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@tammib.2242

2 ай бұрын

Ok

Parents really can do great harm to their children. My parents not only never told me that they loved me, but I was also told that I was not wanted, unplanned pregnancy and if abortion had been legal, I wouldn’t be here. I was 2 weeks old, still without a name; my grandmother finally named me. This affects me even today. So for you younger people who are starting families, please let your children know that you love them through your words and your actions 💕

@heatherhixon200

2 ай бұрын

I completely understand that, my mom has never once told me she loved me. All my friends have these best friend type of relationships with their moms and mines a narcassist who's all about herself.

@saracatio

2 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for that,I hope you can heal from this experience!!!❤

@ihcnutchi

2 ай бұрын

​​​@@heatherhixon200The sad side of all my friends come from loving family is no one really understand me. When I discussed about my family's issue, friends didn't get that not every parents love and hope the best for their children. Some only care about themselves.

@mark-cherylfeinberg271

2 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry that your parents were like that. I hope that you’re making a happy life as an adult. I didn’t feel loved, no pride from parents no matter how well I did my schoolwork or anything else. My point is to please take charge of creating your own happiness. Letting their neglect continue to affect you is letting them win. Get and love your own happiness, please! That way you break the history and do better for your kids! ❤️🥰❤️

@thatfigurestoo

2 ай бұрын

You are so kind ❤

1. "We/us/our..." Agree. I see this from my husband of 12 years 2. "I am here" Agree. 3. "I got this for you." Agree. 4. "I've never met anyone like you." Yes. 5. "I'm worried/scared/stressed about..." Yes 6. "I'm scared to lose you." Yes 7. "I love you" Yes "I choose you"

We talked on the phone every evening for almost a year. When we finally met in person we totally “clicked”! He said”Ive been waiting for you my whole life!” And it wasn’t BS either.

I say 'I'm not going anywhere'. I also tell him how much I appreciate him opening up to me.

I say often: I’m very thankful to God for you sweetie. I’m so glad we met. He often says: Love you and often puts his arm around me that makes me feel loved and secure.

I think a lot of men think they're in love when they're infatuated. And, basically, they're infatuated with some image they have in their mind. Who the woman actually is becomes irrelevant.

@Mayfloweralways

2 ай бұрын

I think thats where slowing things down becomes important. Infatuation leads to lust, which leads to sex. And sex makes it feel emotionally like a relationship, even though he really doesn’t know how he feels yet. Guys who find a person they like, will wait. Guys that are lusting, won’t. They will move on to the next infatuation.

@BrookeLyn39

2 ай бұрын

😮​@@Mayfloweralways

@stickman787

2 ай бұрын

​@@Mayfloweralwaysor shes wasting our time. History has shown they break rules for the guy shes really into. If she womt break rules for me I know that attraction isn't there and I'm gone.

My boyfriend showed me he loved me by spending quality time with me. By bringing healthy food over when I was sick. Protected me, was there for me and always wanted me near him. So when he told me often that he loved me, I believed him.

I would say, “I am so blessed to have you in my life. You are God’s gift to me”.

I've heard all of those from my man and his actions aligned, he's the first man to open up to me and show me love in a way I've never experienced. I feel light and safe around him. I'm not one to talk a lot about my emotions because of past relationships putting me down whenever I tried. That being said, I know he's different and makes safe spaces for me to express my love and I'm slowly gaining my confidence in doing so after 6 months. Because I don't express my love verbally often, I will show him my love with affection, baking (he loves it), being there for him when he needs to talk, and investing in quality time together.

@luananoel6786

2 ай бұрын

❤

Something I'll say to a man I love: I deeply trust you. I appreciate you. I cherish you. What would you do?

@terri5624

2 ай бұрын

I have said that. Just to get dumped shortly thereafter. I'm not afraid to speak my truth and I don't judge so harshly as I did for most of my life. It's our actions that matter. He did show it. We're in different places in terms of our emotional and mental growth. So again, give the guy a break. I know it's for the best, I doubt very much I'll ever hear from him again. Regardless, I will not be there for him this time. I'm not into it any longer. He pushed me away just enough to just keep moving forward and this is his loss. Not mine ❤

@luananoel6786

2 ай бұрын

❤​@@terri5624

@a.d.b535

2 ай бұрын

This is a video on a man's actions to a woman, not vice versa.

@stickman787

2 ай бұрын

​@@terri5624your actions and your words either didn't meet or you weren't ever dating a great guy. Try someone who isn't 6ft tall. Try a guy that not every woman is throwing themselves at.

@terri5624

2 ай бұрын

He was far from 6ft, but anyways lol. He was just a regular guy, worked hard. We got to know each other before we officially got together. I don't think he'd ever met a woman like me before, yes I'm an original. We all are. I'm not dramatic, I am as real as they come, really LOL. Not afraid to show it. Phones and the internet, in my humble opinion, do not serve everyone well. I will just leave that there. And thank you for your comment. ​@stickman787

I BELIEVE IN YOU. I'M SO PROUD OF YOU.

I tell the wonderful man I'm dating "you amaze me." He is so giving and only wants to please me. ✨💖✨💖✨

I say "I need you" in addition to "I love you". Because of my childhood, I don't like needing anyone so if I feel that way about a man and tell him, that's being really vulnerable because being vulnerable and my affections were often taken advantage of and used as weapons against me as a child and in adult romantic relationships. That's why I don't to show vulnerability so if I show it, I really trust him and feel safe with.

I was home sick alone with our 8 year old daughter. Id had pneumonia and couldnt breathe well even small tasks like making her a meal made me feel like I could pass out. I took my medicines and they made me so tired I slept for hours and barely saw our daughter. It was like 1 pm and I felt neglectful and she needed a parent around not trying ro care for me. I asked my husband if he could come home a little early because I really wasnt doing well. He unloaded on me that I was being selfish, he was out providing and life doesn't stop because Im sick, the kid is fine, take more medicine go to sleep and get over it. It kind of broke my heart. I needed him and not only did I feel emotionally neglected, i was insulted and felt like I was being terrible. Now Im labeled by him as having a victim complex. Ive never askwd to come home because I was sick. I just wanted some help, next time I'll call my mom. Maybe I do have a victim complex I cant even tell anymore.

@lorihanson273

Ай бұрын

Wow this is tragic.

@Hildred6

Ай бұрын

You certainly do not have a victim complex, that was said to guilt you, you were sick and needed help. You are a caring parent as you were thinking of your daughter even though you were so sick, you deserve better

The flower story was so cute 😊

Minute 14, many of you are from families where you never heard 'i love you'. Let's not leave out those of us who were forced to repeat back those words immediately after being physically and emotionally abused.

Aww your son picking flowers for your wive is adorable!

I’ll say, I LOVE YOU for all the things that you do for me. The chemistry we had, your care, trust and treasuring each other’s company. Most of all, the never ending giggle and singing we both enjoyed❤️

I have meet a man online but not in person and he says the same things that you are saying. But I don't know when I will meet him

That story about the Mum and daughter - ok so THANKS Matt now I'm crying too! 😂 But seriously what an adorable story ❤️ Re: men, I'm constantly telling my boyfriend that I appreciate him, as it seems to be that the good men in life don't often feel appreciated due to others taking advantage of their good nature. My boyfriend is one of the good men so I do little things to show my appreciation, like little gifts or paying for something for both of us, then when he's grateful and says I didn't have to, I tell him that i wanted him to feel appreciated because [insert thoughtful thing he's done for me recently]. Love to all of you out there!

Thank you for sharing personal examples. It’s very helpful to understand the concept in action.

I love your message in this video. Thank you so much.

I say "you are important:)" and don't forget that "I love you through to thick and thin"

The space for trust should be both ways. He as well should be a safe place for her to share in a calm way what's in her mind and heart, with no dismiss, no stonewall, no silence treatment, not feeling attacked. Communication is key, but empathy is even more important. I'm sorry for my bad English, it's not my mother tongue. Have a nice day.

Thank you Mat 😁

Thank you, Matt, this is so helpful to know how, my man expess’ how he truly feels about, Us. God bless, You and yours. 🧡🙏🏻

Hello Mat, thank you so much for videos. I found them very useful. Please can you tell me if you have a podcast? I would like to download them so I can listen during my walks. Again, thank you so much!

"The words and the actions have to match."

Hello Mat, thank you for your endless guidance on relationships and I really appreciate it. My reaction when I love a man deeply is very different, I just lack words to say and am totally speechless. Is this abnormal?? 😂

I say " I adore you" A lot And i call him my Dearest, Darling or most Beloved 🤭☺️ And i call him my Hero and King 💕

Besides saying I love you, I tell my boyfriend: “ you are the best thing that has happened to me” , “ I appreciate you “ , “ I thank god for sending you to me “

I Believe in you, and I trust you with all my heart

your my hero

For me, when I give a man my heart and soul, I say, "I belong to you."

I tell my man I love you, he replies back to me, you are lovable. It made me feel especial.

Irene is so beautiful inside and out! I would love to see more videos w/ you and your wife😊

I still remember as an adult mother of 3, the first time my mom said "I love you" first, when ending a phone call. I know she never knew the impact she made that day.

FYI: Thumbnail says 7 - Title says 3

@nellynalama3198

2 ай бұрын

😊 Yes

I grew up in a home where I was told I love you but the actions didn’t match so that doesn’t always mean anything 😂

I just one to thank you very very much for all the things you teach as, that we never know before, its so precious and special, may our Heavenly Lord Jesus Christ and Father really bless and keep u safe without any unnessassary problems till the end!! We really enjoy and preciate you!! And we pray for you, because you really mean sooo much to us!! We are from South Africa, so I still learn the English language!! Many many blessings unto you and your family till the end!!

One day I will have the right man

When he's down I say: I got you, no matter what.

I really want to know if it’s still the same if say different words because I have a guy that I have a idea for something we can do and I want to know could that be a sign as well even though he is saying have

Sory, I also want to say, may God, the Father and His Son Jesus Christ and His Holy Spirit be with you all the days until the end of your life!! Thanx for all your hard work and all your love and care!!

Team-mate? My uniform was a bedsheet!😂

My husband tells me ... " Am his everything" or , " him n the kids need me"....

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So if he says I can't scare him away or he isn't going anywhere, it's that good

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Would like, at first, a list of the 7 things, then a deeper explanation of each. Frustrating to keep hearing all the dialogue but then you want the listeners, I assume, for us to listen til the endfir your algorithms

I tell my husband... " You are my gift from God..... "

hi can a man say he love me just by talking to u for few xessions n he is building dream tat how to include the lady in his life

What can I do I haven't talked to my man in a week. He's having internet problems and I am afraid that he's gonna lose me. I thinl he's afraid of losing me and me losing him. What can I do to keep him. I really love him and I don't wanna lose him.

@saniyachoudhury8161

2 ай бұрын

Talk to him...if there's no internet ...go round to his place...communication is the key. All the best...👌

@kellyhorton764

2 ай бұрын

I don't think it should take a week to fix internet problems...can't he come over or is it a Ling distance relationship?

@pricesunbury59

2 ай бұрын

I would go around and talk to him but he's in California and I'm in Ohio. It's a long distance relationsip for now.

@pricesunbury59

2 ай бұрын

I know communiction is one of the things and when we are together will ate good. Thank you for wishing me all the best. I am gonna work on it until I get it fixed.

@pricesunbury59

2 ай бұрын

It's a long distance relationship. Thank you

My bf is not at all like this..he is so selfish and self centered..still i'm with him don't know how to leave this relationship coz he said there is nothing as such of leaving the relationship

@Calmingrainsounds3163

2 ай бұрын

Try having a discussion with him about how you feel, if he still not changing, call him out and move on gurlllll

@luananoel6786

2 ай бұрын

Run away as fast as you can. He will only get worse as time goes on. I know from experience. I wish I could have had Matt's help when I was first getting involved. I was married 30 years to a man who couldn't have cared less about me after we were married. He was selfish and narcissistic but I didn't know the signs then. He was never there for me when I needed him and needed a constant fix of other women. Please pay attention to the signs...it's not going to get better. Good luck.

@BrookeLyn39

2 ай бұрын

Sounds borderline abusive.

We tell each other things like…. I love you, I appreciate you. I adore you, you look handsome/pretty, You smell good. I want you. I choose you. I would live in a cardboard box with you.

Cant take my Eyes off you .

Hi my name is Courtney and I have been single for a long time. I am a believer in Christ and there Is this one person that I like....but in past times I have chased love instead of letting it happen naturally..this person is kind funny handsome and helpful and we have a lot in common..before i go to church I tell myself not to talk to him because I am terrified I am going to screw up and make him uncomfortable....he ends up taking to me and that gives me butterflies..so how do I not misinterpret it if we are just friends and how do I not overthink it.. please tell me what I should do...

How do I manifest a man

@Mayfloweralways

2 ай бұрын

The honest answer? Have a smile on your face and have no problem saying no- even to guys you like. That one is the hardest. Saying no to a guy you like because he isn’t showing up for you.

@terri5624

2 ай бұрын

​Yes! Keep your power and healthy boundaries. Nice response Mayfloweralways

@Mayfloweralways

2 ай бұрын

@@terri5624 Thanks! I just thought of one more thing. Nothing is scarier to a man ( in a good way) than a woman that can keep boundaries calmly. If you’re saying no but are yelling or crying and asking why, that man knows you want him far more than he wants you, in that moment. And a player will take absolute advantage of it. If a man says something that’s moving away from commitment, like “i’m not ready for a relationship right now” it tells him a ton, when you respond. If you say “ Oh, wow. I really thought we were on the same page. I do want commitment, but at least you were honest with me.” Go home and cry in a pillow, if you need to, but mean what you say and assume it’s over. A guy who might be wavering giving up the single life- he will get his act together with no help from you. The guy who’s playing head games, if you show anger and tears, he will immediately try breadcrumbing you. “I do want to still spend time with you. I do still want to have fun with you.” And bam. You just agreed that you’re ok with friends with benefits without even realizing it.

my husband doesn't really say any of this not even i love you he says it's because he doesn't want the phrase i love you to lose its value and he told me himself that he doesn't fall deeply in love with people... and i said im not people

@alexondrajenkins1096

20 күн бұрын

what do i do now?

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How can they deeply love you by saying I love you, and still say those words to an affair partner as well? That isnt love is it?

@VaishaleePunj

2 ай бұрын

Love is there. Don't doubt love. What people say, depends on, what they can give and take

Men falling, in love faster than a woman 😅

Ur voice too low.

Women who have genuine attraction for a man wont ask him to wait and we know it. Those are games she plays with dudes she isnt into. If shes making you wait, she isnt into you and theres no attraction. At that point youre trying to talk your way into a relationship and that womt work because shes only using you as an option. If she was into you she wouldnt make you wait for anything. If she does, run.

@JanuariJones-cj8bb

Ай бұрын

And a man who has genuine attraction for a woman won't rush. And if a genuine woman has real attraction for a guy, she won't rush either. She will take it slow, to get to know him and not destroy anything. Think about all the genuine women you have turned down just because they wasn't rushing into anything. 😄

@stickman787

Ай бұрын

@@JanuariJones-cj8bb false. When women are really attracted to you they break all the rules. It doesn't matter what you say we've seen it in action. And if you don't have attraction to me and you aren't willing to break the rules I don't want you. You only make rules for guys you use and control not the man you want.

@JanuariJones-cj8bb

Ай бұрын

@@stickman787 Good 😁👍I don't whan't you either 😂😂😂😂

@stickman787

Ай бұрын

@@JanuariJones-cj8bb and the reason I know that is because you aren't throwing yourself at me. We aren't stupid. You're playing games.

@JanuariJones-cj8bb

Ай бұрын

@@stickman787 I don't have time for narcissists. I hope God and Jesus opens your eyes and heart. 💓🙏

Why do you beat round the bush so much instead why you straight away come to the point...it becomes quite boring waiting for the real point

That’s so true..I feel he is the right person he is my coach and he said he is proud of me🫶 I really feel so grateful and never feel so appreciated and valued at the same time🙏🙏🙏 but I feel no rush with him we start to be friends and is starting to grow 💕