There is nothing wrong with silence. I hate how people think this way

@Harbourofthezen

Жыл бұрын

I dislike when the word hate is used. I came here to find out what I can learn from the other person when they create awkward silences.

@Unkn0wn1133

9 ай бұрын

@@Harbourofthezenwhy are they creating the awkwardness. If you feel awkward about a silence thays on you.

@Harbourofthezen

9 ай бұрын

@@Unkn0wn1133I respect your reply, I understand it was me making it awkward

I'm always the one being silent during the awkward silences because I can't think of what to say next. :/ I guess I'm bad at conversations.

@mayureshpatade3039

3 жыл бұрын

😅 Same here

@koonky5979

3 жыл бұрын

hahah same

@jureplazonic7066

3 жыл бұрын

No, you are just interested in other topics..

@verfassungspatriot

3 жыл бұрын

That's why searched "awkward silence"

I thought this video was going to cover the awkward silence that occurs between people who have just met, or are on their first date together. I noticed that there is a difference in scenarios that affect how your shared moment of silence with someone feels: There is a person who you know, are close with, and are confident that your feelings are mutual (you both like eachother). When a moment of silence shows up, it's not awkward at all. You're both comfortable with just being silent together. When it is a first/second date, or you're hanging out with a new friend; there are certain expectations rising up. The whole hanging-out session is a trial to see if you're worth eachother's time. So when silence arises, it could mean one of few things: You got nothing in common to discuss, you're too boring/awkward to converse with, or the conversation is simply over. The first two examples are commonly what we suspect to be the cause; this sends us into panic: you are failing the trial! If you weren't, shouldn't there be *more* to talk about? Shouldn't you be having a good laugh right about now?! What do you say next to keep the person interested?! That is why the silence shared between two or more parties make them feel uncomfortable and can be considered "awkward". Nobody likes being socially rejected. That's my speculation, of course.

@Requiem4Kill

10 жыл бұрын

wow I read all of it, I agree

@kabazziisaac9456

10 жыл бұрын

well Teencat, i can't agree more -- great analysis

@demonbladeskills

10 жыл бұрын

Good one, Teencat!

@WeAreLapag

10 жыл бұрын

Thank you Shell Silverstein! I would read that, but your short stories areant just that gripping!

@TheTck90

9 жыл бұрын

Lol this comment was better than the vid

The fact that people find every fucking quiet situation awkward makes it hard for quiet or shy people to not make things awkward. I think forced conversation is worse

To avoid awkward situations i just don't talk to people.

if there is awkward silience and im with a girl i just whip it out.

@malinko35

10 жыл бұрын

put that gameboy back in your pocket...

@paulleysway

10 жыл бұрын

The awkward moment when she can't even see it..

@kervsosolo

10 жыл бұрын

Paulley To lmao!!

@AQJ12

10 жыл бұрын

Good idea. Break the awkward silence with a joke.

@kellogscornflakes2430

6 жыл бұрын

Same I love showing a girl my comic book collection

If there is an awkward silence, I normally just wait until someone says something else because I am kinda already socially awkward and I don't really know what to do in those types of situations...

I like to create awkward silence

@Wanderlust1972

10 жыл бұрын

***** how do they get desperate and for what?

@rift0tripper

10 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I do too ^_^

@theholyramonempire

10 жыл бұрын

So do I ^_^

Good to see you, Ross! ;)

Why is it that when a SourceFed member joins DNews, they still bring that "SourceFed personality"? Just be straight, honest, and give me the news. I don't want a "funny guy" or "overly hyper guy" to give me the news. That's when it is really awkward.

@tonyblackops

10 жыл бұрын

Sucks to be you...I think it's great

@Vide0mak3r

10 жыл бұрын

If you want 'normal' news there is BBC, Fox news etc :) If you don't like those channels you can always go surf the web yourself and read the news. I know it takes more work to read instead of listening to someone tell you about it but it might work for you. Especially if you don't like funny people, you can be as normal or funny as you want when you read the news yourself.

@ByggerHyg

10 жыл бұрын

He isn't a SF member

@oNTiger

10 жыл бұрын

Vide0mak3r Fox news. Why on earth did you say Fox, got sugar in your nose?

@sellbythebell

10 жыл бұрын

Simon B.Byrgesen en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SourceFed#Departure_of_Morgan.2C_Turney_and_Everett

I leave the silences be, no matter how uncomfortable they make me or the person I am talking to, especially after a question. Gives them actual time to think and respond. It may be awkward, but I bet you they will feel like they were totally listened to when the conversation is done.

I like awkward silences. It gives me a chance to see if people are comfortable around me.

So how's Rachel, phoebe,chandler,Joe & Monica.

@romulanrancor6387

10 жыл бұрын

ahhhh i see what you did there

I usually pretend to text someone on my phone if a conversation between myself and another person in the room gets too quiet. I see a lot of people doing this, and I honestly think that a little over half of them are doing the exact same thing I'm doing; pretending to be talking to someone else.

i don't get why people are so scared of awkward silence.. sometimes i just like to be silent.. why can't it just be that way? why does it have to be awkward? i never feel awkward if a conversation suddenly stops.. but maybe i,m just a weird person? :3

@andy7666

10 жыл бұрын

I agree but only if I know the person somewhat, otherwise my head is full of horrid doubt and gibberish. Generally, I just smile.

@tonyblackops

10 жыл бұрын

Well you are a special little snowflake after all.

@happycline

10 жыл бұрын

depends on the circumstance, as Ross said, it's about flow. silence has it's own kind of flow, and some conversations can naturally go into silence without breaking that flow. but in other cases, the silence can be jarring. I dunno, maybe I'm just a nut job :)

@Beetlejuicewashere

10 жыл бұрын

liv, I agree with you on this but that's probably why my name is john doe, instead of my actual name lol

@rsuffridge1

10 жыл бұрын

Liv Life No, Liv, you arent weird. I find awkward chit chat much harder to deal with. Doesnt anyone else know about companionable silence? It's very nice usually.

During awkward silences, I talk to myself in the most quiet voice that only I can hear, and start counting things, and telling myself how awkward this is, then I start playing with m fingers and act like there is something really intriguing about my finger nails, and I jump into my own world, to avoid their awkwardness spreading onto me.

@jadeshepherdmusic

10 жыл бұрын

Too true.

AMG..ROSS...from SF!

As a recovering stutterer, this could seem almost impossible to avoid at times. I sometimes have to take about 5 seconds to get my words out because I have to (in my mind) try to change the tone of the word before I say it. By the time I have the power to say what I needed to say the person I was talking to usually seem uninterested. If another person is in the room when I have trouble saying a word and need a few seconds to say it correctly, the person talks to that other person in the room; completely ignoring me. It's kind of rude but I let it slide because they don't understand how it feels to have a speech disability.

@illuminateth

9 жыл бұрын

Slap them in the mouth while screaming "I WASN'T DONE YOU STUPID BITCH"

I'm liking Ross here on Dnews, I get the feeling it sort of suits him a little bit better than Sourcefed. Good to see him hosting again, I always thought he was awesome. :)

funny how he didn´t even explain why it´s so awkward.....

Well.... hello Ross.

just act super relaxed so the other person feels awkward, that results in them asking/saying something random

what do I do in an awkward silence? Laugh tracks!

we should kiss to break the ice.

@cimmik

10 жыл бұрын

That's the strategy. No matter who you are awkward silent with. Just kiss them!.. Just kiss them all.

@lateksipumppu

10 жыл бұрын

cimmik Ewww, germs!

@lateksipumppu

10 жыл бұрын

***** But that's was the point!

@theirishdragon443

10 жыл бұрын

You're the new PFTC

@cimmik

10 жыл бұрын

DexDacozed I think it would be worth it if it meant that you would never experience awkward silence again. You are much bigger than the germs by the way. You can just crush them! Just crush them all!

I was playing with a random abject near my computer but when you paused in the midde of your sentence you gained my full attention

What I think during an awkward silence is "Hmm I better say something, wait, what's wrong with silence? If it does not bother me then would it bother someone else? Fuck it, who cares. I'm just going to keep quiet and relax instead of having a meaningless conversation or make small talk. If they have something they want to talk about, they will initiate the conversation".

Well this is awkward..... Hey...... Ross

Silence is bliss. Nothing wrong with it. If I'm with friends I'd rather it be silent than us forcing a conversation. I don't get along with people who need to talk aaaaallll the time but then I'm in a weird crowd of people so tweakers come in from time to time.

I carry confetti around in my pockets. Whenever I'm conversing and there's an awkward silence, I pull the confetti out, and throw it in the air. The other person is distracted just long enough for me to punch them in the face and run away

@ShemarMooresmores

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

I just act if i wasn't listening or just stare into the distance so someone else breacks the scilence

I quickly riffle through every conceivable peice of subject matter that would prevent an awkward silence event and salvage The Flow.

Because conversation is the primary means of breaking the ICE between people. The ice of your defense mechanisms needs to be broken or maybe it would be better to say melted. You rely on other people to do your own inner alchemy. If stimulating conversation is disarming, then the opposite must be true of silence for the most part

when it's awkwardly silent i check my clock...repeatingly

"That's when you know you've found somebody really special, when you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably share the silence"

@jonocorser8061

10 жыл бұрын

Don't worry, I get the reference. Hmm, I really want to dance...

I just spat my coffee everywhere because ROSS EVERET IS ON DNEWS NOW

"Grohnninegen"? xD Why can't you pronounce it a bit better? xD

@elliottsmith2706

10 жыл бұрын

I know Right he should look up how to pronounce it

@omicron942

10 жыл бұрын

It kind of annoys me when people purposely mispronounce things simply because they are too lazy to try and say it properly.

@trexhumper97

10 жыл бұрын

marijn pool as somewhan how has been living his entire life in groningen this really makes me awkwardly silince

10 жыл бұрын

At least he didn't say "Ukkebummelen"

I used to have the sound of crickets easily available on my phone, every time there was an awkward silence, I would take out my phone and play it. Always broke the silence :)

Whenever I find myself in an awkward silence situation I always start singing "Awkward Silence, woow, Awkward Silence, woow" and then everyone ends up joining in with the song and then the conversation normally starts going after that.

The way you say Groningen made my day as a Dutch guy

Silence isn't awkward. People are free to choose what they wish to respond to. I would feel awkward if someone continued to discuss something they didn't want to discuss just to humour me.

I tough Ross was gone forever in my life, but I found him alive

The spice must flow! No, wait.. words! Conversation! Something!

How can absence of sound be something? There's nothing wrong with silence but with the way people feel about it. I never understood why people regard it as awkward.

Communication is like dancing if u stop the music everybody stops dancing.

2:12 flawless awkward turtle execution

silences can be an advantage, it can cause someone to grip on what you are about to say or say something they would not have otherwise said.

I usually fart loudly, that makes the silence a bit longer giving me more time to figure out what to say next.

It is really awkawrd having someone next to you and no idea of what to talk about, at least with someone you are not really close to.

When there is awkward silence I swear to myself quietly

What's the music in the background here? I love it!

Sometimes I create moments like these unintentionally. Only people like me , who stutter, feel me !

I'm a social worker and I've come to embrace silence. When I'm speaking with someone and it seems as if their line of speech comes to a halt, I just node or smile depending on the context and they'll usually pick up again. That awkwardness can be used to gather more information.

I usually get busy, or at least act busy, with my phone during an awkward silence, which, i realize now, doesn't always make the situation better.

Another awesome host on my fave youtube channel! Thanks for the video (:

To break an awkward silence, I generally go with "So....you hear about (Insert DNews recent video topic here)"

They don't really explain "why" interupting the flow of conversation causes these negative emotions of alienation... just that it does after 4 secs, and that you should never interupt the 'flow'... pls elaborate for us 'slower people'

I SEE WHAT YOU GUYS DID THURRRRRR I shouted and screamed at my computer screen after that last awkward silence...LOL

i USUALLY just say Awkward and this big conversation starts up

how much the polar bear whey ? enough to break the ice

@theholyramonempire

10 жыл бұрын

Dats funny stuff right there [^_^]

"So uhh, great weather we're having."

I don't really get awkward silences, if you have them with your friends then youre not very good friends. You can be silent for a long time without it being awkward as long as youre with good friends

I shout "awkward turtle" and then do a turtle swimming with my hands

I wait until 4 seconds in and then yell "everyone shut up!"

...towards the end... did you actually do the "awkward turtle"?

whats up with the song? sounds sorta like welcome home

I feel awkward like everyone most of the time except this one time... I had been dating this girl long distance for along time and made the mistake of bringing up the fact that we didn't have awkward silences. We had them all the time after that, SO STUPID!!

i have not missed ross

In an awkward silence say "I wonder what its like to be a unicorn?"

Great, now I know how to get someone to leave faster if I don't want to talk to them.

Isn't the fact that those 4 seconds seem to last forever due to the sudden change in pace? Like when you're riding a bicycle and then you get down and walk and it feels like you're going super slowly!

I like this guy, I wanna keep him...........................Awkward silence. Stay with DNews

Awkward silences are the best time to make a move.

I think I am usually the one bringing the awkward silences into the group...orz

this guy's eyes are trying to touch each other.

Silence speaks truth better than most...thats why

Miss you on sourcefed Ross!! Stay in Dnews if you can you're awesome

Ross! Good to see you again! Missed you!

I have Asperger's and awkward silences don't exist for me anymore. Because I just don't care, I mean if you have nothing to say then why should you say something?

What if you break the silence by making a weird noise whenever the convo stops.

I create and end the silence. Often I'll make thing even more weird with the way I end them, but it's all fun and games for me. Now if I don't make the silence, it often means that the conversation has hit a low point and either I want to keep talking to this person or it's time to hit the dusty trail. Fight or flight baby--well not quite, but whatever.

The way he pronounced Groningen is hilarious tho.

I rarely find silences awkward at all. But when the person clears their throat or verbally makes it awkward or states it, it annoys me. Silence doesn't bother me unless the other person MAKES it weird.

When there is an awkward silence I just blurt out "awkward silence"

Sometimes I'm hanging out with a friend and i daze off for like 2 minutes then i come back to reality and realize how awkward she must have felt xD

If I am having a conversation with a girl that i like i normally embrace the silence to look into her eyes but if its a guy I just start talking bout how their favorite sport team sucks or make a excuse to leave

Ever since I first watch this video. I usually break awarded silence by saying something before 4 second even if it's entirely random

ive been more or less out of the loop in terms of this whole socializing fad when i went through some antisocial years, so i have a question about silences with your friends: are they all awkward? is every time you don't talk a bad sign or whatever the opposite of brownie points are or something?

what a badass start haha

i dont feel awkward because its so common. i feel awkward in situations im not supposed to be awkward in

I don't know how to feel awkward.... that I know I never felt awkward shy or emberrased but never awkward...

I know those hand movements and that definitely not "Milking it"

I watched this video twice, and somehow I still have no idea whats its even about.

One thanksgiving dinner, my uncle bob said, "oh mister center of the universe", and I said, "well technically everyone is at the center of the universe" boom an eternity of silence. At that moment I wanted to leave the dinner table and hide in a closet.

I like silence. I prefer it because I can think clearly. For me the conversation is the awkward part.

Haha i like this guy. What was that finger thing at 2:12 lol

+1 for facebook joke lol. Nice job Ross. I approve you for another video, you fit in with the other regulars. You did good throughout the video.

What was that crazy hand thing you did at 2:10? Does it work on the ladies?

i say stuff on purpose to create awkward silences, i hate talking to people so if they dont shut up i will make them want to shut up

I say "Twerking turtles" then someone laughs

I like Ross. Great addition! Very good engaging speaker 😃