Spot on. I am going to make that hard call to my adult child and give her the apology she deserves. The one I never received, the one I will now model for our future.

@Kath0080

8 ай бұрын

This is the best thing I've seen in a long time 😭 you're making generational changes that will impact the world. 💖 thank you 🙌✨

@hunpiya

8 ай бұрын

This comment made me tear up. Can I say I am proud of you?! Because I am♥️

@TuneyGrooves

7 ай бұрын

You brought tears to my eyes. The good kind ❤

@christinamarin4875

6 ай бұрын

Wow, that's awesome that you are wanting to make a repair. I wish my mom would see this . 😕

@kchachalove

6 ай бұрын

Beautiful. How’d the call go?

This Ted talk should be watched at least once a month by every single parent on this planet.. Thanks…

@user-hs3tl3hz2q

Ай бұрын

I like your idea. I'd just add everyone! Everyone could benefit from this information!

Repair really works, even years later. A few months ago, my mom and I "replayed" a scene from my childhood - from 24 years ago, when I was 8 - wherein I felt I had to minimize my needs in order to not be an inconvenience, in order to be "good." At age 32, replaying this memory, I asked my mom for reassurance that asking for my needs to be met wasn't bad, and she said something incredible: "You don't *have* to be *good.*" I cried for so long and felt a huge weight lift. And now that scene from my childhood, that memory, I don't even think about it anymore. I used to think about it all the time when I was upset. It truly is never too late.

@leighs3439

7 ай бұрын

Beautiful ❤

@gschoonheim

2 ай бұрын

Wow good for you

@joannwilliams7415

Ай бұрын

This was beautiful and I am so happy you got that validation. Much love!

@siversteinshamn6777

Ай бұрын

That's amazing, thank you for sharing 🙏

My dad wasn’t around a lot when I was a kid. When I saw him, he was always angry. However, my dad did one thing right… He always told me that he wasn’t mad at me, he was mad at what I did. That one statement had a huge impact in how I raised my kids… This talk confirmed something I knew, but could never have explained. Thank you.

The phone call exercise was powerful, got tears in my eyes listening to it. Great talk Becky, I will be a better father because of this.

@GertieYTube

7 ай бұрын

Yes, the same

@Lennybird91

6 ай бұрын

That truly was one of the most powerful conclusions to a Ted talk I've ever heard.

@skrzydlamotyla

3 ай бұрын

I cried...

@kaitlynwiggins2328

3 ай бұрын

As a 39 year old woman. This “phone call” had me in tears.

@joshuahoyer1279

3 ай бұрын

So much this

Came here for a TED talk and left wiping tears from my eyes 😭

@guido7269

10 күн бұрын

This! And I have to talk to someone when he comes out of school.

Self repair - separating your identity - who you are, from your behaviour - what you did. then... repairing child's self blame to self trust.. wow, this is sooo deep, I need it.. thanks

Repair, self-regulate, and revisit those moments. And, remember, it is NEVER TOO LATE. Becky, this is brilliant. Thank you!

@sak2104

6 ай бұрын

Kids are the ones who are brilliant. They give us second and third and million more second chances.

@roblemaer4834

4 ай бұрын

@@sak2104Wisdom. Thanks.

I shouldn't have watched this at work because now I'm crying at my desk. My childhood was very, very bad and you're right, that phone call from my parents would change everything.

@m____w____6981

7 күн бұрын

Don't worry. This talk is nonsense. Have you met her children? Just someone spewing words for recognition.

@athenaryals3273

15 сағат бұрын

@@m____w____6981 dad, is that you?? 😂

@m____w____6981

15 сағат бұрын

@@athenaryals3273 Perfect response to my comment! 😅 My comment was a bit thoughtless (I do apologize), but honestly, myself and many experts in the field doubt the accuracy of her ideas and assertions. I have a Father in heaven who never fails me so I don't worry too much about the relationship with my parents, even though I am blessed to have a good relationship in general. Best wishes.

It is extremely hard to learn self-regulation as an adult. But it's so worth it when you can teach the next generation so they have a chance to reach the stars without holding themselves back in negative though loops. This is fantastic and gives me so much hope for the future ✨

@TimNicklas

7 ай бұрын

And, you improve your ability to self-regulate in the process.

@user-sg8kq7ii3y

7 ай бұрын

It doesn't really matter what you teach them, honestly. Parents have less influence over their kids's outcome than they realize. Many kids today spend HUGE amounts of time on social media. Maybe you can control your kid's screen time until he's in high school, but, after that, your kid will be influenced more by social media influencers than their parents. The social media algorithms ARE DESIGNED to addict your kids to it's content. That's a fact.

@DemetrioFilocamo

4 ай бұрын

You are putting on the same level an adult and a child

@bobbyboiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii1222

2 ай бұрын

Maybe for some, but not all.

- Repair involves acknowledging moments of disconnection, taking responsibility for one's behavior, and addressing the impact on the other person. - Repair is not just about apologizing but about reconnection and addressing the emotional impact. - Repairing with children can have a lifelong impact, teaching them valuable emotional regulation and communication skills. It is never too late to repair and improve relationships with children.

@patpatmoomoo5524

6 ай бұрын

lol thank you, this comment is all I came for.

@perminderkaur8160

4 ай бұрын

Thanks for this … it’s beautiful written and add this to my journal journey ⭐️

When I was 15 I was told it was too late for me to change my childhood experience and too late for my parents to enjoy parenting me. When I was 24 I was told it was too late to get out of my relationship with an abusive man because I married him. When I was 35 I was told it was too late for me to ever get married again or have a happy relationship. Hearing Dr Becky say "It's never too late to repair" has given me a glimmer of hope. I may never be able to get those years back, but it's never too late to change the future. And it's not too late to help change the trajectory of my sons' lives and teach them they can have different experiences than I had. Thank you, Dr Becky 💐

I'm a father for the first time. My son in almost three. I do yell at him more than few times during last year and a half. During that time I've taken a DBT skills training, have listen couple of dozens webinars about self-regulation, NVC, etc. But these two sentences about agreeing that I just said something which I'm not proid of and it's not defining me as a parent seem to be a game changer. Althoug my son is just and almost three yeara old, I'll repair the situation tomorrow morning. The sooner, the quicker I learn how to do that and the better our relationship. Thank you ❤

@laurencollier147

2 ай бұрын

You’re a good dad ❤

@MrgoldenRose

2 ай бұрын

Well said man.❤

@jamama3

Ай бұрын

Make it your goal to help your children to love God. Then they will act wisely even when they are not with you. Just as God teaches by example, teach your children to love God by your example. Ephesians 6:4

@Art3ga

4 күн бұрын

@@jamama3 God is a lie we came up with thousands of years ago. Don't teach your children to be good because of lies but out of respect for others and their environment.

I cried with the imagination exercise at the end. So much pain in my own childhood. I vow to try my best in parenting, not aiming for perfection but continuing learning and improving.

Throughout this talk I did feel myself tearing up, not from a parents perspective, but a childs. My relationship with my parents wasn't always great, and still isn't all the time. Repair is the perfect expression for what I've subconsciously been trying to do, not just with myself lately, but the people around me. Always trying to minimize harm, but never really being satisfied with the changes I see, and sometimes unsuccessfully bridging the gap with the people I love. Seeing repair in a new light, that disconnect is a fork in the road, and the action you take determines whether you strenghten or weaken your bonds, is mind-opening on a sincere level for me. I've always struggled managing my own feelings, not quite understanding other's. I'm honestly a little overwhelmed right now, but it feels nice to put into words what a life lesson this seemingly simple talk has been. I hope you know how impactful sharing your story with the world truly can be. Thank you, Becky.

@rodolforodriguez2592

Ай бұрын

"Adult children of emotionally immature parents" I recommend you read it. Cheers!

This has got to be the BEST parenting advice that I have heard ever since becoming a parent myself.

I'm a first time mom. Now that my child is growing it is extremely important for me to learn how to parent without causing damage to our relationship and his personality

My mother died never apologizing to me for what she put me through. I’m messed up today and can’t make decisions for myself. I get confused easily and I think horribly about myself when someone compliments me. I don’t like taking pictures with people. I have two children and I apologize to my 5 year old and accept accountability for what I’ve done. But finding a balance is hard when you think everything is your fault. This video honestly helped me more than most therapists have. Thank you

@contemplore

7 ай бұрын

I want to appreciate u. Plz take it as just that. Bless u to get well. And be well with ur children.

@salma_Nella22

7 ай бұрын

@@contemplore hey thank you for your kindness. I wish you the best with yours as well ❤️

@contemplore

7 ай бұрын

@@salma_Nella22 ✨

@abigaileggleston9108

2 ай бұрын

Sending love to your child heart ❤️

@salma_Nella22

2 ай бұрын

@@abigaileggleston9108 thank you 🙏

My parents were good at this and so many more healthy parenting practices. They showed us what unconditional love is. Thanks ❤️

This might be one of the most impactful TED Talks I have ever seen. I know just by seeing this and being open to improving my parenting, I will be better. Thank you.

@lizsiemens1501

7 ай бұрын

Yes, this really spoke to me! I want to improve my parenting and I’m so thankful that I saw this.

@boreduser12

7 ай бұрын

What's she saying in one sentence?

@sendingloveandhugs

7 ай бұрын

Agree ❤❤

@SadieJaneLutz

7 ай бұрын

🤘 Right on! So glad there are parents out there wanting to make their children's lives better.

That is exactly what my husband has told me to do when I snap. He's not a psychologist, but I've come to realize he's right.

I was a perfect mom until I actually had children 🤭

@user-hs3tl3hz2q

Ай бұрын

I too, was a better parent to someone else's kids! 😂😂 After having mine, who is 2. I can't consume enough patenting educational videos! Thankfully, with the information available, we can improve on what we thought we knew! It's a beautiful thing when the ego takes a back seat. Anything is possible! ❤

@kellykopis6059

Ай бұрын

Haha, same.

This is what i needed as a kid and its what i still need from my parents in my adult life... i will do my best to fix this with my children

@anjalipendem6494

4 ай бұрын

u are not alone

@Mindcoach1on1

2 ай бұрын

As a life coach I would love to help you through this process. -)

I stumbled on your video while searching for some parenting advice because of me yelling most of the time when I get frustrated. This really hits me hard. I am so struggling with calming myself down when in a heated situation.😢 I felt sorry for my child. But you know what I do? I don't let her go to sleep without me apologizing for my behaviour because I don't want to see myself to her one day. I don't want her to be like me. I want to let her know that it's not her fault, it was mine.😢 I don't want her to grow old and picture me as a terrible mom. I want to be her safest place someday.

Parenting is a tough job, but I think makes most of us better people. We are forced to step up to the plate and become more than we were. Thanks for the brilliant talk and inspiring advice. A great transcendent message, and captivating speech -- props to TED for hosting such a talented speaker and thoughtful mother!

An actual apology is not just an "I'm sorry, let's move on." I believe an actual apology has three steps. One: I'm sorry for action X. Two: an acknowdgement of how it made the other person feel. Three: a plan on how to not do that action again.

I just cry while listening to her. It is a very relatable thing and everyone needs to remember that repair is possible and it is never too late.

i grew up with an unmedicated single schizophrenic mother (refused to take treatment as she didn’t believe the diagnosis). I remember vividly thinking that if I was good, she wouldn’t have extra stress and go into psychosis. Even if the yelling wasn’t at me, the impact was tremendous on my emotional state. She would often go into a state of clarity where should would cry and apologize for the trauma she caused… followed by a rant about all the government agents and demons that were trying to kill us. I understand it’s not necessarily her fault and have consequently had to learn these self regulation techniques to the extreme. I’m 23 now and I can’t wait to employ better parenting practices on my future children❤ Great and informative talk!

@juliadavies8352

8 ай бұрын

I am so sorry for your childhood.. you are an amazing human being, and you will be a great parent

@EmeraldSky33

8 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry you had to grow up around psychosis. My dad didn't experience psychosis, but his moods would swing wildly from happy to yelling within 90 seconds over practically nothing. He was so unpredictable that I tried to be as "good" as possible to avoid setting him off. It was just screaming, never hitting, but in some ways it was much more damaging because I couldn't even point to what he had done that had traumatized me so badly. I hope you know that you don't have to be good to be lovable and loved. You're wonderful even when you mess up.

Thank you so much for this talk. I cried while I was watching your video. I am now 30 years old, became a mother myself but I feel like I never stopped being a child and desperately need my parents’ repair! My parents blamed me for their failed marriage, their unhappy relationships outside of the house because THEY HAD NOONE TO BLAME, so they chose their own child to blame. Until now I still struggle to stop self-blaming for what I did or what others did. But I wanted to improve that and want to give myself to chance to heal from the childhood’s trauma, so I found a technique : I promised myself that I would do whatever it takes to protect my son from what I had experienced because I know how much it destroyed a person’s future. And every time I accidentally yell or act crazily to my son, I apologized to him, I told myself “ That is what my parent should tell me” and then I heal a little by little. I hope that one day I could find peace, and hope that I don’t have to spend the rest of my life to do so.

@SadieJaneLutz

7 ай бұрын

Good on you 👏 self reflection is damn hard. It sounds like your on a good path to heal & help your own 🤘

I’m grateful that it isn’t too late for me to repair a rupture that was never my childrens’ fault. This was both healing and humbling. You’ve inspired me so much. I take responsibility & want to be an example of Repair to my young-adult kids, one of which just had her first baby. What a gift this was for me!

I balled through this talk. My oldest daughter is now 12. Since my divorce, i dont get to see her much. For 6 years she, her mom and her little sister, endured my emotional disregulation following a brain injury. Having worked hard to regain control (4 counsellors, meds, daily exercise, clean lifestyle, and a team of about 45 different medical professionals), i now have a good coparenting relationship with her mom and the most amazingly positive relationship with her little sister. I think our youngest was too young to remember the worst, but my oldest and I continue to struggle. Thank you for this Ted Talk. I think you were able to articulate, what I have struggled so hard to sort out. With your insights, I now know how to approach a letter I have been trying to write for two years to my daughter. Thank you so much.

@natiaburjanadze2854

2 ай бұрын

You sound like a wonderful dad! I am sorry you had to go through all that, I am sure you daughter will understand you. Sending you lots of positive thoughts!

This is the most beneficial, and self-improving TED talk I've heard in my life considering I grew up in a household where there was not much conversation about important issues. Thank you for shedding some light on the basic ways to communicate effectively with others in my family, and also with my partner. Thank you for being on this earth!!

As someone over 50 that imaginary letter exercise brought tears to my eyes.

Anyone else crying because they know their mother or father would never take the time or effort to do a repair like this? 💔

@thedosagirl

13 күн бұрын

Yes. Mine don’t understand the concept of repair

Becky you really saved my day. I was agonizing over my own parenting problems. Now I should keep trying to repair it. I got such a great insight from you. Thank you so much!!

Great talk that brought back a lot of memories from the past. This should be watched by all the parents every now and then.

This TED means a lot to me because I 'm struggling for just the same situation, the kitchen. I will definitely repair the connection today. Thank you so much.

So happy you did a TED Talk, you are the best Becky! You helped me change my relationship with my child and myself ❤

@emilyshotwellboivin26

8 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

Love love love!!! Thank you for normailizing parents being imperfect who are striving to repair and grow all the time! So appreciate the spot on advice to repairing!

I wish you knew how impactful your talk has become 🙏 you’ve changed lives

This TED talk about the importance of repair in parenting truly resonated with me. As a parent, it's easy to feel the weight of perfection, but her message reminds us that we all make mistakes. What matters most is our ability to repair those moments of disconnection. Her example of a tense interaction with her son beautifully illustrates how meaningful repair can be in preventing lasting distress and self-blame. I appreciate the idea of seeing repair as an opportunity for growth and connection, as it fosters trust, safety, and stronger bonds with our children. This talk serves as a valuable reminder that, as parents, we have the power to mend and strengthen our relationships. Thank you for sharing!

I am working to heal all of this. Thank you, Becky! Sometimes it’s not just yelling, but also dismissing feelings, ideas, or not listening (it’s always important to listen when kids or others want to talk), or being present, and so much more. Learning to be in the moment and be responsive and supportive and also to repair. Being able to make it about the other person and helping them heal and not about me or my “failure” (it happened and I can fix it).

Steps for Repairing Relationships:- Step one is recognizing the rupture or disconnection. Step two involves taking responsibility for one's behavior and acknowledging its impact on others. The speaker emphasizes the importance of differentiating repair from a simple apology.

I just LOVE Dr. Becky and am thrilled this concept of repair is going to get the visibility this world needs.

Every time I rewatch this talk, it gets better! Thanks Dr. Becky!

Yes!!!! Dr. Becky and TED in one place? Literally was listening to her Good Inside audible a few hours ago. So thankful for you and what you share.

It made me cry. Thank you Dr. Becky ❤

This is outstanding! So glad you shared this TED and more glad I listened to it. Thank You

I think in the scenario Becky described at the beginning, I actually think it could serve as a valuable lesson to kids, that parents are not perfect, other people have stressed that you don't see, that there's a better way to communicate your opinion of the food prepared for you by other people...

Best parent strategy is to have both parents.

Dads staying in the home is the real best parenting tip.

@grrrl420

2 ай бұрын

A dad can be present physically, but not mentally or emotionally. "Staying in the home" shouldn't be the bar we set for men as we should expect more from fathers than just only showing up. Also if they lack the capacity for doing good parenting their presence may do more harm than good.

@shonetran8882

2 ай бұрын

@grrrl420 agree, and I think the nuance is in the definition of “showing up”. Truly showing up is being mentally and emotionally present. You can show up for someone even without being physically there. And yet in other scenarios, just physically being there and being attentive without saying a single word can still be powerful I think showing up is using any physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual capacity to let the other person know that you truly care and that they truly matter to you

What a profound TED Talk! I almost teared up. It's been a long time since I've seen a talk like this. Thanks!

Heartbreaking, true, and healing , touched me deeply, to tears Thank you so much ! 🙏🏻

I am so glad that I watch this video when my kids are 2 and 3 years old. It’s not only lead my child growing but also I am leaded.

Thank you so much. This is exactly what I needed to know in such an opportune time. Grateful for this Ted talk.❤🙏

This is so beautiful, Dr. Becky! So expertly communicated with love and compassion and understanding. You're a blessing to all of us parents!!!! 👏🏻

So much appreciate the sharing, Becky. It makes so much sense and it teaches me courage to help myself and learning to raise my child. Much respect your work.

Thank you TED, I just discovered Dr Becky Kennedy today. My kids will def have a more meaningful life

I’m no expert and far from perfect as a parent, but if I snap and yell at my kid I give it s few minutes to calm down and apologize, explain that it’s wrong, and try to do better.

@SeanLumly

8 ай бұрын

Well done. Seriously. I've found it an exceedingly rare trait to take accountability and commit to improvement. And I'm talking about a serious commitment, not an empty gesture. Most people I've met (and I mean nearly all) blame others and justify their actions, and only consider personal betterment when it's attached to self-service.

@Geekabibble

8 ай бұрын

That's exactly what I just said to the screen. If you snapped at them and know you are wrong, you give both of you a few minutes to calm down and then go in and apologize. I'd also explain how it feels to be a parent who has to figure out dinners and when people in the house are rude about it that it hurts/feels bad. The child needs to learn to say things in a better way also.

@raphaelnej8387

8 ай бұрын

Most human beings hate acknowledging their mistakes

@tomreingold4024

7 ай бұрын

The speaker makes a distinction between apology and repair. Do you?

@lesagent

7 ай бұрын

Thank you for putting this rule into words. I too lost my cool momentarily but also tried to apologised later on

This is so true & useful to hear, understand, absorb and practise. Thank you, from a separated dad to an amazing 14 year old young man ❤

By far one of all time favorite TED talks. Comment section is giving me hope for humanity.

I saw such an improvement with just empathizing with my kids that I missed the last important step (until this week): "what can we do better next time?" And just in this week I've seen my children picking better choices to problems we have endured for years. 😊❤

One of the best 14 minutes I’ve spent watching KZread

So amazing. Thank you Dr. Becky!

Bah! I so love you Becky. Thank you for being SO KIND, and helping with practical help…

we do it for our kids, we reparent ourselves while we parent our kids.

What a beautiful talk. Thank you.

This is a very relevant, substantive and advanced approach to repairing and maintaining healthy relationships, for parents and children and all relationships. Thank you ❤ It’s an invaluable lesson amongst all of the media noise.

This is gold. All parents should listen to this!

My mom shouted all the time. With my toddler, I jump straight to 11:02 without shouting, plus it gives her words to communicate. I pray I remain in that communicative state for her.

This video delivers a powerful message about the fundamental importance of connection in parenting. Understanding that genuine connection fosters trust, resilience, and emotional well-being in children is truly eye-opening. Incorporating this strategy into our parenting approach can revolutionize the way we nurture our kids and strengthen our bond with them. Thank you for sharing such valuable insights!

Thank you I'm crying that end was just hit the nail on the head 😢

Thank you so much for your talk, it helps me in so many ways

Very useful advice, I will for sure implement it in my relationship with my kids!

Thank you very much for that beautiful message on parenting ! God bless you Becky ! You and your family ! 😃

Dr. Becky is amazing. I love her teachings.

A brilliant speech. Every parent ought to watch it, at least once in life.

Incredible talk! This is something all parents need to hear. There is so much pain among so many adults who were once children and treated poorly by their parents. Repair goes a long ways! I was constantly given the silent treatment and faced emotional neglect as a child. As a result, I grew up with terribly low self-esteem and now I am left dealing with cPTSD. Through countless therapy sessions, I am finally rounding the corner. I now have a child of my own and I am able to be a much better parent to her and hope to model the recommendations you have given in this talk. I sent this video to my parents as well. Thank you for this work you are doing!

@geneherald8169

5 ай бұрын

I'm glad you got value out of the talk, but I think she's overcomplicating things. In the example, there's just a lack of understanding. The child doesn't understand the parent's stress, and the parent doesn't understand the child's desire to eat different food. They just need to talk it out and understand each other. That's it. The problem with her steps is that they can easily result in lying. Say that you take responsibility even when you don't mean it or say that you'll do something differently the next time it happens only to do the same thing all over again. Kids can tell when you're lying, and there's no better way than lying to erode the relationship you have with your child.

Yes, be nice. Foster the relationships you have and repair them when something goes wrong. But maybe, just maybe, we should not forget to also teach our children to be more resilient in the face of "aggression" .

This is so powerful 😭

This is such a valuable talk. So glad I watched. Will share.

This message could change the world, one child-parent relationship at a time. Thank you so much for articulating tools that those of us who aren't experts but want to get this right can understand and implement.

What a touching but also useful talk. Thank you for sharing.

Thank you for this. Real powerful.

It is so hard to self-regulate when you were never taught as a child. I do find that teaching it to the next generation - even if it is hard to practice what you preach - has its own self-healing capacity. My parents will probably never take ownership of their shortcomings, but my inner child is listening and there's a similar effect when I own up for mine.

@user-sg8kq7ii3y

7 ай бұрын

Very convenient for kids to simply blame their parents. It gives them someone to blame rather than accepting that, perhaps, some of the blame lies with them as well. I mean, if you blame your parents for their shortcomings, then isn't it justified that your parents also blame your grandparents? What are we going to do? Are we going to just keep blaming the previous generations until we go all the way back to Adam and Eve, so that we can, ultimately, blame Eve for eating that damn apple??

Thank you so much for this

Way to go Dr.B! I cried twice thru this, thank you for the work you do.

I did that when my son’s were grown. What a difference it has made in our relationships. My (psychologist) mother never did that with me (us). Great TT.

3 elements: name what happened, take responsibility, state what you would do differently the next time.I keep thinking about what happened the other night in the kichen. I' m sorry I yelled I'm sure that felt scary. it' wasn't your fault. I'm working on staying calm, even when I'm frustrated

@josephcruz669

2 ай бұрын

But what if the reaction to that is “but why were you frustrated?”. How do you answer that without seeming like you are putting blame on the other person, or “re-writing” that to make yourself the bad guy?

@taimishejavali580

2 ай бұрын

Don’t forget to speak to the child about their offensive behaviour and why it is not acceptable and how he can express himself appropriately in the future.

This is incredible. Dr. Becky is brilliant!

This is a powerful talk.

OMG! I’m on the public bus with tears in my eyes. This hit me so hard. Thank you for this 🙏🏽

Such an amazing video. Thank you.

Nice, it is actually simple but not an easy thing to do

Thank you for your wonderful lession. I always know from my heart that my kids are lovely children and I still snap sometime and yell at them. I will remember your lession and try to improve my self and the connection with my kids.

This is so important that we learn as parents! We can't be perfect...but we can be humble enough to apologize and repair when we do make mistakes. If there's one thing I want my children to learn, it's that we all make mistakes, even mom. But we don't have to stay in those mistakes and let them define us and our relationships. "I'm sorry, I was wrong, please forgive me" goes such a long way to connecting our hearts and repair the damage done.

It’s never too late 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Thank you for this nugget of wisdom 🙏🏾

One of the all time best talks that I have ever watched!

That last part is really powerful. Go watch “Good Will Hunting”, the scene with Robin Williams telling a messed up young Matt Damon…”its not your fault” over and over. Truly heartbreaking and impactful, and really shows in the darkest of examples that even older children when told, and believe, that it isn’t their fault, find a way out of trauma and into acceptance and healing. Of course if he was a little terror and it is their fault something happened then this wont work but lets assume this is not the case, then micro adjustments and ongoing healing can be a powerful tool to raising confident emotionally stable young adults.

So powerful. This resonated hard with me.