“They don’t experience the pain of one bad outcome, they experience the pain of 100 bad outcomes”. Oof, that one hit hard

@rafaelgonzalez4175

13 күн бұрын

That is false. You can make the choice to do 100 bad outcomes. out of 100 bad outcomes.

@JoshHitti

13 күн бұрын

@@rafaelgonzalez4175 wut

@rafaelgonzalez4175

13 күн бұрын

@@JoshHitti Enlightenment. Is that not the subject? The experience of enlightenment is only for the person in AP state. In AP state you can choose to do only bad things to the real world. Every choice you make to affect the real world does so only in a negative way. In AP, experiencing enlightenment, you choose what you want to do, to those you do not like. Because everyone else you would not want to do a bad thing to. Enlightenment.

@leoburst6

13 күн бұрын

A hero dies one death but a coward dies many deaths

@jmalmighty5433

12 күн бұрын

@@rafaelgonzalez4175​​⁠is English your first language cause whatever you are saying doesn’t make sense within the context or even grammatically???? :////

I think I’ve naturally come across “living in the present” over the last few months and it is blissful. I picked up tech repair as a hobby and when working on such small and complex things it must have your full attention and the mental benefit I noticed was incredible… that’s when i realized real happiness or peace isn’t from the people we know, the things we accomplish or the materials or objects we own, it’s the ability to think outside of one’s self for stretches of time. Keeping my mind occupied in healthy ways has changed my view on so many things I used to view as pure negatives and is helping me think things through differently since I’m more used to removing myself from the Center of my thinking

@midnitevibez

17 күн бұрын

flow state is the hardest drug I’ve ever experienced and it’s truly so rad

@lakshaykochhar6799

17 күн бұрын

So, how does this flow thing feels? I'm kinda curious.

@samysue10

17 күн бұрын

@@lakshaykochhar6799 It feels like you are really connected to the current moment, like everything just feels right. Time passes by really fast and I know I feel a lot lighter physically when I’m in a flow state

@midnitevibez

17 күн бұрын

@@lakshaykochhar6799 it’s just when you’re not thinking about anything else but what is in front of you. For me it may be trying to fanaggle a wire in a difficult spot but magically you’ll look up and hours have gone by and it’s almost like this electric feeling that you feel completely in control and connected to whatever you’re doing… sorry if this is vague it’s kinda abstract to describe

@midnitevibez

17 күн бұрын

To clarify it’s not quite the same as hyperfocus but hyperfocus can definitely make the feeling more intense I think

This person's topics are distinct from the rest.. I am an Arab person who does not know English, but KZread's automatic translator provides me with a great service ❤️

@Taima

Күн бұрын

Yeah, translations are awesome. Is KZread/Google actually good at translating Arabic/English now? It always seemed to be one of the worst out of the languages I've seen. Chinese usually ain't pretty either.

@a_bar8579

21 сағат бұрын

@@Taima Excellent, you can understand the meaning in Arabic

There's something in this video that I needed to hear. "You can move in the right direction, but ultimately, the end result is out of your control. People can dislike you or you can get fired from your job...". And that's what I've been struggling with a lot lately. I think I'm doing the right things, I'm trying to improve my life and myself as much as I can, but often times I see no improvement. And I think that just need to accept it - what is important is that I'm doing my best, everything else is ultimately irrelevant. Like, I can be the best version of myself, and try and try, but still never find a partner that would suit me, because that's up to chance. And I need to learn to live with what I have instead of mourning for something I don't

@deuteriumtritium9700

11 күн бұрын

If you believe in the concept of Karma, have faith and keep going No action goes unaccounted for Your points are accumulating like water in a dam - and at some point, the dam releases and it's going to give you returns gushing with force And it does work with just trying your best without only caring for the fruits of your effort. Because even if it doesn't "work out", that's only based on our perception of what a working out situation is supposed to look - there's no absolute truth to what that situation is

@rafaelgonzalez4175

9 күн бұрын

My explanation would be the world around you. As many try to be better the result becomes the world around them. How can I be the only one? It doesn't make sense anymore. Then the realization hits. I can only be as better of a person in comparison to others. You are the only one. Until you find another that is doing the same. Compatibility. People are always going to be a box checked off. Am I this type of person, or maybe that type of person. Do I socialize with only those that think like me? The majority rules, YES.

@sharafkhan9333

8 күн бұрын

welcome to the world of serendipity my friend

@sharafkhan9333

8 күн бұрын

Welcome to the world of serendipity my friend

Before, I was in the loop of negativity & depression. Later, I found this channel and I feel like got out of this loop. Now, I understand the true value of life. Thank you Dr. K.

One of the things I learned in the addiction recovery center couple of years ago is something that I love suggesting to ppl when I see them struggling for the future and it is "Be here and now". There is also a quote that says: "Tomorrow doesn't exist bc it still haven't happened, yesterday has already been, so it stays in history. There is only one real day in the entire year and that's today".

@rememberDay1

15 күн бұрын

When you’re actually going through withdrawal,, and post withdrawal these word games dont really mean much 1) you have to really want to get clean 2) you have to be willing to suffer 3) with no promise of “faith” or that god will save you; only that you’ve abused enough so that you finally understand that getting high (in whatsoever way you choose) is always the worse choice (its not wrong, but you deep down know you’re squandering your potential) Main point being; you’re going to have to suffer to get clean: physically; but whats worse is that psychological demons will haunt and chase you (the ones youve been hiding/escaping from) once you are sober…they will come screaming at you. So then your battle begins because you will face mental anguish like no other as the demons arise… but you must accept them and let them ride through you (without getting carried away in anger and resentment, depression) and experience all that pain and cleansing while holding onto your commitment to stay sober and hope to move on to a better life. For a real addict cliches are only so useful…you need practical advice so I hope this helps anyone struggling cus ive been there. A cheat code for cravings is just take deep breaths for as long as it takes for your craving to chill… + the extreme desire to get clean ✌️

@iluxa-4000

15 күн бұрын

Exactly. It's the thoughts, the ideas of the future or the past that haunt and hurt you. In the moment you are doing just fine. In my case - often times I think "man, I'll never find love, and will die alone without even knowing how it feels", and it hurts really bad. Awful pain. But if I stop and think for a minute - am I doing ok now? Yeah, I'm sitting in my office, chilling, enjoying the cool summer day. It's enough to be happy. And if I think further - even if indeed I never find love, and I'll be sitting on my bed in my 70s, and think "hm, I indeed never met anyone" - I am certain that it wouldn't hurt much. Maybe a tingle, sure, but not the crushing feeling I have when I think about it now. That's the paradoxial nature of our brains - the projection, the mere thought we make for ourselves, the future that we make up entirely or the past that is already gone, hurts so much more than the actual life does

@MrNemay

11 күн бұрын

My favorite "every day's doomsday"

@Taima

Күн бұрын

@@rememberDay1 Facts. Besides, telling someone to be in the present moment is literally the last place they want to be when going through withdrawal. It's liking inviting someone to pull up a chair in hell. Maybe it's best to get comfortable, but you're not really going to, and all you want is to be before or after the anguish.

@Taima

Күн бұрын

I agree with @rememberDay1's response to you, but I do also really like the "Be Here Now" quote in general. It also happens to be the name of the documentary that was made about the late actor Andy Whitfield (the first guy who played Spartacus in the STARZ series from 2009-2013) and the battle he unfortunately lost to Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma I believe it was. Very good, very sad. But I digress.

1. Stop chasing dopamine 2:31 2. Dissolve your ego 8:09 3. Live in the present 12:53 4. Developed a one-pointed mind 19:02

@patobarajas7207

17 күн бұрын

lol thank u , I was so confused.

@kenpanderz

17 күн бұрын

"just be happy 4head" Yogis: "yep"

@broadbandtogod

17 күн бұрын

👍👍

@CursedZorthan

16 күн бұрын

5. Dissing incels 22:00

@nathanmaxey2966

16 күн бұрын

​@CursedZorthan 😂

Does getting here early mean I’m on the right path or avoiding the path through jumping into KZread for distraction?

@JakeIsLearning

17 күн бұрын

Depends. Did your journey here start with curiosity or avoidance?

@Createddead

17 күн бұрын

Yes

@kalebvick

17 күн бұрын

Seeing as I was 4 minutes ahead of you and my life has never been better, I'd say you're on the right track 👍

@mumblaff

17 күн бұрын

@@JakeIsLearning I’d say 60/40 but I wont say which way it’s split in case my subconscious is watching

@0Ciju0

17 күн бұрын

It means absolutely nothing lmao

As a recovering alcoholic and poly addict who’s been practicing Buddhism for the past year or so this really resonated with me.

@solrosriddare7264

15 күн бұрын

I like your name

@xuitha4456

11 күн бұрын

понимаю

I cant imagine how important this channel is to the evolution of modern society

I don't really need this advice anymore, because I have pulled myself out of a pit of despair. However, the eloquence of which you explain things I have realized but don't have words for, is remarkable. If you are a lost, depressed person, listen to this man

@rorybessell8280

13 күн бұрын

Mindfulness is a great tool for everyone, depressed or otherwise. I've never been depressed in my life, but taking up a journey in mindfulness has still been the most powerful thing in my life

@TKInternational76

10 күн бұрын

Mate have you realised? No?

@detroitninjas

8 күн бұрын

@@brovoker34 he’s different bro it’s like he’s saying what I’m thinking

Here’s the way I think about the relationship between the future and suffering: Pretend for a second that you’re, for some reason, incapable of conceiving of anything but the present. Suffering is essentially a dissatisfaction with the present, and requires that you’re able to conceive of circumstances other than what you’re experiencing. But, if you couldn’t conceive of anything but the present, you couldn’t conceive of better circumstances. Therefore you wouldn’t be able to suffer. You’d automatically accept the present in its entirety. That’s why achieving one pointedness of the mind leads to happiness. Suffering is just literally impossible in that state.

@Volkbrecht

17 күн бұрын

It doesn't work like that, at least not across the whole board. We have natural needs. Those not being met causes immediate suffering that doesn't require conceptualisation. The easiest example for this is pain caused by injuries or sickness, or hunger. You know without even thinking about the future that your present state must change. Your idea comes into play only when the basic needs are more or less covered. When you are thinking about life in terms of more, better, improvement. But once you slip below a baseline, you'll feel that your life is shit, right then and there, and not because you'd rather have a nice car instead of a bicycle.

@samysue10

17 күн бұрын

@@Volkbrecht That’s not true, even when I feel sick or am lacking in food you can still have such a one pointed focus that I can ignore those negative feelings. I haven’t mastered it but I’ve had moments where things were going to sh*t and I was still able to shift my focus on what’s in the moment and even on positive perspectives. It’s very difficult and takes years of practice but I believe it’s possible to be blissful and happy even on the verge of death if you have mastered your ability to focus.

@onyxrose786

17 күн бұрын

@@Volkbrecht I think you are confusing pain with suffering, you can be in pain but that doesn't necessarily cause suffering

@baronvonkek8467

17 күн бұрын

Improvement is also impossible. If you can't be dissatisfied with your circumstances, you can't make them better.

@musickerem

16 күн бұрын

@@baronvonkek8467 Improvement requires comparison and the abstract concepts of "good" and "bad, or "better" or "worse"

After trying so many things, enlightenment is the only thing that has genuinely helped me overcome a lifetime of depression. Thank you for covering this topic.

@VeritableVagabond

17 күн бұрын

How did it happen for you?

@sweepingpage1845

17 күн бұрын

@@VeritableVagabond A book called The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

@VeritableVagabond

17 күн бұрын

@@sweepingpage1845 what practice did you do in that book? How long did it take you? Were you practicing hours a day before waking up?

@fawazahmed4978

17 күн бұрын

@@sweepingpage1845 dude i read the book and it seemed interesting, it makes sense to me (i guess a little counter productive if im validating it through logical thinking when the idea is to get to a place beyond thought). Despite it somewhat clicking i just can't make any use of it. It's like someone saying videogames arent good in excess, explaining their reasoning and you're like oh yeah ur kinda right, but then you go play them anyway. Have you or anyone else reading this thread experienced this before where all these concepts are agreeable but you havent changed despite it? what things can i try?

@sweepingpage1845

16 күн бұрын

@@VeritableVagabond Mostly just embracing the concepts in the book as fully as I can. I've listened to the audio book 3 times now, and I'm working through his follow up book, A New Earth. I wouldn't say I'm "cured." I'm still dealing with apathy and established bad habits, but the misery is practically gone. It shows back up from time to time, but quickly leaves again. It doesn't have a home to stick around in my mind and my heart. I was led to this book by Nate Muri, Thrive Like a Viking here on KZread. He's big on practices and resilience. I think he prepared me to resonate so much with the book.

Great summary of some of the most important things this channel has taught me. Used to suffer for years from depression and anxiety on a constant basis, and so many different "goals" or solutions I was given or set for myself failed to make me happy. In the end, simply through learning this stuff and practicing it through meditation, therapy, self-inquiry and journaling - Life ended up becoming infinitely more enjoyable and less stressful, without anything external changing at first. Until it becomes common consensus that our internal wiring affects our happiness and suffering more than our circumstance (Beyond the baseline of survival and security), and that we CAN change the internal in so many different ways - the mental health epidemic will continue.

@peeteri95

17 күн бұрын

Do you have any general advice? What impacted you the most?

@KK-sg5gl

17 күн бұрын

Have you become goal-less? Because I have. And absolutely nothing interests me anymore. Maybe it’s just a phase but I can’t be bothered to invest any energy into anything.

@kymbbm

17 күн бұрын

​@@KK-sg5glthats just apathy and giving up, its not a good thing.

@KK-sg5gl

17 күн бұрын

@@kymbbmI’ve heard some non duality speakers mention it, but not enough to cure my doubts of what you’re saying. Dr. K doesn’t seem like he’s in a “no self” state. So I’m not sure if he’d know what I’m referencing. Has your self dropped away?

@Sean.F

16 күн бұрын

@@peeteri95 *What impacted the most, In order:* 0. Purpose / Values Inquiries - For me, the biggest hurdle to overcome after over a decade of misery was Self-hatred and apathy. Very difficult to even want to try to change things when you're your worst enemy... But too bad, we're stuck with us for life! What helped motivate me a bit was Dr. K's journaling prompts for "Dharma / Duty", what and who I truly valued and had a Duty to get better for, even if I didn't feel that Duty towards myself at first. As well as basic stuff like Action-oriented thinking rather than Results-oriented. Gotta realize that the mind is wired to self-sabotage, and figure out ways to circumvent that. 1. Journaling - every single thing that lead to suffering, no longer letting it just be in my head. Every "problem" I've had with myself and my life (Even without fixing most of them, ended up becoming way happier in life), every issue, every repeating emotion, putting it to the page, exploring it. Take it out of the black box and see how much gets hidden by the top-layers and the avoidance. 2. Meditation - Both sitting with that discomfort and emotion that surfaces and isn't as suppressed by distraction as it used to be anymore, but also sitting in PEACE, disentangling from it at times, finding ways to relax from it instead of always pushing and pulling on it. Not reacting as much. Takes a lot of practice, Dr. K's scientifically validated "20 minutes a day for 8 weeks" was a challenge for me at first, but after a few months of having that be my main "goal", started getting close and noticing improvement. 3. Research - Had to stop pretending I know how emotions and thoughts work best anymore, despite being over 20 years old! Or that I was a special snowflake who discovered "true, unsolvable misery" and all the other 8 billion people (or 100 billion throughout history) are wrong or lucky. Started researching my issues more thoroughly, seeing different approaches to anxiety, depression, shame, etc online. So much is available, so much to consider and try to apply. Philosophy (Stoicism, Buddhism, Sartre, whatever interests you), Psychology, Neurology, etc. Dr. K content and suggestions helped a lot. Claire Weekes was a very eye-opening perspective on Anxiety for me. 4. Therapy / Coaching - Then, started bringing up all the shit I wrote with a professional. Didn't find the perfect fit instantly, but eventually found someone I can "use" - the therapist itself doesn't matter as much as how willing you are to engage, IMO. Every session where we dug deep enough to bring up intense, stuck emotions, felt so rewarding, so relieving afterwards, even when we didn't find "the solution". Simply sitting with it, knowing that's okay. Sometimes we DID find actionable steps that helped, started exercising more and finding ways to enjoy nature. By this point, a year after starting, life was pretty relaxed and enjoyable despite not having made many big changes. Kept getting better though! I don't know what path or support works perfectly (or even just well enough) for you, but I hope you keep looking and trying. It's worth it, it's doable.

Dr. K changing the world one KZread video at a time

@morganseppy5180

7 күн бұрын

I had time so i watch a twitch vod of his, and it connected points that ive ignored in myself. A lot to think about

Wow, the last time i was this early to something someone had to cut my umbilical. Thanks for posting, this is my favorite subject :)

Visited a moksha temple on my trip to Nepal.. absolute peace

I would argue that one is able to think about a good future outcome and feel the pleasure from it the same way as the negative thought. I sometimes create fake futures where I imagine myself succeeding in any way possible and I get a rush of dopamine and chills and motivation from it. It can even be things that may not even be physically possible for me for things that will never happen, but it’s the thought of succeeding that gives me motivation and drive.

@arnoldcoleman14

10 күн бұрын

I agree to a point, i've also learned from andrew hubermans podcast, that to have motivation to do difficult things that would lead you to a better life, you need to learn to activate the motivation (dopamine) during the difficult thing, not after or before. So during the thing you might start dreaming about a good future. I've had some success with this, but its too early to tell. (Imagining a good outcome, getting motivated to make it happen and making it happen)

@chaimgoldstein4585

6 күн бұрын

Whoa, genius

Dear Alok! I really can‘t thank you enough for your passionate work, your warmhearted charm and your healthy and inspiring sense of humor! As a diamondway buddhist practitioner with a history of polytoxic substance abuse since i was 11 years old, combined with Videogame-addiction, and now 18 Years of Experience in (buddhist) meditation and a recently diagnosed ADHD in my 40‘s, i can‘t tell you how much value, insights and encouragement i receive through your content and you as a person and example! I consider you a true Boddhisattva and a friend on the way although we’ve never met in Person. May you live a healthy and enjoyable life for as long as possible and benfit as many beeings by enabling them to understand and work with their minds! Thank you from the depth of my heart!🙏🏻 Om ma ni pe me hung

Thank you so much Dr K. I’ve been meditating at least once if not twice a day and it’s really helped me unleash so many deeply trapped emotions. I’ve suffered from such internalised feelings of low self worth and chronic low mood and anxiety. Can’t thank you enough, your insight which you offer for free is such a great guide for my life. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I really hope my thanks reaches you some day 🙏

Not only am I extremely early on watching this episode but it speaks directly to me and what I've been going through. Thank you for your insight Dr. K

"You can not experience future happiness" he says, as he is basically ecstatic at the prospect of the viewer being helped that he's imagining as he's speaking of it.

@counterintuitivepanda4555

17 күн бұрын

That's not happiness. True happiness is only in the present, future based actions aren't. You mix up your words, descriptions and feelings and dont realise it.

@GhostZeroGZ

17 күн бұрын

Anyone that claims we can't experience happiness from thinking about future scenarios has never once thought about fapping after work Or in a more wholesome light, thought about the prospect of seeing their crush later

@kezzyhko

16 күн бұрын

@@GhostZeroGZ Or thinking about a meal when you're hungry. But at the same time, thinking about minor annoyance brings more discomfort, than thinking about something good brings pleasure.

@pookz3067

16 күн бұрын

He’s not talking about excitement about future happiness or anxiety about future failure. He’s not saying prospects in the future can’t affect your happiness today. He’s saying that thinking about future happiness has huge neurological differences from actually experiencing it in the present, especially when compared to future thinking about unhappiness. When you think about unhappy scenario is playing out, your brain works more similarly to the event actually occurring to you now. This is not true for thinking about present happiness, is is just an undeniable physiological fact. He does not confuse his excitement for helping people as simulating the happiness he will feel when he actually helps them.

@GhostZeroGZ

15 күн бұрын

@@pookz3067 You're telling us it's not about anxiety, then proceed to describe what is essentially anxiety. And we're saying you can be happy now by thinking about potential happy futures, just as you can be upset now by thinking about potential future failures. I don't know what mystery you think you're solving for us, but this ain't it chief. I deny your "undeniable physiological fact"

This is one of the best informational videos I've ever seen/heard and the title doesn't do it justice with what was shared 💎🗝️❤

14:05 "This doesn't work for pleasure ... You can't think about playing video games and get that rush of dopamine." One of the most intense sources of happiness I have ever experienced was the anticipation of playing a video game. I feel good when I think of positive things I might do. Food for thought.

@peterrosqvist2480

17 күн бұрын

That’s excitement, but that’s different than the actual dopamine hit. A better example might be eating dessert or an orgasm. You cannot simply think about an orgasm and experience the dopamine hit from an orgasm, but you can experience the anticipation of it which is also rewarding.

@bobrandom5545

17 күн бұрын

@@peterrosqvist2480 Comparing apples to oranges. No, you can't experience future dessert or orgasms, but you can also not experience future pain from cutting your hand off. You CAN experience future positive social experiences and any other future pleasure not caused by something "physical" like eating food. I'm not buying the whole claim that you can't experience future pleasure, but you can experience future pain. I'm open to evidence though

@igotbluesdevils

17 күн бұрын

Actually, as Dr Robert Sapolsky explained, dopamine isn't actually the reward/pleasure neurotransmitter. The real dopamine "hit" comes with the anticipation of pleasure. Especially in case the reward/pleasure isn't guaranteed, the "hit" is stronger. This is the actual mechanism gambling and casinos work with.

@conscientunit1157

17 күн бұрын

​@@igotbluesdevils well, that kinda explains why dopamine doesnt lead to happiness

@igotbluesdevils

17 күн бұрын

@@conscientunit1157 Yup. It also explains why a lot of people keep chasing "the next thing" (job, wage, partner, car, shoes, vacation..). It's never ever enough, and it never will be..!

One of the hardest lessons I've learned is what you speak on in regards to self perception. I fixed all problems. I was 550+ lbs. Depressed. Binge eating disorder. Weed abuse. No job. No degree. In the last three years I've lost all that weight. I got a job. I'm in my last year of a CS degree. Survived a breakup and have a new girlfriend. But I was still miserable. I thought losing all the weight would fix me. I felt like it was causing me all this pain. And then I finally lost it all and I was kinda whatever about it. I had just moved on to judging myself about the next thing.

I don't know how Dr. K always has a relevant video made right when I start having problems.

@Entwicklungshustle

17 күн бұрын

Maybe your brain starts adapting to Dr. Ks upload schedule 🤔

Thank you for bringing this information to such a broad audience. I'm so lucky to have found meditation as an early adult, I feel like life is so much fuller and I'm nowhere even near any perceived endgoal!

Thank you Dr K. I’ve been waiting for this episode for a while.

I think the idea that luck determines your happiness has affected me a whole lot. Sometimes I think that everything I hold is unstable and might break due to inevitable RNG. But this channel has helped me take a different approach

22:05 - You don't gotta call me out like that

Love that you're discussing this topic Dr. K!

You are the happiness you seek. ⚪️ 🙏 Namaskar 🧘‍♂️

The two track mind is really on point for me. Often when im talking with people theres a second voice judging the conversation because it feels it needs to go perfect but in the end it makes me come off as weird. When i let go of the expectations is when i make real connections.

Any progress I seem to make with meditation, which looks like feeling more relaxed and more comfortable with myself, is immediately disrupted by my living situation; walking out into the kitchen when my father who has bipolar disorder is out there immediately will pull me back into anxiety and raise my heartrate and increase my stress response. I just wanna know how exactly I’m creating my own suffering when I have to live with someone who’s had multiple episodes and despite my best efforts my feelings come back. No, security does not bring happiness, but it is the prerequisite for if you want to achieve it. You need a good base point.

@TheShmoopsie

17 күн бұрын

Hey, Im in a similar situation and I feel for you. A big thing that has helped me is the cognitive reframe of "I have the equivalent of Mike Tyson in my kitchen, and I can spar with him whenever I want". Going into it not expecting to win, but to know you're going to not only get thrashed, but also collect the best XP/hr at the same time, made me kind of appreciate the situation from another light

@cliffordgoh

17 күн бұрын

Use the sensations you feel in your father's presence as the meditation object. Don't try to aim for equanimity or use the meditation as a band-aid to feel more relaxed. Instead, accept the feelings so that you can process them. Better yet, practice metta / loving-kindness meditation, send love to your father. You create your suffering by your internal reactions to your father's behavior, this reaction comes about because you have subconsciously, in your childhood, created a narrative about his role and your role. Granted this is extremely hard to break out of -- families are some of the most heavy karmic relationships we can have in this life. I grew up with a narcissist father and took me years of deep meditation and inner work to get to a point where I'm not affected anymore. All the best

@seekingfinding6204

17 күн бұрын

I think being able to be calm in this situation would require the meditation skill of a master. However, just the fact that you are able to calm yourself at all is good - you may not be able to remain calm in all situations, but learning to be in control of yourself when away from the stressor is extremely important for mental health. People who can't get out of fight-or-flight mode will end up with chronic illnesses, and you are teaching yourself to return to calmness when you are away from your stressors. Good job, keep doing it!

@samysue10

17 күн бұрын

You’re on the right path, the goal is not to be calm and relaxed, the goal is to not react. When you feel those feelings just observe them. Don’t feed into the feelings or thoughts. It’s very difficult but over time the more you practice the easier it becomes to be able to stay clear headed even when faced with a threat.

@Grandof-the-PentastarAlignment

16 күн бұрын

@@cliffordgoh Doesn't acceptance of a bad situation just give way to it appearing more often?

Thank you so much for this! I learned to meditate when I was 11, and this video just connected some dots for me about my own experience. I've been looking for this information for decades actually.

I had an NDE 6 years ago, and it DEFINITELY changed the way I think and behave. I used to be suicidal... was for about 23 years.... I would look for the things to be unhappy about, because when things were going good, I would always be anxious that it was all about to fall apart. Since the NDE, I'm more often happy than not. I seek to help others attain it... I'm generally a LOT less selfish.

I have a case of mild mental disability and it happened that I had some bad experiences and went into psychotic episode. During one of them, something clicked and during like 2 days I started thinking differently. The ecstasy of realising you just are is something irreplaceable and actually got me interested into Buddhism and Doctor K channel.

@Jack-fw7wd

17 күн бұрын

Type shit

@themudpit621

17 күн бұрын

Don't chase your psychosis. Please, be safe.

@eebbaa5560

17 күн бұрын

@@Jack-fw7wdnah cuz what do these dudes be talking about fr ☠️😭

@losowaistota8932

17 күн бұрын

@@themudpit621 do not worry, it just appears when I am stressed out of my mind. I didn't have one since then

@rafaelgonzalez4175

13 күн бұрын

I did experience that. As I looked at reality I was the only one there. The people all around me were not aware at what seemed to be a distance, But I was aware that I am somewhere no one else is.

This is so incredibly valuable!! I’ve literally thought about studying neuroscience just so I could be able to translate all the great yogic teachings I have learned during deep immersion. You just did exactly that 🎉🙏🙏🙏

Thank you I’ve been looking for a channel like this

Last time I got enlightened I ate 10 mcdoubles fell asleep and got kicked outt of mcdonalds

@ViPER5RT10

17 күн бұрын

Sounds like a good time actually

@Devon-hw6ih

17 күн бұрын

After ten mcdoubles you're definitely the opposite of enLIGHTENED. 😂

@paulwenzel8914

17 күн бұрын

My friend you got mclightened.

@diecar128

17 күн бұрын

Sounds like a regular Tuesday

@taymustard620

17 күн бұрын

@@diecar128 ohhhhhhhh

I needed this reminder. Going back to review your analysis paralysis video 👍

@Peter-rn5bu

16 күн бұрын

I'm glad that we can all think together and share ❤

Excellent. It’s taken me many years to understand. What a journey we are on.

Best video so far! Thanks Dr. k

Hey Doc, you should interview Jamie from Casually Explained. He experienced self-realization, so this KZread crossover will be fire! He explains all the mechanics of "enlightenment" in a very logical, secular way.

Sometimes I do feel pleasure thinking about the future, like when I'm thinking about ending my studying and having some free time

@adam5362

13 күн бұрын

I think that has to do more so with anticipation, as Dr. K described

I'm convinced dr K is enlightened and know when to release these videos to effect most people.

Thanks! Going to think about these things while I try to adjust to my recent move

I recently got into a practice of mantra, to help train my mind to single pointedness! Just repeating "i am" for at least 10 mins a day helps immensely with my overall happiness and calm, leaving me with a sense of mental spaciousness. Also, I'm not sure I would consider this enlightenment, I would consider these methods some of the necessary mental tools to start awakening, which will ultimately lead to enlightenment.

I used to be enlightened but I lost it... It's so easy to lose but so difficult to aquire. I should have appreciated it more. Now trying to get it back

@delphinebez3045

17 күн бұрын

Watch Matt Kahn...

@FurlessApe22

17 күн бұрын

As the buddha said, all fabrications fail and fade so practice diligently to achieve enlightenment. If you truly achieved it, you are on the path of awakening within 7 lifetimes, guaranteed. If you've actually achieved stream entry and thrown off the first 3 fetters, you can get it back. If you haven't, well, you should still endeavor to do so.

@GlowBowl420

17 күн бұрын

I'm on a similar path right now. I wish you all the luck there is in your journey bro. Don't forget a saying by many enlightened people of the past: The harder you try, the harder to attain. And the less you try, the less you attain. ❤

@themudpit621

17 күн бұрын

why don't you just enjoy life as it is and stop wasting time messing with yourself and inducing psychosis?

@pointlessmike

17 күн бұрын

All these "wise" people trying to sell us permanent happiness think we're morons. Ain't nothing permanent.

When I experienced a spontaneous kundalini awakening, it actually expanded my consciousness and an increase in synchronicities with numbers and other things in my environment. I experience fewer thoughts and a greater calm throughout the day. It’s really coming to the realization that you are a infinite eternal Soul(Consciousness) having a human experience through the illusion of physical reality, and you actually remember the blissful loving feeling of Heaven when you become one with everything. I’m sure more people are waking up to the fact that they are simply awareness, and the ego mind is really there to perceive your experience.

Well, the more I watch this channel, the more I am interested in yoga! Those tips are awesome, thanks for the video!

For those who want to get more information on "Enlightment", you must read Autobiography of a Yogi by Paramahansa Yogananda. He has explained all his experiences and was in a state of perennial bliss (sustained joy).

Yeeeee this is the kind of video I was waiting for

Extremely helpful as always Dr. K. I have autism and anxiety, but I no longer have dysthymia and I am on a path to awakening, I hope. It's certainly not for everyone, but Lucy saved my life and shut down my default mode network for the first time in my life. A true ego death. I've found Buddhism to be the most comprehensive philosophy and psychological model to explain that intuitive awareness and disattachment to any identity "I" felt that day. My goal is to overcome my addictions, keep meditating, and taking up the monastic life when I can sustain a constant practice. Jhana is the key! May all sentient beings achieve liberation, and may all my fellow autists get some ketamine infusions :)

god bless you DR. thank you. you are helping humanity and it's the greatest work you ever did.

"before enlightenment: chop wood and carry water after enlightenment: chop wood and carry water"

It is scary that you need to grind in med school with loans and academic pressure , and decades of medical experience only to realise what a villager in a rural small town setting in india was saying about human physiology and happiness was right all along . This is such a table turned moment .😮😅

I like how he makes all the info available for everyone thank you ❤

Awesome content Dr.K thank you for sharing

So no levitating? D:

@user-fo8cs6ee3k

17 күн бұрын

Haha nice

@complexi_Lexi

17 күн бұрын

😂

@LuisSierra42

17 күн бұрын

I am levitating right now

@thespiritschild

17 күн бұрын

I mean, why not? Try and find out :D

@cheoomes4434

17 күн бұрын

If anyone does know how, please let me know.

It's not for me to claim that I reached enlightenment, but I think I did. But it costed me severe suffering before reaching that. Yes doc is right. Permanent happiness does not mean all the time. It's a sense of "contentment" or "fulfillment" without even achieving anything - without even doing anything.

@FreedomBreeze24

15 күн бұрын

it's not enlightenment if there's doubt. Check out the channel Simply Always Awake or Frank Yang

Automatic negative thoughts are on the default mode network so when we get a better physical state which produces our experiance so one improves the other , its all about doing the exertions thatbproduce detmerministically specific improved endstates within the experiance\physical state (dead-dying-sick-healthy -ascending -pristine\optimal)

wow, this sums up almost every self help book on happiness

I never thought enlightenment was permanent, it seems to be something you can get to once in a while

@Entwicklungshustle

17 күн бұрын

I, as someone who is the personification of a random ass dude in the internet, can say, enlightenment is permanent because it is not an emotion. It is rather the absence of the weird ass bad shit your brain does 😂 also I think the description of "permanent happiness" is kinda misleading, because, as I said, it is NOT an emotion. It is more like enjoying existing or something, it's kinda weird to explain 😂

@dankyoutubes1120

17 күн бұрын

ok

@ianoliveira6903

17 күн бұрын

If I remember well, an explanation that I liked about the permanence of enlightment is that it is a way of seeing the world and yourself, that once you can see it you can't unsee afterwards. Another analogy is that losing enlightment would be like forgetting how to walk or how to speak your native language. The enlightment would not be a state of mind in this sense, but how you will relate with the states of mind you will have afterwards.

@jillianminton8506

17 күн бұрын

It’s growing and always evolving

@counterintuitivepanda4555

17 күн бұрын

Nah... that would defeat the purpose. The rock inside which no external wind or waves can stir... that's enlightenment. If it can be stirred and we can go back into our petty and shitty lives, then it is meaningless. It's as meaningful as playing League of Legends

22:05 fucking sent me dude, audibly laughed lmao

@kalebvick

17 күн бұрын

Same here, this whole video is priceless

@NahIamgood

17 күн бұрын

That was SAVAGE lmao

@skyadventurer7574

17 күн бұрын

He’s got a point tho, I was depressed before it was an option and I’m still depressed with it as an option, gotta cultivate the gardens of the mind before we get to that next stage of our life that we’re trying to get to

@johnellis1052

10 күн бұрын

Same lol

perfect timing as i began reading “awareness” by anthony de mello

Good work. I would even say one of your best. Realy appreciate everything youve done and endured for this channel. I aspire to have a life as inspirational to the world as yours.

Through some miracle, I achieved enlightenment for about a week. Long story, but it was the most amazing experience of my life and completely turned things around for me.

@FreedomBreeze24

15 күн бұрын

it's not enlightenment if it was just one week. Check out the channel Simply Always Awake or Frank Yang

@TrTriTrippin

15 күн бұрын

Lol it’s not something you can switch on and off.. so question if it was even on to begin with..

@apexofhumanity

14 күн бұрын

@@TrTriTrippin given your name I'm going to assume your familiar with how I got it to turn on. I've got 20 years of experience with these things, but nothing like that had ever happened to me. I can assure it was real. Changed my entire life's trajectory. I'll probably never achieve that state again but I feel very fortunate to have experienced it.

Good afternoon Alok!

What a spectacular instructor Watching Dr. K use common vernacular and really embellish the characteristics of video game dynamics is captivating intriguing educational… I am very grateful.

What an interesting episode, never seen Dr. K talking about such intimate topics!

Alternative title: "man meditated under a tree for 30 days, this is what happened to his brain" (This is a joke, you need more than just meditation to become emlightened) Edit: If i knew so many people would see this i would have made it better lmao Heres a better version (Inspired by replies): "Local man sat under a tree for 30 days and ate some porridge, this is what happened to his brain"

@HeyHereTer

17 күн бұрын

"... after getting dispatched, he was able to make a full recovery."

@joostvhts

17 күн бұрын

​@@HeyHereTer ☝🏻..where we are now.

@BunnyUK

17 күн бұрын

Local man

@monster-tc1nz

17 күн бұрын

B Presented to the emergency room feeling peaceful

@Liam-ke2hv

17 күн бұрын

I love you for saying this combination of words

I actually would LOVE a "Dr. K's Guide to Enlightenment" program

@MM-nx8dt

14 күн бұрын

I too, would join his cult.

Thank you for covering this. I've reached moksha four times this year 'cause I've had so much trauma (didn't know what it was before it happened at first). My muscles revert back to their old, trauma-consumed selves. I'm still working on improving.

@DaveE99

17 күн бұрын

Four times, I got once and then realized how screwed up others and society were. How did you do it 4 times.

@V1brationCanine

17 күн бұрын

@@DaveE99 Long story short, I've been through extreme suffering for the first two decades of my life and all I had was my own mind - nothing else. Thinking was my constant. It destroyed me as it would for any abused child, but I adopted a military mindset of discipline at a young age and was smart enough to learn the correct lessons. This along with infinite time to think for myself tore me apart multiple times, however getting out of the abuse and dealing with my mental injuries and continuing to think logically and understand others' perspectives, and the reality of mine, over the years was how. There's so much information and feeling to portray in this I hope that made some semblance of sense. I hope to publish some novels and release some music once my health permits me to work on them.

THIS WAS INTERESTING, thank you :D

Wow that’s so accurate to my experience that’s actually amazing!

I cannot be enlightened if I take stimulants everyday.

This two-track mind shit is the realest thing I've heard in a long time. Like, you wanna tell me that people DON'T constantly analyze every detail of every moment while talking to others? Sometimes it happens, sure, but it might as well never. You know how Telltale games have those dialogues you have to pick? That's how I often feel when talking to someone. Like, I can imagine those dialogue options, pretty much. And then I take a note of a person's reaction. Not subconsciously, it's quite literally like a narrator in my head. And then, obviously, I have to think about that conversation for the next hour. And that anxiety part, ooh baby. Yeah man, I can create infinite universes, and seemingly none of them have a positive outcome. "If I can't pass this test, I'll have to retake, it'll make me feel like an idiot, everybody will know, I won't then get a chance to apply to this other thing on time so I'll have to do something else, but I don't know what and even if I find something, how will I know it won't suck" and so on and so forth. Also, the "be in the present because you can't afford to think about the future" bit got me. I play fighting games a lot and oftentimes the reason I give is literally "because there's no time for me to think." Things are happening lightning fast, this ain't no chess. Like yeah, I react and have a gameplan, but my great strategy doesn't go further than like, three seconds. And while it doesn't necessarily make me happy per se all the time (like, it's hard to feel happy when I got my ass kicked 7th set in a row, but that's a different issue), I am definitely in the moment. And while I might be sad because I suck at the game, I'm not sad because of everything else. And that's a net positive, for sure. ...until that spills over and my mind goes "well if i can't even win at a video game, what the fuck can i do bro, what's the point" so i just have to quit before that happens and we good

@TrTriTrippin

15 күн бұрын

I’m like that 24/7

@EyeOfTheTiger777

12 күн бұрын

If you're thinking like that about your next response to someone you're talking to, and taking notes of how they are reacting every time, isn't your conversation happening noticeably slow?

@_Adie

12 күн бұрын

@@EyeOfTheTiger777 That's not really how that works. Not in a literal sense. Granted, I also didn't describe it the best. It's hard to explain, it's more like "if you know you know" type thing.

Very very good video. Talking about the present and our 'scuffed brains' made great sense. The first arrow always hits, don't let the second!

It's funny. Playing a new game it used to be painfull for me to stop or stay away from it. Now I can set it aside and focus on things that need to get done or other personal needs like food. Thank you for your guide to mental health. It has helped me so much in a relatively short time. Much work is yet to be done for me, but I am looking forward to it even if it is a struggle.

I would say I have achieved enlightenment, I learned to meditate in such a way that I can bliss out anytime I want, full body chills and a rush-like feeling you'd get from taking ecstasy or something. The thing is though, it's not effortless, it takes a fair bit of effort to remain in that state at all times, to hold that state of mind from the moment you wake until you go to sleep, I'm sure it's possible, but it takes a lot of effort, at least I imagine at first it does. I would like to get to the point where it becomes easy and just naturally how I am. And I think it's also important to consider the fact that there will always be ups and downs that life throws at you, that may sort of knock you out of enlightenment, a death in the family or something upsetting, it's normal to experience the whole range of emotions, but not normal to be happy all the time.

@MusiicRoolz

17 күн бұрын

I don't think that's enlightenment? enlightenment is like oneness with the self and the world that exists regardless of what's going on externally. it's more than just a feeling, idk. to me it's detachment from everything - happiness, sadness and suffering

@Elfyja

17 күн бұрын

@@MusiicRoolz I think both can be correct. The realization, and the feeling of bliss.

@xanderheiple7959

17 күн бұрын

lol

@Slow-Biden9

17 күн бұрын

the reason I am able to bliss out like I described in my original comment IS that oneness that I have achieved 🤷‍♂️. That should have been self-explanatory but I guess not for you - once you experience enlightenment you know what it is and how it feels and you have no doubts about it. You literally feel "lightened" like you weigh less and are in a state of flow. I don't think you've got there kid, long ways to go for you it seems 😉 carry on

@Slow-Biden9

17 күн бұрын

The two are inseparable, idk what this dufus is going on about. The oneness part should be self-explanatory, that is the source of being able to bliss out as I described. Some people, like this NPC, are just stuck in a box

Im going on a meditation retreat in Nepal for 2 months. Do you have any tips for me?

That's why i love the symbolism of the Nandi; one pointed focus. ✨️🕉✨️

Amazing. Your work moves me in the best direction.

I still don't understand why so little people practice meditation. The world is so chaotic, yet the solution is so simple. I mean sure, without desire there would be no progress, no inventions, no development. Progress happens because humans aren't satisfied with what they have right now and want more. So I don't think that leaving your family, becoming enlightened and just simply enjoying the blissful experience is the most optimal solution for every human out there, but I think that every human would be a lot happier if he wasn't dependent on external events, and even if things didn't go according to plan, he would accept it, because there was no other way, that's what happened and that is *the way*. No ruminating over what could be, or what can be, but simply appreciating what *is*. That doesn't mean everyone should just drop everything and be happy doing nothing, but do the work, and not get lost in one's mind entering the cycle of suffering.

Enlightenment makes a sagittal section of your brain and turns it yellow

@themudpit621

17 күн бұрын

Yeah, I noticed that too. Not sure I want yellow brainitis.

@dmytoe5679

16 күн бұрын

Whaat?

thank you Dr. K I needed to learn this badly

Looking forward to a holiday, seeing a friend, going to a restaurant can give me months and days of joy - why? Even if the trip has been cancelled or was bad, I experienced joy for months and I don't regret having had this joy. What made Dr. K applying for med school 140 times? When is it good to give up and when keep trying? I am retired, I will not participate in the Olympics or become an opera singer and this doesnt make me sad. When I was a child, I wanted to get a certain profession, I succeded and I was bored in this job after four years. Still, I am grateful, because I learned, it is not the kind of job, that makes me happy.

"You can't think of something pleasurable in the future and get a kick of dopamine." My 13 year old past self running home from school ready to turn on their Xbox would like to object.

@MrEinJulian

17 күн бұрын

yeah that part of the video seemed off.....

@cypider2274

17 күн бұрын

That’s the craving for the pleasure that the Xbox games would give, not pleasure. You were super hungry to play so u ran home, there’s no pleasure there.

@diecar128

17 күн бұрын

​@@cypider2274it's like saying the hunger for your fave food is the same as eating it

@prismatic1239

17 күн бұрын

You don’t get dopamine from thinking about it, it sounds pleasurable but actually feeling the dopamine won’t come until you actually turn on the console and play the game.

@MrEinJulian

17 күн бұрын

@@prismatic1239in germany we have the saying that "vorfreude"/excitement is the biggest "freude"/fun xD well it just seem that it´s impossible is not true. it rather depends on how much you can go into your imagination to feel it. for example if you dream there is no problem to feel pleasure from imagination but i gess thats a bit diffrent. maybe we are taking more about satisfaction than pure pleasure here. and don´t get me wrong here i agree more with what the video sayed then not. but impossible ? i doubt that

Lean brain

I've got enlighted not through meditation, but realization. Always thought, I was neurotic or something wrong with me, as I never seemed to fit into society or get along with people. Now I know, I'm just wired differently. With that knowledge, I was able to accept myself as I wasn't a defect, but a different kind of unit. That also enhanced my relations with others and the world.

@reyhaz

12 күн бұрын

@@Jumpingjackflash123 well, since the state of enlightened is pretty much subjective, as the notion is about how you understand the world around you.. it is for me, prolly not for you.. but it's the same thing that I don't believe in Siddhartha is being enlightened as Buddha, but that's my atheist side.. which I do not put out on everyone's statement just to hurt their feeling, so I could feel a little better or superior.. good day, mate

I've had similar thoughts just last evening. I like things to be easy and i prefer to make it easy for myself. Meaning: Stopping to think and just doing or not doing it without further thought. It feels very liberating and relaxing. Because i am constantly overthinking. It's my second oxygen. And it's hell. Always has been.

Can’t wait to laugh when I’m enlightened

@RKStrider

17 күн бұрын

If you try to chase enlightenment, you will never get it. Instead, look to the present.

@themudpit621

17 күн бұрын

watch a funny movie?

@hoelefouk

7 күн бұрын

Yeah man. People who get's enlightenment usually laughs because they see suffering as a joke

Don't reduce enlightenment to happiness!

@meghanarella3573

12 күн бұрын

Shush

8:03 i always love the cut from the put together smiling Dr K in the ad read then hairs a mess button down not happy Dr K

insanely usefull video! Thanks!!!

Doctor, I know you have a reputation to maintain, but please backtrack with grace when Entheogenic research becomes more mainstream. You'll want to explain clearly why you didn't "recommend" it in the past.

Thanks for this!

Amazing Vid, very well put

I had a serious manic episode recently and I like confronted who I am as a person (there's a cavernous emptiness in me) and decided I liked the scaffolding I put up that is around that, and I also listened to a King Crimson album called in the court of the crimson king and decided to walk up the blue mountains in Sydney from emu plains station to blaxland while meditating on indigenous concepts like belonging to the land and welcome to country. I've since learned that it's not enough to live your life you have to find lessons, learn them internalise them. One I really took to heart is the indigenous idea that you always have what you need. I think the biggest difference between us and societies pre agriculture is that they really focus on internalising lessons, all school teaches you is to wrote learn and get a surface level of understanding.