Treating Painful Memories
Fear, anxiety, and anger were essential to help keep our ancestors safe in a simple, savage world. But in our more modern world we often find that our emotional learning trips us up, and pushes us into 'survival mode' when there is no actual threat.
In this video I share an example of a client whose past was troubling his present, and I'll walk you through 2 techniques I used to help him leave anxiety-bringing memories in the past, where they belonged.
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Video highlights:
00:00 Introduction
00:18 A confident, anxious client
01:53 Why emotional learning was essential for our ancestors’ survival
03:42 Ghosts of an emotional past
05:13 Technique 1: The Helping Hand technique
05:33 Step 1 of the Helping Hand technique
06:44 Step 2: 'How are you different now?'
07:45 Step 3: Go back into the memory as you are now
09:48 Technique 2: The Sealed Envelope technique
10:50 Example 1: Cloud watching example
11:38 Example 2: 'Past showers bring future flowers'
12:10 Example 3: Lock away out of date feelings
12:48 Moving calmly into the future
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thank you keep doing this. youre helping not only the people who has trauma but this also makes us understand ourselves your channel is a gem
Wow, I need to work through this too. I had a meeting were the person who was supposed to be helping us with our business plan purposely induce trauma. We walked right into it when he brought up the cases he used to oversee in court then proceeded to scare us, and made us feel judged.
Hello I am a student. Your talks is really helpful. Thank you
Thankyou for all this insights. Your videos are truly useful as a practitioner.
Some painful memories can get worse over time, like cancer. Eats away at your soul every day.
This man has helped me so much. Thank you
Very good, helpful video. Thank you for sharing! Personally I think that in the "Seal the envelope" technique "locking away" old emotions/memories can a bit dangerous though. Can't they pop up anytime in the most unexpected situation when they're triggered strongly? I understand the experiment. It has a point. All I'm saying is that locking trauma away is not helpful long term. Or in the end, instead of just leaving that sealed envelope we could burn it. While burning we could visualize all the disturbing, low vibrational energies involved purifying & transforming into something that is positive for us right now. Or before/while burning it we can ask for those disturbing energies returning to their source, where they came from. My point is to put a real closure to the end. I love the first solution! Re-visiting the situation once we have it. And give support to our younger version in that challenging situation. It's been on my mind for years to try. I definitely will give it a go in meditations. I often think that the guardian angels & spiritual guides, etc are simply us, ourselves. Visiting another version of us. Giving support to ourselves. It makes so much sense & feels very Natural. Blessings on your way 🌟
Excellent as usual Mark for clients who have anxiety disorders but are not fully PTSD
Very helpfull :) This advice from Mark help me to solve how to thinking about some my problems in the past :) thank you a lot!
Super intelligent man.Knows how to deal with past emotions.
Thanks for the video! Regarding the Sealed Envelope technique: I know that there is a variation of this method that suggests burning the letter afterwards. Has anyone got experience which approach seemed to be more helpful for the clients? Burning it or sealing it and keeping it somewhere safe? Both of them seem to have their pros and cons...
You should have 1 million subscribers! Bless you for sharing your work!
Very good, clear summary of treating painful, intrusive subconscious memories and events. Thanks
Thank you Mark, another very helpful video.
“He was a well put together individual.” Nice to be clear from the outset that this isn’t going to apply to me.
@dididondon555
3 жыл бұрын
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Yes. I did find it useful. Thank you.
Thanks for your help informative videos Mark! Could you please teach some techniques for trauma of accident. As it’s ongoing face streets and cars how do we manage our anxiety on the road
Many, many thanks. Much appreciated
Very useful personally, thank you.
Can you do some videos on the Person-Centred Experiential Counselling for Depression modality please?
This doesn't help me. I think I have Autism because I have hundreds of memories that cause me anxiety. I sometimes dream about them or relive them consciously and I feel the same pain and angst that I felt sometimes 50 years ago. I have had a trematic childhood and I was beaten a lot. I am constantly fighting these battles in my mind, what can I do? Please help me.
@naemasufi
Жыл бұрын
yes, I completely understand that. You can look at Rebecca Mandevilles book on trauma. Its very helpful. Its very important to know that this was so wrong and you never deserved it.
Your thoughts and feelings makes you who you are.
Hasn't anyone ever told you all of you to just stop thinking about it? Hopefully you all my sarcasm here. . . !