ok, I love that "you have succumb to the flaws of extreme arrogance" is still alive and breathing. Do we need a tee?

@ignorance_is_not_bliss

12 күн бұрын

i hope we as a society never forget that

@spiderlinz

12 күн бұрын

every time I hear it I think “damn that would look good on a t-shirt”

@rtd1791

12 күн бұрын

Absolutely

@min_nad

12 күн бұрын

I need the tee!!!!

@liasnclr

12 күн бұрын

That and, “I have a question of practicality”

a t shirt that says “Went to an Ashley Gavin show and all i got was an arrogant little wave”

@ashgavs

12 күн бұрын

Making these now

@AlaynaJoyOfficial

11 күн бұрын

this is literally the best idea I’ve ever heard

@user-ux6ii2lm4z

11 күн бұрын

@@ashgavs what if it just said "all I got was an arrogant little wave" and then it's like an inside joke 😁

petition to rename the pod the chosen emily podcast

@Griff780

12 күн бұрын

Petition to rename ourselves Emily

@AlaynaJoyOfficial

12 күн бұрын

stop it

@ashgavs

12 күн бұрын

@@AlaynaJoyOfficialI think it’s a good idea

@robbie-wn6mk

12 күн бұрын

the fact that you both saw this and responded just made my month. love the pod so much

@emmyisurmom

12 күн бұрын

i agree ​@@ashgavs

Mak saying "no smoke" then Alayna and Ashley urban dictionary-ing it is a great example of the family dynamic.

I'm halfway through and just waiting for Ashley to change all their names to Emily. Anyone else?

Millennials (Alayna & Ashley): send Mak the soundboard. Gen Z (Mak): I'll just download an app. 😂

"I don't care what your father says, you're a genius too" 😂 Alayna slipped that in

I met Ashley at a show and maybe I’m the right kind of autistic and anxious but at the meet and greet she (you, since beep boop I guess?) was great as far as I’m concerned. We didn’t have much time to talk for taking pictures, and during the Q&A I didn’t even have it in me to ask anything because I was just having a bad day as it was and was close to leaving before getting to the show because I was close to a panic attack. The show was amazing, I had a lovely time, and I thanked her for bullying me into coming to see my first legit live standup, and she complimented me and engaged with what I said and I don’t think you can ask for more than that. I don’t know how to expect more than that. It’s such a limited window to interact with people and from what I saw, Ashley was trying to make everyone she interacted with feel like a person. It must be a challenge.

@ashgavs

12 күн бұрын

Okay I’m crying

Mak was on fire this episode😂

let's just collectively add "arrogant little waive" to the 'cool ideas for Chosen Family merch' file

honestly i agree with ashley's "f this girl", nothing's more hurtful as a lesbian than a staight girl making out with you (and more----, we've all been there), just to hear her say in the end "i'm not attracted to you" or the classic "it was a mistake"! it'll hurt but fellow listener please try to find someone who won't say these awful things to you... coming out is a journey but hurting people along the way isn't acceptable, you deserve better

I ran into Ashley on my way to the bathroom at one of her shows and I almost fell over I was so starstruck, she said hi and thank you and it was such a blessed 10 secs and I cannot imagine someone seeing that as a negative experience

Ashely said "STILL the Chosen Family Podcast" and I almost spit out my water from laughing

I’m a cashier at a grocery store in a small town, everyone knows us because they see us a lot, we’re kind of “famous” in our town just because everybody sees us a lot. I’m on an extremely small scale have a different personality when I’m cashiering than I do in reality, I’m quieter when I’m at home. Ashley, I met you at SS a few months ago and you were so kind to me! It was actually my first “queer” event I’ve attended after coming out during the pandemic (yes I’m one of those 😂) so I was very excited! You also just happen to be my favorite comedian! Thanks for being so awesome!!

@ashgavs

12 күн бұрын

That’s really kind of you to say ❤ thanks for supporting the show

This listener is living a sapphic wattpad fan fiction ... good luck, babe, to the "straight" girl

Mak with the insightful psychological observations this episode!!! 🙌

My dudes, they've definitely mentioned bulk recording. Looking forward to this week's banter. I recommended it to a baby gay recently

I had this weird moment in the line for the merch after ashleys show where i was like: why does she look like an american woman in her mid thirties tho? And my mind immediately put all my internalised stereotypes of americans on her. And it was so weird because my mind hadnt done that before when i listened to the podcasts, watched the stand-up and not even in the show when i saw her in real-life on the stage. And then at the merch table i just had this realisation: yes she is an american woman in her mid thirties after a long day. And it isnt weird that shes not like on stage or on a podcast episode - shes just exhausted and in a room full of strangers. And what we see on stage is obviously a stage persona and what we see on the podcasts is them letting us get a "sneak peak" of their friendship. And we should be really grateful for that! (Sorry for ranting 😅)

chosen family ❌ chosen emily ✅

Me, Emily, watching this 👀

I dread running into one of you (or any artist or content creator I really like) because of that very reason. I'm autistic and deeeeply mentally ill and would 100% assume that you hate me for no reason and then I'd obsess over it literally forever and would never ask for fear of being a burden (which, in this case I would definitely be haha). Either way, I'd regret not saying hi and I'd feel like a burden for doing so! Ugh! I can't win. Hopefully I'll meet y'all at a meet & greet or something like that instead haha.

@Scoutflows

12 күн бұрын

Fr like "hi I recognize you and love your work i especially love how much you hate when we do this" except I do acctually love how honest they are I just don't know what to do if I see them now

“OH IVE HAD MY DAY BABY”

Im so glad I can't sleep

@ripley2995

12 күн бұрын

bro right 😂

@L00kninjas

12 күн бұрын

Being lulled to sleep by their voices. Even Ashley's yelling at us 😆

@BayAreaBerk

12 күн бұрын

When you wake before the Alarm, but cant get more than cat naps, but then you realize: "Its Wednesday!"

is it the first time you've told us you just swap tops I'd say every 2 3 episodes you bring it up lol😂... if not more regularly lol

@LamAnopro_

11 күн бұрын

read as swap toys

Alayna was so patient in revealing the stalker lmao

For the listener question, I found if I’m having to question a relationship or my view & their view of things don’t line up, it’s not a relationship. Healthy relationships require both people to be on the same page. No matter what, you & your roommate are not at the same point. You are clear about your sexuality, she’s not. Accept that you had an awesome make out session & that’s it. She’s not in a place to be a good partner, you deserve somebody who embraces you & the relationship fully.

love maks background (so many plants!!)

When Mak said when you see someone else do something you see it as a character flaw but when you do it you think I am having a bad day ect... I thought no I always do the opposite of that. I think balance is key because see it the opposite isn't good either.

Seeing famous, semi-famous, or otherwise parasocially relevant people in public has always been anxiety inducing for me. One half of me wants to let the person know that I enjoy their art and how they have affected my life. But the other half goes through a spiral of how they are still just people, I have no idea how their day is going, if they want to be interrupted, or if they are even the same kind of person they portray in their craft. 99.9% of the time I end up saying nothing, because my autistic ass can’t stand being interrupted by people I’m not expecting to see-even if they are a friend-when I’m out and about. That being said, my chosen family rocks, and all three of these women are a huge part of my weekly routine. Sending you all the best vibes. ❤

this episode should’ve been named chosen emily instead of chosen family lol

@AlaynaJoyOfficial

12 күн бұрын

omg

The conversation around fame is so interesting... My father was an actor, on hundreds of tv episodes in the 60s - 80s, and got to the level of fame where it's like you'd be watching law and order and recognize him but have no clue who he is? This is pre imdb before you could just look it up. So my whole childhood he only ever got noticed twice, but he still got to do his dream and make his art. He always talked about how grateful he was for not being super famous and I never understood it until I was an adult.

@megancurtis9502

6 күн бұрын

Now I want to know who your dad is 🤔

Well Ashley, I loved the ✨arrogant little wave✨ you gave me when I said hello before your comedy show in Des Moines!! (Granted I did realize afterwards that was bad timing since you were about to go on stage… I was just super excited lol) They say it takes 10 positive compliments to counteract one negative comment. Idk how some people can be so critical, they really don’t see how it can effect you… you all have done so many amazing things for our community! I will forever be thankful for you three as you all helped me come out (and I’m sure so many others). P.S. bring the entire chosen fam to your comedy show in Omaha 👀

Maaak you ate this episode🫰

Dad stepping on Mom's bit IMMEDIATELY.

omg a friend of mine just went through the same thing - was in a situationship with a girl who was like i have relatinoship trauma, i wanna take it really slow, like SUPER slow. then however many months later is like i don't have romantic feelings for you. so now my friend is like WTF just happened, all these things that were said and done and there's "no romantic feelings" so deeply messed up.

as a socially awkward human who hasn't had much experience in public areas I had a very nice time at both your Nashville, and Louisville shows Ashley! I enjoy supporting cool gay women even if it scares the shit out of me. I don't enjoy small talk either so I understand that so much! Ashley you were more than correct when you said something along the lines of people are only anxious when we haven't had much experience with it talking about going out in public for me that is right on the money the more I throw myself into situations that I know I am uncomfortable in "exposure therapy" the better I get at handling them. I would say you slayed and ate at handling every different interaction from your fans, and I want to come to every show you have that I can drive to!

My sister bought me a hat at your austin show, Ashley! She asked you to sign it and said that you were very nice and cool. Glad she went when I couldn't and sad I couldn't go :')

@ashgavs

12 күн бұрын

I remember she said she bought it for you

@RDawn

12 күн бұрын

@@ashgavs ❤️❤️

Speaking of Emily Dickinson, have you guys watched the show Dickinson? It's SO good.

I know the name of the producer at the end is probably "Brent" but I always hear "bread"

I love it as usual. Ffs so great😂😂😂

I love this episode! So great to have more vulnerability, philosophising, and analytical discussions about the world and how humans act and operate.

When I waited on Meredith Viera, I just discreetly told her I've always enjoyed her. When I waited on Blake Shelton, I just kept looking at him, trying to figure out why he looked so familiar, didn't realize why till he later 😆I realize celebrities are just human beings like everyone else, I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable in any way. That fan was so disrespectful to Mak. If it was me, I wouldn't have approached at all seeing you upset, unless you were alone, I might've asked if you were okay. I get people have their own journey, but I hate when people fuck with people. I've been fucked with more than once. It's hurtful and aggravating.

@ashgavs we met for 30 seconds at your Manchester gig, you were the best, generous with your time and signed some merch. I on the other hand, nervously initiated a conversation about love hearts. I apologise and have rerun it in my mind many times since.

Not the urban dictionary check by mom and dad 😂

Thanks for another great episode, Chosen Fam!

Literally had someone say they weren’t attracted to me last weekend after we were intimate. It was hurtful and definitely a red flag. Not seeing the person again and walking away from them.

Ashley said nothing will come out about Alayna and now we're gonna find out she's the inventor of child labor or something

@JanneBernards

12 күн бұрын

She'll get her degree and become lesbian Hannibal Lecter.

@BayAreaBerk

12 күн бұрын

There's an Eating People joke in there somewhere. besides, they always say: 'its the Quiet Ones...'.

Best start to the day!!

Incredible episode fam! All 3 of you’ll killed it ❤

Proud flipper 💪

as someone with misophonia ashley warning alayna she’s eating and just being so respectful about it makes my heart so happy🥰🥰 everyone please be like ashley

Thank you for sharing about how being recognized can impact your lives. Honestly, I was shocked to hear that y'all have dealt with that. I think I had it in my head that this is just a niche little part of KZread, and so I would probably be shocked to run into any of you out in the world. I wonder if that's also fueling people's responses - that they think of this as such an intimate space, the only one where you are, really, and then here you are, existing in the world outside it. I appreciate the heads up should I ever find myself in any of y'all's corners of the world. May you continue to be able to exist in peace. 🙏🏻

who up succumbing to the flaws of their extreme arrogance?!🤪

Amazing episode as always!

Humans are beautifully imperfect and how amazing is that to connect with someone who is as imperfect as me, it's a completely new way to be vonrable.

Best episode yet 🎉

*AHEM* (uses Ashley voice) ALEX. WHY IS THE VID DESCRIPTION SO GOOD?? WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO BE A BETTER COMEDIAN THAN ME? YOU KNOW I'M YOUR BOSS, RIGHT? STOP BEING BETTER THAN ME. Love, One of Ashley's (and, reluctantly, Alex's) fans

Its a sign 😇 statistically someone has to love an Emily. Please 😇

The Chosen FEMILY Podcast……Amazing episode as always 👍🏻

46:25 my fav thing ever if i ever see you in person at a store ashley i expect you to lay down and do this immediately

in Alayna's defense I've never really noticed seeing Emily in my day to day life lol and i work in retail

One of the best podcasts so funny really helps me get through the week love u guys ❤❤❤ and every Emily is probably offended too 😂😂😂

This episode is sending me 😂😂😂

I haven't been lying to you, love the pod!!

Mak coming for ashley made my day 😂 also arrogant little wave is crazy like you were being polite???? Tf

Alayna wins the internet with her callback to "see whatever they're looking for" 🤣🤣🤣

“the gift” LMAOO

omg the thing mak said at the end is so true… I’m investigating my pass to see all the homoerotic friendship I’ve had without knowing it at the time … girl..

Me at 1 am watching this. lol

When people meet people they have a bias to assume that's how that person always is; I think it's called the fundamental attribution error, but it's more weird if the relationship is parasocial so they "call you out" for being a person.

I love you all so much🥹🥹💜

Not sure if Ashley was talking about restocking her T-shirts in this episode, but for a boxy cut made of stiffer fabric, I recommend Both& !

Ashley seems very sweet and shy irl ❤

I need all and every Emily to comment

I just realized I have an actual question for the question time thing .. will I get y’all’s Patreon and ask … I am not sure lmao but I appreciate yall a million times over

Bc I'm ace and inquisitive my follow up question for fanfic roommate situation is if the roommate feels sexual attraction at all. She's probably allo and it is a bad situation but before I realized I was ace I did not know what was going on with me that I wanted to kiss someone I was dating but I couldn't even imagine wanting sex or sex akin activities with them.

@liza-uw3sq

12 күн бұрын

yep, that's exactly what I thought too. I honestly didn't like their answer on this question bc that person could have been on ace spectrum and it wouldn't mean that they didn't want to have some kind of relationship with the other person

This actually happens to me with people I know. I personally think it's pretty pathetic. At my last job, people were complaining that I "ignore people". What was actually happening was I just wasn't feeling good that day and so there was a difference from my normal chattiness...I wasn't actually ignoring anyone. I personally just think it's really pathetic to take everything so fcking personally. If someone is being quiet, my first thought is "hmm..I wonder if they're okay" NOT "what a bitch" 🙄 like seriously, grow up and work on your self-esteem issues, cause dang. Also, though, ASHLEY YOU CAN'T THREATEN TO TOP US AND THEN NOT FOLLOW THROUGH

Okay how about a movie that the whole family lives a double life in order to travel like Hannah Montana but the whole family!

Blowing smoke is different from catching smoke.

Alright Emilys line up!

😎😃😊😜😍😘💖🌹Great Pod, thank you.

Ah those people who don't put up a front, are bad at social interactions, reserved, genuine, blunt or suuuper introverted,with a sprinkle of neuroses/anxiety... our chosen family! Yes absolutely, y'all (Mak, Ashley, Jen?) are autistic, but we love you for it, and that doesn't take away from your genius people reading skills you have developed as a career. Bet there's many spreadsheets and books behind those.

dear that "straight" roommate: good luck, babe!

Kavorka: "the lure of. the animal"... Mmn!

Hello from an Emilie!

fr bc its very rare to see someone accept an apology online. like why did you even ask for one? you want pure groveling or something. reminds me of the karens at work.

I'm early 😎 too old to be making these comments tbh but I cant resist lol

Ok. Alayna has passed on the curse. The last hurricane to hit Jamaica…. Was Hurricane Emily. Not joking. 🤯🤯

@AlaynaJoyOfficial

11 күн бұрын

THIS IS WHAT IM SAYING

@AlaynaJoyOfficial

11 күн бұрын

THE HURRICANE WAS NOT BORN IN THE 90s

As an Emily this was a really weird show to watch 😂

@mariannetfinches

12 күн бұрын

So how long have you been following Alayna around, & how do you all coordinate? Do you have a rota? Very jealous because I don't know enough Mariannes to confuse a youtuber with me

@GracefulRose

9 күн бұрын

@@mariannetfinches 🤣🤣 we Emily's just have a secret network 🤫

OKay, I'm yer Uncle Taz and Im'a tell ya: Ashley? Yeah, yer a Weirdo, but you're OUR Weirdo & we wouldn't want you to be any other person...

I don't feel lied to...I think we've known you record 2 eps in a row. 🤨

28:38 fundamental attribution error!

Holy cow people’s entitlement and dissonance is so bizarre to me. Even if the personality you guys present on the pod or on stage was an exact reflection of your personality in more intimate settings, you can still have off / different energy days….feeling like you have to be on at all times because people don’t understand that you are a person is so exhausting and anxiety inducing.… People using the excuse of thinking that you won’t see something as though it’s still okay to be a dick when someone won’t hear you is wild and honestly so cowardly. Also….who gets annoyed at someone not dropping everything to give you 100% of their time before a work event AS THEYRE ACTIVELY SETTING UP?!

Both examples of the people from the 82% ad are from the book The Other Significant Others by Rhaina Cohen? Is the podcast related to it or just using it as a source??

❤

Oh ! Did I get this right ? 26:00 Did Mak just say "many of us" referring to autistics ? If so, welcome to the family 🥰

when ur name is Emily 👀

i can unproudly say that my ex (emily) broke up w me and started dating her friend who is ALSO emily.

I know so many Emily's

the emily thing is real