Sarah, I wanted to take a moment to express my deep appreciation for what you are doing. I have struggled with my weight/binge eating/love of food since early childhood. I have picked up countless books and have attempted so many different angles/perspectives on the subject over my life (I am 33) and I have never come across anyone who has been as validating, understanding, knowledgeable, relatable, compassionate, and just *gets* my struggle. You articulate things I have struggled for years to articulate/explain even to myself. You provide clarity and hope for me. The whole issue is so much more than the diet mentality for me because it’s so deeply wrapped up in my mental health. You get that. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. You are addressing real problems with real ways of attempting to address them, not just quick-fixes. It’s so hard, but so worth it. Thank you for not being the norm.

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

What a lovely comment 😍 I really appreciate you writing it ❤️❤️

Hi Sarah, only came across you yesterday and already you have helped me. I cannot thank you enough for putting your book on KZread for free. I will be buying a copy too. Thank you, what a lovely person you are.

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Debra. Welcome! ❤️

I love how honest you are in your vids especially talking about Envy. Points on bingeing spot on as usual . Glad I found this channel

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Claire! I did hesitate, but I do think we need to talk about the kinds of feelings that are often considered shameful. I hope talking about it helps normalise people’s experience ❤️

Found your channel last week. SO grateful for your insights! I've had stomach problems for 50 + years and must completely avoid wheat/gluten, as well as corn and a few other foods. It's hard not to feel restricted when you have to restrict your diet, and hard to then not over-compensate on other "goodies" because you feel deprived! Add to that a childhood where food was comfort & love, and I've never really made peace with food. I look forward to learning a lot from you. Thank you for doing this channel!

I appreciate that you are very clear and practical. Thank you.

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

You are very welcome ❤️❤️

Gosh this is SO SO SO helpful Thank you Sarah 💜

I literally only found your instagram last night and it is just so refreshing to not have someone telling me that i’m binging because i’m not eating enough, because I know that’s not the problem. Thank you so much! I did your meditation this morning because I had a bad binge yesterday and I feel great today. Thank you again I will definitely be following your content for a while!

Oh my goodness, thank you for this, especially the advice about journalling on a password-protected device. I love writing, especially by hand, but even in middle age I'm constantly haunted by the fear of someone else finding what I've written. When I was a teenager my poor Mum confronted me about some teenagery things I'd written that she'd found in what I thought was a safe place. It was a pretty traumatic incident. And so to this day I keep my jungle of thoughts in my head. I worry about the safety of my laptop or phone too, since sometimes my kids will get hold of them. Working on ways to feel safe, and your advice helps.❤

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

They are also great because you can actually write (as opposed to type). I think research has said that’s better for some reason but I can’t recall why

OMG… I have finally found someone who expresses their experience and feelings about binge eating which is so similar to my experience and feelings…. I am going to Watch all your videos now and I know I am going to learn so much… Thank you Thank you Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome! I’m glad you’re here 💜

The irony that every time I watch your videos I see a grocery home delivery app, advertising with nutella, cookies and chips 👀😂

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

All about food freedom though, eh? 😉

From even a male perspective as a bloke and accepting you have binge eating. Your channel is great! Thank you

I’m so glad you mentioned envy! I don’t normally have social media, but I recently got an Instagram account so that I could access a particular Instagram live. Anyways, the other day I found myself looking up a couple people I was at university with and I found myself overcome with envy. I thought “everyone has moved on with their lives and am back with my parents in a peristalsis eating disorder vortex”. I felt so depressing that I spent the whole night eating.

this was so helpful

Hi , This video was so helpful !! Your so smart , Big hugs

I just want to say thank you. You are one of the people on the internet that have helped me so much through my binge eating. I can't believe that I can say that now but I feel so much better around food. The uncomfortable feelings and thoughts are still here but I am thankful for them. There really is a way out of that awful place of unconsciousness. And you were and still to this day are one of the people that showed me this. Thank you.

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

Ahhh, thank you so much for sharing that with me. It meant a lot to me ❤️❤️❤️

i am so glad i came across ur channel! thank u so much!!!

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

I’m very glad you’re here ❤️❤️

Thank you so much for this video! Love from the Czech republic. x

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

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Hi Sarah!! Thanks for this video. It helps me so much!! I send you a big hug from Chile :D

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

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Thank you so much,I been struggling with binge eating for a long time and I feel shame f0r caving in 🥺 This bring light to a dark part

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

I’m glad to bring a little light during this time 🕯

i just binged. thank you so much

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

I’ve done a few videos (and a guided meditation) to help specifically after a binge. You may find something helpful in there ❤️

I found you Chanel a few days ago and it's like my eyes opened. I never realized that I'm struggling with binge eating. The problem I'm facing now is that I need to lose weight because of my health. So that is a struggle

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

That’s the vicious trap of binge eating. I’ve done a couple of videos about the desire to lose weight because it’s so derailing for so many. It may be that focusing on weight loss right now is making your binge eating worse. Could you put it aside for a while to concentrate on healing your binge eating and then make a decision whether to go back to it? ❤️

@robinstoffels5984

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheBingeEatingTherapist well that's the hard part. I need to lose weight to be able to start fertility treatments, so that's a really hard choice, since I'm not getting any younger 🙃

You’re reminding me of something I learned from Grace Bell (who’s a Byron Katie coach who focuses on eating stuff): she said to write down five stressful thoughts before eating. I was doing it for awhile but then I forgot…

Oh my goodness this was just wonderful and so helpful!!! Thank you so much. I love the idea of 3 words to really describe the relationship I want to have with my eating. What do you think about the words , mindfulness and neutrality or detachment? Like to eat in a way that is more mindful and with awareness...and to eat without judgement of, this food, good or bad it just IS . I think I act on food urgency thoughts all too often. If the cravings are strong...what do you eat instead of that item?

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

With food cravings I would try eating the food slowly and with (your word!) mindfulness. If you stay present and really pay attention to the food you can learn whether the cravings are actually about the food itself. Sometimes you crave chocolate because you want chocolate. You eat it with enjoyment and feel satisfied. Other times you crave chocolate but no amount of chocolate will satisfy you, so it probably wasn’t about the chocolate in that situation. Learning how these two different types of cravings feel to you will be a helpful skill to develop. With the words you choose, it’s up to you. Check in with how you feel. My response to neutrality is that I don’t think it’s possible or desirable if to feel completely neutral around food. I want to feel connected and satisfied with my food because that’s how I feel balanced. The word neutrality may feel very different to you though. I have a similar reaction to the word detachment. Can we detach from food? That’s probably a hard task when there are a lot of emotions around. It sounds to me like you don’t want to feel anything around food and that would be a difficult state to achieve I would imagine.

where is the link for the live event, please? and thank you for another supportive video 😍

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

Here it is www.eventbrite.com/e/life-after-diets-community-qa-live-event-tickets-210649407047 It says £20, but there’s an option to pay what you want at the checkout

You mentioned that even if you aren’t hungry that you eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner. How do you know how much to eat for these meals if you aren’t hungry? Do you just eat to the point where you are still comfortable? “Normal” portions?

Is binge eating a "spur of the moment" thing? Sometimes I find myself in a grocery aisle (that I normally don't shop in) - buying my binge foods in anticipation of a rotten week at work; having to deal with my family; feeling lonely. I don't actually binge that day or may not even the next. But I can feel it coming on. The need to blank out. Do I set myself up to binge because I bought food? Or is this just an "over-eating splurge" and not really binging? I have listened to the definitions and I can answer yes to the majority of the questions/comments from the DSM5 but I am still not really sure. Is it considered binging if you have 4 or 5 specific foods that you binge with instead of everything in the house?

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

It could be. The important part is eating a lot of food accompanied by a sense that you cannot control what or how much you are eating. Binges don’t have to be spur of the moment, they can be planned in advance. Do you feel like you could stop your binges if you wanted to? Binge eating doesn’t feel like a choice (even if it is planned) but rather, a compulsion

Hi! How does one work with you and what’s the cost?! I am not in the UK. Thank you very much

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

2 жыл бұрын

If you are in the US (which I’m guessing you are because of your name), unfortunately I can’t offer psychotherapy services for you due to licensing laws, but I can anywhere else in the world. You could join a Connect and Recover group. Price list is here thebingeeatingtherapist.com/prices-services/ You’ll have to Google the exchange rate to see what it costs in your local currency