Women: Spend a decade telling men that approaching them in almost any social gathering besides a bar is creepy and offensive. Men: Listen to women. Women: Why are men not approaching us anymore. Men:You told us not to. Women: No we didn't, you just aren't brave enough.

@HassanPoyo

Жыл бұрын

Some of them like to flip it on you and call you insecure

@ziyamalllikkk4557

Жыл бұрын

Lol we don't care. This woman is fooling you

@briar35981

Жыл бұрын

Very good SNA !!!!

@laturista1000

Жыл бұрын

Modern technology and creature comforts have made today's woman bitchy as hell. When the world goes to hell and we see world war 3 and violence and struggle everywhere, you will see those same women begging men to save them and protect them. These selfish broads have never been disciplined. The modern man in the modern feminist nations have always given women everything and received very little in return. Throw these hoes in slums of Afghanistan and watch how humbled they become

@markymarknj

Жыл бұрын

IKR!

Women be throwing slurs like "creepy" or "incel" around like its nothing

@abolisher

Жыл бұрын

not everyone can be the main character.

@325figgy

Жыл бұрын

Because it's a 'mans' problem, therefore, it is seen as 'nothing'. Until it becomes a problem for the women later on.

@Leukick

Жыл бұрын

I've never ever heard women actually use the word incel or even know that word exists. They always say creepy

@BandyAndysExcellentEssays

Жыл бұрын

The word "incel" is a fun word in my opinion

@ilai7893

Жыл бұрын

@@abolisher lol apparently girls can label guys as whatever they want (e.g. creep/ incel), meanwhile men can barely give a comment to a girl if she might even take it the wrong way. Hardly about being the "main character"

Bartender for 22 years. I've watched tens of thousands of strangers meet/pick up each other. For most women, the definition of a "creepy" guy is basically any man that they aren't immediately attracted to. Hot or rich guys can often get away with acting like a creep because they''re desired by women. There's a lot more of a chance of an average/below average guy getting called a creep for being nice than a hot guy would for actually acting like a creep. This is why guys think they have to have looks or money to even be able to have a chance with women. Because if you don't, the chances of you getting called "creepy" go WAY up.

@red-eye-traveller9218

11 ай бұрын

Well the 100k women in my city can fight for the 500 hot rich guys .Honestly enjoying the show 🍿

@hamilton9651

11 ай бұрын

That is precisely why I won't waste my time trying to find a woman to date. I prefer solitude and living by myself. I don't want or care about sex so I am truly free to live by myself without any concerns!

@shepardsmith3235

10 ай бұрын

No Tiki No Washee.

@vladimirputindreadlockrast812

10 ай бұрын

@@hamilton9651 Until you fall in love, and with someone who doesn't give you the time of day. Then, life will take a dark turn for you. You won't be looking for it, and you won't be expecting it.

@Halfdrummer

10 ай бұрын

Get your money up and go to the gym. Stop feeling sorry for yourself bruh

This happens to my son he is 28 very shy and a little awkward around women and gets labeled as a creep one time I was with him in a library he was just talking to a girl being nice after he left I was still there the girl told the library workers how creepy he was she did not know I was his mom I told her your not that great and you don’t deserve a nice guy.She was so shocked maybe I overreacted but I guess I was being a mama bear

@SomeGuyWhoPlaysGames333

8 ай бұрын

You’re a great mother.

@IrisLouise.

7 ай бұрын

Hes 28…..he should know better

@NHatemN

7 ай бұрын

​@@IrisLouise. Know what exactly?

@abrahamkentton3017

7 ай бұрын

​@@IrisLouise.Karen

@jacqueslee2592

5 ай бұрын

You have to accept that your son has lost already in the genetic competition. I am in my 30s as well and I never got lucky. The older you get most likely you realize that you are asexual or you are just naturally cast out from the gene pool due to natural selection. Well, he is 28 and most likely looks like a man now and I don't think you will find much women at this age group at a public library. Most likely he was talking to a high school girl unless you and he went to a college and university library. You have to accept your son as he is and accept that he most likely not be in a relationship no less a father. There are high schoolers and middle schoolers who are sexually active at a young age. If you are in your 20s and have not had a relationship or a sexual experience with a girl in this present modern day, it is best to say that as a man you have lost the genetic lottery.This was difficult on my parents as well, but I also accepted this fact of my reality that I will never get married, have a serious relationship or even a girlfriend, will never have sex unless I pay for it, and will never have children.

It's not fear of rejection, it's being tired of rejection.

@iElia

Жыл бұрын

become the man dthat doesnt get rejected

@robertdevoy3119

Жыл бұрын

@@iElia Easier said than done. Do you have any suggestions for becoming the man who doesn't get rejected?

@iElia

Жыл бұрын

@@robertdevoy3119 What i did is , Working on my goals, doing semen retention, workong out, keeping myself busy and whenever i liked someone i had 3 sentences i would ask their name age and number and after that i would keep the rest mystery if she wants to know more then we will plan a date

@AK-American

Жыл бұрын

@@robertdevoy3119 he is a Chad, look at his picture it doesn't comput with him.

@MikeyP109

Жыл бұрын

@@iElia semen retention? Lost credibility right there.

Talk to any guy that's actually had a woman overreact and accuse him of being creepy when approaching and he will tell you it's one of the worst things to ever happen to him. It just feels more risky than ever to approach these days.

@XX-bn9sf

Жыл бұрын

Exactly not just traumatic, but possibly life threatening, ending up in jail.

@rogersam1294

Жыл бұрын

Yup, women should take the L on this one culturally and start approaching guys. Start building up their own resilience to rejection approach. I worry about looking good then.

@initiatorhater0688

Жыл бұрын

@@rogersam1294 that would be nice but i don't see it happening, and a good benefit of women doing that, is that women never risk coming across as creepy or threatening like men do

@americancapitalist9094

Жыл бұрын

One of my friend’s marriages is falling apart leaving only a single friend who is semi-happily married. When the odds are that bad even if you succeed, then even bothering to approach when there are this many risks makes dating almost pointless.

@ShamanMcLamie

Жыл бұрын

Unless you have to see this woman everyday, than being considered creepy shouldn't be that big of an issue. It feels like crap in the moment, but once it's done it is done. You never have to see her again and you can move on.

100% rejection over the course of 10 years. Most of the time I barely opened my mouth before she would say "ewe" or "gross". I'm not afraid because of how ill feel anymore. I just realized it's absolutely pointless. I don't enjoy putting myself in bad situations intentionally and that's what it's become.

@TheFockerizer

Жыл бұрын

dont be afraid to stand up to the idiots who say "eewww" or "gross" i shouted at one and called her out as immature

@kerocar3004

11 ай бұрын

don't be ewe, just get ticket to any latin america country and buy a language course.

@_earthvisitor333

10 ай бұрын

so sorry for you:( i had a guy approach me , but he wasn't my type at all and a bit too old, but i was nice to him and said how much i appreciated his bravery for coming to me and making compliments. i told him to never give up and soon he will find his perfect partner. he looked disapointed as well but i told him, he did perfect but i wasn't the right one unfortunatly. guess when the right one shows up, she will smile at you or let you know trough the signs that she likes you.

@TheFockerizer

10 ай бұрын

​@@_earthvisitor333 "when the right one shows up" aaahh the dicotomy of control - things we can control and the things we can't these "when you meet the right person", "if it happens", "maybes" fall into the can't control category. We cannot control when/if someone falls in love with us but we can control our responses when we are rejected. One should never dwell in the things we cant control as it is not healthy. Instead they will find more satisfaction in the things they can control - going travelling, hanging out with friends etc, taking up hobbies also we should stop saying "the right one" - because there is no such thing. There is only the person we elope with but they change over time

@baconboi4482

10 ай бұрын

@@_earthvisitor333now that’s a nice way to deny someone, even though he was sad you helped him even if subconsciously boost his confidence

Bottom line: social media sucks, it changed the way that we interact with one another and now it leaves scars in our society.

@mikelisteral7863

9 ай бұрын

its porn you hypocrite

@buddyro1860

7 ай бұрын

You got that right

@raezor82

5 ай бұрын

It’s one factor, along with demographics, social programming, and women out earning men. Of course now that girls have access to it from a young age with TikTok and what not, maybe even the high school environment won’t be an equalizer for guys.

@northerntruthseeker

5 ай бұрын

I wrote over a decade ago about how 'social media' is another method that the controllers are destroying societies... Now a decade later, I am still waiting for someone to please prove me wrong!

@OGtruthserum

Күн бұрын

More so movies and TV shows, they show such an unrealistic portrayal of dating and romance.

Many women are finally realizing that their negative, hate filled, misandry has had an impact on men. The vast majority of men will no longer approach women to talk to or ask for a date. I saw a perfect example of this the other day. Whilst having a drink after work with a female friend, we both noticed a reasonably attractive guy, well dressed and groomed who had seen a girl he obviously wanted to talk to. You could see him struggling to overcome his reticence and nervousness, trying to “psych himself” to go and talk to her. After a few minutes you could tell he was ready, he asked the ladies in his group to make sure he looked presentable, he asked the guys to wish him well. Over he went to her and tried to introduce himself a start a conversation. All six of the women at the table immediately stopped what they were doing and openly started looking this poor guy up & down. Two started openly giggling and the the rest were smirking. The guy valiantly kept going, being polite, keeping respectful & not getting too close. By now, all the women where either laughing or just staring at him. He had taken all the rejection he could, apologized for interrupting and turned to walk away. As he did, the whole table erupted into gales of laughter, names were called out, the nicest of which was “loser” . He simply walked past his own table of friends and kept walking right out of the bar. A pleasant, well educated, well brought up guy being humiliated in front of everyone in the bar and then women wonder why men won’t talk to them anymore ? Really ?

@user-kr2nv3jx5e

Жыл бұрын

they literally don’t give a fuck and want it to happen. cool, only thing is we don’t really care, we just move on

@TheFockerizer

Жыл бұрын

Ladies you really need to stop doing this. You're not being the better person by being unnecessarily demeaning to the sincere guys approaching you Actually I take that back, yes keep being unnecessarily cruel to these guys - you're only strengthening MTGOW and deepening the divide between the genders. And that is exactly what I want

@Moriningland

Жыл бұрын

Well he dodged a bullet. Could you imagine if she said yes and her got her pregnant. She’s ruin his life. You’re better off without.

@timreeves8937

Жыл бұрын

This is not new. Never go up alone and talk to a group of women. It is always asking for rejection. Too many social dynamics at play. The girl who is your target is afraid of looking easy to her friends, the ones not picked by the guy feel rejected or less attractive and get mean, her "best friend" in the group becomes super protective and blocks you, etc.. That is why you need a group of guys to go out with. That is where the entire term "wing man" started from. Even when I was younger twenty years ago without the internet, we knew not to do this. If the girl likes you, she breaks away from the group to talk to YOU or goes up to the bar hoping you will talk to her.

@adama3350

Жыл бұрын

@@timreeves8937 This guy gets it when facing a gruop of women never go up alone as there are many dynamics in play that will not be in your favor

For an introvert like me, if I approach a woman, it takes ALOT of courage. Imagine how devastating it is building up the courage and being blown off or being called creepy after having approached her normally. It takes away your motivation to ask anyone out.

@EMichaelBall

Жыл бұрын

You’re not alone. Trust me.

@hakeemsd70m

Жыл бұрын

You're not the only one. I know what you mean.

@heathjoints9845

Жыл бұрын

Rejection is only a problem when the other person is below your looks level.

@mjkittredge

Жыл бұрын

the problem is most women are not going to be into most guys, for whatever million different reasons. The failure rate is going to be so astronomically high that it's probably not worth even trying unless you're getting obvious signs.

@netgnostic1627

Жыл бұрын

@@heathjoints9845 No, to me rejection is a problem every time. It takes me absolutely everything I've got to approach a woman I'm attracted to, and I just can't face the embarrassment of rejection.

Regarding rejection, I've been told repeatedly that: Men are used to rejection and it doesn't hurt them. They encounter rejection every day, it is no big deal, and rejection should not be a big deal. If rejection hurts the man, something is wrong with the man, confirming he should be rejected for having such low confidence and low self esteem. I've heard this consistently for 40+ years, in all walks of life; at weddings, parties, work, church, business conventions, you name it. Overall, it is like the setup scene in Tootsie. In this, Jessica Lange's character says she wants a man who is sexually aggressive. When the Dustin Hoffman character does exactly this, she is of course, insulted and repelled. That is a movie, but it mirrors real life. Women have fantasies about how they want to be approached, but in reality, they don't. The whole Mee Too movement has spiraled out of control, from don't have sexual harrassment, to anything is harassment and bad intent on the man. The default assumption is the man is bad.

One time in college, I asked a girl from class if she wanted to go out sometime and I just got laughed at. Incredibly demoralizing.

@BrollenKnight

2 ай бұрын

Relatable.

@user-hl3qv8qg2s

2 ай бұрын

brutal

A woman asked if she could sit at my table in a Cafe. We both were there sitting reading a book. I just asked polity what she is reading, by God I was not hitting on her, was just interested because I am a literature buff since my childhood. In return she gave me a speech about to stay in my boundaries. I excused for having disturbed her, payed and left. My stay at this Cafe was ruined and I felt bad. Next time I came back there the waitress, I know her for a few years, told me that woman told her that I am a creepy guy and should not be permitted to have coffee there. I will stay away from women as far as it is possible in the future. We live in a world in which you can not even have an conversation about books between women and men. It makes this world more lonely and sad than it should be. But what can you do. Btw I am 56 and walk with a cane because of a nerve disease. Maybe this makes me a creep. Don't know.

@nazrey8910

Жыл бұрын

You're not a creep. That's just a nasty woman. Unfortunately there are a lot of women like that nowadays.

@adama3350

Жыл бұрын

The issue here is you are avg to below avg looking Iguarantee you if you were good looking her tone would be way different that's the issue in 2022 A 4/10 woman believes she is entitled to a 7+ man due to social media

@babyxox949

Жыл бұрын

Ur not a creep

@housecarl1114

Жыл бұрын

Women and men cannot be just friends. In civilized societies of the past they had very little interaction outside of family. This was by design. I rarely have interesting intellectual conversations with women. We simply don't have enough in common, and the interactions are ruled by what women think they can get from you and what they fear you are trying to get from them. I guarantee if you looked young, handsome and rich, you would have gotten a very different response. It is said that you can tell the character of a person by how they treat those with nothing to offer them. My experience is that women fail this test at a MUCH higher rate than men. I have almost never seen any of my friends act rudely to women BC they were ugly or had nothing to offer. I rarely ask a woman what she is reading BC I know I will probably find it very uninteresting, and I would probably tell on no if she asks to sit at my table.

@TNM001

Жыл бұрын

hm...sry to say, this sounds to me like a 56 year old not reading the room very well, but i wasn't there, i have to go off what you are writing. how old was she, did she engage in conversation when asking to sit down or not, when you asked her your first question did she keep it short but you went on and on... be honest to yourself, did you misjudge the situation? happens to all of us. i had this situation in reverse in a train, a women sitting down asking about the book i was reading. i kept it short, but she just didn't catch on and stayed a bit too long to make it uncomfortable. finally she realized and left without me needing to be rude. seems this women felt the need to make you aware.

I’m 60 years old and I remember this incredible girl in my early twenties. I approached her and she said, “Thank you for approaching me but I’m not interested.”(Oh! yes, I just remembered she said she was also flattered.) But she said it with a sincere smile. I walked away feeling okay. If girls turn me down like that, I would approach way more. Absolutely.

@johantolli372

Жыл бұрын

I had a similar experience in my twenties, which i left feeling pretty good about and okay with. I approached respectfully and got rejected respectfully, "Im flattered but not interested, thank you though". A few years ago i approached a woman in a bar and simply said hello and asked if i could buy her a drink. She laughed, said "hell no" and walked back to her friend group whom i later saw laughing and pointing at me. It shattered my confidence completely and ive often thought of the contrast between those two responses. That was the interaction that stated my "fear of being creepy"

@seangallagher4331

Жыл бұрын

@@johantolli372 That's happened to me too and the best way to look at it is as her doing you a favor. Her action shows she a low value woman and you should feel sorry for the dude that marries or impregnates her one day.

@williamcarter9066

Жыл бұрын

Dakatari Its her loss !!

@puppetmasterblaster

Жыл бұрын

How kind of her. I have had similar experiences. I even had one that was so kind to tell me why, and point out I had a small mouth, and a big nose, and that my eyes were too close together. We men need to truly appreciate women as Gods gift to us, to be able to open our eyes to our faults.

@martintucker2825

Жыл бұрын

So true my friend I'm 60 also, and remember when women were approachable, and polite, sadly, those days are a distant memory

Recently I saw a woman i knew for sometime take a fall. Struggled to get back on her feet, So i thought I would be a gentleman and offered her a hand of support to help her back on her feet. She slapped my hand away and said I was creepy. I was angry and offended. When that happens ladies, men will avoid you like the plague.That hurt and I was very angry. I knew her for years and now I refuse to talk to her,

@juliea.

26 күн бұрын

What a horrible experience. There was obviously something very wrong with this woman. Anybody can lend a helping hand to a person who fell. A few months ago, I saw a woman gently touch a blind man's arm because he was standing WAY TOO CLOSE to the edge of the platform and he began screaming and cursing at her. We live in such a weird world.

Another reason I get fed up with approaching women is: They flirt with you with eye contact, etc. When you go up to them, you realize they only want attention, and you feel like a dumbass. Nowadays, it happens a lot. And the number of women who have this behavior and later you find out they have a boyfriend, it's crazy.

@asdsasadsa3474

5 ай бұрын

Has happened to me so many times! And it can happen anywhere and I've experienced it since high school, university and now at workplaces. For this reason I Always stalk someone that gives me that kind of attention on the Internet to find out about their lives. And when I think back, the only times I thought someone was flirting with me was when they had a boyfriend/husband and kids and thought it would be funny for me to try and get shut down. That's fking evil! And it's also very disrespectful to their partners, they will probably then go home and remind him of how popular they are. And if they realize they've been busted or that you are not going to approach them, they will hate you and try to hurt you, it's like you can't win in any way. It's really hard to even find someone who's just friendly for the sake of culture. I telling you, girls were so much nicer at early high school, after that they become manipulative bitches trying to control the world with terrorizing behavior.

@jacobs3031

2 ай бұрын

I agree totally a stunning attractive woman suddenly started dancing with me on a night out giving me strong eye contact. Later throughout the night she told me she's married and has a kid charming 😅 thought it was too good to be true and I was right. I'm 30 and honestly exhausted with dating and expectations now iv stopped caring about it all. I can't do with the ghosting and excuses that don't even make any sense. I will more than likely be single for the rest of my life because I won't be meeting women later on in life already with kids fuck that 🤢.

@ham5483

Ай бұрын

Ooof, this just happened to me 😂

@jacobs3031

Ай бұрын

@@ham5483 it's highly annoying lol, I can't be arsed no more.

My sister labeled a guy creepy because he approached her at Starbucks, clearly she wasn’t attracted to him but I called her out on calling him creepy, I basically told her it was not cool to call him creepy because she wasn’t attracted to him, if it was Brad Pitt she wouldn’t be calling him creepy

@SystematicMechanic

Жыл бұрын

Your sister has a problem.

@kennedyhair8434

Жыл бұрын

Brad Pitt is 74 years old brah.

@Yo-oq9gg

Жыл бұрын

@@kennedyhair8434 lol let’s say a 35 year old Brad Pitt. He still looks pretty good for a 74 year old tho

@maxhouse2409

Жыл бұрын

Brad Pitt DOB is Dec 18, 1963.

@MikeyP109

Жыл бұрын

He's 60ish.

It’s not just feeling creepy, it’s also feeling unwanted. I feel like all women hate me and I bet many other men feel like this too

@RhetoricalMuse

Жыл бұрын

No, I'm too cocky and borderline arrogant for that. Adjust to the market.

@taras3702

Жыл бұрын

I don't want women who do not want me......simple as that.

@josephnugent3065

Жыл бұрын

@@taras3702 Trouble is, all women don’t want me.

@babyxox949

Жыл бұрын

Ur super handsome im sure ur just approaching the wrong women

@josephnugent3065

Жыл бұрын

@@babyxox949 sure sure

My biggest fear is violating someone's boundaries. How does anyone know if approaching someone will not be well received because they just want to be left alone, or consider the location to be safe from being approached by someone in anything but a professional manner?

@countjakku5544

8 ай бұрын

I've had that fear too

I work a glass fabrication job and earn 40k a year before OT. I'm 5'5. I am not fat but not shredded and play airsoft on some weekends on top of 3 days a week at the gym. I'm not on the radar, and the fear of being asked to leave a place of business because someone said I was being creepy is my biggest fear in modern times. I just keep to myself, keep my head forward, headphones in, and finish my business before going home to my dogs that I would give the world for.

@yolocrayolod6668

2 ай бұрын

This is the kind of life I see for myself in some years 👍🏼

Being labeled a “creep” by a woman is one of the most hurtful things that can happen to a man. It’s embarrassing and can really hurt your confidence.

@NadeemAhmad-me7fp

Жыл бұрын

It’s also one of the most inaccurate and incorrectly used words in America. It would be more accurate to say stranger, harasser, abuser, etc., but they want to repeat what they hear others incorrectly say.

@paulcooper5748

Жыл бұрын

Very true.

@theocjr.43

Жыл бұрын

On your death bed, you're never going to remember any of the people who don't matter in your life. So why would you allow someone who doesn't matter impact you so strongly?

@InteristaS5

Жыл бұрын

@@theocjr.43 true that.

@debragoodman1582

Жыл бұрын

Back in the 50s, the time of our grandparents, it was not considered creepy if a man made a move on a girl, cold approach, or if he complimented her looks, or if he said "I'll follow you everywhere until you marry me", it was not considered creepy if he did that, the women at the time would find it Romantic.. so the difference between women today, and the women in our grandparents generation is that our grandparents had it way better, but as for today, women have made it very very difficult to make a move on them, and even if a guy makes a move and risks getting rejected, they wont accept a man who doesn't fit their list of unrealistic standards, they're not as feminine as they used to be, they're not as wife material as they used to be, not as family oriented, and not as ladylike, and if women tell men to not make the move then I'm sure women will now bare the responsibility to make the move right?.. of course not, because women can act all tough and masculine but are chicken ass scared when it comes to making the first move,

I was at a bar one night, I don't drink much but I like to shoot pool, I ended up chatting with a group of ladies and when they found out I wasn't a drinker they called me a predator and said I was there waiting for girls to get drunk so I could grape them. That really shook me, and made one of the last few socially acceptable places to meet strangers feel like a no go zone.

@nathanmorgan3647

Жыл бұрын

Tell them that if they weren't alcoholic drunkards with zero standards, they wouldn't have anything to worry about.

@AlbertoSalviaNovella

Жыл бұрын

In their wet dreams ;)

@goodnightkiwi

Жыл бұрын

I wouldn’t let that put you off from going back to that bar. They don’t personally know you, and that level of judgement is unacceptable and more a reflection of their immaturity. I happen to enjoy shooting pool too, and prefer to win games by staying reasonably sober. I go back to the same bar all the time and thankfully have never encountered such stupid comments from girls.

@BrandonPitt

Жыл бұрын

@@goodnightkiwi Irrelevant. It's still not a safe place for him to be.

@jazzmanny02

Жыл бұрын

@@BrandonPitt stop with that he won't grow or learn if he doesn't keep trying, forget those girls who said that to him those girls are so full of themselves its not even funny, they need to realize they got to stop abusing there power of making guys be the bad guys,

Im 34 and have stopped approaching women completely. I dont even have female friends anymore. It's not worth it. It's really not. It's so bad these days that if I saw a woman in trouble, i would hesitate to help her because even trying to do the right thing can get you in serious trouble. Life is so much more peaceful now. At this point, I've just accepted that I'll be alone. Maybe I'll meet someone naturally and spontaneously someday, but I'm 100% done trying. Not to mention that as a man dating is extremely expensive, and I have zero interest in spending my time and money that way.

@jeremyweishaar9523

10 ай бұрын

Better than me. I would not give a woman anything more than I give a man I don't know. They aren't owed my kindness because they have a vagina they never considered sharing with me. Call Chad to change that tire on the freeway.

@nobodyknows3180

7 ай бұрын

For the cost of dating a woman for a mere three months, I can spend six weeks in Europe.

@chrism4008

6 ай бұрын

Helping people is one of my favorite things to do. Its unfortunate that i can no longer offer help to women i dont know incredibly well. And of course that basically comprises of family. Ill help dudes out no problem, every time

@ashleyalexander7388

2 ай бұрын

This is pretty much me. I'm doing my own thing. If a woman likes me and wants to give me a green light (more than just glancing around the room or standing nearby for an unknown reason) then I would approach. But apart from that no, I'll be content dying alone.

@RobSlenderman77

Ай бұрын

Absolutely. That's just today's reality. A man has to make a decision to be happy without a woman in his life. As a divorced man, I have realized this as well. It's just not worth it. Take all that money you've saved not wining and dining some dumb drama-filled broad and spend it on prostitutes. Your money will go farther...

A creep to a woman is pretty much any man she's not attracted to. You literally can do and say the same thing to her. If she likes you she'll think it's cute if she doesn't like you she'll think you're a creep. The only dynamic that can change any of that is if you have the mutant ability to read her mind beforehand.

@poeticnation6251

Ай бұрын

"Well said" (You nailed it). Respect!

@colourbasscolourbassweapon2135

8 күн бұрын

fr no cap

I don't approach because they're just mean. Rejection is fine, them thinking I'm not attractive is fine but rudeness, smugness and being over dramatic is intolerable. The creepy aspect is part of that. They can ruin you socially, economically and personally just for saying hello to them. Its just dangerous for us.

@puppetmasterblaster

Жыл бұрын

I dont appoach, I dont even make eye contact. No interest any more. Im fine living alone till death do I part. Heck, some young girl even selling girl scout cookies said "have a nice day" and I didnt even look at her and ignored it as I walked past it. This is how they need to grow up now. They can bear the fruit of their older generations mistakes.

@thisoldgoat3927

Жыл бұрын

Women have weaponized rejection. Best just to walk away from them.

@Brisingr73

Жыл бұрын

@@puppetmasterblaster I feel as though that mindset is dangerous, though. There's no way all women are intolerable, so giving none of them a chance isn't fair. I'd say your best bet is to be highly skeptical, but be open about circumstances changing.

@nukelaloosh4795

Жыл бұрын

@@puppetmasterblaster you are f*cking sad

@stevenbass732

Жыл бұрын

@@Brisingr73 It's like being given a large bowl of brightly colored candies and being told that 90% are deadly poison. Are you really going to take the chance that you might get one of the 10%? It's just not worth the risk. Besides, those 10% may have been tainted by the rest and will make you sick.

I read a woman complained that a man was starring at her at the gym. The man was blind and still the manager ask the man to stop. He said I am blind. The Manager should have kicked her out for harassing a blind man not stuck up for her. The most ridiculous case I ever read.

@josesanabria2743

Жыл бұрын

What the hell?

@TheRahsoft

Жыл бұрын

..and how many times were women like this actually going to the gym to train rather than show off. she could have gone to a women only gym( which we know are illegal anyway)

@IaconDawnshire

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like the manager is a simp

@HB-vq2us

Жыл бұрын

Por eso siempre entreno mirando al piso

@arjminder433

Жыл бұрын

Peak degeneracey right there

That is a VERY TRUE assessment. Men are tired of being instantly rejected as "creepy" or whatever. Courtney hits the nail on the head.

Women genuinely seem disinterested even after you've made the approach and broken the ice. The conversation is usually one-sided and its all just really draining after youve heard "no" in just about every way imaginable. For that reason I've decided to throw in the towel. Honestly when i see attractive women in public i avoid even looking at them. Dating just isn't "fun" as a guy, not for me at least. Just a bunch of anxiety followed by one sh!t test after another. I've learned to love my own company and enjoy other things while being single. There's better things to do with life that don't involve feeling like you're walking a tightrope for a woman's approval.

@Danny328DT

Жыл бұрын

You can live your best life being single too. I feel like the longer the wait becomes, the easier it is for you to focus on becoming your best version. However for me, I'm still willing to try dating if given the opportunity. Some women say you need all of these checkboxes to start dating, but who says I can't learn those things while having the relationship begin sooner? The longer I wait, the more suspenseful it feels especially if I desire it.

@Kenny-ep2nf

Жыл бұрын

Exactly, you can hang out with buddies, play video games, work out if you want, invest your time in your job or career, watch movies/series. All that stuff sounds more fun than risking rejection

A thing that rarely gets mentioned is how much women LOVE to use men for attention at their expense. I have had women who I knew were in relationships or married hit on me or "position themselves" like they want to get approached when I know that they are not single. They don't care to put men in awkward situations where they waste men's time just to feed their egos. That's why I rarely approach.

@robertnewett5932

Жыл бұрын

This is 100% facts. The women who are married or currently seeing someone are the most thirsty for validation. They will orbit me and give obvious choosing signals. Most of the time, its when their partner is there and watching her every move. My response always is , "What am i supposed to be, the make my boyfriend jealous guy?" Its so entertaining to see their stunned faces. Like a dear in the headlights.

@ziyamalllikkk4557

Жыл бұрын

Lol or may be they are just polite and treating an in-cel like a human being

@GregXHunterz

Жыл бұрын

Don't fuck with women like this. They scream drama

@jchborg90277

Жыл бұрын

Key point.

@brucebartup6161

Жыл бұрын

Frankly this flies in hd afcv of all that I habe known aboutb womeemn - i disvbelievde you.

I stopped dating 9 years ago, I just have no room left in my life for toxicity and constant drama in my life, I just want peace.

@jpowell2603

Жыл бұрын

I hear you brother 🤝

@noxolosobuza2455

Жыл бұрын

Bruh! Preach! So over it too drama!

@user_friendly_9388

Жыл бұрын

Keep it strong brother! PREACH!

@marcp.1752

Жыл бұрын

+1. Exactly true, Michael ! Same here. I had enough of fakes, chit-chat, meaningless, superficial conversations nobody needs or wants without depth, constant drama queens and toxic ladies, and skindeep behaviour, simply nevermore.

@alk7386

Жыл бұрын

Same here

Now a days everyone has to mind their own business and go about their day without trying to interact with anyone at all only when it's necessary. It also puts you on a safe ground by not approaching strangers that you never met before.

@Kenny-ep2nf

Жыл бұрын

Well like mom and dad always said, don’t talk to no strangers

When society rejects you throughout your entire life, for just simply being yourself, you eventually just stop interacting altogether. Rejection is only a normal feeling if you've dealt with it enough. However, it will just make you stop interacting if you've dealt with it enough.

@jacobs3031

2 ай бұрын

I'm at this stage right now I just work and interact with the people I work (which I find extremely hard at times) and nothing in my social life I don't have one anymore. I used to be out every weekend trying to chase girls and getting numbers novelty wears off after so many rejections and ghosting the thrill just isn't there for me no more.

Is it really a fear of being "seen" as creepy? Or is it a fear of being me too'ed, hounded, reputation destroyed on line, fired from work, accused of rape, etc...

@EMichaelBall

Жыл бұрын

Yup. I may have unwittingly denied myself the biggest opportunity of my life because I didn’t want to risk getting hashtagged.

@spiritquests3970

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. Girl's, like this one, still think "The worst that can happen is she says "no ." RIIIGHT...can you imagine the furor if it was reversed? A woman approached a man, gets rejected, and labelled, and charged, and falsely accused? Women would never leave their homes our of fear. But it's men's job to approach? Lol

@Cee_Eff

Жыл бұрын

I would say that it's both

@jamegumb7298

Жыл бұрын

All of those. In fact, I had it happen, and it is a legal hellhole. The reason is, where I live, any woman can make any accusation (s harassment/molestation wise) and all it has to be is "an acceptable explanation of the situation" (aka if she says it, that is how it is). However, when a man has to defend himself, it must _be proven to be not true._ Now remember, you cannot prove a negative, and in my case I had to prove beyond a reasonable doubt I did not _think_ it because she felt unsafe because I thought it. An example of a listen and believe law. No more regular employment for me, not for the last decade. But even a woman being brash and brushing past you can result in a court case: kzread.info/dash/bejne/fn17mdCRgpeyirQ.html Imagine the jury saying off you go. A real risk. So why should I risk it at all?

@yuckfoutube3

Жыл бұрын

None of you are famous enough to be me too'd so I wouldn't worry about it lol

A few years ago, a Gillette commercial told me that trying to meet women in public is illegal now.

@AamirTime

Жыл бұрын

I got you bro: kzread.info/dash/bejne/qpN8rpKwma6aisY.html

@ferrari2k

Жыл бұрын

How so?

@jagosevatarion8822

Жыл бұрын

At least for white men

@ashleyalexander7388

2 ай бұрын

Well you can't look at a woman too long on the underground in the UK and there's a number to call....

I struggle with women pretty bad and I don't approach because I don't want to be called creepy. I went out with my friend to a bar for the first time in my life yesterday, I'm 23, so I could start getting myself out there. I didn't drink though. I talked to a few girls, but it didn't go well. One of the girls looked like she was repulsed by thr fact I even approached her. The one that confused me the most was when this girl came up to my friend and invited us to hang with her and her friend. The girl that came up to him was obviously there for my friend but was all over the both of us. I mean it was kinda wild. I was trying to talk to another girl with my buddy there and she was all over me and him. Now, I'm not complaining or nothing but close to the end of the night, she was standing next to me and was mad close and was putting her hands on my shoulder and arm n shit. I went to adjust myself and bumped her hip n she was all like "DONT FLIRT WITH ME". I'm just so confused man. It's like she was touching and feeling all over me and my friend. I means she danced all over my friend n everything. She was in it frfr, again, no complaining lol. I just dont understand how I was flirting. Idk. Edit: she also asked me for my number when my friend was in tha restroom but I said no. Cuzz like y'know, tha homie..

@DryWall-wd4ei

Жыл бұрын

This must be some milllennial or zooomer thing. I remember that word in my day (GenX) but it certainly wasn't common. Now, they rejectd us of course but that term seems to be a newer thing.

@ps4games164

Жыл бұрын

When everyone pretending the alimony is nothing. And that's creepy.

@ashleyalexander7388

2 ай бұрын

You dodged a bullet. She probably forgot her meds.

I’m afraid to approach a girl as well. I’ve been played a lot and tired of rejection. I’m a very authentic and genuine guy, but a lot of the time, it’s not worth pursuing a woman because they’re becoming increasingly difficult to deal with.

@colourbasscolourbassweapon2135

8 күн бұрын

fr no cap

It's not a fear of rejection, it's a fear of handcuffs and mace.

@paulcooper5748

Жыл бұрын

Exactly its really fucked up of today.

@guitarista666

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry, but I got a good laugh out of that! If your technique is apt to result in handcuffs and mace, maybe you need to refine it just a smidge?

@captainphoenix

Жыл бұрын

@@guitarista666 Is that what you would tell the Jews in response to their treatment by the SS? Or is it that something having to do with the law and how others were treating _them_ that was the root of the problem? Could that second sentence apply to other situations?

@taras3702

Жыл бұрын

Or being locked up.

@DavidW-ng5zv

Жыл бұрын

​@@guitarista666 I fear it even though I've never approached a woman before.

I have an uncommon spinal deformity so it is almost pointless for me to approach women like that I would be labeled as a creep instantly and people love to make negative assumptions about my body. When I was younger I was harassed so much for it that it made me want to be reclusive in my 20s. It seems hopeless that anyone would look past that, it seems like the deal breaker for everyone

@stacyrensburgoliver

Ай бұрын

🥺 I’m sorry you’ve experienced that 🤗

@colourbasscolourbassweapon2135

8 күн бұрын

well dam sorry to hear that dude no cap

I'm 71 and gave up 30 years ago. I was a male model and successful actor in local theatre often getting write ups in the paper. I was a blond, blue eyed Southern California surfer. I didn't have squat for money but they didn't know that, hahaha. I was also an Ivy League graduate, from a family with, shall we say, significant resources, although I didn't ever rely on, or seek that, or even think about it. In my my mind I was just another guy trying my best to get somewhere in my profession. But this was California, and no one knew any of that either and wouldn't have cared. The point is, I was what they call now high-value, even if I didn't myself think so in those days. I was also extremely shy and a complete introvert. But I tried to overcome it. the modeling and acting came from my attempt to grow past it and helped. Nevertheless, my self esteem was destroyed by what I would experience there, as you'll see. Even in the prime of my youth, in the late 70s, I seldom approached women because I never got a look or a smile or a flirtatious sign. Instead I got the most angry, mean looks of hate and revulsion. Like a combination of about to throw up or scream for a cop. Everywhere, passing on the street, in the grocery store, at social gatherings, and worst of all in the clubs. That cut into my soul and hurt so much. It wears on you. Over and over and over, what is reflected back to you from the women in the world is that you are scum, a hideous, dangerous monster. It's not easy to maintain any level of self confidence receiving that endlessly day after day. I always thought it was me. Why did they hate me, they don't even know me? It was actually somewhat of a relief when I heard it wasn't just me, and it even had a name, Resting Bitch Face. I had often felt it was me that caused it, or my subconscious psychological filters that made me see it that way. Even in bars, dance clubs, so called pickup scenes, that's all I saw, aimed at me. I rarely, almost never, approached them at all. Anywhere. I found it not only mean, but off putting. Why would I ever want to spend time with a woman with that much visible anger, which read as hatred and fear of men. It read as the non-verbal message: "get the hell away from me!"? But still it hurt deeply and compounded over and over... If I got my courage up and just went for it, crossed the 1000 mile wide dance floor in front of the whole crowd, and asked someone to dance, almost always rejection. Occasionally they were just not up for dancing at the moment, and that was clear, no harm no foul, but more often she'd slash me with some vicious cutting remark, and she and her friends would laugh. If I stuck around, brushing it off, which was tough, I'd see them talking to other people in the club, glancing at me, and then snickering. This just snowballed and snowballed. This is already way too long, but I got carried away setting the scene, and I'm also a writer. I'll try to wrap up quickly. By the time I hit 40, I was having deep depressions, suicidal ideation, and was falling apart. Then I got evicted during the housing boom, as they wanted to cut the house I rented into condos. My 95 year old grandmother was living alone back east and had a fall, so I gave up my California surfer dream and acting dream and went back and lived with her. I never even tried to go out again and meet local people. When she passed a year later, I bought a little cabin in the country and I've been here alone for 30 years now. I'm happy but lack touch and kindness. I don't get lonely surprisingly, but I do miss companionship and just someone to talk to. I don't know why or how I came across this video, and others like it, popped up in my suggestions, but these algorithms somehow can read minds. LOL It's tough for all of us. Always has been and got way worse when the *ahem, wink wink, nudge, nudge* "cultural shift" that started in the early 70s consumed the women in my generation, then spread across the world, just as I was coming of age seeking dates. It just gets more and more extreme. Now we're toxic and all in on the patriarchy, controlling and oppressing women because we look down on them as inferior and believe we are "entitled" to their attention and respect, and of course their submission and sexual favors on command. I just turned 71. I'm now very 'financial secure' due to my own earnings saved by 25 years of solo living, a low cost lifestyle, and a surprisingly large inheritance. l can go and live anywhere and buy anything I want. I have no interest in material possessions though. I could provide for a wife, and children and be a full time partner and father. But all I want is someone who will be kind to me. To notice me, to appreciate me. Just to smile at me. Not sneer at me like I'm a creep. Old white straight men are the most reviled and despised and blamed demographic on the planet. Yet we're supposed to have a lock on all the power, and privileges and rule the world. So Courtney, do you think I should get myself out there again and just try? (p.s. Courtney, I really appreciate your videos and understanding, immensely. I'm not trying to be snarky, just realistic. It meant everything to come across these the past few days and gives me hope. Thank you so much.)

Here's a story of wicked karma, and it's a tale that shows why people need to be careful what they post online. A good buddy of mine was at a locally popular restaurant and approached a really attractive woman. He was polite and joked a bit, he did nothing creepy. She was pretty stand-offish and eventually got rather negative toward him, so he backed off. Well, fast forward a few days, this lady posted a video online talking about being at this restaurant and talking about "this really creepy guy" while getting film shots of him from a distance. Pretty terrible. Now, this guy is a long time best friend of one of the people that own the restaurant, and the people who own the place own about half the commercial property in that city. They've got wealth and influence. Here's how this went down. The owners took this personally. They took this girl to court and sued her on the basis she was publicly defaming their restaurant patrons. I haven't heard how it all settled, but I did hear she was fired from her job due to absences for having to be in court. It just makes me think of that short video a girl posted in a gym filming "creepy guys" which resulted in her gym membership being revoked.

@adam.dzwoniarek72

Жыл бұрын

Karma is a bitch!

@kurtjames9487

Жыл бұрын

That's awesome.

@thepubknight6144

Жыл бұрын

@@adam.dzwoniarek72 As Baron Mordo told Dr Strange "The bill comes due.. always"

@roggiepogi211

Жыл бұрын

Man that's fucked up hHahaha karma's a bitchhh

@allenblack3785

Жыл бұрын

GOOD for the owners. I hope she ends up broke and homeless.

Actual conversation between 2 female friends and me. A guy asked one of them out, and she turned him down. He took it and moved on. Then a few weeks later, he asked the other friend out. She had heard that the 1st one had turned him down and rejected him too. Then, in front of me, they laughed heartily over how pathetic this guy was; perhaps he was getting rejected by every girl in the neighborhood and expected me to join in mocking him. I was so annoyed with both of them. It was a real eye-opener. So no, just "shooting your shot" without worrying about the consequences is not good advice. You risk being labeled a creep and for that word to spread. Your reputation is everything, and once you're labeled a creep, that sticks forever. Even good, sensible women will turn you down after that. Men get one shot, and our reputations are getting more vulnerable by the day.

@guitarista666

Жыл бұрын

I suspect you may be drawing some wrong conclusions here. It may be that the 2nd girl turned him down because her friend did because she didn't want to accept a "reject", but on the other hand, your friend's style may need a bit more polish. What do you think? What do you think would happen if you invited your male friend to come along some time when you planned to meet up with the two girls? Do you think he could chat up the 2nd girl and warm her up enough so that when he called her later, he could get a yes, or do you think his chops are really not good enough to make her think she would have a good time? Being turned down by a girl does not mean that none of her friends will accept you. It really boils down to what you have to offer more than anything else..

@taras3702

Жыл бұрын

@@guitarista666 Irrelevant, it's not all HIS fault. This says a lot more about them and women in general than the guy.

@guitarista666

Жыл бұрын

@@taras3702 You're being way too narrow and short sighted in your understanding.

@taras3702

Жыл бұрын

@@guitarista666 I think not........

@milkteaalliance1748

Жыл бұрын

Iv been called a creep and i never did try approaching anyone... I was loterally jist tryong to play guitar with my friend who wasninvited to a party and i wasnt but i see now he clearly wasnt thay much of a friend cuz he didnt ask them. If i coild go. For me he just left me. To. Try fogire it out and start askong girls bit i forgot all their names wtf and inknow how fucking fickle they are so i coildnt ask their names i had to start askong vague questions got nowjwre and in the end theu said i coildnt go for no reason and later told my. Retarded slut. Ex i was creepy.... Nah they were fucking creepy iv never felt. Such bitch energy was creepy af i felt isolated and alone.

I had a man approach me in the subway to talk to me. I didn't take offense: he was polite and seemed nice. I didn't give him my number because I'm 44 years old and I don't even think he was 30 years old. But I have to say, being approached with respect and kindness really made my day.

Yes, I am a failure on all levels. I picked the wrong major. I failed at engaging in crucial conversations. I burned out of civil engineering at the age of 32 after years of nightime chest pains, not being able to look at myself in the mirror, and having nerveous breakdowns by afternoons. I got tired of pretending to be someone I was not. I am now 57 and worked on low level, near minimum wage jobs since I resigned from engineering. So far, I have interacted with only five women during my life and each one ghosted me after a relative short time. I have a congenital severe hearing loss from birth. I never really had any father figure, except for a cool trombone instructor (I ended my university years with two credits short of a minor in music). I am a square peg in a round hole. Clearly, I have nothing to offer any woman, so I do not waste any of their time by putting myself on the "dating" chopping block. Sigh. I live in isolation and can easily imagine myself being thrown out onto the street to join many other useless, invisible homeless men.

Calling guys "Creepy" is a power move... it puts them on a pedestal and let's them attack someone for anything.

@15scottie

Жыл бұрын

Women lke Courtney are creepy as fuck! Look at her, she's a neurotic lesbian mess & so you'll be if you're taking your cues from her.

@adamkuestner2961

Жыл бұрын

Don't feel bad, you're most likely no less creepy than the guy she's gonna hook up with lol

@ptolemeeselenion1542

Жыл бұрын

Hm.

@ptolemeeselenion1542

Жыл бұрын

@@adamkuestner2961 🤣🤣

@oregonxyz

Жыл бұрын

@@adamkuestner2961 She will then proceed to get down with a criminal drug dealer or a pimp.

Got rejected by every woman i approached or fell for. Drained all emotional energy until i don't have any more strength left to do the same again because I know the result. It's not that I don't fall for any woman anymore but just control my emotions and never approach anyone now. Someone is made for you quotes are all bullshit in real life. I am happy to be single now and plan to live for myself and my passions ambitions only. Probably won't go through this anxiety and shit anymore.

@ps4games164

Жыл бұрын

Tell me about the alimony. Do you like that?

The worst is when one girl thinks you’re creepy and they spread the word to all her friends and now everyone gives you the side eye.

@in.edieudonnesworld3167

2 ай бұрын

😂

@colourbasscolourbassweapon2135

8 күн бұрын

fr no cap

I'm glad you mentioned the whole thing with disabilities, because I have High-Functioning Autism. Before I was diagnosed, people used to label me as rude, selfish, lazy and a plethora of other terms because I'd misread social cues or be so absorbed in my own little world that I didn't understand that certain things weren't appropriate. Even though I've had a tremendous amount of therapy and made improvements since then, the thing about Autism is that you will always be prone to misinterpreting certain things. Given how sensitive the world has become, it's even more nerve-wracking as a person with Autism to interact with the opposite sex because one misunderstanding could land me in trouble.

@KingYou2002

Жыл бұрын

Were you diagnosed recently?

@just_some_internet_guy

Жыл бұрын

I have a type of autism too. NVLD

@PTSmash

Жыл бұрын

@@KingYou2002 No, I was 17 when I was diagnosed and I'm 35 now.

@NoahMDub

Жыл бұрын

That’s me right there. I’ve known that I have autism my whole life and I like to be in my own world sometimes, but I’ve realized that I missed out on a lot of social opportunities in childhood and my teenage years because I never put myself out there. Better late than never I suppose! 😅

@Islander185

Жыл бұрын

I understand your problems for sure. I was only diagnosed at 40, now I don't know if I will ever be in a relationship.

It's too dangerous.. Here's an example. One of my friends was told by a woman that he needed to "Man up" if he ever hoped to meet anyone and what she was getting at is that men are no longer taking the initiative to introduce themselves to women. He takes her advice, sees a woman that he is attracted to in a Costco. He makes some kind of small talk and asks her out. Moments later, he was escorted out by security. It was funny at the time listening to him explain what happened, but it's stuff like this that men are so easily labeled as creepy. My advice.. Do not man up!. Bad advice that was offered from a woman.

@landontruman3632

Жыл бұрын

Getting advice from a fish about how to catch fish never pans out.

@susanwjoh0re735

Жыл бұрын

@Matt Joseph it is also to make you do what they want.

@mcpartridgeboy

Жыл бұрын

No yuo have to do it anyway , if you dont you will never have a woman because there will always be guys who will do it and there will always be guys who do it correctly eeither because of natural social skills or learned pick up, so you have to just risk the consiquences, there is no other way ! and you will just have to accept the possibilty of security being called, you literally have no choice other than to be single forever !

@seanmccann2790

Жыл бұрын

@@mcpartridgeboyI don't have to do anything I don't need to do. You are weak.

@adama3350

Жыл бұрын

@@mcpartridgeboy Pick up artist is garbage the ONLY thing that matters in OLD and cold approach is looks/height

Sometimes you don’t even need to do anything. Not look. Not talk. And women will act like they are being harassed. All pretentious. Believe me. That didn’t happened to me when I was in shape and with hair. All of the sudden is like a metamorphosis that this people feel so uncomfortable. And so refreshing when you talk to that 100% that realise that you are just a person. I am not talking about trying anything. Forget about that. Just breathing in the same room.

@colourbasscolourbassweapon2135

8 күн бұрын

fr no cap

Courtney, firstly, thank you for bringing this up and understanding the blokes. Though, I'd like to provide another reason, or at least my reason, why I don't approach anymore. I don't mind rejection, in fact I started appreciating those people who respectfully told me they're not interested. Though the whole being called creepy, or being roasted on TikTok is another, but my major reason is a repeat incident. Let me explain, I managed somehow to land two ex-girlfriends, that I genuinely loved. First one dumped me after a week, second one after a few months, and then followed by a long string of ghostings. A few of them straight up ghosted me, before our date began. My fear is being tricked into falsely feeling in loved, because I never understood the concept. I thought I did, but I guess I haven't read into it enough, or perhaps it never existed. I'm the type of guy, who took relationships serious, but everyone I've dated never did. Maybe it's the time I was born in, or perhaps it's the country I was cursed to live in (America), but I always desired a long term and romantic relationship. I learned such a concept doesn't exist. So, in a way, I thank my ex-girlfriends for freeing me from this false pursuit.

Y’all have some ridiculous standards that change with the wind. Imagine saying you want a guy who’s 6 feet tall or higher, makes 6 figures, works out and provides you a luxurious life, and require men to have it together financially, mentally, physically and socially and yet in the same breath say things like “I don’t need no man”, “if you can’t handle me at my worst you don’t deserve me at my best” or everyone’s favorite “you have to accept me for who I am”. The hypocrisy.

@joshclark2109

Жыл бұрын

Yup this y both genders will have a ton of single people

@KevvoLightswift

Жыл бұрын

If a girl’s worst is slashing my tires, I don’t want to see it or be around it.

@lurchusa1299

Жыл бұрын

"who’s 6 feet tall or higher, makes 6 figures, works out and provides you a luxurious life, and require men to have it together financially, mentally, physically and socially" That's me... seriously, but so much as glance at a woman and I'm the creepy one! Society is broken and we are all dying alone!

@chocoloco7868

Жыл бұрын

@Loo hold the door for everyone

@EMichaelBall

Жыл бұрын

@Loo I became a risk-averse MGTOW who may have unwittingly denied myself the biggest opportunity of my life over self-preservation hashtagging protection. I’m not misogynist; I just tend to ignore women, maybe open the door for them, but extremely casually in the way I would for men. This is more morally upright.

I actually want to share an experience of my own. It's a bit unique from what everyone else is sharing. I was exercising in my University Gym and hitting the heavy bag, and a young woman approached me. She did not say anything but rather just looked at me for a moment, and I smiled and asked if she wanted to use the bag herself. She said yes, but mostly just kept talking to me. I personally like conversations with people and did not mind. However, I was confused, believing she wanted to use the bag and not talk. I asked again if she wanted to use it as I was going to do some stretching, and she responded yes, but instead, I just lazily hit it once or twice. It eventually became obvious she just wanted to speak to me, which, though flattered, I was mostly trying to do my own thing. She kept talking to me, and I engaged in conversation with her, but was kind of taken aback since this was the first time I have been approached while at the gym. She was nice but just a bit awkward, but I totally understood that that happens. She walked with me while the gym was closing, and I stated I had to go to the locker rooms and told her it was nice speaking with her. I got my things and spent about 10 mins in there before walking out. She was standing outside near the locker rooms, and I was somewhat taken aback. When I walked near her, I said in an awkward, hushed tone, "Hey again" and she immediately answered "Can I have your number so we can talk in the future?" At that point, it immediately became apparent she was just nervous and did not know how to really approach someone. I responded sure but really because it was so out of the blue. Afterwards, she texted me at 7 am the next day saying it was nice speaking to me but I was in bed sleeping and those texts woke me up. The reason I mentioned this story was because it was very weird experiencing this but that is all it was for me. It's just awkward and weird. I didn't think the girl was creepy or weird herself. She tried to put herself out there and I really admired that but she didn't do so very well which happens sometimes. I COULD NOT even begin to imagine how bad it would be if roles were reversed. The guy would be labeled as very creepy and a stalker which I get but I think what sometimes woman forget is that some guys, and people in general, aren't so socially skilled and had no intention in making the other party uncomfortable. Long story I know, thanks for reading.

@Tremor244

Жыл бұрын

Come on, you gotta tell us what happened after, or was that it?

@Anonymous_starrrr

Жыл бұрын

U didn’t like her appearance? What was the reason? Because i did similar things too I started to think that its better that i choose men instead of men choosing me because when u dont choose u only have options that approached you and the choice of all men in the world is then limited to that only guy that came to you. I decided thats stupid (in those rare occasions i reject them anyway) Why u didn’t continue with that woman? The fact that she had approached you made you think she is needy and nit really wanted by other men?

@jspaceemperor420

Жыл бұрын

X Doubt

@DrSoapp

Жыл бұрын

The only reason the gentlemen in comments are acting this way is because it is a very rare thing for most men. But I have encountered the awkward female too. It all comes from over thinking and a lack of self awareness. If a person doesn't know how they are coming off, they will never change.

@emanuel5944

Жыл бұрын

Did y’all end up dating after or what happened lol

In reply to a couple of similar points that Courtney made, which are all well taken. First, being seen as "creepy" or some very negative reaction is a real deterrent to not only approaching a girl but also making a move physically after a number of dates. Many times, I can sense when a girl wants me to initiate a kiss or a touch, but not always or it can be unclear how far she wants you to go. I have had situations where I can tell and so I take them in my arms and kiss them and we go as far as she desires, which is clear. On the other hand, I have had situations where I don't sense any sexual interest and then the girl does something odd such as lunge at me or lie down on the floor in front of me. I have been so taken off-guard by these antics that I have frozen. This type of lack of clarity came up in one particular case that still haunts me. I was in a very serious relationship where I had very strong romantic feelings for the girl. We would kiss some but that was about it. Then one night she asked me to spend the night after a late night date. I had to drive about 70 miles to get back to where I lived at the time and so that was the pretext of her inviting me to spend the night at her house. We kissed a little on the couch but it did not progress, as usual. She then showed me to the spare bedroom and she gave me a toothbrush and some toothpaste. I watched her carefully but did not sense anything sexual off of her. Even though I had strong feelings for her, I sensed something was not quite on an even keel with her. I knew that she liked me but there was something behind the scene that I could feel was interfering with her opening up to me more. In fact, she had not opened up to me at all in terms of her past or her family or much of anything. Usually, a girl whom I am dating goes into a lot of depth and detail with me by this time in a relationship. I later found out that she came from an extremely wealthy family. When I discovered that, I could see one reason for her being hesitant to disclose her family background with a man until she could fully trust him over an extended time. But there was more that I was sensing. The next morning when I got up, she greeted me in a friendly way and we sat on the couch snuggled up together before she fixed us something to eat. After a few minutes, she asked me why I did not enter her bedroom naked and jump into bed with her and make love to her. I was shocked out of my mind by her looking into my eyes and demanding to know why I did not push myself into her bedroom uninvited. I said point blank, "If I had any indication that is what you wanted, I would have done that very thing, but I did not get any hints from you to do any such a thing. I had thought of it and would have liked to join you in bed, but I was afraid of the possibility of you starting to scream when you saw me aroused and naked coming at you and then you calling the police." She smiled and we went onto something else. Then she showed me some pictures in an album taken while she was in college. This girl had an edge to her personality. She admired the character of Ann Kelsey on L.A. Law and acted a lot like her, sort of with a constant chip on her shoulder. When I saw one photo with her looking off into the distance, I said, "You look sensitive in that picture." She turned to me and said with anger in her voice, "Yeah, I used to be that way and then I found out that is not the way to be!!!" She closed up the album and stormed into the next room. When she came back, she said," Chris, I am not going to to cater to you!" in a very harsh and hostile tone. She went ahead and fixed us hamburgers but then during the entire meal, she just glared at me as if she hated me and repeated the same refrain, "Chris, I am not going to cater to you!!!" I became totally disoriented. She said at the end of the meal that she had to go to work, which she had already told me before this outburst. She repeated the refrain again as we walked out the door and she said it again as I got into my car. I never saw her again. That broke my heart, but I was not shocked. She had told me earlier that she had exploded on the guy whom she was dating just before me. He was a Navy flyer and had made a comment in jest about her less than perfect eyesight (I knew another guy previously who wanted to be a pilot and he was obsessed with strengthening his eyesight because at that time the military would not take men to train with less than 20/20 vision, so perfect eyesight is something constantly on pilots' minds and which they are anxious about). She told me that when he said that, she jumped off the couch and demanded that he leave immediately. That is when she turned to me. But then I got the same treatment a few months later from her. I suspect that I had accidentally stumbled into reminding her of another young man who had exploited her and hurt her deeply when she was in college, and she was exploding in anger toward this pilot and me with her real target being a jerk in her past. That residual anger is what I was sensing earlier and so guarded myself when being with her. I am afraid with the Sexual Revolution and casual dating, this sort of thing lies behind the current trend of women's cloistering themselves from men and over-reacting when men approach them or do something that reminds them of being taken advantage of sexually. This problem of damaged women is epidemic and is at the root of the difficulties that sincere men face in approaching women. It is rational for men to be extremely careful in how they do approach an attractive girl. This same problem came up in my marriage when my wife believed I was committing adultery, which I did not, every time I was a few minutes later than she had expected me to arrive home. Her first husband was a serial adulterer and his having a child with another woman ended my wife's marriage to him. She kept re-living that hurt with me even though I never gave her any rational basis for her thinking that I was not faithful to her.

@Eliath1984

3 ай бұрын

I got yelled at once by a girl because she'd came over to watch a movie.. we'd never done anything even remotely sexual together before or even talked about it or been flirtatious really at all.. She was mad at me because I never once made a move on her during the movie we watched together... I was like.. I never picked up a hint that you were open to me making any moves so I was being respectful and didn't want you to feel pressured outside of your comfort.. I have 3 older sisters so I can sympathize with the aftermath women feel when they've been taken advantage of and growing up I'd always vowed to not be that guy... I just found the whole situation mind blowing... whole situation really put me off from ever talking to her again..

I actually try to avoid running into a woman I am attracted to, because my previous interactions with her haven't been very encouraging, and the thought that I will be seen as creepy if I run into her too often is definitely a concern for me.

@echofourmike85

7 ай бұрын

Don't avoid. Just don't make any eye or other contact. No good morning, no acknowledgement of her existence at all. You should not change your life for them.

I am a 35 year old kissless virgin, i have social anxiety and a very severe stuttering problem. The only things i ever got from women are rejection, mockery and humiliation. On my 25th birthday i decided to stop interacting with women entirely, there was no point in continuing

@bObsy.

Жыл бұрын

Sending you love and light bro!

@rayr6278

Жыл бұрын

No bro I believe in you. Travel the 🌎 meet the feminine nonspoiled women and enjoy the experience. You are still in your prime.

@nikolapetrovic4814

Жыл бұрын

@@rayr6278 I am wage slaving for 2 euro per hour. I won't be going anywhere anytime soon, if ever. I have money for food and bills and that's it. Even this internet is a luxury I can barely afford but I honestly don't know what I would do without it.

@puppetmasterblaster

Жыл бұрын

In gods eyes you are a treasure. Forget about women, they are the devils spawn.

@nobodysperfect06

Жыл бұрын

I assume losing your virginity to an escort or sex worker is out of the question for you

As a shy introvert myself, I've tried making a genuine effort to push outside my comfort zone and put myself out there. It made no difference.

@jaxonwoods8181

Жыл бұрын

It not only will not make a difference, it will crush you and leave your heart and self-esteem battered and spilled out. Plenty of experiences also and it's left me none the least of which drained.

@armanddefrank7984

Жыл бұрын

Your right

@JonasMatthewBahta

Жыл бұрын

@@jaxonwoods8181, same here. I’ve done that for the last couple of years, and I’ve gotten hardly to almost nothing in return. the only good thing is is that I don’t have regrets of not taking a chance, but still, it’s just painful, knowing that effort really means nothing until you have results.

@mjkittredge

Жыл бұрын

the trick is to be a devil-may-care type guy full of overconfidence and to be shameless. They talk to women because they aren't worrying about a negative outcome or rejection and they wouldn't feel embarassed. It's just fun for them to talk to strangers. If someone is rude to them or ignores them they'll be like "whatever" and go talk to someone else, or "f--- that b----" and it won't even break their stride, not even a dent in their ironclad confidence. People who are anxious, sensitive worriers with negative rumination just aren't made for social interactions with strangers. We need the circumstances to all line up perfectly for us to even try. Even a basic friendly conversation of Hi how are you? can be a struggle. Going beyond that to flirt, ask personal questions, get a number, ask for a date often won't even occur to this type of person because they'll feel like a deer in the headlights in the moment. Then when we finally try and it doesn't go our way we feel like failures and it makes us want to try even less. The negative memory will replay endlessly in our heads reinforcing the fear and hopelessness. I was in my thirties the first time I asked a girl for her number. This was after she A) tried to talk to me and I didn't reply B) had a group conversation with her and other people where she replied directly to me multiple times C) had a one on one conversation where I had her laughing her @ss off and we were gazing into each others eyes smiling. At that point I'd finally had enough signals to ask her if I could help her bring her things to her car, and then as she drove me to where I was parked I asked if I could get her number and she said yes. All the stars had to align perfectly for that to even happen. That's a slow day for a confident, social extrovert, something they do all the time and it's as natural as breathing. All that practice and experience just breeds more confidence. Whereas the shy sensitive introvert doesn't get much practice and their social skills atrophy.

@douchebagpatrol7237

Жыл бұрын

im a shy introvert myself and i just put up with being a creepy guy and watch women get scared sometimes when i cold approach them XD

It isn't creepy when you're rich and attractive. Then you can do whatever you want, and every woman still wants you. Women shouldn't deny it - because it's true.

@StanFrantz

4 ай бұрын

I can testify that is not true. I was a male model and successful actor in local theatre often getting write ups in the paper. I was a blond, blue eyed Southern California surfer. I didn't have squat for money but they didn't know that, hahaha. I was also an Ivy League graduate, from a family with, shall we say, significant resources, although I didn't ever rely on or seek that or even think about it. In my my mind I was just another guy trying my best to get somewhere in my profession. But this was California, and no one knew that either and wouldn't have cared. The point is, I was what they call now high-value, even if I didn't myself think so in those days. I was also extremely shy and a complete introvert. But I tried to overcome it. the modeling and acting came from my attempt to grow past it and helped. My self esteem was destroyed by what I would experience there, as you'll see. I seldom approached women because I never got a look or a smile or a flirtatious sign. Instead I got the most angry, mean looks of hate and revulsion. Like a combination of about to throw up or scream for a cop. Everywhere, passing on the street, in the grocery store, at social gatherings, and worst of all in the clubs. That cut into my soul and hurt so much. If I got my courage up and just went for it, crossed the 1000 mile wide dance floor in front of the whole crowd, and asked someone to dance, got nothing but rejection. Occasionally they were just not up for dancing at the moment, and that was clear, no harm no foul, but more often she'd slash me with some vicious cutting remark, and she and her friends would laugh. If I stuck around, brushing it off, which was tough, I'd see them talking to other people in the club, glancing at me, and then snickering. This just snowballed and snowballed. This is already way to long, but I got carried away setting the scene, and I'm also a writer. I'll try to wrap up quickly. By the time I hit 40, I was having deep depressions, suicidal ideation, and was falling apart. Then I got evicted during the housing boom, as they wanted to cut the house I rented into condos. My 95 year old grandmother was living alone back east and had a fall, so I gave up my California surfer dream and acting dream and went back and lived with her. I never even tried to go out again and meet local people. When she passed a year later, I bought a little cabin in the country and I've been here alone for 30 years now. I'm happy but lack touch and kindness. I don't get lonely surprisingly, but I do miss companionship and just someone to talk to. I don't know why or how I came across this video and others like it popped up in my suggestions, but these algorithms somehow can read minds. LOL It's tough for all of us. Always has been and got way worse when the *ahem, wink wink, nudge, nudge* "cultural shift" that started in the early 70s consumed the women in my generation, then spread across the world, just as I was coming of age seeking dates. It just gets more and more extreme. Now we're toxic and all cohorts of the patriarchy controlling and oppressing women because we look down on them. I just turned 71. I'm now very 'financial secure' due to my own earnings saved by 25 years of solo living, a low cost lifestyle, and a surprisingly large inheritance. l can go and live anywhere and buy anything I want. I have no interest in material possessions though. All I want is someone who will be kind to me. Old white straight men are the most reviled and despised and blamed demographic on the planet. Yet we're supposed to have a lock on all the power, and privileges and rule the world. Do you think I should get myself out there again and just try? No. F***ing. Way. (sorry this ran so long, I guess I needed to tell my story. This channel and others like it seem like a place I can finally tell it without being attacked as a misogynist, sexist, whiner. etc. I do wish I could post my thoughts somewhere where other men, and sympathetic women like Courtney, can read them other than comments on a video.)

I said hi to a girl in my art class. She started saying stuff to her friend while looking in my direction. She started avoiding me, even though I wasn't trying to talk to her. I felt disrespected. So one day I asked her if something was going on. She didn't respond so I left. Then I find out her and her friend complained to campus safety and was willing to take it to court

@baconboi4482

10 ай бұрын

For saying hi? Bruh. They could always just talk to you and tell you, you know like decent people

@thelucariamonarchs4889

9 ай бұрын

If it was me I'd have give her an ACTUAL reason to take me to court idc

@colourbasscolourbassweapon2135

8 күн бұрын

she belongs with the rats no cap

I'm 60 and single dad. I don't date (too busy raising kids, which is infinitely more important) and so the women in my circles (professionally and socially) consider me safe, which is correct. Here's the clincher! Because I'm considered "safe" I've been privy to COUNTLESS stories and accounts by women (mostly 20's, 30s') about how they "destroyed" a guy for approaching them. The stories are accompanied by much laughter and a good bit of gloating. Mind you, these stories aren't about groping men, or men being "creepy" in the ways you note in this video. Instead, these men were "destroyed", "humiliated" or "totally dissed" because these women just didn't want to talk to them because they weren't good looking, were too old, too young, tooo......something. It would seem women today feel it is completely within their rights to use a scorched earth policy against men, rather than be polite, and it seems much of it is for entertainment purposes. Some of them have asked me my opinion, to wit I have answered, "it sounds to me like you might need to learn some manners" or "Possibly you could have stretched a little and just said, something like 'thanks but I'm not interested'. I'm then told that I'm "old fashioned", "too sensitive" or I'm just sticking up for the guy because I'm a guy. Frankly, I can see why men don't approach women and I find it really funny that women seem so mystified by it.

@aviyahbatyah2680

Жыл бұрын

It's a cycle isn't it. Unhealed men mistreat women the way you mentioned, unhealed women return the favor, and round and round we go.

@r.c.c.3871

Жыл бұрын

@@aviyahbatyah2680 we are each and every one, responsible for our own behavior. Offenders of any gender seeking to lay blame need only look inward.

@6packproductions710

Жыл бұрын

I think women use rejections as a way to assert their dating market value, aka “if I reject this one harshly it proves I deserve better.”

@r.c.c.3871

Жыл бұрын

@@6packproductions710 Yep, it's a mind trick, but one they play on themselves.

@colettecurrier7276

Жыл бұрын

It has a ripple effect ladies. Good, kind and caring women are suffering the consequences from the ones who don't care how they treat another human being. Men, it's a harsh world but believe there are still amazing, kind and loving women that are looking for quality men.

I have been called creepy, crusty, old man. I served in the Army, worked in Law Enforcement, and was a Firefighter/EMT, and women chased me all the time. Even when I was married and they would still try getting close to me. I was injured twice on the job and eventually had to retire at an early age. I'm 53 now and my wife passed 8 years ago. No one approaches me, no one smiles and if I try to talk to them, I get a raised upper lip and sometimes they call me a pedo. I completely stopped looking at women, I will not approach them, and I will not say hello. I will say goodbye. I'm not interested in anyone ever.

@iviekicklighte673

Жыл бұрын

It's because when you were a cop emt they knew that they could get money from you if they have a kid they have turned into parasites

@thebestofj.fraley

Жыл бұрын

@@iviekicklighte673 Yes, that's pretty much the way it is.

@iviekicklighte673

Жыл бұрын

@@thebestofj.fraley something my mother use to say is there nothing worse than a human Leach

@thebestofj.fraley

Жыл бұрын

@@iviekicklighte673 believe it. lol

@michaelchambers7691

Жыл бұрын

It comes with hypocrisy. Women who call men creepy are creepy themselves. This is the reason I'm making my daughter clean her bedroom, make her bed, and fold her clothes. I've been in women's homes that are a complete disaster, these were pretty women. They don't hygiene either. Tampons over the floor, towel with blood stain period on it. I've been rejected before and eventually knew what I've been rejected by. Eventually, you learn to avoid these kind of women in the beginning. They have issues and emotional baggage. You see it in their eyes, facial expressions, and their walk to avoid them.

Fear of rejection is bad enough. Fear of success followed by being cleaned out in Family Court based on nothing but her whim is the spiritual death. The worst thing she could say is "Yes".

Been having that fear of approaching. My whole life im 22 years old. Im a big dude so the fear is even greater than normal. Fear that something bad is going to happen or i get attacked.

When I was in my late 20s/early 30s I approached women often and showed respect. But I wasn't labeled "the creep", I was seen as "the nice guy" or "too nice" and was rejected quite a lot back in those days. After I was casted away all these years by women, I learned to enjoy the silence and peace that came with loneliness. I am to a point in life that I am now set in my own ways. I do not hate women nor do I have fear of rejection. I just do not see an outcome in my life where I could reasonably negotiate giving away my peaceful life for someone else.

@dmitriystarodub916

Жыл бұрын

I can relate to that. You just strike home with your comment. The maintenance cost of keeping relationships going nowadays is extremely high. And for what?

@danielc.2042

11 ай бұрын

I really enjoy my peace and freedom.

I'll give you another reason Courtney. It's that a bunch of times women just don't seem approachable. They're frequently running around, they seem uptight, they hardly ever smile, and they are more than likely with their friends in groups, which is a major no-no for most guys. They just don't seem friendly enough to approach. Not all women before someone tries to come at me. But a lot of them do this.

@SkillzKillzBR

Жыл бұрын

Uhhh... guy here. It's your responsibility to be comfortable, friendly, charming etc so that her mood brightens up. I know some girls might be a brick wall no matter what but most will rise up to your energy level, as long as you don't fall into the "hell no" bucket. I mean, I'm a dude going through all the same day-to-day things you listed and you think I want to be approached either? No, I don't, but if someone is positive and has a good vibe I will be open to it.

@traelee684

Жыл бұрын

@@SkillzKillzBR It's not a guy's responsibility to make a woman feel or act a certain way. It's hers. No matter how how you try, you can't always force someone to feel a certain way towards you. And I was also referring to when we see the woman from afar, before we even say anything, not just when we interact. Yeah you wanna be an a**, that's gonna turn ANYONE off, but it's not OUR responsibility to make someone feel a certain way because we have no authority over that. She does.

@flashnimi

Жыл бұрын

@@SkillzKillzBR So basically you can't read? He is literally talking about those who are not positive with a good vibe

@bobxbaker

Жыл бұрын

honestly i find groups of girls to be easier to approach because they feel more safe having their group there to support them so i'm not as big of a threat to them if i would choose to approach, that and either they are a group of single of women or a group non-single women or they are a mixed bag, sure i might get rejected by the group overall but it's also bigger numbers so there's also a bigger chance that someone out of that group is into me, lots of positives and one negative. like if the majority don't like me then they are just gonna reject me but the ones who didn't want to reject me might actually look me up after when they cut themselves loose from that group for a moment. and if the majority of that group accepts me then i kinda can go for the one i feel most connected with and try my luck and if not they might steer me into the one that actually likes me in the group so there's that. but it's difficult finding a group of women that you generally feel that most of them you wouldn't mind talking to. as for approaching a lone woman, i think it's really difficult because she's gonna be a bit defensive no matter what, and it's really a shot in the dark in terms of chances and it gets very personal very quickly because she feels put on the spot as the woman you are specifically talking to, so you are putting yourself in a very do or die spot, the only way i think to get over this type of thought is to approach several women maybe not in a group but you have someone else right after you know you might introduce yourself to if the one you are approaching first doesn't go well.

@traelee684

Жыл бұрын

@@bobxbaker That might be you pal, but other guy generally speaking will not even entertain it.

So, here’s a story about something that happened to me I my early 20s (I’m 33 now). I was studying at University and was in my final year. My course was pretty strange as the first 2 years were in an entirely different city from where my University was, so I had to travel there 2-3 times a week. I had made a bunch of friends with people in my class and people outside of that group too in that city. When it came to my final year, the course was now at my actual university but, most people I had made friends with decided to finish their course elsewhere because of the travelling or other reasons, so by the time my final year started, for the most part, the number of friends had essentially reset to zero, which kinda sucks when doing a film course. In my photography class, there was a girl who was really shy who I ended up being friends with, or so I thought she was. For the record, I did not like this girl as any more than friends. On top of the fact that I thought getting into relationship would be a terrible idea since I was so close to the finish line of Uni life, I also didn’t find her attractive. At all. I added her on Facebook as for most of you boomers like me would know, back in the late 2000s/ early 2010s was pretty much the best way to talk to someone over the internet and I also didn’t have a phone that could use Facebook at the time either. Not too long after we started speaking, she invited me to her house and a few other people that I didn’t know at the time too, just to get to know us all more and hang out. From then on, there were a few times that she didn’t turn up to class, so walking on the way home from uni, I’d pass by her house, and did this about 3 times within the span of 3months just to see how she was (we both liked Kingdom Hearts and nobody I knew at the time really did, so I was fond of her because of the mutual interest) but didn’t see her all that much after that. About a year later, I’m out with some of her former housemates who kept making snide remarks about whether she was going to be somewhere that we were going. Super confused, I asked why they kept bringing her up when I didn’t bring her up at all or initiate a conversation involving her. I find out that She told all of her housemates and other people we both knew that I was “stalking” her and/or had a crush on her. Considering that I knew her on a surface level, I found that to be incredibly shocking as I didn’t think I did anything like that that would give that impression. So, I texted her (I had her phone number by then) asking her why she would do such a thing? I was absolutely fuming, obviously. She replied back saying she had a previous situation that she believed that and mine and that were similar, but apologised because she clearly got it wrong. It of course, led to me having trust issues with others and even approaching women on even a friendly level for a very long time as she essentially poisoned the well for attention and mistaking my kindness for weakness, thought I was an easy target. Thing is, I would end the story there, but unfortunately, things got worse. She was living with some of my friends I met at uni and despite me barely interacting with her, she attempted to poison the well with them too by telling them the same stuff she told her previous housemates. I only knew she was still doing it because me and my best friend worked at the same workplace and he randomly asked me about it one day, “so, what happened between you and Kelly?” And I had that moment of “ahhhh shit, here we go again!” Of course having to explain why she was completely out of order. So, she wasn’t sorry, about any of it. At all. And she’d make an effort to stay out of my way when I came round to visit or would be a no show to any parties the had just to avoid me. Sickening and incredibly immature behaviour when I think back on it, as it was all so unnecessary. I never once treated her badly or did anything to her, not to mention that she herself never brought it up to me as any concern. All I was trying to do was make friends, and I was essentially shit talked about for even trying but worse, completely behind my back in an attempt to assassinate my character. I’m aware that not all women are like this, but it was a real knock to my confidence considering I was pretty shy before starting uni, coming out of my shell then feeling the need to go back in it. A very long post and appreciate anyone who fancied reading it.

@RedX32

Жыл бұрын

She needs professional help and possibly medication.

@Kenny-ep2nf

Жыл бұрын

She’d a disturbed person who needs mental help

@ps4games164

Жыл бұрын

No one want to know, man. What I want to know is how the alimony thing never crossed your mind before catch the hand of female?

@starnet36

8 ай бұрын

This story would have been a lot more interesting if you'd deleted 80% of it. Too much beating around the bush.

@ChrisHughes89

8 ай бұрын

@@starnet36 funnily enough, I’m telling a story because of something that happened to me over a period of time which was already condensed. Sorry if it wasn’t entertaining or ”interesting” enough for you, but quite frankly, that wasn’t the point.

I won't even look towards women when I'm in public unless they approach me first. I'm not looking for a relationship but I also don't want to be labeled as creepy so I keep my eyes to myself.

When your fear of rejection or failure has, over time, been proven to be warranted, it gets hard to not lose hope.

@ps4games164

Жыл бұрын

Is any of this really the cause? Hmm.

@richardy2071

5 ай бұрын

Get your passport. Lots of men are having more success

When I was a teenager I was worried they'd say no. As I grew older that fear left me and a new fear replaced it, the fear they'd say YES! 😂

@sanji2158

Жыл бұрын

Back then i feared a broken heart, now i fear a broken rubber

@freakinccdevilleiv380

Жыл бұрын

FACT

@bobbyb1607

Жыл бұрын

Mgtow for life! Fat bank account and no drama!

@kettle_of_chris

Жыл бұрын

Freakin'CC said it best: *FACTS*

@mvnorsel6354

Жыл бұрын

Agree, a woman that likes you is a real threat.

I watched a guy approach a woman at the gym, simply introduce himself amd ask her out on a date. She said no, he walked away, and didn't re-approach or retaliate in any way. Then I watched her go to the front desk and watched the gym staff escort the man out of the gym. A guy has more to lose than just being rejected today.

Dating is just a waste of time and money at this point. I'm 42 years old and have been seeing a 30 year old woman, who's a full time single mother of a soon-to-be 3 year old girl and she decided to end things with me today, because I'm "not rebellious enough". 🤣

There is this young woman at my gym who is pretty fit - if she wants to use a piece of equipment you’re using, she won’t even ask you but will stand and look like she’s bothered and will just stare at you. I was at a squat rack and got uncomfortable with her staring so I went up to her to see if she wanted to use it because she clearly looked upset. She did but couldn’t even ask me despite the fact that I wasn’t wearing headphones. I was cordial about it, smiled, and it looks like it improved her mood but man it was kind of annoying that she couldn’t even ask but stood like I was in her way. That’s why men don’t approach.

@AamirTime

Жыл бұрын

Fit or not, man or woman, she was rude. Her parents/carers have failed to instil basic manners in this one. Her behaviour is unacceptable and she is not owed anything. Her mood is irrelevant too and she does not have a right over you working out in peace. Report her ass to the gym owner if she does not follow simple etiquette.

@allenblack3785

Жыл бұрын

ask her "is there a problem ?" YES Im waiting for that machine.......sure, as soon as Im done (take your time)........

@stevenfreeman7265

Жыл бұрын

I just take longer when people do that..

@fortunateson2

Жыл бұрын

@@allenblack3785 and it's always your mf set! -CT Fletcher

@jpowell2603

Жыл бұрын

​@@stevenfreeman7265 lol😂

I got humiliated and insulted about 6 months ago. Felt like the end of the world. It still hurts, but now I have absolutely ZERO fear of rejection. Nothing a woman say or do can effect me in any manner. I am completely free and invincible.

@Geoff9001

Жыл бұрын

How long did it take you to get over it? I want to get this out of the way(rejection) so I'm bulletproof like you became.

@motormouthalmighty

Жыл бұрын

CRIKEY.I WISH THAT HAD HAPPENED TO ME.I WISH THAT A GROUP OF WOMEN MADE ME LOOK LIKE A SILLY STUPID LITTLE TWERP OR A LITTLE MOUSE!REDUCING ME TO TEARS LIKE A LITTLE EIGHT YEAR OLD SCHOOLBOY!EMBRACE THE MOMENT!

@mejamesme1

Жыл бұрын

@@Geoff9001 the majority dont respect you and never will. they get jot from mistreating men. so don;t worry. if one likes you or acts like it, they just want to hurt you and ruin your life. so why even bother approaching at all? You work hard for your stuff. so don;t interact with one. cause thats how you get fausly accused and wrongfully unpresented an no less than half of your belongings given to the one who ruined your life forever!!!!!!

@cara.leo_

Жыл бұрын

Sorry that happened to you. This makes me so sad to hear men are being shunned or rudely dismissed for just being interested. As someone who loves being approached by men, it’s a sad state for the heterosexual dating scene.

@johnmorelli3775

Жыл бұрын

I reached that stage too. I just couldn't care less what they thought of me because I was fully aware how flawed their judgement really was.

I'm at the point that i'm actually fine not dealing with women again. You guys are just too difficult. xD I did miss being with a woman after the break up with my last relationship last year, but the focus has been on myself, health, education/job, friends and family. And there's peace, freedom, happiness. I don't think you women fully understand yet what you did and are still doing. You don't seem to realize that a man can learn to be more than fine without you. Now you have to proof why we should want to deal with you. I don't think you fully realize how hard you have made it for yourselves. You're going to have to step up big time. We don't need you, but you do need us.

One time when I was in college 8 years ago a woman I was friends with was in a Target and was approached in a friendly way by a regular, decently attractive guy. She was on the phone and her boyfriend was in another aisle, but it was a genuine harmless approach by him. She declined, he walked away and she started crying and telling me that I should never approach women in a Target. She didn't explain why, but was adamant that I shouldn't do it. I have been afraid to talk to women in any setting every since.

@tavrincallas3218

Жыл бұрын

That sucks, brother, I know things like that can scar you and you will be afraid to do something wrong. To me it sounds like your friend may have had something else going on that caused her to interpret the approach in a much worse way, or that the approach itself was actually less friendly than it appeared. Regardless, the important thing is to aknowledge that their location had nothing to do with the quality of the approach, as a supermarket can be a great place for that. A woman in her 70's who lives in my apartment building once told me, with a big smile, of a time she was approached while buying groceries. The point is, try and tell yourself that it was either a problem of hers or the guy involved, and that an unfortunate approach like that doesn't mean EVERY approach ever is inherently wrong. Best of luck, brother ❤️

I once extended my hand to help a girl getting off of the bus so that she does not slide on an icy ground, she looks at me as a creep. I instantly regretted it. Since then, I stopped offering them help in public. If helping in public make you look creep, making a conversation can get you SWAT.

@guitarista666

Жыл бұрын

Bro, don't make life changing decisions on a single event like that. Some women, like some guys, are peckerheads and when they do something dumb, it should be water off a duck's back as far as you're concerned. You should continue to be a considerate guy, just next time be sure to ask if she would like help first. If she says no, and if she says no in a graceless way, just realize that you are a nice guy and you are a better man for it. The human race is deeply flawed, but that does not mean that you have to be. You can be better than that, and your life will be better for it. Some fools think that being nice is the same as being weak. This is not at all necessarily the case. You can be basically a nice guy, but still be strong and self-confident. It doesn't mean you have to fawn over anyone.

@mostlypeacefulguntraining

Жыл бұрын

@@guitarista666 nice try satan

@mejamesme1

Жыл бұрын

@@guitarista666 talking to one before knowing if they are going to lie and get the thrown in jail, just cause they were bored for that hour. is just asking to get deleted off the planet

@notproductiveproductions3504

Жыл бұрын

Next time you see her slip and fall, just say “if only there was a creep to help you balance”

@guitarista666

Жыл бұрын

@@mostlypeacefulguntraining You need help. You obviously have a very low level of personal development.

Numerous women have asked me in recent months why men don't approach women anymore. I explain the same things as you said. Great video.

@CourtneyRyan

Жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙌🏼

@markymarknj

Жыл бұрын

So, what do these women say? How do they react when you answer their questions?

@aboutdoorsman4695

Жыл бұрын

Same thing, I have told female friends the same thing. They all keep saying, men need to try harder. I say back, to hell with that. They don’t like the answer so they ignore it.

@Gh0stGaminginc

Жыл бұрын

And it would woosh over all of their heads. Women are selfish and only care about themselves.

@kathyp1563

Жыл бұрын

I'd say it is the woman's fault more than the man's. There is a type of hospitality when a woman entertains a man who cold-approaches. This is also important if she is not interested.

It’d be a hypothetical, but I wish there’d be a world where absolutely no men approached women. I’d love to see how the tables would turn. Maybe then we’d get more dates.

I noticed that after I got married, all of a sudden women were OK with me approaching them to talk. Was it because the fact that I was married meant that some woman had given me her seal of approval so I must be OK? Was it because now I that am not available that makes me more attractive? Was it that now that I have nothing to lose by approaching them, I am more relaxed? Was it that I understand better how women think, now that I spend a lot of time with my wife?

One of my former coworkers got suspended and forcibly transferred to another department because the younger woman in his department reported him for "being creepy" because he was overly helpful with her and super talkative. He was like that with everyone, including myself, and everyone knew that it was just his personality type. But the management still punished him because she demanded it. I had several other coworkers that were suspended or fired for similar situations. One gal at work managed to get three of my coworkers fired, all for the same allegations. Each time, it was just a dude talking with her and interacting with the her like anyone else and not walking on eggshells. Made my decision to stay single a lot easier. Less chance of losing my job. (Eventually quit that job but still don't date or approach)

@samanthamccormick1505

Жыл бұрын

I have known where the exact opposite happened. A couple of dudes in the head office of a Fortune 500 company were called to HR because a young lady at their office reported that the guy was 'anti social'. Essentially that the guy was not making small talk with her and that this was making her uncomfortable [this happened with two guys at two different times, with the same lady reporting them both]. Both of the men were fantastic team members and very good at their job. They just wanted to keep away from this lady unless warranted for work, as she was a known trouble maker. She has been sent several times by the company for 'anger management' training. Ironically she reported the first guy after she repeatedly tried to get the guy to take her out for coffee and he politely refused [The guy is good looking, takes good care of his fitness]. When her attempts to get him to taker her out failed, unbelievably on a weekend she reached the approximate vicinity where she knew this guy lived in a luxurious condo building and gave him a call saying: 'Hey I am not far from where I know you live. HOw about us spending the day together, grabbing a brunch and later going to xyz concert'. He was pretty rattled and politely refused her request to meet him. He kept a safe distance from her at work after this and made any interaction with her strictly confined to work/ business. Not long thereafter she reported him to HR. He was immediately called and given a talking to about improving his behavior so that young ladies in office don't feel uncomfortable of threatened. He narrated his side of the story. He was still counselled to make small talk with her so she is made more comfortable. He eventually left the job. The exact same thing was repeated with another guy. He too left the place worried that some other allegation would be made against him and that HR and everyone will support the lady. So you would wonder what happend to that lady, right? Her reputation within the office grew to the point that people started calling her the 'Office psycho'. Nonetheless, despite further 'Anger management sessions' that the company made her go through, they have not only retained her, but have actually promoted her several times. Last I checked she went on to become a manager, senior manager and now has an ever more impressive title - almost at par with a 'Director'! And this is a company that most people worldwide are fully aware of. And here is the kicker. While this is how this globally well known company dealt with her, there was another incident where a guy who also had 'anger related issues' acted up. This guy was not happy that a team did not meeet an important goal and also didnt inform the higher ups that the deadline would be missed. So he came down to the team's office and spoke to everyone that such an incident shall not be tolerated and he will come down heavily on the team if this was repeated. What happened? He got reported to HR. A few young ladies reported to HR that they are very worried what would happen given his 'threats'. The 'man' was told immediately that the entire FLOOR where this team was located, that entire floor [It is a huge building with several hundred people working on that floor], but he was told that he is banned from ever entering that floor. A week later he was fired! Ironically, the tantrums thrown by that other woman with the anger management issues, were and are much worse, much frequent and crazy than what that other guy did ONCE. He was let go soon. She? Nothing happens to her. The constant explanation given about her is: 'Hey, Miss X? You all know about Miss X right? Miss X is just being Miss X, folks. Dont' take it too seriously'

@harrisn3693

Жыл бұрын

@@samanthamccormick1505 let me guess, Lockheed Martin or Pfizer….those companies do that shyt all the time….

@samanthamccormick1505

Жыл бұрын

@@harrisn3693 Sorry, but your guess is incorrect :) Dream destinations, wonderful food, turquoise waters...Fortune 300

@davidalmeida4584

Жыл бұрын

Here, in MA, there’s a law that took place in 2018 that qualify as harassment at work if you simply touch a woman, look at her , frequently or say something that made her feel uncomfortable among other people and some other if’s….. it’s just ridiculous! The State make us be afraid of approaching the women and it all happened because women and they are complaining about it now….🤣🤦‍♂️🤷‍♂️

For me personally. As a 50 year old man... I care nothing of what people think of me..... Creepy or not. I don't approach women because I'm tired of their games and tests. You either like a person for who they are or not at all.

@dainepetrou8011

Жыл бұрын

Hi Courtney. I come from a peaceful place in regards to a reply. I don't hate women and not do I treat them badly. I am a good hearted guy that's been used and abused over the years with the few ladies I've dated. I'm always in it for the long haul and never been a one night guy. Ever... I'm very Sigma/alpha and I don't play games with people's heart and I cannot think of anything lower to demoralise a persons heart n soul. I am no stranger to think there are ignorant people out there that get off on destroying good people and there morals n beliefs as well. So from a good guys point of view.... I don't play games. If you do you will be by yourself and single again. I'm to busy in my life to date idiots that get off on destroying people's heart n soul. Genuine people. I believe that as we progress into the modern age that men and women will be in avoidance to each other. More and more men particularly in the elder age are walking away from romance as the hole idea of it falls into the TOO HARD BASKET and not worth the pain and anguish and the loss of someones vulnerability to be exposed and disgraced. This goes for both sides and I know women of today are victimised in every way these days as well, so it seems that we are just hurting each other time and time again. Im happy in myself, I suffer from depression and anxiety like many others and the only way to live a non regretful life is too not care what anyone else's thinks of you. You want to ask a person out on a date. Go and ask. You don't ask you don't get. Read a women. If they like you a man doesnt have to try, the getting to know each other will flow or not. Being inappropriate is not rocket science. A guy knows full well when he is stepping out of bounds and you don't touch unless you are guiding someone or of the way and even than you do it in such a way that's not invading. Women and men need to go back to the old days. Men were gents. And Women were ladies. Respect for each other was mutual in every way. Nowadays.... I see things that I just shake my head at. I'm happy being and following the ol school ways. If the ladies think I'm old fashioned and don't like being treated as such than this lady is obviously not for me. Simple...... Thank you for the reply... I like watching some of your videos as they are hitting the spot in today's world of men and women. I also congratulate you on having the gusto to bring to light information about both genders that a lot of us don't wish to know about our selves. It's good to know these things for those that want to better themselves and improve themself for their own satisfaction. How to become a Gent is by no means easy for today's young and younger generation, however like any relationship..... It takes work and mistakes and you learn and try not to go down the same path again. Anyone that is doing much the same as me I wish them all the best.... And good on you for seeing through the bullshit of today social standards and acceptance.... Modern world is going down a dark path and and we all know what happens when you hit rock bottom....

@adam.dzwoniarek72

Жыл бұрын

AMEN TO THAT! I'm your age and I have stopped caring what others think of me too. Women especially.

@davidhensell6271

Жыл бұрын

You are exactly right!

@dainepetrou8011

Жыл бұрын

I believe it's the hard facts in today's world@@davidhensell6271. Unfortunate on many many levels however I got to say for myself. Since I've let go of trying to fix or control things that don't wish to be I'm feeling rather relaxed these days. Fighting, bickering over silly shit, accepting things that we shouldn't because of love or so called love... Things like this..... To hard and not right on both sides of the fence. We are just hurting each other and giving each other more trauma and psychological issues. When you stand back and take a moment to reflect the history. Ask yourself. Knowing what I know now....... Would I date that person or kind of person again.... I can tell you I'm no fan..... I've had enough.... A shame I am single and the hurt of seeing and hearing my parents dejection of not having any grand kids running around the house to yell nanny and poppy etc..... It's hard to take and it never gets any easier but having to accept a large lump down your throat and get on with life by yourself has to be done and I'm all about ease of life. So I've let go now. Take every day as it comes. Enjoy the positives in your life and love your mates is what I do to accommodate the loss of not having a loved one to cosy up too... Harsh I know.

@AamirTime

Жыл бұрын

Well said.

Getting rejected seemed like a a part of me died each time to the point I gave up.

@Danny328DT

Жыл бұрын

I kind of think of it this way. Say a girl approached you and you didn't find her physically attractive. She asks you if you're willing to spend time with her. Wouldn't you like the choice of saying yes or no? Rejection is just like saying yes or no to a question you agree or disagree with. Choices are natural, and that's how I see rejections.

I don’t approach girls or younger women because I’m overly shy which is a huge turn off for girls which leaves me to believe I won’t find hope in trying to approach a girl and possibly starting a relationship.

"Shoot her a DM on Instagram"- LOL COURTNEY This never works.

@ellisdee2013

Жыл бұрын

Yea, join the 1,000 other dudes in her DMs! There's a chance she might get back to you. You might even get lucky and get to buy her a meal. Maybe even take her home... And if you're really lucky, you might get married and she might pop out a couple of your kids. Maybe even take half your money and the kids with her!

@juliannfloress3490

Жыл бұрын

@@ellisdee2013 so true bruh...

@TheFlyingPilgrim

Жыл бұрын

I asked a girl out on Discord once, and got a date out of it. But we had a class together before that.

@juliannfloress3490

Жыл бұрын

@@TheFlyingPilgrim so, what happened with that girl? was she nice or not ?

@TheFlyingPilgrim

Жыл бұрын

@@juliannfloress3490 We’re still talking, but it’s complicated. It might not go anywhere, but I’ve gone on dates with other people since. She wasn’t in a place to date, and I’m worried I said something that made her realize that, because she commented on it with her social media and recognized that she had red flags.

It used to be that the worse thing that could happen is a woman politely declining. Now, that's the best thing that can happen. The common result these days is humiliation. The worst thing that can happen today is being MeTooed. There's no reason for a man to approach a woman he doesn't know.

@latinaalma1947

Жыл бұрын

So how on earth will you ever meet anyone?

@george6977

Жыл бұрын

@@latinaalma1947 Some women approach men, young women and married women mainly.

@nathanmorgan3647

Жыл бұрын

@@latinaalma1947 Psst: You don't. You let the women have the cats, and you get yourself a dog and wait for the Chinese Overlords to move in and put all the women in brothels. Then maybe they'll want us.

@robertlunderwood

Жыл бұрын

@@latinaalma1947 Pray that you land in a good friends group in college.

@Nightzo

Жыл бұрын

Just become a pro athlete and the women will come to you

They get angry when you complement them and call you a creep...

I don't date anymore at 46.. I had two marriages fail..I have been single 5 years.Some of us have been thru a lot, and just being alone is peace. So that's why some guys may not approach anymore...

Another big thing is most men don't have confidence because we've never been given a genuine compliment about anything. I feel this is pretty common for most men too, even if we pretend otherwise. I

@Ebon_Sean

Жыл бұрын

I thought this was just me - I go multiple years between getting a single compliment, so when I get one I get caught off guard and wonder if it's a prank (because that's happened before)

@buldrux217

Жыл бұрын

@@Ebon_Sean it's happened to me before as well. It's horrible especially if you actually believe it at first

@rascal211

Жыл бұрын

Difficult to build confidence with continue failures with attempting to date women. the confident guys are the guys getting all the women so women want guys who are with all the other women.

I am SO glad you brought this up. I think some women's addictions to social media and the ensuing exposure to so many real stories about guys being creepy has whipped them up into paranoia or even thinking that they can get their 15 minutes of social media glory about putting dudes on blast who approach them. I do see female friends blasting out DM screenshots and a lot of these guys ARE creepy and deserve it, but some of them seem so innocent to me and I feel bad for the guys. "Ugh another compliment in my DMs" when it's just a guy saying he liked her jacket or something. OKAY we get it- you think you're hot. As for real-life approaches, a rejection to me used to be of a polite variety. You just took the hint and moved on. But lately I have noticed (and this could even be from joking with someone at a bar or remarking about something in order to start a conversation) that if the girl is with her friends I will get much more rude reactions. Last week at a bar I had a girl give me this dramatic silent sour face when I made joke about the song that had just come up. Then 15 minutes later she and her friends (who weren't even that attractive) just bumrushed this group of 6' 4" guys who wanted nothing to do with them. They had these huge in-love smiles on their faces and wouldn't even take the rejection from the guys. These 5/10 girls are going all-in just for a few minutes of attention from 9/10 guys who have little interest in them. I think I know where these girls will be in 10 years- on Reddit crying about how they can't get a man or how they are repulsed by and fixing to divorce their mid-range accountant husbands. The game now is so messed up and anything beyond a lukewarm attempt at conversating now, I am backing off completely and only engaging with women who approach me. It sounds so bitter, and I am not a bitter guy. I've been with a LOT of women, I've gotten mine, so I feel for the young guys way more. The game just isn't fun anymore.

@dracian8859

Жыл бұрын

Wow man You opened my eyes This thing just hit me perfect " the game isnt fun anymore" Wow mannn i dont even have words Uptill now i was searching that how can i be attractive and manly But i just forgot that its not just one sided but a clap is done by both hands Girls also should be more feminine Not just men to be more masculine Uptill now i havent been approached by any girls but now i will not approach any women anymore Thanks man That story of 9/10 guys and 5/10 girls gave me a thought that even if it sounds a little narcissistic but think yourself as a 9/10 guy and the girls need your attention Think yourself as a prize

@anthonyharty1732

Жыл бұрын

You are right about only engaging with women who approach you. If a woman doesn’t show by her body language she’s interested in me I won’t bother with her. The old saying is there are plenty of fish in the sea, if a woman shows no interest find someone who does.

@GregXHunterz

Жыл бұрын

Damn man that's rough

@steveredstone1711

Жыл бұрын

Bro, the m3n who DM random vvomen really disgusts me. They enabled this behavior.

@jagosevatarion8822

Жыл бұрын

49ers are so annoying

Jesus my entire life I had to deal with women calling me or my friends creeps only because they probably had no experience talking with a girl or were introverted like myself. Honestly personally I’ve had many women say pretty hateful things and that takes a toll on you and a long time to recover mentally. Now you’ll see many men looking outside the US because they don’t want to deal with this

This is so sad. I was married during the time that women pushed this narrative. I am now single and so sad to see how much the dating dynamic has shifted. I wish there was a way to help society return to the old school, traditional ways :(

@thevoid5503

Жыл бұрын

Too late.

@andrewevans7992

11 ай бұрын

Oh well. Goodluck the next life, hopefully you don’t mess that up either

@alanhigh8125

10 ай бұрын

Women created this dynamic. They have no one to blame but themselves. Someone once made a brilliant, cogent remark summing up the present situation: "Men didn't start the war between the sexes, but they'll win it, by simply walking off the battlefield in contempt."

@DeadCat-42

8 ай бұрын

I tell that to myself everytime I meet someone I find attractive.. Not this lifetime. I avoid women entirely now, our misandrus culture is doomed.

@ArielYve

8 ай бұрын

@@alanhigh8125 I believe both genders are jointly responsible for the dynamic as neither exits in a vacuum apart from the other. And yes, walking off the battlefield is sometimes the only viable option.

Story time: When I was probably 13 or so, had just hit puberty, I had a crush on a girl. I didn't know her or anything, and we had barely spoken, but I thought she was cute. At some point I was at my friend's place and he was skyping his girlfriend. They asked me if I had a crush on any girls and I said yes, but didn't reveal who it was. They pestered me until I told them who it was, and then said things like "Aw, that's cute. You should ask her out". Literally the next morning as I'm putting my stuff away in the little open cubbies we had in homeroom, my crush walks up to me, visibly upset, in front of the class, and says "Do you like me?". I said "Yeah, I do", and then she goes "Ew..." and walks away. I've had a crippling fear of embarrassment and rejection ever since. I somehow managed to have a girlfriend for a few months when I was 19, but otherwise I've only been into a few women who I waited far too long to ask out and they either had lost interest by that point or were never interested in the first place. I am trying to work on myself now and try dating again, but the current social climate really doesn't give me much hope. RIP. Edit: forgot to mention I'm 30 now.

@abolisher

Жыл бұрын

What the hell??😂🤣🤣

@abolisher

Жыл бұрын

Bro Why let that bother you if it was when you were 13 do you still look the same as you do now ?if not let it go

@deathdriver23

Жыл бұрын

@@abolisher It was a long time ago, but having that happen at such a young age leaves scars on your mind. Honestly, at the time, while I felt betrayed and rejected, it could have affected me more than it did. It's mostly in retrospect I see how it subtly changed how I interacted with women and made me socially anxious around them.

@XX-bn9sf

Жыл бұрын

@@deathdriver23 A genuine traumatic experience.

@abolisher

Жыл бұрын

@@deathdriver23 that’s one girls opinion man not every girl is going to think the same about you some girls will find you attractive other girls won’t it’s just the way it is no matter how attractive or unattractive you look we all see differently. I recommend letting go of that past if it wasn’t good why remember it especially if it does damage to you right now or in the future. Me and some girl split up because she wouldn’t let go of her past from abuse cheating lies so she assumed every guy no after him would do the same. It’s not healthy for the healthy party to deal with such things no matter how much you care about that person.

I’m a woman experienced brutal rejection and humiliation and I won’t be putting myself out there ever again. It really sucks

I've heard women say that confidence is a must-have in a cold approach (along with tall, rich and handsome, of course, but not many actually say that out loud). Every rejection dents confidence. Low confidence increases likelihood of rejection, which lowers confidence further and so on. It becomes inevitable that at some point the guys will just give up.

It's not just fear of approaching women, it's fear of being approached by a woman aswell. I'm a dad of 3 but I can tell you that I have been treated terribly by women, like if I enter a place to get the kids a haircut at a kids salon but I get dagger eyes from the mums, or when I'm being polite and they think their being hit on, I struggle to set an example for my kids when it's never appreciated by anyone.

@jasonh5547

Жыл бұрын

It is like society in the last 20-30 years has tried to put animosity and distrust between men and women. It is just another symptom in the breakdown of society.

@kalesmart1

Жыл бұрын

@Jason H absolutely agreed, and women are now attracted to dangerous behaviours for sex, positive behaviours are feared, absolutely chaotic 😜

@erelpc

Жыл бұрын

they're*

Being called creepy is the most dehumanising thing I could experience it hurts me so much and I’ve had it happen so I know from experience and it makes you feel very filthy

@lorenebonsu146

Жыл бұрын

Dang, that must suck.

@NadeemAhmad-me7fp

Жыл бұрын

Don’t give in to the butchery of English language in America.

@Anonymous-pt6sv

Жыл бұрын

@@lorenebonsu146 it did but I’ve been able to move past it you know sometimes it pops up but overall it’s much better

@lorenebonsu146

Жыл бұрын

@@Anonymous-pt6sv Honestly I feel you in a way, as an super awkward girl I always fear coming off that way but, I guess since im female people just see me as funny, or nice, or cute or some shit. I'm sure if I was male I would get the same treatment. The only difference between us is I'm the same but, get treated much better. I hope your ok now, try not to let it replay too much in your head or you'll drive yourself into depression.

@DryWall-wd4ei

Жыл бұрын

Being sued for seksharassment would be wrse I would imagine.

Courtney you're so level headed and the effort you put to be thoughtful. Appreciate you

I suffer from a schizophrenia spectrum disorder. I take meds and am extremely high functioning. I have a masters degree and a good job. I live independently. People don't even know I have the disorder unless I tell them. Most women, when they find out, say they're no longer interested in me and that it's creepy. It hurts so much, especially since I have my mental shit more together than most of the girls who judge me. One time I had a girl over my apartment. She saw a bottle of my meds. Then she told me it was creepy and scary, made fun of me, and left.

"My mother didn't breast feed me, she just wanted to be friends" Rodney Dangerfield

It gets tough when every woman u ask out tells u she’s already got somebody. After awhile u just start assuming there all taken.

@abolisher

Жыл бұрын

When she says that she’s not interested in you sorry to say. I met this girl we talked for a bit and she gave her socials even after knowing she was in a 5 year relationship with someone .

@meddyven

Жыл бұрын

Plus, women say they want a man who is honest and trustworthy, yet many lie to men that they have a BF, etc. When they do not.

@juliannfloress3490

Жыл бұрын

@@meddyven lies and more lies Ed...women say that but u know is BS....

@DissentOrConcur

Жыл бұрын

Woman are compulsive liars.

@jaxonwoods8181

Жыл бұрын

Girls will make exceptions for men they like and barriers and rules for men they don't. One of the workers I supervise got a chick's number even as she explicitly stated she already had a boyfriend. Meanwhile I had a woman agree to multiple dates but got ghosted on all of them due to "family issues" (she was actually getting blasted by Chad at the club).

"You have to give yourself the chance to succeed" is the most powerful piece of advice that I have heard in a very long time. Thank you so much!