Perfectionism as a defense against being average. But at the extreme no work gets done due to fear of failure.

@newanas5271

Жыл бұрын

Spot on. I v learned as a child that no matter how much effort I put in I will always be criticised by my parents.

I had to tilt my computer screen so that he would be sitting upright.

@barrylyndongurley

11 ай бұрын

HA! Now imagining Dr Frank's OCD patients compulsively demanding that he "please sit up straight!!"

My ex girlfriend m, before we broke up, started going to therapy for brief moment. But I realized one thing. She’d either praise the therapist and extol his guidance or berate him, often claiming that she’s the one coming to all conclusions and she doesn’t need him. It was never in between. Same way she treated me, her mother, everybody.

❤ great explanation

A bad relationship according to an adult BPD/Narcissist? An adult person that express ambiguity.

This helps me realize I'm not this.

What I want to know is how the therapist works on/with this predictable attempt at splitting? Is a pushback warranted or advisable? Does the Therapist allow for the split to occur all the while reinforcing the dysfunctional belief?

@BorderlinerNotes

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for this -- other Kernberg vids address this, when he explains how TFP works. -P

Where can I get this therapy for my granddaughter?

@BorderlinerNotes

6 жыл бұрын

Where are you located? Google "transference focused psychotherapy" (TFP). There's a place in NYC where therapists are trained in TFP. Here are a few links. Worth contacting these places to see if they have any recs if you are not local to their particular area. psychoanalysis.columbia.edu/train/transference-focused-psychotherapy-program, www.personalitystudiesinstitute.com/index.php, www.borderlinedisorders.com/seminars.php, istfp.org/

@Loungies

6 жыл бұрын

Hi Otto, Thank you so much for replying. I live in Sudbury, Ontario Canada. I was inquiring for my granddaughter who was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and to get her the best help possible specific for this disorder. These links seem to be for psychology students who want to extend their education in Borderline Personalities.

Dr Otto fazer tira teima Dr Aline Rangel consulta on LINE valor tudo julgar?

You guys should make the audio output lower.

@tugnormoustuglicous1303

4 ай бұрын

U should adjust ur ears

I'm sorry. I don't want to take a lot of time or attention, so to anyone that reads this comment, don't feel in any way that you need to answer... and yeah... I already am garnering attention just by saying this... I just wanted to ask if this is so. Is it possible that splitting with NPD is about performance, while with BPD is about feelings, emotions, caring? With NPD, the other person would either be seen as beautiful, funny, intelligent, successful, extremely charming or inciting or the opposite, essentially the perfect human specimen or the lowest of the low, ugly, dumb, incapable etc. You are evaluated based on performance and there are only two possibilities. On the other hand, with BPD, it's how good you are as a person, so you're either the kindest, the most thoughtful, caring, loyal etc., or you're the must untrustworthy, exploitative, immoral etc. You are evaluated based on how caring you are and there are only two possibilities. What they have in common is that it's selfish, it's all about the person in question and having their wants or needs met, while the other is unseen and unattended, but there's a very big difference in the criteria based on which they value or devalue the other person.

What about if you were only an infant when they mutilated your junk and had a strange old jewish man slobber on the wounded flesh? Would that be traumatic?

@SuperDodoe

5 ай бұрын

Are you referencing the process of circumcision? Definitely traumatic but also creating a desensitized penis