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I am 73, my husband is 77 and we have bern married over 40 years. We love each other more than ever and totally enjoy our intimate times. These tips are great!

1. Unexpected foreplay days in advance. Appreciate your man. He wants respect. (So does she!) 2. Show your desire for him. (He should show her too) 3. Show your pleasure. Be verbal. Vocal. (He's got to contribute) 4. Taking charge in the bedroom. (Switch it up, variety) 5. Anything new 6. Mutual effort. 7. Communicate exactly what you want.

@johnjaso385

9 күн бұрын

Feminazi alert

Woman: be vocal , show your pleasure. Men:completely mute and whatever woman does you never know if he likes it or hate it … no connection at all 😮 Ps. Changing positions for most women is like “ starting over again” so if we switch every 5 min they will never come

@skoolie_life3261

Ай бұрын

Very true about changing positions.

@ssiegreen5292

Ай бұрын

Ditto the position changer!!! And agreed upon the men being silent - no moans, groans, twitching or toe curling = no idea if he likes it or not??? Men need to make noise - ask for it!

@apriljohnson1067

25 күн бұрын

This is the thing I hate the most. It takes me 10-15 just to start feeling good in any position.

@susanhaines7358

17 күн бұрын

😂😂😂 it's over in less than 3 LOL

@L-M-O-1

9 күн бұрын

Just switch while he's still inside you. It's not hard to pick up a leg for a few strokes, move that leg over to the side for a few, turn sideways for a few & finally end up on your stomach and/or pushing off the mattress into a seated position. Those all count as a different position. Boom! Variety & satisfaction without starting over

I’m baffled by the comments saying men need to hear this. You clicked on a video about what you can do. If you’re struggling w/respect & desire for your man, there’s probably a deeper issue. I listened to this from the point of view of “what can I do?” Not “what can/should he do for me”. I loved it! There are things I already do & things I can add to what I do. Thank you!

@matboggs9517

28 күн бұрын

I love the higher vibration perspective you're bringing here -- because the truth is we can't control other's behavior, but we do have 100% control over what we do in a relationship and what we "give". And when we focus on that perspective we not only feel empowered but the relationship as a whole has the best chance of improving.

Mat: U always explain even the most sensitive issues eloquently. Love ur enthusiasm. 💗

I'm 46 my man is 61, we're going strong and love that variety and openness. Communication is key and let's that closeness, vulnerability and safe place come through❤ great advice!!

@uczucz

Ай бұрын

I'm 44 and the man I'm dating is 61. We are not a couple, we don't want a relationship, but I can truly say that I'm having the best sex in my life with him and vice versa. We are open, we know exactly what we like, want and what we don't. We know giving and receiving is the same important and we just love to play and enjoy. And you right, communication, respect and "safe space" is fundamental. Best regards for you too💕🥰

@hopeinhumanity.

17 күн бұрын

I heard some good wisdom in that if a woman doesn’t feel safe with him, she will lose attraction for him.

With passive men its a lot of hard work for the woman to turn on passion etc.... some don't even want to involve their hearts just to avoid from getting hurt.

I just love the way that great sex in your twenties is high testosterone in the man. Nothing about what it is for the woman. Like technique. Like knowledge of our anatomy. Like caring. Like asking what we want.

@heatherwest7615

8 күн бұрын

You're not wrong 😂 But this video is about what men consider amazing sex. Not what women consider amazing sex

@bl7817

8 күн бұрын

@@heatherwest7615 I get that. It's the way it's phrased, though.

Personally, I'm tired of the stress of needing to give a man constant variety. People place too much emphasis on sex, and have too much of it, in my opinion. If people had sex less often, not only would it be better, but the pressure for variety would not be there.

@triciaudavcak7221

Ай бұрын

Amen I think because my guy had drunken sex so often, and looked at porn, he doesn’t even know what real sex is supposed to look like. We have to schedule sex once a week and usually in morning. It feels so robotic. We’ve only been together 3 years, he’s 39 and I’m 51. We don’t even have busy lifestyles to have to schedule. It’s so awkward and uncomfortable for me. I feel like I’m stifling myself when it comes to sex . Such a stigma around it

@FriskyTendervittles

Ай бұрын

Too much intimacy and emotional closeness… yea that sounds healthy lol

@lovepeacejoyhappiness

Ай бұрын

@@FriskyTendervittles if you can't have intimacy or emotional closeness without sex, then I'd say that's the thing that's unhealthy.

@annealcantara6952

Ай бұрын

... not much or close to no sex isn't good either. Look at Japan.

@FriskyTendervittles

Ай бұрын

@@lovepeacejoyhappiness where did you hear or read any of that in this video? Did you even watch it? 😆

I'm 54 and my man is 61......we may get that "shift" when we hit 100 ...but I doubt it😁We both love a good adventure

I think some men are oblivious regardless of how many compliments, hugs, suggestions of things to do together, 2:49 etc they don’t get it and are so wrapped up in their world. It takes effort and openness from both- it takes two people to have a relationship

I don't know why so many people confuse respect with admiration. Respect is literally just respecting the other person's freedom and rights to exist, to have a different opinion, to fulfill their mission of life. You are talking about admiration. And this is what we all look for - men and women. The ability to feel and show it exactly is the driving element of a loving and passionate relationship. Talking about our needs and our feelings are the key ingredients of emotional intimacy, the glue that holds it all together.

@Ann963

24 күн бұрын

YES!

#5 anything new, made me think of an All in The Family episode where Gloria (who is a blond) decides to put on a brunette wig for her hubby for something new and it turns him on so much she starts to get jealous of the wig 😂

@discodeb6162

Ай бұрын

I remember that!! 😀😀

@remarkable937

Ай бұрын

@@discodeb6162 😄😄

@amc3964

25 күн бұрын

That was a funny one.

@jojose417

16 күн бұрын

Omg that’s hilarious 😂😂😂

Back when I was with my former husband. We were military members, so when we would be apart via deployment we would start a week out with cheeky warnings like, "4 days and a wake up; HYDRATE"! He would say, "4 Days and a wake up HEARD; I'm gonna need you to stretch". It was fun. However the first thing we did with each other was nap! 😅

“He’s got to contribute” 🤣😭

@dianep3071

Ай бұрын

Hahaha that dont happen after 50’s

@user-yp7vu2cb7p

26 күн бұрын

Try 68. I do all work. Lmao

Thank you...that was a great reminder. ❤

GREAT friendly reminders!!

Love the advice, very helpful

Let people work it out by TALKING TO EACH OTHER.

@laurakello8526

25 күн бұрын

Truth

All great advice!

Interesting. Great advice!

Great post

Open Communication VERY TRUE

Respect has to be Earned

Goes both ways respect earns respect !

Love this advice. I’ve done some of these things. My ex now never stopped talking about the new spicy ideas in our marriage. Now I have more insight. Thank you.

Thank you🌸

Just feel the moment and focus on enjoying without worrying about anything. You both will feel perfect while and after it

So soo sooooo true

Mat you did an excellent job explaining this very delicate, vulnerable topic. Thank you!

Great

Absolutely LOVE this video! I realized that I do most if not all these without having been told to do so. I had wondered what exactly was so attractive to my guy- and this explained it. Thanks so much for your content! It’s very reassuring and extremely helpful!

Thanks for the tips 😏

Great video .. and at 71 ... TRUE !!

I always make sure I give him every day compliments ..and let him know he's so wanted needed and loved and I'm so proud of what he does .. I know he loves to hear me say these sweet things .. 💕

Spontaneity.

Hey Matt I’m married now and I’m very happy

Me 67 and my fiancé is 45 we have a lot of fire and passion when we love on each other every day and night

Soma fiance thanks. That is weird if I say I want to make love or have sex. Belize did I have to happen naturally when we both feel it. What does usually how love making starts for me and my fiance what should I do about this

How do you get past the initiating barrier? As someone with anxiety, and who is really indecisive, its very difficult for me to take initiative, even though I want to. The pressure society puts on it, the fact that my partner requests it, and the factor that I just melt into a puppy when I'm around him makes it extremely difficult. Do you have any advice for tackling the issue of initiating with anxiety?

@jamieswanson8828

29 күн бұрын

Flirt

@littysavior9181

29 күн бұрын

@@jamieswanson8828 Its not as easy saying flirt as doing it, especially with executive functioning issues and with autism's verbal barrier

@moniqrupley6019

24 күн бұрын

Can you be direct? Something like I think you have beautiful hands will you roam them over my body? Or take his hand steer/show him where you want to be touched. Or have him guide/steer your hands on his body.

@BeautifullyModest

12 күн бұрын

Sometimes we overthink things to the point of creating fear around it, hype yourself up overtime and you will just naturally end up initiating it

True about respect … but men also need to earn it !!!

Sorry matt It takes 2 not 1 doing it all

@sassygal4727

Ай бұрын

He says multiple times that the onus isn't on just the woman.... he says it takes 2....

@FriskyTendervittles

Ай бұрын

Your black and white thinking is showing

@CorporateQueen

Ай бұрын

He didn't say that it was. 👀

New relationship, can't wait to try it. We are waiting awhile, to get to know each other better...but when it happens...!!!!

❤❤❤❤

My husband is 40 I am 30. We have 2 kids under 3. When both are asleep at the same time we finally get time together to connect. Honestly sex is always great just less often in this season.

I appreciate your comments about trying to let go with how many women were raised to curb some desires, etc. I can relate. Or when I initiated intimacy with my husband and was often shut down. I haven't found the right man yet...

I get attach with people easily and if he go away than detach... than i dont want him ahh its tough for me

❤

Dude you need to tell this to men and not us women!

The open communication, I love. I love giving it & hearing it. The problem is that my man is an introvert, doesn't need sex, & is an avoidant (Im an anxious). I brought up fun bedroom ideas (some old school to bring back, some new). He gets defensive like he's not giving me enough, & I'm over here like,"WTH, I'm just voicing things that sound fun. We still have fun in the bedroom even after 20 yrs....he just barely wants it. We're 4 yrs apart but I swear that I'm my age,46, & he's like an 80 yr old 🤷‍♀️

@user-qq2se1lu5c

10 күн бұрын

Sounds like you are married to my former husband...

Expressing pleasure can even be in the form of dirty talk. Try saying things to each other that would be highly inappropriate in any other setting.

Your points are great but it's directed to the wrong audience (women). this should b for men. I AIN'T DOING NADA!

@brightemerald3924

29 күн бұрын

😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

It should be organic otherwise it’s too much effort.

that's fun to know I always do that to my man when in relationship and I always thought I was to much open,,I have a big sex drive and when in a long term I always want to try new stuff to not have a sex routine that I hear my friends talk about so sometime my exes always made me feel like am to much so all this time I wasn't the problem,, thanks for the advice I'll continue to be open and let them know sex is more then just coming but actually injoys every pieces of our body mind and soul and connection makes sex feel better in a hole other dementia 😊

What if they want respect but don’t respect you Honesty is communication lol

Well, now I know why all my relationships failed.

Hot Topic 🥵

Im almost 60 hes 60 and our sex life is non existing for 10 plus years And im fine with it i was doing everything and he was not trying any more due to me gone threw menopause So at that time i said why try any more so i stoped

@jenshaw8085

Ай бұрын

That’s sad. You only have one life.

@anneu9158

Ай бұрын

Get hormone therapy it will bring you back to life.

"Grab his ass!" 😂

Please consider cultural differences as well. What you’ve presented is just the natural common approach among latinos when comes to s3x.

More things women have to do…

I gave those things to my man but he still didn't want to be with me. It sucks.

@BeautifullyModest

12 күн бұрын

Start healing and move on, you deserve to be loved and appreciated!

@leyaclark9200

12 күн бұрын

@@BeautifullyModest thank you. I just don't want to date anyone. They only want the same thing, one night stand. But I always wanted a commitment. There doesn't seem to be anyone for me.

@BeautifullyModest

12 күн бұрын

@@leyaclark9200 I definitely understand attracting the same type of person, it's almost like different man same spirit

@leyaclark9200

12 күн бұрын

@@BeautifullyModest this is just sad

Why is it all about what he wants?🤔

That sounds like everything I want him to do. He loves routine, same same same old.

Sex is NOT love, especially for men! In a relationship/marriage, focus on caring, honoring and respect for each other. Good sex will follow.

My man says he doesn’t even understand the first 4 … he doesn’t relate . Says he never thinks about it . Obviously, we have issues. Defeated

@CorporateQueen

Ай бұрын

Is he neurodivergent? Or asexual?

@annarichardson8284

5 күн бұрын

I understand Tricia. It really is awful.

He said or always says I’m to loud and I feel like instead of being into the sex and enjoying one another he is in his head thinking about or worrying about me being to loud and to me I don’t understand what the big deal is. I don’t really care if someone hears like so what I’m gonna adult like we’re in our 40s who cares they should be happy for us right or if anything I told him if someone does hear what are they gonna do that? What are they gonna do nothing but they gonna do be jealous wishing that they had it like I told him don’t shush me ever again it’s so annoying he still does it I know I guess I have a little bit of a weird relationship with him. He’s weird I think it’s weird. He worries about things I think you’re dumb man instead of enjoying life like he could. He spends a lot of it worrying about stupid shit instead just saying.

I 66. Time for younger Men wake up. Sex ?? YES.

my partner does not like anything sexual and finds it annoying that I am interested in it at all. I was previously married for many years and started a relationship with this man three years after I lost my husband. When we first began this relationship he was interested. Now, not at all. It;s awful.

I do not care at this point. Exploring the world to gain more knowledge...not what you talking about. Bye

You know you are speaking about yourself... you cannot possibly speak for all men... things you're suggesting are quite aggressive and not all men like that

There's a reason why there will be no sex in the coming Kingdom. Until then...those consumed, enjoy the struggle.

I had to stop this video halfway through...even though this meant getting out of the shower and getting the bathroom floor all wet. It was that bad. I don't know you/this guy well enough to judge the quality of his general information, but this one video was off the mark. I found it to be performance based advice without much substance. Here's an example... For tip 2 , Show Your Desire, he says, "A lot of times, we [I assume he's referring to women based on the video] were shamed growing up for having sexual energy. Cast that aside." Oh, okay decades of shame that was engrained in me and many women through culture, church, and family - just cast that aside! Got it! (Please read the sarcasm) If you're going to address shame, please do it with at least an ounce of compassion. Telling any person, regardless of gender to "cast all shame aside" without any ways of how to do that is unhelpful at best. He then goes on to suggest things like "Grab his butt", etc. This could easily have been, "What are you most physically attracted to in your partner? What are some ways you could show that to him outside of the bedroom to express your attraction? For example, if you love his arms, you could squeeze his biceps and tell him how sexy you think his arms are." Maybe I'll keep this video saved for any time I want to lose my desire for at least a few hours. In that way, it was helpful.

This guy must not have an anxiety ridden poodle sleeping between him and his partner. And before that it was kids up our ass. Now I'm 54 and it's 26 years later. I work full time, everything hurts, he better take what he can get. 😂

And if you want sex with your Ex? Ex and sometimes not. Hot cold hot cold. Out of sight, out of ❤ I am still remembering the good times. He is keeping his options open. This makes all the advice useless at this point.