Due to COVID-19, I have been living with my parents and grandma and every afternoon I used to stop by her bedroom and spend sometime with her. Once I was working pretty hard and I forgot to see her 2 days in a row I guess. The other day when I stopped by her bedroom and start talking to her she was like: - “You stoped visiting me...” Now I totally understand her feelings and I will not forget again. PS: she just turned 90.

Immediately upon reading the title, I knew my life will probably end within the next days.

@troycambo

7 жыл бұрын

eastern european nihilism

@douche8980

2 жыл бұрын

I'm not all that social either :/

@jordanbatka033

Жыл бұрын

☝️🙏🏼

@BSPoK

10 ай бұрын

Lol try to make three friends soon!

Well, I'm fucked.

@bigkap2081

7 жыл бұрын

pernus how's life

@ernestoh429

7 жыл бұрын

pernus sorry

@y0usaf

7 жыл бұрын

me 2 but you re not alone

@saachi2705

7 жыл бұрын

pernus same

@farvision

7 жыл бұрын

go dancing

I love this talk. As an introvert, I have underestimated and took for granted the people I have in my life. I need to be much more engaged with the world around me for the sake of my longevity and quality of life; regardless of having slight social anxiety and introversion. I must acknowledge that I am indeed a social being that desires love, affection, and intimacy from other human beings; everyone needs this to a considerable extent after all.

@guitarsoundsaround

4 ай бұрын

Are you aware how extroverts function? Just curious. I have a solid understanding of introverts by hanging out with some in my life too.

I'm gonna send this video to my Wife and hopefully I'll be allowed out to see my friends tonight! I'm not ready to die! Thank's TED!!

@lukacrnomarkovic8172

7 жыл бұрын

Karl Parish maybe you should get a divorce if she doesnt let you hang out with your friends.

@KarlParish

7 жыл бұрын

Ha!! Maybe!! But thanks to this educational piece... She will understand the importance, and set me free without the need for divorce! (She's cool really, I do stuff with friends regularly)! Great advice by the way!

@lukacrnomarkovic8172

7 жыл бұрын

Karl Parish lol

@0908183068

7 жыл бұрын

Same mind.but i'm still single,i will show my future wife this helpful video

@KarlParish

7 жыл бұрын

Thắng Nguyễn Hahaa!! Good thinking!!

Her voice is so firm, I love it!

@suryasharma9410

7 жыл бұрын

Twenty Øne Phans really , i do agree

@user-py7gv7lj7c

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. She gives an impression by her voice that she is a very reliable person.

The sad part during 2020 is that because of Covid-19 we're not allowed to hace social interaction. It feels like this social isolation is killing me, suicidal thoughts returned, although I can handle them and have them only during the lowest and darkest moments. However, we will overcome this.

@sleepsmartsmashstress740

2 жыл бұрын

we will overcome this. (or not live to talk about it) either way only the good part remains

@Nina-856

Жыл бұрын

2020 was a difficult year for me mentally as well, it took me a while to recover from it, now I’m better. How about you, has it gotten better? This comment seem to be from 2021 so hopefully you are doing better.

So social interaction releases oxytocin and lowers cortisol levels? Huh. I have social anxiety, the only thing my body releases during social interaction is adrenalin, which I'm pretty sure increases cortisol and stress.

@sameoldpanda5707

7 жыл бұрын

Scouski how you cope with your anxiety?

@saras3632

7 жыл бұрын

Same here ✋. I need a solution to the social anxiety. Do I need to see a therapist?

@anis909

7 жыл бұрын

lmao social anxiety is a mental condition. It's not something human beings are programmed with. People who have anxiety developed it from experiences in their lives. The chick in the Ted Talk is talking about healthy people.

@enigmaticazaleas

7 жыл бұрын

Same

@ThriftyCHNR

7 жыл бұрын

The long term stress of not making and having good relationships will crush you over time.

From my phone notifications all I could see was "The secret to living longer may be your soc..." I thought it was going to be about clean socks.

@brolin_empey

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe it meant soc as in SoC as in System-on-Chip, meaning that if you use a smartphone that uses the x86 architecture instead of the ARM architecture then you will live longer because x86 is alive since 1978 (beginning with the 8086) but ARM is only alive since around 1985.

@rotcivhp

3 жыл бұрын

It could be your soccer team

I'm here after reading Brené Browns Book: Braving the Wilderness. Which really got to me. Now I feel I really need to read the village effect too. I'm so hungry to understand the topic of loneliness deeply. Not out of pure fascination, but out of self-love. I owe it to myself to have a good long life (and to the world ). And after taking in all this, for the first time in a long time, feel motivated to explore my social side for real and implement habits to make it sustainable ( and enjoyable! ) . And this is coming from an introvert. Good luck on your journey , and I sure as heck could need a lucky kick in my boot to...! /Alex

Infinite Love and Gratitude for YOU, Susan Pinker! You make the world a richer and brighter place!

I got much more to know . Thanks for adding new articles to my knowledge. Thanks for this useful and very interesting video.

Ted talks always comes in at the same time I'm going over the topic in my senior year of college

There are so many things that contribute to living longer, and strong social relationships and connectedness really play a big part in healthy aging. The global pandemic has made social interaction more challenging due to high priority in our health and safety, which is why technology really shined in recent years as it allowed us to stay connected with the people around us. What we've learned from Reviving Mind's programs is that loneliness really takes a toll on someone, which is why it's nice to meet new people and create meaningful bonds to share memories and challenges with.

@guitarsoundsaround

4 ай бұрын

I agree that humans are social creatures, we also crave physical connections. That is not going away any time soon.

After living a wonderful life of 101 yrs.without any major diagnosis, my mother survived Covid in Oct./Nov. Many died and the apartment building went into pandemic lockdown last April 2020. She grew increasingly depressed as all community activities were cut off. She died last month with a diagnosis of pulmonary edema. Prior to that she was popular and called the social butterfly and fashionista... Ultimately, , all that disappeared along with lung function and mobility. Just thought that might add to your data.

"Social isolation is the public health risk of our time"...? :)

I'm so glad that lady asked that question at the end, I was thinking the exact same thing

I kind of agree... first you need to build a healthy oneself first then the top two on the chart.... it plays a long part in your longevity because of not only the natural chemical lifters you produce when you meet someone socially in person... it also helps you motivate and build a long trusting relationship with your surroundings.. reducing your stress levels to a zilch and helps your brain function better...

As a highly introverted person, I feel like all the stress and exhaustion from socializing outweighs the benefits.

@dietergrafen7560

2 жыл бұрын

Yeap. People are very different. But statistics helps to find the average wisdom. Individualized, personalized wisdom will be possible with the automatization soon

@SageTheBeast

2 жыл бұрын

@@dietergrafen7560 I would LOVE to be surrounded with animals. They'd be my friends :D

@LiborTinka

2 жыл бұрын

@@maur8786 Im okay thanks for your care.

@LiborTinka

2 жыл бұрын

@@maur8786 thanks for your 'care' but I am really not interested in psychoanalysis, especially not through an YT comments, heard too much hate already, so thanks...

@jonathanriley6442

2 жыл бұрын

I think the fact that you feel such high levels of stress from human interaction is in itself a problem that should be addressed.

I'm an introvert with no friends.. I guess I'm going to die early

@VictorJavierdeBarutellArnal

7 жыл бұрын

amberdoe Im shy but I have friends :d

@ambercotrone

7 жыл бұрын

I used to have friends but now that I have a chronic illness they all have basically left my life.

@troycambo

7 жыл бұрын

What illness. I saw your vid you look healthy.

@vince55sanders

7 жыл бұрын

Pro tip, get a dog : )

@ambercotrone

7 жыл бұрын

Troy Nguyen I have chronic Lyme disease. It's an invisible illness. I may look healthy but I spend most of my days bedridden. It's pretty debilitating. I have good days but far more flare days.

So truth ! Thank you 😊

"He plays minecraft and I hear him yelling at his friends, so they must be connecting pretty well" I'm dying xD

Thank you for this.

It's not necessarily this simple. When I exercise, I become less depressed and far more open and chatty and I don't care so much what people think of me....if I'm depressed I often avoid people. So it could appear that the social activity was causing my improved mood (and therefore, health) and perhaps it does improve it further, but none of these things can be looked at in isolation....they all feed into each other.

@whoyouare94

9 ай бұрын

Statistical testing considers these interaction effects. I don't think the study ignored that

I have a Sardinian friend. He's super chill and mellow. He is a happy man.

absolutely loved the "actually no" lol.

Happiness is the secret to long life. Period.

@guitarsoundsaround

4 ай бұрын

Happiness is not the secret to a long life. 😂 not even close.

@emexduzentos

4 ай бұрын

@@guitarsoundsaround What is the secret then?

@guitarsoundsaround

4 ай бұрын

@@emexduzentos the secret is that there are no secrets! It took me a long time to learn this personally, that life is not really just about happiness. Happiness is a merely a goal we strive for. Love is the path to learning how to understand those secrets.

Two people were talking, and one asked the other, "why don't you give up smoking, you'll be sure to live longer", the smoker replied, "no, it will only seem that way". This is an appropriate view to nearly all human relationships.

I'm a person who is diagnosed with Aspergers. I love the idea of having friends, and being with friends, but I don't know how to make relationships last :(

كما جاء في حديث عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم "لا يزيد في العمر إلا البر" فالبر من أسباب طول العمر و البر لا يكون الا بوجود تخالط و اندماج مع المجتمع وفي حديثا أيضا قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم "من أحب أن يبسط له في رزقه وأن ينسأ له في أجله فليصل رحمه" و صلة الرحم تعني ان تتواصل و تتفاعل و تكون عونا و سندا و رفيقا و مشاركا دائما فما أروع هذا الدين الذي جاء علي لسان نبيه كل حق و صواب و خير و حكمة جمة دين الله الإسلام ❤🌼

Fantastic.

I am 58 yrs old and an introvert by nature and don't like large circles of friends or groups of any kind. If I had to force myself to socialize in a situation that I wasn't really comfortable with, that would wreak havoc with me so I only do what makes me happy. I dictate what my social life will be. If you're introverted and don't have a large circle of friends, don't let this video freak you out. Volunteer work counts as socializing...church, etc.

With deference to understanding how humans are, I cerebrate this finding is pretty paramount. The things that cause us to feel pain are things that are cognate to things gradually transmuting for the better over time apperceived as threats to our survival and the essence of gregarious pain is a denotement that change for the preponderant, over time has treated convivial connection like a desideratum, not an sumptuous thing/opulent and comfortable condition. It additionally transmutes our desire to do something/reason for doing something wide view of a nature scene/wide area of pulchritudinous land. We incline to surmise that people's deportment is narrowly self-intrigued, fixated on getting more material benefits for themselves and eschewing physical threats and the strenuous exertion of effort. But because of how convivial pain and pleasure are wired into our operating system, these are desire to do something/reason for doing something ends in and of themselves. We don't fixate on being connected only in order to extract mazuma and other utilizable things/valuable supplies from people - being connected needs no secret reason for doing something.

Thanks for this great video.

A very good question at the end.

14:00 Face to face contact has stunning benefits but a quarter of population says they have no one to talk to

I'll say the quality of your social life and the way you manage your private life. You can be social and hang out with those who might not make you live that long, let's say "friends" that are there when you're ready to get drunk or use drugs.

@guitarsoundsaround

4 ай бұрын

Some friends are the designated driver, lol. I let them get drunk and safely get them home.

I think this is interesting especially because personal assistants like alexa , google home are coming. I wonder how this will impact our social life, maybe it could actually boost it, reducing the barriers of communication with tech and humans

i have to admit... i am addicted to KZread, i been looking for an excuse to stop, honestly after watching this video, im going to switch my WIFI off.

@721rena

7 жыл бұрын

Masha Bitar the most intelligent comment I've seen on here

@DrinkmoWater.

7 жыл бұрын

Right on .. hope you can put life ahead bruh I know that feel

@Aworology333

7 жыл бұрын

See you tomorrow.

@sajsadanand3712

3 жыл бұрын

Then I hope you wont see my comment

I used to live in the world of Socials - Instagram, Facebook, KZread, Vimeo, Klout, Tinder, Fart...okay, maybe Fart doesn't exist (yet!). Then after watching Westworld (S2) + Mr Robot (S3) back to back, I looked at myself and thought, "wow, you claim to not be a drone but checking your socials every minute, refresh *flick* refresh *flick* refresh..nothings changed" I realised I had to get out of that world and into the real world..the world beyond...beyond the cushty little place we call home. I was born late 80s but I remember the time (somehow?) in the early 60s when we all went shopping and waited for our items to be tallied up and put into bags. You'd wait in the queue and someone behind is purchasing the same item. You'd turn around and say, "wow, good find and now let's talk about this item for 5 minutes...oh look, how time flies...its my turn to pay for my shopping". Those were the good ol' days. Skip to 2018: Interior Shop, Day. Waiting in line. 2 people ahead, 2 people behind and what happens?

Thx. How make/fuse display and cam all together?

Mathematically I should be dead by now then

My dad had probably around 6-10 small strokes and took 2 years off. I usually go see him every Sunday now (he's back to work and happy) and he's doing not too bad. I just moved a few days ago and was worries about visiting because I was way closer before. Thanks for this. I'm gonna try harder to keep visiting...

I wouldn’t worry too much about this, if I were you. I’ve found that relationships with others can be harmful if you seek them, just for their sake. Being alone has allowed me to determine the course of my life and find what I’m really passionate about. If you’re not fortunate enough to live around decent people, then you could go your whole life without good personal relationships. I’m much more calm and level headed than I’ve ever been, these last two or three years, because I’m not chasing some ridiculous ideal of success. One where you have loads of friends and make obscene amounts of money etc. I’m also going to add that I have been doing yoga practices and meditation, for a while, which is what shifted me into becoming so much more at ease and comfortable being alone.

I've always thought this to be true, I've observed it in my pets. Nice video

10:41 Elizabeth Redcay at UMD

Nice motivation

I have seen my great grand father he was 114 My great grand father on my mother side is 96 My younger grand father is 97

@721rena

7 жыл бұрын

Toshiro Hitsugaya Japanese?

13:20 at least 3 stable relationships

Wait. Does an ant colony count as friends.

@KarlParish

7 жыл бұрын

Hahahahaa!! Yes... Yes it does!! It's better to have an Aunt Colony though...!

@intellectualblackking162

7 жыл бұрын

Only if you are apart of the AC family lol

@MrBuggLand

7 жыл бұрын

try to high five them

@caavoficial

7 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha. I think so, as long as you can make eye contact with them!!!

@videoboysayscube

7 жыл бұрын

I got a plant. Does that count?

Fantastic

But what if trying to be social just gives you more stress? Some people are at their best when they're solitary, that's not for me but I see the appeal and understand it.

obviously, it means a lot to me in my recognition for that

Does anyone have the 7-year study by Julianne Holt-Lunstad that is mewntioned? Can't seem to find that one - I do have the meta analysis she did in 2010 and review in 2018.

wait what if a two third majority of the people I interact with on a daily basis are just human dumpster fires? do I still gain the benefit of talking to them or is it nullified by how awful they are?

@LughSummerson

7 жыл бұрын

Obviously, you have to live in a nice village in the hills of Sardinia. And they don't like strangers, so you have to be born there too.

@AkizaVesper

6 жыл бұрын

Well, if you actively dislike the people (i.e. their entire being goes against all you value), then it'll only cause stress/ fight or flee reactions.

What has not been mentioned is the physical proximation may actually be important .For example the radiation of a human , touch , eye contact , multiple sensory confirmation of the presence all may lead to the result of increased health not currently available with digital connections.

Tricky if you have social anxiety. I avoid social interaction to avoid stress. Dammed if you do, Dammed if you don't

@MrBlodhund

6 жыл бұрын

Angel Smith fix it

@yougotta2505

5 жыл бұрын

maybe you just haven't found your tribe yet? 🤷🏾‍♂️

Nice presentation 👍💕

Makes sense. New York, New Jersey, and Maryland are the 3 most densley populated states and are also the 3 states with lowest suicide rate while Alaska, Wyoming, and Montana are the 3 least densely populated and are the same 3 with highest suicide rates. Doesn't have to do with life expectancy at all but there is some correlation, I think.

We did not talk about online audio video such as zoom here! Though touch or tactile sense would lack such as with hand shake or hug it would still be better than texts

9:30 Digital vs face to face contact

@guitarsoundsaround

3 ай бұрын

While I hesitate to weigh in on this topic, I do believe digital vs. Face to face contact is where many people are at these days. Social media might fill the gap (both positively and negatively) but there is some truth to having social interactions. The speaker references people who lived, or grew up with family. What would the study show without that denominator?

@guitarsoundsaround

3 ай бұрын

My kid wants to meet his online, stranger friends that he has built a digital relationship with. All the modern devices and tools that connect them doesn’t replace that need for face to face interactions. Perhaps it’s not for everyone but to each their own.

Why does the MRI picture come from Shutterstock rather than the actual study?

11:15 Okay, but did you try a livestream? I know it feels good when the person in the stream responds to you. It's different than a pre-recorded message. How about on the phone? How about Skype? There are several layers to try between in person and a pre-recorded message.

*"wildflowers survive where soils are harsh; avoiding alligator shoes and careless hearts"* 🌹

Interesting talk, and obviously the social component is turning out to be a big factor in longevity. But this study is just that, one study, and a fairly small one. And I fear that some folks are going to take away the wrong message here - eat whatever you want, live a sedentary life, and just be social more in order to live a long life. The folks in the blue zones do more than just socialize - they walk almost everywhere, they eat very few refined carbohydrates, etc. This talk tends to gloss over those other important factors.

@damonm4156

Жыл бұрын

True but i think the social close relationship aspect in the blue zones plays a more vital role to longevity than diet. Diet for sure plays its role i dont think this is just one study there are many studies that have shown been social you will live longer

Con todos los respetos, esta charla mezcla cosas ciertas con asunciones falsas y esto es porque pasa por alto "qué" es una "variable dependiente" en un estudio psicosocial. Un sencillo ejemplo: se ha visto que las personas que tienen perro, viven más como media que las que no, pero esta variable (tener perro) es dependiente, es decir , quién tiene perro, lo hace por muchos motivos propios (No independientes o experimentales) y los cuales pueden ser las verdaderas variables causantes de su longevidad . Así, no es que las personas que tienen perro sean mas longevas gracias al perro, sino gracias a las variables que las llevaron a adoptar un perro (cosas como ser generosos, ser sensibles a los sentimientos, amar el dar paseos... , estar dispuesto a pasar incomodidades para cuidar un ser querido .... etc) . Por tanto, si alguien comprara un perro “para vivir más” seguramente sus posibilidades de vivir más ... aumentarían poco pues le faltaría las variables causales previas. Así que Susan se deja un detalle clave: “si chocas los cinco con mucha gente al día... sirve, pero sirve si y solo si lo haces de corazon, porque …si lo haces para aumentar tu dopamina.... seguramente no te servirá para vivir mas años. Del mismo modo... si alguien tratara con mucha gente para tener personas “de apoyo” que de necesitarlo "le prestarían dinero" o que “le llevarían al hospital”, lo más probable es que esté haciendo un mal negocio… pues la gente no es tonta…y sabe distinguir un buen amigo de alguien que sencillamente … se hace el simpático. En resumen lo que necesitamos no es “tratar mucha gente para lograr personas que nos ayudarían a la hora de la verdad”, sino más bien “ser una persona que ayuda a los demás , pues esto es lo que hará que haya amor en tu vida, y por tanto que las personas que tratas... te quieran" y como las personas nos juntamos con seres sentimentalmente afines... lo mejor para tener “amigos buena persona”, es “ser una buena persona”. En fin, que la variable importante del estilo de vida para prolongarla es algo más que simplemente interactuar; es sencilla y simplemente buscar el bien de los demás, tenerlos en cuenta, respetarlos, y preferir que sean felices. ¿Es bueno tratarse? si, pero por amor de verdad, nada más... En fin que ¡Viva las buenas personas, y saludos a todos!

I really want to improve my English. but really hard to find the good enviroment to communicate with native speakers in my country. I just need about 5 minutes of your time to practise. Can you help me?

I don't get it, I never lived with lot of people around, yet all I dream is to be left alone. This seems like happiness.

Susan Pinker: Social interaction is the key for a longer life Corona virus: I DoN't tHinK sO

The fact is, more people are living better right here than anyone else ever before in history. So don’t expect us to roll over and play dead when you say you’re dissatisfied. It’s not perfect, but it’s a great deal better than when we grew up: a hundred men standing in the street hoping for one job; selling apples on the street corner- that’s one of the things we were dissatisfied about; and you don’t see that much anymore. You’re taller, stronger, healthier, and you live longer than the last generation; and we don’t think that’s altogether bad. You’ve probably never seen a ‘Quarantine’ sign on a neighbor’s door. Diphtheria, scarlet fever, whooping cough-probably none of your classmates are crippled with polio. You don’t see many mastoid scars anymore.

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What about those with social anxiety ?

is there and if so .. how strong is the effect compared between extroverts and introverts?

her voice tho 👌🏻

She mentions internet vs reality, but what about talking to people over Skype for example? Is that a more real interaction or closer to social media? Or even having pets, like cats?

ملخص: الجينات مسوواة بنسبة قليلة عن التعمير(العيش لفترة طويلة) على عكس نمط الحياة الآن *العزلة الاجتماعية* هي اكبر خطر على حياتنا راجع مخطط العوامل الاكثر تأثيرا في العيش لمدة اطول ٧:٢٢ لاحظ ان اهم سببين هم علاقتك بالمقربين (اهلك) والناس العامة فالمصافحة،وجود حد بجانبك وقت المرض،التكلم يطلق سلسلة من النواقل العصبية التي تجعلنا سعداء اكثر تخفف وتنسينا الالم يزودنا بالثقة يزيد طاقة الجسم وهذا ايضا ينطبق على الحيوانات.

I will live forever.

excellent news! So..... how do I make friends and stuff?

Correlation does not equal causation. Close personal relationships is not the cause for longer life expectancy. Its mostly genetics. A healthy diet helps. Lower stress levels help too, and that happens in various ways for different personality types. There's a number of factors to take into account beyond social interaction. To simplify down to that is silly.

Oxytocin and lowers cortisol levels huh!?... So, eating chocolate daily also works!! 😝

@Guiltypleasure98

7 жыл бұрын

Hakuna Matata I'm glad to see some people have their priorities straight.

At this rate I won't make it past Tuesday.

Is there any paper related? I want to read more about this.people always telling me what to do without any solid prove

So, what should you do if have 0?

Wow, I love it! That's a really interesting subject! We'll all ended up dead though.... It might take 100 or 200 years, but there is no other way for us all. But what I like the most in this video was that what makes me happy, living surrounded by people, might makes me to live longer!

Maybe, but as an introvert I'll take quality time alone rather than more time with people.

nice

Socialization for older adults is crucial. Tips to help reduce isolation in seniors can be found here: akhomehealth.com/home-care-library/socialize-good-health/

I thinks it's more specifically about love, rather than just close relationships and social interaction. Those are broad terms. But if you go more specific, a close relationship with someone who loves you and who you love, I thinks is the key to longevity. So in the end I believe it is love which gives you the purpose to live. But what do I know??

Maybe we should all move there...

nothing about stress management or sleep on longevity. I question that list...

so slums are densly populated. do they live longer?

I would like more friends but if it makes me live longer then sod that :/

epic presentation I've been completely in her speech I've learn a lot from it

what if I have a lot FWB? That counts right?

So what happens if you have no very close friends, although you like nodding to the 95 year old lady, waving to the cop, saying hi to the sad guy, smiling at some kids, and hold the door open for veterans etc! On top of that always talking to your family members and things of that nature, Putting yourself into crowded areas where you try to make people feel better if you have it in you that day. Is that enough or is super close friends a must because I feel like everyone just thinks that’s weird

Talking with people is often exhausting for me, trying to find things in common, merging opinions, arguing. It's all too tiresome...

Humans are social animals. We need to interact with one another in order to be emotionally stable and our mental health has an impact on our overall health.

10:18 drugs that are released in your body when connecting face to face

Social anxiety here *builds her coffin *

But how about things like facetime and Skype?