People are not jealous any more of what you have. They are jealous of your aura and the energy you bring to the table.

@justme-cj7rs

Ай бұрын

Wow, so true. some people will even hate you because of your personality. They simply don't want you to be you.

@bumblebee_mrs

Ай бұрын

That is even more exhausting, they hate your essence...omg, mind-blown!

@LorenaBerrenbaum

Ай бұрын

💯

@gjinkalla23

Ай бұрын

Yes❤

@AbbysalWarrior72756

Ай бұрын

@@justme-cj7rs💯

A tormented soul will envy your peace.

@laetitialogan2017

Ай бұрын

So well put.....

@dijonvolner6024

Ай бұрын

What they don’t understand is that we too, were once tormented & have done work & ❤️‍🩹 healing. It doesn’t mean that we still don’t have days that the torment comes back to visit!

@margaritakleinman5701

Ай бұрын

Very true.

@georgehunter2813

27 күн бұрын

That's why those who have toxic envy have a need to trigger you. Envy is an unbalanced dynamic that compels them to seek balance regardless of rightful justification.

@LeahWalker-iy1lw

22 күн бұрын

Oh my god🙏

Sometimes, it is just your pure inner light that irritates their demons.. :)

@downhomegirl5

Ай бұрын

😂 100% ❤

@LorenaBerrenbaum

Ай бұрын

Exactly

@michelledarkentell7536

Ай бұрын

So true 👍 👌

@GaijinTV

Ай бұрын

It’s a spiritual war. Fully agree with your statement.

@chikFromMTL

Ай бұрын

That part 🎯

Your light not only draws people to you, but it also exposes the darkness in those around you.

@Jojo01171

Ай бұрын

Well said 🙏

@tamarbatyah7

Ай бұрын

💯🕊❤

@sakuracardcaptor4709

26 күн бұрын

It’s very true

@entropy59122

20 күн бұрын

I don't know, the guys at my college always call me stupid...

@Jamie5633

11 күн бұрын

Yes!!!! People can either love you or the opposite no middle ground

People can be jealous for reasons that blow your mind if you are not a jealous type of person.

@Bcjsjhfurhs

Ай бұрын

I learned the hard way, silly me😢

@dakoderii4221

Ай бұрын

A neighbor was envious of my swollen knees when I could barely walk. He thought I had "super soldier implants". The delusion is strong. 😂

@CeciledeLuire

Күн бұрын

oh yes and you don't even have a clue that they are jealous. i sometimes see women look at me in a way that's kind of aggressive, and really, they are as good looking as i am (i'm normal attractive in my opinion), it's only how you *feel* about yourself. "if they only knew", that's what i sometimes think.

The worst is when they start spreading gossip about you and you can see people start treating you very coldly. You don’t know what the gossip is so you can’t really counteract it. It’s a horrible feeling when you’re being smeared and can’t stop it from spreading. 😢 Very depressing.

@Kimmy11279

Ай бұрын

Right now I’m facing this at work and it’s making it so stressful

@meerthemaker

Ай бұрын

@@Kimmy11279 This happened to me. Physical distance, silence, grey rocking, and prayer were my solutions. Also, make sure all communication is via email to avoid in-person communication. One more thing, you're not the problem and please don't allow these people to dim your light. Actually, shine even brighter and give them a sunburn 😂☀

@SRose-vp6ew

Ай бұрын

It sounds too easy, but let God defend you. Stay godly. I had gossip, literally ruined my life. That’s not an exaggeration. I lost everything because of gossip. I was kind to the people that hurt me and destroyed my life and it took years, but eventually everyone figured out. I wasn’t the problem in the scenario. I had to rebuild my life, but it was a blessing, I have a far better life now and “if” these people entire back into my life now (and now there is a power shift where I extend Grace to them already, but from afar.) I would even be extra friendly to them, but that doesn’t mean dependent like I used to be. Don’t let the lies get a reaction out of you. Don’t avoid or attack, do your best to address the problems head on and if that doesn’t work, trust that you did your best and now God needs to sustain you and help you heal from the pain that is very, very real. Even Jesus wept and experienced righteous anger, but in that there is no need to sin.

@carolinekelly8481

Ай бұрын

I have this from my own daughter and I had to stay away from her ! She has done everything to destroy me and said to me it’s bad that I look better than her and a lot more reasons so for my mental health I had to walk away and work on myself ❤

@rongike

Ай бұрын

@@Kimmy11279 find someone at work who seems like a nice person and is just going along as a scared bystander and tell them how you honestly feel, as honestly as you're capable of, and ask what is being said about you.

They are jealous of everything, your existance as a whole, even if they have more than you they are always jealous. Thank you

@godzillamanstreb524

Ай бұрын

Exactly…..it’s exhausting

@acd1168

Ай бұрын

Yes. I’m like you have a husband, you have kids, and you have a nice house. I only have me and a good job. People are weird

@jennifergraham5615

Ай бұрын

😂 LOL!!! They compare themselves to others. Hardly ever in a realistic way even. Right now I can take my own advice- you want it, take initiatives towards getting it. I lost just about everyone I hung around with because there jealous. I’m taking it this is the healing stage so take my time. A couple of people were jealous of my struggles. That one made me really think if I take up all the reality there. Anyhow sounds dependent to me. Like that person can go test drive life for a change and see how well they fair. Observe them not absorb. Help navigate in fine Tunements this next part of my life.

@happyhealthyblessed

Ай бұрын

They can have a whole loaf and be jealous over your one slice.

@acd1168

Ай бұрын

@@happyhealthyblessed That’s good. I’m going to use it

Wow, so true. some people will even hate you because of your personality. They simply don't want you to be you.

@user-kj1nf2ki6p

Ай бұрын

I agree❤

@collectivemindsunique7945

Ай бұрын

I laughed at this comment because it’s so ridiculously true

@markneeley4288

Ай бұрын

Isn't this really selfish behavior overall. I'm amazed all the time about the selfishness that people manifest because someone is a better inner person. It's actually really sad

@fredrika27

27 күн бұрын

I had this as a child with my family. When I went to uni, I made life-long friends who really appreciate me. That's when I realized the problem wasn't always me but them.

@badgalirri

5 күн бұрын

Bc they could NEVA or at least they live with that mindset, they believe that they never could and thus they never even try.

There are (mainly) women out there who will hate you at first sight for no apparent reason.. Watch for their eye movements as you are being introduced. A good future friend will look you in the eyes, a hater will scan you up and down, looking at clothes, shoes, jewellery, hair.. They are very very insecure. Avoid at all costs.

@wicket_gate

13 күн бұрын

Mmmh this is the best thing I’ve read today. I never put much thought into this. But it’s very true and real. I will be discerning from the first minute I am introduced. I am a guy by the way but have heard that women are so ruthless and vicious to each other.

In some cases you can sense and discern the jealous/envious energy of the person, and you haven’t even said one word to them.

@ymarley1180

Ай бұрын

You are beautiful 😍

@danip6648

Ай бұрын

oh yes!

@Jojo01171

Ай бұрын

This is so true, I can sense it by the way they look at me, I’ve had so called “friends” and close people being narcissist flying monkeys ganging up on me throwing a smear campaign against me trying to retaliate against me, there are some dark dark energy out there a devil in human disguise. Always stay safe and becareful of your surroundings!

@margaritakleinman5701

Ай бұрын

It's very subtle but very real.

@LysaChampione

29 күн бұрын

Even if they speak another language!;

I really hate it when people are jealous of you for just existing! Like what are you supposed to do? Unexist?!?

@AyaEgbuho

Ай бұрын

🎯

@user-pq1bf4ng9b

Ай бұрын

They need to look in the mirror & work on that. It's madness.

@tedfebo1741

Ай бұрын

Would love that.

@AmorosoGombe

Ай бұрын

@@tedfebo1741 Sorry for whatever broke you growing up. Hope your mother gave you enough love.

@anneparrish2247

Ай бұрын

They can have all and you little but they act jealous anyway, and yes they would gladly wipe you off the earth so listen to your gut. Nothing will change them and they are truly dangerous to your well being. I think victims sometimes think their gut must be off and feel bad for thinking what they have perceived, but staying only gives them more opportunity.

People are jealous for these reasons : They can't have what you have. They don't what you to have what you have. They can't be like you.

@pinky-ud1rt

28 күн бұрын

Amen

@user-fh8yh1wd5q

26 күн бұрын

Straight Up Real True Facts

I call this a normal day at work 😂😂😂

@justme-cj7rs

Ай бұрын

That is very sad that this has become normal behavior in the workplace. Jealousy and envy is one of the seven deadly sins

@cim851

Ай бұрын

Spot on…..every workplace I have been involved with has been a toxic mess full of these bozo employees.

@user-cv3jx7bj1i

Ай бұрын

I agree, I have worked many years in a female-dominated field and have experienced this many times. It’s disappointing.

@Bronte866

Ай бұрын

Get out asap. It will never stop.

@rockstarofredondo

Ай бұрын

Workplace haters are always fun😂

It makes total sense because jealousy is destructive, so people that are jealous of you will try do "destroy" you by making passive agressive comments that bellitle you, diminish you. Once we become aware of this, it´s easier to just get out of this game.

@michelledarkentell7536

Ай бұрын

@fabianafran927, your comment is so true. This has been happening to me at my job since I started there two years ago. I try to ignore it and stay away from those types at work, but every once in a while, we "run" into each other.

@bumblebee_mrs

Ай бұрын

True, and it is totally exhausting.

@pearpo

Ай бұрын

Some people’s jealousy is just rage looking for a target.

@AbbysalWarrior72756

Ай бұрын

People are dumb asf if they’re jealous

@forgodsolovedyou

Ай бұрын

This part was a real eye opener

Haters gonna hate no matter. I just ignore them. Period.

@Bronte866

Ай бұрын

That NEVER works. Don’t be naive. Get out. Ignoring bullies only provokes them. Useless

@Snowflake397

Ай бұрын

Ignoring them takes their power away they know that their tactics are ineffective without a reaction from you

@rockstarofredondo

Ай бұрын

Exactly this.

@seavista4810

Ай бұрын

How do you they are Haters and not just Curious?!!

@Elevatedsoul1111

Ай бұрын

I woke up to all my plants thrown of my porch I ignore them so I guess this what they do to try and fire me up 😂😂

I get triggered because they were supposed to be my rock and my support and instead, they want me to make myself smaller so they can't be jealous. So I basically have to stop needing them to be my rock or support of any kind. Be careful who you rely on emotionally.

@jenster29

Ай бұрын

Yep parents siblings and husband. Silly me, huh? Trusting the wrong people my whole life

@danip6648

Ай бұрын

@@jenster29 same

My own mother was jealous of my creativity and down played everything. She made me feel guilty and had me thinking I wasn’t good enough. But as soon as someone else noticed my talents - she was the first one to brag…lol. She has a very low self esteem

@iknowitwasyou8488

Ай бұрын

She seems narcissistic

@beaniebaby1208

Ай бұрын

Shes a narc

@gjinkalla23

Ай бұрын

Who cares about her self esteem. Take care of yourself ❤

@pinkrose4322

Ай бұрын

Same here. I just noticed that about my mother. Down plays everything I do, but brags to others about it

@mimimonroe6132

Ай бұрын

I hate to say it but there are surprisingly a lot of mother's like this.

People are waking up how cruel and disgusting some people can be! Anyone who intentionally hurts others and creates this large amount of negative energy is crazy because this happens to so many innocent people even younger kids deal with this in friendships.

@Steveo5541

Ай бұрын

yeah so true more advocacy online is helping to build awareness towards these toxic characters.

@charlotteknutsen7262

Ай бұрын

Unfortunately so true!

Insecure women get mad at me because i'm not jealous of them? Does anybody else experience this. Its really wierd & such a waste of time.

@Claire-sj9mp

Ай бұрын

Μe too

@X0AleeX0

Ай бұрын

Yeah, I have a sister in law who basically plays show and tell whenever I go over. I’m a minimalist I could care less.

@shopgirl17

Ай бұрын

I have learned woman who are unhappy with themselves and life hate other woman. The most mean and jealous individuals in my life have been woman.

@jessicastortz9138

13 күн бұрын

Me

@sugarsugar475

11 күн бұрын

Yup. My sisters in law can’t understand why their money and material things don’t make me mad.

Some people are just jealous people.

I just left a job of 10 years due to a pack of narcissistic managers and flying monkeys. I was very good at what I did and they were so jealous that they would lie, manipulate and sabotage everything I did. They could only talk the talk but never walk the walk.

@j.r.1823

Ай бұрын

I'm glad you left! Wishing you all the best for the future!

@jamiebails7902

Ай бұрын

That happened to me too. 14 years in a job I loved because they hate themselves

@sanelatutaris15

Ай бұрын

But then evil wins. What about fight the evil? Outsmarting them. Isn’t it cowardly to retreat?

@Groundwater24

Ай бұрын

@@sanelatutaris15 it isn’t cowardly at all, although your comment about facing evil has merit. Just getting out of a toxic environment helps you breathe. Any toxic or subtle stuff and I just say “I know deep down you are suffering” looking them in the eyes whilst saying it, and “if you really need to talk about it, I’m here”. That either makes them back off, or run for the hills. If they deflect I just say “I understand why you are deflecting because of your deep-rooted stuff”. Easier to do if you imagine a 3-4ft adult with a toddlers head on.

@1jw298

Ай бұрын

@@sanelatutaris15 I’m no longer required to help them win. They depended on me to fix everything they destroyed.

It's fascinating when you do your job and your customers love you, then you meet someone who just hates your guts right out of the box.

@pinkrose4322

Ай бұрын

Yes. I've experienced that too.

@lesterdiamond6190

Ай бұрын

@@pinkrose4322 one things for sure, you have to be selective about mentioning how much fun you're having in life. A lot of people don't want to hear it.

@mdeyex

Ай бұрын

I saw a quote the other day that I appreciated…you can be the kindest person, but in someone’s world, you are the a$$hole. So true 😆

@rachelm2041

Ай бұрын

I can relate. I work in customer service. When you work hard and do your best, the customers validate your good work. Even if fellow coworkers or managers do not acknowledge it. Your good work gets noticed by the right people.

@lesterdiamond6190

Ай бұрын

@@rachelm2041 I get to drive all over a major city and see tradesmen and various others at my industrial stops. I'm proud to say this results in all kinds of contacts and privileges I would not otherwise enjoy. These contacts have enriched my recreational life enormously. Welders, Electricians, Machinists, Woodworking Specialists... these people can really help you with your boats and outdoor gear, not to mention maintaining your house. When you look after your people it pays off! It also makes the really disagreeable people stand out for all the wrong reasons.

Your spirit afflicts their demons!!

@margaritakleinman5701

Ай бұрын

Your light makes them uncomfortable because it exposes their darkness!

@pinky-ud1rt

28 күн бұрын

It really does

I had to let this friend go. She is a narcissist and is very jealous of me. She refuses to see issues or try to improve her life. She wants what I have. Glad I finally saw the monster in her. I am thriving without her in my life.

@spacegirl226

Ай бұрын

I recently had to do this too to a long-term friendship. I know exactly how you feel. I ignored red flags for two decades. No longer. Their negative energy brings you down with them like crabs trying to crawl out of a barrel. They don't work together to get out, they crawl on each other and hope they can get over the edge before another crab pulls them back down. Internet hugs to you.

@sonyaphiri3994

Ай бұрын

I agree they people like that Sick world.

@trasteviaacklin5164

Ай бұрын

I did the same thing! People who are not trying to improve themselves but bring that negative foolishness around is a headache! Good job!

@user-pq1bf4ng9b

Ай бұрын

Lucky for you if she cut the ties!!! Mine has stalked me for years. So disgusting.

@user-jy7xk3bn4g

Ай бұрын

Same here

Don't cast your pearls among swines.

@OnlyJesusMatters83

Ай бұрын

I now know what this scripture means

@margaritakleinman5701

Ай бұрын

Very true words from scriprure.

@margaritakleinman5701

Ай бұрын

*scripture

@IMLovelydove23

26 күн бұрын

Amen

Get far away from them.

Interesting video content, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

@michael-gg2rh

23 күн бұрын

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

@bartholetbay412

23 күн бұрын

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

@michael-gg2rh

23 күн бұрын

Her name is shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

@bartholetbay412

23 күн бұрын

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@kaytonbalciunas862

22 күн бұрын

When they leave let them be gone. Fuck o mighty boys there are lots of women that will treat you bad

Jealousy isn't only from people who lack some assets or qualities.... sometimes people who attained or has got something already are jealous that you managed it as well and they aren't exclusively the only best one of the pack anymore....

@amphorntiengtare4072

Ай бұрын

Yeah they call it 'Tall Poppy Syndrome' in Australia. 😮‍💨

@christinerobin386

Ай бұрын

New Zealand too​@@amphorntiengtare4072

@sugarsugar475

11 күн бұрын

This take was brilliant. Thank you for the insight.

I deeply believe that people who are envious of you ALSO feel INFERIOR TO YOU, and when you are around them, your presence makes them feel small, no matter how nice and down to earth you might be! When your presence intimidates someone and they are envious of you and they don't feel good enough in your presence, these are the people who will do and say little nasty things to you, trying to make themselves feel better! It IS VERY ANNOYING but I agree with you, it's really not about you, it's about how someone is feeling ABOUT THEMSELVES when they are in your presence or when they are comparing themselves to you! Haters are nothing more than very annoying fans!

@theanonymoushelpline7248

27 күн бұрын

Oh wow! I believe this!

In my experience these people have a deep shame that gets triggered. That sense of shame often stems from some kind of childhood neglect, so as a coping mechanism they convince themselves that they’re somehow better than everyone. Anything that challenges that narrative sets them off and they will try to hurt you or humiliate you to put you back in your place. They’re just very immature.

@Skyfoxx23

Ай бұрын

Yup, describes my sister-in-law to a T!

I thought my coworkers just hated me for no reason now I know they were just jealous smh

I worked hard to buy the car I've always wanted! I was/am so proud of myself. She asked when I'm going to "upgrade"... Some people ain't sh!t... Keeping my distance from her. I like my car and my peace.

@catherinepatton8699

Ай бұрын

Each of us have a right to our choice to breath and be happy. You did the right thing be yourself, let go you can't fix their problem. Let go

@fruitypopwhickle6806

26 күн бұрын

​@@catherinepatton8699❤

I believe a person who wears a mask, pretending to be something they are not only to make you believe they are are better than...is a jealous and angry person because... your not wearing a mask...it's just who you are.and what you have done with your life! They have regrets! Shoulda-Woulda-Coulda...isn't working anymore for them!

@pearpo

Ай бұрын

@Jack it’s work wearing a mask

Im so shocked that this level of jealousy exists to a murderous standpoint where they'll get into organized harassment and fraud to put me out whilst attacking my health etc... they're crazy

@LorenaBerrenbaum

Ай бұрын

Be unpredictable, change routine and inform people that cares for you. There's a bad people out there.

@justme-cj7rs

Ай бұрын

They Murdered God's son Jesus. They were Jealous of him.

@JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht

Ай бұрын

Yes these people are truly nuts

@OceanLover805

Ай бұрын

Me to it’s pretty evil.

@lisadc4681

Ай бұрын

​​@@justme-cj7rs Absolutely! The best example out there!!

I told my mom a few days ago that i didnt understand why some people would envy me or be jeolous of me if im a nobody, im not popular and probably the worst sinner than them. And she told me that it was my 'persona' that they envied. Just simply for been me. That they envied whats inside of me even if they are richer than you or more popular than you. I still dont get. It blows my mind.

@shopgirl17

Ай бұрын

It's your vibration...dr dispenza talks about frequency and vibration. Amazing stuff!

@margaritakleinman5701

Ай бұрын

Your mom is correct. There's something special about your "persona" that they know they'll never have.

This came timely for me. I am grieving a friendship with a twisted jealous and envious narcissistic woman! The relationship was amazing at the beginning before I began to see in her jealousy and envy. She would copy me, make comments on my appearance, try to flirt with my boyfriend. It is just disgusting 🤮

@InMarieNailz

Ай бұрын

SAME!!

@sapphira5323

Ай бұрын

Same finally went no contact put up with it on and off or 30 years. She would even outright tell me that I was the girl she loved to hate but I thought she was joking because why would she want to hang out with me

@justme-cj7rs

Ай бұрын

It is always good in the beginning because you don't really know a person like that.. time reveals All.

Even your good intentions can be the reason for being jealous for some people ;)))

I'm not jealous of anyone on earth.People shouldn't envy or be jealous of anybody because you should only look at yourself and be thankful for everything you have.

The crazy thing is when you think the other person has everything and cannot imagine they could be envious of you.

@The_Moonstone321

Ай бұрын

They are threatened as they don't want you to have what they have.

@cazjay017

23 күн бұрын

They might have everything but they’re probably envious of who you are as a person.

@ChineseChicken1

16 күн бұрын

They could be envious of your looks and self confidence too.

I had to learn through experiencing betrayal trauma by a fake friend that people can actually be jealous of your character, which I truly never knew was possible before being traumatized by her…

@SST4SSG

Ай бұрын

Same here! I just had to get rid of a male friend who I used to confide in for a while until I realized he had exactly the problem that Stephanie is talking about here. How did they completely expose that ugly part of their personality over a 15-yr friendship? Over time about more than halfway through it, it was the weird sense of SCHADENFREUDE I sensed from them talking about strangers or even close friends problems. Eventually that attitude came for me in the form of constructive criticism really being destructive criticism of anything I had that they didn't. Just like Stephanie Lynn says here, "it was a competition," because they would always bring up how they supposedly handled something supposedly better than myself in some way even though I had a lot more than them in or this or that. I'm a scapegoat from my family of origin so it's kind of heartbreaking to have someone I almost looked up to like an older brother I never had who was. (I'm a straight guy saying this so I'm not talking about THAT type of heartbreak, ha ha). Yet it's NO JOKE to have someone you thought you can lean on in rough times eventually turn out to be the where you got to from your FORMER friend or the way I got from my FORMER friend. I'm sorry you went through this because we expect this and some good relationships or great relationships after years or decades. Yet NO CONTACT is a cure-all to that problem for me. Once you see them without the mask one too many times, you can't unsee it again. (Believe me, I really wanted or needed that friend as a friend and, I even lied to myself to keep the friendship going, but eventually I just had to LET IT GO. PS--I did not even do a tell off. I've got some strength and could do that but I have something better to do than just to give them more negative supply for pushing my button one too many times yet again

@user-pq1bf4ng9b

Ай бұрын

Diabolic.

@bootzbootz-uh7hx

Ай бұрын

Pa1😊😊😊 3:13 3:14

I'm 6'3, in shape, and educated. There are very few men I meet who aren't jealous/envious of me. Even my friends get jealous/envious sometimes.

@evenbiggeral5089

Ай бұрын

Good observation. The important thing is what you choose to do with that power.

@ruckerbrady8342

Ай бұрын

I'm very happy to hear a man say he deals with this. I relate. I'm a bodybuilder and stand out. Some men (and women) treat me like trash and say little insults without even knowing me. At 44 I'm still learning how to make boundaries and not be a doormat. It's like some people think a big ass guy has no feelings and are bulletproof. Jealous people are insufferable and dangerous to my peace of mind.

@newbeginnings4933

29 күн бұрын

Not even surprised... Jealousy among men isn't something that is talked about enough. We're under the impression that it's more of a feminine trait but I think there's a huge subject to discuss here. Jealousy from men towards other men and obviously that good old jealousy towards women.

@OSTARAEB4

25 күн бұрын

@@ruckerbrady8342I hear you. My problem is I was always a people pleaser and didn’t know how to address my own needs as I think my late father was a grandiose narcissist despite being a good father and provider. They were both emotionally distant and no family left. I’ve had people especially women manipulate and treat me terribly. It’s true about being a nice guy finishes last. People always test and try to take advantage instead of appreciating someone for being a friend by being there. I no longer extend myself and mistrusting of everyone now. I had a male friend now passed I believe was very envious of me. He rarely looked me in the eye and in retrospect believe he had a lot of self loathing and family trauma and cultural disapproval because of his preferences of being. My point is be yourself and walk tall and stay true to a good core being. You’ll go far! Best wishes to you.

This is very timely! I deal with this every day at work with the jealous and insecure women at work.

@pinkrose4322

Ай бұрын

Me too.

@SST4SSG

Ай бұрын

​@butterliesintheskyFound the crazy feminist man-hater in the thread!

@fml5910

23 күн бұрын

A lot of men are jealous and insecure at work too.

I had to leave a 15 year job back in February due to not only a covert Dictator who tried consistently to break me with heavy workload but flying monkeys also including HR. He used to laugh at me saying " I know we abuse you " . They could not stand my resilience ,knowledge and kept trying to make me do endless hours without pay. 50-60 hours a week for years was killing me ,breaking me down. Also ,trying me so that other women had less work Especially as I am Single ,no children . I got the Union involved in my written Grievance and got my job changed. It's been hell at 50,changing a job when I knew so much,but better than being around evil and my mental health diagnosis has improved .

@nils4812

Ай бұрын

Bonjour Serena slattry

@eugenewhite4251

Ай бұрын

Don't let an employer do that to you you deserve better!!

@catherinepatton8699

Ай бұрын

Congratulations strength is power you are strong.

@frv6610

Ай бұрын

Why no kiddies?

Envy is one of the seven deadly sins ☠️

@cynthiarouse

Ай бұрын

Envy is jealous of greed and lust. lol 😂

I suffered greatly from my older sister’s toxic jealousy that her behavior has made us estranged for years.

@sy_dianne5224

Ай бұрын

Same here…she still blames me for her unhappy childhood because my mom forced to take care of me…well sorry but it wasn’t my fault

@LatinsplainingTV

Ай бұрын

Same!

@The_Moonstone321

Ай бұрын

Same!!!

@rondanatan6198

Ай бұрын

@@sy_dianne5224 it wasn’t your fault.. people who blame simply can’t take accountability.

@sy_dianne5224

Ай бұрын

@@rondanatan6198 Well I get that as a child she should not have been parentified by my mother, she took away her childhood in some ways…it was wrong but she took it out on me in many bad ways and that’s not acceptable any more

I have one person at my work that acts like this.

@mrsa1453

Ай бұрын

If it's only one....consider yourself lucky!

@spirg

Ай бұрын

I’m a photographer, started my own side business, Oh Man !!! The stories I can tell !!!! Just unbelievable, WOW

@mrsa1453

Ай бұрын

@@spirg I can imagine....stay away from them, stay blessed and keep doing what you love....Be Happy!!!

@justme-cj7rs

Ай бұрын

Only one? How many people do you work with?

Honestly...you don't have to have anything...or even be living your best life for others to be jealous of you....an insecure person or someone with low self esteem perception of reality, theirs and how they view others is already completely distorted....nothing you do will ever fix their issues...you can only control your feelings and how you react to people with these issues...but know that people are going to find something about you that either they don't like or will be jealous for...still continue to live your life..don't let this behavior change who you are...why do we have to take responsibility for someone who is jealous?... I think we just need to remove ourselves from the situation and not engage with them...and live your life

The problem with jealousy is, if you say a lot of people are jealous on you, if there are more then one and you should talk about it, you will also be arrogant, who the fuck do you think you are! This is what they say, when they are jealous! As long as it is negative!

Them back handed compliments are something else.

Class, character, genuine, nice because I sincerely want to be, no agenda, respectful and I’m hated because I’m simply authentic morally. It sucks.

I always wondered why the fake people/ex friends in my life would always take things out of context or make an issue out of seemingly nothing when i was involved … it’s kind of pathetic and now I steer clear. I’ve learned to read micro expressions & follow a lot of Jordan Peterson and Robert greens work

@cbrown4293

Ай бұрын

Yessss yesss yesss !! Robert is where it's at! Once we can identify the subtle ways people show us how they feel about us ,life gets so much easier !! Micro expressions are so hard to understand but once we do ,it's all over with,we can see thru the fake and protect our peace !

This is so true, I used to be confused when people treat me a certain way. What did I have to be jealous about. I was not married, I have no kids…which is what most women see as “successful” my friend explained to me that I have a “light” that’s what they are really jealous of and now I get it.

@paulacol2142

Ай бұрын

They are jealous by the beautiful aura of a beautiful soul ,God has a plan for you ♥️🕊️

@frv6610

Ай бұрын

Are they darker skinned?

The worst is not only slandering and defamation, but they also start trying to copy your style…I mean so shameless. And people want to believe something negative about one, because it makes them feel about themselves. Insecurity is loud. It can be very hard to ignore, just because they will do everything to provoke a reaction out of you and then they play victim. 😔

@user-pq1bf4ng9b

Ай бұрын

I thought I was gonna faint when I walked in someone's house and they literally had mirrored mine??!!! WTF Scary.

@catherinepatton8699

Ай бұрын

I understand that has happened to me l could not be me.around her. After time l figured it out l let them go it can hurt because we recall good laughing times. Find the balance, let them go you cannot fix them. Let them go, if they persist in getting you back in their web of illness l become straight with them not mean or crule rather l plainly say l am taking.a brake from our friendship that may start a war remain calm simply say l sorry you feel that way but l am working on me That should do it if they insist you feel they want to pick a fight l.said sorry be.wrll l walk away. Do not take anyone's verbal abuse, no long explanations needed be prepared this so called friend may tell lies about you to others. If you don't leave that person you yourself may become sick in ways that don't connect but it's there. Leave let go with as much care as you can muster.let go,!!@

@Agatha1917-

Ай бұрын

Exactly what’s happening with me and it sucks when it’s your own family .. Then they have nerve saying bc hubby leaves keys and wallet with money in bathroom that we think we are Rich!

I recently experienced this once again. I’m 53 years old. It’s been happening to me all my life.

I’d rather not have friends than deal with or try to get to know someone. I love my peace.

Oh, so I can’t exist? Is that it?

@Sally-ih6ls

Ай бұрын

Nowadays it feels that way, unfortunately

@KABE1322

Ай бұрын

thats how i fell too

Jealousy is the way of the world. We have all been Victims of this Evil Way of people in Life.

I have a sister-in-law, my brothers’s wife. She treats me horribly. It’s hard when it’s family member! I’m working hard to let it all go, she’s awful to me and my sister.

Bad friends ruin lives. I had a friend who would recommend everything that was bad for me and looked bad on me. She cut me off of my parents and friends. She was so miserable and projected her issues on me. She was overweight, eating disorder and had difficulty getting a boyfriend.

Yes I'm tired of jealous people..I work hard and I'm passionate about what I love..enjoy life its short

The biggest part of my life that makes people jealous of me is that I have NO kids. I have freedom, and people are jealous, but never admit it.

I 100% agree with this. SO many people say you "everything is a mirror" so if you're triggered it's probably your problem, etc. I absolutely do not agree with them and sometimes you're just feeling the weird vibes of someone else and MANY times it's about something you have nothing to do with, like jealousy and waking up other people's insecurities. It happens. And we're not all the same.

To be honest …. …. I am so tired of people making excuses for someone else’s insecurities/ jealousy. It IS personal because I have to tip-toe around the person and watch every single thing I say and/or do! This emotion called jealousy has got to be the craziest of crazy!!! And I’m tired of therapist, life coaches, whomever telling to innocent receiver how to maneuver around this mess! Naw! I’m exhausted so therefore I’m bringing it front and center when I see it coming!

@larryl2398

Ай бұрын

Interesting approach. Maybe more people should call them out on their BS and outright tell them they're jealous.

@sy_dianne5224

Ай бұрын

@@larryl2398They would simply get defensive and nothing would change in their demeanour, believe me I tried

@margaritakleinman5701

Ай бұрын

​@@larryl2398But probably they'll just deny it, or maybe aren't even consciously aware of it.

@deborah9384

17 күн бұрын

Why tip toe. It’s a lot more expensive to stay around their abuse. It’s not that difficult to leave, get away from them, block them from your life. No headaches, bs, drama, crazy attitude and games.

Yes they are intimidated. Every man that I meet online or off ( just friends, not even a relationship anymore) ends up power tripping me quickly, devaluing me, trying to hurt me. It's because I have way more knowledge than them, psychic abilities, beauty etc..... Men hate n can't handle a " higher" woman. And the thing is, I'm not b i t c h y, mean or anything. They're jealous of our light too. I see narcissism n psychopathy the first day I hang out with a person if they are that.

@catherinepatton8699

Ай бұрын

You sound healthy, you know your worth be who you are.

@karifoto

Ай бұрын

Yeah I don’t usually suspect men to be jealous or competitive since it’s usually other women who are like that. My ex wasn’t competitive or jealous AT ALL & I was with him for so long, so it didn’t dawn on me that the next guy I met felt like that, but I think he did. He went after me like I had spent years hurting him.

@frv6610

Ай бұрын

​@@karifotowhy did he feel jelly of you?

@karifoto

Ай бұрын

@@frv6610 I think mainly because I dance to the beat of my own drum, and people who are so worried about what other people are doing or thinking, do not like that in others. I have a strong sense of self

It’s the absolute worst when they hate their whole life because then you don’t just have the physical things they envy but they also hate you for making different choices than them. The only way to win with these people is not to play. I extracted myself from my whole family and couldn’t be happier about my decision. The one aunt was the absolute worst but my mother wasn’t much better. They’re bitter just of the fact that you’re younger than them! There is no logic behind it and there’s really nothing you can do about it either.

@sy_dianne5224

Ай бұрын

Exactly, sometimes they hate you because you made different choices which brought you to a different life from theirs…as if it’s your fault for how their lives turned out…crazy!

I have felt sooooo alone. When you mother, who is enviously jealous of me….which set the tone of how others have treated me. My whole life. I’m so over it. Opening my eyes to how others have been jealous and using my good heart hurts like none other.

No one knows what itz like to be hated. For absolutely no logical reason whatsoever.

I thought I was alone in this. I lost everyone. Its nice to see you all here. Sad you went or are going through the same thing but nice to know I'm not alone here in this world.

@AuthenticallybeingAva

Ай бұрын

No you’re not alone.❤️

@frv6610

Ай бұрын

Why were they jelly of you?

@KABE1322

Ай бұрын

@@frv6610 no idea

@1594simonsays

17 күн бұрын

People are disgusting creatures

It's so sad how some people have envy. I can spot them quickly. God help these particular souls that need Jesus Christ 🌤

@elhadjdiallo633

Ай бұрын

Why almost the vast majority of people are like that why ... these people are wicked and dangerous why!!!! THEY BULLY YOU , undermine you , demoralize you and question your own self worth and value etc....

Many times it’s not anything materialistic or appearances, IT HAS TO DO WITH HOW CONTENT YOU APPEAR TO BE. If they feel your vibes being happy, calm, at ease, content, They immediately sense this and they want it and try to figure you out, but in a secret way, they won’t tell u how you look, they just try to mimic you but it doesn’t work so they resent you. I know, it happens to me.

@theanonymoushelpline7248

27 күн бұрын

Exactly

@SuperBrowndog1

25 күн бұрын

Wow! I actually had another nurse at work ask me one night "why are you so content?" She was a nice enough co-worker but this makes me wonder if other women noticed my "contentment," and maybe that's why the jealousy and rude comments. I've actually had a very hard life, much was due to my many mistakes, but I've found peace. If people only knew what others have gone through, maybe they wouldn't envy so much.

Just hearing this makes my heart pound. My older sister has always been this way toward me to the point where she would deliberately humiliate me or tarnish my character by discrediting me or characterizing me as "fake"... especially in times where I've acted out of grace or integrity. I've been trying to navigate an actual conversation about her behavior but everytime I try it turns into a literal shit show.. I'm either "gas lighting" or she defaults into complete denial or justifies her actions with complete nonsense or avoidance. So frustrating and heart wrenching for me 😩😓

@EvetteCollins

Ай бұрын

Sounds like she’s projecting that onto you (being fake). Sorry you’re going through this.

@anih7109

Ай бұрын

@@EvetteCollins thank you 💗💗

@annabanana16465

27 күн бұрын

You need to walk away and go no contact, you will never get closure with a fool like her. I went through the exact same thing

People like that are a waste of life! I have found this in my family. I just discovered on KZread that they were narcissists.

I don't even know why the person is jealous in my case

@user-wh5ir4fo4r

Ай бұрын

I feel that way. I'm an ordiary middle-aged woman. Really ordinary.

@sophiesnooks

Ай бұрын

Maybe u make friends easily and can talk to anyone? That’s what it was in my case.

@davidfogg1845

Ай бұрын

@@sophiesnooksyes, to be honest, I think you might be right and the person in question just doesn't like it

I’ve distanced myself from my niece. It’s hard when you see your downfalls are pleasing to others and makes them feel better about themselves.

They are noticed as soon as you go anywhere , like a new job because narcissists have to investigate their threat level with the new guy

I think also if you are a person who doesn’t show jealousy or envious behavior that triggers people too. They want to see your insecurity but if that’s not your area of weakness it can upset others. So weird.

I just resigned from my job due to this but I contacted my old place of employment and 24 hours later I’m working huge hours with them. Don’t stay in toxic environments 🙏

@JesusSaves77799

Ай бұрын

Amen and good for you! So happy for you! 🙏💖💖

@catherinepatton8699

Ай бұрын

Yea yes.

Yes. Most of the time people want to cut you down for no reason is because of "tall poppy syndrome" They think you need taken down a notch for one reason or another. As a childfree couple I have experienced this with family and "friends". They love to point out that you don't have certain things because you don't have kids. But it irritates them when they also know that we are on a different path and are happy. Being left out of certain events is great for us, and I think it is meant to hurt us---but we are glad we don't have so many obligations to them to go do what we want to with our free time with the community that we built outside of their "normal". Besides.....everyone feels not good enough or left out of something in some social circles. It is completely normal. I do try to just stay positive with people regardless of how they treat me; it all comes back to you full circle how you treat others. Sometimes it surprises me of who will come knocking on my door when they feel side lined for advice or comfort. Life is not a contest. We are here to help one another and cheer each other on. So if you are feeling blue over something someone did or said regarding you, remember that they are most likely coming from a place of pain in their own circumstances. It most likely doesn't have anything to do with you at all. You are just in their crosshairs at the moment because you have something or have something going on that they wish they had themselves. Be kind to them anyway.

@larryl2398

Ай бұрын

If you don't have a partner or kids then their behavior is even noticeable.

@catherinepatton8699

Ай бұрын

One thing to remember when family folks perio who come.down on you for your choices be they similar, different what l did was agree with them, if they talked about no children for you simply say your truth, best yet excuse yourself you don't owe anyone an excuse, or a.reason of why, when, where, smile and move on. I learned a long time ago, l use it today that is. What people.spew out of their mouth it belongs to them let them have their stuff your explanation for anything is not required. I have found often they are looking for a fight, so they have something to carry to others, a gossip fest don't give it to them Carry on with merriment, explain nothing

People are so jealous towards me that I would poop in my pants and they'd say, " Me too I want to poop in my pants."

Had a person who was offended they didn't get an invite to my vacation home. I kept the address private. Years later they stalked the address online or by other means, and then steered their daughter to buy a home right near mine and then sent a text out of the blue telling me about the daughter's home purchased, and asked if it was near mine. (They knew it was and did this on purpose). Didn't respond. More than just jealousy and a whole new level - it's about power and control. Is this jealous stalking? Can you do a video on that if you have any knowledge?

@larryl2398

Ай бұрын

What a weirdo that person is!

@kingGeorgefan1

Ай бұрын

😮😮

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can't stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I've tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I'm frustrated, and i don't see my life with anyone else. I've done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can't. I don't know why I'm saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.

@user-qq5fy4nh8v

Ай бұрын

have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

@CharlesEvans-fj6gl

Ай бұрын

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

@user-qq5fy4nh8v

Ай бұрын

Her name is queen stella laveaux, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

@CharlesEvans-fj6gl

Ай бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

Had this sort of dynamic blow up on me out of nowhere not long ago - a lot of pent up resentment towards me I wasn’t aware of boiled over in an ugly way and detonated several long-time friendships. Best thing I ever did for myself - look at things for what they were and accept it when others show me, not just tell me, who they are. Don’t negotiate with toxic people - if you can get them out of your life, do so. If you can’t, keep your distance as best as possible and just be you, don’t let anyone grind you down.

Ugh, this was on point. I had an inkling that my female in laws were jealous but that felt very uncomfortable and for a while I wondered if I was doing something wrong. They were competitive over EVERYTHING, no matter how trivial. It wasn’t until my inkling was confirmed that I had to do a deep dive into the part of myself/identity that was a mirror to people and triggering them to be hostile (and triggering me and giving me anxiety about showing up as my true, authentic self). Once I separated myself from the insults and tactics that jealous triggered people do, I’ve increased my radical self acceptance AND the acceptance that there will be times that my existence will be a mirror to people and they will react negatively to that. I thought that if I made myself smaller that those reactions would go away because I wouldn’t be mirroring people anymore. That most certainly wasn’t the case because when I was depressed and at rock bottom mentally (I was able to function enough to survive), nothing changed. Not even depression made a difference. So, I decided to heal myself and learn to live fully again as my inner child and soul wants. I’m still learning, but it’s liberating when you have those moments of realization that people’s hostile projections or tactics are them telling on themselves and the chokehold their insecurities has on them.

@larryl2398

Ай бұрын

In other words, it's their issue, not yours. I've also dialed it down and turned down promotions and shied away from bein "too successful" but have dealt with similar. Best to just avoid people like that if possible.

@munequa81

Ай бұрын

@@larryl2398 precisely! And it’s sucky to feel you have to self sabotage in certain areas of your life in order to get some peace. Not anymore. Life is short and I wish you all the promotions and success. Live big, live well and continue to stay away from these people.

@catherinepatton8699

Ай бұрын

Yea, good for double yea.

That’s it and that’s all. It’s the essence of who you are! They will literally have you up there thinking it’s physical and then in turn try to make you jealous of them. When in actuality “You” are what they are jealous of… remember you already won and stay away!!

Talk about jealousy, I've had my cars keyed, my retirement day ruined, nasty letter sent to me in the mail how everything about me was awful. Those kind of people are cowards.

Sometimes they come in groups 😅

i think married women sometimes get jealous of women who are single. sometimes i think they want to be nice to their husbands and kids and everyone else so they take it out on whowever is easy to take out their inner aggression.

@lizzie2301

Ай бұрын

Yep, they are definitely jealous of the freedom that single women have. I’ve experienced that first hand. I was confused at first because I’m single with no kids and they are the one with the husband, kids and house with the white picket fence lol.

Just the fact that you are happy and content with yourself and life is reason for them to dislike you!!!

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

@paulinebricks3441

Ай бұрын

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back

@wangcheng3940

Ай бұрын

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

@paulinebricks3441

Ай бұрын

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

@wangcheng3940

Ай бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

@brg2743

Ай бұрын

If that is how they treat you, you will find much better than that. Move on.

Also, if you all of a sudden become successful, notice that your friends hate you for it. They see you as equal to them - how dare you do better than them now! This is especially noticeable with people who won the lottery. This is why many rich people drop all their friends when they become rich. It's not that they are arrogant but it's the jealousy of their friends.

I'm very naive with this issue and I always wondered why folks around me try to poke me or make fun of me. I learned they're insecure and jealous of my energy and sincerity to make friendships easily.

@projectb3117

14 күн бұрын

Watch out...those friends you make easily can become jealous of you.

I recently quit hanging around this couple, because they were starting to get rude, she said after all this time when people talked bad about you I stuck up for you. I feel why is my name brought up in the first place, I can't controll what people think about me. Bye bye.

@The_Moonstone321

Ай бұрын

There's a saying 'don't tell me what people have said about me, tell me why they were so comfortable saying it to you'.

Your healing will trigger many ppl, stay centered in yourself and don’t react

I am judged at work by receptionist because I am working hard and receiving good tips. It’s so annoying because I don’t want to be talked shit about because I’m succeeding. It’s so ridiculous because they create unnecessary drama. For example, the manager was doing an evaluation for a raise and I wanted a copy after she left. I asked the receptionist if I could go and check on her desk and get my copy. She said no because it was probably locked up. I told her well if it’s locked up then I will wait until she comes back in but if it’s not I can just get it now. No you’re not allowed in her office. Then I said but receptionist you guys have lunch in her office. She told me I’ll text her and see if you can. Unfortunately the manger has already told me that she won’t respond after hours because her husband won’t let her. It was so difficult to get something so simple

@frv6610

Ай бұрын

It happened to when I wanted my university diploma, they pretended i didnt write the form and hand it to them 1 week earlier. I got message from university to my university message inbox that i can go and get the diploma, it is ready. When i arrive at reception the receptionist says they dont know about it and there is not even a form paper there to fill out to ask for diploma. I noticed she had buried the papers under other papers, as soon as i looked there she got nervous and wanted me to leave because they gonna close, even though it is officially opening hours. So i quickly pulled out one of the papers and showed to her that there is indeed diploma request papers here. The other receptionist girl understood that her collegue is not correct in her attitude. I went back up to the computer hall and logged in to look at the message again but it was deleted.

Jealousy is one reason why people down others. What they are really saying is we don't feel good about ourselves but putting others down makes us feel better. Misery loves company

Wow! Not all of us are passive aggressive and jelous at certain point in our lifetime! I'm never jealous i don't even care what other people are doing and how they look or how much money they have. There are people like me who are not jealous! Never ever!

I've had other women be really nasty to me for no apparent reason.

@danip6648

Ай бұрын

my entire life and I get it when I was young and really attractive but I am older now and surprisingly still get ostracised, ignored, etc. etc. It hurts because you have to be alone while these women are in groups and having fun together while you are well... just the odd one out... I started to feel like I was somehow inadequate... but no I know better but the feelings hit sometimes. We have no other choice but to become strong... really strong and solitary. Men also treated me bad when they know I am not interested in them... It is really sad.

@angelasmith257

Ай бұрын

@@danip6648I feel ya! In the same boat have very few friends as I get older …😢

@shopgirl17

Ай бұрын

I realized if you are put together, in shape etc other woman get triggered.

@danip6648

Ай бұрын

@@shopgirl17 yep. We should be slobs like them to be accepted. They hate themselves and anyone who outshines them they hate even more.

Exactly! I noticed that some people are not going to be excited for you.

Unfortunately this is usually at work

@justme-cj7rs

Ай бұрын

Why is that though?

@luisathexplorer

Ай бұрын

@@justme-cj7rs I have no idea - great question

I started working at my parents' store because my dad got ill, but once some customers knew I was his son, they started making comments about me all the time. Things like, "29 and you're not married?" long list of jokes and rude indirects for no reason. I'm aware customers can be difficult, but everything turns personal now, and I don't even know them. I decided to remove myself from that.

@wicket_gate

13 күн бұрын

No worries. Sometimes it’s good to stay indifferent. Indifference is key in these situations. Most importantly, avoid sharing a lot of information with others/strangers.