My body image has held me back my whole life. Everything has had to wait until I lose weight and feel better about myself. But life is slipping through my fingers. I have tried to get my binge eating under control so many times and every time I would diet I would be unable to be consistent and give up. But I now feel like I have things under control and they are going in the right direction. I have fine-tuned my macros, eating high protein, low carb- but still allowing fruit, bread, crackers etc every now and then and eating meals I really enjoy while staying in a calorie deficit. I'm taking anti-depressants that increased my anxiety quite considerably for a couple of weeks, but now I'm good and have more motivation to do things. But the biggest difference is that I joined a gym. It's a women's gym and I go every second day. I do the treadmill and weights. I really love it. It's been a month and I am focusing on slowly making new, healthy habits and not trying to do everything all at once and as fast as possible and then giving up like I always have. I'm 50 years old. It's never too late to be able to make the changes towards a better you. Don't lose hope!

@anxious_and_avoidant

10 күн бұрын

Pacing yourself is so key, yes. Every time I’ve joined a gym I’ve bullied myself into going every day and staying hours and every time I’ve dieted they’ve been extreme and unsustainable. An all women’s gym sounds incredible. I’m so glad you’ve found something that works. I also struggle with not wanting to put my life on hold just because I’m uncomfortable with how I look (my mother did that her whole life too) which is why I’m *trying* to focus more on just being healthy and hoping that boosts my confidence without needing to change how I look, but also knowing that I’ll look better as I get healthier. 😅 But yeah, it’s a lifelong journey.

You're SO not alone. Thank you for making me not feel alone. I agree, feeling depressed is a bit more comfortable than being anxious. I also chronically binge eat then crash diet, exercise and repeat. My seasonal mood issues tend to be a major influence on it. So I'm trying to mitigate that factor in various ways. So that hopefully every step forward is followed by only a half step back. You have my support in your journey.

@anxious_and_avoidant

10 күн бұрын

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Maxine we just love you ❤ do videos and we like them and there’s the whole formula 😇

@anxious_and_avoidant

10 күн бұрын

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The bravest , strongest, smartest and of course prettiest avpd girl on this planet 🎉. Welcome back with this strong back which fully of hope mixed with acceptance and wisdom. We keep on trying to the end ❤🙏👏

@anxious_and_avoidant

10 күн бұрын

Yup, we keep going no matter what. Love you Ali!!! ❤️🙏🏻

Good to see you posting again!

this video hit just right for me because today i weighed myself for the first in a year after having been weighed in a mental hospital, and boy did i gain weighed. im the type of person who *cannot* do something thats out of my routine until the last minute, until its absolutely necessary, so im hoping this is a wake-up call for me to finally start exercising. thank you so so much for making this video, not only are you making me feel less alone, i hope you know that *you* arent either! by the way, these things you do to connect to a self of yours that was "in a better place" kinda match the things my therapist has me do so my depression doesnt get the best of me. so who cares what your inner voice says, its wrong! go paint your nails girl, thats what i do every week because my therapist said so! xD

@anxious_and_avoidant

10 күн бұрын

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It's great to see you, wishing you all the best!!

Sending you lots of love Maxine. 🌞🌺✌🏽

@anxious_and_avoidant

11 күн бұрын

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I really like your videos, thank you for making them. Don't worry about big lessons in each, even just a stream of thoughts is great. Maybe you can recommend some good books in the next one. Wish you all the best 👍

@anxious_and_avoidant

10 күн бұрын

I appreciate this, thank you 🙏🏻❤️ 📚

Glad to see you again 🤗

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Ugh, I understand this so much. Always hitting a wall when trying to move forward. We don't allow ourselves to grow most likely bc we are convinced we're not worth it. Convincing ourselves we deserve a good thing is not only hard, it's also incredibly exhausting. I think if were not telling ourselves this 24/7 and also showing ourselves for at least a year, it'll always be a struggle. The body image is a whole different story, but I get it too. From experience I know this may not register, but you look beautiful. Hope you find your way back soon. Healing isn't linear, ups and downs will always be there, but I do know they last shorter the more we overcome and do the work on ourselves.

@anxious_and_avoidant

11 күн бұрын

Great point, I totally agree. And I appreciate you. 🥹🙏🏻❤️

On BINGE EATING guys. A helpful tactic that I used (Not a miracle cure) was to avoid POWERFUL FLAVOURS. Example instead of a rich chocolate covered cookie search for a bland lower calorie cookie. The idea is that powerful flavours will push your food addiction into overdrive and you can't stop until you are full. A bland form of comfort food whatever it is will give you the feeling of snacking but not the urge to eat a truckload. If you are used to powerful flavours you will be disappointed with bland food but YOU CAN TRAIN YOUR TASTEBUDS to accept mild flavours. It takes time to adjust so be persistent.

@anxious_and_avoidant

10 күн бұрын

Noooooo I’m sensory seeking with food flavors, I can’t accept this 😭😂 💔hahahaha

@dodge_ute

9 күн бұрын

@@anxious_and_avoidant Going cold turkey and stopping the binge eating is PAINFUL, TOUGH, I know!. Moving to BLAND, pleasant snacking is by comparison a soft landing. Snacking on bland won't on its own give you a figure to die for but its a useful first step and trust me Maxine we all want to see you smiling :)