Women, some) , and I mostly referring to women in their 50s that have never been married and never have children lack nurturing skills because they were emotionally neglected not abused. They are emotionally immature because they were taught that showing emotions shows weakness, and all the sudden now they feel like they're so strong and independent, and they ruin relationships because they think that their male partner doesn't measure up to them they're grandiosity thinks that they need to find somebody who's their equal. They'll never find it The beautiful thing about interdependence which is what a relationship actually is, is that each person brings different traits and characteristics , some more developed in some areas then their partner and vice versa. This is how they can compliment each other. I feel sorry for these women that feel they have to feel like they have to not need a man in their life. They want a man in their life and they'll say they don't need a man in their life. Another words, they could easily just walk away. Is the defense mechanism in its all fear-based and where there's fear there's no love. And if there's no love, there's no point. I told my dismissive avoidant. Ex-girlfriend that you can't receive or keep anything that someone gives you unless you're willing to give that back. If you can't reciprocate what your needs are then you really need an Awakening. Stop looking for external validation, the only way you'll be able to find validation is from looking within and it takes work in order to do that. But first you have to meditate and clear those false beliefs in your subconscious mind that is just destroying your life. You're going to create this false sense of self in the older you get, the more difficult it is in the more shallow friends you're going to attract by seeking external validation so you can go ahead and feed each other The superficial food for your false sense of self. And while you're at it make sure you save your money because when you get old, you're going to have to pay somebody pretty big money to change your diapers and to help you around. Good luck

Women divorce more now because they legally can. Added to that, now social acceptance of divorce. That was not the case not even a few decades ago. Women couldn’t get their own bank accounts until the 1970s. So it wouldn’t make sense for them to divorce because they would have NO money while they wait for resources during a divorce. (alimony, child support etc.) It’s not just about emotions, it was literally dangerous, especially if that woman also had children.

@aconsciousrethink

10 ай бұрын

I think you are absolutely right. One of the reasons we did not really see many divorces in the past is as you said, restrictive life of women in the past, though this varied country by country. In some countries, women's rights very close to those rights of men while in others they were significantly different. That being said, freedom to finally divorce is not really the cause that I deal with in this video. Divorce is merely the manifestation of the disintegration of one's intimate relationship. Whether a woman was able to leave the men or not, their intrinsic unhappiness in a non-functioning relationship would have been the same. The only difference now is that once a woman files for a divorce, nobody is able to dispute the failure of such relationship. On the flip side, governance of divorces may offer an easy way out for many. In some countries for instance, the couple still must demonstrate that divorce is the final and the only option, which is very much evidence based.

@buildingemotionalintelligence

10 ай бұрын

@@aconsciousrethink Certainly divorce is a convenient measure of where emotional distress overwhelms the emotional needs of a couple. So it gives a lower bound to relationships that are not functioning well for the people involved. Hence the actual "unhappiness" rate is higher as many stay in unhappy relationships.

@alicerayne9461

2 ай бұрын

it is very dangerous when the man has children by every woman he seems to be with!

While I do agree that one of the reasons why women divorce do have something to do iwith how negligent men can be to a woman's emotional needs, I don't think it really has anything to do with evolutionary biology. I think the increase of divorce has more to do with society's constant belittlement of the sacred idea of marriage. I mean, think about it like this, back in the old days of America, people didn't really divorce as often as today. Some men were still neglecting their wives back then. (Not all because there were plenty of men treating their wife correctly.)I think there is correlation to be made in how people viewed the importance of religious values back then vs today. People stayed married more often because they looked at marriage as a sacred bond to God, and thus, leaving it for any reason other than if your spouse committed adultery was frowned upon and looked at as a selfish act. In today's America, we are far more secular and liberal culturewise. I mean, we literally legalized gay marriage, which is something the Bible forbids. Thus, alot of people dont really see the spiritual importance of marriage and thus, divorce over practically things that they are supposed to work out and endure. Biblically speaking, youre not supposed to divorce simply because you feel neglected, youre supposed to honor your marriage regardless, even to your own detriment. Which is why there was always an importance on choosing your spouse wisely and taking it VERY seriously. Marriage was a representation of how God views His relationship with His people, where He works with their flaws and constantly forgives and renews love. People dont see it that way anymore. It's more of a business or social occasion now.

@aconsciousrethink

10 ай бұрын

Thank you for your comment and I really appreciate the depth you went into. That being said I feel like you are too focused on one country and one religion rather than seeing the larger pattern at play. Christianity may still be one of the top religions in the word, but each church has slightly different approach to marriage and divorces. Equally, in the western world, Christianity is nowadays truly followed by an ever diminishing number of members who take it seriously or believe in what's written in the Bible. But given that it is 2023 and our understanding of the physical world is different than what it used to be in the past. Hence the God of Gaps name. Divorce rates have rarely anything to do with just how religious the nation is. For instance, the top 13 countries with the highest divorce rates (annually, per 1000 people) in 2023 are as follows: Maldives - 5.52, Kazakhstan - 4.6, Russia - 3.9, Belarus (tie) - 3.7, Belgium (tie) - 3.7, Moldova - 3.3, China - 3.2, Cuba - 2.9, Ukraine - 2.88, Denmark (tie) - 2.7, Latvia (tie) - 2.7, Lithuania (tie) - 2.7, United States (tie) - 2.7. As you can see there are some very Christian and some non-Christian or even secular countries on that list without any direct correlation to religious beliefs. Some of the lowest divorce rates are actually across non-Christian countries. To me, it seems that it has more to do with socio-economic reasons, as well as information, education etc. Take for instance the US. How do you expect a family to survive when the population of the country literally lives to work rather than works to live as it is the case here in Spain. In Spain, people have time for each other because career is far less important than free time and family time. Monetary and consumer needs are placed lower than social relationships and interactions. This has nothing to do with religion but with culture and societal values. For instance, Spain is still very much Christian on paper but only a fraction of people actually believe in God. Christianity here is more of a historical custom and a vehicle for fiestas and celebrations that have long been rooted in the history of the country. That being said, some of the most officially religious countries in Europe have high divorce rates. I think in reality it's a huge combination of factors including the fact that these days, young people have to deal with a lot more than people had to deal with in the past. The social pressures from social media, dating apps, peers and society at large are immense, which also marks the huge increase in depression and other mental and emotional problems amongst the younger crowd since 2008.

@buildingemotionalintelligence

10 ай бұрын

@@aconsciousrethink Interesting consideration of what is driving divorce rates. You didn't mention the divorce rate where you are, in Spain. I imagine it is quite low. The figures you give for divorce rate, are they per 1000 people or per 1000 married people? If its per 1000 people, then it needs to factor in the marriage rate for a better comparison. For me the long term success of a relationship, is determined by how comfortable two people can be with each other, over the long term. That is, create and maintain an emotionally beneficial environment. There are many factors that contribute to this. From my experience, it is the ability of each partner being aware of their own needs and triggers to the level where they have the capacity to accommodate the others needs and triggers, This allows them to work these through and prevent the accumulation of emotional damage. These skills are not taught, hence relationships have a very high failure rate.

@alicerayne9461

2 ай бұрын

@@buildingemotionalintelligence Been as we live in a disposable world there is no love maybe like and fond of so piss them off and they will be gone with a lot of your things if they were living with you, and your money plus they will tear up your car, being alone is being better off, that goes to both genders!

well I do not care to lose all I have, my car my house I do not like to be beat up or hit on, I do not like sex day and night. men do not grow up as a woman has to grow up at a young age. I had to anyway, so men pls go your own way, xp

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