Ok so then I don't have this as I do enjoy time by myself and with others. This gave me clarity.

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, helpful for me to know!

Thank you Sia! You presented one of my all time favourite lectures I've attended. As a Psychologist about to start on my journey, I really enjoy your videos!

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

That is joyous for me to hear! Thank you for letting me know! Lots more coming this year so do keep watching amd get in contact of you want supervision or support along the way!

Ok. Now you make me cry. I have an ambivalent tattoo on my arm and always find that meaning: I can understand mixed sensations of nature. But somehow always thought I was just avoidant. I feel amazingly strong, vulnerable and earthy when I am alone. Don't like to be vulnerable with others rather support them and their needs. And all my life worked/given/helped/other people. Even the best piece of my birthday cake. And all I wanted was someone truly one day feel my vibration

ugh god, this really spoke to me. I struggle so much with this and have been up and down with my moods for years with my partner. Right now i'm terribly anxious as i'm having urges to leave the relatonnship for the 20th time. I really want someone who understands this "illness" if you want to call it that, to help me

Great video! Looking forward to the next one.

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

More to come!

Love your attachment video series. Keep up the great work 👌

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, will do!

no one will come without the time. One person can be very early, others will come after 2 hrs

"And only when I'm with someone is there a chance to feel whole." Apart from that: Why is it really that it is called ambivalent - when in fact it is mostly the anxious, vulnerable and insecure side that is predominant in the type of attachment?

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

It is called Ambivalent because the person appears Ambivalent about the caregiver. I want you to heal, cure, and help me, but I fight against you as you seem to be unable to do so. This way the person comes to you but also goes against your inadequacy to heal them. I hope that makes sense.

@ebbenielsen7

2 жыл бұрын

@@drsia2323 Thanks for the elaboration. Is it possible that an anxiously attached person does not really have this ambivalent side, but primarily the anxious and over-involved side?

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

@@ebbenielsen7 with over involvement comes the side that becomes demanding. and lashes out when overwhelmed. That is the other side of neediness. Neediness and demandingness are two sides tot the same coin in ambivalence. I hope that makes sense.

@ebbenielsen7

2 жыл бұрын

@@drsia2323 Thanks ...

@DjDeja

8 ай бұрын

Ambivalent = unsure. Ambivalent folks are anxious about losing others because they are unsure of themselves

What does it mean when someone tells me, mean ambivalent is no longer an option?

Are attachment styles categories or on a spectrum? I'm just wondering.

@drsia2323

2 жыл бұрын

This is a great question Neesha and one I get often. You can look at them as overlapping categories or dimensional. Either way, at the core there will be distinct patterns for a child that operate with specific caregivers. For example, avoidance with one and frustration with the other may result in combinations of avoidant and Ambivalent responses in children. For research purposes, categorical approaches see to be the most effective even though dimensional patterns clearly are emerging. Would this be a good video for me to make amd discuss on depth?

@Whathuh86

2 жыл бұрын

@@drsia2323 Yes!