When my husband passed in 2019 I wore black for six months. I was asked why I did this on a weekly basis. When I explained I was in mourning , most people didn’t know how to react.

@stephss

Жыл бұрын

At least people cared enough to ask/inquire. Would you rather be invisible? My condolences for your loss.

@spaghettiking7312

Жыл бұрын

That's a beautiful gesture. I apologise for your loss.

My grandmother was born in 1915, the last of 12 children to a late Victorian, early Edwardian family. One of her sisters was married in the early thirties all was ready when their father suddenly died the night before her wedding. The wedding was all paid for and couldn't be cancelled, so they had to get all the bridesmaids in lavender and all the wedding party had to wear a black armband.

@la_belle_heaulmiere

Жыл бұрын

Aw, how sad for your great aunt and whole family. He couldn’t walk her down the aisle. I feel bad for her mother who lost her own husband the day before a wedding no less. Such a joyous event precipitated by such a painful one basically hours earlier and so many last minute decisions to make during a time where it is hard to think. It must have been a very emotionally turbulent day: grief, happiness, stress, and undoubtedly feeling of guilt. I can’t even begin to imagine.

@yYSilverFoxYy

Жыл бұрын

That’s so horrible... Something similar happened to my family when my grandma died the night before Christmas. Such a tragedy also ruins the “happy” event forever. Other people are celebrating, but you will always just mourn on similar days...

@stephss

Жыл бұрын

Terribly complicated day for her.

@kayla7562

Жыл бұрын

@@yYSilverFoxYy my best friend just passed away on Halloween. She was a famous makeup artist and I just feel so bad for her nephews..they loved when she would make them look scary for halloween. She made so many monsters in general, and was very vocal about Halloween being her favorite holiday so this day will forever be hard for us, like Christmas for your family. I had no idea that by 30 you pretty much go numb because you expiernce so much pain by then. Lol can’t help but laugh at myself, I would love to go back to my younger days when I thought boys were the realest heartbreak a girl could experience. 🤦‍♀️

I did a mourning impression for civil war reenacting and added some dark purple on my black attire to show I was coming "out" of mourning and some lady yelled at me and said that woman didn't wear purple in the 1860's!

@MJF1958

Жыл бұрын

Gotta love a know-it-all stitch counter! They read one book or Gody's article and think that is the only way things were done. Adding color or white accent as one enters a lesser stage of mourning is correct and yes, purple was one of those colors! Hope you had a good informative retort for the naysayer!

@galamander_1327

Жыл бұрын

That was an odd thing to say, considering black dye at the time faded toward purple tones.

I honestly think you're one of the most historically looking historical fashion youtubers. The way you look in a corset, the fact that you actually care to wear gloves and hats every day... And you're also really funny and a great storyteller! I think that if you improved the quality of sound and footage of your videos there would be no match for you and you could get really popular.

@AdelaideBeemanWhite

Жыл бұрын

I do need to do that. I just can’t afford a good camera and microphone right now, but just you wait. As soon as I can there will be no stopping me.

@smutnaryba4937

Жыл бұрын

@@AdelaideBeemanWhite I bet! 💖

@xw7239

Жыл бұрын

Donate to her Patreon

@HattieMcDanielonaMoon

Жыл бұрын

I think it's a real privilege to be subscribed to her channel

Funnily enough I did read similar commentary on the language of flowers in a book about heraldry. The author noted that supposed symbolism of certain charges, colours or metals was about as consistent as the meanings assigned to flowers, in that they don't agree with each other.

Brilliant! I love when the consistently inconsistent points to what was actually happening.

Nice video to debunk the "strict" mourning practices. I think that these practices were observed more frequently by upper classes than lower classes. I mean, you cannot afford to stay at home as a grieving widow for 6 months if you need to put food on the table, and it was unequal pay for women (which sadly still exists). Moreover, you cannot afford to have all black outfits for especially mourning and green/lilac outfits especially for half mourning because textiles were expensive, and you would need to throw away your clothes after that (keeping mourning clothes in house after the mourning period was considered a very ill omen).

@megangreene3955

Жыл бұрын

Considering how often they would need them, it would seem to me that the most sensible option would be to put them in the back of the wardrobe.

@syedmazharhasan6803

Жыл бұрын

@@megangreene3955 Agreed, but keeping it in the house was an ill omen. Many people did not observe it for that reason.

@AdelaideBeemanWhite

Жыл бұрын

I keep my mourning clothes after mourning is over. I am usually superstitious, but when my superstitious mess goes head to head with my stinginess, stinginess will win out every time.

@syedmazharhasan6803

Жыл бұрын

@@AdelaideBeemanWhite Lol. Same here madam 😄

@megangreene3955

Жыл бұрын

@@syedmazharhasan6803 I am not superstitious. I am religious. My faith teaches me not to believe in omens.

It's such a great video!❤❤❤ Thank you! As a person, who also struggles with shorts, I recommend you to do them vertical, because I don't see this video in my shorts section.

We find shorts to be too short to enjoy, your mileage may vary, keep up the good work

The dress is very elegant

I'd love a full video on this!

That's interesting. From movies of that time, we get the picture of the widow in mourning black, crying until she dies. 😁😁👋👋💖💖

I was wondering where you went just now, clearly a mind reader on top of time travel

I only discovered this channel today, so I don't know what has been discussed already. Over here in Scandinavia brides wore black in the 19th century. Maybe it was a practical colour because the same dress could then be worn for all kinds of occasions from Sunday church services to funerals. Wasn't it queen Victoria who made white fashionable among brides? What did brides wear before that?

@AdelaideBeemanWhite

Жыл бұрын

Brides would just wear their best dress.

@serahloeffelroberts9901

Жыл бұрын

Spanish brides also wore black wedding dresses until well into the 20th century.

All I can say is that they wore black. But when they wore it, why they wore it, how they wore it --- that's harder to say.

On ebay there are old cabinet photos of women wearing black dresses either could be for morning or just a regular photo I do collect those types of photos because of history to. Not sure if you can do a video what it was really like on a windy 🌬️ day for the Victorian women only thing that is on KZread is the video of the first NYC downtown film 🎥 by the Fulton building. And artwork painting to. Was wondering about how accurate the weather forecasting was back then because of the storms and the wind 🌬️ to after people read about it in books or eyewitness accounts on documentaries videos.

Hi Adelaide💕 While visiting my sister I saw you walking in the neighborhood and she told me of your channel🥰 I’ve really enjoyed the videos I’ve seen so far! Have you ever watched the you-tube channel called “Pinsent Tailoring?

@AdelaideBeemanWhite

Жыл бұрын

Aww, thanks so much! And yes, I have seen his channel. He is very talented.

How the fuke would they check my underwere😡

@syedmazharhasan6803

Жыл бұрын

The petticoats and chemises, which consisted of "underwear" at the time, do peek out when you walk or raise your hand or step into a carriage.

@maggiep3263

Жыл бұрын

On wash day when you hang your underwear on the clothesline to dry.

I would then buck traditional mourning and go back to my regular clothes after the funeral. I may be the talk of the town, but I can't stand the color black.

@AdelaideBeemanWhite

Жыл бұрын

I don’t think you would have been. Unless you are one of the rich and powerful, I don’t think anyone would have cared.

When you say 99% of people, are you maybe speaking only of xtians? Jews have always had specific periods. I don't know about Native Americans or other cultures which may or may not have specific periods, too

@la_belle_heaulmiere

Жыл бұрын

This channel tends to talk specifically about Victorian era clothing and etiquette, with that context it is more than likely she is referring to “99%” of Christian British Empire practices than anything else. Even mainland Europe and the USA likely had very different practices but perhaps culturally influenced by the juggernaut that was the British Empire. The Victorian era and mourning practices are frequently synonymous since it seems that Queen Victoria really made of show of it remaining in black for 40 years when widowed. It basically became trendy in the upper classes which had a trickle down effect in the class system. This also might be why there are so many conflicting resources on the proper etiquette, when and where and for whom were the books published (a lot changes over 70s years) and the authors’ personal opinions on Victoria’s extreme end of the spectrum for her display of mourning.

@lisettegarcia

Жыл бұрын

@@la_belle_heaulmiere Jewish presence in England dates back to William the Conqueror's reign (ca. 1066 ACE). Jewish-born Benjamin Disraeli was England's prime minister twice during the Victorian era. Just because people didn't write about it then, doesn't mean there weren't other people there. Hindsight lets us correct the record.

@la_belle_heaulmiere

Жыл бұрын

@@lisettegarcia I didn't say there was no Jewish presence in Britain (or anywhere else in the Empire, which obviously had *many* other cultures) I am simply stating that is was about the dominant British culture of the era. This was one of those tiktok type shorts youtube is making everyone do to keep their algorithm numbers up. She isn't going into a deep dive here on the topic.