SUCCESS STORY HERE!! My girlfriend and I got back together after 7 months. I started watching Coach Lee's videos a week later. I followed his advice, and worked with Coach Rex on his staff. I did not beg or chase. I gave her the breakup. She would reach out every month or so. I never ignored her, nor was I cold. But I made sure to never be the one whom initiated contact. She even got into a rebound. I did not show her that this affected me. I kept working on me. She left the rebound, and came back to me. I have been really slow to take her back. She's going to have to earn my trust again. I've also gotten used to being alone during our separation. Listen to coach lee. His program works

@Lunaiee

Жыл бұрын

This ^ my ex was ringing the door after christmas

@oswaldofigueroa529

Жыл бұрын

She was piped by another man and then came back to you, don’t know how you can do it but I would never do that

@RealCoachLee

Жыл бұрын

Well done!

@Thessaloniaworsley

Жыл бұрын

Happy you put a success story for the men!

@leslypierre9574

Жыл бұрын

@@RealCoachLee couldn't not have done it without you and coach Rex. Thank you

If they come back, they saw your value. If they don't, they never did. Win/Win either way!

@apocalypse1180

12 күн бұрын

This is one of the best concepts out there, and people are wrong saying "Never look back, only forward". If there was love, and they come back, of course you have to see why they did, but it's not automatically because the couldn't find any better. It could be that they truly saw your value and that they miss you❤

Day 400 of NC as of today. I begged and pleaded and cried on the phone to her. Looking back I cannot believe i was that weak and pathetic. She probly isn’t comming back but i’m no longer in pain. Saving money, working out and talking to other women. Stay strong👍🏼

@theglowingbrownie5124

Жыл бұрын

You’re not pathetic. You were in pain, like a wounded animal, helpless, hopeless, be gentle with yourself!

@os3688

Жыл бұрын

@@johndemario8173 For sure. When I was going through the initial stages I downloaded an app to keep tract of the amount of days no contact i havent checked in awhile and saw 397 days 😂. That’s how I know its the 400th day. Def wasnt keeping track myself. Life goes on! Breakups happen. It’s made me a stronger person.

@syedadnan5861

Жыл бұрын

Dont expect to her come back as well buddy. you move on and that is best for you.

@os3688

Жыл бұрын

@One With Nature After being in a relationship you notice you lose all your game lmao. Coach Lee should come out with a video on how to improve your game after being in a relationship for awhile. Mix it up a bit.

@os3688

Жыл бұрын

@@syedadnan5861 Ive accepted a long time ago that I will never hear from her again.

No contact is so hard when your mind pictures them moving on with another person.

@zeldapierre3057

11 ай бұрын

True

@Helpingbos

5 ай бұрын

Can’t express the pain 😢

@droflivelife

5 ай бұрын

@abhi5 been a year now. I'm still healing.

@isimpforsugawarakoushi1479

5 ай бұрын

​@@droflivelife how long were you two together?

@droflivelife

5 ай бұрын

@isimpforsugawarakoushi1479 that was 6 months into it, that was a year ago. I lasted two weeks no contact and then I reached out and friendzoned her. We got got back together a couple of moths later. I do recommend this. We were amazing for another 6 months. Unfortunately her avoidant relationship style meant it was never going to last. It's been 8 months now and I'm still healing.

We are back together after 7 months apart!!! But only because I left him alone, worked really hard on myself, changed my mindset, and learned to accept and love myself, when I was ready, I sent a genuine heartfelt letter and to my surprise I got a response, we met up, talked and we both felt like we were home, it's only been 2 weeks but it's so much more loving and peaceful! Thank you, coach lee 🙏

@bowhunt9968

Жыл бұрын

That's great! So happy for you!

@whitneymiller5139

Жыл бұрын

Did he date others/sleep with others during this time? How did you shake that off?

@tearthangel373

Жыл бұрын

No more begging and pleading with them to prioritize me

@lisabaughn

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations! I'm excited for you!

@cr7goat385

Жыл бұрын

after how long did you send him a letter? did you see him ever in between the breakup and you sending him the letter? i saw your comments on some other coach lee videos where you said you were 99.9% sure he wasnt coming back, guess it turned out good for you haha congratulations

In no contact for year and 10 months, I never heard from him again. But no contact still worked. I have new life now with someone new. So, dont give up on no contact never!

@TinfoilHatGirl

Жыл бұрын

@Alex bohohoooooo, poor guys. The question is why do they dump their girlfriends so often then?! Because they get quite arrogant if you are too nice and trying to hold the relationship together. As soon as they think they found greener pastures they are gone.

@Stankfish420

11 ай бұрын

@@TinfoilHatGirlkeep feeling bad for yourself

You have to accept they may never be a part of your life again, that in itself will likely attract them back in. When you are OK to walk away forever, you now have the power.

I watched your videos during my break up in 2020 and I always meant to come back and tell you how we are back together , better than we’ve been . It was a long journey , you & some other KZread videos were a great guide & comfort in those heartbroken days. Thank you

@ch76504

Жыл бұрын

That's encouraging to hear! How long were you in NC?

@Thessaloniaworsley

Жыл бұрын

Tbh I messed up a few times my depression would make me break but the longest time which was the final time was 8 months. And I know that sounds long and no one wants to hear that when we are going thru this that it can be so long. But you have to stand strong and know your worth, be realistic with yourself if they don’t come back life will continue to move on. It gave me and HIM time to reflect on a lot of stuff and experience that “the grass isn’t greener” effect for him. -oh and another thing that I always wondered while in NC and he has addressed in his videos (is he thinking about me? Does he miss me?” When we got back together he confirmed all that and so did his family members. (Plus I turned off my social media one so he wouldn’t have a clue what was going on with me & I wouldn’t snoop on his page hurting my own feelings and two so I would keep posting sad break up stuff) I think when they are dumper, it’s their pride that keeps them away too. Feeling regretful. (I think coach talked about this in a video too actually)

@Thessaloniaworsley

Жыл бұрын

I prayed a lot too but about healing our individual issues that didn’t make the relationship work on both ends. Like patience, communication skills and insecurity. But your life has a plan whether they come back or not remember that, it just hurts a lot for awhile 😅 Okay explanation rant over lol

@TheodorusRex

Жыл бұрын

@@Thessaloniaworsley Thank you for posting this story. Wow. Well done.

@annabylina

Жыл бұрын

Your comment gives me hope!

Coach Lee is an angel! My boyfriend and I broke up back in May 2020 and we ended up getting back together around the fall of that year. I still come on here and watch Coach Lee for the confidence and how important no contact is---I watch him now to help deal with staying in no contact with toxic family members. Anyways back to my boyfriend and I, it took time, even when we got back together, but our relationship is healthier and more loving than ever! Our love has been going strong since 💪 I wish everyone a success story. As for no contact, I did it and it helped me not only get him back but raised my confidence. Please stay strong and trust the process. I promise you all can do it!!! You are strong enough to do no contact!! Listen to Coach Lee 🩷

@RealCoachLee

Жыл бұрын

Ashlie, I'm so happy for you! Would you please email my assistant Amber with your story? We won't use your name or image, but your story could encourage others. Amber's email is myexbackcoach@gmail.com and I would appreciate it! Glad for you!

@ashlieelizabeth8170

Жыл бұрын

@@RealCoachLee Yes! Of course!

@ashlieelizabeth8170

Жыл бұрын

@@RealCoachLee Just sent in my story!

@m1ll1on4r3

Жыл бұрын

How long were you two together when breaking up. And how long were you in no contact? How old are you guys? Thx.

Coach Lee provides superb advice. I followed his videos to the letter. Remained calm, remained the bigger person, and worked on myself... My wife reached out, and admitted she messed up... 2 years later, we are happy as ever, and trying for a kid! I cannot stress enough how good Lee's advice is..

@RealCoachLee

Жыл бұрын

Chris, would you please email myexbackcoach@gmail.com with your story? We will protect your identity but your story can encourage people.

@carolinepirani3589

Жыл бұрын

Were you separated for 2 years?

My humble advise to everyone here: I know it's hurting you on New Year's to not reach out and contact an ex. However attraction only grows when you match you're ex's distance. If he/she wants space.give them space. If they draw closer and send a text..match it back, but only at that same pace. Let them come to you, as if they really want to start over, they will eventually reach out. (Btw: I'm going through it myself, but I don't want to push her quicker then she may need. And I'm not needy anymore and I just go with the flow now. And I say that after last New Year's we had an electric time together on both days. Good luck 👍)

@defyphysiics2274

Жыл бұрын

This is my current situation. Our connection was instant and we clicked so well. It’s been 3 months of being together and she’s telling me we’re moving too fast and she needs time to think about things. I got caught off guard, I don’t know what to do. I want to give her space. I know I should, but man my heart hurts. My friends keep telling me to give her time and space and just reply to her with the same energy level. But I feel like I should go full no contact… god I’m a mess.

@carlobelen1741

Жыл бұрын

@@defyphysiics2274 check some more videos of coach lee, it can help a lot. For the meantime be strong, pray and put yourself in some people around you (ex: family and friends). I hope it can help this ♥️

@P00MDBZHD

Жыл бұрын

She broke up with me on new year's 🙃

I really liked the opening to this one. That your ex has to change for you to get back together with them. I’ve had a counselor for the past year who has also helped me through the process of this break, and what she helped me see is that it’s not wrong for me to have felt anything that I did after what happened, but more importantly that I didn’t owe my ex anything. So often when someone is broken up with they analyze themselves to see what they had done wrong and where they need change. Too little attention is ever drawn to the dumper. Reminder for everyone: you are NOT obligated to fix what they broke. just because you may have made some mistakes doesn’t mean they had no choice but to break up with you. And just because they did the breaking doesn’t mean they were automatically right to do so.

@Bobess22

Жыл бұрын

So right

@valerie2827

Жыл бұрын

Excellent point and great advice! 👍

@brandonohara4122

Жыл бұрын

Well said

@ocheerup1324

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. Their choice to not stay and try to fix things.

I don't need my ex back anymore i watch your videos Just to feel relaxed 🤗

I can't believe I actually spent money and bought your breakup kit. I never thought I would do such a thing, as I am usually an "oh well, moving on" type of gal. But this one hurts. I have had your kit now for 48 hours, and I have listened to it three times. It's like therapy. It has really helped me to just take a moment and breathe. The tears are drying up a bit. Thank you for your videos and wisdom. Warmly, A Hurting Heart

@RealCoachLee

Жыл бұрын

I'm honored Jessica. Stay strong.

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

Jessica, the Kit is excellent! Good luck to you..❤

@agataa6067

10 ай бұрын

@@RealCoachLeecan u get ur ex back if they were breaking up with you and initiating no contact?

@helenan866

5 ай бұрын

Update??

even though were back with my ex and we have a better relationship now and were planning to get married. I am just here to watch and support Coach Lee.

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

Pat, CONGRATULATIONS AND GOOD LUCK!! ❤️💙

I'm looking forward to having this video live for you guys and girls!

@emaema670

Жыл бұрын

I’ve done these approaches, but my husband still divorced me this month. He’s still in the affair with our neighbor that broke our marriage up. Do you recommend these things even after divorce?

@valerie2827

Жыл бұрын

@@emaema670 Ouch. I can't imagine what you're going though 😕 I just wanted to wish you the best & I hope things get better for you VERY soon. Stay strong & keep the faith. You'll be ok. Maybe not tomorrow or next week, but it WILL get better. I promise. Take good care of yourself 🤗🥰🧡

I'm glad I listened to Lee's advice and did no contact. It took about a month and a half, but I don't want my ex back now whatsoever.

I’m back together with my partner of 8 years after 3 months apart and we’ve been stronger than ever. Thank you for your words. Your videos were the only thing calming me down during my break up. All while, I was beginning to regain confidence in myself as an individual again. Thank you for all that you do.

@AustinFranklin-iq8tn

Жыл бұрын

Hi Coach Lee, I ask you with all my heart, please reply to this short message. It would mean the world to me. Does this apply to a case where I was the one to break up? She lost feelings and asked for space, and I said the fair thing to do would be to break up.

@bird7464

Жыл бұрын

@@AustinFranklin-iq8tn What I remember - yes, this apply to a case when you broke up because other person lost feelings or was giving a crumps. You are going in no contact - and she should be the one who reach out to you.

@AustinFranklin-iq8tn

Жыл бұрын

@@bird7464 Thanks for replying. She actually reached out a few times. But now hasn't reached out again.

@user-rn6iz8nj2f

Жыл бұрын

@@AustinFranklin-iq8tn in my opinion it does apply, the whole exercise it to give space and let people feel the emptiness. It’s hard to remember but the other person is 100000% thinking of you. Even if your mind tells you they aren’t. And if they really aren’t then you don’t want that person in your life anyway! You deserve better.

@sleon2528

Жыл бұрын

@@user-rn6iz8nj2f Did you let your ex know not to contact you for a while or did you just disappear? Cos I told my ex we shouldn’t talk for a while and removed her from social media because I didn’t want to see her reply to my stories or her rebound.

One of my personal favs so far! Starts strong and maintains impactful insights throughout

So…. He came back. 1.5 years later. I watched pretty much every single coach Lee video and they were so helpful. I was destroyed when my ex broke up with me. I’m living the best life I could without him. But now I’m still unsure! I don’t know what to do really. I will always love him and we can live a great life together, I do want him back but I’m actually now worried, now it’s a possibility, that he will do it again. Let’s see how it goes. He has to work for me now! I’m the prize and he has to win me. Keep strong everyone, if the love was strong enough on both sides they will come back. I love you all and I have you back 😘 remember you are the prize, work on yourself and they will chase you

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

evadex9161. I have a great idea for you know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

Going on to 5 months in NC thanks to Coach Lee. This channel has prevented me from crawling back to an immature guy who took me for granted. I hope he is remorseful by now; I’d sure welcome an apology for closure. Happy New Year indeed!

Thank you Coach Lee for making these videos. They have helped me immensely. It’s been about a month of no contact on my end, hoping she comes to her senses soon. Fingers crossed 😅

I don't expect to win her back after doing all the wrong things post break up...but watching these videos gives me hope. Thanks, Coach!

I want to say Coach Lee thank you! I watch and am practicing this how ever my ex has lost me. Its been I think three years since the break up. Realized I have someone right I front of me thats caring and loving Keep up the good work!

I feel it's not worth another chance yet I eagerly wait for Coach Lee's new videos.. listening to his words make me feel good and keeps my anxiety in check. Thankfully I had followed his advice and stayed in No Contact from the very next day that I went through the break up in March.

Coach, I just wanted to say thank you. Your time, effort, experience and the manner in which you deliver the wisdom and insights you’ve acquired is so very much appreciated. You are imo head and shoulders above other commentators on this subject that I have seen. Very grounded, very real, not into promoting false hope, basically just everything. Thank you, very much! Please provide a link so that I can send you a tip. I want to contribute to your continued efforts and tangibly say thank you. To those of you visiting Coach for the first time, watch and listen to his videos. As often as you need. It will help soothe your broken heart and mind and give you strength. Please do as he says. Stay the course. All will be well.

Listening to these videos make me feel better… I use it as a therapy for myself when I’m having a hard time holding it together…thank you!!! I wish everyone luck!!!

Thanks Coach Lee for all your help. I listened and eventually moved on after 8 months. Reshaped myself and I’m better off. I stayed away and moved on much faster than I thought I would. Take care.

@shawny979

Жыл бұрын

So did I. It was rough in the beginning, but I am better off too.

Coach Lee, the NC rule worked! My ex was really cold and cruel to me at the end of our breakup. When he finally said “we’re done”, I simply said “okay” and turned my back. Went NC and radio silenced for 14 days until he finally reached out with completely different attitude and asked if I could give him another chance. I took your advice to tell him to take it slow. We’re having dinner tomorrow!! Thank you so much! We have broken up before and the NC rule also worked last time as well (he only last 2 days back then), this time, the breakup was terrible so I thought we had no chance but wow NC really brought him closer to me and he admitted to going through all the stages this whole time!! Thanks Coach!

Thank you so much Coach Lee, you are a beacon of depth and clarity - not all coaches offer this. I hope you might be able to make a video about how to handle the renewed contact phase with an ex, in many ways it feels far trickier than no contact (as hard as that can be)!

@annabylina

Жыл бұрын

How long did it take to renew?

Thank you coach Lee. Point 3 indeed what bad advice there is out on the net. i worked hard on my anxiety and so insecurities. Still working ofcourse. I am grateful for your channels and still i gain strenght out if. I'm still panicking over the break up but i can control my thoughts better and therefore realise i have to be mindfull and which helps so positive cirkel. Thanks, from Belgium

Happy New Year, Coach Lee! 🎉Thank you for all your generosity in sharing your knowledge with us! Your Kit helped a lot, and your videos were key in keeping me focused and redirecting my energy towards myself. Despite him coming back and wanting to renew our connection, I just realised I do not want it anymore. You warned that it can happen, and it it happened in my case. It is funny how everything you said it would happen, it happened, even if it took a bit more time... I trusted the process and I do not regret doing so. In fact, I gained more than I hoped for. I learnt a lot about myself in the process and how to navigate other relationshops as well, so, in a way, it felt like free therapy and guidance. Forever grateful! ❤

As we approach the New Year, I just wanted to thank you, Coach Lee, for these videos. I started really internalizing your words at the ~40 day mark of my recent breakup, a man who I was with for ten months with the hopes of growing slowly together - the first man I ever truly loved and left me to pick up the pieces of his pain. Regardless of how you feel for your ex, and if the breakup was good - how good of a person they were , etc.- they broke your trust, your heart, with (probably) no explanation of why. They hurt you and it is their job to find their way back to you, not yours. No contact is truly the only way. So all you can do is hope and pray that journey leads to you or to someone else who they hopefully don’t hurt as they hurt you. It’s not your job to fix what they broke. Let them lose you and as they do, become the person you were destined to be. Great regardless if they are in or out of the picture. Don’t let them go but also prepare for that possibility all the same. I pray that everyone’s heartbreak is eased this New Year and thank you, Coach Lee, for this content. If anyone needs anything, please let me know.

@larrywinkleman8526

Жыл бұрын

🫶🏻you’re an Angel. It’s been 7 months for me now and I struggle every day thinking about her. I’ve changed so much in my life. I’ve lost 40lbs and I would say I feel like improved everything I am. She has a rebound bf right now I’m sure hoping I get my chance when that expires.

@sabrinaelouardi9032

Жыл бұрын

@@larrywinkleman8526 Thank you for the light of this comment Larry, today is a tough day. Keep focusing on you, chief, that’s all you can do.

another great and helpful vid for all of us going through a breakup and the no-contact period. Thank you Coach Lee!

”That you have the ability, the inner strength, the quality of life to stay away from them”… Particularly the sentence “that you have the quality of life “… During the breakup, especially in the beginning, one thing that got effected was my ability to see my own quality. Instead, I defined myself through his eyes, his decision and what felt like being doomed and through the pain of the breakup to such depth that it brought down my self esteem and quality of life. For each day I practice the no contact (not for the purpose of having him back) to get back to my own life, I realize how far away I have been from my own values. Everything has been like a roller coaster when I have constantly been trying to make sense of the breakup and trying to gain back some self worth and quality for myself has been so far fetched. It is now I reflect and realize how much of myself I was about to lose.

@CiluhStyle1

Жыл бұрын

Yes!

@brandonohara4122

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely 💯

@vellyshi

Жыл бұрын

I feel you dear

After 2 years watching your videos I can finally say I don’t want my ex back , thank god. I no contacted for 30days , 60days, 90days, 6months, 12months, a year and a half , 2 years, for a long while I thought the pain was never going to end , she did try to make contact on a few occasions but I stuck to my guns and I wish her well. No contact works. I created space and I eventually realised that she was only making contact to make herself feel better (ie she was testing to see if I was still available as a backup)

Thank you Coach Lee for your words of encouragement, my ex came back after 8.5 years of no contact and left again,doing no contact period ! People have to grow up and learn , you cannot do the learning for them , you cannot quench someone’s else’s thirst

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

AM-gc1rk. Congrats to you. Here's something you will find interesting I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

Such a strong message, as always❤

I have been watching your videos religiously for the past week. My husband and I have been off and on, back and forth for the past 6 months. Now we live hundreds of miles apart. We both love each other so much. There has been a lot of hurt but I am confident we can still come back from this and grow old together. I refuse to give up hope. He’s the only one for me. I’m praying that by going no contact, and “giving him the breakup” he will realize how much I mean to him and that he doesn’t want to lose me forever.

@RealCoachLee

Жыл бұрын

Nicole, I highly suggest you book a session with my staff coach, Coach Ken, at myexbackcoach.com/coach-ken

@mayar4120

8 ай бұрын

any update?

Finally did NC, which was hard to do, five months later, he texted out of the blue. No contact works!

I could be wrong but in a video of yours you mentioned that you are a bit traditional with relationships, but I want to just say that I’ve been watching a lot of your stuff now and I just started a few days ago my NC and my ex who is a guy has been reaching out and I almost fell into the trap of not responding. We are both gamers and he texted me if I was online and I just said yes and he grouped up with me and a friend, I left the voice chat and all that and eventually he left. It was horribly painful and hard to even focus and it filled me with rage honestly. I’m just thankful I found your channel and honestly feel like I will get through this.

Well friends, it finally happened. She reached out. After almost 6 months. It was a weird breakup. I was actually the one who said I would back up and leave her be. But only after over 6 months of being pushed away. There were a couple texts very early on from her and then silence. It was very difficult to remain silent through her birthday and the holidays. But I did not give in. And honestly, after not hearing from her through the holidays, I was even more convinced that I would never hear from her ever again. And then last night, out of thin air, I heard that all too familiar text tone. Listen friends, heed Coach Lee. For your sake, not the sake of whatever relationship brought you to him. I know that may be hard to digest but do it anyway. Stay the course!

@invisiblesurge44

Жыл бұрын

What did they send in the text?

Followed your advice and after 14days I received contact. We’re now back together. Thank you, your calm and logical advice helped me through a very emotional period. No contact works!

@RealCoachLee

Жыл бұрын

Megan, if you would, please email your story to myexbackcoach@gmail.com. We would never use your name but would love to tell your story to encourage others.

@Lalyslyfestyle

Жыл бұрын

How did you initiate no contact? Did you just leave them in read? Cause I told him I don’t want to leave on bad terms and May god bless him.. and last thing he said was “I love you and care for you so much” I just loved the message.. but I know he will text me later or tomorrow saying something so small..

@Megan-wb9di

Жыл бұрын

@@Lalyslyfestyle Something similar, liked their last message but didn’t reach out at all following.

I actually made the mistake of reaching out to my ex over new years, just to briefly wish them a happy new year. They responded with a long message, telling me, that they were glad I was reaching out, how they had done a lot of thinking, how thankful they were and never told me often enough, that they were in a bad spot emotionally during the time we met and how I "caught" them during that difficult time and how they hoped I was doing well. I was just thinking "Yeah, you already thanked me by throwing me away like a used toy". I simply told them, "Thanks, I am better than ever" and "I have some more of your stuff, I will be mailing that to you if it's okay." I feel like, I might have been too cold, but their message made me angry. Like they used me and then threw me away and now they feel all good about themselves. They shouldn't be thanking me, they should apologize for hurting me. At least that's what I feel like.

@brandonohara4122

Жыл бұрын

Wow Whats the situation now? Sorry you experienced this

@kathyglass2922

Жыл бұрын

Well. I get your anger. I also think that you probably are a good listener and bring a lot of value to any relationship. She sounds a little clueless. And I think she got the message that you don't want her.

You are saving , Coach Lee. Thank you so much

I seriously pray and hope this will help me because in my case, I know I messed up we both messed up, I begged, cried, called but he refused picking my calls. He told me it will never work out between the both of us, that I should move on, that I should give it time that I will heal from the hurt but he never coming back to me. It pain and I'm hurting but I have decided to let him go, it going to two Months now, no call from him nor text. I'm seriously trying to let go it's not easy but I have to so I can work on myself and move on. Thanks coach Lee

I played your videos/break up kit over and over when my special person left me for somebody else over a year ago. My special person was in deep limerence with someone over a decade, had known the limerant object before ever meeting me. That person (limerant object) expressed a small desire for a relationship with my special person, and so I was dumped. But that fire was put out after my special person had a showdown and was disappointed in the response. So they came back to me. And our relationship has been getting better all the time. I have friends who don't allow their ex to feel the break-up. This I think made all the difference. My beloved gets very upset now thinking how they lost me.

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

Spaceship. Are you saying that your FRIENDS don't approve of you going back to your beloved? If you are, you better think twice. If I read this wrong, I apologize, but the WAY YOU WROTE IT!!

Thank you for sharing this knowledge. 🙏🌦️🌈

Coach Lee, I’m still hanging in there. I understand there’s upsides and downsides to this however, It’s been sometime and I don’t think she’s ever coming back. Well that’s my update. Stay healthy and safe inside your body 😉🤙🏼

@invisiblesurge44

Жыл бұрын

How long?

You are the best coach. I tried to buy your emergency breakup kit from UK a couple times but was unable to, because its not recognising my phone number. Can you fix that please. Respect coach...I seen many coaches on KZread, but you make most sense to me, I can see your passion for what you do, and you tell the hard bits...like it is. Please fix that bug.

My ex is in a rebound and for new years I saw he was online on discord, asked he why he isn't celebrating with the rest in the discord server (they were originally his friends), encouraging him to celebrate with them, and then wished him a happy new year and hope it's a good one. He didn't reply to any of my messages, but that was fine by me as I wasn't expecting anything back. I know Lee tells us to keep our distance and not congratulate them etc, but I just felt like it was right to wish him a happy new years. Apparently this made his new girlfriend super jealous and they had a fight about it. Today he even invited his other friends to join when they go to the big city in two weeks, something he NEVER did when we did stuff together, as he always wanted it to be just the two of us. I feel like that relationship is finally falling apart, and it feels amazing. Not because I want him or the relationship anything bad(ok kinda do, but you know the feeling), but because it makes it clear to me how much I've grown and how far I've come these past 3.5 months. I still want him, but I'm at that point where I would be totally fine without him too. I feel so much better and more confident in myself, and if he now comes crawling back I will be in control and demand to be treated right. If he can't do that, I will leave and never look back. Thank you Lee for helping me get to where I am today!

Great video. Very helpful advice. Thank you so much.

I don’t choose to live with a compulsive liar and betrayer in my life

@valerie2827

Жыл бұрын

Good for you! You deserve unconditional love and respect. 🧡

Thank you very much Coach Lee! I follow you from France (thank you KZread Translation 😊) 31 days of NC today for me 👌🏼💪🏼 You help people all over the world, thank you again for everything 😉

@iiHorus

Жыл бұрын

On est dans la même situation 😂😂

@cleopss

Жыл бұрын

@@iiHorus hahaha j’adore! Bonne année à toi 🎊

@iiHorus

Жыл бұрын

@@cleopss merci à toi aussi! Ça va c’était pas trop dur hier ? 🥲😂

@cleopss

Жыл бұрын

@@iiHorus hier non, aujourd’hui très. C’est de ma faute, j’avais l’espoir d’un msg de bonne année. J’espère que ça n’a pas été trop dur pour toi.

@iiHorus

Жыл бұрын

@@cleopss j’avais l’espoir aussi, j’ai failli craquer pour lui envoyer un message mais au final je m’étais dit que j’allais respecter son choix, ça faisait longtemps que vous étiez ensemble ??

Can't wait for this!

Exactly Lol if we are here it’s because we want them back 😅. The problem it’s that when you think your own a person or have them save it’s when they go.

Since the breakup about 5 months ago I've walked the line between guilt and being angry towards her. I'd rather have just 1 emotion rather than both of those.

I get more satisfaction ignoring my ex than ever get back with him , He is left knowing that I rejected him again and again again after he dumped me. Karma is a biatch 😉

@RealCoachLee

Жыл бұрын

If you don’t want him back, by all means. Not every relationship should be saved.

Coach Lee is a boss.

Your videos are amazing man. Thank you

thanks for the reminder !! stay the course ...

She can think that all she wants. New Years Eve day I said ITS OVER! Out with the old in with the new!!! She is Bi Polar/Narcissist. I blamed her actions, lack of actions, on the illness. Not holding her accountable for her actions.. NO MORE!! She knew what she was doing! Yesterday I started doing things for ME! She has a Green light & she can GO! She just better not think about doing a U turn. That road is now CLOSED! SHE LOST! Hope her best wishes with her new supply!

hi, coach lee! really love all your contents by the way. i wanted to ask, what if my ex keep texting me almost regularly not even a day after the break up? should I always replay him or how do I manage the situation? really hoping you'd see this and help me cus I really need your help. thanks

Excellent video. Well done

Can't wait Lee!

He broke up with me 2 days ago , He was crying like crazy we both cried and hug and kiss each other , He doesn't want to be in the relationship , I love him , Today is day 2 of NC , His action very confusing because he want to be friend , He still want to meet me , hug me and kiss me and he was crying when we say goodbye , I feel so hopeless ... listening to Coach Lee give me some hope , Thank you so much 😢

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

Kira, if he doesn't want to be in a relationship, go no contact with him. DO NOT BE FRIENDS WITH AN EX...All HIS crying doesn't mean a thing. Let him go. Someday you'll find someone who really loves you. Good luck to you .❤️⚘️⚘️

Your informations were very valuable and helpful

Wow I love what I heard from you everyday

I took half day from work to watch this

I can’t deal with bs pleasantries though! Like a merry xmas or stuff like that, means nothing to me. I rather just ignore him, not because I want to because I’m a polite person but I hate this back and forth. Oh well, we’ll see what happens. Thank you for your knowledge and kindness.

@joncarbone

Жыл бұрын

Yup. She sent me a "Merry Christmas' text. I didn't respond. Gonna have to try a bit harder than that for attention.

@theglowingbrownie5124

Жыл бұрын

@@joncarbone she’s just testing the waters, don’t fall for it. In the name of politeness, I did it and realized later it was a mistake, or maybe helped me get a better idea of what was really going on. Anyway, hang in there!! 😃

@joncarbone

Жыл бұрын

@@theglowingbrownie5124 likewise! Thank you :)

Hi Coach Lee Can you make a video on how to handle anger being dumped? Thank you.

Great points of wisdom

Happy new year 🎉 2023. Day 1 lol NC. Here we go ! Let's see what happens now cheers everyone

I have a success story except mine is that I never got back together with my ex of 11 years. In the past 6 months, I've learned that it wasnt me. It's not my loss and I'll never ever go crawling back to her. The time I've spent in no contact allowed me to really think about things. I had time to think about all the problems we had and we just were not compatible in any way. Total mismatch. She treated me poorly, gas lit me all the time, blamed me for things I didnt do, made me feel bad for being normal when she was the abnormal person. Anyways, my success is that I've become indifferent towards her. In the beginning I would have anything to get her back but now I dont want anything to do with her. The disrespect I put up with was unfair to me. Never again. The time apart made me realize shes a very toxic person with deep roots trauma and she lives off drama. I cant be apart of any more. Whether she stays single or dates, I feel sorry for who ever she ends up with because she'll make his life hell too or they'll be mutually miserable. Either way I dont care. I knew it was the right decision to put her in the past because I started feeling happy again, I'm content with life and people around noticed I looked and acted happier and was friendlier and more enjoyable than I've ever been. This tells me I was not in a good relationship. I'm taking time to be alone and enjoy the peace and quiet of solitude. I'll start entertaining new women when I feel I'm ready for a romantic companion again and this time I'll choose someone who compatible with me, someone who feels, thinks and acts like I do. I'll meet that person in due time. Until then I'm happy just being me. That's my success story.

@enel9961

Күн бұрын

Amazing!!!

Thank you Mr Lee for this video. I have a question is been 2 months now i don't talk to my ex. But she keeps on coming to my work place i just say Hi then after i ignore her. I am doing a right thing or what?

Can't wait to see what he says

Hey I’m currently 20 days into no contact and I feel normal/good. Better than when I was last single honestly at my best in life we are LDR and was together for 5 1/2 months. So far she’s just posted like songs showing she’s lonely bc she is by herself she’s got family also around her city but she lives by herself. She reposted a tiktok that was special about relationships and I feel she meant it towards me. I’m not reaching out anytime soon idk if I should around 2 months or not I hear it could be good or it could be bad

I never thought I will watch coach Lee again. 😅 I did the no contact before and it worked! Now he broke up with me again. And I am doing NC again. If he come back, I may accept him again, but if not, I am ready to move forward. I love the guy but he has issues he need to fix. 😢

@RealCoachLee

Жыл бұрын

You never thought you would watch me again? Ouch.

@robloxgamer21_official

Жыл бұрын

@@RealCoachLee sorry, bad english. Lol. I always watch your videos.

Yessir coach you help me alot thanks

I love this guy. This video helped me so much

Hey coach, could you make a video on how to break no contact successfully? Pretty counter intuitive hence the name of your channel, but I feel that you’d bring value to the topic as no one has covered it!

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

Ultra, check out Coach Lee's Library. He has many videos including the one you're looking for. I can't think of the title off hand, but I guarantee you will find it.

Coach Lee, I’m currently in no contact going on week 3. I feel so much better since the breakup! His mom texted me to check on me and I didn’t respond back to her…I kinda feel bad, but don’t., he knows I’m about to get a new phone and I’ll have a new number so I guess that can be my excuse for not responding back to his mom. When I do get my phone should I give them my number or continue with no contact and have HIM question me about why I haven’t responded to his mom. When this happens it’ll only be via social media…I love him, but I love me too. What doesn’t come out in the wash definitely comes out in the rinse!!! The cycle of no contact is a beautiful thing and it puts the mirror back in your face. I thank God for you Coach Lee and I sincerely pray for you always ❤

I'm on day 39 of NC after a week of figuring out my bf (ex) of a year ghosted me. I'll admit, I'm finally starting to feel really good about myself, I'm a gamer and been having fun and being incredibly flirty with my gaming friends (even the girls) and talking with someone more directly that's not in that crew, nothing serious as I'm not ready, but I'm at that point where if my ex did reach out then cool and if not then that's also cool. The heartbreak is coming to an end and I know my worth and trust the universe to bring only the best of things into my life.

@jenniferaker9838

Жыл бұрын

Oh also, his bday was Dec 26th and I didn't reach out for Christmas or his bday - proud of myself!

@JoshP86

Жыл бұрын

Flirting with your Gaming friends!?...daaang, that's 304 behavior! No wonder why he doesn't want to know about you.

@jenniferaker9838

Жыл бұрын

@@JoshP86 what on earth is that supposed to mean? I was completely loyal to him while we were together, the hardcore flirting happened after the ghosting - but ok! thanks for being a jerk

Success story here… She dumped me on August 6th, 2022. She even said there is nothing I will do or say that will make her to change her mind. I went NC for three months. Texted her in October to wish happy birthday but mentioned that she doesn’t have to reply if she doesn’t feel so. Surprisingly, she blew my phone with text call etc… Since then she had been the one initiating any conversation. She told me during Christmas 2022 that she is ready to be back. I followed coach Lee advices and it went well. We are definitely back together. No contact works guys

@shawny979

Жыл бұрын

That's awesome. Did she have a rebound?

Hi coach Lee, would you be able to give some quick advice for me? I initiated no contact with my Ex 2 days ago. New Years Eve is soon to come, and I expect her to say "Happy New Years" because she did the same with Christmas. If she says "Happy New Years" and continues with some small talk mixed in, should I just say "Happy New Years" and leave it or, should I go with the small contact back?

@aS__Spencer

Жыл бұрын

Small talk back***

Love this ❤❤

Hi Coach. i love your videos. My ex of 8 years, broke up with me and moved out. we talk now and then and are civil. its been 3 weeks. given she went to the trouble of moving out, is it still worth pursuing?

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Thanks a ton Coach Lee. You are the best and doing great for millions of people. I couldn't maintain no contact. It's 1 year now. Am I too late ? Could you please make a video on a girl with bpd borderline personality who is now with a new guy will no contact work on her now?

coach lee, thanks for the amazing videos. does the amount of time we dated matter?

My ex broke up with me and said he “lost feelings and doesn’t know why”. then i found out he had another girl 2 weeks later, a rebound. I am the last thing on his mind anymore now after we were together for so long. He somehow just switched one day and completely ghosted me and seems to be fine not talking to me. He doesn’t even care that he hurt me like he did and is doing just fine without talking to me. Im feeling the breakup more than anything but he isn’t having to because he is in another relationship as a distraction. I don’t think he feels regret or guilty for it.

@shawny979

Жыл бұрын

Only a Narcissist does that. They don't care. They'll move on like you never existed.

@briray8449

Жыл бұрын

@@shawny979 he was such a sweet guy when we were together though and i could’ve never saw him doing what he did to me.

@shawny979

Жыл бұрын

@@briray8449 Yes, the same thing happened to me. It's like the mask came off. Now I realize I just didn't know him like I thought. You're not alone.

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

@@shawny979 ABSOLUTELY!!

Your are 101% intelligent

He cheated while still going on with me 6years and he just threw it away just like that..and guess he is happy with his choice... Life goes on for me

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

Joyce, I was in a 5 year relationship with a toxic person. We were engaged to be married. I had no idea he never had any intentions of marrying me. He USED me, and I left him. I found out 2 weeks after we broke up, he rebounded and married her in 2 weeks. Sometimes it's a BLESSING that these guys are GONE ! You can do much better. Stay strong, and good luck to you...⚘️⚘️

Why go back with someone who dumps you like crap? If a person does not love you the first time, what makes you think they will love the second time?

Hey Coach Lee, I'm sooo thankful I found your KZread channel. My ex broke up with me 4 days before Christmas & sent me back to the states. We moved to Bali together after dating for 2 months (ik crazy) then broke up after dating & living together for an additional 2 months in Bali. I decided to block him on social media because I didn't want to see all the fun things he was doing in 100° weather while I'm currently freezing in my home town lol. Plus I tend to stalk & just don't have time to further torture myself. I begged for 2 days straight & on my last night there I didn't come home so he assumed I hooked up w/another guy, he then proceeded to tell me that it was my last test to see if I wanted him or the lifestyle & I failed. I think he just needed a ego booster bc after 2 days of begging, I got all dolled up & acted like I was content w/his decision & then didn't come home, so I think he was amazed I stopped begging. We kept in contact up until Xmas only bc my flights got cancelled & I needed help w/hotel rooms. I said my goodbyes on Xmas & he hit me up on the 27th asking about filing a claim w/my travel insurance so I could get reimbursed for the hotel fees. I answered only bc I could use the $$, but once I receive the hotel receipts I plan on starting NC. However, seeing another video of yours you say not to block them bc that's childish...does my reasoning make sense considering the unique situation? Plus I think it would look even more childish to block & unblock him so quickly?

@RealCoachLee

Жыл бұрын

Yes, it might look childish and unstable to unblock him so soon after you blocked him. So just leave it.

@Pureessencetravel

Жыл бұрын

Ok thank you coach Lee! He reached out 5 days after NC, just casual conversation for now 1 or 2 texts a day the past 3 days....I honestly wish he would have took some more time, but he knows I'm pretty much starting my life over & maybe genuinely concerned, So I'll take it slow until I can gage his intentions!

Hey coach lee. Can you do a video on “why your ex is mad at you during NC when she's the one who dumped you” that's my situation.

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

Algiers, there is a video in Coach Lee's Library about DUMPERS & DUMPEES. Check out the Library regarding being Dumped. He has a large Library. Also, I would recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's terrific! myexbackcoach.com/ebk

Thank You very much Sir.💔💔💔

Last night i thought about posting something fancy on instagram to make my ex miss me but then i got stopped by a thought. ”What am i doing? Who am i becoming? Its mot fun to manipulate like this. Maybe i can just accept that he dont think i am attractive. I am tired of Living in the ego. I then listened to echart tolle in i video where he talks about how to get out of the ego and i realised that our whole relationship got destroyed by we Living in our egos. And i decided that now its time for me to stop doing that. I felt that i was in the body and not so much in the head through the eavning and i felt really peaceful. I remembered what echart Said ”if you let go of needyness good things Will come easy to you”. Today i woke up to a text from my ex. He wrote that he can’t stop think about me and he want to meet up. It has got 3 months since the breakup. I feel that i dont need him and that universe is on my side. If he wants me back he has to change. I feel happy and peaceful with or without him. Never thought i would write here. I was so sure he did not miss me. He was supercold. This is almost like magic.

Hi coach! I'm wondering how long my NC really is so far- after an 8 year relationship, we broke up in the beginning of December and I left immediately (we were both very upset, crying etc, I think I felt too proud to stay any longer). Didn't really know about NC but just thought silence is the only right thing to do- I didn't know what to say anyway, I had always been a needy girlfriend (texting, kinda jealous of his time with friends etc. Nothing crazy though), and he did actually ask for some space as he wants to see a therapist to deal with some issues he has. We even said during the 'breakup chat' that we only have love for each other, and we weren't fighting. So I didn't speak to him at all for weeks, but I did message to wish him a merry Christmas- he replied in a friendly manner, and we exchanged a few jokey messages but it didn't go any further- and I didn't expect it to. Does that count as breaking NC? Looking back I wish I didn't do that, but glad I didn't act desperate or talk about the relationship in any way. Not sure if that reset my NC, if only I had seen your videos before that!

@jgentile34

Жыл бұрын

I would say your okay just reciprocate their energy. But don’t go out of your way to contact regularly

It’s been a year. He been in relationship with same person for that year. He wants to be friends. He has mentioned being friends which I know it’s how he wants to starts to rekindle being together again. But that tells me he would do that to me. So he can wait!