Trauma Expert: GENERATIONS of PAIN Lives In Your Body. Do THIS to Break Free! | Dr Mariel Buqué

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Dr. Mariel Buqué, a psychologist and intergenerational trauma expert, takes us on a profound journey towards healing. Dr. Buqué's holistic clinical approach, which blends ancient healing practices with modern therapy, empowers listeners to break the cycle of intergenerational trauma.
In this episode, you will learn how to heal trauma without medication, recognize trauma within your body, and calm your nervous system with practical techniques. Dr. Buqué also delves into the impact of unaddressed trauma on our relationships and how to navigate healing when one partner is ready, but the other isn't.
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0:00 Intro
1:06 Healing trauma without medication
4:44 Working through generational trauma when it resurfaces
5:53 How to recognize trauma in your body
8:20 The greatest gift a parent can give their child
11:30 The most harmful thing about trauma?
18:33 Fitting your healing into a busy lifestyle
20:15 How our inner wounds affect our loved ones
22:58 Becoming a better parent
25:24 Practical techniques to calm your nervous system
27:19 Supporting a partner that doesn't want to heal
30:32 The hardest trauma to overcome
37:20 The risk of not healing your inner child
42:18 Is trauma genetic?
49:57 How medication can heal trauma
54:52 The power of positive reinforcement
1:07:32 The true danger of emotional baggage in new relationships
1:09:54 What do you personally struggle with?
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  • @lewishowes
    @lewishowes5 ай бұрын

    Thanks to Dr. Buqué for sharing her knowledge with the Greatness community! Leave a “YES” if you enjoyed this and share your biggest takeaway. Make sure to subscribe to never miss out on inspiring content like this again kzread.info

  • @ChristalAllen

    @ChristalAllen

    5 ай бұрын

    Love her suggestions for how to help our kids regulate without "therapy talk"

  • @john-michaelwilliamsjr.9408

    @john-michaelwilliamsjr.9408

    5 ай бұрын

    ❤ 🙏 💯

  • @hamassehdaneshzad9513

    @hamassehdaneshzad9513

    5 ай бұрын

    This was so beautiful to listen to both you and Dr.Buqué were so insightful I learned so much and I think I will be listening to this program time and time again and put it in practice 🙏🏼

  • @VeronicaC57

    @VeronicaC57

    5 ай бұрын

    Yes ❤

  • @jangriffin-fi1yx

    @jangriffin-fi1yx

    5 ай бұрын

    ❤ YES ❤ Love & look after yourself then you can turn all around "rise above it all". Find what way makes you happy to have the peace, you seek in life. Stop worrying, nothing that bad that you can't live with, put it to mind answers come to you effortlessly "always seek & you will find". Live the life that makes you happy, don't let others pull you down ever no matter what. Do your best, if you do right things in life you can't go too far wrong. Appreciate your beautiful life, there's always someone in the world worse off than you. If someone has wronged you doesn't mean you have to do same back, just make sure you don't pull yourself down to their level - all is taken care of without doing a thing, remember no-one gets away with doing wrong. Smile even when hurting, help others. Life's too short. Trust all's well ❤

  • @consultmlcesqful
    @consultmlcesqfulАй бұрын

    I was horrified when I discovered that my middle school son had been sleeping with a knife underneath his mattress, because of his fear that I was in a 4th violent relationship. (Repetition Compulsion?) He had pledged to himself that he would not let it happen again. He had decided to protect & defend me - as a child. That’s when I knew that it was time to escape. For years now, my son & I together haven been “doing the work!” I am stronger & better! So is he.

  • @sydneysweat37

    @sydneysweat37

    15 күн бұрын

    Kids really make us grow for the better.

  • @margaret9973

    @margaret9973

    3 күн бұрын

    May God be with you through your journey.

  • @andreamarie1985
    @andreamarie19853 ай бұрын

    This is so true! I talked with my grandmother about her upbringing, parents, and grandparents. All those generations of my family, and they're all broken and traumatized people. I’ve finally had enough of this cycle. I’m changing myself and setting a better example for my family. It's time to own all this bad behavior and heal.

  • @Lucy11_11

    @Lucy11_11

    16 минут бұрын

    Bravo and same here ❤🙏🏾

  • @yohanj627
    @yohanj6275 ай бұрын

    two years will fly by! Do the work friends! It will be worth it for you and your loved ones

  • @number1angel66

    @number1angel66

    5 ай бұрын

    I agree 100% and it will be well worth the effort!

  • @hermelybernardino3612

    @hermelybernardino3612

    5 ай бұрын

    I'll begin the work now,hope to go back here 2 years later😌,successful

  • @sprooced345

    @sprooced345

    5 ай бұрын

    I'm totally in.

  • @rahwa138

    @rahwa138

    5 ай бұрын

    I don't know where to begin. I really want to work on myslef 😢

  • @yohanj627

    @yohanj627

    5 ай бұрын

    @@rahwa138 hello. Sometimes the beginning is the hardest part. I’ve always been reminded to take baby steps at first to create momentum even if it’s headed towards the wrong direction the small baby steps will let you know to change your direction to a clearer direction. For me, because I had no idea how I felt how I reacted what I liked or what I disliked, I had to study and gain some knowledge about the conscious and the subconscious or triggers that caused me to emotionally spiral. you can do it. We are all fighting to become the best version of ourselves, so you are not alone my friend

  • @MandyJRoss
    @MandyJRoss3 ай бұрын

    If you're reading this I'm praying something amazing happens for you today.💗🙏🏼

  • @SmilingFlowerBouquet-yo5id

    @SmilingFlowerBouquet-yo5id

    3 ай бұрын

    Amen

  • @irenaz3282

    @irenaz3282

    3 ай бұрын

    Amen and amen 🙏🏿

  • @estgo7382

    @estgo7382

    3 ай бұрын

    Thank you, for you as well❤

  • @a_la_drinah

    @a_la_drinah

    3 ай бұрын

    Thx same

  • @kimberlysmith7145

    @kimberlysmith7145

    3 ай бұрын

    Aww,Thank you very much and I wish the same to you!!! 😊

  • @Olwethu100
    @Olwethu1004 ай бұрын

    She has such a beautiful air about her. So admirable

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    4 ай бұрын

    🧡

  • @luzluna6808

    @luzluna6808

    2 ай бұрын

    Yes she does.

  • @iamnotmyhandle

    @iamnotmyhandle

    2 ай бұрын

    Healing does that! 🙏🏾💚

  • @davidm4525

    @davidm4525

    2 ай бұрын

    No she doesn't

  • @Slim474-nx6jo

    @Slim474-nx6jo

    2 ай бұрын

    My thoughts exactly!!

  • @ShuntaDaGawd._._-
    @ShuntaDaGawd._._-3 ай бұрын

    literally took me 5yrs to release old learned dogmatic beliefs,forgiveness to many who disrespected me as a child,loving myself again & gaining more courage to leave anything n anyone alone not aligned with my peace also core values…. im 45 so how ever long it take you to start your self awareness journey willl be that much longer to heal your mind

  • @S.MULLINS

    @S.MULLINS

    Ай бұрын

    Depends on the individual, there is no one size fits all in how long it takes to heal.

  • @bdecillis420

    @bdecillis420

    Күн бұрын

    Love this

  • @brianhepke7182
    @brianhepke71825 ай бұрын

    One of my mantras: "thank you for my health, thank you for my healing".

  • @v10letv1xen9

    @v10letv1xen9

    5 ай бұрын

    That's what I say too!!! ❤❤ Puts me in a better mind set for the day

  • @brianhepke7182

    @brianhepke7182

    5 ай бұрын

    @v10letv1xen9 It plays a part of my "prayer" ritual as soon as I open my eyes every morning. Giving thanks for everything dear to me in my life. Too numerous to mention here. Giving thanks brings on more of what you are grateful for.

  • @keerthynair5961

    @keerthynair5961

    4 ай бұрын

    Thank you God for everything 🙏

  • @jangriffin-fi1yx

    @jangriffin-fi1yx

    4 ай бұрын

    @@v10letv1xen9 Definitely does ❤ I will always give thanks to our Great Creator God, Jesus "Wholly Spirit", Guardian Angels, Spiritual Guides & all my loved ones who have passed ❤ for giving me my life & for all the things (& more) that they did for me, will never forget them ever ❤

  • @BobbyGreyEagle
    @BobbyGreyEagle4 ай бұрын

    45:20 - Tribal elders believe this too; trauma goes back seven generations, but they also believe if the individual heals themselves, they heal those past generations, the present and future generations. They say it's a powerful moment--I've been doing a lot of work on myself lately to ensure this powerful moment ripples to the past and future.

  • @kjbkjhkjhjk7775

    @kjbkjhkjhjk7775

    8 күн бұрын

    so beautiful :)

  • @zina8562

    @zina8562

    2 күн бұрын

    So happy for you, wishing you continued blessings ❤

  • @Dr.MarielBuque
    @Dr.MarielBuque5 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for this beautiful conversation Lewis! And thank you everyone for your kind comments and feedback. May you heal abundantly!

  • @lr8504

    @lr8504

    5 ай бұрын

    Your voice and demeanor was so calming and enjoyable even with the subject matter! Thank you

  • @christhomas-asevado5212

    @christhomas-asevado5212

    4 ай бұрын

    Thank you for explaining so gently and eloquently Dr. Buque. We need more exposé about generational trauma. Thank you.

  • @Viijack

    @Viijack

    4 ай бұрын

    Thank you Doc. for sharing this very important conversation with us. I've personally struggled with childhood traumas from possibly 2 generations up thus this discussion has really been helpful in me identifying the root causes and cutting them off. This ends with me. ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @susannas495

    @susannas495

    4 ай бұрын

    I love the way this is so kindly communicated. Such a genuine ✨️ person. Emotionally intelligent and also practical and highly intelligent. ❤

  • @Dr.MarielBuque

    @Dr.MarielBuque

    4 ай бұрын

    @@susannas495 such kind words, thank you!

  • @reneewallace8079
    @reneewallace80795 ай бұрын

    Teaching a child to vet people - set boundaries and hold their standards. I love advocacing for systematic change for your children in any community. Let's protect them.

  • @RemnantRevivalMinistries

    @RemnantRevivalMinistries

    5 ай бұрын

    Wow, this comment was so needed!!! What you just stated could actually save many from trauma induced ptsd, and other mental and emotional issues due to trauma and even narcissistic abuse. Boundaries are definitely key. Wish I would've been given the wisdom of setting boundaries.

  • @oaktreedialogues6318

    @oaktreedialogues6318

    3 ай бұрын

    Yes! This is very practical and needed advice that needs to be told. Thank you for this gold nuggett!

  • @Alkemiss

    @Alkemiss

    2 ай бұрын

    Vetting & learning how to set boundaries are things I wished I learned earlier on as child. Those 2 key components can boost trust & high self esteem in oneself

  • @user-wq9ys5ub9t

    @user-wq9ys5ub9t

    2 ай бұрын

    Jesus Christ is the transformative healer of mental , emotional, physical and spiritual trauma and chronic pain that's rooted in sinful relations❤️

  • @Awaken218

    @Awaken218

    2 ай бұрын

    I love this. I’m 50 and when I was coming up I was forced to be around horrible people. No one listened to my feelings and how I didn’t want to be around them. “Children are to be seen and not heard” was the Boomer quote for adults. I love that things are getting so much healthier.

  • @artisticagi
    @artisticagi5 ай бұрын

    5:55 how to do a trauma assessment 6:10 a knot in the stomach is the nervous system turning on 9:14 the first step is telling the story and seeing how our body responds 9:32 step two is relaxation 10:30 if not addressed it can be disease

  • @artisticagi

    @artisticagi

    5 ай бұрын

    19:50 takes 200 repetitions to reset nervous system

  • @excelant

    @excelant

    5 ай бұрын

    Easiest way is to recall an event and once you feel a body reaction you have to keep feeling that so that feeling will flow freely and clear from your body. Usually at the end the memory of the event will be recalled clearly as it is released.

  • @MsJiguur

    @MsJiguur

    5 ай бұрын

    🙏🏻 thank you Happy new year ✨

  • @AwesomeMe47

    @AwesomeMe47

    3 ай бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @KarimKarim-xy9py
    @KarimKarim-xy9py4 ай бұрын

    She’s so calm and relaxed. Beautiful woman. She appears so compassionate and genuine.

  • @tnt01
    @tnt015 ай бұрын

    Love her calming vibe.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    So calming

  • @staejaye1910

    @staejaye1910

    5 ай бұрын

    Same

  • @TeaRose9

    @TeaRose9

    5 ай бұрын

    Yes, yesss and her high emotional intelligence.

  • @opuerembee2684

    @opuerembee2684

    4 ай бұрын

    Yes..I love it

  • @nobodynothing2594

    @nobodynothing2594

    3 ай бұрын

    Your Body Keeps the Score ! The Body Scans is done in Vipassana Meditation technique

  • @HappyCat1111
    @HappyCat11115 ай бұрын

    I entirely agree with her definition of greatness. Life can kick you down in so many ways, but it’s also n getting back up that we achieve greatness. Finding that courage deep within to keep going no matter how hard, no matter the odds. That is true greatness. And for anyone who has been kicked down in life, I see you, I believe in you, and never give up. Always bet on you!

  • @a-k9161

    @a-k9161

    2 ай бұрын

    Meow

  • @114Patty
    @114Patty4 ай бұрын

    46:35 “A scent takes you back…” My father has been gone (passed away) for over 44 years but when I smell Old Spice, I recall his hugs and smiles. Yes scent is powerful.

  • @davidm4525

    @davidm4525

    2 ай бұрын

    I'm sure he's looking up at you right now

  • @emmasarge4057

    @emmasarge4057

    2 ай бұрын

    Me too!

  • @vsandoval4900

    @vsandoval4900

    Ай бұрын

    Right, one day I walked and one lady passing by me and I smell cilantro 🌿 omg very strong she has a very big cilantro plant and I go back to my childhood and seconds and I remember my grandpa , at the moment I was very sad for something and the same moment I said you are here thank you ❤

  • @kareema2001

    @kareema2001

    Ай бұрын

    😢same here

  • @ShanteaSimone
    @ShanteaSimone5 ай бұрын

    Healing is definitely a continuous journey

  • @MifupaMikavu23
    @MifupaMikavu235 ай бұрын

    She's so gentle.

  • @manmindersidhu7936

    @manmindersidhu7936

    5 ай бұрын

    I agree

  • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499
    @buddhaneosiddhananda84995 ай бұрын

    My guru taught me..."Healing through helpfulness..." he said... "Doctors and medication aren't necessary..."🎉🎉

  • @mr_jmartin4774

    @mr_jmartin4774

    Ай бұрын

    That’s stupid. Doctors & medicine are absolutely necessary. & have been thru the annals of time. There have always been shamed & doctors in our tribes. They are as much a gift and blessing as any other good thing on this planet. You all gain just a a smidge of awareness & take things too far. Look at Lewis’ team even supporting this ridiculous comment.

  • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499

    @buddhaneosiddhananda8499

    Ай бұрын

    @@mr_jmartin4774 In days of yore a medicine man/woman would be a herbalist and a shaman... etc. Hippocrates was a natural therapist himself...😇😇

  • @sydneysweat37

    @sydneysweat37

    15 күн бұрын

    Helpfulness? Like spreading kindness to others?

  • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499

    @buddhaneosiddhananda8499

    15 күн бұрын

    @@sydneysweat37 Like... make yourself useful... contribute to the betterment of others and keep serving forever... service is love in action...

  • @sydneysweat37

    @sydneysweat37

    15 күн бұрын

    @@buddhaneosiddhananda8499 for me, this attitude is part of what has given me trauma. It seems that people take this for granted and treat you unkind. That is traumatizing tbh.

  • @MrVvvo
    @MrVvvoАй бұрын

    You are taking over the conversation at times Lewis. You invite an expert, although you might be as well, but let them shine pls and share their knowledge to the top of their extent. That's why I tune into you account.

  • @pamakinyi285

    @pamakinyi285

    20 күн бұрын

    I agree. Let the expert speak please, the disruptions are so distracting. Great convo.

  • @pamelardz07

    @pamelardz07

    19 күн бұрын

    He asks great questions though

  • @guerlinemacean3684
    @guerlinemacean36842 ай бұрын

    My cup of tea. Healing w/ no meds

  • @skywilliams323
    @skywilliams3234 ай бұрын

    I'm in my sixties and I've been through a lot as a young man emotionally but I started doing yoga in the nineties thanks to a friend who gave me a book.I have to say that it has been very helpful I still practice it and I just feel the inner peace within myself because I also have a younger wife and three children and I just tell them everyday that I love them because I believe true love helps with truma.

  • @christyford162

    @christyford162

    2 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this information

  • @FindYourFree

    @FindYourFree

    Ай бұрын

    beautiful...Yoga has been major in chikdhood trauma healing process

  • @daisyspicks
    @daisyspicks5 ай бұрын

    Only 15 minutes in and I already got soooo much from it. Your questioning is incredible as always Lewis. ❤

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    Glad it resonated

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you! Appreciate you for watching!

  • @malindateal14
    @malindateal1421 күн бұрын

    That is the first time I’ve ever heard somebody talk about when you go see a therapist you have to relive your story. I literally dropped out because I thought it was ridiculous and awful. I’m just glad to be validated through what you said in the beginning of this. Thank you.

  • @jessenoelle262
    @jessenoelle2625 ай бұрын

    Loved this. I grew up in and out of therapy. Learning about trauma healing as an adult is what's changing my life. I like how Dr. Buque talked about having patience with family being one of her challenges. Kathleen Smith said in her book "Everything Isn't Terrible" that if you can learn how to manage anxiety around your family, then you can manage it anywhere. I felt that 😂❤

  • @susanlongworth1699

    @susanlongworth1699

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for telling me that! My sisters triggered me for years! I finally got a therapist to help me unpack the pain! New tools and finally peace inside!

  • @chriestinenpape

    @chriestinenpape

    5 ай бұрын

    This is my issue, I am seeing a therapist now to heal my childhood wounds .I want to be a better person for myself and people around me also a better parent for my kids.Thank you for sharing.

  • @f.schmid468
    @f.schmid4685 ай бұрын

    The quality of her huming as a sign of listening and understanding is so authentic empathic and soothing❤

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    🧡

  • @kiawilliams753
    @kiawilliams7535 ай бұрын

    As a parent of a 6 and 4 year old who has had the experience of toxic parental interactions in the presence of my children I am really grateful to you for asking this question Lewis. I've wondered hundreds of times on hundreds of days about what I can do to help my children heal and recover from the trauma of experiencing unhealthy relationship patterns and toxic communication that has been passed down through generational trauma. Thank you!

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    You are welcome

  • @petraalt4006
    @petraalt40065 ай бұрын

    Oh my God that is great I’ve been in therapy for 20+ years and I’ve gone to all kinds of therapy types of therapy and I used to be suicidal bulimic have anxiety and depression and I got rid of everything and my daughter has anxiety my son has depression so pass that onto them but I overcame it and I think that’s exactly what happened I’ve done so much intense work on myself and it was hell I had major panic attacks I had to take medication for panic attacks and I overcame everything I think I healed myself from the generational trauma but it didn’t take two years it took20 and by the grace of God I have gotten rid of these

  • @niabimkubwa3720

    @niabimkubwa3720

    2 ай бұрын

    I totally 7nderstans. It took me just as long. Being the only one to walk the path, showing up in family and friendship circles that presented resistance to my decision. That was so intense.

  • @annastone5624
    @annastone56245 ай бұрын

    It’s not just that we ‘feel vulnerable’ ..we ARE vulnerable - until we develop a life set up and personal empowerment that enables us to keep dangerous and manipulative people away from us. That takes a lot of learning and we need a lot expert support - we have so many blind spots and wounding that it’s so easy for predators to pick us out of a crowd while all those around us don’t know what we’re anxious about, because they are safe and don’t get preyed upon.

  • @number1angel66

    @number1angel66

    5 ай бұрын

    Very true. I have been doing a lot of internal work and am still learning how to not become a victim again. It is a struggle for sure. Blessings of love and light to all!

  • @ComicallyDivine

    @ComicallyDivine

    Ай бұрын

    ​@@number1angel66 agreed🤍

  • @kjbkjhkjhjk7775

    @kjbkjhkjhjk7775

    8 күн бұрын

    yes

  • @getreadywithmemamma6973
    @getreadywithmemamma69732 ай бұрын

    Look at Lewis go!! I also came from intense emotional abuse from a parent and it’s been twenty years of healing with abundant fruit. It is 1,00000000 percent work. There is no other way but through and that is the hero story. Good job man, you’re heavy hitting in the emotional growth world. And Namaste, this woman is a Goddess. Dear wow, you can feel the wisdom and breath and goodness flowing from her. What a great way to bring peace to the world at large. Loved this. 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

  • @sidney836
    @sidney83629 күн бұрын

    Just realized why you interrupted her so much because this topic hit home with you so much. I apologize for my earlier comment of saying to "let her talk, shes the expert". I hope you heal from your trauma just like Im determined to heal from mine❤❤❤

  • @zm5524
    @zm55245 ай бұрын

    I'm currently living this journey as we breath....YOU CAN DO IT....

  • @Kt_bb
    @Kt_bb5 ай бұрын

    Not even 10 mins in and this woman has brought up so many valid points that deeply resonated with me,specifically to what she was speaking on with going to see a therapist.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for being here!

  • @apelilab5439
    @apelilab54393 ай бұрын

    I was 16 yrs old when I was legally able to be emancipated from my parents. In my 50's now and continually learning and evolving in the healing journey.

  • @sonyaberkenpas5071
    @sonyaberkenpas50712 ай бұрын

    “We cannot heal what we cannot see.” 💥💥💥🙏🏽

  • @user-ko4ve6bu5o

    @user-ko4ve6bu5o

    26 күн бұрын

    We can't heal if we can't feel

  • @goodxwolf

    @goodxwolf

    11 күн бұрын

    … we can’t heal what we can’t - and more so if we aren’t willing - to see.

  • @stevenkovler5133
    @stevenkovler51334 ай бұрын

    I was traumatized by an abusive 2nd marriage. I had a panic attack in Nov. 2021 after about a year of abuse. I was bankrupted by her and that plus work pressure and her emotional and physical abuse destroyed me. I have been suffering with anxiety, ptsd and depression since then. It is awful. Put the now ex wife is trying to get me and my family to rescue her from all her financial issues. I am Trauma Bonded and have a hard time walking away. My brain tells me that if I had $200k I would be able to get out of debt and get my life back. But , I also know I have to really heal myself.

  • @christyford162

    @christyford162

    2 ай бұрын

    I hope you’ve made some headway in getting out of this situation and with your own healing …

  • @UteNagel

    @UteNagel

    2 ай бұрын

    Hard to understand, I had a Boyfriend who was like this to his ex! He hurt me big time running and helping a abuser! Now finely I understand! Hope you heal!

  • @joychambers1683
    @joychambers16834 ай бұрын

    This is an interesting conversation, it makes me confirm that salvation is the best choice and that’s what gives us the higher self and inner peace. Our maker knows what’s best for us. So awesome to know how the world is zeroing in on the aspects of the faith. Love it.

  • @brendamitchell5030
    @brendamitchell50305 ай бұрын

    Yes, I learned why a person who had the American dream still felt worthless and self destructive; I learned the importance and meaning of compassion, ❤

  • @melissajones8824
    @melissajones88242 ай бұрын

    Thanks for this. I once read a quote that the most beautiful gift a parent can give to a child, the absence of working through terrible childhood for the rest of their life. This quote stuck with me. It is the absolute truth. The gift of a normal loving childhood lays a foundation for a child to excel in life. I think the biggest thing people miss is that once your childhood is damaged, you will spend the rest of your life working through it and healing. And yes, it does get better, but the work and healing process is for a lifetime.

  • @robingodfreyphotography7115
    @robingodfreyphotography71155 ай бұрын

    Lewis, In every exchange, your skill in asking the right questions sparks a deeper understanding, and I find myself learning and growing through your conversations with your guests. Your insightful inquiries not only illuminate the topics at hand but also create an engaging and enriching experience for those involved. Thank you for consistently bringing depth and clarity to your discussions. I truly value the knowledge and perspective you share.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much 😊

  • @Enchantress91

    @Enchantress91

    5 ай бұрын

    AGREED!

  • @user-od5ki5km1i

    @user-od5ki5km1i

    5 ай бұрын

    Yes, totally agree! I learn communication skills ... drawing out more information to conceptualize ... that's what makes the 'greatness' so good! Good variety and collection of knowledgeable guests as well♡

  • @danacubano6794
    @danacubano67944 ай бұрын

    I started therapy this year and it's been an experience. I want to run but I want to heal more.

  • @jenniferwootten3632
    @jenniferwootten363214 күн бұрын

    I heard the greatest gift you could give a child is your happiness...As much as i loved my son i have to admit what I excuded from my inner core was my pain and bitterness about life. So sad he ran away as far as he could from me. I pray he finds compassion and forgiveness in his heart and know that it was never my intent to cause him harm in any way. 💔💕💞

  • @leilanewman6224
    @leilanewman62245 ай бұрын

    This is the most beautiful and heartwarming podcast I’ve ever seen! Dr Buquê has the gift of sharing her knowledge with great calmness and warmth! Easy to understand and practice! Thank you. ❤

  • @traveloasis8389
    @traveloasis83893 күн бұрын

    She has the energy of a gifted healer. She’s the featured guest but I admire the way she hangs back and listens to Lewis without once cutting him off. Her insights into human behavior and trauma is very enlightening.

  • @kajsaohlson2550
    @kajsaohlson25504 ай бұрын

    Do this for two years and you will never want to stop as its so wonderful to fall in love with yourself. And evolving is so freaking fun and exciting!❤

  • @MamaCancer23
    @MamaCancer23Ай бұрын

    Been doing the work over 3 years! Starting off it was brutal 😫😫 but now I live with more peace & trust for life. Start the work, it’ll be worth it!! ❤

  • @annedumornay95
    @annedumornay955 ай бұрын

    Thanks, Dr. Buqué for saying that as parents we need to becareful how we speak to our kids about body size. My dad always called me fat and this year I learned that I developed a binge eating disorder. This was so eye-opening. 💔

  • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

    @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

    5 ай бұрын

    I am sorry you experienced that... I wish you the best in your healing ❤

  • @Sarah-with-an-H

    @Sarah-with-an-H

    4 ай бұрын

    My mom always had something to say about my weight. Shes never even been a healthy weight herself. She trained me to avoid big emotions and to never bother to adress things with other people. It was always she told me shed handle it. And then shed give me the mom look whenever i would reach for food at a family function because i wasn't allowed to confront the abuse I faced within the family. What options did i have but to become a binge eater who used food to pacify very difficult emotions without any support to figure out ways to deal with my feelings in a healthy way. Im in my late 40's and disabled with many chronic conditions

  • @annedumornay95

    @annedumornay95

    4 ай бұрын

    @Sarah-with-an-H thanks for sharing. I admire your vulnerability. I pray 🙏🏾 for you're healing 💛

  • @laurajones1211
    @laurajones12112 ай бұрын

    Love this!! Being healed is a myth, its a process, start the journey and use those tools to help yourself be better and at peace ❤

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 ай бұрын

    Thank you for watching🧡

  • @FT-empress
    @FT-empress5 ай бұрын

    Congratulations Lewis on your engagement Lewis! Thank you for your resilience in providing meaningful insightful content!

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you

  • @alj2301
    @alj23015 ай бұрын

    This is so insightful and powerful. Breaking generational cycles and facing our own trauma is the THE work. We have to heal our Inner Child.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks for being here!

  • @nicolehill7481
    @nicolehill74813 күн бұрын

    Sheer devotion to healing and being at your best for especially your children was especially heightened after my abusive marriage..to not allow the chains of pain to continue generations after me. It is my “response ability” to do so. The work comes back to you ten fold ❤ you love better, connect better, and live so much more peacefully no matter the inevitable storms. It’s a beautiful harmony 🌈

  • @hikkikei
    @hikkikei5 ай бұрын

    This episode is therapeutic.

  • @carolyntuttle4731
    @carolyntuttle4731Ай бұрын

    Aw, my grandmother used to always hum. ❤

  • @susannas495
    @susannas4954 ай бұрын

    I love the way Lewis has also opened up here. This doctor has so much calm and emotional intelligence. I really loved listening to this. Often when I listen to similar people, I end up feeling more anxious 😟 as they communicate in an almost aggressive manner😮 I will listen to this several times ❤

  • @monacaltabiano936
    @monacaltabiano9365 ай бұрын

    You are so brave, Lewis. You're right, you can heal and definitely live a life of abundance ❤

  • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

    @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

    5 ай бұрын

    yes! we all can! ❤

  • @LeileeBaker805

    @LeileeBaker805

    5 ай бұрын

    🤲💜

  • @sidofemous8131
    @sidofemous8131Ай бұрын

    Waiting for you to mention IBS related to Trauma , but you've mentioned Stomach issues. Thanks a million for this topic

  • @mariloucruz6238
    @mariloucruz62385 ай бұрын

    Practice of meditation and yoga helps me in my healing journey, yoga is more of work in than work out, innerwork! Keeps affirming that i am a work in progress! Solitude and doing solo travelling makes me strong and resilient. More inner peace and harmony with myself❤ love, peace, joy and healing everyone! Namaste✌️

  • @cbutlermk
    @cbutlermk5 ай бұрын

    ❤ she’s a strong, grounded and insightful woman! Thank you

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @AliGa344
    @AliGa344Ай бұрын

    I know this has nothing to do with the video, but as soon as I started listening to this amazing woman, I knew she was a fellow Dominican.

  • @rosesinhouston
    @rosesinhouston5 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much Lewis for brining this guest and enlighting us. This video trulty answers my prayer, I have gone through various trapped emotions that have started coming to the surface. I didn't know how to process them and this video came up today just in time. Also as a parent, feeling so much guilt and shame for passing on many unhealthy habits to my child. I have to frequently remind myself to be gentle and patience with myself and not beat myself up while going through this process.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    🙏🙏🙏

  • @hazelthompson6563

    @hazelthompson6563

    3 ай бұрын

    Doctor: I am 69 years old and all my life I have been afraid of birds of every kind and Don't know why

  • @shaprinash7327
    @shaprinash73275 ай бұрын

    This was such a powerful podcast. I must say to even listen to understand what is actually going on with the majority of us in this world I myself experienced so much trauma, and even when I think I have gotten over that trauma I’m triggered by something or someone and then I have new traumas, that just sets me off all over again to where I feel like it’s a roller coaster and a repeat cycle of some form of trauma. It is definitely mentally a challenge to the point where you become suicidal in engulfed in rage not knowing which way to turn. Thankfully I work in healthcare, so I know what I’m feeling and try to take a deep breath and avoid dealing with the emotions at the time because they’re so overbearing, the pain that I feel is unreal. My last crying episode sent me into a panic attack where I was crying uncontrollably and my face went numb. I felt like I couldn’t breathe so this message in this podcast is so real and much needed. Thank you. 🙏🏽

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    You're welcome, thank you for watching and for sharing your thoughts🧡

  • @cloudsofwonder7004
    @cloudsofwonder70045 ай бұрын

    Self discipline Knowledge is for me listening to the pain acknowledging the triggers releasing Helps in whatever works to bring me to the Greatness within Amen ☘️

  • @elizabethabbruzzese
    @elizabethabbruzzese5 ай бұрын

    Thank you for being brave enough to share your story so you can help others. You truly have a heart of gold.

  • @sherliannquinn7753
    @sherliannquinn7753Ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for sharing, this had me crying. I started doing the wok, it’s challenging but my future self and family deserves a heal, loving version of me.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    Ай бұрын

    Appreciate you for watching!

  • @oaktreedialogues6318
    @oaktreedialogues63183 ай бұрын

    I didn't know humming is a nervous system regulation practice. Great to know!

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    3 ай бұрын

    🧡

  • @efraingaribay4731
    @efraingaribay47315 ай бұрын

    Thank you for reinforcing something I already had a hunch for. In peace is the way to live.

  • @meditacionesguiadasparaceo1790
    @meditacionesguiadasparaceo17904 ай бұрын

    What an episode! LOVE when you share practícal tools for everyday challenges!! Thanks both Lewis and Dr Buqué 🧘🏻🙏🏻

  • @emilywilliams9177
    @emilywilliams91775 ай бұрын

    Such a great episode! I’ll be listening to this one twice! Thank you Dr. Buqué and Lewis!

  • @muslimaismael1900
    @muslimaismael19005 ай бұрын

    @lewishowes I absolutely love all the questions you ask your guests to get such a clarity on the questions we as your audience have. Thank you!!!

  • @yolandagray-rozier6912
    @yolandagray-rozier69124 ай бұрын

    This conversation was so peaceful. I went on Amazon to order the book in hopes that it will help my son. Thank you.

  • @ifeomaagbogun
    @ifeomaagbogun3 ай бұрын

    Thank you for also helping me know it's very OK to relax and just keep radiating the light from inside -out

  • @bonnielindsay8989
    @bonnielindsay898921 күн бұрын

    Thank you for talking about trauma.

  • @julissarivas6992
    @julissarivas69925 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for this one!! ❤ it has taken my entire life to realize the cycles that I was repeating time and time again and it has been a struggle trying to figure out how to heal. It can feel so overwhelming at times. Lewis, thank you for always asking the best questions. ❤

  • @zodwaphindile4601
    @zodwaphindile4601Ай бұрын

    Thank you for shedding light on such an important topic. Childhood trauma may shape us, but it doesn't define us🥺. Let's spread love, understanding, and support to all those healing from their past. Together, we can create brighter tomorrows 😍❤️🤌🏽

  • @albatjay6841
    @albatjay68412 ай бұрын

    Also for my children. Amen and Amen.

  • @MATGO
    @MATGO3 ай бұрын

    Another great one Lewis...I think the greatest introduction to peace and calm is speaking to her!! Omg what a gem.

  • @onegreenenvy
    @onegreenenvy3 ай бұрын

    Tapping is great for release

  • @alexandraalbertz1442

    @alexandraalbertz1442

    2 ай бұрын

    It truly is

  • @utubeJunkie3
    @utubeJunkie35 ай бұрын

    Your questions are so full, wholesome, and everything I would have wanted to ask, and usually want to ask and the interviewers never get to. Thank you!

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @zakruma-allah986
    @zakruma-allah9863 ай бұрын

    This makes so much sense and explains a lot to why people behave the way they do

  • @arneliashort4647
    @arneliashort46475 ай бұрын

    She’s amazing. This was so helpful. Thank you both

  • @sweethorizons
    @sweethorizons2 ай бұрын

    I truly appreciate the transparency and supportive suggestions offered in this discussion. Thank you for changing lives one step at a time!!! Amazing ✨️

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 ай бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @-gordon3817
    @-gordon3817Ай бұрын

    WOW, WOW, WOWWWWWW!!! The nuggets imparted in this video are PRICELESS for every area of life. I'm at a lost for words to express how much this inspired me to continue the process of harmony & breaking my own generational cycles. This video would bring healing to countless families, marriages, children, & more. The information in this podcast was probably the most INCREDIBLE, INSIGHTFUL, & EDUCATIONAL video that I have ever seen regarding how we pass down toxic behaviors up to seven or more generations!!! And the things we can do to break those cycles, so we do not continue them into the next generation. Thank you Dr. Buque & Lewis for this life changing video! You are truly inspiring people. As a female business owner who is learning & practicing many of the tools that were mentioned in this video to help me cope with stress, better self-care, & more, this video was what I needed to go to the next level. I believe that the knowledge this video imparted would begin the catalyst for better harmony in every area of one's life. It is my hope that the message in this video will reach billions of people & begin the process for better marriages, children having more self-love, schools implementing more tools to help children, and more! Cheers, the U.S.

  • @VibrationalWealth
    @VibrationalWealth5 ай бұрын

    Dr. Buque, thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with all of us in the community. I am so grateful! 🙂

  • @frenchriviera2431
    @frenchriviera24315 ай бұрын

    She is amazing. Great job Lewis, thank you.🙏

  • @bajkezadecu-veselamastaoni8298
    @bajkezadecu-veselamastaoni82984 ай бұрын

    Lewis perfectly prepared for this episode and his observstions,conclusions are amazing!Well done!

  • @ikkarus87
    @ikkarus873 ай бұрын

    I took 8 years. Worth it

  • @marinedream9481
    @marinedream9481Ай бұрын

    She is truly lovely. I feel soothed just listening to her speak and you are very kind, authentic and your questions get straight to the heart of the matter. Thank you ✨

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    Ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

  • @najjee2
    @najjee23 ай бұрын

    I literally healed the pain that was lingering for weeks during this session. This therapy session was for me, i was looking for answers.I immediately called my therapist for a massage and booked one for.my child so we can peacefully go through this journey.Thank you so much

  • @carlalowe3387
    @carlalowe3387Ай бұрын

    The part about asking ourselves as parents what we can tell ourselves after a decade of parenting from an unhealthy nervous system… thank you for asking her that question needed to hear that!

  • @suramyasingh4529
    @suramyasingh45292 ай бұрын

    I totally loved how transparent you were during the whole episode. Dr Mariel has a beautiful aura to her. Learned so much from this single podcast, thanks Lewis for doing the great work.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    2 ай бұрын

    You're welcome,thank you for tuning in 🧡

  • @mcflonomcfloonyloo4197
    @mcflonomcfloonyloo41975 ай бұрын

    I run the same lines in my healing process, no meds!! Renewal Restore Rewire it's working 🙌✨️

  • @excelant

    @excelant

    5 ай бұрын

    Any hints?

  • @mcflonomcfloonyloo4197

    @mcflonomcfloonyloo4197

    5 ай бұрын

    @excelant Depends on what your dealing with, if you don't mind?

  • @yolandah3483
    @yolandah34834 ай бұрын

    Two beautiful souls unveiling the wisdom within the nervous system and the body respond. Big thank you to Mariel and Lewis.❤

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    4 ай бұрын

    You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @JayMFrequency
    @JayMFrequency5 ай бұрын

    This is amazing! I like the part about how retelling of ones past history can cause re-trauma, that's intelligent, she's the first Dr. I have seen that actually recognizes this, bravo! Thank you for this. :)

  • @alwayzjewels7449
    @alwayzjewels74495 ай бұрын

    This is such an invaluable conversation! And your questions were excellent! Thank you both for such insightful information!

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    🙏🙏

  • @jamiehuff9783
    @jamiehuff9783Ай бұрын

    This is such a beautiful conversation with the most incredibly valuable information. Thank you for sharing. The world needs more of this.

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    Ай бұрын

    So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @limmingming4022
    @limmingming40225 ай бұрын

    Dr Mariel is so graceful n stylish.❤❤❤

  • @anoukzuvin
    @anoukzuvin5 ай бұрын

    This channel is saving lives ❤

  • @lewishowes

    @lewishowes

    5 ай бұрын

    🧡

  • @amina0816
    @amina08163 ай бұрын

    This is a wonderful conversation and breakdown.

  • @elliebunbun4325
    @elliebunbun43252 ай бұрын

    I got chills… thank you both 🫶🙏

  • @deepali3227
    @deepali32275 ай бұрын

    U r doing an amazing work. I love the various contents u bring here. Trust me u r helping so many people.

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