Hi! Could you do an episode of ‘things not to say to people who tried to commit suicide’?

@ameena6485

5 жыл бұрын

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@marlenasien8793

5 жыл бұрын

Would you not want someone to ask you why you did it?

@Phoenix-qm8wy

5 жыл бұрын

Marlena Sien i wouldn’t mind it brings more awareness to me and my struggles and how to deal with others with it

@jamesmichaels4979

5 жыл бұрын

That would be a dead good one.

@sorchaoreilly2633

5 жыл бұрын

@@marlenasien8793 No. Relevant similar questions may be asked when attending a professional about it or if the person chooses to talk about it to someone who is close with them. But you don't just say "why". It's painful stuff to talk about. Even in the aforementioned contexts, they should be asking tactfully about what led to it, what was on their mind but it's nobody else's business to ask for more details than what the person themselves brings up even if they're publicly sharing a survival story.

Can the older lady with a yellow jumper be my fairy godmother? She has an amazing voice and sounds soooo strong and patient and passionate!

@Bradmhj

4 жыл бұрын

midorishiwa I know it sounds crazy but if you read these sources done by well known organization you’ll begin to have insight on these other cultures. Same way we do body mods in our country, like tongue splitting, butt implants, etc. But read it with an open mind, I’m not saying it’s ok at all just that it’s not what the general media makes it out to be some horror film scenario. Many woman are in they’re 20s and proud to become a woman this way Two sources www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2015/04/female-genital-mutilation-cutting-anthropologist/389640/ www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-47133941

@megansadorus2285

4 жыл бұрын

@@Bradmhj There's a difference between cultural relativism and universal human rights. Cultures differ but painful, traumatic, lifelong suffering is a violation of human rights. Just because some women have grown up and learned to manage their trauma in a healthy, empowering way, doesn't make it any less traumatic.

@phyllis9853

3 жыл бұрын

@@Bradmhj but the difference between the butt implants and fgm is CONSENT. Most of these young women who go through it didn’t consent to it at all and was probably screaming and crying through the process. That’s why this practice needs to be banned and it’s also not medically safe because the proper tools and aftercare aren’t being used. We are not trying to shit on anyone’s culture, we are just trying to protect victims.

thinking of fgm makes me queasy but these women are so brave 🙏

@jawmarie

5 жыл бұрын

What is FGM? Could someone explain exactly what that means?

@rebeccak9597

5 жыл бұрын

@@jawmarie it's when females have their genitals removed/ sewed. It's usually because of cultures

@jawmarie

5 жыл бұрын

@@rebeccak9597 Thank you ❤

@rebeccak9597

5 жыл бұрын

@@jawmarie haha no problem 😊

@janemordey6083

5 жыл бұрын

@Orgasm Donor thank you for such a clear concise explanation, there are so many medical complications resulting in lifelong pain, how any person can defend it is beyond me, I do not agree with male circumsision either as I think this often goes wrong and ends in mutilation, why some female fgm campaigners have their sons circumsised is a weird one!

For once BBC three covers a much needed topic. FGM is absolutely disgusting and tragic. Mutilation is really the perfect word because it's dangerous, disgusting and heartbreaking to see this happen in modern times. To be completely honest I don't even agree with Male circumcision. It upsets me so much to see this happen to this day to young innocent girls being held down and cut with often non sterile tools and cut it absolutely breaks my heart it is so upsetting.

@fritnat

5 жыл бұрын

The situation with male circumcision is much worse, its legal even in our modern times in Britain and far more widespread. At least girls have a legal protection and enjoy widespread condemnation of the practice.

@fritnat

5 жыл бұрын

@@elliot7404 How exactly is the damage much less? In by far the most cases more erogenous functional tissue is lost with male circumcision than female. The foreskin has an area the size of a credit card containing the most touch sensitive part of the penis. With fgm it can even be very difficult to determine whether it has even been caried out as the only case to be successfully prosecuted here in Denmark has shown. There is never any doubt that a boy has been circumcised, it is clearly visible from some distance and could never be kept a secret from one's partner. An adult man is never unaware of his circumcision status as very many women are. Boys have lost their penis while no girl has lost her vagina. More boys have lost their life than girls and it happens in our developed world including Britain, Norway, Italy, USA, Canada etc. No girl has lost her life even with illegal fgm in those countries. again how is it less damaging?

@fritnat

5 жыл бұрын

@@elliot7404 Male or female its mutilation. female circumcision was called FGM to make the artificial distinction between male and female circumcision. Man more boys die of from infections or complications than girls do. There is no real evidence to suggest that women who have had FGM are more likely to die in childbirth than those who have not. the clitoris is never removed with FGM, only the hood or the node which is a tiny part of the organ. There are many more nerve endings in the foreskin. Male circumcision ends in complications more often than FGM. I agree infibulation is very barbaric however this accounts for only a small percentage of FGM cases and even in these cases it is usually easier to restore the genitals than with MGM as the clitoris is usually left intact. For every case of infibulation there are upwards of 100 cases of MGM.

@fritnat

5 жыл бұрын

@@elliot7404 Well I hope I've been able to correct some misconceptions for you.

@elliot7404

5 жыл бұрын

@@fritnat I didn't need that I just made a comment on how atrocious fgm is. I mentioned Male circumcision one and I said I did not agree with it not taking away from its value.

FGM is unthinkable and it’s even more heartbreaking how many young woman are in this video

@Bradmhj

4 жыл бұрын

Noushie 5000 I know it sounds crazy but if you read these sources done by well known organization you’ll begin to have insight on these other cultures. Same way we do body mods in our country, like tongue splitting, butt implants, etc. But read it with an open mind, I’m not saying it’s ok at all just that it’s not what the general media makes it out to be some horror film scenario. Many woman are in they’re 20s and proud to become a woman this way Two sources www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2015/04/female-genital-mutilation-cutting-anthropologist/389640/ www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-47133941

@halodp9161

3 жыл бұрын

@@Bradmhj Having you genitals forcefully mutilated as a child is not the same as choosing to split you tongue as an adult. There is no defense for this barbaric practice.

basically when i was 8 i came back from a holiday in Africa and i was sick, i couldn't walk , nothing. when we arrived at the border patrol thing, the guy asked me if i had gone through fgm and obviously at that time i didn't know what it was and i shouldn't have either. my mum was like no, shes only eight yrs old, she shouldn't know what that is. i hadn't gone through fgm but because we came back from Africa and i was really sick , they had to ask. I'm proud of them!!! maybe if more people knew the signs and symptoms, it would happen less, idk

@gracyru8806

5 жыл бұрын

Which country in Africa? Because your statement is implying ALL the border patrols in Africa ask that. Its probably a common occurence at the border of the country you were leaving because they practice it. And fgm is not a sickness. It does not have 'signs and symptoms'. Some women don't even know it was done to them until waaaay later in life. Its physical,its psychological,its basically a super compounded issue.

@mehakrassul2289

5 жыл бұрын

Grace Rimuri I’m sorry if it sounded like I’m making assumptions but by signs and symptoms I mean being tired , being really drained out and things like that. My auntie actually went through fgm and I know that from experience, and I was in Tanzania in east Africa.

@Bradmhj

4 жыл бұрын

yes female genital mutation, feminist named it that but it really is more closely to circumcising, I read a few articles and when ppl go and teach ppl in these countries this s wrong, the “mutilation” words angers the culture because mutilation translates very harshly, same as the word sound. Many woman to it voluntarily as a part of becoming a woman. But now we a infringing on cultures that do this voluntarily same as males

@Bradmhj

4 жыл бұрын

I know it sounds crazy but if you read these sources done by well known organization you’ll begin to have insight on these other cultures. Same way we do body mods in our country, like tongue splitting, butt implants, etc. But read it with an open mind, I’m not saying it’s ok at all just that it’s not what the general media makes it out to be some horror film scenario. Many woman are in they’re 20s and proud to become a woman this way Two sources www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2015/04/female-genital-mutilation-cutting-anthropologist/389640/ www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-47133941

@razee7869

4 жыл бұрын

IceyYou sis it's like making vagina a prison before marriage....it's no way near circumcision...because FGM has lot of side effects and even cause death...but circumcision is just removing foreskin

me and my biology teacher had and argument over, he kept telling me how it’s the same as male circumcision and got angry everytime I disputed him, western ignorance is such a huge problem

@fritnat

5 жыл бұрын

Western ignorance? It is the same, it's genital mutilation! It's a matter of infomred consent and bodily integrity - the right to one's own body, not about sex!

@aoifek9709

5 жыл бұрын

Simon Pope I understand what you base your comment off and I fundamentally agree but circumcision is nowhere near as severe, for different reasons and at an older age

@fritnat

5 жыл бұрын

@@aoifek9709 Male circumcision is generally more severe than female circumcision, with the loss of more erogenous and uniquely functional tissue. Generally speaking the age is the same within the same communities practicing it. There are however many communities which only practice male circumcision. The younger the age the more the damage.

@aoifek9709

5 жыл бұрын

Simon Pope link me at least 3 sources which give outright facts to support each claim you made in that comment.

@Nevillescardigan

5 жыл бұрын

@@fritnat are you genuinely trying to argue that the foreskin is more erogenous and UNIQUELY functional than the clitoris ........ the clit's only function is pleasure......it is the only organ in the human body that can only be used for pleasure. It has nothing to do with the reproductive process. I don't see how the removal of the foreskin is anywhere near the same as having your clitoris cut out, your labia sliced off and your vagina sewn up??? To make them equivalent people would have to cut off half of the penis shaft, slice the foreskin off, and then sew some part of the genitals together. No body who is against fgm would ever be in favour of circumcision. HOWEVER, no woman gets FGM done in a sanitary, medical environment. The cutting is more severe, the loss of organs/tissue is more severe, and they then have to go most likely go through being cut back open on their wedding night, and giving birth. Cutting a baby/child's genitals without their consent is one of the most vile, evil things you can do. But you cannot argue that the loss of a foreskin is in any way worse/equal to the removal of an entire sexual organ, the removal of tissue, and the sewing up of a vagina.

I cried because I'm Somali and fgm is big in our country it's such a bad thing.

@fritnat

5 жыл бұрын

It's becoming more and more medicalised inspired by western male circumcision.

@fritnat

5 жыл бұрын

@Reg. Pson Very much so... for example: www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=2&ved=2ahUKEwjEraWhxOjhAhXoMewKHSMlCHEQFjABegQIBhAC&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.popcouncil.org%2Fuploads%2Fpdfs%2F2018RH_UnderstandingMedFGMC-Nigeria.pdf&usg=AOvVaw2uOKYmZuu302CTZEQnT3Er No MGM has not been medicalised for thousands of years but only since the late 19th century together with FGM.

@awochoco

5 жыл бұрын

@@fritnat those are two different things fgm is awful and has some awful consequences, yes mc have been medically but fgm has a different story

@fritnat

5 жыл бұрын

@@awochoco No, both are genital mutilation. MGM is usually more awful, and is done legally in the entire world! No, they have essentially the same story.

@hazelandale6713

5 жыл бұрын

I'm not trying to be pushy but I'm genuinely curious. Have you had it done and how did it affect you or if you haven't has someone close to you had it done?

It is terrible. Thanks for talking about it. ❤🙏

@Bradmhj

4 жыл бұрын

Chi Asmr I know it sounds crazy but if you read these sources done by well known organization you’ll begin to have insight on these other cultures. Same way we do body mods in our country, like tongue splitting, butt implants, etc. But read it with an open mind, I’m not saying it’s ok at all just that it’s not what the general media makes it out to be some horror film scenario. Many woman are in they’re 20s and proud to become a woman this way Two sources www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2015/04/female-genital-mutilation-cutting-anthropologist/389640/ www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-47133941

@EclecticallyEccentric

2 жыл бұрын

@@Bradmhj The fact that something is culturally accepted does not make it objectively okay.

@bonya-dl2rc

Ай бұрын

Despite the pain during the circumcision (clitoris and labia), it wasn't terrible for me, but it made me proud and didn't cause any problems. All my girlfriends have had the same experience.

FGM is very bad thats all I know

@ella6026

5 жыл бұрын

Shandy Leer read the description

@user-hg9tb8xp1n

5 жыл бұрын

Shandy Leer i’d look it up but you can get an idea from the name, ‘female genital mutilation’

@ceesays6725

5 жыл бұрын

FGM is the practice, especially in some cultures of cutting the clitoris off.. there are many other approaches in which people can take , for instance making the vagina opening much smaller. It is mainly done to prohibit women from being sexually active or totally exclude her from being able to orgasm...

@Indichann

5 жыл бұрын

All genital mutilation is awful. Something that should be outlawed everywhere.

@aaliyaahmed6534

5 жыл бұрын

I survived

Just heartbreaking. Do not cut people's genitals unless it's absolutely medically necessary (or they are a consenting adult). This should just be common sense.

FGM makes me so incredibly blood boiling angry. I am glad for this video and for these women.

@Sai-eb2rg

3 жыл бұрын

@Ankadu Satish If you weren't dumb and actually knew basic biology, you would know that the penis develops from the clitoris, so they're very similar. Male circumcision removes only the hood, the equivalent would be removing the clitoral hood. But in fgm, the whole head of the clitoris is often removed, or other parts of the vulva are severed or sewed shut, the equivalent would be to cut half of the penis off. This would make urinating very painful and other complications, e.g not being able to feel sexual pleasure. For women, it also hurts when they're on periods and childbirth has many complications, there is an increased risk of death. Male circumcision doesn't have side effects like that, in fact it can have positive effects like reduced risk of infections, but it should be the boy's choice tbh, the parents shouldn't decide for their kid, and the boy should only decide when he is like 18. It is bizzare you think both those things are comparable.

Thank you ladies for being so brave and strong and sharing this so very important story. I'm glad my mom taught me about this when I was younger so I have an understanding of it. I'm sorry people ask you ridiculous and way too personal of questions. this day and age of the internet people can get most of their questions answered in privacy on their own electronic device versus going up to a Survivor and asking them idiotic questions.

Your body YOUR choice. It's so unfair that the person is being forcibly held down and cut. They should have a choice in the matter as it's THEIR body after all!

@Bradmhj

4 жыл бұрын

Caribbean Curls a lot of them do it willingly and the elder woman encourage it. MSM makes it seem the other way

@CC-hx8gj

4 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way about circumcision

@ReplyGuy22345

4 жыл бұрын

IceyYou so willingly

@megansadorus2285

4 жыл бұрын

@@Bradmhj No. You're wrong. The vast majority of girls who undergo FGM are underaged minors and are forced to do so, either physically or culturally. If an adult woman decides to do this for herself, then fine, but don't you dare romanticize the torture and mutilation of literal children.

@mt3930

4 жыл бұрын

I don’t think anyone would choose it (if they were given all the information about it)

The lady w the pink scarf has such a beautiful aura and I really like her voice

These women are so brave for speaking put about their trauma in such a public way, knowing that they're gonna get hate for it. Courageous, amazing women, God bless them and grant them good health and a long life.

I didnt even know this existed. Im glad i am now aware of this HUGE issue.

@efil1607

5 жыл бұрын

How old are you?

@jacobwilliams6163

5 жыл бұрын

What is it

@laurenhazlett6327

5 жыл бұрын

@@jacobwilliams6163 Female genital mutilation

@angelicgacha

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@Bradmhj

4 жыл бұрын

Angelic Gacha I know it sounds crazy but if you read these sources done by well known organization you’ll begin to have insight on these other cultures. Same way we do body mods in our country, like tongue splitting, butt implants, etc. But read it with an open mind, I’m not saying it’s ok at all just that it’s not what the general media makes it out to be some horror film scenario. Many woman are in they’re 20s and proud to become a woman this way Two sources www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2015/04/female-genital-mutilation-cutting-anthropologist/389640/ www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-47133941

The girl with the black hair and orange top is so beautiful omg I couldn’t stop looking at her

@fjellyo3261

5 жыл бұрын

Also the black girls with white shirts :).

@mercyscartel

5 жыл бұрын

That’s Nas!!! She’s amazing

@ashlee907

5 жыл бұрын

A P they are alllll beautiful

@channyp7210

5 жыл бұрын

ashlee ramsey didn’t say they wasn’t all beautiful, I was just drawn to her appearance more due to her looking so unique. Jeez I can’t even give a compliment without offending anyone 😂

@kiwi6175

5 жыл бұрын

@@channyp7210 I don't even think ashlee was offended LOL

The fact that this barbaric practice still happens in such large numbers shatters my heart to a million pieces, so videos like this that bring awareness and shows that there are options of recovery for the survivors, there is theraphy, there is restoring surgery and other possibilities for pleasure and overall a life beyong this assault is great to know.

@jonahs92

4 жыл бұрын

MALE genital mutilation is much, MUCH more common. We need to fight against that as well.

@lindanorris2455

Жыл бұрын

maybe men should go through fgm instead?

@skyandthemoon

8 ай бұрын

@@jonahs92 no where near the same did you not hear the question in the start ? If men were having half their dicks chopped off then the remaining sewed up then sure it would be equivalent

Another problem some people assume all Africa does FGM. First the vast majority of Africans don't practice this cruel mutilation. Second Indonesia has the highest absolut numbers.

@dawoool

5 жыл бұрын

Not all Muslims do it but ONLY Muslims do it.

@sahraali568

5 жыл бұрын

@@dawoool correction, non muslims do it too . Like the girls mentioned in the video it dates back before Muslim was ever practiced. It doesn't have to do with religion it's more traditions that's has been passed on from Egyptian pharaohs. In the Quran it doesn't mention Gfm but people still do it why ? Because of men this is one way of controlling women sexuality.

@dawoool

5 жыл бұрын

@@sahraali568 Do any non-Muslims do it today?

@dawoool

5 жыл бұрын

@@sahraali568 Controlling women's sexuality? Seems more like destroying women's sexuality to me. IMO, anybody doing it to a little girl should be thrown to lions.

@guidomista7473

4 жыл бұрын

@@dawoool Yes. It happens it the UK and US

Please, do one of "Things not to say to women who don't have kids".

@kathleenwhite6762

3 жыл бұрын

Or who can't have kids

@evaschroeder4020

3 жыл бұрын

@@kathleenwhite6762 I don't have kids yes

@hearmeoutbro

2 жыл бұрын

People who don’t want kids. There are men who don’t want kids either.

@elease8628

2 жыл бұрын

@@hearmeoutbro men will never give birth to children. So it doesn't matter

These women are incredible - their activism and speaking out is so valuable. I really hope FGM is eradicated by the next decade it's been long enough! ❤

This is such an important video! Thank you BBC and the incredible women featured!

“Don’t google what it looks like...” *googles*

@gracyru8806

5 жыл бұрын

...and 😱

@femkevdw8369

5 жыл бұрын

I googled before she said that

@gracyru8806

5 жыл бұрын

@@femkevdw8369 what did you see 🙈😭

@Insania84

4 жыл бұрын

I googled back in the days after playing in Desert Flower. It hurts even looking at it

@Bradmhj

4 жыл бұрын

It looked normal but smooth with no low hanging lips. Kinda like it does before you age a lot. I thought it’d look all cut up but it heals naturally kinda like male circumcising

Thank you to all survivors and campaigners for speaking out, spreading awareness and most importantly for helping other women and girls who are in danger of fgm and/or have suffered from fgm ♡ lots of love and strength to you

Thank you for talking about FGM are a very strong woman

this is extremely heartbreaking. I can not express my gratitude enough to these women for participating in this video 🙏💜🌸

I'm not the smartest person so I did have to look up what FGM meant and I burst into tears. Y'all are so brave for telling these stories and just not letting it tear you down!!

@fruitpastel3643

4 жыл бұрын

Im still looking it up is it stitching the vigiana together

@shetraharte3802

3 жыл бұрын

@@fruitpastel3643 thats one form of it

Such lovely, strong, brave ladies. I can't even imagine what they had to go through. I wish them all the best in life!

My wife came from a culture in which FGM was considered normal. For the first few years we were together she was self conscious about it. Once she accepted that I feel no judgement then she accepted her body as it is, at least with me. Like all things I think the worst part is how people react to you and the judgement they're hiding in that moment is such an unwanted barrier.

Didn't know what FGM stood for, i was not expecting that, that is not okay

Your next video should be things not to say to people with learning disabilities I would love to see that video

@rainbowflowerpower4464

5 жыл бұрын

Taylor Q my cousin has Down syndrome and I will literally punch anyone if they insult him, my whole family loves him so we look out for him but people still judge him it makes me so angry and sad so I would love a video on learning disabilities to teach people that people like my cousin deserves to be treated fairly and like a human

@SuperDuperSP

5 жыл бұрын

@@rainbowflowerpower4464 you need to calm down if you'll use violence in response of verbal insult. Not really a good role model I'd say.

@CC-hx8gj

4 жыл бұрын

"Hello"

"Dont google" .... * opens google *

@Anna133199

5 жыл бұрын

Bonus points if you're doing it on a work computer.

Things not to say to people with Dissociative Identity Disorder

@ellaelliott4415

4 жыл бұрын

HELL YES LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK

What a wonderful group of women. Thankyou ladies for sharing your experiences.

One of my class mates had it done. Me and another girl brought her homework, class materials and sometimes food to her for about 6 months. This happened in 1998. :(

@selenalamothe997

5 жыл бұрын

How old were all of you?

@0ChildStar

5 жыл бұрын

@@selenalamothe997 18 years old.

This made me cry 😭😭. Those women are so brave.

Can you please make a video on (things not to say to an interracial couple).

@johannah.3930

5 жыл бұрын

Yes please!!!

@gatestimonymiracle1302

5 жыл бұрын

Interracial is overrated

@hedgyverona100

5 жыл бұрын

If you’re the white girl and he’s the black guy, one of the first questions you get as the girl is ‘soooo how big is the dick’

@LoganLS0

5 жыл бұрын

@@gatestimonymiracle1302 how so?

@gatestimonymiracle1302

5 жыл бұрын

@@LoganLS0 Interracial dating shouldn't be a wow thing ,its a human dating another human .It's just that both are from different parts of the earth

Wow this was genuinely interesting. FGM is awful and whilst I knew about it and how terrible it is, this video made me realise I'd never actually heard directly from so many women affected.

This was very difficult for me to watch, but I'm grateful that you created this video. Thank you.

What type of cult would do this very harmful thing to a child, parents should be locked up for life

I love this series! However it’s a modern day shame that BBC is constantly teaching people how to NOT BE OBNOXIOUS. Best wishes to everyone who works on this series. Thanks for promoting empathy and civility. ❤️👸🏾

@K-a-n-d-i-s

2 жыл бұрын

So true all of these "questions not too ask" are common sense, I would never even dream of asking any of these questions in the first place without having to be told, should be the same for everyone. Manners are a rare thing these days.

@taotaostrong

2 жыл бұрын

@@K-a-n-d-i-s Absolutely! Have a great Sunday. 💞

Please bring this series back 😩😩😩❤

They finally did a good (as in interesting) topic. Well done to these women for speaking out about this.

These females are extremely brave and I upload you all for talking about it. God bless you.

It’s nice to see that their able to move forward and joke about it. It’s such a horrible practice I can’t believe it happens

I'm amazed at their ability to conduct themselves the way they have in this video I've had my own horrible experiences not in this nature but it's stuff that has hurt me in such a way that I'm never going to forget and it's a regular struggle to successfully function around people or even around society it's brilliant to see that there are people that can still succeed and achieve things in the wake of trauma

I had no idea wat this was, this video was so educational, these women are so brave to go through that. I don’t think I would be strong enough, wow, thank u for sharing these stories

This is so sad that these women went through, I did a report on FGM in 10th grade. It's so bad

Yellow jumper pink scarf lady sounds like the most intelligent person I've ever heard

This was such an interesting video. Before this, I'd never heard of FGM, so I did some research. Wow. You guys are so brave. I'll definitely try and speak up about this.

This is incredible. I would love BBCIII to do a "things not to say" video on PoTs people. I've got Pots (a condition that has just had its first world awareness day) and I use my youtube to spread awareness. And it's incredible the response I get back from my followers. Some of which have now been diagnosed with pots after listening to me talk about my symptoms. But I have a small channel. I would love to see the BBC cover this and spread the knowledge to even more people.

Suggestions Americans People with ADHD People with sensory issues

I had to goggled what FGM was. Omg it’s awful I feel bad for all these beautiful women.

@dawoool

5 жыл бұрын

It is an exclusively Muslim practice.

@aim-to-misbehave5674

5 жыл бұрын

@@dawoool And yet there were several Christian women in this video, from Christian families, who were baptised as children, talking about their experiences with being survivors of FGM... Mutilation of girls' genitals to discourage them from having sex predates both Christianity and Islam.

@forever_moonchild1457

3 жыл бұрын

@@dawoool Muslim here. No it’s not it’s not written anywhere in the Quran 🤡🤡💀💀💀

@kaylee1769

3 жыл бұрын

@@aim-to-misbehave5674 Its a VERY RARE things some (fake) Christians do, if somebody really has a relationship with Christ they wouldn’t do this to their children. I don’t believe those people were real Christians and truly saved if they’d torture and abuse their child, it also says nothing in the Bible about that. I’ve been a Christian my whole life, I’m 21 and never heard about this being a Christian thing

its scary that this seems so prevalent in the west, these poor women, and thank you for shedding some much needed light on this subject

I’m not sure why but I get so emotional when this topic is brought up.

this is horrific and just sad.

I wouldn't forgive my parents after that

I like this series a lot. Could you please do "what not to say to a person who is childless not by choice"?

Thing's not to say to adopted people

@ellaelliott4415

4 жыл бұрын

Yes definitely!! I’ve been asked if my (birth) parents hated me or why wasn’t I wanted so much

This was a wonderful video. I'd been previously misinformed about the reasoning behind FGM (something about it being likened to circumcision as a routine thing for religion). So a lot of what I saw about people calling it cruel, seemed to me to be unfair bc the only reason people do it now they do (in America anyway) is out of desperation bc their religious practices aren't respected by law. This gave me a perspective that I no longer have. This channel is awesome.

@fritnat

5 жыл бұрын

It's just a group of activists making claims, how would you know what to believe? Actually the federal law banning FGM in USA had been thrown out so those charged had the charges dropped, so it kind've looks like there is repect for their religious tradition. They're doing it for the same reason so many americans circumcise their boys: religion and tradition.

@Lynxitid

3 жыл бұрын

@@fritnat But that doesn’t make it right either. You can’t/shouldn’t mutilate someone & use religion/culture as a back up. That doesn’t make it any better.

@fritnat

3 жыл бұрын

@@Lynxitid No it certainly doesn't however the video is doing exactly that by making out that the genital mutilation of boys is something entirely different, something trivial and any comparison not to be taken seriously.

@Lynxitid

3 жыл бұрын

@@fritnat there certainly are differences to the two & the levels of each operation/mutilation. I’ve noticed a lot of comments tryin to make it an oppression olympics almost. Like both are absolutely terrible.

@fritnat

3 жыл бұрын

@@Lynxitid What essential differences and what levels? How is pointing out the divisiveness, the racism and the hypocrisy making it almost an "oppression olympics"?

Things not to say to people that Self Harm

@dizzysaliche3529

5 жыл бұрын

Person: sees marks which are very obviously self harm Person: "whats that?"

@Indichann

5 жыл бұрын

"yOuRE gONnA rEgRET tHaT u kNoW" Yeah no shit, we aren't doing it for the aesthetic

@sorchaoreilly2633

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah & include those who have obvious long-healed scars. It might have been a long time ago and they've recovered but don't need people bringing up the past!

@fritnat

5 жыл бұрын

Go jump in a lake?

@fritnat

5 жыл бұрын

@@anyaperceives It wasn't advice! it was a suggestion as to what shouldn't be said.

Thank you for being strong women and talking about this topic.

Please can you do “things not to say to people with DID or OSDD” -Reyna

Well done!! This is important and NO, it’s nothing like the male operation. I don’t agree with that either, but this about women and girls. These ladies are my heroines!!!

@Benjavaz

5 жыл бұрын

Snodge Kat genital mutilation is genital mutilation. 3,000 male infants are strapped down and their genitals are mutilated everyday in the United States and no one cares about them.

@1000nipples

5 жыл бұрын

@@Benjavaz yes it's genital mutilation and it shouldn't be practiced on anyone, but male circumcision doesn't have all the risks that fgm does. do you know how many girls have died from fgm? not to mention that baby boys get anesthesia before it's done. both are bad, but fgm is worse. often times they use whatever they can find to cut so nothing is clean.

@Benjavaz

5 жыл бұрын

stormageddon darklordofall many infants die from circumcision or experience horrible complications. This isn’t a game of who has it worse. One is not worse than the other.

@i.cs.zamodits

5 жыл бұрын

@@Benjavaz Both bad, but the proces and the damage is worst in fgm. In circumcission, they remowe the foreskin, it would be the same if they have cut of the top of the penis (I don't know how it called in english). Mutilation is mutilation, but some is worst, like if they cut 2 finger off is bad but cuting of the whole hand is worst. Both mutilation, but one cause bigger damage and fgm cause bigger damage.

@richardparke4105

3 жыл бұрын

@@1000nipples So you’d be okay with legalising the instances of type 1 FGM that remove the clitoral hood (tissue that is homologous to the foreskin) so long as it was carried out in hospitals, by doctors, using anaesthesia?

The two in the thumbnail are so pretty 🤩🔥. I don't really understand what this is all about but after reading the comments and (not at all) partially understanding Google, I think these guys are so brave 😁

Hey! What about doing an episode of "things not to say to people with chronic pain / illness"

Could you do “Things not to say to an introvert” PLEASE!!!

Please could you do "what not to say to people with ADHD" if you haven't yet? I think it would be very good. ADHD doesn't seem to be talked about as much as other conditions.

Horrible. I love these women and my sisters all around the globe with all my heart.

I guess the best approach is by defeating your ignorance about an issue or fact is to ask what questions not to ask, as I just want to understand what it means and portrays in your life. However, I applaud this women for making this topic negotiable. Thank you.

I thought these could be very valid questions so I’m glad this video was made before I even tried to ask anything like this

This is so horrible. Glad they talk about it.

This is so important

If i may i really love this series and i was wondering if you could do an episoide of "what not to say to people with EDS (Ehlors Danlos Syndrom)" cus i know that i have had some annoying questions as someone with eds

I really liked this video. It was well done.

Oh my goodnes oh my thats so terrible no one should ever go through that

such beautiful strong women! we love you all❤️

i remember learning about this in college back in the 90's. So awful. I am so sorry you have to deal with this, but know you are strong women.

I’d love to see “Things people with dietary restrictions are tired of hearing” ie people with food allergies, food intolerances, and food aversions. Because it’s a surprisingly little discussed topic in these sorts of videos.

Glad you ladies spoke about this! This is a horrible practice I'm also glad I'm early lol 😁

Them: don't google what it looks like, by the way. Me: ..*slowly backs away*..

I just watched a video from Leila Hussein and I’m done just crying

Such a nice video on a topic which I feel is either ignored or completely understood in the western world. Loved the older lady with the dyed hair

@georgiacastilla3206

5 жыл бұрын

What?? The misunderstandings people have on FGM and examples of ignorance that this video highlights shows that the full impact it has fails to be acknowledged as to a degree it's IGNORED

1:56 omg the girl on the left is beautiful and the women on the right is so well spoken

I’m sooo glad we’re talking about fgm

Things not to say to people with selective mutism (might need whiteboards for this one). "Were you abused" "are you in a mood"

I never knew it was that bad, the reality is that the whole idea is pretty much normalized back home. Creating more awareness may one day bring the change that is needed.

@kaylee1769

3 жыл бұрын

Children are having parts of their body cut away without any pain relief, of course it’s horrible

Could you please do Things not to say to people with ptsd. Thankyou!

@sorchaoreilly2633

5 жыл бұрын

Yes! And include c-ptsd! Many people seem to think the kind of issues behind C-PTSD "don't count" as "real" trauma. That goes for a huge proportion of traumas

@elm2908

5 жыл бұрын

Sorcha O'Reilly what’s c-PTSD?

@sorchaoreilly2633

5 жыл бұрын

@@elm2908 Complex PTSD. It tends to be from a longer term situation that which doesn't necessarily have to involve such a shocking incident as what people usually associate with PTSD. Someone might develop it from an abusive relationship for example.

@elm2908

5 жыл бұрын

Sorcha O'Reilly ahh ok thankyou for explaining

To be fair, I feel someone compared this to male circumcision is a valid question. What's the point making somebody feel unnecessarily ignorant?!

@totallynoticarus

4 жыл бұрын

It's not the same thing though. First of male circumcision has no real consequences. FGM, on the other hand, can cause a lot of harm to the woman from constant urinary tract infections and pain during sex to complications with childbirth and fertility. Secondly, male circumcision is performed to promote hygiene while FGM is performed to control a woman's sexuality and prove her virginity. Comparing male circumcision and FGM is like saying breaking your pinkie finger is the same as breaking your leg. They're very different things and of course you can be against male circumcision, but in general that has little to in a conversation about FGM.

@dannyr2976

4 жыл бұрын

@@totallynoticarus That's the point of my answer, if someone doesn't know a thing about FGM, can said person put that question across without being told they're ignorant or an idiot. Quite a few SJWs (this is NOT a commentary on you, btw!) wanna jump on people, rant, call ignorance because of a genuine question that just warrants a genuine answer, without the _"That's so offensive!"_ line. I admit myself I knew little about FGM before watching, but knew that it is not the same as male circumcision BUT playing 'Devil's Advocate' to those who don't know, and therefore don't want to ask because of the possible backlash response.

@straighttalking2090

4 жыл бұрын

@@totallynoticarus I can tell you from experience that the female 'cut' does not have to be as severe as the general male circumcision. I think this will depend on the tradition of those who make the cuts. This not to say it is a good thing.

@charlieviolist

4 ай бұрын

Well, to the people who've died from male circumcision I would say there were "real consequences" lol. Many other boys have had to have the head of their penis amputated due to the circumcision being botched. @@totallynoticarus

@candicefrost4561

2 ай бұрын

No childbirth risk for mgm, and the trauma is usually more severe with more complications for FGM. The power differential between how men control the lives of the girls it is done to and often abuse the girls it is done to. The fact that men are the most likely writers and originators of the idea of mgm and FGM. The fact that a doctor who works on this area of surgery said that to be comparable, the head of the penis, not the foreskin would be removed. What FGM does to someone’s sex life and health in general is worse than males who have had mgm. Some men actually have circumcision done to improve their health or sexual functioning, while this is not really the case with FGM.

This horrific practice needs to stop, these women are so brave for being in this video, I don’t even want to imagine the trauma they are going through. I can’t live not ever having an orgasm it’s too unbearable to even think about, may god give these beautiful survivors strength

@dinaalineese7283

3 жыл бұрын

@Nomopoly 2 stop being ignorant wtf

@fritnat

2 жыл бұрын

These women would be a lot braver if they took on the harmful cultural cutting practices of the societies they live in and not just that where they have their cultural roots and concerns their own gender. Its a really easy touch to speak out against a practice widely condemned as thoroughly barbaric peddling the mainstream narrative and can be quite lucrative as well. How many of these women claim they can't orgasm? In the same way some cut women have been mutilated making it almost impossible for them to orgasm, so have some cut men only they receive as good as no sympathy as they haven't migrated to another culture which vilifies their cutting culture.

@fritnat

2 жыл бұрын

@@dinaalineese7283 Nomopoly is also a survivor and he's correct that it's mostly women wanting the cutting of girls to continue.

Poor women! They are so brave to speak out

I cannot even finish the video,it’s too painful to watch😣

@JohnMcPhersonStrutt

3 жыл бұрын

Me too! (and I am a man)

They are amazing

I remember seeing a documentary on FGM and it made me sick, the fact that people think this is ok is just - Wrong.

Is this format going to continue one day? Would love to see something about ADHD

@louiseobrien2023

3 жыл бұрын

Look through the channel I’m pretty sure they made one x

The aunty with the shirt hair what a legend not to say all women who have experienced this aren't

I would ask one thing though. “Are your doctor visits specialized to help you and make sure your healthy?” Is that wrong?

@hhh1234h

4 жыл бұрын

some doctors will help but some will just see and not help. That’s why I’m scared of telling anyone or any doctor

@melloemarsh8069

4 жыл бұрын

@AmaZing ! I am so sorry for you experience 💔

@eklectiktoni

3 жыл бұрын

From what I understand, FGM survivors do have to have special consideration during pregnancy and labor.

i red a comment years ago something like "but what if u makethe operation sanitary?" facepalm

All of these women are so beautiful and brave for talking about this 💕