I've watched all your podcasts, i think what people are saying of Shana's flaws is wrong. 1. She is the one who usually says her flaws and not Felix. 2. On many occasions, Mr. Kitaka has said how his pride almost ruined their marriage. 3. Shan's saying her flaws has helped many women to realise their own flaws which they didn't know that they were flaws. 4. I love men who take a hard stand, coz, most women are emotional and will always pull out emotions instead of improving. 5. The truth of the matter is, Felix is leading and has the moral authority to call out those he's leading. Lastly, this is a #kingdommarriege and many people wong understand coz, this marriage is for God and not for people.

@nracheal4135

17 күн бұрын

Whatever it is, may they hold onto the spark that enabled them to get married🙏. Otherwise it won't benefit either to hold on to what doesn't bring out the best in their lives bse of forever marriage norms🤔. Blessings to them.

@Belovedness

17 күн бұрын

Most people here are giving opinions from the lens of world definition of marriage🤦🏾‍♀️……..

Exercising leadership does not necessarily mean making the other person feel small or embarrassed. There are gracious ways to communicate the truth

@jennykrim7178

17 күн бұрын

i agree

These two a still a work in progress like all of us.,………..all the Marrieds know that marriage is far from soaps………..much love for the Kitakas ❤❤…….may God continue to bless your marriage

Thank you for setting the bar for real talk, no sugarcoating. You are a true blessing. All your episodes are authentic! May God grow this to transform his people.

@thekitakas

18 күн бұрын

🙏 we bless the Lord! -RK

The fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control... Whereas we need to pursue excellency, we need to excel in the fruit of the spirit first. That’s not a negotiable. When we correct or rebuke, it has to be in love, kind with patience. At the end of time, the master will look for fruit not how excellent we were. We must love, we must to be kind, gentle, faithful patient and all... Let's remember that

The authenticity with which you share your journey is inspiring ❤❤❤.

beautiful podcast. keep doing this our people. learned how to be honest with my husband in a constructive actionable way. not ranting and it works.

I like the point when you say you had to cancel the debt. Oh the way you explain it is like it was really hard for you but you say you had to do it. As you were elaborating on this point, tears were flowing from my eyes. I just remembered the pain I am going through in raising my daughter after the father chose to abandon us. I have been holding a lot of anger, pain, name it on my heart but with this story, I have let go and I believe God will take care of me and my child. Thanks so much for sharing with us

Wow! .. blessed to watch this.

I love your podcast.Still watching but having goose bumps. Thank you for all you are doing. Mr Kitaka thank you for leading your home.You are truly a king. Am enjoying how your queen is responding. I love you guys. Thanks for standing for excellence.Shana you made the right choice.I will keep following you.what else are you offering apart from the podcast. I would love to learn more from you.

Thank you the Kitakas for opening your doors to us. Many of us are shaped everyday because of what you bring out. Thanks for being obedient to God.❤

@thekitakas

18 күн бұрын

Blessings and more to you Barbara. We are reminded daily, on this our walk, that obedience is better than sacrifice! -RK.

i appreciate the boldness to share and the profound lessons here thank you. I now want to take excellency seriously

@thekitakas

17 күн бұрын

You are very 🙏 welcome! -RK

Lovely episode!❤ glad to be here...keep it up!

@thekitakas

15 күн бұрын

Thank you! 🙂

Adding more In every episode, Rukh is apologizing for the minute things she did, she is the one who is always at fault. And interesting, she says “that was bad of me, I should not have said that”. Rukh Shana doesn’t seem happy or heard at all. That’s not how marriage works, imagine she is comparing herself to her child. One time she said that her and Felix have to go through the clothes she puts on, I was shocked. I am sending hugs to Rukh and I hope you both can work through any imbalances. Or better yet, I hope I’m wrong and everything is fine in your marriage Rukh. Hugs!

@sophie98429

16 күн бұрын

You are right. Apparently she is always in the wrong. I feel like her emotional needs are not being met. She is exhausted and I can see it. The constant apologising for everything. This is not how a thriving marriage should look like. I hope they can get some help before its too late. ❤

@sarahnakame1820

16 күн бұрын

It sounded to me that she is happy to have a helper, one who also affirms her outfits. Is it wrong for a couple to approve of each others outfit if it is what works for them😢

This a good podcast, thank you the Kitakas

@thekitakas

12 күн бұрын

Our pleasure! -RK

Thank you guys for sharing your life with us

@thekitakas

18 күн бұрын

Our pleasure! Thank you for your time. Be blessed. -Rk

Awww.... I love Felix's last words. " It takes a special kind of woman to walk with this kind of man!" **** I so agree.

Thank you for sharing

Thank you soo much for sharing.

@thekitakas

17 күн бұрын

Thank you, Raymond.

Thank you for so much for sharing your lives with us. I am not sure how many couples can hold such deep, intimate un scripted conversations. It is easy for people to negatively criticize what they are not able to be/ do/ think. May the Lord bless you and this ministration.

@thekitakas

17 күн бұрын

Thank you Sarah and God bless you too 🙏. -RK

@sarahnakame1820

16 күн бұрын

I also think that the world today has disregard for male leaders in families. It is not surprising that even men will quickly throw stones at a man who is visibly leading his family well. Will leave it at that. May the Lord strengthen your marriage. May he give you the grace to work on the areas that need improvement for each other. May you keep on the journey and purpose for which your union was formed.

This is a must watch to everyone going into marriage

Glad to be here

Great Sharing guys, am blessed by the part of giving to others, dying to self.......

Thank you so much for the podcast.I love you two dearly, in most of the podcast Ruk is always sharing how she did one thing or the other wrongly, how she was corrected, and helpef to get better.Is there anything Mr.Kitaka you would have learnt from your wife, you share with us.Thank you again!

@peacegabula8239

4 күн бұрын

Exactly! Mr. K you don't need to keep doing that to your wife. It's not right. It's a pity u do it alot in private and refer to it here in public. Are u meant to break her? When will it end! By the time she says she doesn't want to make decisions u take it as a plus but it's a big red flag.

Thank you good people!

It is not what we say but how we say it matters. You can call out people when they are being inconsistent, mediocre but with grace. As wife, I know compassion is key. Try to reflect on what your wife actually means when she says you are cold/ harsh. And by the way, I love your podcast. It is soothing and educative.

PROUD OF YOU GUYS

I loved the last part.🥰🥰 Those words were so affirming🤩.

Thank you for this 🙏🏾. I relate abit with Mrs Kitaka 🙏🏾🫂. Our husbands are the ones meant for us 🫂🤗

Its the laughter for Felix 😅😅 However i see genuine love between the two which is a challenge to most of our couples in this era. Thank you for sharing your love stories with us, there is a lot to learn from them.

May God continue to bless your marriage.. i love the openess, very few marriages have this..

This is very enriching, Always a blessing learning from you two. Thank you good people for sharing your lives. One of the things God has detached me from is money and as I celebrate my birthday on Friday, I feel led to cancel a debt that has been pending for sometime and forgive the debtor.

@thekitakas

15 күн бұрын

I bless the Lord for the thought/leading to cancel that debt. The freedom from being bonded to money is a beautiful kind of freedom especially for one who knows who their Father is and how much He has and has made available to one - by faith. May you never lack 🙏 -RK

@lydearkobusinge8355

14 күн бұрын

⁠Amen and Amen!

Well in Felix and wife I can tell you carry the mantle to lead with grace and given the examples you have cited its absolutely awesome to acknowledge were your both at, most of us haven't gotten to that level yet : ) The fire in you to create something better for you, your wife and family as whole in the time God has given you is humbling. Just know the personality type you carry sometimes might crash another individual / partner , you believe better and its absolutely okay, now to mitigate any conflicts - the delivery of your vision, goals and intentions is always something that challenges us as men. Personally I have learnt from you both and I struggle in many ways myself but yes kaizen spirit ( continuous improvement ) Thank you for this episode good people. Your blessing lots of people

@lydianamutebi4808

13 күн бұрын

Well said....bro

Naye its only Natural for women to love attention Mr. Kitaka, the coldness is too much, please don't give room for an emotional space to be filled up by somthing else, a void could easily be occupied.

@ziwer1

16 күн бұрын

Did u watch the whole thing or stop half way? You didn't see Mr Kitaka tear up? Did u not hear that Mr. Kitaka is too generous for his own good? That's empathy - U can't go wrong with that. "cold" is not the right word to describe the man.

Mr. kitaka is an excellent listener

Oooh, am blessed by the last words

May the almighty lord continue using you to share and inspire your love and spiritual journey with us.

@thekitakas

18 күн бұрын

Amen! -RK

Really enjoyed muscle pull part 😂… But seriously I have personally been blessed by your podcast…. It has made me re-evaluate how I approach relationship.

@thekitakas

17 күн бұрын

Glad you have been blessed! -RK

I just kept smiling throughout, in a way this episode was short. Allow me to say this here... Mrs. Kitaka you are a wise woman I honor you both 😊

@thekitakas

17 күн бұрын

It did indeed feel rather short. And thank you for the kind words and always plugging in. -RK

May God always guide and defend you both in your journey. I love the way Rukh keeps the smile.

Wooooow I have really enjoyed this podcast am still single but thr is alot I hv learnt for my future especially the part of faith and trusting God wetha am in lack or not God bless you abundantly the kitakas

@thekitakas

17 күн бұрын

Thanks for sparing the time to watch the podcast. May the Lord keep meeting you at your point of need -as only He can! -RK

Mr kitaka peope may not understand you but thank God that he gave you the helper suitable. Wives are helpers of husbands. We are tailored to help the husband. We thrive by being submissive the biblical way and we are destroyed by being rebellious ( what people term as kwebereramu in the world) but the things of God seem like foolishness to the flesh but they are wisdom. Not only do you have peace in your marriage but you are being perfected in God .Mrs kitaka ,you are an amazing woman,it takes humility to comform to the vision of yoyr husband. May the grace of God carry you through. People may not understand you but your marriage is biblical. Supernatural principles may make no sense to carnal people but as long as you are right with God,you are well. I cover your marriage with a hedge of fire .more grace.

@sarahnamwanje

19 күн бұрын

Amen

@annenasubo4890

18 күн бұрын

Well said

@musenerohilda9040

18 күн бұрын

@@annenasubo4890 people have judged Mr kitaka harshly..🤣🤣....but his wife is his wife....she was made suitable for him.

@thekitakas

18 күн бұрын

Thank you! A lot of things may not make sense to a lot of people. And that’s ok too. It’s not our place to persuade anyone but rather to share our truth that per adventure it may bring understanding to those who may need it.I am also cognizant of the fact it may not be for everyone in this season. That’s ok too. -RK

@kiconcobrenda4679

18 күн бұрын

Thank you, this too is how I feel..

🎉 The people your meant to lead will understand you

Woow ....this couple is heaven sent for us to learn lessons

@thekitakas

17 күн бұрын

Glory to God. 🙏🏽

Amen. Interpreting things of the spirit with physical eyes is impossible. However much u list the flaws, they will still not understand bse they don't have the revelation you have. We will pray that God will give us more understanding and we don't miss what his saying to us in this season.

@annenasubo4890

18 күн бұрын

I agree with you

@brendanairuba6430

18 күн бұрын

Surely

@thekitakas

18 күн бұрын

📍To understanding and not missing what the Lord may be saying in this season! -RK

Straight forward and Generosity arent weaknesses. May God enable me see my husband as flawless as mukyala Kitaka....

How I love a hubby for myself who takes a hard stand! God yes I love that for me. Thank you "the Kitaka (s)

@thekitakas

17 күн бұрын

Be careful what you ask for but again, don’t does not allow anything more than He knows we can take! -RK

As a greatly opinionated woman , i can also be manipulative, I genuinely pray that God is sending me a man who stands on business and can not easily be pushed over, from RK’s experience , will I struggle, possibly but i desire a godly marriage and it must workout💪 Thank you The Kitakas for sharing, none of this is vain!

@thekitakas

17 күн бұрын

May the Lord bless you with the Godly marriage you desire and give you more grace to sit at His feet as He mounds you into the kind of woman that will carry it with Grace! -RK

Love this couple. But yes i have always kinda seen reservations in her,like shes scared of him.

I like your principle because my husband has also used it, when it is wrong, he says it plainly and when it is good results he appreciates it highly and forsure at first i was like Shan in her first days but I see the growth am towards and I appreciate the principle, However, my husband has loosen the giving of the negative feedback, he bring it in, in our happy hours and I think I have taken it in much faster than before. The grace we have to give people is that, some of us have read alot and improved greatly but other people have not. I love being part of a solution to people's weak points instead of focusing on calling them out. Thank you for this great work, the spirit of excellence is less appreciated in Africa so am sure afew will indeed not receive your mind Mr Kitaka and the current Shan

@thekitakas

17 күн бұрын

Thank you Mary for sharing your personal experience 🙏. When more of us are able to share - as led, then others know they are not alone 🤔. What seems insurmountable then morphs to possibility. - RK

Happiness is godly and peace is paramount ❤

Abaganda bagamba nti "ndyebaza ndya, tagunjula munafu". Change process can be uncomfortable, but there are things that Mw. Kitaka even with all the good intentions can do better. E.g., encourage someone when you see baby steps, while reminding them of the goal, remove the edges off feedback, so that people aren't left feeling embarrassed, rather challenged. What Rukh-Shana is describing is like someone being given asked to hold a knife by the sharp end. It leaves them bruised, yet that may never have been the intention. I've learnt some of these lessons the hard way. Otherwise change will always be uncomfortable, especially if you are strong willed.

@thekitakas

18 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing Cotilda. Did you ‘learn the hard way’ as the one giving feedback and what kind of relationship was it? Work or Personal?-RK

Being straight forward is a strength though not a weakness. However uncomfortable it makes people feel. its a strength, such people help us grow

Indeed yo a True definition of a match made from Heaven. Wow wow....

What a journey to oneness Men are from Mars and women are from Venus

There is something toxic here, but with all the intellectual hullabaloo it comes off as acceptable.

@thekitakas

17 күн бұрын

Hi Portia, we are all here to learn and be the best versions of ourselves. Would you be open to joining us on the podcast to speak more about the toxicity you see? -FK

@ningisibuyi

17 күн бұрын

Truth .. the cringe behaviour hidden as intellectual hullabaloo .. I pray help come their way through counselling or other men challenging him. May he never accept this version of himself as this is who I am.. because as a pastor I’ve seen women losing it the day their eyes open up.

@sarahnakame1820

16 күн бұрын

Granted, all human beings in marriage always have things to work and improve on . But labelling a man leading his family "toxic" is not surprising in this generation.

@angellaasabaawebwa3522

15 күн бұрын

Spiritual abuse at its worst!

@thekitakas

15 күн бұрын

Would you be kind enough to unpack this spiritual abuse? If you have specific and personal examples that make it easier for us to understand your POV, it would be appreciated. -RK

Its the end for me, may God bless you 🙏

My Take: Moral Authority to Lead, comes with personal responsibility and holding yourself accountable as a leader. Wow Thanks RK and FK being a married woman I totally love your Marriage.

I would be interested in a podcast that includes like-minded men who hold Felix accountable so we can see him in a different environment without the need to have him 'covered'

@rutheglance9673

17 күн бұрын

Nyc one

@thekitakas

17 күн бұрын

Any names you can suggest Yvonne? Please dm via X. We would be happy to engage them and have some conversations. -RK

@lugaliyvonne7827

17 күн бұрын

@thekitakas I actually hoped that you would have your friends, mentors etc, generally men you trust

@angellaasabaawebwa3522

17 күн бұрын

@@thekitakas Ben Mwine, Brian Mulondo, nabwiso Matthew!

@paskaziatumwesigye1534

11 күн бұрын

Guy is tough

Wow.... happy for you Rukh.. this is a real transformation.. this is what only God can do

When I hear Felix talk I see pride and grandiosity!! There are better ways to communicate you don’t have to say the truth and make others feel small or lesser than you!! Felix you might need to work on your pride and delivery!! It’s not the message that matters it’s how you deliver the message that matters!

@thekitakas

2 күн бұрын

Interesting! For purposes of my learning and improvement. What’s prideful and grandiose about my speech? Break it down for me so that I can understand and be better. - Felix

Heeee positive criticism to your spouse should be done with love and gentleness, not as though she is your workmate, child etc. Dont be too tough on her. It kind of crushes us from within as women. We need that gentle patting and tenderness in how we are handled to better us up. Mrs Kitaka, please always communicate your feelings and Mr Kitaka, listen and work on it. You will have an amazing woman out of her. Despite her presenting herself as tough, within her is a delicate sweet soul. Loosen up sir. When it comes to giving, both of u need to agree even though its your money since u both belong to God. Ur wife is your first priority. You never die to both you and your wife. You die to your ownself. Good thing u put God first. God is doing an amazing work in both of you. Blessings dear ones 💕. U bless us alot

Its the ending for me... 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

First to be here❤and God is directing our hearts and steps ❤

@ollieTrades111

19 күн бұрын

Second here😅

@Nankundadiana256

19 күн бұрын

​@@ollieTrades111welcome 😂

@judithakite3164

19 күн бұрын

Wow Third here😅

@ayebarejackie1874

19 күн бұрын

Nankunda❤😂😂 nange I've reached

@Nankundadiana256

19 күн бұрын

​@@ayebarejackie1874 gal sit down coming for a testimony😂

Stay blessed

@thekitakas

18 күн бұрын

Thank you. You too! -RK

I love your openness. I feel providing for our family first, is the first priority of married couples. To avoid being overgenerous at the expense of your family's financial security, you ought to work with a budget. Have a monthly budget where you put both your montly incomes together. Determine what percentage to tithe, percentage to save towards future project investments, percentage for home expenses, percentage for personal pocket money, percentage to give to the needy or other worthy causes. Then any of you whoever identifies a cause to give to informs the other & you give from this "giving" docket. If it is exhausted, you should not touch other monies.

@sophie98429

17 күн бұрын

True. This is what worked for my family. My husband is extremely generous and it was making me uncomfortable at the beginning. But we talked and started budgeting and ensuring all family needs are prioritised. Then after he can give out however much he wants. Since then we have had peace and no financial worries 😊

@prillarkirungi4531

17 күн бұрын

Ooohh yesss totally agree to budgeting, specifically making a portion to giving. Bearing in mind that even when you are giving out of compassion, it should be led by the Spirit- so that it can bring glory to God. The enemy can very well take advantage of your compassion and frustrate the ones around you and yourself. This calls for a careful cultivation of a relationship with God and be able to clearly discern His leading on who to give, how much to give and when to give. THIS WORKS SO WELL.

Great.,,!!

its the ending🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

If i could borrow your words Mr. Kitaka, the life of Faith is not a safe one; but rather one of meaning.

@thekitakas

15 күн бұрын

Truer words have never been spoken on the subject of faith 🤔. -RK

Not everyone will understand. God bless you both. ❤

Am new on this podcast but rebuking in love is also good and as a woman it doesn't feel good if your husband has to make you feel bad. I know how she feels I had to tell someone please find a beautiful way of making her a better person. Otherwise it's a beautiful podcast keep up we are learning

Well time will tell.

Truth is I came to attest to how "broken" Shana is as a result of Mwami Kitaka's influence. Then as the video went on the scripture Matthew 7:13-14 came to me, “Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.” If you're causing this out roar, you must be doing something right. May we attest to this one day.

What's for sure is that you suit one another , why it's key to marry the right person . Kubanga clearly another person may not be able to handle the same I guess that's why Mwami Kitaka chose u. You were the right choice for Him.

I've been following your story for about 3 weeks now and I can't say this podcast come as a surprise. Indeed your narratives tend to poke on triggers on views about marriage. 😂 Mommy you are a very perceptive woman, speaking as a woman, my view is that in as much as your husband is cultivating growth in you as his wife, he too needs to be open to drawing growth from you in the areas he "lacks" Being a leader of his home, and a leader as a matter of fact, it's difficult to introspect areas of lack instead the stance of a leader is often one that is speaking to correct the other and not so much the self. So I invite him to step outside of the leadership box to be more objective of self. You are both doing great 🎉 thank you for sharing your experiences ❤

@claudiemunyai8650

18 күн бұрын

Oh and do you mind adding subtitles for when you speak your home language 😊

@thekitakas

18 күн бұрын

Thanks we will endeavor to remember to do that! -RK

& it was updated in your will that your debtors should pay you back😂😂😂 this has cracked me up🤣

My humble request though. You cant respond to all our needs or questions. Abantu tebakuuta, they always criticise. You've been brave enough to share with us openly. conitnue doing while following your guidance. Not everyone will understand you. but in a certain way, you're relating to all of us in different bits.

Something feels off for real Rukh … I hope I’m wrong but that’s it

@victoriakenognzi4745

19 күн бұрын

🫂 ❤ for Rukh...

@allsisterschannel9709

19 күн бұрын

Mr kitaka has to tone it down for the wife

@kainebooch

18 күн бұрын

Me and you both…… I hope am wrong too🥹❤️❤️

@ajkim9151

18 күн бұрын

You're right and every man sees it

@YvonnePesa

18 күн бұрын

I have always thought so since season 1 but then again what can I do ....sending her❤❤

Please Mr Kitaka show look more tenderness,she looks sweet but just principled. We love you Rukh.

Truth be told, I used to judge you negatively in some of your first episodes. Now, it is a different story. My mindset is steadily changing and I look forward to every other episode. So much wisdom to be gleaned and lessons to be learned. Thank you the Kitakas for sharing your heart with us.

@thekitakas

17 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience with us as well 🙏 . -RK

Love your neighbor as you love yourself….assumes I love myself

@thekitakas

15 күн бұрын

If one does not love oneself then they need to deal with whatever deep seated issues result in the lack of self love or that sense of worth (or lack thereof). -RK.

Don't be emotional be deliberate 👌🏾

@SB-rw7oq

18 күн бұрын

Emotions have a purpose otherwise God wouldn't have given them to us. The habit of suppressing emotions...ignoring and being unable to sit with them and let be experienced is one of the things fuelling physical manifestations of illness that are now beginning to be acknowledged in the medical field. Who are the greatest suffers? WOMEN because of being told NOT to be emotional.

Its the ka last song for me 😂😂😂😂😂 Those saying Shana is miserable haven't been following you. In Shan's voice " i got more than i bargained for". How many women can make such a statement about their husbands? I'm also asking God to give me more than i bargained for.

@musenerohilda9040

17 күн бұрын

Mazima....

@thekitakas

17 күн бұрын

God does indeed give us exceedingly abundantly above that which we ask for or even dare to imagine. He is a generous God. May He give you what you truly need….! -RK

Sadly our concerns, valid or not might not matter. God knew that She only can handle him.. so us imagining and getting angry😂😂😂😂😂... Sis hasn't asked for help till she does we watch and we learn.. yes domestic violence is a reality but it's not everyone's reality and how many times do we have to be told and reminded that marriage is not child's play... Ebintu bili serious 😂😂😂😂😂😂. I commend Mrs Kitaka and honor her husband because she hasn't given us reason not to (refer to proverbs 31) 😊

So did the sweet goofy side only be there only during dating..Am trying to understand it all

Granted that there should be room for improvement, in human relationships esp marriage and friendship, there's a level of fulfillment to first affirm the person on the 20%progress already achieved, then bring on the 80% gap not achieved. We look for the smallest ounce of joy in every opportunity than the greatest desire to excel where u don't feel appreciated. Mark my words; In all human relationships

Like I said, I always go back and re watch. Just a question, if you don't feel led by the head of the house hold. How do you go about that. I will be glad to receive feedback

@justinekissiti6489

8 күн бұрын

About the public option, people will always be people, we have opinions even where they are not necessarily needed. We always don't like to see good things happening in other people's lives. I do believe their are marriages that are thriving and are good examples to the marriage ministry. Thank you for allowing God to use you the guys. May God bless you

Narcissist much? This is a classic case of narcissistic tendencies unbeknownst to the victim.

@thekitakas

18 күн бұрын

Did you know that possessing narcissistic tendencies doesn’t make someone a narcissist? -FK 🤔

@richardbwanika2166

18 күн бұрын

@@thekitakas Fair enough. My comment is in a way a tentative proposal. Perhaps I should have also included the word "borderline" in my literature. Hopefully this clears things up.

@thekitakas

18 күн бұрын

That’s better. But I don’t think it’s wise to measure our lives against labels of men. To judge a man outside his environment is unwise. The environment shapes the man just as the water shapes the fish. It’s better to judge a man based on his performance relative to his circumstances. What do you think? - FK

@richardbwanika2166

18 күн бұрын

@@thekitakas Again, I acquiesce. No hard feelings.

@thekitakas

18 күн бұрын

Okay then. Nonetheless I’m eager to explore this conversation further to better appreciate your perspective. Would you be open to being hosted on the podcast? -FK

Is this a conversation or poetry?

Sometimes I wonder if as Christian we exhault excellence abit too much. Is it a fruit of the Holy spirit? Is it okay to break someone's spirit in the pursuit of excellence? Is there a space for correcting people gently?

Truth is as wives lately we dont want to accept challenges and leadership .we want to be equal instead of embarrassing humility .ooooh mostly if our mate is super genius.

Comparing leadership of a husband over their wife to a parent over a child is contentious. The Bible says the child's heart is innately foolish which I presume is absolutely different when dealing with a fellow adult.

@thekitakas

18 күн бұрын

When you see it from the perspective of the end result, the rest is semantics -me thinks 🤔. -RK

It's emotional intelligence for me!

@marthadeborah2986

17 күн бұрын

Same here

I don't see what's inauthentic about your story. This is what marriage is like. Those who think something is off are quite deceived. If Rukh was not happy like some people presume, well, she wouldn't be doing this podcast as nicely as she is. Wama mwe do you. This is the first episode i have watched of you. I dint know about this podcast. If anything, i dont remember knowing that Rhuk is married😀And i have super Loved it and learnt a lot ❤...off to watch more .

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Now after listening to all these podcasts....i just have to trust God to choose me a husband.....kibanga the way iam opinionated coulped wiyh being an alpha female, Jesus Knows better

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I rarely comment on videos but eeehhh….. Wait a minute. Someone just expressed her heart out about how she feels about your actions and you compare it to “work”? She just held up her tears and you didn’t see that? Maybe you definitely need to be more emotional with your wife. Christ is very emotional with us as his bride. This is a relationship not a “project “ at work😢. My heart aches at how you both keep comparing your relationship to a place of work. A relationship should be a safe place where work clothes are taken off. Professionalism is cold. Family and Intimate relationships are warm. 😢 Why do you all compare your relationship to work environments? Sounds like an employee and employer relationship. “I am being like you!” You are only human just like she is. Hmmm…😢 this podcast makes me sad. There is an underlying pain that has not been delt with for both of you. Part of developing yourself includes healing your inner wounds and traumas. Leadership in the home is different. If we can emulate Christ then maybe we can ask him to teach us his leadership ways other than conforming to the world’s leadership ways. He led by example, loved us while we were yet sinners and gave himself for us. He can teach us how to love like he does if we can humble ourselves before him. Do not harden your hearts , love softness us and makes our hearts warm. That’s why it’s intimate. My heart aches for both of you and I shall be praying for you both. Have we reduced faith to wealth? You are clearly a generous man and you are not attached to material possessions but you need healing of the heart. Trauma makes us guarded and protected. All you are calling flaws are symptoms of pain within. He loved a people undeserving. We love a people undeserving.

@thekitakas

14 күн бұрын

Many times people express their emotions in words, and when those emotions receive a logical response, the conversation rarely goes well. Nonetheless, I thought, the length of your submission warranted a response. -- “Maybe you definitely need to be more emotional with your wife. Christ is very emotional with us as his bride.” 1. Emotions are of the flesh and Christ being spirit, He isn’t emotional. I think you’re mistaking the emotion of love with the spirit of love. 2. Can you say that marriages are breaking up because men aren’t emotional? 3. If you read Matthew 8:22, ‘But Jesus told him, “Follow me, and let the dead bury their own dead.”’, would you say Jesus was emotional? 4. Do you also know that most evil desires are a product of emotion? Lust is an emotion. Greed is an emotion. I dare say, emotions are the imperfection of man. “This is a relationship not a “project” at work. My heart aches at how you both keep comparing your relationship to a place of work.” 1. Ephesians 2:10 says For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them. 2. Why do you narrow life into a single lens? Neither my wife nor I looks like you, if God in His wisdom found it fitting to differentiate us, why then do you think we should see things the way you see them? “Hmm...😢 this podcast makes me sad. There is an underlying pain that has not been delt with for both of you. Part of developing yourself includes healing your inner wounds and traumas.” 1. “There is an underlying pain,” how do you watch something on screen and come up with such a verdict without leaving a benefit of the doubt? 2. Even a doctor requires us to go into hospital to get a proper diagnosis, but you’re being confident with a KZread diagnosis, don’t you see something wrong with that? 3. The Bible I subscribe to tells the weak to say they are strong, and your desire is for me to say I’m traumatic? “Trauma makes us guarded and protected. All you are calling flaws are symptoms of pain within.” 1. You have focused on seeing our flaws, but what has eluded you, is that despite our shortcomings, we manage to make it work. 2. You have focused on the tree and missed the forest. PS: it takes a great deal of audacity to be vulnerable to the world. While you’re judging the failure of our love to one another, you have missed the labor of love that is our podcast. For everyone of you that is pained, there is another that’s blessed, and we’ve received testimonies to back that up. Regards, Felix

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