What Relationships In Medical School Are Like | Q&A With My Wife
Madison and I get so many questions about what being married in medical school is like (from the perspective of the medical student and non-medical student in our case). Along this journey to becoming a doctor you'll often feel pressured to delay seeking a partner or growing a family, and we hear things like "study now, relationships later." But your journey does not have to be like that if you don't want it to be. I know I didn't!
Relationships are hard no matter what you do, and there are certainly unique challenges medical students face. We hope this videos sheds light on what those challenges are, but most importantly how you can overcome them!
1:06 - How often do you end up having to choose time for med school or your spouse?
2:30 - The dynamics (good & bad) of marrying someone who doesn't do medicine.
4:33 - Does Madison have any ill feelings working while you're "just going to school?"
5:30 - What are 3 advices to maintain a healthy relationship during med school?
8:43 - What boundaries have you both set?
9:22 - Advantages/disadvantages of being married in med school?
11:50 - How do you balance faith, school & work?
14:15 - What to look for in a partner if one is planning to start med school in the next few years.
15:59 - Is it lonely? If yes, how do you deal with the loneliness?
18:25 - When are ya'll going to multiply!?
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I have a question for you guys: Have you ever felt hesitant to develop a relationship or grow a family because you are pursuing a career in medicine?
@thehigherevolutionary
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, yes, yes. I'm not even in med school, but I'll start applying after I take the MCAT in a few weeks. Im doing an MBA and at the same time I'm finishing some prereqs for med school I didn't do in undergrad. It's hard, because I have so many classes and I had someone tell me: *come back when you're all grown up.* I'm like, I have to write a 40 page paper... for class - this isn't fun. Sorry, I can't spend 6 hours on the couch watching movies with you. Now I'm single and just resigned to be single until I'm further along in the process.
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
You definitely have a lot on your plate! 😅 I’m sure the timing of a relationship and where you are in the process will align for you when it’s supposed to. But you’ll always be busy lol so don’t feel the need to push off things outside of school that you’re interested in! Good luck on the MCAT and applying! With all of the things you’re doing, I’m sure you’re going to make a great applicant!
@reannarichardson3978
2 жыл бұрын
Yes. That's how I feel now. I'm about to be married and I don't know if I want to wait until I finish medical school or start having a family after my 2nd yr. Decisions, decisions.
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on the soon to be marriage!!! And I feel you with having tough family decisions like that. One thing that I realized is as time goes on, the right decision for you becomes clearer. A year ago we wouldn’t have thought we’d be growing our family now, but then as seasons changed it became something we felt compelled to do. I have no doubt that you and your significant other will know what’s best for you all when the time comes to make decisions. I just hope Madison and I sharing our story and experience can show that it is possible if it’s something you want to do 😊
@reannarichardson3978
2 жыл бұрын
@@EvolvingMedic yes for sure. Thanks 😊
Watched this video twice: first time by myself and the with my wife. As a premed, 32 year-old, married, black man, married to a white woman, I've just noticed how much of an inspiration you are to me, dude. You are me in a couple of years... which is crazy, cause I'm older. Wow! Great video, great channel... God bless you, your wife and your future kids!!!
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this and I’m honored that you resonate with me and have found inspiration in videos and story! God bless you and your family as well! 🙏🏽
Congratulations. 🥳🥳. GOD bless your relationship.
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!!
Congrats omggggg!! And the way y’all look at each other is the most precious thing🥺
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!!! 🥰
Great video as always, this was exactly the video I have been waiting for! Thanks for making it!! - Congrats! Im applying this cycle and expecting my first next month. Good luck to us all!
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Congratulations Kaden!! That is amazing!! I’m glad this video was timely for you. And good luck in the coming months! You have a lot of exciting things coming your way!
I haven’t even started the video yet & I can already tell I need this. I’m already married, in my late 20’s, & leave in a couple weeks to start medical school. Trying to find the balance between being a student & spouse is what I’m most nervous about.
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy this video is timely for you! You definitely aren’t alone in those feelings. I felt the same way starting. One you and your significant other find your rhythm though, I think it will be better and easier than expected 🙏🏽
God bless you two. Thanks for the raw authenticity SD smith, big ups from a fellow second year🙏
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
We’re so happy you enjoyed it!! Thank you for this encouragement and God bless you too! Hope second year is going well! 🙏🏽
I'm glad you announce in this video! Congrats you two🎉🎉🎉 Can you do a video on the home buying process while in med school?
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!! And that is a great idea for a video!
congratulations to both of you!!! What a beautiful blessing 💕
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Tanasia!
That’s amazing news! Congratulations to you guys!!
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!! We really appreciate it!
Love this video!! I really love your personalities and how you’re bold about your faith in Jesus! We need more ppl like you and Madison in this world❤️love from Canada!
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Awww thank you so much Esther! We really appreciate this message and it encourages us to keep going! 🙏🏽
Congrats my guy!! Definitely an encouraging video 🙌🏿
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you!! And I’m glad this video was encouraging for you!
You two seem perfect for each other. Congratulations on your exciting news!
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! We really appreciate that!
Congratulations 🎉 and you two are amazing!! My fiancé and I recently got engaged and I’m currently working towards medical school. This video was really helpful and gives assurance that it is possible to have a healthy relationship while still working towards goals.
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much and congratulations to you and your fiancé! You are absolutely right, it is definitely possible to have both a healthy relationship while pursuing your career goals
I'm so happy for y'all!! The love that radiates between the two of you 🥺
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!! We really appreciate it! ☺️
CONGRATULATIONS ON THE BABY!!!
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Emmanuel!!
Congratulations guys!!! I pray God makes this new phase of your lives very smooth!!!!
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
We receive that!! 🙏🏽 Thank you so much Tomi!! We’re so thankful to have you in our lives!
Congratulations 🎉🤩, so happy for you guys! 😁💓
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Irene!!
You have a keeper on your hands bro. Dope couple, Madison, seems great and ultra supportive. 💯 🔥
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! She definitely is 😊
Super amazing!! Congratulations
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!!
Congratulations, you two! Can’t wait to see your family grow 😍
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! We’re really excited to share our growth! ☺️
This info is highly needed..
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
I’m glad you found it valuable Ike!
YOU ARE SO LUCKY TO HAVE MADDISON
@EvolvingMedic
2 ай бұрын
I couldn’t agree more!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️
Awesome video, JR and Madison! You guys are awesome, keep up the great work!
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Moe!! Will do bro!!
@moeelmasry2331
2 жыл бұрын
Evolving Medic I also forgot to say CONGRATULATIONS TO BOTH OF YOU!! This is so awesome!!!
Well God is GREAT all the time. Congrats to you both on the baby.
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Amen bro!! 🙏🏽 Thank you so much!!
Congratulations to you and Madison. May God fill this next chapter in your life one that is full of joy and happiness 🤎
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Asha!! We really appreciate that!!
Congratulations to both of you.
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!!
I love seeing Madison! I gotta see more of the wifey she glows up the vids JR. We want more Madison Jo😁😇♥️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Hahah I’m saying!! Trust me, I’ve been doing my best to convince her to come back in front of the camera lol. #MoreMadisonJo 🙏🏽😂
@vanessaarnold882
2 жыл бұрын
Yesssss please :) she has fans now 🥰
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
@@vanessaarnold882 I love it!! I think you guys did a better job at convincing her than I ever could 😂
Congratulations!! God bless!! And how did you guys pay for a wedding and the house and everything? Is it just Maddie and KZread? Keep Evolving!! Love you guys ❤️
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!! And we got married 3 years ago shortly after graduating from college. We didn’t have any money lol but our parents helped us pay for the wedding. And Madison’s salary and good credit allowed us to qualify for a loan for a house 😊
This video gave so much perspective to relationships in Medicine! I’ve been with my high school sweetheart for almost 11 years, going on 2 years married. Our relationship has transitioned over the years due to me choosing a career in medicine. Ya’ll gave some great advice and tips on how to balance a relationship and medical school. I am applying this cycle and we are interested in having a baby fairly soon, but do not know what time would be the best. If you were to able to choose another time in your career to have a baby, would you have? And would it have been earlier or later? And why?
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
What’s up Keanu! Great question and congrats on you and your significant other’s super strong relationship! I wouldn’t have chosen a different time because what I’ve realized is you’ll always be busy (med school, residency, faculty, etc.). So there’s never a “right” time based on that. To me, it’s more so when you and your partner feel ready and then you learn to make it work regardless of what stage you’re at
@keanutomey3258
2 жыл бұрын
@@EvolvingMedic that’s so true man, we always make things work someway somehow. Great feedback! Thank you so much!
Yay congratulations!!!
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!!
I didn’t realize you’re wife was named Maddison, so I thought you were saying “Choosing School and Medicine”💀💀
my brother!
Madison, you are an amazing woman. Selfless, beautiful, smart, very feminine. He is a lucky man . Well, both of you are lucky .
@EvolvingMedic
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for these kind words Anja. I couldn’t agree more! I am extremely lucky 😊🙏🏽
Do you guys recommend using loans to help with some living expenses? My fiance is starting medical school in the fall and I make a decent living but am still paying off my own debt, so I'm worried about not being able to pay bills
@EvolvingMedic
Жыл бұрын
I definitely recommend utilizing loans to support your fiancé’s education. We were in a similar boat, but adding stress related to finances will make school (and life) a lot more challenging. Loans at this point is just another resource for you all and if you use them responsibly, they will only be a help.
Congratulations!
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!!
@joyleenstrozier4295
2 жыл бұрын
@@EvolvingMedic you are welcome!
What does Madison do for a living?
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
She’s an elementary PE teacher
Do you know Ahmad Shahin?He's a youtuber in 2nd year at Mayo aswell!
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
I do!! But he’s at the AZ campus and I’m in MN
@anikasamuel3945
2 жыл бұрын
@@EvolvingMedic oh ok👍
If you had the chance what's one thing you would do better in undergrad before applying to med school? Your wife is beautiful btw 🐐
@EvolvingMedic
2 жыл бұрын
Great question! I would have spent some more time learning how I learn. I think I was more focused on grades, and not establishing good learning practices and techniques, that the transition to med school was a bit harder than it otherwise would have been. So looking into things like Anki, getting into good study schedules, etc. And thank you so much! She really is! 🥰
@kyngreactionz8709
2 жыл бұрын
@@EvolvingMedic Ah I see, Appreciate it 🙏🏽
Medicine marries maddison 😊
@EvolvingMedic
8 ай бұрын
I love that!
Did he say jr smith ?
@EvolvingMedic
Жыл бұрын
That is my name lol
Madison is an amazing wife/partner. it’ll all be worth it later hang in there guys 🤍
@EvolvingMedic
Жыл бұрын
She truly is 🙏🏽❤️. Thank you so much!!