The no brainer is the smirk that you catch when you are in psychological and emotional distress. You see that you never forget it.

@Detroitdiesel285

6 ай бұрын

My mother, when I complained about my stepdads miss treatment. Slight smirk she covered it so fast with false empathy. Many other times I can remember seeing it.

@ciaralee9760

6 ай бұрын

Yep sure is HUGE giveaway My ex's daughter thru me once of those when she was trying to bully me while I was in the bathroom. That same little half smile he gives me when I'm upset

@dodibenabba525

6 ай бұрын

@ciaralee9760 sick isn't it? Absolutely demonic.

@shirleymorales3161

5 ай бұрын

THAT !

@tripsandtravels

5 ай бұрын

no never. it is haunting.

Look, I'm all for identifying a narc but this theory raises a few eyebrows in terms of credibility.

@nmc1859

3 жыл бұрын

Lol 😂

@mgw622

3 жыл бұрын

😆 Good one!

@barbarawarren9443

3 жыл бұрын

So funny! I think the main thing she's saying is that eyebrows are expressive - and narcissiats don't MOVE theirs the same - whether they're thick & gorgeous, or very thin.

@id5girl

3 жыл бұрын

Ha!...😆

@evitaietavir2096

3 жыл бұрын

@@barbarawarren9443 EXACTLY!

My mom's a narcissist but her eyebrows are thinning and she tries to draw them on. I don't think judging people by genetic appearance is a good way to tell if someone's a narcissist...😂

@kateashby3066

3 ай бұрын

It’s not by genetics- she explains it’s about grooming. And yeah… medical/aging exceptions are usually obvious

@hollyhelin4493

3 ай бұрын

Ramani says that narcs spend more time grooming brows, so your mother seems to fit?

@moss534

3 ай бұрын

I would say dont base judgment off one thing but several different things. My mom was like that too I think hers eventually were tattoos.

@shawna1278

3 ай бұрын

You’ve never seen someone use a sharpie to draw their eyebrows on…or tattoos.

@Davewutsup

3 ай бұрын

She's really into it. 🤨

Not about brows, but the look the narc gives when you unexpectedly let on that you see through her "secret window" is a chilling experience. The day I basically told her it'd be the last she'd ever see of me was undescribable. A combination of sadness, rage, disgust, shock, self-righteousness...etc. and all with a stare that went right through me. I walked away, and after a very long cry and determination, it was the last time I allowed myself to be supply.

@melissavanheerden8939

5 ай бұрын

Yes I have been through this!

@darleneengebretsen1468

3 ай бұрын

Good for you.

@hajji1509

2 ай бұрын

Oh yes, that STARE, I know it well. Chilling

@thatrabbit09

2 ай бұрын

Funny .. for me it wasn't a stare. It was through a message. When i said I'm leaving she quickly retaliated and called to keet me and give me a hug and "sorry I won't doubt your intentions anymore." Only later i found out how much that apology wasn't sincere and only to make me feel like the immature one in that ordeal.

I lost my eyebrows due to an underactive thyroid and it really knocked my confidence and I remember my narcissistic ex used to make nasty jokes to his friends and their wives about my eyebrows. Funnily enough my eyebrows grew back since he left.

@nappyfries

Жыл бұрын

Narcissistic abuse is hell on your endocrine system bc of the constant stress so it makes sense!

@woolzem

Жыл бұрын

I am going bald from my husband. He has great eyebrows and when he scowls at me with his eyebrows I ask him why and he says he isn't doing anything

@sanjmalik6282

Жыл бұрын

@@jori7398 Thank you, I have 3 children with the ex narc so can't cut off completely. I have no contact but children still do. He still continues to torture me every way possible. He didn't even let the ink dry on the divorce papers and got married again. He served the divorce papers just days after my sister passed away from cancer. He knew she only had .2 months to live and started the process when he found out. They always kick you harder when your down. It's hard and painful but I know God broke my heart to save my soul.. peace to you.

@sanjmalik6282

Жыл бұрын

@@jori7398 Hugs and ❤ to you. Are you over the narc, how long did it take. I am trying to put on a strong front for my children and my mum who lives with me. Thank you for your prayers.

@sanjmalik6282

Жыл бұрын

@@jori7398 Your words are beautiful, they made me cry.

the smirk, the side-eyes, the glares, the raised eyebrows, their entire body language. other people don't pick up on it, but if you know the narcs, you KNOW their body language

@mentalcat9529

3 жыл бұрын

Whats the side eyes?

@Lucooley1221

3 жыл бұрын

@@mentalcat9529 If e m means the same thing, they look at you out of the corner of their eyes. They face forward and give a contemptuous, disdainful look by cutting their eyes at you to the side and down. Your nervous system processes this as someone/something is about to attack, a danger. It isn't noticed by someone around you, but you subconsciously take note and become frightened, anxious and can't quite figure out why you are reacting unless you are mindful, observant, or know this is a strategy to control and manipulate you. Covert abuse. That's my interpretation anyway.

@mentalcat9529

3 жыл бұрын

Do you mean they keep eye contact and look at you by the side, or they look away at their side?

@mentalcat9529

3 жыл бұрын

@@Lucooley1221 ah i got it

@Lucooley1221

3 жыл бұрын

@@mentalcat9529 My experience was he would look away to the side so even I wasn't exactly sure why I would suddenly feel threatened. Only being out of the relationship for months, doing a "forensic" remembering of specific situations was I able to finally discern that he would tell me he wanted to go with me some place, sit by me while watching television, take a walk with me, even put his arm around me in a loving way only to then give me the covert, contemptuous, "side eye." I was left feeling confused, with cognitive dissonance, and inexplicably anxious and fearful-- all my imagination, except it wasn't. Good luck. I hope this helps. Dr. Ramani's videos are invaluable.

BPD here. People used to think that I am on the autism spectrum because I had a tendency to avoid eye contact. Later on I figured that I do this because I do pick up on microexpressions extremely easily and that I mostly did this with my parents, because I couldn`t stand the lack of empathy in their eyes. Now as an adult my abandonment issues and rejection sensitivity are so bad that I can literally feel my heart sink when I see the slightes hint of disappointment towards me in my mothers eyes. I can literally spot a narcissist a mile away now and one of my biggest fears is that one day I might find out that I´m a narcissist myself and that the few good things I beliefe about myself are just a lie.

@witchywoman4139

10 ай бұрын

If you're concerned that you may be a narcissist, then trust me, you aren't one. Going by my personal experience, narcissists don't tend to recognize narcissistic traits within themselves, and if they do, they brush them off as "unimportant" or "irrelevant." Self-exploration is not high on a narcissist's "to-do" list. Having been raised by (and still, unfortunately, having to live with) a narcissistic mother has left me with some narcissistic tendencies or traits, as part of the overall conditioning process, but these have more to do with the influence on my personality rather than having anything to do with the real "me." I've never had kids, and part of the reason is because on some level I was aware of this destructive conditioning and didn't want to do to my child the same things my mother did to me. But I've grown to recognize that having the awareness of these tendencies is more than enough to curb their expression. The main thing to realize about narcissism is that it's largely unconscious. The more conscious you are, which it is clear that you are, the more self-aware one is, the less likely one is to exhibit narcisisstic behavior. Just my take on it. :) Even though you present as BPD rather than on the spectrum, you might find Dr. Ramani's video on the difference between narcissism and autism helpful in recognizing how certain traits that seem to masquerade as narcisism aren't truly narcissistic. Best of luck to you on your personal journey!

@glimmerofhope3074

9 ай бұрын

Hi buddy, first of all, that sounds awful, I'm sorry you had to go through that, 😢 that sucks. Second, the fact that you worry about being one makes me pretty confident you're not, 😊 You're feelings are valid, even when you are praising yourself. Narcissists don't tend to introspect like that. Do you treat people with kindness when you can? Do you do your best to admit when you're wrong and correct your mistakes? Narcissistic people usually CAN'T do those things, not really. They may make it look good, but the intent isn't there. So recognize your intent, and if it's for the betterment of yourself and others, awesome! If it's just doing what you can to survive, great! If it's putting other people down for own benefit and ego, weeeeelllll, then we may need to talk, lol. I don't think it's something you have to worry about my friend, you do you, that's enough, ❤

@rebekahsteeper

8 ай бұрын

God bless you.

@faith2691

8 ай бұрын

I avoided eye contact too, I still do, but as my confidence builds I can hold better. Xox

@jodyariewitz7349

8 ай бұрын

​@@glimmerofhope3074I'm glad I read your comment first, it saved me the time I was going to spend pointing out the same thing...that a narcissist wouldn't self reflect in such a way that would accept accountability or flaws, they would just project blame! The very fact that he's worried about it says he isn't a narcissist!

I'm blown away by the number of comments about narc mums. I feel like I've needed you all my whole life! I grew up in a smaller town, in an environment full of enablers, and was the target of my mum's insecurities. I left at 18, and, at 34, am still processing the impact that she's had on my attachment style and interpersonal relationships, and of course my inner voice. Anyway I honestly didn't realise how common it was and how many people out there have had experiences with their mums like this. May we all find peace in our lives 🙏😊

@ieatgarbage4216

9 ай бұрын

I’m happy you got away! i also left at 18 🎉 hoping for your healing ❤

@mariaridler1831

9 ай бұрын

I have a narc mum. It’s affected every aspect of my life and me but I’m learning how to protect myself. God bless you 🙏💕

@jkcliff2956

8 ай бұрын

Me too. For years I thought I was the only one who had a mother who was nuts. It was comforting to find out that I am not alone.

@Sweet-Cheaks

8 ай бұрын

Same😢

@karlabritfeld7104

8 ай бұрын

Yes, I had a narcissist mom who made my life hell.

Me and my brows are deeply offended by this

@donnathedead7554

3 жыл бұрын

Me and my eyebrows thought this was funny.

@coffeebeforemascara

3 жыл бұрын

My eyebrows are really thin from over-plucking, I spend time in "doing my brows" so I don't look ridiculous. This is fascinating stuff though… I'll always think about it going forward. And remember, eyebrows should be sisters, not twins!

@eupiaeupia2647

3 жыл бұрын

😂

@anthony-j-alibrandi-369

3 жыл бұрын

Ellie Flgr more over hyper focus stereotypes. JMO eternal life Blessings too

@RodneyD

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry Narc....lol!!

Immediately runs to shave eyebrows off to avoid being a narcissist

@sigrids7856

2 жыл бұрын

And painting Everyday different brows.........

@suzycanfly

2 жыл бұрын

Same xD!!! I have thick eye brows. And I maintain them or else they'd look like caterpillars on my face xD

@empathicone21

2 жыл бұрын

Lol 😆 Perfect!!

@alexx6367

2 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@EllieStrums

2 жыл бұрын

In my experience people who shave them off purposefully and draw them on surprise are always CRAZY

Everyone that has beautiful eyebrows is not a narcissist lol 😂

@briananderson6758

8 ай бұрын

That’s what a narcissist would say! 😮

@seattleraisedme

8 ай бұрын

@@briananderson6758 right

@briananderson6758

8 ай бұрын

@@seattleraisedme I’m just joking 🙃

@dacksonflux

8 ай бұрын

lol Of course not. I think the point was that narcissists like to be pretty. Great eyebrows are a great way to accomplish this.

@ceciliaschaefer8057

8 ай бұрын

Dr Ramani has explained that not everyone with distinctive eyebrows is a Narcissist.

Every horrible person in my life with narc tendencies have had normal eyebrows. Not too thick, not overgroomed. Just regular eyebrows. This includes family members, and partners. I have somewhat distinct eyebrows but I don't do much to them. It's more of my ethnicity.

@shawna1278

3 ай бұрын

Then it’s you. J k!😂

The big smile they get when they got a reaction out of you. Then they point the finger, and blame shift you.

@nix9650

3 жыл бұрын

You just said it so correctly.

I think dealing with all the gaslighting is more exhausting then anything.

@chriswalls5831

2 жыл бұрын

I've dealt with that for yrs its very tiring indeed.

@jujumama

2 жыл бұрын

" i love you" no, you dont

@kerrinasser4291

2 жыл бұрын

Gaslighting feels like your stuck in the twilight zone. ... like a type of twisted covert hell and the narc uses Gaslighting to try to make you believe they didn't Gaslight..... 🤢🤮🤯

@sacredsolfire

2 жыл бұрын

1000%, I wrote a poem(actually a few) about my narcissistic X...soundcloud.com/user-489321636/gaslightqueen

@taralilarose1

2 жыл бұрын

Exasperating, infuriating!

I’m not going to let my eyebrows grow wild to prove I’m not a narcissist 🤣 I live a quiet & peaceful life that does not require validation or attention 😆

@dacksonflux

8 ай бұрын

I don't think that's what they were referring to. You're not a narcissist because you tweeze here and there. Narcissists coincidentally have Instagram-Brows.

@Patricia_Stewart337

8 ай бұрын

Quietly You Be You!!! Nice to see you honoring yourself❤️‍🩹

@am1951

8 ай бұрын

🤣

@crazycornishcrafter

7 ай бұрын

I have the unibrow gene (fortunately, the ones in between died with tweezing). I don't bother with much makeup, but I will smarten up my brows. They irritate me if I don't.

@rickoasisfan

7 ай бұрын

~ on the other hand, a narcissist does know they are a narcissist & rarely seek treatment. Sooooo Mmmm maybe you’re one & don’t know it ❓

My mother is a narcissist and always raved about my eyebrows "Your eyebrows are perfect!" So then I started paying attention to them...now I'm going to look like a narcissist to others? Great.

@kathleenbolton-schmukler5727

8 ай бұрын

Looks can be deceiving ;)

@Holeydoughnuts

Ай бұрын

Same 😢

Aesthetician: what would you like today? my ex: "Gimmie your cheapest set of Narcbrows, and step on it sugarlips!" **no tip**

@eleonoracoppini6629

3 жыл бұрын

😅🤣😂

@thebullwhisperer916

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like my ex except they tip for clout sometimes

@rocktheboatpaul

3 жыл бұрын

LOL haha, thank you

@HisWordisLife4U

3 жыл бұрын

Uh...it's a bad idea to return to the same esthetician for waxing when you didn't tip last time. Do I need to say why?

@MB-mz2fz

3 жыл бұрын

Jajaja 🤣🤣🤣

Dead cold eyes and the smirk My ex, would never look me in the eye. I'm 2 years out Still have ptsd.

@leeboriack8054

3 жыл бұрын

Ive found wonderful PTSD recovery information from youtube.com's Anne Runkle or the Crappy Childhood Fairy. Brilliant ideas for retraining and reshaping our minds for a healthier spirituality.

@BidensTaint

3 жыл бұрын

Yep

@15lee89

3 жыл бұрын

I’m going on 3.... I’m finally getting better but don’t trust and probably won’t ever again. Hope you are ok now. I was tricked into another relationship with another one about a year ago it was worse than first. I thought I studied and had it figured out but this one was good. I had to premted I didn’t like my cats like I’d be super bored or brush them off and look annoyed just so he wouldn’t know I cared about them. That’s flip in messed up. He is gone now and light is finally showing. I never knew they existed so the whole experience was good to learn about these types. Although the eyebrow thing I don’t agree with?

@15lee89

3 жыл бұрын

But be carful because they spot you out especially after you were a victim

@dorothybaez

3 жыл бұрын

Oh, how I hate "the smirk."

My mom is a massive narcissist. She's a cosmetologist who focused on hair removal. Her specialty was eyebrows. She called herself "the eyebrow specialist". She had tons of clients. She was really good at it as she is a perfectionist. It's funny how at a young age I started to pull all my eyebrows and eyelashes out because of all the unrelenting horror I had to live in. It must have been hard for her since they see us as an extension of themselves. Not to mention she's the eyebrow specialist and mine were a wreck.

@whathandleUtalkabt

7 ай бұрын

Yet she never offered to fix them, tattoo them, blade them. 🤔 typical narc ma

@rozilla5603

4 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for what happened to you. You might have Trichotillomania: Where a person may sometimes pull their hair out in response to a stressful situation, or it may be done without really thinking about it.

@IamStillrich

3 ай бұрын

@@whathandleUtalkabt That's typical narc male or female though.

@tarameekins2276

3 ай бұрын

I did the same thing!!

@tarameekins2276

3 ай бұрын

​@@whathandleUtalkabtshe probably insisted it was due to her daughter's weakness and nothing she did

It just dawned on me that narcissists eat your feelings. I had the privilege to go to a 21 day intensive therapy DBT program. A requirement was daily writings about how you feel. I did not know how I felt and needed a list of feelings to pick from. That's what narc abuse does...I didn't even know how I felt.

@sarahmorrissette1256

9 ай бұрын

Can relate. Have a hard time with feeling the feelings and even knowing what I want. Small and large decisions leave me so insecure

@donnafraenkel7852

6 ай бұрын

You right, they stealing your earth elemental spirit which in turn makes you ill and lower in consciousness states

@JamesB-ey2ql

6 ай бұрын

I wish I could go do that..... How did you choose a program?

@bearteeka4782

3 ай бұрын

I needed a list too. My therapist gave me one. It was eye-opening. I can see the same trait in my siblings. Now I am better at knowing my feelings, but not at expressing them.

What's the deal with narcissist's eyebrows? - Jerry Seinfeld

@avoidantbehavior

2 жыл бұрын

*Kramer kicks open the door and performs narcissist's eyebrow maneuvers*

@hippojuice23

2 жыл бұрын

Good one!

@LilyOfTheTower

2 жыл бұрын

*George is wearing false eyebrows and Elaine hates them*

@lopesracing

2 жыл бұрын

Haha perfect!!

@amberhoward7807

2 жыл бұрын

NEWMAN!!!!!!!!

I would've thought it was either the mouth: the gross little self satisfied smirk or the eyes: dead or scary intense

@cloverstylez

3 жыл бұрын

My husband does the furrowed eyebrow death glare. 😡

@reboundingfromnarcissistic5386

3 жыл бұрын

Their eyes give them away in my opinion.

@jensbasement3862

3 жыл бұрын

yes

@ChristinePikisapaMungu

3 жыл бұрын

Eyes and mouth to me too.

@Xana_K

3 жыл бұрын

Dead eyes for sure, or empty eyes. Looking into my exes eyes was like looking into nothing. it was really creepy. I could just tell there was no emotion, nobody present inside. But he did have some intense brows going on too haha. And that damn smirking. Just thinking about it makes me want to punch him Imao

I’m a hair dresser and you can tell a lot about people from there eyebrows. Especially mental health. The same goes with how they get there hair done and the style. And yes the narcissist does actually spend more time on themselves getting there hair nails and brows done as well as pedis because they have a need to always look more perfect than the person in-front of them. It’s a one up that only they understand. As said to you by a cosmetologist who watched a narc salon manager destroy eight women at a time.

@TheUglyTruthWriterOfficial

3 ай бұрын

Wow 😂 so you judge people's mental health by their eyebrows.... I think that says more about you than them

@IamStillrich

3 ай бұрын

@@TheUglyTruthWriterOfficial Yeah thinking similar line of thought. Many a neurological issue can make you draw your brows on sideways.

@slewfoot6608

3 ай бұрын

What?!!! Doubtful!!

@NotJessH

3 ай бұрын

Wait a minute… I am just high maintenance so I can be low maintenance lol I get my brows laminated, my lashes done, bleach my hair, get a mani/pedi every month because I don’t have time to do it more often. I don’t believe I’m mentally ill, I’ve never been diagnosed with anything other than postpartum depression/ anxiety. I’m a mom of young children, I have a public facing job (sort of) so I have to look put together a majority of the time and have very little time to get ready each morning.

@lilarose6792

3 ай бұрын

My narc ex boyfriend would always correct me in the ways I did my own hair, and he looked at me like wtf are you doing girl 😂 he knew better than me fr

My eyebrows are very sparse as I've gotten older (58). I read in a beauty article eyebrows 'age' a person's face as they thin out. I invested in the newest thing; eyebrows stencils with pomade and I use a setting gel. I spend more time on the eyebrows than the rest of my face. I receive many compliments. I'm not a narcissist. I'm on the other side of the spectrum; an empath. The eyebrow regime gives me more confidence.

@kristinanicole3283

9 ай бұрын

Me as well 😊💯

@ditzygypsy

9 ай бұрын

Same here. I don’t change mine with fads, and I like them nicely arched, filled in p, and not too thick or thin, and I’m not a narcissist at all either.

@kikidevine694

8 ай бұрын

Mouse fur was, allegedly, a thing 😂😂

@lilyflower4962

8 ай бұрын

Yes, for people who have a skin disorder, such as rosacea, which I have, and which causes a loss of eyebrows, (and even eyelashes for some), this is kind of unfair! I would say, a very BIG maybe to that study, here. I have to put/pencil on eyebrows, in order just to look normal. It sucks!

@marikar.3686

8 ай бұрын

I wonder, how they gathered/invited those participants to the study. After all takes one to know one.

I LOVE all of Dr. Ramani's facial expressions. She's very demonstrative. (-:

@pinrayi7909

3 жыл бұрын

She is really

@sn9731

3 жыл бұрын

So true! I love that about her too 😍

@alibertylover

3 жыл бұрын

Too much drama

@melinaburkhardt421

3 жыл бұрын

@@alibertylover It is her temperament.

@sixthsenseamelia4695

3 жыл бұрын

@@alibertylover Eye rolling. (ASD - aversion to eye contact & find eye rolling weird).

This made me laugh so hard. My ex used to say “look at my eyebrows, aren’t they perfect?!”

@EleniBelle

3 жыл бұрын

Omg, mine too!!! 😱

@catherinepraus8635

3 жыл бұрын

That is funny 😄

@Laura-vs6fs

3 жыл бұрын

sounds kind of like me lol I love my eyebrows, but I don't spend much time on them. I am not a narc though, I promise 😅

@calliemae311

3 жыл бұрын

It’s so good when you can laugh versus cry. I laughed out loud last night watching how all of a sudden something drastic happens when you’re trying to get a point out to the narc and it’s probably taking us a long time. All of a sudden there is an itch, or a sharp pain, or an urgent call they have to make. I laughed cause mine saw a bird out the window and this had to be the rarest bird ever one of a kind never to be seen again, bird. 🤔🥺😩What the world!

@dz7357

3 жыл бұрын

@@calliemae311 they’re a a special type of bird themselves hahaha. I’m so glad I’m rid of mine. 🥲

it’s actually spot on! i know someone who is very particular about grooming her eyebrows and is a full blown narcissist. it’s good to know the connection.

@carolemmett9385

8 ай бұрын

Seriously, don't be gullible...

@am1951

8 ай бұрын

@@carolemmett9385 preoccupation with perfect eyebrows fits in with the trait of narcs who are OTP concerned with their appearance, spending thousands on cosmetics and beauty treatments.

My ex narc has very dense eyebrows, and she was always concerned about groming her eyebrows. You nailed it..

@sarahha6523

7 ай бұрын

how can we judge ppl based on their features? that's just silly....

@lydiamcknight7011

7 ай бұрын

My boss has me mostly convinced she is one, or very high on the scales of it, and most days she doesn’t even wear makeup, just only does her eyes brows. They’re extremely overdone to make her face more lifted but I always just thought it was funny how she only did her eyebrows and overdid them.

@Gloriagal78

7 ай бұрын

I was doing my eyebrows while listening to this😂

@lydiamcknight7011

7 ай бұрын

@@Gloriagal78 yeah, I wish people posting about narcs would be a bit more careful and include disclaimers. I’m like, does she know about the massive trend that eyebrows became? Now I’m like, do I need to be purposefully be bad at doing my eyebrows? Lol

I work in the beauty industry and literally everyone is getting thick eyebrows because it’s what’s currently popular. Different looks and thickness are popular in different years. I think it’s the soulless state that a narcissist has. It’s unnerving and frightening. I wouldn’t take this eyebrow theory very seriously. And I totally value your work.

@HisWordisLife4U

3 жыл бұрын

I am an esthetician too. I use an eyebrow pencil and wax my eyebrows, but I am not a narcissist. Lots of my clients who wax their eyebrows are not narcissists, I have just talked them into it. I am especially enthusiastic about ridding guys of their unibrow. I bring it up when we are in the back where no one can see them submitting to this girly grooming technique in the shampoo bowl. It's never their idea. Never.

@evamz9584

3 жыл бұрын

@@HisWordisLife4U why would you ever talk someone into waxing their eyebrows? Especially men. If someone doesn't come to you first then it's none of your business if you think they should be waxed or not..

@HisWordisLife4U

3 жыл бұрын

@@evamz9584 Clients. Ask my advice every day about appearance. It's my job. Duh.

@evamz9584

3 жыл бұрын

@@HisWordisLife4Uim not talking about the clients that ask your advice. It is not ok for you to "bring it up" and "talk them into it" if its "never their idea". Are you serious?

@HisWordisLife4U

3 жыл бұрын

@@evamz9584 Being dumb and argumentative is a bad combo, you might want to switch it up. LOL

What this made me think of is how cartoons use eyebrows to depict what people are thinking and sometimes how good or evil they are. I wonder how much this mattered.

@delideri3518

2 жыл бұрын

Interesting idea

@aniak9793

2 жыл бұрын

The same was my thought

@rhondagray8518

2 жыл бұрын

if the study was done scientifically with a good cross section of ages; most women over 50 would have said .....I dont know what a narc is; but I am betting my ass he is gay. many people think narcs are just arrogant self centered people. There was nothing scientific about this study from my research of it.

@artandculture5262

Жыл бұрын

I grew mine back in after years of plucking and use one of the brow gel fillers and am very happy I did and I’m not one of the mentals. I was so glad I stopped hours of pain of plucking. Best decision last year. Maybe the extreme cosmetic eyebrows make people more vain but I have no cosmetic surgery or fillers in my face and am glad I restored mine.

This could be a coincidence, but I find it interesting that my abusive narc mother (an esthetician by trade) has always been preoccupied with her eyebrows, to the point where she had them tattooed to make them more prominent. I, on the other hand, lost mine due to trichotillomania I developed as a preteen. When there's an argument, she will smirk and raise an eyebrow. When she wants someone to feel inferior, she smirks and raises an eyebrow.

@SKOLAH

Жыл бұрын

My narc mother was obsessed with her eyebrows too! ❤ to you, fellow narc Mother survivor.

@ME-gz8yi

11 ай бұрын

I'm sorry that happened to you. I don't know what trichotillomania is [I think it's self-pulling of eyebrows?] and I'm too exhausted to look it up atm. However, eyebrow loss could be from stress as it is a sign of hypothyroidism. Alas, you say tomatoes, I say tomahhhtos.

@opticalsound4444

11 ай бұрын

@@ME-gz8yi self-pulling of hair anywhere on the body, including the scalp. It often occurs with other disorders, especially anxiety and OCD. Thank you for your support

@deniseclaeys8295

9 ай бұрын

I lost ALL my hair from chemo. It took a while for my hair and eyebrows to grow back. When I didn't immediately reshape my new brows and pluck a few errant hairs that had suddenly grown on my face, my narc spouse and other narc relatives made fun of me- and the joke never died. Even my young niece still looks for errant hairs on my face and laughs about it! Glad I survived breast cancer, but the growing awareness of my narc family has been a challenge, to say the least!

@acolley2891

8 ай бұрын

The male narcissist in my life dyes and trims his eyebrows and they move into an evil shaped when he's angry.

I once read a book by a narcissist. Who actually said he wasn’t even sure how he knows he’s a narcissist, because they usually don’t know it. But he did. He mentioned the “ Cheshire Grin” as in Alice and Wonderland. When they smile, they show bottom teeth in their smiles. My ex had a wall of photographs of Himself only. Lol with famous people. I looked at his wall of photos and had a heart attack. Every single picture where he was smiling, his lower teeth were as visible as his top teeth. I had a chill.

@inprogress5210

3 ай бұрын

My dad does that too. I always wondered why I saw his smile on other people and why it scared me to the nines. My mom also has such a smile - both of them are not good parents or good people overall.

@jadengrace_

3 ай бұрын

My ex best friend too, it’s like the smile wasn’t real, they didn’t know how to actually smile

For everyone getting defensive about their eyebrows, obviously the eyebrows alone aren't gonna be the sole indicator that someone has NPD. It's just an interesting observation that's been made based on a study.

@user-gu5xx5le2j

2 жыл бұрын

It’s insulting to us that come from backgrounds with thick eyebrows.

@chaoswitch1974

2 жыл бұрын

I'm fairly certain that the whole point of the study was to say that, in fact, eyebrows alone can inform people as to whether somebody is narcissistic. I don't see it as racial profiling at all, because the key to it was how groomed they are, meaning tweezed, shaped, trimmed. There's a lot that goes into well groomed eyebrows. So much that I've given up on perfect eyebrows. Mine are always good enough and I darken and shape them when I put makeup on. My current narcissistic boyfriend dyes his eyebrows black and they are always perfectly manicured, tweezed, shaped and trimmed. For the first few years in our relationship it was a point of contention for him that my eyebrows were too long. One of my good friends, who I believe is a narcissist, is anti-makeup, but gave me an eyebrow grooming kit with tweezers, wax and colored powder in it. There's something about the eyebrows.

@adrena7321

2 жыл бұрын

Wouldn't someone a bit narcissistic instantly defend themselves? 😂😂

@adrena7321

2 жыл бұрын

@@user-gu5xx5le2j she didn't say thick necessarily, did she? She said, well-maintained

@rhondagray8518

2 жыл бұрын

It was a very badly done, unscientific study done in Canada. I looked into it myself because their study caused more pain and anguish in groups trying to heal from narcissistic abuse. If the study had proper scientific controls it would have turned out differently. Ask any woman over a specific age what she thinks about a guy with thick well groomed brows; what they think: the answer would not be narc. There were no scientific controls and participants had no real understanding what a narc is.

This is interesting, but I'm rather skeptical, and I don't think people should let this influence whether they think a certain person is a narcissist or not.

@TheGazelle85

3 жыл бұрын

Agree, it's dangerous to walk this line, we are all very impressionable and get carried away very easily (see, I don't say people are... I put myself in there too). I think is best for us mere mortals to leave preliminary studies alone and just focus on what's been scientifically proven.

@banksy6335

3 жыл бұрын

Amy Jeane She’s just pulling our legs, this is the most ridiculous study ever, if it’s even real!

@evitaietavir2096

3 жыл бұрын

I had a very long and close relationship with a narc, and was always unsettled by their eyebrows -- I now understand that it's what I WAS READING in their eyebrows that was unsettling. They can be any kind of eyebrows. This study is being very misunderstood in conclusions; the data (to me) points that eyebrows can telegraph emotions, and the more distinct the eyebrows, the louder the message.

@brad-hj4nj

Жыл бұрын

I mean if someone genuinely thinks someone is a narcissist based off their eyebrows they're not exactly doing great in the object permanence department either.

@pennypop408

Жыл бұрын

I like my eyebrows. lol

I had nice eyebrows before I had cancer. They have grown in about 70% and I do spend some time filling them in with my eyebrow pencil every morning.

I’d turn to look at my mother, my whole childhood, to see her glaring at me. I mean…full on glare; eyes squinted with that ‘disgust’ mouth. I’d quickly look away. My little brother, however, would glare back in an exaggerated way. He was brain-damaged from a severe head-injury, yet he’d glare back at her, as in a parody. That memory lifts me up.

@AnnieAutopsy

Жыл бұрын

You poor thing. Sending you a virtual mom hug. 😘

@Querencia7779

Жыл бұрын

@@AnnieAutopsy thank you. 💜

@dbuck1964

Жыл бұрын

I’m familiar with that glare.

@playadremingrl

Жыл бұрын

Im so sorry to hear she did that to you but i def chuckled just imagining your brother glaring back at her XD like damn the one person with no filter in the room is showing you exactly how everyone else feels. Im sure it gave you a little sense of revenge when you saw him doing it

@annabernatowicz2707

Жыл бұрын

Maybe it’s something wrong w you not your Mother .

But I have to shape and groom my eyebrows almost daily to every other day or I look like Bert from Sesame Street. I promise it's not a narc thing. It's a uni-brow thing 😭

@ambergreen6359

2 жыл бұрын

😆

@philliperskine4986

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😆

@barbaralysaght863

2 жыл бұрын

I need to pluck every couple of days, because even though my brows are thinning, I get hairs growing way outside my desired brow line.

@MV-kk3nh

2 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@resilientangel5915

2 жыл бұрын

How, cute.

My ex husband did not have noticeable eyebrows. While I will never know for certain if he is a narcissist, as I left in an effort to save mine and my children’s lives. I will say this though: when he was angry and I believe to be a malignant narcissist, his eyes would turn the darkest, deepest black you have ever seen. It was haunting. And terrifying. Thank you Dr. R for yet another insightful video. You help so many of us.

@barbaracristina1508

5 ай бұрын

Demon took over that's why his eyes where pitch black and haunting.

@Feline27

3 ай бұрын

This is so true you can See the Devil in the eyes

@Lucy-vx9nn

3 ай бұрын

The black eyes is a well known sign of a sociopath. I dated two people like that before, and also believe its demonic.

So, I am a licensed esthetician, and while I was in school, and and work places I can attest to the fact that people with more groomed my brows were a little bit more on the gossip side. I learned quickly not to share with these women/men just by their actions. Personally, I do keep up on my eyebrows and I know I’m not a narcissist I am in therapy and I have CPTSD. Part of the reason why I left the beauty industry is because of how many people are full of themselves. I was sick of it so now I am back to square one working on my art, and hopefully having that hobby bloom. I am now just a caregiver for my nephew and at least I get discounts for being a licensed esthetician. Also, my closest friends always come to me for skin care advice, and that is a lot of fun and life-giving 😊

My mom is a narc. She doesn't care about her eyebrows. They are very light too. She doesn"t ever raise her eyebrow.

@cairosilver2932

3 жыл бұрын

I've seen some accounts of very light eyebrow narcissists - it might be the near absence of eyebrows is also something that brings attention as well

@theastrokyd2114

3 жыл бұрын

I thought about this similarly. The narcs I know have invisible/blonde/no care given to them at all.... hmmm

@nmc1859

3 жыл бұрын

My mom is also a narc and always made sure hers were 'done'. And a lot of makeup before when younger

@ValleyMyStar

3 жыл бұрын

My mom took great pride in hers and really harshly criticized other female family behind they’re backs for their 2000’ eyebrow style (the thin lines) maybe it’s just coincidence nevertheless we should never diagnose someone on their eyebrows 😂

@tulanzuya

2 жыл бұрын

My flaming narc sister gave absolutely no care to any part of her appearance to the point where she was actually quite hideous in later years (rotten teeth, very heavy, hair thinning to baldness, odd growth on her nose) and wore that as a kind of badge of honor (like "look at me, aren't I gross? Look at me MORE"). She actually looked a bit like Elizabeth Taylor when young so that transformation was hard to watch. I think there must be a type of narc that just doesn't GAF about appearance at all, or uses being unkempt as a weird and twisted kind of aggression toward the world.

Maybe though, they had thick eye brows as a female and got made fun of and so she spends time making sure that they are well groomed so that doesn't happen anymore. That doesn't make her a narcissist.

@Jeff-nn3up

3 жыл бұрын

I think the theory is more that narcissists = more likely to have dark, full eyebrows. Not that having nice eyebrows = narcissism. My ex girlfriend was a lunatic with the worst case of NPD maybe on the planet and she had beautiful dark eyebrows. So maybe she’s right

@HoneyDrops2023

3 жыл бұрын

Or like me, have alopecia and get microblading down. And as some pointed out, some ethnic groups have thicker brows and groom them to be more professional. Also seems to be an automatic bias against women who want to feel/be more attractive, for a variety of reasons.

@EH23831

3 жыл бұрын

I’ve always had dark thick eyebrows (I need to wax them) I’m definitely not a narc... so hope no one is judging me! 🤓

@legalservices8856

3 жыл бұрын

Legal Services True! I had really dense eyebrows as a kid and got made fun of bcz my hair was lighter than my brows and silly boys made comments (now that is a good thing to have darker eyebrows) but back then I felt self conscious so I started bleaching my eyebrows!!! so ridiculous what kids do to each other. but I wasn't a narc obsessing over my eyebrows ~ ~

@evitaietavir2096

3 жыл бұрын

I think what the study actually is finding, is that " DISTINCT " eyebrows (thin, or dark, or dense, a type of eyebrow that is attention-grabbing) make identifying narcissism in the subject easier, because eyebrows can express their hidden emotions well, and they're amplifying the eyebrow's body language by making them more " DISTINCT " or out of the ordinary, more dominant on the face.

"People actually do a pretty good job at identifying narcissism." Yes, Dr. Ramani. We've noticed how many people have mentioned your own narcissism.

I was teased for my unibrow so I started plucking early on. Now that bushier natural brows are popular, mine are nice and thin from years and years of over-plucking. They do stop coming back, kids! I don't really have to pluck anymore, except the occasional stray, so now I'm worried what my brows say about me even though I rarely touch them lol

@user-xo5dc6hf7c

8 ай бұрын

You’re no longer a narcissist and you are now a codependent!😉

Can you do a video on the narcissistic smirk? I read that that's another good way to tell if somebody may be narcissistic or just evil.

@GS-st9ns

3 жыл бұрын

Based on the thing I was married to, I would say that smirk is psychopathic but I would love to hear Dr. Romney's take on it

@freerangeboogie7293

3 жыл бұрын

I had a friend who never laughed with me over jokes. She would smirk. Friends No More after she abused an elderly woman.

@greeneyedparadox6609

3 жыл бұрын

@@freerangeboogie7293 omg.

@tinkzorro

3 жыл бұрын

Like Bill Gates, that guys got a constant narc smirk

@sarahjohnson8514

3 жыл бұрын

I believe she’s done a video on the smirk already. Scroll through her videos.

This kind of seems like a catch 22 for women particularly. On one hand, you’re expected to put effort into your appearance. For example, more groomed eyebrows on women are seen as more “professional.” On the other hand, if you put in the effort, you’re seen as narcissistic? Seems like you’ll be judged negatively by your appearance either way. Not to say that vanity isn’t correlated with grandiose narcissism at all, but I think social context, degree, and intent are some relevant factors, so people shouldn’t be judged at face value (lol). Also, some ethnicities have naturally denser eyebrows, so this kind of bias seems *potentially* concerning.

@almccue7176

3 жыл бұрын

@Keen Dietrich ummm.. A little pretentious to speak for all men or women. You speak as if you have some sort of exclusive knowledge or insight no one else could possibly have. That's creepy and scary.

@MrCeceLol

3 жыл бұрын

@Keen Dietrich u sound so creepy and what u said has nothing to do either with the video or the comment

@runtochrist1975

3 жыл бұрын

There is some interesting insight to what you are saying. I have seen overweight and unattractive women be narrassitic also. In general, I think it gets down to people that are self indulgence or arrogant about their regard whether it takes from vanity or other means of attention.

@prettypicture1000

3 жыл бұрын

Most indian women have very thick eyebrows so they are all in a habit of grooming them every 2 weeks.. so basically they visit a beauty salon and get them shaped. In India even the labour class women get their eyebrows done by professionals. It’s a matter of necessity here unlike vanity like nail extensions and so on. Now it’s also possible for everyone coz every salon here has at least 5 beauticians who are trained in this job so women of all social strata can afford that in a salon that suits their pocket. If you looked at the process, it’s quite painful and time consuming to some degree.. considering traveling to the salon and waiting for your turn and paying for it.. Besides we indians are genetically dark haired women so well shaped and prominent eyebrows are a common sight here. I completely agree with your comment. In my opinion...The only healthy way of healing from narcissism is to not be obsessed by them or their kinds.. we don’t have to spot narcissists as quickly as we see them. Diagnosing personality or mental disorders on the basis of facial features is a very dangerous territory, the very stereotypical attitude is unethical. That way we might just end up avoiding and ostracising a lot of innocent people. The only way to identify narcs is through a fair amount of experience with them.

@jnagarya519

3 жыл бұрын

Make-up itself is a deceit.

Thank you Doctor! Your energy is a thing of beauty and is giving us all so much clarity 🤩

My ex-wife of 40 years is a textbook example of a covert narcissist. Oddly enough, she lost her eyebrows somewhere around 56 years old. Very weird.

@tundeterez

7 ай бұрын

That because of age and her thyroid.

@Supercalifragilistic714

3 ай бұрын

Menopause

Micro-expressions of contempt, are the indicators that I've registered with the repeat narcissists in my life.

@jamesdean747

11 ай бұрын

Maybe you are a narcissist yourself. The kind of narcissist that calls everyone a narcissist but actually is the narcissist herself

@deborahcurtis1385

11 ай бұрын

@@jamesdean747 ROFL Maybe not...Jimmy Dean!? Authenticity is important to me except with trolls using the name of a famous dead movie star for some cachet....you got a highlight which means someone thrives on this kind of lame inauthentic conflict.

@jamesdean747

11 ай бұрын

@@deborahcurtis1385 my parents named me after him. Thanx for recognizing his greatness. No i did not get a highlight of this. On the other hand; i did like your reply. Some microexpressions made me smile. Based on your reply i want to marry you. Are you down with that?

@Blackwellink20

9 ай бұрын

@@jamesdean747 was the irony of making this kind of comment not somewhat obvious lmao

@Padraigp

9 ай бұрын

I have always had a frown in the middle of my brows. In bright light especially...even when im smiling if im outside im always scowling with my eyebrows. Lol!

My mother was a flaming narcissist. Yes, it’s all about the eyebrows. She shaved hers off and she would draw them on everyday with a VERY HIGH arch. She was obsessed with Joan Crawford. She also could not get enough of Mommy Dearest. This is very interesting.

@LightBeing369

11 ай бұрын

Oh wow the whole Mommy Dearest thing hits me hard. My mom thought it was so funny that her family compared her to Mommy Dearest and Nurse Ratchet from the Movie One Flew Over the Cookoo Nest. For me it was horrifying because I lived it in real life. My mom did the same exact thing with her eyebrows too

@Ritefita

11 ай бұрын

damn, I googled Joan Crawford. omg.

@jraa4560

9 ай бұрын

​@@LightBeing369 OMG ! This girl (31) Narc, would spend hours Hours on her eyebrows !!

@dmmoctober

9 ай бұрын

Was she around for botox?

@user-bx9zt7rg2o

9 ай бұрын

Mine would do the same! She was extremely expressive once those arches were on

One of the things I have noticed in beauty and make up is that there is this obsession over eyebrows. (I'm not sure if it is applicable to men, but for women definitely.) I remember as an older teenager in the 90's that there was this practice where people plucked hair out of their eyebrows to make them appear thinner, but more recently there is a trend to make them bigger and to draw attention to them with make up. I've never really liked either practice, but the more recent trend to accentuate the appearance of them makes me cringe more than the 90's trend. It seems to make the person who does it appear meaner - I don't know if there is a correlation between heavily made up eyebrows and narcissism, but it wouldn't surprise me if there was because of the repulse I get from it.

@Patricia_Stewart337

8 ай бұрын

Poor Ivanka Trump’s husband, Jared. His FATHER had huge Groucho Marx eyebrows. His are a cosmetic surgery FAIL! Bette Davis eyebrows. Sad

@heathers7265

5 ай бұрын

yes, I always think they look like big, angry eyebrows when they're too much (too drawn on, too big and arched, too noticeable, etc.). 😂

@bearteeka4782

3 ай бұрын

A few years ago a lot of youtuber women were getting their eyebrows re-created to be sort of pointy-arched. No matter what they naturally were. It seemed weird to me that they would want to alter themselves so much to follow a fashion trend.

@blessingmasawi3616

2 ай бұрын

Your repulsion is personal. You grew up idolizing one thing and now the "decadent generation" does else

It is hard to believe eyebrows as a distinctive feature of any personality considering more people have fake eyebrows. There can be so many arguments against this theory but it’s a fun research indeed. 😊 thanks! 🙏🏻

@lesliea.6440

7 ай бұрын

💯 agree! I speak as someone who spends time on my pencil eyebrows so the narcs I’m around don’t tease me. I got bullied my whole life about my trich and eyebrows. So how does this hypothesis work for those of us who have no eyebrows? What then?

i dont think that eyebrows can make someone narcistic most women like nice eyebrows lol

My narc ex didn't have perfect eyebrows but had a weird obsession of judging everyone's else eyebrows including mine. Finding out this studies gave me goosebumps and makes me believe there is a link between eyebrows and narcissism.

@AshleyCummingsYoga

2 жыл бұрын

My sister always comments on my eyebrows!

@leatateo

2 жыл бұрын

I wonder if it's not so much the eyebrows but the muscles that are flexed that give it the "narc look", like when she was talking about facial expressions, I wonder if "narcissistic eyebrows" are actually a certain muscle that looks more enhanced because the expression is practiced often by that person, like feelings of anger, resentment, disgust, etc. And like all muscles the more it's used the more toned or enhanced it looks - giving people more enhanced or sharp / whatever narc traits look like eyebrows. Almost like when you can tell when someone looks tense or angry, you can almost tell when someone is often in that mood as a default because their facial muscles have been conditioned that way.

@AshleyCummingsYoga

2 жыл бұрын

@@leatateo I think it’s a lot to do with the intense obsession with overall appearance ❤️🙏🏻

@leatateo

2 жыл бұрын

@@AshleyCummingsYoga ahhhh yes that makes sense also🙂♥️

@AshleyCummingsYoga

2 жыл бұрын

@@leatateo “everything external perfect”

My late mother was a covert narcissist with naturally beautiful eyebrows. She did not need to do much to them. She was fastidious about her entire appearance.

I distinctly remember my dear old dad saying the reason he fell in love with my mum was her eyebrows 😮 he's in a safer place now gawd rest his soul ❤

The smirk. Especially how it never matches the expression in their eyes.

@suetowler1019

3 жыл бұрын

Like when you have managed to get a forced apology? Ya...

@brooksequine7621

3 жыл бұрын

@@suetowler1019 : Wow ! You got an insincere apology ! You did better than me !

@suetowler1019

3 жыл бұрын

@@brooksequine7621 It is like saying SHUT UP! So ...no..

@brooksequine7621

3 жыл бұрын

@@suetowler1019 : :(((

@dianedavis5746

3 жыл бұрын

Oh the smirk. Don't miss it!

My NPD ex had bushy eyebrows and did not take care of them. So I’m not sure how accurate this study actually is.

@l8dyl1berty

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe he was a covert narc.

@mercedesherrera5142

3 жыл бұрын

This study is geared more towards female grandiose narcissists. I believe its different for males. I read another article about narcissistic brows in general, they are said to be full and their most distinctive feature. My ex also had full bushy eyebrows. Though he didn't truly shape or arch them he did remove unibrow, stray, and overgrown hair.

@skylaralexis7699

3 жыл бұрын

This sort of thing can’t possible be very accurate, of at all. To figure out is someone is a narcissist, best way is to observe the red flags they give off, not pretend that eyebrows actually make a difference in someone having a personality disorder or not 🙄

@majlordag1889

3 жыл бұрын

I don't think facial features have anything with personality or disorders to do, it's most likely coincidence. Society also rewards attractive people and often punishes people with physical flaws so it's not weird that people are vain

@Robertoni7

3 жыл бұрын

The study I read included bushy eyebrows as distinctive. The grooming was only part of it. Sounds like he fits the profile.

I’ve been noticing this for years, this video confirms my suspicions. One person I know always has their eyebrows raised so much because they’re always talking about how insanely badass they are that their forehead seems permanently wrinkled

This is hilarious! After 20 years of no eyebrows from over plucking as a teenager, I finally decided to get a very minor nano blading filling. 😂😂 Stressing "am I a narc now??" 😂😂😂

@paulaamero

9 ай бұрын

Seriously. Coincidentally my raging partner called me a Narc just a day before I tweezed a few hairs, first time in like 5 years. Now I'm like....gee maybe I am the devil. Wierd how doubts can get put into people's minds. His eyebrows are like the Wizard in Lord of the rings and he uses them to the full effect. Maybe we're both the devil! 😮😊

@melissamoody175

9 ай бұрын

A narcissist isn't gonna say they're a narcissist . so you are okay. :D

@IamStillrich

3 ай бұрын

Yes! You are a narc. Don't you ever forget that. If you do forget that there will be a group of people around you at all times to remind you, that you only think of you. There will always be someone who says this especially when you stand up for yourself, making you feel like telling them your need for your needs are a personal attack on them. Bwahhhhhhhhh ha ha (sarcasm) and don't even think about getting sick or having an illness or injury. They will throw you to the curb.

@boundtogoboogie

3 ай бұрын

Exactly!

My late husband had naturally beautiful distinctive eyebrows. He was one of the best humans I’ve ever known. Both our grandkids got his eyebrows and I’m very glad.

@pheart2381

2 жыл бұрын

I'm wondering whether it might have been the muscles underneath their eyebrows,rather than the hairs? One major narcissist I know has never touched her eyebrows.

@CaptainKingOrca

2 жыл бұрын

This person is exploiting a cottage industry

@punkypinko2965

2 жыл бұрын

@@pheart2381 Do her eyebrows already look good?

@karenagen6757

2 жыл бұрын

@@pheart2381 I don't think the researchers meant people with naturally beautiful eyebrows. I think the people in the research group looked at the sharpness and symmetry, probably to the extent that they look perfect. It could not be the muscles because remember they transposed the eyebrows onto people who were not narcissistic...and suddenly they were. We need to see the photos ourselves to know

@karenagen6757

2 жыл бұрын

We need to look at the photos ourselves to see what kind of distinction in the eyebrow they saw

Eyebrows is fashion. I have thick eyebrows as I am Persian descent, this doesn't make me narcissist

@AnastaciaInCleveland

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed! I have my grandma's prominent brows (though they are sparsely haired). Grandma was as far away from a narcissist as you can get. I have self-esteem issues; so, I am not a narc, either. ~ Anastacia in Cleveland

@Lincorn1

3 жыл бұрын

true but if they become your identity, your pride and joy. it might mean you have narcissistic tendencies.. as this fashion and beauty obsessed culture has nowadays.

@star_light_kid

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe it does...Afterall the experts said so!

@Mollycrimey

3 жыл бұрын

@@Lincorn1 there are different categories of narcissism and vanity doesn’t hurt anybody

@toneyfox6328

3 жыл бұрын

Yes i had them but whn a child i started pickin them a habit i have til this day n i have bruised the skin so i kinda have to cover it now i hate that i did it but i do have a narc dad etc

I've noticed that as I age, the hair on my head seems to have slowed its growth, but the hair in my nose and ears have doubled their growth rate. I never before gave my eyebrows a second thought, or even a first thought....until now. Thanks Dr. Ramani.

My mother in law’s eyebrows are very distinctive and she likes them thick and dark and she looks so unapproachable no matter how much she tries to make her face look otherwise. My spouse(her son) also has thick arched eyebrows, almost perfectly groomed for a man. And they are both malignant narcissists. This was so mind blowing! Wow😮

Despite my thick eyebrows I’m quite invisible in front of my narcissistic family. Their astronomical ego sometimes causes a solar eclipse.

@krisluvsutube2684

3 жыл бұрын

I feel that!

@ronfirek5824

3 жыл бұрын

Yes I wonder which culture has more NARCISSISTS in it. Blessings

@1986nitya

3 жыл бұрын

hahaha...good one!

@1Skorpia

3 жыл бұрын

Your fine. The study is ridiculous. Its encouraging judging people on their appearence.

@MrPsychoPlayer

3 жыл бұрын

@@1Skorpia lol, study is not ridiculous. it is about unnaturally modified eyebrows to get a thicker etc. look. it is not about judging people on their natural looks. but more like judging their choices to get a certain look.

What if you're born with naturally "perfect" eyebrows -- no grooming needed? I'm just thinking it's dangerous to form prejudices against anyone based upon their appearance. Some of the kindest, most empathetic people I know happen to be the most physically beautiful.

@diademglow3429

3 жыл бұрын

Agree, whats even more scarey is a narc will throw this diagnosis on their victims. This gives amo to the wrong person possibly.

@runtochrist1975

3 жыл бұрын

True....You can lump them all into one category over eyebrows, but when their spending a lot of money in the salon for perfect eyebrows....Welp this is definitely a sign.

@obscurum6

3 жыл бұрын

Dr. Ramani isn't saying it is an absolute she is just presenting some interesting research. Caring a lot about your appearance doesn't make you a narcissist though.

@JJ-yu6og

3 жыл бұрын

Why is it dangerous to form prejudices based on eyebrows??? Lol

@2LittleSticks

3 жыл бұрын

Watch the entire video. She talks about this.

My jaw dropped when she said narcissists spend more time fixing their eyebrows. My X was always going to get his eyebrows groomed and was upset when the stylists didn't get the waxed arch just right. He got upset when his regular stylist had left the salon with no forwarding address as he believed she did them "just perfectly." I thought his obsession was a bit odd for a man. It took me 8 years to finally understand he was a full blown narcissist with ASPD!!!

If anything it’s the opposite, it would be more pronounced in men because they’re less likely to have groomed or expressive eyebrows whereas most women have groomed and expressive eyebrows, making you less likely to be able to single them out

I have been relying on my eyebrows more these days since I have to wear a f-ing mask at work.

@greeneyedparadox6609

3 жыл бұрын

Haha. I can relate i was like i am really not angry. Maybe thats why stress caused my less genuine smile.

@freerangeboogie7293

3 жыл бұрын

I admit to getting Botox in the past - ha

@carolinelaronda4523

3 жыл бұрын

Lol fuckin masks .. it’s like why even do makeup anymore 😩

@oracleofdewphi

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, wearing a mask is worth it to me, but I feel like I have to over-emote with my eyes and eyebrows.

@nunyabidness4946

3 жыл бұрын

You dont HAVE to wear a mask or even worse, what comes next. But u will need to recognize who your enemy truly is. A significant lifestyle change will be necessary(it was a good trap). Proverbs 29:25 The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is safe. Matthew 6:24 No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money. Luke 14:33 So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple. Revelation 13:16 Also it causes all, both small and great, both rich and poor, both free and slave, to be marked in the right hand or the forehead, so that no one can buy or sell unless he has the mark, that is, the name of the beast or the number of its name.

Except that groomed and drawn on eyebrows are now extremely fashionable....and this is practiced mostly by women. I would advise against making psychological judgement based on physical features as this is problematic on multiple levels.

@tulanzuya

2 жыл бұрын

I wonder if one could say that the fashionable obsession with the eyebrows is merely a symptom of an undeniably narcissistic-enabling society in which we live?

All I can say is my dear narcy lady spends a lot of time on her eyebrows and I quite often get asked if they look good. So I reckon there's some truth in the eyebrows story! No escape path for me at the moment so I very much appreciate all your help and advice.

I find this very interesting. My ex was the only man I knew that plucked / groomed his eyebrows. 13 years later I realised he’s a narcissist. He ticks all the boxes, from the love bombing to gradually and intermittently changing his behaviour, his flare for theatrics, his need to guilt trip and manipulate and control others. As a woman, I tend to forget to groom my eyebrows and I’ll be lucky if I remember to do them once a month. So I guess it’s reassuring to me as well, to know that I’m not the narcissist, as he accused me of being. Thank you so much for all your videos. They are eye opening and very interesting.

I grew up with a narcissistic mother who often flew into frequent rages and ruled the household. I became a perfect narcissistic supply who was also attractive. Quite a few narcissists came into my life and latched onto me. They are all unattractive and do not have the well-groomed brows. What they all do have is the swagger and erect posture of a very confident person, like they own the ground they walk on. They are plain but can judge other’s looks harshly (especially weight), and have to be with attractive people who have lots of things going for them. They have to have the best.

@gamebiance

3 жыл бұрын

I never really understood the harsh criticism of people's weight, even judging kids, while often being overweight themselves

@Thoa817

3 жыл бұрын

@Thubie Tubie Narcs don’t make sense. They have certain ideas about something like weight and reacts strongly. My ex-bf loudly said, “They shouldn’t have that ice cream.” when overweight people walked past us with ice cream cones. He always looks exaggeratedly disgusted when he sees overweight people.

@rougebouvier

3 жыл бұрын

That’s so true!!!

@LucienPolanco

3 жыл бұрын

This is so true. I have noticed this. They tend to criticize others looks a lot. If you watch a movie with a narcissist be prepared for the constant critique of the way the actors look. It's the tiniest, stupidest things too. Ex. Their eyes are too close together, etc.

@Yayas_World29

3 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏

I knew it! I’m an esthetician (including eyebrow waxing), and I’m always looking at brows. There is a specific type of women’s eyebrows that I’ve told my kids: “See these? You see these eyebrows coming toward you, you cross to the other side of the street.”😊

@mindhunter8772

Жыл бұрын

Wow! what types of eyebrows should we avoid?

@lizzymint6705

Жыл бұрын

Omg this is incredibly fascinating. I wish you could post a picture. I want to see.

@wendynorris3497

Жыл бұрын

??

@TortoisePig

Жыл бұрын

Can you show or explain what these eyebrows that you're describing?

@TortoisePig

Жыл бұрын

@Homos R Perverts Against Nature now that you mention the meth thing I think you might be right, my cousin and I were buds in highschool from freshman year. Sophomore year I believe she started shaving off part of her eyebrows. That's the year she first tried cocaine. Eventually she did shave off her eyebrows and long story short she's on a path to being the local methhead in a decade.

@DoctorRamani I've been following your videos and have even seen you on some crime documentaries. I admire your work and it has been a comfort to me. My aunt is a NPD and she helped her little sister [my mom] to an early grave. My aunt was so solicitous of me to the point she tried to get custody of me and drive a wedge between mom and me. Not sure you call it a biometric, but you are spot on in regard to the strong brow/eyebrows. In ancient pix of my aunt, she had distinctive brows, while my mom had noticeably faint ones. I believe your correlation of good looks to NPD, though it does present a chicken/egg problem. When s friend and her husband started the process to adopt a baby, the social worker asked if they had a preference of gender or ethnicity. My friends said, "not at all, though we would prefer a pretty baby since life if much easier when one has good looks. Truer words have never been spoken lol- although too good-looking presents its own problems smh.

It may sound a bit crazy, but the first thing I noticed about a narcissist were his extremely expressive, sparkling eyes, his strong facial expressions in general, his extraordinary charisma on his face, which didn't go with his malicious behavior at all. Another male narcissist had his eyebrows plucked and it didn't match his face, so it immediately alarmed and put me off. A third male narcissist was very popular with many strangers due to his distinctive facial expressions. He had strong eyebrows and seemed totally friendly and funny - in stark contrast to his abusive family behavior. So I know exactly what you're talking about. If only I had taken this warning sign seriously. If something is too good to be true, it isn't true.

Every time I would stumble or get my hair on something or do something clumsy my husband would give me what I called the death look. When I left him and I was walking with other people and stumbled they looked back and were concerned. It was such a nice feeling to know that I wasn't a bad person for stumbling and that normal people would actually care enough to make sure I was okay.

@catkoj7895

Жыл бұрын

Holy moly. Makes me appreciate my sweet, compassionate husband. So sorry you had to go through that. I couldn't imagine being shamed like that by someone who's supposed to love and accept you most.

@MassageMagick1111

Жыл бұрын

Omgosh that’s f’d up.

@gomemgangkak1207

Жыл бұрын

I can relate so much with this comment.

@laceysaije8371

Жыл бұрын

My husband does this with our daughter, she's 6. And now she's afraid of telling us when she's hurt

@whittenaw

Жыл бұрын

​@@laceysaije8371 well that's a gigantic red flag with a siren attached. You might wanna do something about that so she doesn't have issues for life

That smug narcissist grin so creepy

@mariewilliams6631

3 жыл бұрын

They talk right in your face. And also they just laugh proudly if they upset people. Or they laugh if they disrespect people.

@martyrose

3 жыл бұрын

Sneer.

@aatikahcarmenhappy3494

3 жыл бұрын

It's a shit eating one sided grin for me you know they planning something

@user-ux7yg2ch6i

3 жыл бұрын

Unless you know them well they just look happy.

@justforfun-jp2vc

3 жыл бұрын

It’s the direct mocking laughter for me

Narcissistic people have this uncanny ability to "angery brow" in a truly unnerving way

One doesn’t need actual eyebrow hair for a face to reveal actual facial expression to be read and understood … it’s not only eyebrows but the smirky covert smiles and overall facial covert communication.

Every Time I hear about a narcissistic trait I start to panic from the possibility I might have it. This time, a definite no😎🥸

My ex is a narcissist. I remember when we first started dating, one time he complained about my lack of care for my eyebrows.

@bhavyashokeen8106

Жыл бұрын

Maybe he didn't like unibrows

@ChrisBGramz4u

Жыл бұрын

@@bhavyashokeen8106 Well, then he shouldn't have asked me out.

Wow, this is so true. I dated a horrible narcissist. He was the only man I knew that would have his eyebrows threaded and would curl his eyelashes to emphasize his features. He meets every narcissist category.

@leahg3926

2 жыл бұрын

Ewwwww!

@minkorrh

2 жыл бұрын

As a man I would have to say that any guy who is that granular about his grooming has an issue or two. There's certainly a difference between a guy trimming long eyebrows and going and getting them threaded.

It's not normal to have to protect yourself from the person that is supposed to protect you

This is bizarrely accurate when it comes to my ex husband who I am fairly sure is a narcissist. He is very handsome, he has this devilish grin, which I used to find endearing but tbh also always found a bit frightening. His eyebrows are extremely pronounced and he uses them to grand effect in photographs or when charming strangers. I always found it strange that the same theatrics never applied to me after the first few days or weeks of our relationship.

@kutatm

7 ай бұрын

Same experience here. My ex husband has very pronounced eyebrows and would use them quite expressively. I was always “uncomfortable “ when he did so.

When my narc smiles his eyebrows make him look like a kind person. Inner ends get up high, and outer ends get lower. But his smile is fake and laugh extra loud. I dont think eyebrows a good determining feature. But he had what I call "crocodile eyes". Cold, glassy, scanning envirement for a next prey.

@kellyannwalsh5339

3 жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh! The extra loud laugh! My ex narc would, on occasion, do it SO loud that an entire restaurant would hush and people would be looking. At one point he did it at a kid in a musical who messed up his line. The audience had no idea the kid made a mistake, but was laughing at the show...until he laughed so loudly and obnoxiously that the entire theater went quiet. By the way, the ex knew the kid made a mistake because he was one of the hired musicians for the show. Having gone to the rehearsals is the only reason he knew there was a mistake at all. Yet he thought there was nothing wrong with his behavior even after I pointed out that he probably humiliated the kid. He used to do that at all the high school shows he was hired for, but that one time was the worst.

@raysofsunshinegirl2401

3 жыл бұрын

Why do I have to think of Meghan Markle's and Julia Robert's laugh here ? When they laugh it creeps me out for some reason.

@user-hm9uq8gk5x

3 жыл бұрын

Did you even watch the video

@antoinqueen8261

3 жыл бұрын

@Mary Carroll right

The eyebrows? possibly, their fake laugh? more than likely.

@Bones469

3 жыл бұрын

Most my GFs and now my N of 20 years all Ns and they all used the eyebrows as part of the scowl or disapproval. Of course I didn't know anything about this until being nearly pushed into self harm now I try to understand as much as I can. At this point, I sometimes see random pictures of women on the internet and my hackles go up.... It's def their eyebrows and how they use them. I think many times they may be uneven or they accentuate one more than the other to drill in with their stare.

Okay Dr. Ramini let me throw this one out for you. I was married to my male narcissist for over 32 years before he kicked me to the curb only after destroying me mentally, physically, financially, etc. I didn't even know what a narcissist was until I found you and you have helped me regain some mental clarity. When we were dating, he enlisted me to trim his very thick eyebrows, which creeped me out but I complied. Guess that was just the beginning of my nightmare. He was always meticulously groomed and I was shocked when I saw the mention of the eyebrows. How indicative of a narcissist and more than likely psychopath in his case. It was a spam of time where I honestly didn't know if I would even survive. Thank you for all you do to help us tortured souls recover. ♥️🙏♥️

Imagine getting eyebrows tattooed and out you have a narcissist’s eyebrows

Would be good if we had a picture of those eyebrows while you talked about them

@bellachance1206

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, I thought the same.

@tangie06_33

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I couldn't follow this and still have no idea what she's talking about.

@MM-om4or

2 жыл бұрын

You just know.. you don't need a picture.. belive me 😊

@chaoswitch1974

2 жыл бұрын

Right? Which eyebrows?

@nsbd90now

2 жыл бұрын

@@chaoswitch1974 I hope it's the ones above the eyes.

If people see those with ”special” eye brows as narcissistic, it doesn’t mean they are! My self proclaimed narc mother never groomed her brows - and for sure she is one...

@SigMaQuint

3 жыл бұрын

I think this was somewhat enlightening. People who are into fashion aren’t necessarily narcissists, are they? Well groomed eyebrows are in vogue now. Why is that? Is it because our culture is getting more narcissistic. I won’t dismiss those findings, but I don’t expect to have understood this either.

@HisWordisLife4U

3 жыл бұрын

The narc in my life never once groomed his eye brows. Not once.

@kittyhouse1028

3 жыл бұрын

@@HisWordisLife4U Men in general don't do much eyebrow grooming. Maybe narcs who don't groom their eyebrows are convinced of their own perfection already.

@HisWordisLife4U

3 жыл бұрын

@@kittyhouse1028 I think they would if there is an extreme problem but they don't know what to do exactly. I don't notice a guys eyebrows unless they have unibrow. Or when they begin to age they start to get crazy long eyebrows that are rouge and out of control. You know the ones where it affects their eyesight? LOL I know guys want to look groomed and nice just like women do but they can usually get away with being way more natural. If you tell a guy what they can do about it, they will. I don't bring it up unless I think it will help them. I bring it up bc I know our culture has a taboo about hetro sexual men doing thing that may be considered "girly" and grooming is not just for girls. Once they know how to get rid of the unibrow, they are eternally grateful for me bringing it up and waxing it off. Every time. If they want to knw how to maintain it in between, I tell them they can tweeze those rogue hairs out, but only from the middle where the smooth part is. I don't know if there is any relationship between eyebrow grooming and narcissism. There are two kinds of narcs one that loves and worships their body and one that completely ignores their body and doesn't identify with it--so maybe the first kind does but the second kind doesn't. :)

@kittyhouse1028

3 жыл бұрын

@@HisWordisLife4U I'm into genealogy and DNA. Did you know a unibrow is one of the traits tested for by one of the main companies? We are elderly and I always have to trim my husband's few eyebrows cause they grow down and get in his eyes.

We should now do another study on how this study is flawed.

The giveaway to me is the abnormally long eye contact. I saw a study about this in regards to Antisocial PD, but I've noticed it with narcissistic people as well. Severe/obvious ones tend to have big, empty, wide-eyed stares while the one that got me (not full blown NPD but a lot of narc traits) had more of a lingering, probing stare. Like a resting sneer that was mostly in the eyes rather than the mouth. Seemed attractive at first, ngl, now I see he was studying me and trying to speed up the bonding process through prolonged eye contact.

Dr. Ramani, why no photos/illustrations of the "narcisstic eyebrow"?? That would have made this video much more educational.

@kaiphiri5961

3 жыл бұрын

Nah bro, if you know..you know, like... you really know what she’s talking about here

@charlottehanna790

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@VivienBowling

3 жыл бұрын

I was hoping for pictures, but I think it is more complex than that. Lots of people do their eyebrows as routine, but I think they can revert to type over the course of the day and it is noticing the underlying, true eyebrow that matters. So, a freshly made up face may be deceptive but a middle of the day face, more realistic. I think it is right not to include pictures because they are only a snapshot. We observe a lot more than we can explain, maybe those eyebrows are able to evoke a gut reaction, but only when the owner is occupued and we can see their truth.

@judythompson5253

3 жыл бұрын

@@VivienBowling it might be a copyright issue, too. They'd have to have permission to show the photos

@TheTreedum

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you are askin for a picture book lol. Her explanation is enough for me.

So the young, shy, and absolutely lovely and sweet Middle Eastern cashier at the grocery store is a hidden narcissist because her thick and dark eyebrows are meticulously groomed?

@bepplersauce

3 жыл бұрын

r/suspiciouslyspecific You should ask her out though.

@user-uj6sc7ls9y

3 жыл бұрын

@@bepplersauce 😆 She's not my type. She does have the most fabulously on point eyebrows, though. 🤣

@thetroopoftruth4820

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-uj6sc7ls9y please report this nonsense video to youtube.

As a licensed Estatition I don’t see how that can be true. Some are so hairy to keep their eye brows tamed they need to growm they daily and there’s some that can be fine once a year. That makes zero sense to me.

I know a female malignant narc and she does her eyebrows as if they were stamped on her face with a stencil. She makes them dark and sharp despite of dying her hair platinum blonde. She doesn't make them thick at all but still very sharp and dark. Also perfectly symmetrical. Her eyebrows hair naturally are quite light colored and not very dense. In the past, she didn't use to draw them on like that. She used to just highlight them with modest amount of makeup. She was also not very malignant at that point I guess she was just an overt narc back then but I believe she experienced collapse somewhere between that and she became more intense with ner narcissism and she changed her appearence.

Thick eyebrows, combined with thick shiny hair and clear skin are a universal advantage that could be a breeding ground for narcissism... However, I have found that 'The Smirk' is a 10/10 giveaway... empathetic*/regular people don't smirk when they have an advantage or when they see someone else (even a rival) in pain...

@timetraveller4116

3 жыл бұрын

Best comment.

@boxergirl84

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ellana_Galkin what?

@ekaputriseptiyani220

3 жыл бұрын

Ow shit, just like my narc ex.. i wonder why she and her mother (also a narc) have the same physical features you mentioned

@user-hb6sb5ig6i

2 жыл бұрын

@@globalcitizen2862 😂😂😂

@lokazbyte2273

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, describing the narc in my life to the T

Joan Crawford immediately came to mind.

@bettydoughtery3920

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

@JC-bg7pe

3 жыл бұрын

Its believed she was a borderline

@danieb4273

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣 right!?

@EphemeralProductions

3 жыл бұрын

She was a classic narcissist from what i have heard

@ronfirek5824

3 жыл бұрын

I'm learning....is borderline same as NARCISSIST/PSYCHOPATH/sociopath? Blessings

In my experience after had bin in a 16 year relationship with a sadistic narcissist, YES , her eyebrows were or still are the most important thing when getting ready, wow, that information is fascinating, I'm three years free from any add trauma and still in the heeling process, your powerful words have bin an important part of my heeling, Thank you ✌️❤️👍👍😎

I also notice the eyes. Perhaps it’s already dubbed as ‘psychopathic stare’. Some mean cruel people have an intense, cold darkness in their eyes. They look intently at you even in mundane circumstances. Their look is completely devoid of warmth and often incongruous with the words or pleasantries they are uttering. If you attend to the spiritual side of you, if you remain a good person in your deeds, actions and thoughts it will contribute to a very accurate sixth sense or innate knowledge that helps you navigate this life.