Every once in a while Sofie's hair takes a little trip to the 1940s

When asked about the decluttering, he says he feels better, but he looks like he's about to cry. LOL!

This sweet young man needs to seek help, hoarders don't change overnight. Saving melted wax in a jar or a big bag of paper napkins is a definite sign of hoarding.

@j3anders0n

3 жыл бұрын

My first thought when they showed the jar of broken candles was that one of them was a witch.

@Lilactime402

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely correct.

@ckee8437

3 жыл бұрын

I feel so bad for his wife, did she not know?

@kidzfromthebloc

2 жыл бұрын

When he walked into the comp and said it's empty, I was like oh he's a hoarder. Plus his face when they threw out his deflated ball. Poor guy looked like his pet hamster died

He said, "Garbage...garbage...Throw that away." There is hope for him!😁 Once they get a hoarder to start throwing things away the healing has begun! I hope he can keep it up.

@phantaztik

3 жыл бұрын

Her smile when she turned around with the lamp - she was enjoying this

@lilmisscoopie

3 жыл бұрын

@@phantaztik I love that they showed that smile in slow-mo! Ha ha! She was so happy : )

This one was actually a bit distressing to watch, because the issue isn't the accumulated junk, it's the mental health issue behind it. Cleaning and renovating this house and moving into another one isn't the answer. Getting some serious therapy is.

@kristinatidwell6563

3 жыл бұрын

EMDR therapy costs $150 an hour but I haven't seen any guesstimates in how much it costs to help people who have PTSD issues?

@amandawilliams2266

3 жыл бұрын

He seems like such a sweet guy ,hope he really can get a handle on his issues

@vickikeong6625

3 жыл бұрын

The tv show is to sell the house, not act as his therapist. Hopefully he can learn from this moving on.

I totally laughed when she said if he put the deflated exercise ball into storage she would lose her marbles. Moving the mess to storage is fast but really just moving the crime to a second location.

@vizluv

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed but her job is to sell their house not save their marriage 🙂 Be interested to know how that all went .......

He needs therapy. This makes me really sad. They literally just moved most of their mess into (paid for) storage. Unfortunately he feels some kind of comfort in the chaos. He was very uncomfortable in the nice, neat "sold" house they visited. So sad...

I felt so bad for the wife. Sad that he was unable / unwilling to initially ‘make room’ for her in his life. Definitely more to this couple than what we learn in 20 minutes.

If Sofie has never seen anything like his clutter, she's never watched "Hoarders". There are underlying reasons (often past trauma) that cause hoarding & the root of that needs to be addressed to help people with this issue.

@feewaybilz

3 жыл бұрын

So dr. Rebecca what is the root of it?

@virginiamoss7045

3 жыл бұрын

@@feewaybilz His trauma.

@juliearnold5065

3 жыл бұрын

@@virginiamoss7045 you are right. My son died 15 years ago at the age of nineteen. I still can not get rid of his things. I feel as if it is all I have left of him on this earth.

@ACS402010

3 жыл бұрын

@@juliearnold5065 So sorry to hear of your loss. I have a good friend whose mother died about a decade ago, and she had the same problem. She couldn't bring herself to get rid of all her mother's things, so she took most of it to her own house.

Who else has been binge watching these in 2020?

@deborahgrysko2427

3 жыл бұрын

Me!

@marishkaambrus8381

3 жыл бұрын

2021

@janicescott7338

3 жыл бұрын

All day long!

@janicescott7338

3 жыл бұрын

But it’s 2021 now.👍

@krawlb4walking802

3 жыл бұрын

Make that 2021 ... now

He is lucky to have such a beautiful and patient wife. He needs to get some help or his marriage won't last long.

@amandawilliams2266

3 жыл бұрын

She really should have said by the time we get married you need to clean out this much stuff ,I mean come on guy ,you want a wife ,then make room for her lol

Wrong show...they need to get someone who deals with hoarders. Moving will not solve this problem.

@kayteesmiles2254

3 жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same. Having a bigger house is not gonna change that.

@emilyc9240

3 жыл бұрын

Oh i don't think she'll let him go backwards in HER house

@emusaurus

3 жыл бұрын

Hoarders was a rude awakening for me. That and my mums house. I was slowly becoming one. Now my things need to have a place or they get sold on ebay.

ANTHONY TO THE RESCUE! I love Anthony.

@drfreud65

3 жыл бұрын

I'm new to the series. Why were there a few episodes where Anthony was gone and Sofia looked a like she'd gained weight? Did she take an extended maternity leave and they had to wait for his contract somewhere else to be finished?

I don't understand why they were still selling that house. It's beautiful and spacious, and their mess had been sorted. She should have told him: "When you make room for me, I'll come back." He needs to learn that NOTHING ARRIVES BY ITSELF AND NOTHING LEAVES BY ITSELF.

@mikaelb.2070

5 жыл бұрын

She probably visited his house a couple of times before marrying him, so why didn't she pressure the issue long ago? Now she is stuck with him.

I don't know if this guy is a hoarder or not - but living in the same place for 9 years can definitely make some one pile up a lot of junk without realising it. I had to move every year for a few years and each time I was surprised at how much crap I had accumulated in just a year. It was only after the third such move that I made a conscious effort to not buy junk and get rid of things I didn't need as soon as possible. I've lived in the same place for 8 years now, and I love how empty the place is! A friend once told me her goal was to get to 2 suitcases of stuff only. I don't think I'll ever get there, but it doesn't hurt to aim for it.

@twistoffate4791

3 жыл бұрын

@Rae Vandenberg I'm glad you mentioned computer storage as a solution. I am staring down multiple stacks of paper all over the house. Some is mine, while some was my folks'. Time for me to start scanning.

The transformation is one of the best I've seen them do, I think. I couldn't believe ALL THAT JUNK packed into that small space, geez! I can't believe, though, that she didn't know her husband had a real issue with being a hoarder BEFORE she married him - or was she never ever inside his home before they got married? I find that hard to believe, unless she was some kind of mail-order bride or it was a family arranged marriage and they only saw each other at her parents' home with 20 people watching every move they made!

Boy do I know how this feels.....My husband ( a second marriage) was a collector...When we met his apartment was stufffed in but I thought it was because he only had one bedroom and he had all his camping gear in there. The first time I bought a smaller home with NO basement and a pole barn so he could not fill up a basement full of his gear. (Little did I know that he had a ton of belongings "farmed" his out in his friend barn, and another basement and then later on he drove and picked this stuff all up -OH NO!.) Then he filled up the pole barn from bottom to top....After 20 years of working to get rid of his stuff we downsized and I moves us to a 1.200 condo with no basement and a single car garage....that was the only thing that worked!!

Anthony, the contractor, is so incredibly nice about how he represents the work ahead. Love him !

I wonder what the basement and bathrooms looked like. Excellent decluttering and decor.

"If you haven't used it in the last 6 months, it goes" Try 1 year. I am not going to throw out my winter stuff just because I'm decluttering in the summer.

He’s a hoarder. Really crazy to keep everything for years and years. Glad he got to see it cleared out. 👍

Taking away a horder's belongings isn't really going to help him with the issue, rather--it'll probably make it worse once they get into a new home. Hording is essentially an emotional coping mechanism, they feel protection in their belongings and being able to say what is done with them... In a sense they "hide" under all the junk. So take away someone's hiding spot by force and they'll probably build it up again as soon as they can. The house does look incredibly improved by decluttering but I'm just saying this is a temporary solution and won't solve the underlining issue.

That poor wife. I wonder if they are still married? Wow.

Fulton is a hoarder in process. A therapist can help him understand why he is holding onto this junk. Having an emotional attachment to THINGS - as in ""everything you own," is a red flag. When those things become more important than your partner's happiness, there is a big issue to be resolved. And all that excess just went into storage - which means it can always migrate back.

Them, newlyweds: "We need a fresh start" Me: laughs in married 31 years

I guarantee that they moved and his clutter came with them and then they got divorced. He needs a therapist not a realtor!

@ScubaSteveCanada

3 жыл бұрын

She put up with his crap for far too long. Probably thought she could change him and failed. And, they want to start a family??

"Fulton had a greater emotional attachment to everything than Candace........" full stop

@ckee8437

3 жыл бұрын

Rephrase to Fulton has a greater emotional attachment to everything, including Candace.

This episode should have been on Hoarders.

I suspected from the initial reason stated in the beginning......we are selling to declutter and start over...Now they don’t have to go and I bet they didn’t! This guy has a serious hoarding issue....feel sorry for his wife. Miss the updates at the end saying the house sold...what? Did they stop selling? LOL

Having a jar with a bunch of broken bits of candle that’s not normal.......me as a witch 😬 I need it.

@clarebebbington9984

3 жыл бұрын

I save bits and pieces of wax to make new candles....when I get a bag full, I melt them with some new wax and make a jar candle

@annecaulder9495

3 жыл бұрын

@@clarebebbington9984 I'm sure that's what Fulton was doing... he looks really crafty. 🤣

Great transformation, very nice. $100 says 90% of what was removed and put in that truck at 12:30 will be in their new house. The wife is stuck in a lifetime battle - and wait until kids show up OMG.

He has that non-reactive hoarder affect and needs counseling. If not I feel he'll just hoard the next house. I wonder if they're still married. The "after" house is unrecognizable. Very nice.

Oh my! I've only just heard the opening statements, and I know that the designer/contractor will have their work cut out for them. I wish I could say that I've never met an 'objects horder" who is this young...but I have. I just didn't realize at the time that there 'was' such a thing. She was 25 yrs. at the time of acquaintance; we worked together.. When this young woman had a wreck and emergency surgery that required re-coup time, I, along with 3 of the other girls, went to her house to see what we could do to help; we also knew she had pets as well, and so we were concerned overall. We spent all day in one room.. We decided on the bedroom because that's where she would settle once home. It was---memorable. The work, and the accumulation of 'stuff' included empty pizza boxes and take-out boxes of fried chicken, etc..., dun notices for un-paid bills...sigh. Well, we were determined and got it manageable. The only things we put in the dumpster were the food-related boxes. We organized in a reasonable way, nothing dramatic so as to seem as if we were one-upping her situation. We were thoughtful. Still, she was so angry when she got to come home. She appreciated the clean bed, but--AND HERE'S THE LESSON I LEARNED--what may seem like helping to one person, to another--without express permission, the help will not be welcome. ☺ I felt bad, we all did really, that we had not considered that our gesture would be insulting to her...sigh.. She did, though, appreciate the clean litter boxes and cats cared for...Always ask, and then--ask again.. But I expect most already knew this. Again. Lesson learned.

@lisab9541

6 жыл бұрын

I would have been grateful since you only threw out trash. I have little trash but mounds of stuff to be gone through, given away or organized. I have put off health care because of it. It is so embarrassing. You were all so nice to help.

@tonibauer2949

5 жыл бұрын

Lisa B, there is help out there. Please look for it. Your awareness shows that you deserve a better way of living. Do whatever it takes and you can change your life.

@1588chrissy

4 жыл бұрын

Oh that is so sad

@MrsEJV

3 жыл бұрын

I had a friend who was like this from his 20’s. I cleaned up his apartment and he went nuts. He bought a gorgeous, modern four bedroom home. It had to be demolished because his hoard overtook it. It’s an illness.

@chapman1569

3 жыл бұрын

I helped a friend for many years and helped her move three times, it was always the same: too much stuff and collections. Christmas decorations for different themes, two Christmas threes, several sets of plates, tons of pillows and comforters, tons of make up, it was never ending. Among all the clutter was trash, stained and dusty papers, even some pet waste.Every time she moved, she moved into smaller dwellings. I helped her make some editing decisions but it never solved the problem. Each time I visited her: no place to sit down, table full of stuff and garbage, fruit flies, dirty dishes. I really liked this person, she was good company but eventually I got bedbugs from one of her visit. My husband almost went crazy! Lucky we caught the problem early, but I never invited my friend again at my home. I rarely see her now, she was asking for help all the time and I didn't want to get bed bugs again. I dont regret helping her but I won't do it again. It gave me a personal experience with hoarder and I watch myself not to become like that.

I really like the "after" on this project, especially the color & design choices.

Wow, that guy is a serious hoarder. I hope he gets help, or this will be a constant problem for the rest of his life.

@ScubaSteveCanada

3 жыл бұрын

Problem is that he doesn't realize he has a problem and his wife, well, she saw the red flag but thought she could change him.

He has a clock sitting inside the frying pan that's hanging on the kitchen wall LMBO 😂😂😂

I would have definitely not married him after seeing his house!!!!

He sees/feels an emptiness in the sold house that is their competition. That's his psychological problem that is bordering on hoarding. He seems to feel insecure without lots of his things close around, hugging him, in essence. I wonder if she is aware of this. If not, that marriage will not last.

@jenniferd264

3 жыл бұрын

Oh I have NO doubt they’re divorced. He was devastated how this went. His mental health was not only not addressed, they did everything that harms a hoarder. His mental health was not addressed (wrong show) He was mocked, put down, and worse. He looked like he was going to cry the whole show. He will fill a new house. Bless his heart. I hope he got the help he needed

Sophie did really well by these people. That house was very very nice when she got done with it

IF, and I mean IF this couple is still married, I 100% guarantee you that the new home they bought together is a complete horrific mess. Hoarding is an illness and very difficult to overcome. If she has decided to stay with him, she will have to accept the fact that he is a hoarder and a life of chaos.

There’s WAY deeper issues here!! The poor wife is in for a wake up call!!! Selling the house and starting “fresh” is not going to solve the problem! He’s a hoarder!!!

They need less stuff not a bigger house!

Sun room my Aunt Fanny. That is an enclosed, fotmerly open, porch.

I loved the neon-clock ( nested inside the frying-pan) hanging on the kitchen wall...so fun to see!

When you can't let go of burned-down candle stubs and a deflated ball, there's a big problem. Maybe this was a turn-around point for him.

He definitely has a hoarding or other problem if he isn’t embarrassed to have people in that house AND on television. Having that much stuff laying around everywhere isn’t normal. I hope his wife can encourage him to get help.

poor wife. hope the husband has learned something

I'm dubious that they really achieved all this on only $3600, but it was a huge improvement.

@lyonstill3139

7 жыл бұрын

I don't think they charge for labor; it's all materials. If they did charge for labor, the cost would possibly triple.

A realtor shouldnt have to be your therapist.

The fact that the husband refused to get rid of crap to make room for his new wife to move in is a really bad sign that this guy will make a lousy husband. He's too selfish and self-centered to be married. This poor girl should run as fast as she can from this adult child.

@Autism_Forever

6 жыл бұрын

Yep. My hubby is a hoarder too and his home looked even worse when I moved in, but he never complained about my throwing his stuff out. It took me 7 days to remove all the clutter, after that his Dad came over and said "Wow, this is a gorgeous dining table! I have never seen it before!" :))))))

@sharong8511

3 жыл бұрын

@@Autism_Forever Are you still together?

@Autism_Forever

3 жыл бұрын

@@sharong8511 Yes. Why do you ask?..

@vaderladyl

3 жыл бұрын

Not self centered but more like an underlying emotional issue that expresses in hoarding..

@MrsEJV

3 жыл бұрын

@@Autism_Forever You were fortunate. Real hoarders would lose their minds if you got rid of stuff “they will need”.

She knew he was like this before she married him....she should have said no!!!

I'm so waiting to see an episode where the owner(s) say.... "wait a minute, I had no idea of what this could be! JK, TAKE BACKS! NOT LEAVING!!!". 😄

I think his mother babied him because work seemed foreign to him and he really didn't know what to do until he was told - His wife has her work cut out for her

@laethe230

3 жыл бұрын

I can't help but wonder the same. I wouldn't consider myself necessarily a "hoarder" but I have extreme trouble motivating myself to clean and keep clean. Throwing things away is.. Well I might need them! Lmao! But I seriously I do think that my absolute lack of discipline and chores while growing up has heavily contributed to this. Both my parents are horrible with clutter too; when they divorced and I moved in with my dad..after 1 year on his own he had accumulated so much junk that his two bedroom had become one. The junk was half wall height, and he slept on the couch so I had a room. I remember being home from school once and I was digging through it all, found a birthday card (to me!) with $50 in it from my grandmother 🤦

The fault is that they declutter in a payed storage. He needs help to get rid of this and want it to be clean , get more space for his wife

@vaderladyl

3 жыл бұрын

Yes he needs to sort out that storage for real.

Oh my gosh, they’re just getting a bigger house for him to hoard. Yikes!

The able saw guy is gonna lose a hand someday.

they should have stayed in the decluttered house !

I knew when they said a three bedroom house wasn't big enough to start a family, something was very wrong. His junk will always be more important than people to Fulton.

Excellent! What a cute couple: Fulton is a keeper!

I'm surprised people still want to sell after the remodel

After living in the same place for years, you become blind.

@deliamartinex2710

3 жыл бұрын

Right!! I have been at my house for 10 years!! I am moving out for a few months so they could do a major renovation...and I'm like how in the heck do I have a ton of stuff?????I have been trowing stuff..and shredding like crazy!!!!

I keep saying "the prices"!! Near Cincinnati you could have a near-mansion for this price.

@patbannister1

3 жыл бұрын

This is a very old episode. The prices in Toronto are now 3 times that. It’s crazy! 🌺🌺🇨🇦

@michaeltutty1540

3 жыл бұрын

In that area of Toronto, officially the old Village of Swansea, that house, with a mutual drive and garage, is easily 1.5 MILLION now. Even then, this house was seriously under valued for the area. Even in that state, it should have sold in under 2 weeks. Houses in good shape had a routine. For Sale sign up Wednesday. Agents' Open House Thursday and Friday. Public Open House Saturday and Sunday. Home inspectors/bank appraisers in on Monday. Offer Day on Tuesday. Usually Sold sign up Wednesday. 8 days, start to finish. Final price normally something between 10 and 25% over asking. I grew up there and saw it happen about the time this show was filmed. Too bad someone decided to replace the original Arts and Crafts woodwork with modern crap. There is no way a hollow core pressed wood door with such miserly, miserable mouldings should be in this house. The original would have been 8-10 in base boards, 6-8 inch door casings, and likely 4 panel solid wood doors. Sophie did the best she could with what she had to work with.

If I were a potential buyer, I would do a quick 180 degrees the second I saw that front porch. Who wants to see the rest of the house after that.

Hoarder. He is not going to change unless he gets serious therapy. Even then????? The storage units are just going to grow.

@emusaurus

3 жыл бұрын

Watching hoarders and “the story of stuff” made me change almost instantly. Now I hate owning too much Nic nak

@beeARTcanada

3 жыл бұрын

@@emusaurus I am so happy for you. I have 2 family members that are hoarders, and "stuff " takes up so much of their time and energy......AND money - buying and storing. They are consumed by it., and It runs their lives. It is sooo sad to watch. GOOD FOR YOU.

Love that bedspread in the master...where did you get it?

I would say that 'we need to buy a new house and start fresh' is right up there with 'lets have a baby to save our marriage.' Unless they fix what's actually wrong (his hoarding), they are going to have the same old problems just in a new location. There are signs of hope in the episode, sure, but he definitely needed therapy. I hope he got some, considering how old this show is.

Stunning!

The husband was a hoarder and hopefully he learned the lesson otherwise he will return to his hoarding ways in the new home.

@aadams1006

7 жыл бұрын

That's what I was thinking. Don't move into a new place just to hoard it out.

@MzClementine

7 жыл бұрын

Missy Sharon I'm more shocked that he wouldn't give up attachments that are not physical such as his new wife. Why marry? Quite childish.

@MzClementine

7 жыл бұрын

Missy Sharon whoa!!! With the door off the hinge and the wife saying there is strain on their marriage makes me wonder if he is a physical push man. I hope not abusive. Even the bed, is questionable too.

@thomlin8812

7 жыл бұрын

Yes, he 'did' say that he felt a bit ashamed that his wife never got to enjoy the house....I feel he showed humility in expressing this. I know he must have also expressed this privately as well to his beautiful wife, and I am glad for their new life-opportunities working with "Unsellables" gave them.

@barbaragavin697

7 жыл бұрын

she should not trust it. this kind of hoarding is a form of OCD and his remorse may be genuine but decluttering it is not a cure. It will return. been there done that. the relationship did not last.

That guy is clearly a hoarder. He should probably get some psychological treatment for it or he will probably just do it again when they move into their new house.

3 bedrooms, enclosed porch, large kitchen, why is that not a house that is big enough for 2 adults,? Homes in Canada sure are higher priced than homes in many cities in the US. And smaller. Good storage space created with the built-in cabinet on the porch. Great results for a very sellable house.

If I was the wife I would be very stressed out about the clutter. I can't live like that. Omg!! 😳😳😳

he'll just reclutter the new home

@dmreddragon6

3 жыл бұрын

I don't expect it to be quite so full tho as it'll be their place from the start.

This is a jar with broken candles... Thats. Not. Normal. Lol

Poor Fulton is a hoarder!

With due respect : the dude needs a therapist

She has an easier job than Hoarders because they just send it all to storage.

Nice job!

I find this whole thing appalling....who on earth even thinks of putting their home on sale in this condition and they have the cheek to ask for $489000 !!! Someone is living in cloud cuckoo land !

@ktk6049

3 жыл бұрын

This is in Toronto, real estate is very high. This house is probably worth a million now

what a transformation. You look so much like kirstie in this.

I feel sorry for his wife, having to live with his JUNK! Hopefully, he learned his lesson. Women like to live like, it's there Castle, no matter the size.

@ScubaSteveCanada

3 жыл бұрын

First of all, he needs to recognize his behaviour requires therapy. His lesson is to seek out that therapy. I'm sure the wife thought she could change him but that obviously failed. To start up a family under this scenario is not good.

Lovely house and a great transformation! ❤️👍

This guy is not a hoarder, he's just never had to do his own housework before. And neither has his fiance - they're both like a pair of helpless little kids. A bit sad that they've both been brought up to think it's someone elses job to sort out their shit.

@ScubaSteveCanada

3 жыл бұрын

I guess, you missed the emotional attachment to all of his inanimate objects - that has nothing to do with cleaning up a place, it has everything to do with hoarding objects since he can't donate or throw them out. Look at his reactions. And, hear what he said about the comparable house ... wife says it nice, Fulton says it's empty.

The candle bits are normal, assuming they'll one day become a new candle. Stuff does need to wait its time elsewhere though.

Hoarders. I bet they did it again in the next house. They don't need a bigger house, they need 70% less stuff. Even after the amazing transformation I wouldn't buy this house. The dishwasher is too far from the sink. Watching this in 2020 🌵🎄🎅🍥🍭🍬🎁🎉🏜️🌵🎄🎅🍥🍭🍬🎁🎉🏜️🌵🎄🎅🍥🍭🍬🎁🎉🏜️

@kristinatidwell6563

3 жыл бұрын

Dishwasher is a mobile unit, it hooks up to the kitchen sink to wash the dishes.

@kristinatidwell6563

3 жыл бұрын

The creative side of my personality says to use a bedroom to make a home office area that will have built in organization spaces similar to what was built in the sunroom. I think if wife will use encouraging tone of voice and work with her husband to get anger management classes and EMDR therapy? They'll be able to find common ground.

They want something BIGGER to raise kids in? How many are they planning on having? If they'd throw away the junk, they'd have room for half a dozen, at least.

I think Fulton wants to be a bachelor ...

I just found this show and like it very much. Is it out of Canada?

@sharong8511

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. It ran on tv for five seasons beginning in 2008.

@ScubaSteveCanada

3 жыл бұрын

It started in the U.K. then shifted to the New York City area but most shows are from Toronto.

Hoarder at its best

Always people who just need to clean and move stuff to storage.

Anyone notice the narration track is missing?

Have you noticed that the realtor says what is identical to the realtor expert on every show?

@kathurtado13

6 жыл бұрын

Thejudge Because people don't LISTEN.

@mapleleaf0

6 жыл бұрын

Yes, I think the part of the show where they talk to the sellers' realtor is filler that doesn't add anything to the show unless the realtor has an interesting personality. They usually don't.

@tonibauer2949

5 жыл бұрын

Because there are universal truths when it comes to selling homes.

If I was Candace I'd be concerned about what the new digs will end up like after Fulton starts to "collect" again.

He'll just hoard up the next house too.

way too much stuff, its a problem in our society

@L.Spencer

3 жыл бұрын

I will add that how one feels about getting rid of excess stuff is key.

Sofie is so darn cute. The end. ❤

They should hire a designer for their new space like Sophie so they can start of right. Beautiful furniture doesn’t help if you don’t know where to put it. And Fulton will need a lot of storage.

Why did this guy ever marry? He was obviously happy the way he was...sports equipment & all! I suspect a new larger house is her idea, not his. He's a hoarder & a new house won't change that.

major chemistry b/w sofie and anthony

small wonder he was on the market for 8 years!

Candace, you married a hoarder. Get him help now or leave. It doesn't resolve on its own. It only gets worse.