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He proposed after 4 months. Now my husband. I did everything right. Its easy if you have confidence, femininity and self worth.

“I love that you’re man enough to support me in this.” So excellent.

"Spiritual chemistry the deepest level of chemistry" Amen.

Nothing. You can be the most perfect woman. If hes not in that place in his life to go for a good catch like youre, nothing will make him committ. And vice versa, you can be an average woman and he will commit bc hes ready.

@deliapasqualini970

Жыл бұрын

True. And he does not even realize or regret what he is missing.

@helensanderson7092

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely

@tisabanda9497

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

@helensanderson7092

Жыл бұрын

Thing is I'm single and like my own company

@joyce_music

Жыл бұрын

@@bereal8191 but she appreciated his willingness to let her fix it because she genuinely wanted to.

1. Chemistry 2. Connection 3. Capability to be adequate in relationship 4. Celebrate 🎉 who he is/efforts 5. Clarity-create urgency for commitment

@windyaltiche

Жыл бұрын

Thanks god i have it all with the man i am dating for ❤🎉

@lindziep6319

11 ай бұрын

Just thinking how would a woman do the clarity thing the urgency thing 🤔🤔🤔

@ladyofspa

9 ай бұрын

​@@lindziep6319Be clear only dating for marriage, delay sex, only be exclusive if he's clear in his destination with you. Be observant if the time phase of life points to marriage is he looking for a wife. Sorry all that to say let him know my dating portfolio is diverse of serious suirors not closing door options till get serious offer of engagement.

I fell in love with a man that at first seeing him I said No way was I even remotely attracted to him. After talking with him for a year then I was so attracted to him. That I couldn’t get enough of him.

I married a man and later divorced. I mistakenly assumed he knew how to fix things. I grew up in a family where the men were handy. I learned that I need a man who is handy. It’s a huge turn on for me and a major dealbreaker for me. He could have all the money in the world to hire someone to do the work. I lived that life and it bothered me. There is something about a man who can fix, build, provide and protect that does it for me.

@Blinkeebill

2 ай бұрын

You’ve framed relationships around what someone can do for you and what you can get out of it, red flag.

@discombobulousable

Ай бұрын

@@Blinkeebill not necessarily... That is what makes a man attractive to her... We all have preferences, points of attraction... At least she's not a gold digger where you could say what is she looking to get out of it. And yes, it makes a man attractive when he's able and capable. For instance a guy who'd rather sit on the couch spending hours watching TV is a complete turn off for me!...

Humility. I’m not sure that there’s anything more vital to a relationship, than the humility to see the other person’s needs as equally important, and to be willing to listen and understand and work through things.

@Avoid_Low_Frequency

Жыл бұрын

This is profound! Yes!

@bettinahayes3314

Жыл бұрын

So very true!

@ameliavanderschyff9868

Жыл бұрын

The best

@marysuzettecatipon6147

Жыл бұрын

Yes it is.

@maryna5761

Жыл бұрын

I'd love to like this comment 10 times, so true!

I need to feel like he's into me, he's excited about me . That I'm not just another option but a priority... not just one of many but the only one that he's into enough to spend his life with.

Divorce, unhappiness, and "separation" is too high. Instead, Get to know yourself, Be yourself, Enjoy life, Take care of yourself, Be ambitious and contented, Better yourself overall (eat good, live good, dress good, fit good, learn good, heal and release good, happy goodl. When someone with good fit comes, you move forward together with that person.

What has helped me commit is compatibility. If my what i call quirks, fit with his. For example, i loved the feel of his hair through my hands. He absolutely loved when i did it at night before we went to sleep. It would relax him enough to be able to drift off to sleep and help him have a deeper sleep. But it works both ways. He would make me laugh like no one else has, just by being his goofy self, to the point i would cry from laughing so hard. In my opinion, a couple should be compatible and able to weave their lives together.

@rickraber1249

Жыл бұрын

Ever see the movie Rocky? That one scene where Adrian's brother asks Rocky what he sees in her. I love Rocky's answer: "I don't know. I got gaps. She's got gaps. We fill each other's gaps." That's what you want, 2 people that fill each other's gaps.

All the same things make me want to commit. Feeling appreciated and loved, and wanted. Feeling safe, seen, cared for. And being able to go from banter to quiet to deep, philosophical conversation with ease and flow and ultimately having a shared vision of the future.

Three words: Know Your Worth

you asked what needs to be in place: 1. chemistry - without it it's a no go 2. excitement - chemistry is nice when we are together - but is he excited to see me? does he miss me? does he MAKE me wait until he answers my messages? 3. respect for me and EVERYONE else 4. flexibility and ability to compromise and change your ways/habits a bit if partner finds them triggering 5. wanting to be exclusively with me after a couple of dates

Trust for me is the #1 critical aspect of a relationship that makes me want to commit. If someone keeps breaking promises and doesn’t respect the agreed boundaries - time to go

1- Chemistry (physical and emotional) 2- Connection 3- Capable (to be the man that you want) 4- Celebration and acknowledgment 5- Clarity

...when you can help a man experience life, not through the screen but through his mind. loved that.

Spiritual chemistry ( watching sunset together hugging each other telling him to hold u tight and ask him to memorise the moment by hugging feeling the touch feeling air .... ❤

After 4 months Acceptance is when he told me he loved me. Yes, propping each other up. My man very intune. I felt very protected after he took a situation that happened to me and got on it to find the cause without me asking for help. I told him how I appreciated him and he made me feel protected. He is emotional available. Age doesn't matter either he is 15yrs younger.

@TrishaK-kr6no

2 ай бұрын

Age matters when you are the "older" one And after 22 years together, he says I want someone younger.... WTF?

Your wife has great parents and a great example of a loving relationship. You learn from your parents, intentionally or unintentionally. Appreciate you and your insight

Sophistication.. meaning that there's plenty of maturity, appreciation, gratitude & humility. Its good to look for a type of person who's well rounded.

The 5 Cs: 1. Chemistry 2. Connection 3. Capable 4. Celebration 5. Clarity

I have learn after 48 years of marriage to let go of my selfishness and seek compromise with each other. We both win.

I remember the original time you told this story when you were single and it warms my heart your children and you celebrate your wife like you saw that lady celebrate her husband coming home.

I agree when a man wants or when he is ready to marry will marry who he loves

I love this! Thank you . I am Colombian and I watched my Mom always treating my dad like a King . He was always appreciated and celebrated . It is so true all what you said. Love it Blessings 🙋🏻‍♀️

Matt, I appreciate you so much! I love the way you talk to your audience. It feels like you truly care about people and the work you do. This video is amazing. Thanks so much for sharing.

i said it before imma say it again - your wife always knows what is the right thing to say in any scenario and would love for her to have her own channel or section where she'd be giving us tips too pleasee

That was very helpful, Mat. Especially number 2 and 5.

Discovered your videos today. I really like your energy and content. Thank you! :)

Boy, you really give the best advice. I wish I could have heard these positive kind of tools to uplift a relationship years ago, but given the opportunity I won’t forget. You’re family sounds amazing! Thank you for sharing your personal stories, they’re inspirational.🙏🏻

You need humor, laugh at silly things...cause it brings joy 😊

All of your personal stories are so important for us to hear. These examples are golden. Thank you! And your wife if definitely other worldly.

Very helpful examples, and your enthusiastic presentation! ❤

This was so good and thanks for sharing that personal experience. There is no better way to show acceptance is loving one another as is and allowing one another to contribute the best of themselves.

Excellent content Mat! Thank you.

This was so amazing for me to view here. I totally understand everything more clear of what I haven't been doing. Thank you Matt.

Wowwwww Mat amazing content in a free video.

... "Celebrate," great share!! Fun and so very nurturing! ...

I love ur etiquette...I have gotten to that sunset hug...am a hug bear. I love the connection. Thax for the info; great and all we need

I love this video as it makes you think from a different perspective.

Thank you so much for ur advice, so helpful.

You are the Mr Original in explaining. Good job. You have said it all

Wow. This is the best love advice I’ve ever heard. Thanks needed this badly and didn’t know it was what I needed to hear. Thank you :-)

Thank you for your amazing insight! I would like a video on the topic of the “doors that are closing” without seeming desperate.

When I can feel his love and care for me while also challenging me to be a better person for myself. ❤ Thanks Mat and Irene for being model couples and shifting a key paradigm! 🙏🏽✨

Amazing video Matt. That's my dream, to have a relationship with all these elements. Thanks for sharing it.

Interesting video I love this video Everything you pointed out are very important in a relationship

You are such a phenomenal human being. Thank you for all the beautiful content you put in the world.

He hasn't painted his happy place with me. I haven't painted my happy place with him. Thus, we have hurt each other's feelings over and over again, without knowing. Later on, the memories give just clues on what could have hurt. Chemistry and connection, but capabilities??? Maybe that's where things start getting uncomfortable. I don't know why I'm more careful with strangers and friends, but not with the man I want to marry 🤔.

Great Insights: 1. Chemistry(spiritual chemistry). 2. Connection. 3. Capable (amplify his masculinity). 4. Celebration (celebrate him and each other). 5. Clarity (readiness to commit and creating urgency).

Ok I have to say your videos really help and make me think. So I thank you for the support of us women. And thank you for helping us understand our relationships with guys.

I loved your video! This was awesome and I love all the examples you gave and why it’s important. Your tips were very helpful and I will be mindful of this while dating. Dating at 40 is a challenge and I’m trying to properly vet men better. I’m ready for my husband🙌🏽❤️🙏🏽😁!!! Thank you 🙏🏽

right on...great advice, thank you.😍😍😍😍😍😍

I love this video so much. I will watch it many times to let it soak in because it's packed with life lessons in there. For me to commit to a man as a woman..... I'll need to think on this question. I feel like it's a very important question to get clarity around this to be empowered.

1. Chemistry. Biology. Spiritual. 30 sec hugs. Memorize the moment. Hearing, feeling, smelling, touch, taste(kiss). 2. Connection. Acceptance. 3. Capable. Men want to measure up. 4. Celebration. Celebrate and acknowledge each other. 5. Clarity. It's not more time, it's more depth. Create urgency. What needs to be in place for me, is all of the above, plus honesty, loyalty and integrity. He must make his intentions clear! And he must be a good communicator. 6+ yrs in from first date, committed, not living together, in our 60's. Nothing being said about or action of progression. We did talk about our future a couple years ago, about spending our lives together, but nothing sense. It's like he has this list, in his mind, where he needs to be, before he feels he's worthy, or ready. I've done all these things above. On the regular. I don't feel he celebrates me. Certainly not even close to equally, if at all. I could handle that if I had a commitment of 'I want to marry you'. And maybe some concrete plans. We're not getting any younger. And I want to spend more time with him. We have a great time together. But he's a workaholic. And I don't feel very high on his priority list. I can't communicate my wants and needs well. Apparently. He does take care of me. He's a good man. Even though he's not here enough for me.

@dorothykaffjamboe6808

Жыл бұрын

It really painful and heartbreaking 😢 you are not alone. Some parents made a bigger mistake bringing their kids up not in a good way and they can’t express feelings for others

I love hearing this part of your life now, your family. I've been following you for years and did not know you had blossom to such a beautiful family. Congratulations!

@roseerjavec9987

11 ай бұрын

I’m struggling with how much of this is geared towards constantly stroking “the MAN’s “ ego!

Great video. I love listening to you.❤

The train thats leaving is spot on what to do with your life. And really, do you want that specific man to be your traveling partner? Think more than twice before you even ask him to jump on.

Sweet Matt… thank you!!! You are beyond incredible. Greeeeaaay stuff!!! Like Tony the Tiger great! Lol

I needed to hear this

He is so great in teaching women in relationship❤❤❤❤

Love pink tee-shirts 💗 good insights especially about judging, ego, shame, etc. Needs of Feeling like a man!

Do you have a video about the relationship between money and strength and longevity of relationships? I want to watch it. Thanks for sharing this!

Thank you!

Hi Matt! I love the sunset hug idea, but taking it further and asking, what do you feel what do you hear, Etc feels too Forced and too manipulative. I don't think a man would respond well to being prompted like that... in a tender spontaneous moment. I also really loved the idea of the family celebration and cheering.Hey!

Matt, thank you so much for this video 😊 I would commit with a guy whom I can imagine of being a good grand father for our grandchildren... Warm in relationship, open, easy to communicate with, appreciating me as a part of our common life 💗

I wish I knew. I am 46 years old and never been in a serious relationship before. But I learned key things from the video. What resonated is the need for clarity and setting a time in terms of how longs I going to wait for him to get is up to me the woman

Hello well I need chemistry communication in my relationship I really enjoy the advice and videos you do. Thank you

14:43 try waiting for 20 years. Thank you, this has really opened my eyes.

He just doesn't make me feel chosen! He makes me feel like I'm the one who got away!!! I wish I had seen this video instead of telling my friends my thoughts and feelings about the relationship. They really only helped me vent, but their feedback made me feel I didn't have a relationship at all. When his mom asked why I hadn't married him; I was shocked, felt it was too good to be true and then she said we shouldn't marry because something silly. He never has gone out and asked me to marry him. He's also made me think he wants many women!

@mar-cl2gg

Жыл бұрын

Run

A man cannot be kept if he doesn't want to be kept even if you do all the above.

Your vibe is amazing Mat ❤not more time, depth!!! 🎉 and I love the celebration 🎊 your stuff is A⭐️

This episode I found the best from you. During the first videos by you I was doubtful... Today though I am more free from my former partner, the narcissist. The man I am thinking of again since a while told me some month ago he didn't want me to call or write to him. I have been so stupid.

Great video! I would like to ask you how we can actually create the urgency to commit. What actions do we need to do?

Dear Matt, will you do a video please to explain what to do when a man is surrounded by many women. Thank you

You are the most honest, psychologically minded, practical and genuine trainer I have watched so far. Thank you for your good. Appreciation from Hong Kong. I am a psychologist myself. Thanks.

Brilliant 🎉

Gracias x este video. Suena interesante. Una pareja es para ayudarse mutuamente y si son egoistas no va a funcionar

Someone who can support my career (travel with me, be in photos at events, stay at the book table while I’m at the washroom 😂), someone who has room in his life to make my career a priority and doesn’t mind doing so. But also has his own goals so he has something to do while I’m writing for months

I created urgency and he shuts down.

Sustainable forward growth living environment. Could be added to the list

Your wife is absolutely awesome! How she thinks I just love it … she needs to write a book

I love that celebration part 😂

What helps me commit is the actual request. Direct request for commitment. The chemistry and the connection is there, but without the request, it's a big tease from an immature boy.

That’s so sweet

When a guy goes out of his way to make me feel special and cherished that's what makes me want to commit to him.❤❤❤

This video provides an insightful look into what men need to commit to a relationship. It offers an interesting list of five Cs that can help a man feel ready to commit. Great watch for anyone in a relationship!

I gotta have the trust and I know that's he is going to be there for me Matt OK

How you create that urgency?

I love this video, really sweet. I put it on my "better me list"👍💗 You look so happy and confident, its really inspiring. Definitely will try it out with my husband 😊

I'm already looking at getting on the relationship and I tell him this I need time with you and he doesn't the top five reasons why you might want to get out of the relationship he does every one of them

Great

Or a roughy knit sweater

I probably made him feel incapable that he's not meeting the mark. My standards were too unrealistic. Instead of giving me more contact, he probably avoided contact because it made him feel hurt to not have the mindset I wanted him to have.

@ajm3821

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. Couldn’t measure up.

@celiaescalante

Жыл бұрын

@@ajm3821 Well, he isn't very sweet over the phone. He's actually been rude to some of my family and friends. That's not making me feel good.

How do you do this when one is a long distance relationship? Only communication is through text messaging.

If the guy tries to reach me in any way, i guess it means that he is interested, it s like a proof because in my case, i will never do the first step, matybe it s old school but for me it s like that

That’s us strong women fixing things and growing balls…

That’s an amazing thing your wife helps you a lot, You are Very Blessed May ❤