“We cannot love ourselves and judge ourselves at the same time”

I grew up as a trans kid in a small catholic community in the 90s, so I never felt I belonged - I thought I was an abomination, and closed myself from everyone lest I hurt or get hurt again. There were no wise people I could show myself to, especially not my parents. I have wise friends surrounding me now, but I still have a long way to go. I'm learning self-acceptance, but self-love is not yet within reach

@missnaomi613

9 ай бұрын

Please accept some mama hugs. 💙💗🤍💗💙

@lux_24601

9 ай бұрын

So proud of you!! It can be hard to learn to accept and love yourself when you grew up in a judgemental environment

"i'm like a daffodil but with chest hair" 😂😂😂

When we show ourselves, and we are seen and accepted, that is real love

I am the daffodil in our marriage 😂 I also am only just learning to not spiral and say "it's ok buddy" on an off day (thanks to having a breakdown in February, quitting my stressful job and enough CBT to actually start dealing with my mess.) Something that has helped me is the idea of body neutrality; not positive or negative, it just is. "Today x happened" is just a neutral statement of fact; that has helped me so much.

From your personality types, I (29 F) identify mostly as Thinker-healer and my partner (29 M) is Dreamer-closer. We had been friends since high school but only been dating for about 4 years now. We found our upbringing and methods of navigating conflict are opposite. I fight, argue, get passive and nitpicky, and he closes up and tries to dodge me. We both have a normal terrible relationship with self love and self compassion. After working on our argument approach, (I soften and stay safe, he opens) we found out we both had issues identifying our needs because I hardwired myself to reject the needs as I felt I didn’t deserve them or needed to find ways to live without them as my role; and he couldn’t identify his needs because he didn’t have space growing up to see the act of processing emotions as an option to situations. We’re doing much better these days and relate to many of your examples and experiences. Thank you for these videos.

I can't wait to show your videos to my boyfriend. And I love seeing how you two have grown not just as a couple but also as a KZread channel. LOL you guys seemed awkward at first in front of the camera and now you are so comfortable. This and Cinema therapy are amazing and I'm so glad I found them

Oh I love your channel so much. It's so calming. I have avoidant personality disorder (I hate this word. It is discriminating), hence this was very helpful.

John: Hot dang Alicia, this seems so simple. Alicia: Dieing with laughter. "And this is why I married this man." =)

You guys are the cutest couple ever 💗 💓 💕 😍 💖

I tried to read, Real Love, when he started to talk about unconditional love I quickly dismissed the book. However I plan to read it now after further refelection. I think we as people make the mistake of confusing conditions and exspectations. It's understandable to have exspectations about your relationships or platonic as this allows us to establish boundaries. But, when we apply conditions regarding those connection we instead create barriers. This is something I've slowly come to realize through your many videos. Thank you both and your team for your hard work and dedication to helping others heal and grow.

I think if I really loved myself i would stop spending so much time mulling over small mistakes I made or whether someone likes me or what the tone of an email actually is. Often while I am thinking about those things, i pick at my skin or eating junk food. If I loved myself I could get out of this loop of feeling terrible and making myself look terrible and then feeling terrible again.

Needed this video today

I like listening to your talks. Thank you for sharing with additional resources. I feel the points would drive home harder without the random, funny clips in-between. I feel that it breaks the tone of the messages you are trying to communicate. The dynamics and natural humor that comes out as you have your back and forth are enough. The patience and space you hold for each other is also good for us to see as viewers without the disruptive cut scenes. I do watch Cinema Therapy and feel the pop culture humor is fitting there. Thanks, again. ❤

Hi Alicia and Jonathan, I wonder if you've watched a movie called Toni Erdmann? It's not an easy film to watch, but once you get into it, it's fascinating. It's a study of human condition, of overcoming shame and self loathing. Of allowing self to be loved and to accept yourself truly. It's a German movie I think. Piercingly poignant, yet leaving one feeling hopeful and at peace.

Due to the fact that I have an EC-crad, I can't actually pay for the membership site, so I don't actually get the answer. 😢

Want a Sprite Cranberry

Please make a video about the TV show Fringe.

Looks like you were crying, you ok Jono?

@nessidoe8080

9 ай бұрын

Read the community tab! He breathed in some mould spores and had an allergic reaction before filming a few videos. That's why his eyes are so puffy

Please make a video about the anime Mushoku Tensei.

@Astro2024

9 ай бұрын

I'd rather they do Re Zero or 86. MCs there aren't complete degenerates

Hold up. I take umbrage with your statement that Tarzan was not an ape. As a human, Tarzan was very much an ape. That's all. I'm loving these videos otherwise.

Just Garbage