Yes, my mother was always a fantastic mother……. to other ppl’s kids.

@missstranger7697

11 ай бұрын

Same with mine, especially since she was a teacher.

@dyamondcrawford2162

10 ай бұрын

You're not the only one. Mine too 😢

@jazmynshepherd4161

10 ай бұрын

@@missstranger7697omg were living the same life. my mom was a teacher/professor for 20+ years yet when it comes to her children she says she “doesn’t believe in positive reinforcement.” horrible to me and my siblings our whole lives, but wonderful surrogate mother to children our ages. 🫠🫠

@Flowergirl222

10 ай бұрын

Same. Mine has always had a surrogate daughter or two in the background. It‘s so disturbing. I always feel bad for those girls.

@KcMcclary

10 ай бұрын

Mine was also like this and now has plans to raise a group of foster children.....i wonder how come she never loved or cared for her 4 biological kids that way.. Like what was wrong with us? And how come kids who were perfect strangers always got to experience best of her.

A narcissist mother can take your life...trust me....I don't feel safe in my own house...each day I am counting to go away from her...she has distant everybody from me...she is totally mad and 24/7 tries to pick fights with me..she always wants me to bow down to her..that I will never ever do...

@pandangy4077

Жыл бұрын

Same here. If she's not mean or critic me at least once a day, it's because she's sick and can't go out of the bed.

@hawk---

Жыл бұрын

i understand you, I can totally relate to that. hope you're doing well now

@preetitoppo8941

11 ай бұрын

I'm going through the same, counting my days to leave this place ASAP and never look back. 😥

@nehamishra8685

11 ай бұрын

@@preetitoppo8941 God bless you..I have also left my home....hope we all get what we deserve! ❤️❤️

@missstranger7697

11 ай бұрын

I can forgive my mother for the times she talked down to me and my sister, trying to protect us from the world. She was a person who was making mistakes. But what I can't forgive about her, is ignorance of my (and my sister's) feelings towards her. Talking to her was like talking to a brick wall. Indeed a toxic narcissistic woman my mother was.

So true they worsen with age

@jamesbreeds1255

10 ай бұрын

Do they, I’ve heard they mellow with age

@allie9015

10 ай бұрын

@@jamesbreeds1255 borderlines do

@allie9015

8 ай бұрын

@@mindfulperspective111 touché

@dudemorris7769

8 ай бұрын

@@mindfulperspective111wait, BPD & narcissist are two entirely different things and meanings. Just what is your job that you don’t know the difference and claim to treat patients?

@Khalfrank

7 ай бұрын

Stop the balonga with this ugly liberal BS. Not BPD but full NPD and a lot of whamenz simply have NO BUSINESS being mothers.

I want to disappear...I can't stand the trauma ..... 😢 😭

@aprilcunningham7246

7 ай бұрын

You aren't alone, it really is unfair and cruel that our own mothers have done this to us. But you matter and it's not your fault. You matter and are worthy of love and happiness.

@lilac624

7 ай бұрын

​​@@aprilcunningham7246My father didn't protect me from my abusive mother and aunt...The public should be educated that evil parents or guardians do exist

@brankabrnica1914

3 ай бұрын

Stay strong, & pray to God to help you. I think they are possessed by evil spirits. My 91year old mother was always like that. I moved to the different continent at 25, to get as far away from her, as possible. I am 60, but still struggling not to be like her. Don't let evil win☦️

@zncnxx

Ай бұрын

Same. I just want to delete my existence, but I can't even die in this house.

@PallaviDixit-kq9dl

Ай бұрын

The trauma will still remain. We have to work on it. We will.❤

Children deserve parents But some parents don't deserve children

@tashacherry1480

6 ай бұрын

I battle with "honor thy mother and father" my dad was my rock, best friend, and the best dad ever. Honoring him, NP. Honoring my mother has been critical to my heart

@PrincessBabykinz

6 ай бұрын

​​@@tashacherry1480I believe in scripture too its very difficult to obey that one when they test you constantly. I'm so sorry. I just go back to well Jesus didn't deserve his treatment either but he was faithful to his Fathers will which included alot of mistreatment. My unbelieving friends get so mad and say that's why they hate religion they think it traps you in abuse. I can see what they mean but I know that we will have a greater reward in the end when we endure faithfully. Just remember sis one day we will meet in a place where there are no more tears or sorrows 👐 Can't wait to see you there.

@Shreksbestfriend234

3 ай бұрын

Fr

@QueenSamiyah.

3 ай бұрын

💯💯💯

@7m4sushmitakalla65

Ай бұрын

​@@tashacherry1480my father is the best I wish children only had fathers

My mother change her whole personality in a second a person enters the house. All smiley smiley , joking, best caring and shiet but once they leave she's gonna talk shiet about that person , she's all mean and take it out on us, absolutely disgusting. I ended up being blamed by literally EVERYONE around that I'm ungrateful brat and how wonderful she is, that's why I had to distant from whole family who don't live with her and know her mask only.

@BerryKind

10 ай бұрын

Yes! Spot on. Mine does the same thing. Ive always been hurt and confused but deep inside i know it's her issue & she will never change... or care.

@nehamishra8685

8 ай бұрын

Same to same...

@PrincessBabykinz

6 ай бұрын

This is probably why my grown ass ex almost 30 kept leaving me every time he talked to his mom on the phone he would end up having a panic attack start being mean to me and end up getting picked up by her and leave town. I don't know why he couldn't just cut her off. He had narcissistic qualitys too hard to figure out what was going on.

@tinyking11

4 ай бұрын

Mine does the same thing. My stepdad does this as well. It’s crazy af how the mask falls off when company leaves. 🤧😐🤦🏽‍♀️

@user-it5dh4ji8x

4 ай бұрын

I can understand ❤

At this point she's NOT your Mother She's just a random woman who gave birth to u...😞

@zncnxx

Ай бұрын

Same. That's how i see my parents. I keep feeling guilty for this once they buy me something, because I'm a minor, I can't basically work, make money, live alone.. so I'm grateful when it comes to money. But parents aren't just supposed to buy you food, or clothings. They're supposed to raise you with love and care, help you when things go bad, not laugh at you while you're clearly telling them that you're suffering. So no, I'm sorry, but my mom.. doesn't feel like it. And my dad just feels like a man who would do anything that his wife says. It's a little romantic, not gonna lie. But if I'm being a little honest to my mom, he gets mad. He even wanted to beat me once, or more. I may be lucky that my mom isn't that worse to letting my dad harm me. But he did once harm me, physically. And mentally.

@fredotlogetswe3047

Ай бұрын

Yes

@PrasenjitSingh-we8bi

24 күн бұрын

​@@zncnxxtry to work hard and get a good paying job, 😊and leave them

This is exactly my mom.

@FunnyPlug

Жыл бұрын

Same here

@hayleeTC

Жыл бұрын

Me too

@sillycat5496

Жыл бұрын

Same

@preetitoppo8941

11 ай бұрын

Same

@mahimaaa_666

10 ай бұрын

Same

And the 3rd thing is that she constantly reminds you of your failure, about your traumas. she will constantly talk about those things and you would just end up feeling suffocating under her presence. Your eyes will start to get teary but you are afraid to cry even.

@a_z4699

2 ай бұрын

🥺😭

@thiccredgyal3404

2 ай бұрын

My mom does that. That's why I never shared anything with her anymore.

@user-uz9yy3lt5o

2 ай бұрын

My mother did that

@shea5542

2 ай бұрын

Oh and then she talks to other people about them as a way of garnering sympathy

@TeaCup1940

2 ай бұрын

Yes, the failures and traumas that she herself caused or made worse.

I feel alone a lot. Narcissistic mothers strip out lives away. I'm 55 and still struggling. It's agony 😢.

@aprilcunningham7246

8 ай бұрын

@danswhite8544 Absolutely correct.

@videorocketzmillar007milla5

7 ай бұрын

❤ Just love yourself more. Forgive her. We can't change or moms but we can change ourselves. Now that I'm 68 and she had been dead for 28 years I finally broke free 3vyears ago. Always called names, in front of people the nicest thing. Wow! So I had a nice mom in my head. My whole life. So since I so good about me, my fake mom left in my mind and said she always loved me. When my mom said she loves to torment me, never good enough, and said when I finally had enuf she actually said its about time you got a spine. I quit overeating. Started exercising lost 60 pounds. I feel so good I can't tell you. I love u too. Just take care of the little girl when we were tiny. I make myself buy stuff I always wanted and have a clean happy home. 🎉🎉🎉take care 🥰

@aprilcunningham7246

7 ай бұрын

@@videorocketzmillar007milla5 Sounds so familiar. I just recently realized how much damage they do to us. I'm actually beginning to feel like maybe the best years are ahead... I've stopped the pattern of narcissistic marriages and relationships, I deserve better. I feel like I'm learning I have value. It's always been her, and she won't change. We've been estranged for 20 years now!! It's such a sick pattern.

@sidrahareem3808

7 ай бұрын

Girl I'm so sorry you're still going thru it...I turned 20 now and I feel like I never lived a day of my entire childhood...all I can remember is her yelling at me, slapping me and making me the villain I hate myself so much

@aprilcunningham7246

7 ай бұрын

@@sidrahareem3808 You're so young, at least you know what the deal is. It's taken me 55 years! Please don't hate yourself, you're not the problem and you're worthy of being loved and being happy. I know the struggle, it's horrible. Take care of yourself, mentally and physically. They aren't going to change, but we can choose to not tolerate the abuse anymore and begin to heal.

To see so many comments that relates to my situation with my mom let's me know im not alone. This is so therapeutic

@castedsp1ders

9 ай бұрын

But eye opening. Not ever women is fit to be a mother nor a man fit to be a father. Having toxic parents sometimes do create better ones but the chances are always slim.

@fluffytail6355

8 ай бұрын

Right? I was 45 before I found out that other mothers actually LIKED their kids and told them how proud they are of them and how beautiful they are! I know more people with screwed up mothers than the opposite though.

@sirijanthakur

5 ай бұрын

well yes, we are all humans after all. really move on, theres nothing you can do about them, nothing. take careof yourself as they would lie no matter and manuplate it in such a way that it seems your wrong, and when you accept it, she will fking break you to the core to make you feel bad about who you are and not who ywhat she wants you to be.

@user-lw3ri8us4w

5 ай бұрын

@@sirijanthakur I understand your sentiment but “just MoveOn“ are you simply not good enough advice. For the suffers of narcissistic abuse especially in childhood they need extensive healing and therapy before they’re able to truly “move on“. Being a victim of a narcissist in your most sensitive years reeks havoc on your nervous system and even worsens your health.

@Me_di

29 күн бұрын

THIS

My mom acts like a angelic Christian Saint in front of other ppl. It's so painful to watch. Then when we're at home and she a few wine glasses deep, she yells at my step dad like he's trash. Treats my older brother like he's an idiot. She doesn't yell at me much cuz she knows I wont put up with it but it's still so painful to watch her treat the ppl she's supposed to love like garbage.

@ambam90

7 ай бұрын

I feel your pain. My mom is like that but she doesn't have a partner. She tries to do that to me but when I don't put up with it and confront her with facts she starts the sobbing and the pity party and always calls me ungrateful and a narcissist. I don't care anymore though. If not putting up with bullshit makes me a narcissist then I guess I'm a narcissist.

@thiccredgyal3404

2 ай бұрын

You should film her Get some hidden cameras

@Nick-dg3fk

2 ай бұрын

@@thiccredgyal3404 I considered that but i dont live anywhere near her reign of terror anymore.

This video brings back so many memories. I used to cry at school that i didn't want to go back home. Home would be a hell. She would beat me while my dad was away and when he came back he would beat both of us. And she would somehow put all the blame on me to save herself. I would hide under the bed for long periods of hours. Sometimes getting food and sometimes not. Then I would save some food always for later and keep it with me under the bed.she definitely was the perfect mom with the worst daughter in the world. I tried so hard to be the best for her. No matter what I did I never was enough. To my horror after the arrival of the golden child, things took a worser turn. He was always the best no matter how shitty he acted. Now I had three people attacking me. Finally I gave up on being the best to maybe I slipped off enough to remind myself to try. I just made myself survive somehow. Few years later father got sick and paralyzed. I was given the role of the care taker. Where she and the golden child would blame all the misfortune on me. I worked hard for many years to take care of father, make things work at the hospital, home, office, school, board exams. Finally emerged as a hard working, self sabotaging over helping, over apologizing etc etc. Then finally when father died. She and the golden child discarded me. The way they shape our personality is beyond repair. I have lost all hopes.

@iamaleo247

Жыл бұрын

Oh Dear, I’m sorry you had to go through that. I pray and hope your life is better and you receive blessings.🫂🙏🏽♥️

@kritikaroy5058

Жыл бұрын

@@iamaleo247 thank you so much for your kind words🥰😘

@joyful_tanya

Жыл бұрын

I can relate to your story. I don't even call her "mother" anymore but "birth,-giver". I went no contact when I turned 50. The golden child has discarded me as well. They do not deserve our energy. I hope you can find a path to healing. I'm still healing at 56 years old.

@divyapoojary258

Жыл бұрын

Can relate ... She is no more .. but i always wonder still y.. n icing on the cake i m married to her male version

@Miu_Nisht

Жыл бұрын

​@@kritikaroy5058 Hugs 💛 I am so very sorry you had to go through all of this

They also single out targets to abuse. One week it could be the dog the next you. The fixation with control and showing you they are the “alpha” is truly disturbing.

@chrysalis72

Жыл бұрын

Shudder, never forget the whip of a leather belt on a sweet wee doggie. I could cry forever it's actually more traumatising when they do it to another sentient being that doesn't deserve it. It hurt to write this😢😢😢😢😢 especially cause you can't go back in time ,throw them out physically and beat the shit out them with a leather belt,there,that's how it feels to be hit by a leather belt. That's what they make you,sad and angry. I'm actually a very kind sensitive person but I can't bear cruelty or unfairness and I'm no coward,I'll turn into a raging cat,but only to monsters. So sad how they can break through and project these thoughts I'd never have. ❤ To all animals and people who have been defenceless and the abused who've been made to watch others abused and stand by for their own survival and if you jump in,they threaten to make it WORSEfor the other victim. Next day,sweetness and light like nothing happened,trauma bonded to just forget and stay in their PTSD now slowly becoming yours.not talking about my mum here but someone else equally trusted,not having an empathy chip,it's pointless to try to resolve or talk about it,a I'm really sorry,truly sorry maybe genuine tears ,but,nope,nothing. I'm wrong to not forget abuse because it was "years" ago, people just don't understand your consciousness is damaged maybe forever with no justice. The beastial persona that did that to the abusers mind goes back generations,abandonment trauma they share it with you. You now have their anger for what others see as nothing. Tears are streaming down my face reading these comments and remembering this. I just had a cruel and nasty call with my mother,no compassion,no support just told to get over it. She tolde to gtf yesterday and nobody would believe she's capable of that for no reason. She is a different person with others ,but I'm the dysfunctional person ,I walk home nearly crying every so often and yet some days she can do really nice things for me. I'm pregnant so I just burst into tears going to the shops after being told to get to fck , I went and bought her new teddy bear fur bedding by silent night,hoping to stop her cruel moodshe just raged at me for carrying things when I'm pregnant...true but maybe if she'd come with her trolley I wouldn't need to struggle. I'm the black sheep but the only child family or friend that's literally across the road, my child will never be treated with anything but love.

@missstranger7697

10 ай бұрын

My mother saw me as a competition and as a target to shoot down. No matter how bad she could be, I thanked her for at least protecting me and my sister from the world, when we were younger.

@starchild7820

6 ай бұрын

​@missstranger7697 if u call that protection

@MrFifadon1

5 ай бұрын

It is soooooo disturbing and they think everyone is fazed by everythinf they say and do like main character syndrome my mum literally lost her temper over the freezer having food in today she didnt want all the draws full considering there were 2 empty ones... god give me strength to deal with this witch lord knows her and her parasite boyfriend have sucked the good nature out of me. Too much mercy too much compassion will get you killed. I choked him out the other day and considering he offered me out in my own home. My mum still blamed me and was scurrying under the mat with him playing the victim. Abusive alchololics. Took such a toll on my mental health without even realising it. The nightmares that lay before me are dreams compared to whats behind me now. God bless u all

@redvelbeth314

4 ай бұрын

Omg I'm becoming like my mother

I saw everything today. For the first time in my 22 years of living I’ve realized my mom is an abusive narcissist. I used to always give her a break before because of how bad my father was. But I understand now. I’m genuinely scared now. All I can do is save a lot of money and hope I can move out fast enough.

@missstranger7697

10 ай бұрын

Same here. Our mother would treat me and my older sister poorly with lies, because our father would be absent. When we became adults however, our father saw how wicked she was so he tried to comfort us instead...

@nehamishra8685

8 ай бұрын

Your peacefulness is the most prior thing....bless you!

@fiberpoet6250

7 ай бұрын

Don’t let her know you on to her Gather your stuff quietly and escape while she is not home Good luck Been there done that It’s definitely possible

@Riffman08-dz6pv

6 ай бұрын

My father was also bad to her an was also abusive towards me growing up until they divorced an he moved out...when I would spend time with my dad after the divorce I started to notice even as a young boy that he wasn't near as angry as he was when he was in a relationship with my mom

@sirijanthakur

5 ай бұрын

bro, i actually went to the other side and tried to fix her, it does nt fking works. Good job on moving out, take care of yourself, no science no information and no gods plan works for this women, I had psychosis due to her and thats when i saw her true color, i asked her to give me space yet she did not, ffs can you realise that she doesnt fkign cares. My dad is always angry at her too, i can relate with you. Im just moving out now, in the hopes to never see her face again, idc about abusers

Spot on. Specially that thing where your friends think why you are so distant from her. The entire blame shifts on you. And if you are an Highly Sensitive Person like me then Bingo! Your life is beyond repair. And she enjoys the most out of all these.

@shanicer1803

6 ай бұрын

Finally someone who gets this part of it

@ninii394

6 ай бұрын

Only reason I can't leave her as an unmarried girl with no father 😢 help me guys what should I do?

@Hayata_dair_hersey95

3 ай бұрын

​​​@@ninii394Get a job and a roommate you trust than move out.

@ninii394

3 ай бұрын

@@Hayata_dair_hersey95 ok then ? I'm not married how will I marry and people won't accept me in Indian culture

@zncnxx

Ай бұрын

Same. I'm sensitive, but what's even worse is that i always tear up when I'm angry.. it's like a cherry on top for them i guess. They think I'm just being dramatic.

If people say "isnt your mother wonderful?" I say, no she is a narcissist - it has taken me 62 years to get to this point tho'

@cheflynne1359

7 ай бұрын

Same…..and I’m mad as hell and sad

When I was about 15 a friend of mine said to me oh you are so lucky to have a mum like that, I wish she was my mum. I basically told her that wasn't true and she wouldn't want her as her mum, this got back to my mother . My mother still brings that instance up to this day and tries to guilt me over it and say how wounded she was and how horrible I was to say that , I'm 48 now🙄

@rexwillhite4751

Жыл бұрын

The narcissist will continue their patterns of abuse until their dying day. Luckily I was never subjected to daily abuse from The narcissist until I was 57 years old. I was absolutely appalled and now I'm 60, but learning quickly how to adjust to their BS

@KatSpade1018

Жыл бұрын

That's exactly why I have never said a word to anyone. I just know that if I did, somehow, some way it would get back to her and then all hell would break loose, it would be all about how I destroyed her as a mother and not once would it be acknowledged as to why I felt the way I did. Just know, someone understands and is going through it right there with you friend. I'm 46 and just now starting to understand what this is and that it's not because of me. I journey down a long road. Hope you're doing alright.

@Anonymous-ql9yd

Жыл бұрын

Same. My friends are jealous of me. They don't know her true mask.

@mthor2346

Жыл бұрын

​@@rexwillhite4751 Same.

@Pizzaonpineappl3

Жыл бұрын

​@@rexwillhite4751 its so unfair we never get an apology or justice

This is my mother all the way ... And the more im silent when she provokes me the more she attacks .

@evizohiyt7822

15 күн бұрын

True

My mother is the devil in person. She is always angry and full of hate and frust. Csnt even make a little smalltalk without her feeling attacked and bash you. Dont know how i could live with her for 8 years but i dont know were to go cant find an apartment..

@missstranger7697

10 ай бұрын

Same with mine! She even has the red hair to prove it!!!😂

@jceepoker3256

2 ай бұрын

How are you doing?

Very well described 👏👏👏 and I would like to add: when something bad happened to me, my mother not only didn't show any compassion, but she also turned the whole family against me to make my suffering even harder 🤦‍♀️.

@missstranger7697

5 ай бұрын

My mother would tell my older sister, to tell me what to do and would constantly tell me that I am the trashy girl infront of my almost golden child big sister.

@K-Production17

3 ай бұрын

I can't understand why moms do this. We are their children, not some random person. I don't know what's going on in their minds.

@FeefailsGetDecapitated

14 сағат бұрын

​@@K-Production17 👹

She’s never gonna change, I have to move on with my life and love her from a distance

This is 100% my mother and why ive cut her off.

@rahuldahoob

10 ай бұрын

😮

@CrispyFriedPickles

10 ай бұрын

Same, No Contact was the best decision I’ve ever made 💯

@maxanderson9692

9 ай бұрын

Lord knows I need to do the same

@jonnyrobcr

9 ай бұрын

I made the mistake of letting mine back in even tho she was trying to hide her manipulation it soon reveres it’s ugly Head

@poppasmurf2044

9 ай бұрын

No contact = No conflict. Works like a charm.

My mom shows so much suppressed glee at others’ tragedies.

@cyberninjasworld

8 ай бұрын

Mine too omg

@Haveagreatdayight

8 ай бұрын

Same she loves criticizing others and loves when others are going through trouble

@AB-gz5tu

17 күн бұрын

@@Haveagreatdayight mine too, and I think this is one reason I find it hard to trust her. I can't explain it, but I just had to get that out to someone.

@Haveagreatdayight

16 күн бұрын

@@AB-gz5tu yeah that’s understandable. I stopped trusting mine in my early teens after she repeatedly kept sharing private info with my whole family then would get mad at me for getting mad at her for breaking my trust

@FeefailsGetDecapitated

14 сағат бұрын

​​@@AB-gz5tu they make us regret being the same g ender as them because they make the E V E story in the garden TRUE 👹

She’s the devil. I really got screwed in life….Omggggg 😭😭😭🥺

@missstranger7697

10 ай бұрын

Yep same here... My mother was the definition of a devil. She even had the ginger hair to prove it.

@cheflynne1359

10 ай бұрын

@@missstranger7697 Mine also has red hair 😳

@missstranger7697

10 ай бұрын

@@cheflynne1359 😶 I see... I wish you the best of luck!😇🍀

@cheflynne1359

10 ай бұрын

@@missstranger7697 Same to you my friend 🙏💖 We never deserved this 😘🌹

@jonnyrobcr

9 ай бұрын

Same absolute sick as a dog

So spot on with this, I went for therapy when I was a teen (my mothers idea to prove that I am the one in the wrong and she's doing things to help ) , and had the therapist tell me that I'm lucky to have a mother like I do , and I'm the one with the attitude problem and I'm just acting out for attention 😔 These 2 years have been hard for me finally seeing the truth and realising that the abuse has been real and not only in my head, she has always made others choose sides against me , having the whole family and extended family looking at you like you're a leper and should be "grateful" for what you have , if only somebody saw her for what she really is and said one kind word to me , I would be different today

@fatiss8595

11 ай бұрын

👁❤🩹🤗

@missstranger7697

10 ай бұрын

Sadly, I relate a lot to this... My mother had the reputation of the "good teacher", but was talking down on me and my sister when we were younger...She was a very scary and toxic woman I couldn't escape from until I had a job and another place to live. I was the scapegoat in my family.

Narcissists every freaking where

I didn't talk to mum in 2 years. Last January I had a stroke. It took an entire 2 minutes to make it about her. It became about the parking for her.

@RealRushinRussian

9 ай бұрын

I just want you to know it has never been your fault that your mother is sadly incapable of loving you.

@lindsayschilling8707

5 ай бұрын

It's ALWAYS about them!

@sheetalfulmare2071

4 ай бұрын

I am also following to not talk to her for upcoming 20 year's till she died....I am so done ✅ she is so jealous of me, didn't want me to get married....🙏🙏 She said who will merry you you are dark....😈ohh my god...⚖️🪔

@FeefailsGetDecapitated

14 сағат бұрын

​@sheetalfulmare2071 wow hello so sorry vanity is a woe-man's addiction they are filled with s p I t e

I used to listen through the floor boards, to my mother ripping me to pieces verbally to others. She also wrote in my diary, when I was trying to journal through my feelings and struggles.

@fatiss8595

11 ай бұрын

😢❤🩹🤗

@starchild7820

6 ай бұрын

When I was in my teens I caught my ma reading my diary on the couch when I came home from school I was furious then she use to wreck my room just so I can clean up my room better plus always sneaking through my stuff, I hated my teens and young adulthood with her bs

@Me_di

5 ай бұрын

@@starchild7820THIS exact thing happened with me omfg

@Amanda-kr8gf

4 ай бұрын

Same

She loves to embarrassed me. 😶 Says nice things to other girls but mock me.

A while ago I went to the doctor to seek help because I felt my mental and physical health was getting worse. I haven't felt happy for nearly a half of the year and it's been causing problems in my life. Constant apathy, anxiety and sleepless nights. Something similar happened to me around 5 years ago, I told my mum I felt bad but she didn't believe me. That's when I started having problems with school. I wanted support but, instead, she would come to my room every evening and tell me I'm a piece of shit. She would also say that she's suffering because of me and that I spoiled her day. I almost gave up on my life three times. She was there for all of them. And all she said to me was: "You won't do it, I know it. You're just manipulating me." Since then I understood that once I fail, my mum will turn her back at me. Unfortunately, the same is happening right now. I told her I went to therapist who implied I was showing signs of depression. My mum reacted pretty badly. She told me something like "I wish I had your problems", "I'm sometimes sad too but I get up and move forward", "Don't even dare to tell me you feel bad" and gods knows what else she says about me behind my back to her friends, my relatives, my own dad. Last time she managed to turn everybody against me. I think she'll do the same now. And I'm feeling so much worse.

@fatiss8595

11 ай бұрын

😢❤🩹🤗

@jdredman

10 ай бұрын

That's awful, I'm so sorry you went through that, truly.

@Empressflames

8 ай бұрын

Yout not alone, on the brightside you can still create the life you deserve. Also put the pain into pushing through a gym workout it helps me.

@jacqueslee2592

8 ай бұрын

Never tell your narcissistic parents your problems or your goals and accomplishments. They will make your problems greater or they will crush your accomplishments to make another problem to you. I was also in the same situation when I failed my university studies due to depression, caused by them. Took me a while to make sense of it. They forced me to see a therapist, but then I realized that it was a means for them to create more problems such as trying to make me seem that I was a danger to myself and others, so they always had the phone in front of me, saying that anytime they will call the police.They told everybody, even yelled it for others to hear. I was in recovery mode and they were forcing me to find a job the following week and to leave and find an apartment as soon as I got the job, denying the fact that I need credit, money, and that I was in no condition. This was also the time of the recession.

I live with my 84-year old aunt and I'm 60 years old. I looked up to her as a motherly type when I moved in three years ago. Boy did I find out the truth. My point is that even when I'm no longer a child, the damage they inflict and lack of support, can still be very traumatizing to their victims, no matter what age their victims are

Fact … don’t forget victim blaming the scapegoat (the one that sees her) smearing that child so everyone always has a bad view of them and you don’t even know them…

This is definitely my mother, she always does this every day 😔

@optimisticmindz2545

Жыл бұрын

I know the feeling hang in there

@josephpiggott619

10 ай бұрын

It's a fucked up feeling

@mahimaaa_666

10 ай бұрын

I don't know what to do

Still on my healing journey . Abuse makes a man very sensitive! 😅🥺

@maze95

11 ай бұрын

True bro...

@FeefailsGetDecapitated

14 сағат бұрын

Hello I am here for you fine gentlemen 😘

You perfectly described my mother. When I was in kindergarten, I knew something was wrong.

Lol my mum changes in front of others, I mentioned how fake she was in front of her (now ex) boyfriend and he agreed so she didn’t speak to us for a few hours 😂

That's what my mother was! I'm so glad she is not here anymore!

100%. It makes sense now. I always wanted to have friends around and could never figure out why she was only extremely nice and tolerable around other people. Behind closed doors, well, it wasn't so happy.

I am just waiting for my mother to die. Aaaaa. Why is it taking so long. I'm so done with all the abuse. Either I should die or she should.. I'm totally fed up.

@itsHappening-ry2ef

7 ай бұрын

lol why I said this also

@BAP-qd9gu

7 ай бұрын

Ha, I had it way worse

@fiberpoet6250

7 ай бұрын

Option number 3 Go no contact Cut off contact from her Live your life without her in it

@PrincessBabykinz

6 ай бұрын

​@@BAP-qd9gu thats what my narc mom said when i tried ro tell her about something 🙄 oh whatever i had it way worse! Me: Like u don't even know whats going on how can u say that u just cut me off?

@FeefailsGetDecapitated

14 сағат бұрын

​@PrincessBabykinz yeah some narcs in here too go figure 😮‍💨

I relate to the disaster part. Anytime something is wrong with me or even my wife, my mother gets angry and frustrated! We are 40 and 34 years old! I always thought, "she's just upset because she can't fix this". Now I realize it's just a way of making it about her- being unsupportive and hurting us along the way. Thanks for this bro.

I don’t understand why she would treat her own son like this

@jonah9861

6 ай бұрын

Lack of believing in goodness, lack of Christ, anxiety to spread her own darkness to others, so she can justify her despicable behaviour, as this is the “cruel reality of life”.

@missstranger7697

5 ай бұрын

Me neither. I thought toxic boy moms were more protective of their sons, than their own daughters🤷‍♀️

My mother is like that and I keep her at a distance. I'm thankful my Dad, my Aunts and other family members saw right through her.

@missstranger7697

10 ай бұрын

Same here...

Absolutely TRUE. Thank you for confirming this reprehensible behavior

My own Dad didn't even believe me when I talked about my narc mom. That's how good the act can be.

Yeah just realized lately that I grew up with a narcissistic mum.. realized it just now that I’m in my 40s…

@FeefailsGetDecapitated

14 сағат бұрын

41 here. I knew at age 4😢

My mom seemed like such an Angel to those who didn’t know her Sweet, caring, giving, going out of her way to help ppl and actually taught us kids to serve others to make our corner of the world a better place. She was often a caring mom And a very protective mom But she had this switch inside her where she would be absolutely insane and wanted to violently exert control over us if she perceived we were challenging her authority. She wanted total control She was both a gentle caring mom who cared about our growth and wellbeing and wanted to see us fulfill our potential… granted that’s always an unrealistic expectation. Other times, she was a monster and her obsession for control made her lose sight of our humanity We often never knew which mom we were getting any moment

I went through this for a 28 years of my life. She is exactly all that is said here. Worst part was my dad also gave in to her behaviour who was abusing me physically to extract any thing that is of use from me. Staying away from her since 2 years, yet I wake up every night due to panic attacks and cry each day till I drift back to sleep and tried. The way she treated still haunts me to date each moment. I hope never I get to be treated like that

So, you’ve met my “bio egg donor”?!

@artemaparin465

Жыл бұрын

WAIT STOP YOU TOO??🥲

@tfkdandsvkc

6 ай бұрын

I also call her egg donor she is not worth title of being called a donor

@PrincessBabykinz

6 ай бұрын

Must be related to my sperm donor.

My mother's oldest sister is the beast who ruined my family. She created my elder female sibling in her own image and managed to make my poor parents unwitting enablers. In the past week I have realized and connected so many dots in my world... I thank Jesus everyday for this gift and for supporting n healing me as I untangle this dark web. 🙏🙏🙏

O.M.G. this is so spot on. It is incredibly painful being a narcissist's child. Most of the members of my family don't talk to me because of the issues she has created. Such a traumatic childhood. Sending love and support to all here.

I love my Mother the way she is and I appreciate her efforts ❤

And the kicker is narcissists~who are incapable of introspection never feel remorse, do not internalize anything are never plagued by self doubt or riddled with guilt consequently live on avg LONG HEALTHY LIVES FREE OF STRESS AND SICKNESS BECAUSE THEY JUST KEEP STEPPING OVER THE BODIES...

@FeefailsGetDecapitated

14 сағат бұрын

mini Adolfs 👹

The wickedness is plentiful!!! 💯🎯😩

I agree. My mom is a narcissistic person. I can't even have a conversation with her

@karmasutra4774

7 ай бұрын

Me too! She doesn't call me anymore because I am being given the silent treatment we had a argument that got really bad last year. And she has not forgiven me, even though I've apologized. But everything I said was true, and I really have nothing that I said that was wrong. So I totally get it. We can't be on the phone more than five minutes.

Please do more videos on narc mothers. 🙏🏽

That’s exactly what my mother-in-law does in public and when her grandchildren are sick she’s no where to be find and later says no one helped her with her kids,forgetting that she already told me her own mother in law was helping her 😵‍💫🤯

It made me feel like something was wrong with me, i wasnt loveable.

This is so true! She keeps grudge on her own kids. Takes revenge on them for offending her. Hit them so badly. Makes people think she's the best and you are a bad kid. She's so thankless.

Watching the act is crazy. 😁 All her children "disrespectful" lol. Its not even worth the time of explaining whats happening. Time will tell.

My deceased mil was each statement made😢. Back in the days, I knew it had to be some kind of abuse, but I didn't know what it was called or indeed was it abuse?. 1970-2010 Her son, my husband of 50 yrs, is also a narc. Do not hang about if you can leave. You are stronger than you think. ❤

This is my DAD 🙄 I want to go out with my friends but I can't. If possible, he want to keep me at home until I don't know what's going on in the outside world.

It’s not just Mom’s that do this. My mom does not do this, but my dad does.

Thanks for speaking sense. People think mothers are some kind of saints. They can be the worst of a persons life. Not every parent deserves a kid

One time my best friend whom I’ve been friends with for over 5 years was talking bad about me behind my back and I was sobbing and crying when I told my mother about it thens she made it all about how my dad and his side of the family were terrible people to her and how she lost her trust in all of them.

@Jwa-fo6nb

3 ай бұрын

It's always about her, I know how feel

@avishabajpai6317

3 ай бұрын

@@Jwa-fo6nb I’m sorry you do thank you for comforting me

@Jwa-fo6nb

3 ай бұрын

@@avishabajpai6317 💛

Yes to the first one, but its also traumatizing bc it's living proof of how easy it is for them to be nice and yet they simply made the choice NOT to be nice to you, like you aren't worth it or something.

The feeling of relief when company comes over cause you know you can relax and get peace for a few hours 😭makes me realize why I would get so sleepy whenever there would be parties…it was my body’s rest cycle

Exactly, respect goes both way old lady.

Mines was mad at me so she missed my middle school graduation ❤ I was accepted into a highschool magnet program and she refused to enroll me there. It is hard believe me but you have to be stronger, I’m in school but moving out soon.. I pray everyday for myself and for her

@sandrasanchez-xu1yl

6 ай бұрын

Do what makes you happy Also try to go to counseling God Bless 💖 You got this 🙏💖

This is 100% both my parents

Thank you very much for this! I really think that we need more of this to combat abuse.

watching my mother be more of a mom to her students then she ever was to me is a unique and incredibly painful thing. she had it in her to be a good mother the whole time, she just didn’t care enough when it came to me.

So true. Thank you for all your videos.

The peace love and light is dead on!

All of these mentioned are so True 💯💯✨✨ You are really lucky to have a mother like that - heard that all my childhood and that I should appreciate her more. Not to mention that she supported others from exterior and not to me and everything is about her and only she has problems, work and responsibilities

Thanks for your advice ❤❤❤

So true! When I finally got the courage as a child to tell her that a family friend was molesting me, she turned it into a pity party for herself because "she should have known he would do that because he raped her first". So messed up, and for decades I internalized and believed that I wasn't worth protecting because she already knew how much of a monster he was, yet she still made the conscious decision to have him babysit me and my siblings.

Sick!

Please make more of these!!! They need to get exposed

As a lovely teacher,I've had countless number of students tell me that I'm lucky to have her as my mom. I just smile at them. Sometimes I think of how amazing a relationship we would've had if only she was the same with me and my brother...

So true. My mom is worser than this. Sigh😖 she would even question my friends about me in a very doubting and unfriendly way. Even my friends avoided me when they found out about her. They got scared. She would follow even them to find out things about them. She would somehow make my friends her flying monkeys. When I cut myself off her radar, she totally smothered the golden, enmeshed child. Now she and the golden child hangout with the golden child's group of friends who are all boys. She in a competition with me tries to try on my type of dresses or maybe try on extremely short ones(lol) and think herself as a teenager and hangout with them. She will also out of her grandiosity pay for all the treats, party and trips of the group. But she never cared if her daughter had anything to fill her stomach. Sometime back I even learnt that she caused a rift in the group 😳😲😆 am shocked at the level she can stoop. The golden child is in deep soup as he has to take his mother at a friends gathering. Not that a mother shouldn't or can't go but everytime and treating her like an equal is quite weird for me. Especially in India where we see mothers as reserve of love, care, support, guardian, the elder, the senior and nrot one of our batchmates. The golden child says "who needs a girlfriend when you have a mother". What!? Ewww! It's not that she cares so much about the golden one. Just cares as much as she can keep him. I just shudder at her behavior towards her children. These days she even mistreats my dog who I rescued. But she treats her own dog with that extra care. My poor baby doesn't even understand why she has separate set of rules for her in the house. They can be so spiteful. Sigh.

@KidCrowder

Жыл бұрын

Damn, this is intense!

@kritikaroy5058

Жыл бұрын

@@KidCrowder haha sigh it really is too much at times.I just sit back in the background, watch and chuckle to myself. Haha

@ddnick

Жыл бұрын

Bro let it go Go to therapy or counselling There are lots of videos on KZread about this particular topic I m not trying to tell u that ur experience is invalid for the hate you feel for her. But it will DESTROY your other RELATIONSHIP 100000% Break her curse 😊

And now she’s dating a 31 year old who tells her she’s Gods gift and the best mother in the world…. I am 28 and not the oldest child she has -__-

when i had clear signs of depression and ptsd but i couldn’t reach out to her because she acted like my struggles were a way for me to harm her… if you can relate, we really did deserve better.

so true and so sad....thanks a million for your helpful and supportive videos ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐🙏🌻

As depressed as I was as a teenager, I didn't end myself because I knew that my mother would make it all about her.

@missstranger7697

5 ай бұрын

My older sister would do the same thing. She took it from our mother.

My mother just reverse in this case she blames,insults, humiliates me infront of my relatives and then suddenly infront of me she acts like she's the best mother all she wants me to only clean the house she only loves her younger daughter not me cuz im brown my sister is beautiful she loves her but what did i do from childhood she takes all her anger out on me she's literally a nightmare she also had very traumatic childhood but this doesn't mean she does the same with me i hope obe day i leave this shit house

@uu-kq6mn

Ай бұрын

Good luck. I'm rooting for you.

Nailed it! That and so much more but you definitely nailed that for a shot !

YES ..i am so happy to see this understanding

Mine don't act that way anymore she act bad in public and the public people join her and act like her what an evil world

My mom died, and my colleague made it about her by exclaiming how devastated she would be if her mom died.

my mom and my sister. thank you sugar

@missstranger7697

11 ай бұрын

Same situation.

Struggling with self love, confidence, fear of talking to people, self doubt. OMG having narcissistic mother completely destroys your self esteem.

@FeefailsGetDecapitated

14 сағат бұрын

Hello I am here for you

This is so true. Thank you for explaining

As someone who has a history of mental disorders that cause delusion, the first one is even more amplified for me. I constantly doubt myself and wonder if I’m just making things up.

Thank you for sharing this brother 🙏🏽🙏🏽

I’m sorry you had to experience these things. It’s an injustice for sure

Yes you are talking about my mother

Wow; thank you, I needed this so badly.

My mother is just like that and I don’t really feel safe around her anymore because she does stuff that makes me wanna run away

Very true for my dad. My mother is the best I could have had. She suffered all her life and stayed hopeful for 25 years that her kids will be happy one day. I wish I can give her a better life or we end it