the story, being indecisive, losing my drive, hating conflict (the only people I argue with are those I'm really comfortable with, but that's often only when I've just had enough and snap. I hate myself afterwards), wanting to matter, and I've always been a huge dreamer. I also definitely see myself in both triads. When something goes wrong or upsets me, I instinctively just want to DO something. But I also really want to do things based on my feelings and the feelings of those around me. Any tips of how to decide?

@meghanproietto8863

Жыл бұрын

Have you looked into the tritype? Im 479 i show a ton of 9 but my core is 4… also self preservation 4 looks that way..

@meganh9241

Жыл бұрын

@@meghanproietto8863 I have looked into the tritype, but have always leaned more towards being a 9w8 947 sp/sx (we're really similar apparently haha). I think my core motivation is that inner stability and peace of mind of a type nine though, and core fear of losing connection/being in conflict.

I have been doing lots of research on this and I can't really feel any one that specifically connects or stands out. I feel like maybe I am just...nothing?

Do you have video on converging path?

I definitely related to 4 and 8.

Hello Abbey and thank you for sharing your creative side balanced with your teaching side. You have an amazing blend that brings joy and your content is encouraging and insightful. Abbey, is it possible to be half and half of two types? Seriously I swear I am 50/50 of two types and constantly flip flop.I am either a 2w3 or 3w2. I relate with both types equally in many ways and it is hard to pin point. Although I think I am slightly stronger with a 2w3, lol!!! Keep shining Abbey you are so talented and I love your content!!!!!

How do i schedule an appointment with you??

Do you offer private coaching to help find my type? I have it narrowed down to a few and I'd love to purchase a coaching session if that is something you offer!

Hi Abbey. I’d very much like to hear about the reading tastes of Enneagram types. A funny video would be nice, but I’m really looking for more depth. As an avid reader, I find that my tastes are all over the board but I’m a 7 and avoid the Kristin Hannah books everyone else seems to enjoy. And I almost can’t read thrillers unless I already know the ending!!

what do i do if i relate to 3 types of the enneagram that are not so related? like 4,5 and 9

is it possible to be an istj 5w6? and how would you describe this type?

@HighFiveFriend

3 жыл бұрын

ISTJ 5w6? Absolutely! And in good company. How would I describe this type?? Awesome!!! 😎

I want to become a coach.. im a life coach already (go figure im a sp4!) but i just see people and the process makes sense, ive been studying and developing my skills and want to take it further!! Help!!

Hey what MBTI are you? There’s this website called personality-database that’s focused on trying to type random people, and there’s one with you on a poll where people are debating whether you’re INFJ or ENFJ.

@AbbeyHowe

3 жыл бұрын

Oh really? 😂 I’m an INFJ!

@beybrain7896

3 жыл бұрын

Oh cool!

type 4 listening to music hahahaha!!! that's so me!!! thank youuu! kisses from a French 2.

@AbbeyHowe

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome! 😘😘

This was great thanks so much for sharing I have just started this crazy world of enniagrams I learning a bunch and can see myself digging in to learn about me my wife and kids ….. It almost feels a little bit like asking people how much is their salary when asking what are their types. I’m a 9 maybe that’s a feeling of getting controversial????

Fours do NOT envy your home, car, or anything so petty. We envy your comfort in the world, your ability to walk so freely, to love so clearly, to worry so little.

You are so sweet, it is hard to imagine you are the same type as my ex husband who was actually a diagnosed sociopath! Let's just say he was fully into the deceit and needing to win aspects of the type! In all seriousness, I am curious how personality disorders impact all of this, or if they skew it completely.

At what point are kids old enough to apply the enneagram? I'm pretty sure my 12 year old is a 4, but I also know that she will continue to "find herself " in the coming years. Will the enneagram type change?

I read about each enneagram type, but the problem that each type has something to do with myself. I was reading about the reformer, and i find that, i myself live in a quest for the best version of myself to the point that i get detached from the reality and draw ideations of myself, still there are some points where i am not a 1. Same thing with 3, where i highly evaluate myself as a competitif persona, hence i run after success a things that would make me socially admirable, and that was shaped becuz of that my parents always had this vision where i am the "one" and not to mention my ex girl high tendencies toward material success and which made me on this path of proving to her the misfortune she made when breaking up with such a sigma lol. 4 and the rest are the same deal, and even while tryin to apply this knowledge on people i find out that each has moments where he experiences a certain type, with that being said i am the enneagram 123456789 (just wanted to do it hahahah)

Hey, I am writing this hoping to get some help about my Enneagram because I cannot understand it. I took the test and my highest scores were 8 for 98 points, 5 for 96 points and 1 for 91 points. Apparently it gives me a weird shape thus I cannot understand my Enneagram.

6 and 9 seem very similar?

I’m a 9 and I rarely ever use my 8, actually I don’t think I’ve ever used it in my life HAHAHA. I’m probably a 9w1 because my thoughts are more like “I should do what I ought to” but I’m not necessarily responsible, hehe. But I think I’m pretty well behaved socially.

Good video ,but enneagram largely starts with Gurdjieff. However, our modern version of it is not found in his work. I suspect the modern enneagram system is more recent than you think. And usually people who teach it are business people and not psychologists and philosophers, which often muddies the waters even further but there is no way in which this problem can be corrected largely because there is nothing to be saved and so there is only innovation. The only way forward is to have philosophers and psychologists take it seriously, and even innovate it. Im a type 5 btw

Im all of them👀😂

Ohhhhh a butterfly.. 7 here .

We have souls. We're not just the physical body

AND GEORGE GURDIEFF? HE IS IMPORTANT IN THIE HISTORY

I relate a lot to 1's, 4's, 5's and 9's but I'm too uncertain to settle down for either one... I'm too open-minded and either see why I couldn't be *this*, or how I'm simply being delusional and only wish to be *that*. I don't really have a clear self-image so it's very difficult trying to type myself directly.

Weird. I think I relate with kinda1, kinda3, 4, 6 and 9 So probably 9w1 or 4w3. But of course I can't say from one video. Used to think I was 6, but I couldn't relate to 5 or 7 at all so that would mean I'd have no wing.

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Me: *picks up the lasagna and lets the dog lick the floor* still yummy enough

What happened to Katie Marie?

I feel like im all of them?

9 deadly sins originally. vainglory, and melancholy

Any 4W5s? Are you a 9W1? 🤔

ENFP already?

Can you adopt me? Forever?! Your simply brilliant and awesome and I want to keep you and call you my squishy

7!? KIDS!? 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱

Who's here cause of health class

i dont relate to any of these types in particular. they all seem like basic personality traits.

Type four to the core is meh

8 kids is a shit idea I have 7 siblings and it’s the worst

Galatians 1:8 “But though we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached unto you, let him be accursed.” King James Version (KJV)

IM NOT ANY OF THE 9 SO I GUESS ITS MORE PROPAGANDA!

Your lost!

@AbbeyHowe

2 жыл бұрын

you're

You aren't an IEI/INFJ as you claimed on an Instagram livestream. I made a video analysis about your real type. Abbey Howe you have failed typology!!!

Your humor is inconvient.

This not in the Bible