“I’m gonna go home and judge my family” hahahaha she’s the realest

@Qurann21

2 ай бұрын

She wasnt lying

@SGTSLACKASS

2 ай бұрын

She protected people lol.

@joealen7483

2 ай бұрын

And?

@stevethea5250

2 ай бұрын

TIMESTAMP

Stress and discomfort isn't always deception. It can also be conflicted feelings like: anxiety to being pressured, guilt over "tattling", fear of not being believed, anxiety in high pressure situations improperly created by interrogator.

@sweetielady7710

2 ай бұрын

Yeah. I feel like in interrogation situations, it's a lose-lose. If someone is nervous, then it's like, "well what do they have to be nervous about if they're not hiding anything? They're clearly guilty." But if they are completely cool and calm, then it becomes, "Oh this person is obviously a psychopath because they have no emotions. Look at how calm and collected they are despite the situation that they're in! Something isn't right about that!"

@AJ-kb9hf

2 ай бұрын

Baseline!!!

@EmpressAshe

2 ай бұрын

Yup

@angelwings7930

2 ай бұрын

Or the person had ptsd, anxiety, overload, they can’t concentrate etc

@jyn88

2 ай бұрын

She explained that

I used to listen to this type of thing all the time, I now realize these are the signs of someone who is hyperaware and is focused on others a lot to see if they're judging them, lying etc. it's a lot of work that i no longer do. Instead i focus on my energy. Thanks for the video. Wouldn't have realized I've actually grown from that past Baban if I didn't click on this video

@mikeprice8307

2 ай бұрын

Sho right! I aint got time for this. Wayy to many other important things to tend to. Im not an investigator nor a detective 😂

@AsuraVeri

2 ай бұрын

Great job! Looks like you've evolved over the years into baban"deeper"rathore

@1yungez

2 ай бұрын

yuppp

@AlexRichie

2 ай бұрын

Exactly, agreed.

@MovedByBeauty

2 ай бұрын

Insightful. ❤

Very interesting but some of us with ADHD fidget no matter what😂

@sollunaystars

2 ай бұрын

Exactly. Which is why this advice is not that helpful

@LiuGondor

2 ай бұрын

That's why she said she has to know your baseline first.

@rosemaryoneale6694

2 ай бұрын

❤😂😂😂

@BIIIKES

2 ай бұрын

That's where baseline questioning comes in.

@GameTime-yj6qv

2 ай бұрын

​@@LiuGondorthis right here. If a person always figets, then figetting isn't a sign they are lying

Some people just have a discerning spirit.

@kirstenanderson193

14 күн бұрын

THIS!

@BelovedbyAdonai

9 күн бұрын

☑️ Correct. But some of us ignore our gut and end up giving people the benefit of the doubt, only to have MASSIVE regret later.

Its easier to tell if someone is telling the truth. especially if you know their baseline. THIS. what a great reminder to listen and actually get to know your loved ones before assuming the worst

@jvanek8512

2 ай бұрын

You can never know what someone is truly thinking or feeling. If the Secret Service is so great at mind reading then why have they missed threats before.

@b-dub6865

2 ай бұрын

@@jvanek8512 This is in regards to interpersonal communication & her experience interrogating people - not spy ops, secret intelligence, social media, & everything else the government does to investigate domestic & terroristic threats.

@emanualcarr7408

2 ай бұрын

Cute for the internet, so was Donald Trump lying? Was O.J.lying? Use it when it counts for something. She does not need to convince the public. Convince the courts during criminal cases. Lawyer caping

@MovedByBeauty

2 ай бұрын

Right. It all comes down to listening well. ❤

@lisapagliari9232

Ай бұрын

Yeah, and unless I missed it, she didn't really explain how to get an accurate baseline if the person is lying to you from the get go.

Random: The anchors are sitting too close together.

@martinr8278

2 ай бұрын

Agreed! I thought they were suppose to be further apart Good observation

@LisaGallegos

2 ай бұрын

100% they look like they’re on an economy row on a flight lol

@tomtom8786

2 ай бұрын

Why does it bother u so much how close they sit next to each other? I haven't even noticed

@martinr8278

2 ай бұрын

@@tomtom8786 if you’re commenting then you did or perhaps you should pay attention. Tsk tsk……can’t be hypocrites on msm, what happened to sitting apart, 6 feet. My goodness they do look foolish

@MamacitaNatural

2 ай бұрын

It has irked me ever since pandemic that they have the anchors sitting that close just to film a show. They should just sit on each other’s lap at this point …

I once had a professor who told thee most vivid stories. Specifics, timelines, names, places… the whole nine. My gut told me he was lying, but I thought “I don’t know this man’s life, why should I suspect he’s lying to us?” … until one day he invited a guest speaker. That day, he shared another compelling tale (about her, ironically). She chuckled and said “He is lying, y’all. That did NOT happen. 😂 I would never even allow that to happen to me”….. I was like, I KNEW IT. You could feel suspicion permeate the room. Moral of the story: somebody’s “baseline” may be to lie. Trust your gut instead.

@sandrafernandez3839

11 күн бұрын

But is everything he said is a lie, come on you act like you've never told a lie before. Check yourself before you check others.

She’s so smart it took 3 Today geniuses to interview her

@marcocifarelli8075

2 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

Her make up is gorgeous

@greavsiethespur

Ай бұрын

She is a very attractive lady. 😍

@user-ec3rm9wr1n

11 күн бұрын

The ones I met are ugly 😭😂

@trentpettit6336

8 күн бұрын

@@greavsiethespur But she would look even better if she took off her shoes! Would you agree?

@nadecha5326

20 сағат бұрын

@@trentpettit6336open toe heels at least

The fact that she asks them to expand there answer is what I do. When renting apartments my wife and I ask some open ended questions and wait for them to answer, and I always tell myself and my wife, we have 2 ears and 1 mouth we have to listen 2 times as much as we speak. Because the more time you give them, the more info you get on their personality.

@ConnorReynolds784

2 ай бұрын

Not only that but the more information they provide, the easier it is to catch them in a lie. Details are the death of any lie.

@AsuraVeri

2 ай бұрын

Exactly, I also say the same thing, but also add, we have 2 eyes so we have to stare more and two hands which you need to rub on them while they talk to get a better feel.

What if you just get anxious making eye contact with any conversation 😅 social anxiety

@BIIIKES

2 ай бұрын

That's where the baseline questioning applies.

@StellaDreamMix

10 күн бұрын

If you are anxious and trying to make eye contact here are some variables but not limited to: 1. You have a higher complexity that the person you are talking to (meaning you are probably smarter than the simple minded person in front of you, your mind doesn't want to connect with them because the lack of complexity on their side, thus your mind forces you to look away or become anxious to go get away from them) 2. People's behaviors are not synchronize with their voice (they maybe lying to you or have an attraction towards you (specially if the male is secretly attracted to you but doesn't tell you hence you become anxious). 3. (Females to males) Your instincts makes sure that you don't connect eye contact with any male because this can cause attraction, your instincts doesn't want to surrender to any chimp, hence you instinctively avoid contact without YOU knowing, ay? The only way you will surrender your eye contact to a male is if they have captivated your instincts. These are a few keys 4. You are observing rather than having tension with the person, mainly the reason here is because you are an observer and point number 1 (1.) applies with this point as well, meaning, because of the lack of complexity the person you are talking to doesn't challenge you hence you lose tension and become observing rather than being a part of the conversation. For you, the only way to maintain eye contact is if you are in autopilot (non observing) and the way to be in autopilot for most of the conversion (tension) is if you are speaking to someone who captures your complexity. When you find someone with the same complexity as you, autopilot (tension) will become automatic and you wont realize you are making eye contact because the conversation is captivating you to speak and connect rather than observe. I'm a human behaviorist, what she is saying is barely touching the water, she probably has a higher IQ than your average person, for me, I was born with the ability to predict complex patterns by nature (also high IQ). ;)

The Secret Service would make great premarital counselors they would discover your mate is liar before you do too late!

@jessicaatkins3173

2 ай бұрын

Omggg I just thought the same thing 😂

@alvallac2171

2 ай бұрын

*counselors. They (to fix your run-on sentence)

@jessicaatkins3173

2 ай бұрын

@@alvallac2171 I'm sure ppl could've figured it out without your help.

@sharondisney1637

2 ай бұрын

I totally agree with this....they know everything...and they will keep our secrets to keep us safe! It's usually up to the other mate to read between the lines and figure out what's going on...

@Rapha_YadaFarms

2 ай бұрын

Show me someone that doesn’t lie. Also this is all worldly wisdom

I used to play poker a lot. The best players are aware of these indicators during key hands, as well as other more 'poker related indicators' that something is amiss.

People either have intuition or perception or they don’t. Studying a person may work fine if you are hiring someone but it’s basically common sense, which so many people don’t have.

@JJ-kf4kc

2 ай бұрын

Perhaps. But a lot of this is taught as well.

@ConnorReynolds784

2 ай бұрын

Everyone has the ability of intuition or perception. Some people either have a naturally higher level or they are more naturally inclined to rely on it. Learning and practicing how to effectively read people is simply the whetstone that sharpens the sword.

@riyadougla539

2 ай бұрын

That's what it comes down to at the end

@MovedByBeauty

2 ай бұрын

Well, actually the ability to really listen to the person. That is most important.

Beautiful segment! One of the main things I liked about it was that it was comprehensive and that they gave her time to explain the points.

@LindaC616

2 ай бұрын

They usually interrupt people. But they weren't going to interrupt this one!

@sweetielady7710

2 ай бұрын

Lol it's probably because she started off with the whole little warning about how people should talk less and listen more 😅 which was perfect. They were just immediately like 🤐🤐🤐

@andhewonders

2 ай бұрын

​@@LindaC616That's because she is literally them, she is explaining what a reporter does.

@LindaC616

2 ай бұрын

@andhewonders "literally". Found the millennial ☝️

@andhewonders

2 ай бұрын

@@LindaC616 In the sense of I've been a fan of David Bowie since 1975 you are correct.

Part of my job is business generation and I am better able to connect with, understand potential clients and steer that conversation by using what she’s talking about. Getting the person to talk, I call it active listening. The person I conversing with will provide words and phrases that stand out, avenues to take the conversation. It works everytime.

@alvallac2171

2 ай бұрын

*every time

This has happened to me 2 times now my experience if someone is not telling you the truth sometimes they will look down at the floor and will not be able to look you in your eyes. It is sad when someone you love cannot just be up front and honest with you.

@alvallac2171

2 ай бұрын

*now. My (to fix your run-on sentence) *experience: if *truth, sometimes *upfront

@lisapochecalhoun

2 ай бұрын

However, you need to know their baseline before coming to that conclusion. People with ADD often get distracted when looking at the person. It's easier to look off into space and only glance at the person they're conversing with. If the speaker's ADD is under control, this won't be nearly as pronounced as in someone who is struggling with it at the time.

The hosts are so fun…love their laughter 😄

Evy is amazing!

Very interesting! Years ago, I worked as a main caregiver in a daycare. We were told that we were never allowed to cross our arms. The reasoning was because it made a person appear closed off, upset, rude, or incommunitive. Honestly, it was none of the above for us. It was/is simply comfortable.

@LorindaSmith-vy9xh

2 ай бұрын

Right, I actual cross my arms becuase it hides my chest and belly and it is comfortable. I also break eye contact constantly do to I am visualizing my story, doesn't mean I am lying LOL

@hagakuru

2 ай бұрын

Crossing your arms is acknowledged as a self-comforting/soothing posture - it has been misrepresented as standoffish.

@Jonathan2x6

2 ай бұрын

I was in a meeting with my arms folded and the manager happily shouts out that was being closed. Nothing could have been further from the truth. Unfortunately labels get put on people by so called “experts”. Great comedy material and someone should make a spoof of this whole body language nonsense.

@jvanek8512

2 ай бұрын

I view it as standoffish.

@jvanek8512

2 ай бұрын

@@Jonathan2x6 everyone has their own experiences so when I see someone arms closed like that I perceive it as standoffish based on past experience even if it's not correct for that current situation. You're right body language experts are frauds.

I’m the biggest evy fan she saved my life with my toxic neighbours buy her book you will never regret the knowledge you get from this book it made me wiser . I’m so thankful to her .

@Sunbeamshines

2 ай бұрын

What happened with your neighbor?

@JJ-kf4kc

2 ай бұрын

Do tell. What happened with you and your neighbors that she saved you?

@jannamartens9806

2 ай бұрын

@@JJ-kf4kc always watch your surroundings the people around you always know who’s around you especially when it involves security guards bullying you just because they have a friend who s a security guard never abuse authority position s . Evy was a security enforcement officer for a reason and her knowledge has helped me so did smile and wave . I use this often

@alvallac2171

2 ай бұрын

*Evy *fan. She (to fix your run-on sentence) *neighbours. Buy (another run-on) *book. You (another run-on) *book. It (another run-on) *wiser. I'm *her.

@qmnnvrdyz8965

2 ай бұрын

​@@alvallac2171I'm thinking that English isn't this person's first language.

Stunning woman! Very interesting btw.

I learned profiling in military. Every person should learn the basics.

@NM-mc4rj

2 ай бұрын

@@EricaLozano-yp1phMaybe they just pretended to believe you!

@JJ-kf4kc

2 ай бұрын

@NM-mc4 ​HA!!!!! Good one! 😂😂😂😂

@NM-mc4rj

2 ай бұрын

@@JJ-kf4kc I can see right through people. Often I just go along with whatever someone's saying while I make a mental note about them. You have more power over the situation when they don't realize you're on to them.

@ConnorReynolds784

2 ай бұрын

@@NM-mc4rjcorrect! That’s one of the key principles of the Columbo technique, named after everyone’s favorite detective. When you appear naive and unthreatening, people put their guards down. They think they’re in control while you’re actually in the driver seat.

@sharondisney1637

2 ай бұрын

"Just one more thing"...as Columbo would say...

You will be amazed how smart people are, and can pick up on secrets unsaid

I get really nervous easily though. I have ADHD so I’m always fidgeting and I have social anxiety so sometimes it’s hard for me to make eye contact and keep it. Videos like these are interesting but at the same time they make me paranoid bc I probably give off most of these signs when I don’t even mean to. I’m just an anxious person in general, it sucks.

I love Evy. Her book is amazing. I’ve learned so much from her.

@jvanek8512

2 ай бұрын

DEI hire. A serious federal agent tasked to protect a president wouldn't dress that way.

@Stangy04

2 ай бұрын

You are a liar. You switched up your verb tenses😮.

@aziza000

3 күн бұрын

@@jvanek8512she never dressed that way when she was an agent, see her photos from during that time, she was such a plain Jane. Since she left all of a sudden she’s started dressing very ‘glamorous’ and got some surgery because she looked very ordinary before.

This was actually really good,. Well worth the listen.

Yay Evy's back!!

@leezlvontrapp

2 ай бұрын

She’s so amazing! “She really is.” 🤣

Thank you for this video.🎉

I highly recommend reading Malcolm Gladwell’s “Talking to Strangers”. This book provides excellent insights body language interpretation misconceptions and myths.

Interesting. Thank you. Blessings to you.

Thank you 😊

Definitely downloading this👏👏

This woman is so brilliant. Her book is one I can listen to on loop.❤

@Nicole-zv7ee

2 ай бұрын

Agreed! I've listened to the audiobook version of it, 2x.....and I'm planning on listening to it again! I was able to find it at the public library.

Do you think they could fit in more announcers and scooch em in on the sides, scooch right up tight, explain to me how that looks interestin?

She is right.We need to listen more..We have two ears and one mouth for a reason😀

Thanks for this

I learned a lot of these from watching Judge Judy...

Very useful. Thank you.

She's brilliant ❤

I need this!

Excellent tips.

She listens well. That is the key.

Great Advice! Beautiful and Smart!

Her book helped me after a breakup with a narcissistic con artist

@jbrown2908

Ай бұрын

OMG yes, they are the worst!!!

Wow so cool

Reading people can't be taught in my opinion. If you know, you know.

@KohalaLover

2 ай бұрын

Exactly.

@GameTime-yj6qv

2 ай бұрын

You can give general indicators of lying like this lady gave, but it's certainly a skill that not everyone has because there are plenty of exceptions. Like she said, they have to establish a baseline so you know them well enough. What is a sign of lying for one person isn't for another.

I love EVY❤

Good educators do this well too! We're magical...

Really intersting, thanks for sharing 🥰

I read this book! SUPER interesting!!!! Read it!

I can't wait to read your book!

That was cool and so was she. As well as beautiful...

I love this.

Love her!

Beeping at :45 and :49 had me thinking something was going off in my house 🤨

@s.s.0

2 ай бұрын

Same lol

Communication styles vary greatly among individuals. While some of the points she makes hold true to some extent for certain people, it’s essential to recognize that this isn’t universally applicable. Our interactions involve people from diverse backgrounds, cultures, and languages. Moreover, it’s a reality that some individuals possess a remarkable talent for fabricating stories in a manner that conceals their deception. Detecting their falsehoods can be quite challenging

@jbrown2908

Ай бұрын

Yes true, however, over time their REAL personality will come out. There's always a "tell."

Intuition leads to key triggers which opens doors insight is very important

I use these techniques with those i work with. 🙏🦋

I don't know how to read lies, but she has stolen my hear! Just look at those eyes!!! ❤

@JJ-kf4kc

2 ай бұрын

Bruh, get a life. That wasn't the point of this...... SMH

@yalrdyknow

2 ай бұрын

Bruh, get a life. That wasnt the point of this...... SMH

There so much factor involved. I know someone who’s insecure and have anxiety but not bc they’re lying: so it’s not always black and white

@jklfds85

2 ай бұрын

Very true! I'm socially awkward and have social anxiety and show some nervous symptoms when talking to people. Not always, but I notice it sometimes.

@alvallac2171

2 ай бұрын

*There are so many factors *has anxiety, but (because "someone" is singular) *because *lying. So (to fix incorrect use of a colon) *white.

I love Evy 😊

@according2cathy309

2 ай бұрын

Same

What a fantastically stunning woman!!

Wow ,and she's gorgeous .communication skills must be amazing to .

Great video!

Also if someone says "tremendous"

Sometimes I can tell when people are lying if they can’t provide me enough details or when you try & ask probing questions to get more detailed information they either say something that doesn’t make sense or they get flustered and ask me “Why are you asking me so many questions?” When you’re making up a quick lie, your story sometimes gets lost because you’re trying to hard to make it make sense.

@kelsilulu

2 ай бұрын

I say that all the time because most of the time I don’t like providing details because I don’t know if I trust who I’m giving the info to

@alvallac2171

2 ай бұрын

*too hard

@ConnorReynolds784

2 ай бұрын

Details are the death of any lie! If a person cannot provide you enough details, odds are they are making something up and because it’s hard to keep track of a bunch of made up details, the story will be vague. Or they’ll give you enough details that they can’t keep track of it all and it makes it all the easier to catch them in a lie. So getting details will always be the best weapon against a liar.

@unnamedexodus3902

2 ай бұрын

But some people can ask that if they feel like you're being intrusive or it's none of your business. Doesn't mean that person is necessarily lying.

@riyadougla539

2 ай бұрын

​@@kelsiluluSame here

People also fidget when they are not interested in the conversation

@kaleyjoplinRAWRR

4 күн бұрын

💯

Secret service comes in stunning 😊

I get nervous a lot that don’t mean I’m lying I just have social anxiety

Bad liars tell transparent falsehoods and then bully you into believing them. That’s easy to spot. A skilled liar tells you something that you’re already inclined to believe, tells you the truth knowing, and intending, that you won’t believe them, or tells you what you want to hear while telling somebody else something completely different. It’s not easy to detect a good liar. Some liars are compulsive liars. They lie all the time, even when it serves no purpose, almost as if they don’t want you to take them seriously. It’s a good way to hide the truth from you.

@3meleon

2 ай бұрын

just real quick: i think you mean pathological liars. compulsive liars have reasons why they lie. but pathological liars will lie about everything, even inconsequential things, for simply no reason. they lie just to lie

@peterwilson8039

2 ай бұрын

@@3meleon I think that there's a compulsive component to it. I also think too, that if they establish themselves as untrustworthy, nobody will expect them to tell the truth, and that relieves them of some responsibility.

Is she also a polygraph expert. That's great science right there.

TED - What a great acronym!

Very good

Superb

Very Cool. Tells and verbal cues etc. Just be honest and nice.

@jbrown2908

Ай бұрын

Yes, if you're always honest, you won't have trouble remembering your lies.

I mean, I guess it makes sense if it makes sense at the time of each conversation, but I look down when I’m trying to think to limit distractions around me.

May the extraordinary happen in my life. I trust you God Almighty. Amen

What is the obnoxious beeping in the background

@christianjane8401

2 ай бұрын

I think they were taking pics lol, it was distracting I agree

@jessicaatkins3173

2 ай бұрын

Omg, literally ran through my house thinking my smoke/carbon detector was going off.

@6YJI9

2 ай бұрын

@@jessicaatkins3173 Same here!! Couldn't even finish the rest of the video :/

I love TED language 😂❤ awesome

Beautiful lady 😊

eyes don't always mean something i have adhd and i zone out a lot even when people are talking to me

@andreww3621

2 ай бұрын

you all seem to forget her mentioning several times about knowing someone's baseline🙃

When someone is lying the blink constantly. You know who blinks like crazy when they talk.....that pastor guy Joel Olsteen.....have never seen anybody blink like thatcguy does when he speaks.

@zsuzsuspetals

2 ай бұрын

I was about to mention this. It means someone is nervous, but not necessarily lying. I recorded myself making a particular meal. I never make videos of myself. When I went back and watched it, I was blinking like crazy! I didn't realize as I was recording how much I blinked. I wasn't lying about the food, lol. I was just nervous being on video.

@noblesavage1367

2 ай бұрын

Omg 😂😂😂

@yudeen979

2 ай бұрын

😂😂wasnt lying about the food😂😂😂​@zsuzsuspetals

@jklfds85

2 ай бұрын

Could also be dry eyes.

@Terry-lh8cn

2 ай бұрын

Then there's Russell Brand, who NEVER blinks. It's really off-putting. He's like a staring owl.

It’s important to note that they are NOT psychologists or psychiatrists. Just a bunch of tips and ‘things to look out for’ rule book passed down to them. Plus, it makes for a great video.

This is actually quite an insightful way to read people. However, there are some situations in her cues that doesn't necessarily apply because sometimes people may really need to think longer for their rationale or it's because their timing of their rationale is attributed to their individual condition.

Nice video 😀👍🏻👍🏻

Love you all. Am one of them

Good book and tips. All of you.7.5/3.5

Fascinating and I can't wait to get the book!

She would surely know what I was thinking if we were face to face

True

She’s stunning 😍

*"I can read you like a magazine." BPD Taylor Swift's "Blank Space" Song and Video*

Love her, been watching her for years and listening to her podcasts. She is definitely a kickass chic. Go watch the podcast with her and ""women of impact'." With Tom Bailyu's wife.... Thank me later.

The problem with modern technology is nowadays we usually communicate thru electronics. Therefore it’s truly difficult to read someone’s body language!

She's gorgeous ❤️

I want to see her do a breakdown on the movie The Negotiator.

And for those who was born with this natural skill, it's like reading the sun newspaper..!!! 🙄😚😁🙏

Awesome info… what makeup is she wearing it’s gorgeous on her