Unscripted E08: Why one should not settle // Finding purpose in marriage

The Kitakas podcast is one of those you can be sure to experience candid insight at its best. In a series of honest conversations about their life as a young couple, Felix and Rukh-Shana peel back the layers and unmask the challenges couples face in marriage, sharing their experiences navigating through them & how to thrive through the different seasons on the journey to becoming One. It’s a podcast about candour and conflict, identity & self-discovery, sacrifice & submission, love & leadership, faith & hope, passion & purpose, and everything in between. Rooted in Christ, the shared experiences will help you see how the Word can be applied in everyday life.
00:00 - The blessings of God are conditional
08:56 - Self identity and the choices we make
17:59 - When our steps are ordered of God
20:38 - When men lead women
23:52 - Why a man’s vision ought to be aligned to God’s purpose
30:07 - Give us this day our daily bread
36:46 - Claiming headship in marriage
45:07 - Possession of headship takes consistency
49:33 - The pain of settling as a woman/ why we ought to pray
55:40 - We overcome by remaining steadfast
Let's connect on Twitter:
Felix Kitaka - / themutambuze
Rukh-Shana Kitaka - / rukhshana

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  • @ia2906
    @ia2906 Жыл бұрын

    Hmm Shana, we were on campus together, same years:) I hear you! I got married in my 40s too and frankly I had stopped and started absolutelty enjoying my own company and a good career trajectory.. but God had other plans. He always does! I prayed for marriage and God said "seek first the kingdom..." I was like God, what have I been doing all this time lol..

  • @kabeehodebrah5015

    @kabeehodebrah5015

    Жыл бұрын

    ❤😂😂I asked for a financial breakthrough for my family some years ago and he said " seek ye first the kingdom ". That's not the pleasant message to hear when you are broke but I did and it worked.

  • @thekitakas

    @thekitakas

    Жыл бұрын

    When God asks of/instructs us to seek first His kingdom and righteousness and the rest will be added unto us, He is really calling our attention to that which is most important and is eternal. The things we often seek are temporal.

  • @ireneochola181
    @ireneochola181 Жыл бұрын

    Your podcasts are becoming addictive. Thanks for pouring out your lives to us.

  • @khebasymue1892
    @khebasymue1892 Жыл бұрын

    Banange tusiima🙌 you guys are doing some of us well. These are very expensive yet free classes. Blessings 🙌🙌🙌

  • @masetenicholas4520
    @masetenicholas4520 Жыл бұрын

    Am a software engineer but i just like how Eng Kitaka explains his concepts on faith and marriage as though he is explaining multi label classification using neural networks. I would love to be your student.

  • @nagawajovita784
    @nagawajovita784 Жыл бұрын

    My prayer is to have these sessions atleast on a weekly basis, am glad this came in soon... Always expectant..... Thank you so much dear ones

  • @nakittohellen3934

    @nakittohellen3934

    Жыл бұрын

    U are not alone at least weekly . Though I rest in peace as the Holy Spirit guides them

  • @faithmutamba1333

    @faithmutamba1333

    Жыл бұрын

    For Me, I'm praying for a live session in a hall, just being blessed in the audience section.. asking questions and getting their feedback ❤️

  • @rukundoolivianakalyango714
    @rukundoolivianakalyango714 Жыл бұрын

    This indeed is an eye opener😊, "desire a vision bearer you can help beyond desiring marriage" am 29yrs and was starting to get worried. Thank you so much🤝

  • @mugalajosephine5610
    @mugalajosephine5610 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks the Kitakas for blessing us always. Thought l'd share that l also got to that point where l felt it was taking longer than l had expected. And l remember sharing my frustration with my bosom friend l was praying with at the time and to date her response comes to mind when l start to despair. She told me " Yes, you think it's taking longer and your feelings are valid. But Mukama agambaki? Has He told you to stop presenting your desire for marriage to him? Why are you in a hurry to quit? Wait on God and expand your perspective to include how God can help you become a better version of you. Prepare yourself to be that person who the gentleman would be glad to recieve when the time comes".

  • @rebeccaikilai8673
    @rebeccaikilai8673 Жыл бұрын

    Oh my God! I had never known this beautiful God-fearing side of Rukh-shana! I am blessed viewing this!

  • @rachellorna5109
    @rachellorna5109 Жыл бұрын

    "Keep your eyes on God. He will lead you, guide you, order your steps and He'll get you into the promised land to posses your possessions." Amiina ❤

  • @sandran1291
    @sandran1291 Жыл бұрын

    Woow, Mr kitaka has opened my eyes abt fitting in someone's purpose/ vision. More blessings 🎉 to you The Kitakas

  • @MalaaKivilaOdera
    @MalaaKivilaOdera Жыл бұрын

    Kudos to you Mr & Mrs Kitaka on actualizing this podcast. I had so many light bulb moments throughout the 1 hour + discussion. God bless you abundantly. Keep at it as you submit to the assignment giver - Yeshua! Baraka!

  • @glohriah2444
    @glohriah2444 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for these words of knowledge and Truth. You have saved me from something my ignorance would have caused. I love the fact that these are Kingdom principles and that God is speaking to me through this. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Keep changing lives and restoring Kingdom marriages.

  • @namboozespecy2004
    @namboozespecy2004 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for the word of wisdom, the kitakaz

  • @bazimbyeevans7420
    @bazimbyeevans7420 Жыл бұрын

    The best for the season....

  • @stevemiracle5375
    @stevemiracle5375 Жыл бұрын

    Cant wait to watch this😊, thanx the Kitakas’

  • @faithmutamba1333
    @faithmutamba1333 Жыл бұрын

    I would pay to listen to these two on a live podcast... I love you dearly..

  • @solatim2142
    @solatim2142 Жыл бұрын

    Expeditious Shana. I am your no. 2 fan. I salute the Kitaka's. Merci!!

  • @jennifermugisha-
    @jennifermugisha- Жыл бұрын

    I love this podcast ❤ I love how calm and mature it is ❤ I love the wisdom here too. Ok I’m summary .. I love this ❤

  • @paskaziatumwesigye1534
    @paskaziatumwesigye1534 Жыл бұрын

    @Ruk I will be glad to listen to a podcast on ‘while waiting on God for a spouse....’

  • @fionanassaka4222
    @fionanassaka4222 Жыл бұрын

    Wow wow the word of God is indeed new every morning. Every day I get to listen to your podcast I learn something new .may the God lord richly bless you "The kitaka's"

  • @babirye.mariah
    @babirye.mariah Жыл бұрын

    This is so good keeping our eyes on God so we don’t sink

  • @jackieasiimwe2574
    @jackieasiimwe2574 Жыл бұрын

    Waooo, so lovely and beautifully said. A lot of wisdom being poured👏👏👏

  • @charlesisabirye9128
    @charlesisabirye9128 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much. Have been blessed!

  • @evelyneniwagaba1666
    @evelyneniwagaba1666 Жыл бұрын

    This came in time it was a good listen. Spoke to many other things am working thru with the holy spirit

  • @phillipmoggie2035
    @phillipmoggie2035 Жыл бұрын

    Thanx for the great insights @The Kitakas.

  • @prossyzalwango9107
    @prossyzalwango9107 Жыл бұрын

    I love listening to the Kitakas.

  • @susankamugasa8155
    @susankamugasa8155 Жыл бұрын

    Hey, you guys are doing a great job. Blessings, of course , you are already blessed.

  • @lornakigozi1747
    @lornakigozi1747 Жыл бұрын

    Too much Wisdom here, "being given and possessing what you have been given , are two different things" this is Deep! Blessings to yo' Marriage Ministry

  • @sarahnamwanje
    @sarahnamwanje Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for the words of wisdom I also thank God for leading me here

  • @flaviakamahoro4353
    @flaviakamahoro4353 Жыл бұрын

    Always waiting to watch and listen to the kitakas

  • @musiimegloria4344

    @musiimegloria4344

    Жыл бұрын

    If he gave us the whole bread we would eat it all and lose ourselves along the way.

  • @RitahNasDr
    @RitahNasDr Жыл бұрын

    Love your sharing the nuggets of Christian living.

  • @patricianakigudde1579
    @patricianakigudde1579 Жыл бұрын

    I was looking forward to another podcast on Easter but hey alot took me up. But here I am . I am addicted to them and i love them both.

  • @romanogonza2128
    @romanogonza2128 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you againg for this podcast. Veey niice. Bless you🙏

  • @amutuheirenina6178
    @amutuheirenina6178 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much The Kitakas. May God continue to use you!

  • @thekitakas

    @thekitakas

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you.

  • @nakittohellen3934
    @nakittohellen3934 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the insightful message of purpose being led by the Spirit not circumstances may God bless you.

  • @busingyeemmanuel208
    @busingyeemmanuel208 Жыл бұрын

    Its always a great pleasure to listen to these two souls deeply rooted into God's kingdom especially the man additionally keeping eyes on God,he will lead you,guid n order your footsteps into promised land to possess your possessions, OMG so powerful to be held by my mind.thanks so much blessings to your marriage

  • @ainomugishaglorias7221
    @ainomugishaglorias7221 Жыл бұрын

    Love you guys, follow every episode posted here.

  • @rhonahm8243
    @rhonahm8243 Жыл бұрын

    Waooooo.....This is great....Thank you.... You have really ministered to me, I love love love the last bit of keeping my eyes focused on Christ, I have been blessed.

  • @mariamkabagandale4041
    @mariamkabagandale4041 Жыл бұрын

    This is amazing, thank you the Kitakas

  • @thekitakas

    @thekitakas

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you too!

  • @louisekanyiginya6352
    @louisekanyiginya6352 Жыл бұрын

    "The cause is not enough for you to ignore the blueprint of marriage"... That's deep

  • @suziephaphie7019
    @suziephaphie7019 Жыл бұрын

    Ooh yes.. strongly being grounded..

  • @nagalonasandrajudith5702
    @nagalonasandrajudith5702 Жыл бұрын

    Mwebale kujja I needed this

  • @namatovujackline9825
    @namatovujackline9825 Жыл бұрын

    Every bit of this session is worth all the attention...am glad my friend Jessie recommended the Kitaka's❤😊

  • @thekitakas

    @thekitakas

    Жыл бұрын

    We are glad Jessie led you here and you willingly came 🙏! May the Lord continue to minister to you as only He can. -RK

  • @namatovujackline9825

    @namatovujackline9825

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen,thanks so much

  • @landry.irambona
    @landry.irambona Жыл бұрын

    Happy Easter the Kitakas🎉🥳

  • @sharonelizabeth5167
    @sharonelizabeth5167 Жыл бұрын

    Keep your eyes on God, I love your podcast

  • @leahMa94
    @leahMa94 Жыл бұрын

    It's a journey of learning and unlearning Each day a light is drawn in our future intended marriages. What a honor and blessing. In times when I personally searched for that couple to speak to my marital destiny and guess what God answered. Thank you

  • @thekitakas

    @thekitakas

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen!

  • @MiaAnena22
    @MiaAnena22 Жыл бұрын

    Love love love you guys😁

  • @nannozistella1045
    @nannozistella1045 Жыл бұрын

    Waoooo. Am fitting in.

  • @jennifermugisha-
    @jennifermugisha- Жыл бұрын

    There is a relationship between passion and purpose ❤

  • @teddy7786
    @teddy7786 Жыл бұрын

    Wonderful shana .. u are a blessing to your generation.. u will do well. We are so very proud of u .. always .. your friends .. Isaac and teddy ..

  • @thekitakas

    @thekitakas

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much.

  • @kijjambumosesouma
    @kijjambumosesouma Жыл бұрын

    So inspiring

  • @joannambi2263
    @joannambi2263 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @annetnassolo708
    @annetnassolo708 Жыл бұрын

    Too much wisdom here, thank you omwami no mukyala for sharing.. Watching from Addis Ababa

  • @thekitakas

    @thekitakas

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for watching all the way for Addis!

  • @mukizasamuel4486
    @mukizasamuel44865 ай бұрын

    Indeed unscripted and unfiltered hard conversations.

  • @noeliakukundakwe1846
    @noeliakukundakwe18463 ай бұрын

    Powerful

  • @makenakiki946
    @makenakiki946 Жыл бұрын

    Wow wow what a powerful, revelation filled session. God bless you the Kitakas. Taken so much from this.

  • @victoriabyoona4445
    @victoriabyoona4445 Жыл бұрын

    Confidence in God is key.

  • @chisechechijingu1614
    @chisechechijingu1614 Жыл бұрын

    So deeep❤

  • @sherrywilliams3691
    @sherrywilliams3691 Жыл бұрын

    Happy Easter my role models

  • @paskaziatumwesigye1534
    @paskaziatumwesigye1534 Жыл бұрын

    The steps of a just man are ordered by God. The Just man shall live by faith. Thanks Man...ahh...Gad

  • @prossynambooze
    @prossynambooze Жыл бұрын

    The kitakaz i love your messages may God contiue to give u wisdom.

  • @thekitakas

    @thekitakas

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen.

  • @mukizasamuel4486
    @mukizasamuel44865 ай бұрын

    The last segment, in contextualising the lights going off, if you had the vision for something in beginning and something shakes you then you may fall of course.

  • @mukizasamuel4486
    @mukizasamuel44865 ай бұрын

    The enemy can only distruct you enough and you go off course.

  • @Patty_k
    @Patty_k Жыл бұрын

    24 year old here and praying for a rooted spouse. Thank you for the conversation. 💜

  • @thekitakas

    @thekitakas

    Жыл бұрын

    Great decision Trish. May the Lord grant you the desires of your heart as you delight in Him!

  • @Patty_k

    @Patty_k

    Жыл бұрын

    @@thekitakas Amen🙏

  • @kayvin9841
    @kayvin9841 Жыл бұрын

    I am challenged as a man. I need to be grounded in my walk with God

  • @akundatezra7472
    @akundatezra7472 Жыл бұрын

    Shana u dnt luk 40 actually u luk 20's banange when ur in Christ he even makes u young greater is he that is in mi and u than who dat is in the world

  • @ninsiimajosephine5881
    @ninsiimajosephine5881 Жыл бұрын

    I thank God I am not settling. ❤

  • @annettewere4843
    @annettewere4843 Жыл бұрын

    Hahahaha you two please it's OK to touch affectionately, its part of the art of communication in marriage. But anyways, it's good to listen to you two again& particularly refreshing to hear Mr. Kataka on these issues (& the way he passes by some deep messages yet in a subtle way), because the men's hearts are often missing in most conversations. May I be found to be relevant (indispensable) in our marriage, so help me God.

  • @nambisusan9412
    @nambisusan9412 Жыл бұрын

    Wulululu olunaku mulindwa

  • @Abahoalex840
    @Abahoalex840 Жыл бұрын

    Small small question to Mr.Kitaka. Can I 'kutambula' to Aristoc or anywhere in Kampala that's nearer than the 'Amazon'?

  • @thekitakas

    @thekitakas

    Жыл бұрын

    Not yet :) but when you are able to, we will definitely let you know.

  • @mwebazecharles
    @mwebazecharles Жыл бұрын

    Assignments are changed it’s only gifts that are without repentance! Physical laws(Ugandan)are changed only spiritual and natural laws are solid but besides that you people are mantled❤️✊

  • @thekitakas

    @thekitakas

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Ssebo, for the insight regarding the mutability of assignments. Any examples of men in the Bible whose assignments were changed? When a law is passed I understand decisions are made on it as a foundation. If the law gets amended, would it invalidate the prior decisions or would they remain valid on the basis of the prior state of the law?

  • @gordonmoguljb
    @gordonmoguljb Жыл бұрын

    Let me ask Mr. Kitala. Have you ever been or grown up in kazo past bwaise past St. Luke church, you look like some one i have ever seen from kazo west, my mind has not settled and i need to know if i know you, any idea about kazo west, kazo parents, besides that, I love you the Kitakas

  • @akundatezra7472
    @akundatezra7472 Жыл бұрын

    The Kitakas one thing i wana tell u is dat God knos about u and he will cme for u

  • @lutaayam
    @lutaayam14 күн бұрын

    Sounds like there was a lot of taming that Rukshana had to go through

  • @MsGratefulgal
    @MsGratefulgal Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for engaging us😊 Could it be an assignment/purpose in Ecclesiastes 12:13-14 & Matthew 28:18-20? If we are not sure of our purpose, God is willing to teach us step by step as He took time to teach Moses. We spend a whole life learning and unlearning. Daily/hourly/moment by moment surrender/submission to the Great teacher and trust in Him will enable us to be positioned in our places. (Position of Obedience/Position of sitting at the feet of Jesus for all children of God: young and old, gentiles and jews) To Zacchaeus on top of the tree🌳, Jesus said to him to come down/calm down. To busy Martha, Jesus asked her to sit and enjoy the Heavenly Manna that gives everlasting life. Some of the Be's🐝 and other small pollinators🐞 below help us to open the floodgates of blessings: Be obedient, Be respectful, Be reverent, Be humble, Be grateful, Be thoughtful Song: Trust And Obey When we walk with the Lord, in the light of His Word, What a glory He sheds on our way! While we do His good will, He abides with us still, And with all who will trust and obey. Chorus: Trust and obey, for there’s no other way To be happy in Jesus, but to trust and obey. ... Thank you once again. More grace upon you.

  • @proviaaudrey5273

    @proviaaudrey5273

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you lord for this message. Am blessed

  • @violahyusufu1966
    @violahyusufu1966 Жыл бұрын

    I wanted to attend the class but the English is not my level 😅😅

  • @thekitakas

    @thekitakas

    Жыл бұрын

    But Viola :), you do know you can do all things through Christ who gives you strength! What is a little English?

  • @iam___endless
    @iam___endless Жыл бұрын

    what a blessed opportunity for me to listen to you before I join the institution of marriage. I do not take this lightly. Thank You For blessing me🤍

  • @ainez6464

    @ainez6464

    Жыл бұрын

    Talk about it, we are blessed. I am on it again, I am plugged 😅 into the Kitakas'

  • @iam___endless

    @iam___endless

    Жыл бұрын

    @@ainez6464 I am working as it is playing in the background. not me rewinding and rewinding to make sure I do not miss anything!

  • @ainez6464

    @ainez6464

    Жыл бұрын

    @@iam___endless Just know I had to pause my work, such that I absorb everything. I am not leaving my seat💺 (Mr. Kitaka), We are not to observe any lying vanities around because God's promises for us have not changed. Jeremiah 29:11. Let me fix my seat

  • @thekitakas

    @thekitakas

    Жыл бұрын

    I hope you were all able to finish with your work in time :). We are honored that you choose to plug into our conversations. May you be blessed more than you could ever ask for!

  • @ainez6464

    @ainez6464

    Жыл бұрын

    ​ Amazingly I finished my work😅, I hope @iam__endless also did the same. we are surely blessed by the work of God through you, Then comes in your character, discipline, curiosity and confidence, full package Mr. Kitaka. Just know we are tapping into too much

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